I dont think you release it. You find healthier ways to channel it till its mastery and comfort. Integrated in a healthy way. The baseline of the average man is aggression to tangible emoting and actions. (Remove the negative stigma). The fuel of that male frame. All emotions tap that aggression. So he has to find a healthy way to integrate it. That pseudo hippy stuff of letting go....that's like trading your experiences for ignorance (hazardous) as opposed to mastery and maybe a life alchemy. Bringing things to scale. Some of the other stuff you said ..i agree. Some advice is geared towards reigning in (the be stoic sometimes over emphasized) other messages and preaching are about balancing it out and scaling it. That's the paces you went through. Same here. First containing it. Then honing and refining it. Your antagonizing the reigning in part as you are currently in the honing and refinement phase. Both these pieces of advice are needed depending on your stage. Many men get stuck in the first phase. That's where arrogant one note advice tends to thrive. They never make it to phase 2. It's not bs masculinity.. it's undercooked or half assed. On the other end of the undercooked is the conditioned overly soft (or as you said. "flow" boys)...again undercooked the other way. Appreciate your material. Just a food for thought.
I think this is great, but I feel like my problems are different from other guys. I’m too in touch with my emotions and cry a lot. I was adopted and physically bullied for years and now I have feelings of being unwanted and undesirable physically so I have a hard time not feeling needy or wanting validation. I’m trying so hard to love myself and heal, but I don’t know how. I do affirmations, visioning, listening to Jake, etc… Can anyone help me?
I have found the online courses by Richard grannon to be very helpful, his RUclips channel in general has a lot of good content, also the books by Pete Walker have been very helpful, also dialectical behaviour therapy in a group setting and one on one with a psychologist also, mindfulness aswell and NLP techniques and journaling and reading Various self help books aswell as other good qaulity books, classic literature that has a message and meaning, Dostoevsky and solzhenitsyn and Nietzsche and alot of spiritual books aswell, personally i am an orthodox Christian in the Russian tradition so i have found this helpful to, also physical exercise and good diet and having a job and feeling proud of myself for taking responsibility for my life and been accountable etc, i have found it very good to say to myself to take at least a year off even trying to be in a romantic relationship with a woman and just completely working on myself with all the previous mentioned things and telling myself for this year i will just try to develop good friendships with male and females and even women i would previously pursue just to be friends with for that year, that in itself takes away a lot of the focus on the attempt to get external validation from women in a romantic sense, also not looking at porn and not masturbating, there is a lot of other things aswell that one could look into, peace brotha hope u do well
Thankyou Jake 😊 This was fantastic! I would love to see you do a video about toxic femininity too xx
So many men would benefit from watching your videos. Thank you for helping me open up and trust the masculine again 🖤from a feminine woman
Thank you for your kind words!
Can you talk one day about how childhood sexual abuse may effect a man and how to heal from this?
You are doing an amazing work. Keep up the good work. Your understanding is deep and profound. Very true.
Thank you for sharing. ✨
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💫🤍
I dont think you release it. You find healthier ways to channel it till its mastery and comfort. Integrated in a healthy way. The baseline of the average man is aggression to tangible emoting and actions. (Remove the negative stigma). The fuel of that male frame. All emotions tap that aggression. So he has to find a healthy way to integrate it. That pseudo hippy stuff of letting go....that's like trading your experiences for ignorance (hazardous) as opposed to mastery and maybe a life alchemy. Bringing things to scale. Some of the other stuff you said ..i agree. Some advice is geared towards reigning in (the be stoic sometimes over emphasized) other messages and preaching are about balancing it out and scaling it. That's the paces you went through. Same here. First containing it. Then honing and refining it. Your antagonizing the reigning in part as you are currently in the honing and refinement phase. Both these pieces of advice are needed depending on your stage. Many men get stuck in the first phase. That's where arrogant one note advice tends to thrive. They never make it to phase 2. It's not bs masculinity.. it's undercooked or half assed. On the other end of the undercooked is the conditioned overly soft (or as you said. "flow" boys)...again undercooked the other way. Appreciate your material. Just a food for thought.
I think this is great, but I feel like my problems are different from other guys. I’m too in touch with my emotions and cry a lot. I was adopted and physically bullied for years and now I have feelings of being unwanted and undesirable physically so I have a hard time not feeling needy or wanting validation. I’m trying so hard to love myself and heal, but I don’t know how. I do affirmations, visioning, listening to Jake, etc… Can anyone help me?
I have found the online courses by Richard grannon to be very helpful, his RUclips channel in general has a lot of good content, also the books by Pete Walker have been very helpful, also dialectical behaviour therapy in a group setting and one on one with a psychologist also, mindfulness aswell and NLP techniques and journaling and reading Various self help books aswell as other good qaulity books, classic literature that has a message and meaning, Dostoevsky and solzhenitsyn and Nietzsche and alot of spiritual books aswell, personally i am an orthodox Christian in the Russian tradition so i have found this helpful to, also physical exercise and good diet and having a job and feeling proud of myself for taking responsibility for my life and been accountable etc, i have found it very good to say to myself to take at least a year off even trying to be in a romantic relationship with a woman and just completely working on myself with all the previous mentioned things and telling myself for this year i will just try to develop good friendships with male and females and even women i would previously pursue just to be friends with for that year, that in itself takes away a lot of the focus on the attempt to get external validation from women in a romantic sense, also not looking at porn and not masturbating, there is a lot of other things aswell that one could look into, peace brotha hope u do well