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That’s an odd looking cemetery 😄
Graveyards of the mind abound.
As usual, sharing and teaching right from the heart and the cutting edge of your own experience. So beautiful, so refreshing. Thank you.
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I am a husband, a father, and a grandfather, and everyone with whom I share those designations with all live in the same home. I see it all as who I am. I have surrendered to the practice of non-duality, and am able to live among all these "others" non-reactively. Put in laymen's terms, I'm the only non-dualist of the bunch, but in a way, as long as there's one, that's all it takes for things to work out. These words don't really describe anything as it IS, but you might be able to understand what I can only attempt to describe.
The suggestion is ...
Nonduality cannot be used for anything.
That would be duality.
Who surrendered to what?
@@vanyaz4445 It doesn't matter.
@@danmoord375 why did you bother to write a comment, there is nothing nowhere and in every nowhere which is everywhere
@@frv6610 Like a spider caught in its own web.
Really describes my relationship with my daughter… for me the role of the ‘good mother’ I always felt tremendously guilty and responsible for everything difficult that happened in her life
A feeling will arise of nebulous guilt and regret .. sometimes very strong ,heavy but as the me dissolves all the identification with this role dissolves and a lightness is growing between us.
I missed your presence in here. Thank u
Wow! You are completely speaking my relationship with my mom… the exact same thoughts… feelings… I want it to be where I can just BE and not direct it at her. She is who she is and my not being able to be with it is mine..
so glad to see you back Suzanne. the way you said "so long" in that last video made me wonder if that was the end of your you tube experience.
"I didn't know that they didn't know". that was a hard lesson for me. How could "others" not know? It wasn't that "they" didn't know, it was that they weren't others!
i get that.. i feel all sorts of upside down when im with other people.. but even when im with my cat shadow i start feeling the 'thick air' and before i labeled this as bad,, like thoughts like ' i should always loving and affectionate towards him' just because i have to be away a lot bc of college etc. and it makes me feel rly bad and that i owe him my all love.. however, listening to this has made me reconsider this. and i pray and trust life that he is happy and cared for even without me around. i hope
Even though you are not a person, you are a really beautiful person Suzanne
I didn't know that they didn't know. Ho, ho, holy shat ain't that a doozy of a realization. It was something that I came to see in everybody. Life feels lonely before understanding that and in a way it's profoundly lonely after but the loneliness after isn't the same. There's a recognized peace in the solitude that I now guard. The thoughts and beliefs and ideologies are quite something to behold outside ourselves when we recognize them inside ourselves. Any rehabilitation from the small to the all comes with a recognition that being in another's presence either requires them to grow or forever be at a distance personally from myself.
It's also much easier to just talk normally. Folks will get it sooner or later and it's something they can stumble upon but that stumbling just requires contemplation and helps in the end. Thanks for putting this on video. I do delight in seeing these recognitions in others.
May this best time with your mum always be maintained 😁
Your videos are getting more and more personal and I'm loving it. I know that parents can be very frustrating so please make sure to take care of yourself. We support you, love from italy Xx
So can kids. There are always two personalities at play, in parent-child (especially adult-child) relationships.
@consciousconservatives9778 I'm a psychology student, so I'm aware of that. I only said that because parents will sometimes inadvertently perpetrate the cycle of abuse because of the mistreatment they have suffered at the hands of their own parents when they were kids. It is not unusual for children in these circumstances to feel the burden of having to heal generational trauma, and that's no easy task. It's not a game of who has it harder.
I fully agree. I just felt the need to mention what I did. @@augustaoliva9739
“The falling away of solidity…”
I think you’ve beautifully articulated a very difficult healing process that could change so many lives for the better.
Peace and love ❤️
Enlightenment isn't about healing. It's just being truth realized. Nothing more, nothing less.
@@ItApproaches your thinking seems very reactive. This is indeed the realizing of truth. And, relationally, effects can vary when one reaches enlightenment. In this case, yes, a relationship has healed, a barrier has been removed between a daughter and her mother.
Turning 41 and still carrying that heaviness, but each year it’s getting lighter.
wait till you hit 60
@@metislamestiza3708what happens at 60?
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So rare and precious story which seemingly is told from no perspective regarding the dynamics of personal relationship. I get tingling inspirations from those living stories of yours. I feel like now you readily let other people meet you as someone they think you are while not confined. It feels so beautiful. Thank you for shairing.
Thank you so much for sharing. This was practically identical to my experience awakening to the codependent relationship dynamics with my parents and returning to them after grieving the loss of all the false identities constructed from it. Comforting to hear another confirmation of how natural and impersonal the movement of all this is.
Thanks for this beautiful, heartfelt, deeply personal, yet universally relatable sharing. It's inspiring to see such deep interpersonal trauma being healed and reflected on within the context of non-dualistic spiritual growth. All best to you and your mother. 💖
It calms my mind, "pulls plugs" that let the energy swirl down and soothe the nerves, or something like that, to hear and watch you speak of these things this way. Thank you.
🍑💨🎶👃🏽💕 umm so craved for Suzanne's non duality umm
Everything you share is valuable in this expression of being as it is... Thank you
Thank you.
when shoulds have entered love has left
Ohh my gosh this is synchronous! Just before coming to your comment I had journaled.. “story of ‘should.’” The entry was about something unrelated to the video 😅
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Hello Beautiful Life Suzanne,
I am so delighted to hear your visit to your mother and the truth was finally expressed and received by her as I am so happy that your life given you this opportunity to have a clean relationship with your mother💛💛
Just love your videos. It offers me so much freedom. God bless you, and may we too keep getting your wisdom.
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fear of death , survival , control , approval ... when the basic needs of the animal in us are overlooked and not addressed properly it takes his toll ...
❤good to hear from you. I am in Rotterdam now, back to scotland soon. I have totally landed. Wherever I am that's my home. Relationshioa have changed. I am so relaxed. Thanks again for all your help. Started a RUclips channel. In dutch😂
with no subtitles that's no help tooting your own horn lol
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What an incredibly important topic, especilly for woman I believe. To me it resonates deeply, and the timing of seeing this video couldnt be better. Thank you for your honesty.
Smile More. Enlighted being IS so BEAUTIFUL! Itse The logos of The One. Pure beauty. I love you so much
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Hi Suzanne...❤
Good to have updates from you 🍀
Happy to see you are back!
I consider you to be a very authentic and sympathic"person".
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i think you look exactly just like jeon yeo-been actress from netflix korean film night in paradise she also looks just like you and you also look just like her exactly the same your her lost twin i mean that in a great positive way you both of you two are beautiful and i also want to say that i do agree everything we say is a label and a story you do got a good point about that because apart of me i also think everything we say and do are just labels and stories and some of us get label shy and that being shy is a bad unhealthy thing weakness well for me it's not a bad weakness thing to me at all i love embrace being shy i see it as a good natural thing not a bad thing at all i think there's nothing wrong with being shy i just never like the peer pressure if we should or shouldn't do being told what to do i also never like being told don't be shy to just be confident it won't make me happy at all i'm always going to stay being shy it doesn't matter if some choose to be shy or if some choose to be confident i think there's no right or wrong way on what we should or shouldn't be i think being shy is innocent i think it's ok for us to express how we truly feel as long we don't actually kill murder the innocent beings even tho i do resonate agree that time and death is an illusion but the only thing i disagree don't resonate what you said that nothing is real because i think it's real in my difference point of view perspective truth take but at the sametime i do respect your point of view perspective truth take but i do agree resonate what you said that it just is what it is that it doesn't have no meaning at all
Really sweet to hear how the relationship has changed, very beautiful stuff
Yes, my father died recently and it didn't affect me at all. Why should it? He didn't like me and I didn't like him! Now a psychologist will say, 'Oh you'll turn out a dysfunctional human being if you don't address those surpressed emotions' or something along those lines. But look at how the mind works. It first present you with a fact, something that actually happened, in other words Life itself. If the mind left it at that there would not be an actual problem. But the mind doesn't do that, what it does is it starts to spin a variety of opinions about the actual fact, it's these opinions that create the emotions, the human suffering, but we don't actually have to listen to the mind. Why? Because we are always the Sovereign Being, we never left that, it would be impossible. Nisargadatta was the ultimate therapist, he undestood perfectly. 'Love all of the dream, or none of the dream, but don't divide the dream'.
❤Thank you so much for this very honest sharing. It is rare to hear. Also for recognizing that some beings cannot handle honest listening and that this doesn’t make us or the “other” in their toxic behavior wrong.
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Thanks for sharing this. It's very inspiring to let go of your personal past
Good Lass hope you get through this .🧐
Missed your videos good to see you back
So wise. Thank you. I can relate.
Dear Suzzanne,Thankyou for sharing your changed experience . i feel as your projection is changing ,your world is changing. Its so beautiful to hear that we can allow our emotions feelings to be felt without suppressing. Do you think that inquiry into our negative thoughts can help them heal . Allowing them to let go as we see our identity in there. If we are able to feel our feelings impersonally ,allowing as it is , we can be free. You are very courageous .i do find it difficult though. Lots of love.Thankyou.🙏🙏👌😍
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Suzanne you are so sweet😊
gd to c ya
This was very helpful❤Thank you for sharing.
I want her to be free to be herself with me too
I'd suggest looking into parentification- where a child is emotionally forced into parenting their own parents. It can have a profound impact on someone through to adulthood including an identity never fully forming.
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awww man no graveyard 😛
I wonder if your characters mother, has seen your videos? Almost three weeks ago my characters mother finally managed to push the wrong button and detonate an egoic bomb that was slowly built up over more then 10 years....I exploded at her and haven't seen or heard from her since. It was refreshing to unload that, though will she and "I" ever talk again? Who knows.
Had a similar explosion with my mother many years ago. Never had the “happy ending” or resolution Suzanne describes here, but I have never once regretted that explosive expression of truth.
Acceptance of whatever is “inside” us is not conditional on whether things work out well or not. At least not in my experience.
Sometimes truth mends and heals and resolves. Sometimes it destroys in ways that we cannot know the ultimate effect.
This can be a scary lesson, but for me it has been profoundly liberating.
All the best to you. It can take real courage to do what you did.
Blessings on you, and your mom, whatever she does with your truth.
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@@macparker3549 I can't claim it was courage that made my explosion happen lol. I was going through a troublesome situation already, a former tenant/roommate of mine who had problems, poured gasoline in his room and tried to light himself on fire, killing himself, and possibly blowing the whole damn house up, which would have blown me and the other 3 tenants up. We had to get put up in a hotel for 3 days and that wasn't long enough for us to return du to the fumes, a month prior to this, my mother injured herself doing something stupid, (standing on a plastic flimsy flowerpot that can't stand 10lbs of weight, and she fell and bruised her ribs. She didn't like that I didn't react to her injury and situation how she wanted me to in her head. So while I was at the hotel talking to her, she just had to twist the whole thing to be about her still. She can't let go and move on from shit, she can't take accountability from her own stupidity. I came 3 minutes away from being blown up according to the firefighters and, and yet she was still mad at "me" for not handling her situation a month prior how she wanted. So before I could even try to hold back and resist the explosion like I had for years and years, it just went off. I cussed her out, called her out a=on her female manipulation tactics, her gaslighting and told her that if she didn't flip a 180 and change I was done with her. It wasn't courage, it was her lighting the fuse and it blowing up in her face lol. Those "feelings" were one of the last remaining egoic fragments my old character had.
I reckon we all see things our own way, but in my experience alienating people because I thought I was right turned out to have a lot more to do with my bad communication skills than any emotional superiority I thought I might have had.
I wonder if anything seems to have deeper meaning in your experience, as in someone embracing "a higher life form" after the body dies. As in NDE stories?
The Good, Logos of The One. Nous, Spirit. Beauty. Amnanesis. Theurgy. Neti neti, Via negativa. I live you so much 😂
Also, I have been wondering where you could be🤔🙄
The risk/reward ratio for letting your mind obsess with non duality is terrible. Either a. you're right, and you experience slightly more clarity, or b. you're wrong, and you ignored your own free will and self agency. If you're wrong, you could be missing the entire purpose of being here.
There is no peace to be found in either/or thinking...
thankx for making this HELL we all in so clear never forget that ur mother was the first who killed the innocent godlikeness inside yourself! thats why u hate her and lover her... brilliant hell is it.. where parents try to make cheap copies of themselves by killing the childs soul... unknowingly,
Is your profile pic Charles de Gaulle? Is it A.I. generated?
Hey can you give me self
I like listening to your videos. However, the fact that you eat, sleep, move around, and make videos demonstrates that you are not only trying to control a situation or outcome, but that you are succeeding in doing so. You have your own sphere of influence and control. And yes, there is care about what is, otherwise you wouldn't do anything - you wouldn't eat, exercise, work, etc. That fact that you do these things demonstrates care.
why dont you take the last step? why u continue suffering?
The last step? There is no last step with enlightenment, unless you refer to the final page of the story. The character's physical death. In which case rushing to the end of the story would be strange. You don't read a book starting at the last page. Everyone gets to the end without any need to focus on it. As for suffering, who says she is suffering? There is no her? She doesn't exist lol. There will always be experiences that a fragment of ego will label as good or bad. Though suffering is a very helpful tool, without it a character in a story can't grow.
@@ItApproaches the last step is...silence! cos any thought any word is suffering. and saying she doesnt exist shows me you have a long way to go. didnt you say she has to grow...lol u seems lost as well..
@@danielboomers No, I didn't say she HAS to grow. I said for a CHARACTER to grow it needs to suffer. A character in a story needs obstacles to overcome for character growth. But we enlightened nobodies are not characters, we can slip into a character if we wish to interact with the dream, for example if you wish to pet a dog, well you gotta toss together some egoic shell and form a character in that dream that can interact with the dog in the story. How does an author interact with the characters in their story? Can't, unless the author creates characters in the story to interact with the other characters. She doesn't exist, because she doesn't. You don't, I don't, nobody does. Everything is nothingness ad nothingness is everything. The "fact" you seem to be pushing so hard as if trying to frame you are an "expert" shows you have fallen into a pitfall trap of ego and have gone backwards. I'm not lost, there's no e. Nobody can ever be lost, as they are exactly where they are meant to be. Which is nowhere, and everywhere or anywhere. There is no "long way to go" for the apparent me. You seem more focused on turning this into a competition, that's not enlightenment. It's not about a goal or the finish line. You are still a child playing make believe.
@@ItApproachesshe doesn't seem happy. Non dualism is maybe anti human? It's for robots?
@@frv6610 Ask yourself why seek out happiness? It doesn't make sense. Humans want to be happy as much as possible, why? Fear, delusion...either way, happiness is a state of mind, nothing more. A quote of mine is this, "Chasing happiness only leads to misery." Or as Jim Carrey put it, "Happiness is the weather, man." He gave up on being perpetually happy. Cause that's delusion. Some days it's sunny, some are rainy, some are snow or windy or cloudy. It's not sunny every day. The asleep will always misunderstand and mislabel the enlightened. It's not about happy or sad or mad, she doesn't seem happy? Because there is no HER. Nothingness can't be happy or sad or anything, it's nothingness. What you see is neutrality. Yes some will say the awake are robot like, but that doesn't mean much. We don't play ego's rigged game. Emotions are a pitfall trap, they aren't anything of value.
Sounds like you grew up in a very controlling household which caused you trauma. Glad you have been able to step away from that.
And back in…
Will you marry me? I am The One
Creep.
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