Thanks for a video chock full of practical, fun and common sense tips. Marion, I'm in awe of your knowledge and approach to life! You're always so positive and full of energy yet so soft spoken... Sorry for this mushy comment but can't help but say it. Love you, Terry.
I love the idea of presenting the new baby in such a positive and loving manner. I hope your boys will be best friends for life ❤️ Those books are really beautiful, especially the Usborne one.
One great way to stay engaged with your toddler/other child while caring for your baby is to *NARRATE* , *NARRATE* , *NARRATE!* "I'm picking up the blue blanket to put on (baby's name). Now I will wrap the blanket around her two legs and two arms: (while doing it) One leg, two legs. One arm, two arms." **Invite the child to see/help/participate when it is appropriate to do so just like everyone says- just remember to *NARRATE* whatever's happening as often as you can.** **TIP** Make some mundane things a little event by announcing them with a *jingle*. You can sing or recite a simple rhyme like: *(Tune of "Twinkle Twinkle")* "Ella it's time to change diaper now. Zachary watch I'll show you how." Choose a tune/phrasing that you can use instinctively. Switch up the lyrics to fit whatever you want to *"Jinglize"*. *WHY NARRATE?* *1) It's good for your toddler:* He/She can feel included in your time with Baby and even begin to exercise empathy and care for Baby. Hearing you talk about Baby's needs and being included in helping Baby stay healthy and happy helps your toddler be invested in the well-being of his/her baby brother or sister. *2) It's good for Baby:* Baby is hearing you talk about his or her face, body, toys, food, big brother, etc. You're helping Baby discover the world, learn about communication, and feel engaged and connected to everyone and everything in their little world. *3) It's good for YOU:* Speaking at a low, steady tone can be an important way to temper stress and reduce the likelihood of feeling flustered and overwhelmed in certain situations. If you need to take 3 slow breaths, *Narrate that* and tell Baby and Toddler why. "There's a lot happening right now. Mommy's going to stop for just a minute to breathe in (inhale)..... and breathe out (exhale)." Now your own voice has preempted a panic response in your body and you have reminded yourself that you are in control of the situation and you can not only handle life but you can rock it! There is no magic cure-all and trying times will come, but you are strong enough to find your *Groove*.
My Jewish Mommy Life :) Yes of course! I think we're all just sharing what we know and that's what makes your channel and others like it so helpful and important!
Thanks. I hope my son gets along with our new baby girl. I have been involving him on the preparation of his new baby sister. Like helping wash and fold clothes and have him see all the baby gear we are getting ready to use. I explain to him that he will be staying with his godparents when we gl to the hospital to have baby and bring her home with all of us.
Love that! My best advice is that things change so much I was so worried about what those first days and weeks would be like and thinking that would mean that's how it will always be and it just changes so much as they grow!
Hi Miriam, your thumbnail was so cute! It almost looked like Max was holding a baby doll! The vlog was great, I want to share it with my sister whose daughter and her son in law have a sweet two year old daughter and are trying for their second baby. Can you have one relaxed vlog where you show the baby more, and playing with the boys or swimming, that would be so cute! Be well, and stay cool! Have a lovely summer.
Great tips! Thank you so much! Watched this with my toddler and he loved the books - especially the digger one. And i love how you say to focus on the big picture - that's what I always tell my clients for business, but it applies just as much in parenting. Helping them see beyond the day-to-day to the long term possibility. Great video!
This is good. I believe it is also important to consider this for extended family too;) a "new baby cousin"..... focus on the positive in the family not the negative. Instead of thinking about the trouble things in the family (cancer, crime, mental health, elderly with dementia, accidents, political things, racial differences etc) focus on the benefit and goodness in the "new baby" with a new change of heart and new perspective on life. Example: Grandpa Joe is a part of native american tribe and he has "Alzheimer's disease" he was often quite a friendly guy and happy person to be around, but then he became angry and "scary" ....around young children and around the grandchildren. Other cousins and siblings are around but we don't focus on the hard things in life, but of the new baby.
I had a very similar experience and totally agree! Epidural with number one and unmediated with number two. Much preferred unmediated, for the same reasons you experienced.
Such a great video! I also stayed away from books talking about jealousy with a new baby, even though it's a totally normal feeling. I very much connect with your perspective! :)
I love the idea of keeping it positive but it's definitely something I struggle with and have caught myself on a couple occasions already. How did you put a positive spin on pregnancy exhaustion and not making it seem like you're blaming baby?
Dearest Marion, Thank you for making such an interesting and informative video😍l enjoyed watching it and want to share it with my married daughters 😍lots of love from Israel, Chaya Leya
Same here. But we will make it (maybe) lol. books saves us most days; I feel bad cause we couldnt be out and about, and lots of books shows outdoor activities, when I was smaller too we get to dance and sing along shakira and jlo; bruno mars; lizzo and now I couldnt do it as much, so we got serious with numbers,letters,art and action songs (we've polished twinkle star, family finger, 5 speckled frogs, baby shark and others) I just don't have a plan yet for her bday, and post partum help is very tricky. Gah- we'll wing it, this too shall pass---- the elder daughters are gonna be fine, they have their own agenda in their day anyway; but this time with a new roommate that she can kiss and love. I just gotta keep my sanity and routine. Goodluck to us mama
This is a great video! We're still a few years out from having kids, but I'll keep these ideas in mind. When my younger sisters were born, the older sisters got a little "present" from the baby--something simple like a balloon or a book--to sweeten the deal XD
Thanks for a video chock full of practical, fun and common sense tips. Marion, I'm in awe of your knowledge and approach to life! You're always so positive and full of energy yet so soft spoken... Sorry for this mushy comment but can't help but say it. Love you, Terry.
Aww I love your mushy comment!! Thank you for watching and leaving a sweet comment Terry!
I love the idea of presenting the new baby in such a positive and loving manner. I hope your boys will be best friends for life ❤️
Those books are really beautiful, especially the Usborne one.
Thank you so very much, I hope so too!!
One great way to stay engaged with your toddler/other child while caring for your baby is to *NARRATE* , *NARRATE* , *NARRATE!*
"I'm picking up the blue blanket to put on (baby's name). Now I will wrap the blanket around her two legs and two arms: (while doing it) One leg, two legs. One arm, two arms."
**Invite the child to see/help/participate when it is appropriate to do so just like everyone says- just remember to *NARRATE* whatever's happening as often as you can.**
**TIP** Make some mundane things a little event by announcing them with a *jingle*. You can sing or recite a simple rhyme like:
*(Tune of "Twinkle Twinkle")*
"Ella it's time to change diaper now. Zachary watch I'll show you how."
Choose a tune/phrasing that you can use instinctively. Switch up the lyrics to fit whatever you want to *"Jinglize"*.
*WHY NARRATE?*
*1) It's good for your toddler:*
He/She can feel included in your time with Baby and even begin to exercise empathy and care for Baby. Hearing you talk about Baby's needs and being included in helping Baby stay healthy and happy helps your toddler be invested in the well-being of his/her baby brother or sister.
*2) It's good for Baby:*
Baby is hearing you talk about his or her face, body, toys, food, big brother, etc. You're helping Baby discover the world, learn about communication, and feel engaged and connected to everyone and everything in their little world.
*3) It's good for YOU:*
Speaking at a low, steady tone can be an important way to temper stress and reduce the likelihood of feeling flustered and overwhelmed in certain situations. If you need to take 3 slow breaths, *Narrate that* and tell Baby and Toddler why. "There's a lot happening right now. Mommy's going to stop for just a minute to breathe in (inhale)..... and breathe out (exhale)." Now your own voice has preempted a panic response in your body and you have reminded yourself that you are in control of the situation and you can not only handle life but you can rock it!
There is no magic cure-all and trying times will come, but you are strong enough to find your *Groove*.
Aww I love this so much, thank you for sharing!!
My Jewish Mommy Life :) Yes of course! I think we're all just sharing what we know and that's what makes your channel and others like it so helpful and important!
Very well put! So important to focus on the positive, that's what I tell the parents in my class all the time!
Thank you!! You are the expert! Should we do a collab???!! Advice from my BFF preschool teacher?!
Thanks.
I hope my son gets along with our new baby girl.
I have been involving him on the preparation of his new baby sister.
Like helping wash and fold clothes and have him see all the baby gear we are getting ready to use.
I explain to him that he will be staying with his godparents when we gl to the hospital to have baby and bring her home with all of us.
Love that! My best advice is that things change so much I was so worried about what those first days and weeks would be like and thinking that would mean that's how it will always be and it just changes so much as they grow!
Thank you for this, just what I needed, books and how to keep it casual for the toddler. This is awesome!
Glad it was helpful!
Hi Miriam, your thumbnail was so cute! It almost looked like Max was holding a baby doll! The vlog was great, I want to share it with my sister whose daughter and her son in law have a sweet two year old daughter and are trying for their second baby. Can you have one relaxed vlog where you show the baby more, and playing with the boys or swimming, that would be so cute! Be well, and stay cool! Have a lovely summer.
Thank you so much Mary! I have one day in the life vlog ruclips.net/video/WqjanQXS-Wc/видео.html but I'll definitely try to film some more!
@@MyJewishMommyLife I am sharing your vlog with my neice☺️thank you 💐
Great tips! Thank you so much! Watched this with my toddler and he loved the books - especially the digger one. And i love how you say to focus on the big picture - that's what I always tell my clients for business, but it applies just as much in parenting. Helping them see beyond the day-to-day to the long term possibility. Great video!
I'm so glad to hear it, thank you so much!!
How cute I am pregnant with my 3th baby and my kids are really excited
Aww that is so exciting!!
This is good. I believe it is also important to consider this for extended family too;) a "new baby cousin"..... focus on the positive in the family not the negative. Instead of thinking about the trouble things in the family (cancer, crime, mental health, elderly with dementia, accidents, political things, racial differences etc) focus on the benefit and goodness in the "new baby" with a new change of heart and new perspective on life.
Example: Grandpa Joe is a part of native american tribe and he has "Alzheimer's disease" he was often quite a friendly guy and happy person to be around, but then he became angry and "scary" ....around young children and around the grandchildren. Other cousins and siblings are around but we don't focus on the hard things in life, but of the new baby.
Very interesting!
I had a very similar experience and totally agree! Epidural with number one and unmediated with number two. Much preferred unmediated, for the same reasons you experienced.
Preparation and realistic expectations are really key. 👍
Absolutely!
Such a great video! I also stayed away from books talking about jealousy with a new baby, even though it's a totally normal feeling. I very much connect with your perspective! :)
Thank you so much!!
I love the idea of keeping it positive but it's definitely something I struggle with and have caught myself on a couple occasions already. How did you put a positive spin on pregnancy exhaustion and not making it seem like you're blaming baby?
Very good and informative video 🧡
This was such a great video we want another baby soon hopefully soon I’ll be pregnant 🤰
Aww thank you! Sending positive vibes your way!!
Dearest Marion,
Thank you for making such an interesting and informative video😍l enjoyed watching it and want to share it with my married daughters 😍lots of love from Israel, Chaya Leya
Aww thank you Chaya Leya! I hope you are having a great week!!
This had been hard to do. My daughter will be 23 months when we have our second daughter. Covid makes it impossible to point out babies
Aww it's such a difficult environment for new moms!
Same here. But we will make it (maybe) lol. books saves us most days; I feel bad cause we couldnt be out and about, and lots of books shows outdoor activities, when I was smaller too we get to dance and sing along shakira and jlo; bruno mars; lizzo and now I couldnt do it as much, so we got serious with numbers,letters,art and action songs (we've polished twinkle star, family finger, 5 speckled frogs, baby shark and others) I just don't have a plan yet for her bday, and post partum help is very tricky. Gah- we'll wing it, this too shall pass---- the elder daughters are gonna be fine, they have their own agenda in their day anyway; but this time with a new roommate that she can kiss and love. I just gotta keep my sanity and routine. Goodluck to us mama
I started pointing out the baby on the diaper box. I'm going that helps
My son will also be 23 months when second comes. He points at and kisses the belly whenever he sees ultrasound pictures and videos/pics of baby/fetus.
Thank u so much
You're lovely
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This is a great video! We're still a few years out from having kids, but I'll keep these ideas in mind. When my younger sisters were born, the older sisters got a little "present" from the baby--something simple like a balloon or a book--to sweeten the deal XD
Oh my goodness yes!! I totally forgot to mention we did that too!!
You Are So Brilliant 🌞 Thank You For Sharing Your Knowledge. I Love Watching Your Videos. See Ya Soon ❤
You're so kind, thank you so much!!
We just hade i baby a week ago his name is chaim and we did the bris
Mazal tov!!!! Corey’s Hebrew name is Chaim! I hope he brings you a lifetime of nachas!
Baruch HaShem my sister eere great with me when i was a newborn and she was a toddler 😂
How very exciting!!!! So happy for you and your family!
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