@@adyashanayak7958 fraternities have a reputation for doing wild and weird stuff, so something like having a bunch of flamingos probably meant they were used for a prank in college, and the husband held onto them afterwards
I'm sorry but I lost it at the husband. True boss power move. Dude is a effing legend and def a keeper. I cant believe he actually answered the door naked with a beer in hand😂😂😂😂
How else do you answer unsolicited visitors? That's how I got rid of the jehovahs witnesses and Mormons that would come knocking. Husband was beet red but I answered in my bra and underwear. Haven't seen them for four years now
I always wonder why these idiots who know ALL the abuse a person went through end up talking to the abuser amd believing them instead. With no proof or anything. Just take their word for it. Its disgusting.
It really is crazy. That happened to me, my father was a pathological liar and abuser, we begged our family for help but they said they wanted to "talk" to him first. Then they told us we should stay and work through it and that they'll pray for us 😂
I think people have a tendency to believe what they want to believe. If they want to believe that a situation wasn't as bad as someone said they will believe the person who says it really wasn't that bad.
This was wild from start to finish. Op just can't catch a break. She left one trash family and married into another somewhat trash family (minus her husband and her mil and her fil). Why do I get this feeling that op's twin is just losing her mind at the idea op is living a much happier life despite being their parent's favorite child and led to believe op doesn't deserve to be happy. Twin sister just wants to ruin op's happiness. Op's parents sound like shameless psychopaths.
If there isn't a term for it yet then I nominate Golden Turd syndrome. It's where the golden child is less talented/successful/attractive than the scapegoat despite everything handed to them, thus the animosity towards the scapegoat is escalated by the parent(s) and/or the golden child.
It's pretty typical narcissistic behavior. From experience they will legit gaslight not only others but themselves and basically rewrite memories because "I was happy then so everyone was too!"
I'm a 70 year old man I personally would never put up with any of this drama I've never had drama like this in my family before but I'm glad for you and your family I'm really very happy that you moved to another country and found a new life for yourself just cut off all these idiots any one of them who wants to be against you all of them you're only family you need to be worried about is your husband and the little babies you're going to make that is the family you owe your obedience and loyalty too, remember when you took an oath to your husband at the altar that was not your mother or your father or to anybody else that was to your husband and your future family, and I think you've got a good handle on it right now with what you did just go with your gut and thank God for your husband with a shiny spine, he's the best
Man your lucky am barely a third your age and I’ve had tons of insane shit like this. Hell the most vivid had to be when my aunt went nuts when people weren’t doing what she wanted because she abandoned everyone when we were taking care of my dying grandmother. She came back and expected it be in charge and got violent and tried to actually bite my face when we told her off. So yeah I can easily see this happen, most family’s are messy.
@@dragb9284 I think the only reason people don't mess with me and my family is because I worked on the docks for 25 years and I'm really really strong and I used to be a bouncer for 10 years, so the people in my family don't give me crap they don't dare and now that I'm the oldest person in the family I'm the patriarch so the few family members I have left they tell their friends don't mess with my cousin Jean because you won't like the consequences well at a party one time they told us to a girl and the first thing she did was mess with me I looked at her I gave her one chance I said, and then I said don't do it again and she went ahead and tried to mess with me again so 5 minutes later she's crying her eyes out running out of the house because I can be a really Gruff mean person when I want to I never touched them I just say things that make them cry which is pretty easy seeing as when you working on the docks you've heard a lot of crap it's not hard to make people cry especially women
Sometimes it's helpful to hear an outside opinion, it's only a problem if you treat it as an objective fact rather than advice. Hear other people's opinions, consider your options, and decide what you ultimately think would be best for you.
She purposely left out very important details so I think she wanted people to ask her to reunite the twins so it could seem like she reunited two long separated twins so she’d seem like the heroine so she did it for brownie points
People on the Internet also have a problem with you not taking their advice without question. Asked reddit for help once, and when I asked follow-up questions (as I didn't feel they took everything into consideration in their answers), I got called out for not accepting help.
Good to hear this story again after years of searching. I find this situation funny that all this drama, jailings, and karmic justice all started because of a junkie SIL chasing social credit (clout as the kids call it)
The husband is a wonderful and whimsical human being. Going naked to the door, the whole flamingo deal, and his deft management of the family by simply canceling the holidays.
So,OP wanted to know if she would be evil by wishing those ________ to be stuck on an island and waste away. That's not evil. That's a vacation. That's alright. OP isn't the vindictive scorched earth type.
Wtf is with folks who have NO EXPERIENCE in living with trauma and abuse to tell others how they should feel/deal about it??? The utter audacity and entitlement to outright refuse to clearly see the divide od victim and abuse and that there's NO grounds for neutrality in this. All their "healthy" raising and they lack so much Empathy/compassion/ and logic. SIL and her supporters are DISGUSTING
@rebewtinydino2572 That may be the case for SIL here, but there are plenty other instances of others not under the influence of families/friends trying to act as 'mediator' between victim and abuser blatantly ignoring how selfish they sound arguing "It's been *insert time* can't you move past it by now?" , or the case of others with "Well, I talked to *insert abuser*, and they said you were lying/exaggerating" like someone would really outright admit to being an abuser, not even bothering to look up the paper trail and just go off word of mouth like SIL here
Privilege. These people come from backgrounds where they have absolutely no experience with dysfunctional families, abuse, or struggle, so from their ignorant POV, the problem should be solvable with some communication and a hug. It's naive at best, and insulting at worst.
Child abuse is absolutely disgusting, i ,like many have seen ut first hand. But a forced reconciliation is just wrong, the abuse is brought back up again. The twin it evil , her mind is warped, enjoying giving pain to other us sadistic.
Holy smokes. I hope OP and DH have a good life together considering the drama that just keeps unfolding around them! They freaking deserve paradise after all of this. 🥺
How is it that all these people who are animals, at best, know where OP lives and works and have her phone number? A person in this situation would be a lot more aware of the fact that they are under major threat and need to be unreachable. This is what can be so messed up about “family”. Unless you take the power away from them to abuse and harass you, then you are giving them an invitation to screw you down to hell. All family are cut off if there’s any possibility of sharing or stealing that info. OP could’ve been their own best protection but fell prey to the wrong adage that you never abandon family.
The 'funny' thing is, OP has done exactly nothing. She literally just stayed calm, collected, logical, gone through legal channels and acted like an adult. She hasn't hurt anyone, hasn't behaved bad, said anything bad.
Wow, the moment when your husband stood up and immediately called the police was incredibly intense! I can't imagine how terrifying it must have been to see your twin sister brought to your doorstep like that.
I have tried to facilitate a reconciliation between my BIL & FILbut its mostly asking if one would be interested in texting the other Merry Christmas. I gave up around the 2nd Christmas. (No abuse, just money disagreements) It is insane to take it that far & try to force a meeting!
Influencers are right up there with vegans and cyclists as some of the worst non criminals people out there. Also good on MIL and FIL, outside of Husband true studs of the story.
JN- just no, so her bio granddad is JNgranddad, he's not someone she wants in her life. JM- just maybe, JMaunt is someone she cares about but holds her away for her own peace of mind
Wow. I had a difficult pregnancy, so I ended up getting multiple ultrasounds. Each person doing it told me I had a boy. Unless I have razor blades up there, they got it wrong. Instead of my baby being named Joshua, she is now Kendra. And, I got over it in one day. Now it’s just a funny story on why you never trust ultrasound to pick the gender
It's funny that we say people have people pleasing behaviour as if it's a them problem they have to work with when literally the entire world is demanding we please them all day, every day. "Ever hear an angry Swedish lady?", yes, I am one and so is every woman in my family.
Yeah non of this story makes sense, she's telling people to watch out because she controls access to grandchildren and yet then she has her tubes tied years ago?
Usually depends on the amount found. Not always, but usually. I’m guessing SIL got caught with an ungodly amount of drugs. Above a certain amount, you are charged with possession with intent to distribute, and above that is a charge of trafficking. For example we’ll use Cocaine: a little baggy of coke = possession. Several bags of coke = intent to distribute. And bricks of the stuff = trafficking. And naturally the sentences get more severe the higher up you go. Including life in some places. These laws are intended to target dealers and syndicates. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying that it’s how it is.
I would tell Anne to vent about Kendall to the “friends” who called OP cruel. Of course she wouldn’t because it’d make her look bad, but that wouldn’t stop me from “kindly” suggesting it. She can vent to them or no one; those would be my options. I’m an AH, so while she was venting, I’d end up laughing. I’d _maybe_ listen if offered a genuine apology without me asking for it. Otherwise, she can go elsewhere with her boo-hooing, especially after intentionally and selfishly interrupting my relaxation time at my favorite cafe. As for Kendall, it’s possible (perhaps common) to need professional help _and_ be an entitled, volatile b-tch. I’d give more consideration to it being a psychotic break _if_ she hadn’t already been acting this way for more than a year. She needs a reality check, and if that comes in the form of forced professional help _and_ legal consequences then so be it.
If you are old enough to drive you should be mature enough to not force an abused person to see their abuser, which makes you a co-abuser. Also if you are old enough to drive you technically are not a child because children don't drive.
Everybody’s talking about how awesome OP‘s husband is (and rightfully so) but can we also talk about OP in-laws? The way they immediately came to her aid and absolutely REFUSED to allow the SIL to potentially talk her way out of anything/rightfully punished her? Hearing that OP’s MIL was a former DV advocate makes me wonder just how stupid the SIL was when she thought inviting the abuser of a DV victim to their house while said victim was also there was supposed to fly with her parents ESPECIALLY the mom?
I do feel bad for MIL and FIL 🙁 they won’t get to watch their potential grandkids grow up all bc their drugged out daughter decided “you’re lying , I don’t believe you” 😒
OP is the wife of DH(dear husband in this case), her parents are egg donor and sperm donor because they hate her being a girl instead of boy like they were told. Mil, Fil, obvious what these are and they're good people. Sil is a wannabe influencer and ruined her following for posting about OP and abusive family. GG is the husband's grandparents, JNgrandpa is OP's bio granddad, JN means just no. JMaunt is just maybe aunt, meaning she's helpful to OP but she's not quite close as the rest of the people in OP's life.
A Just Yes person is someone who’s on you’re side/a good person, while a Just No is is someone who’s often abusive/narcissistic and just not good for you. Useful Reddit terms.
ok i got a few clarification questions - what happened to middle BIL at the end (seemed like he wasnt on good terms with family) - when and why did middle BIL's gf "switch sides" (she immediately told everyone when younger SIL was back with middle BIL) - when and why did young SIL get on drugs - why is young SIL in federal prison for so long (8 yrs) i also do feel bad for youngest SIL. maybe answers to those clarifying questions will change my mind. and she did fuck up, but i do feel like she had good intentions and just went too far, and then it seemed everyone except couple ppl turned against her. i can see that affecting her poorly and sending her into a downward spiral where she basically makes things worse and worse bc she's just like panicking on the inside from everyone turning against her
@@southernflight5078 i should've clarified, i'm confused why it's such a long crime. it sounds like 8 years just for taking drugs, am i missing something?
@@verygooddeal4436 She drugged someone and stole a car. Depending on the state that is attempted murder or assault. and grand theft auto is still a pretty serious crime.
@@verygooddeal4436 also the person she drugged was her middle brother's wife so family likely didn't get her attorney and she probably got a public defender which push for guilty pleas pretty often to reduce overall sentencing especially in cut and dry cases like this.
Holy shit the first minute into this was like me telling it. I'm fraternal and was supposed to he boy and parents were disappointed. But I'm 6 minute younger
It's a long one, so I am a bit confused about a few things. First op says she's only one that can have baby, that's why they got in contact, then said when younger had medical emergency which ended with her tubes tied so she can't have a baby, but then says she's on ivf treatment to have a baby? I thought the medical emergency meant it was impossible, so why would they be on ivf? Also, why is younger sil getting 8 years in a fed prison? So mid bil gf caught her using so told people and left bil, so like she's using, got stole so non expensive things and her mums car, but that got her 8 years in fed? Were the mil and FIL alright with them at the end, kept saying most family angry with them, but didn't specify how they felt, even though originally was saying how much on their side they were, agreed to distance themselves from sil for her actions. Did they know about her using?
Apparently not gender biased per se, but narrow and unrealistic expectations with little to no maturity on the parents’ part to adapt to the new family they had.
Sometimes my short term memory isn’t that great and I forget things as soon as I hear them. Which has made me confused on some points. Can someone explain? I’ve tried to scroll back through the video to figure it out, but there is a lot to go through. 1. what happened with the numerous felonies that bio parents committed? 2. 27:31 does she mean that FIL and MIL were with them and threatening the bio parents, or was it a typo and she meant that the bio parents were threatening her and her husband? Or were FIL and MIL also trying to move in next to them? And if so, didn’t OP have a good relationship with them? Did that change somewhere and I forgot?
"yes, we own that many flamingos. My husband was in a fraternity" from 0 to complete understanding in .5 seconds
I didn't get it. Can u explain?
@@adyashanayak7958 fraternities have a reputation for doing wild and weird stuff, so something like having a bunch of flamingos probably meant they were used for a prank in college, and the husband held onto them afterwards
I didn't go to college and got it immediately 😅
Honestly, why not have that many pink plastic flamingos?
Lol I'm doing distance learning for college and I knew
4 maniacs in one story. OP just trying to exist while the world around her is on fire
Her life is basically the "this is fine meme"
@@igotmyapplejuice7094except it did eventually get better when karma came for their collective asses
Seen enough shit like this happen.....you cant write this stuff...few cops told me worse shit then this even...
@@willambonney luckly she actually managed to squize past all these jerks, hopefully op's twin gets the help they need
I'm sorry but I lost it at the husband. True boss power move. Dude is a effing legend and def a keeper. I cant believe he actually answered the door naked with a beer in hand😂😂😂😂
Def a keeper for sure lol. Found myself in applause when I read that part xD
Don’t visit my home without calling first.
He's the yardstick that all boyfriends & husbands need to be held to for dealing with extended family. Pure legend.
Bro wins, I'd never be that confident, god damn!
How else do you answer unsolicited visitors? That's how I got rid of the jehovahs witnesses and Mormons that would come knocking. Husband was beet red but I answered in my bra and underwear. Haven't seen them for four years now
Husband with the power move, fuckin' legend.
"Talk to the dong, cause the face ain't listening."
Oh the face is listening alright. Listening to the wind as the flag pole rises.
Hold on I gotta ask my second head lmfao
@@cujo1786😂
"I'm gonna overstep my bounds and bring back a trauma for INTERNET POINTS!"
SIL needs a damn hobby.
ETA after everything: husband is a keeper
Man that husband is the friggin GOAT for how je handled all that, the flamingos were a hell of a power move
The man answered the door naked, he clearly dgaf!
I hope my son is that amazing of a husband one day. So awesome
I always wonder why these idiots who know ALL the abuse a person went through end up talking to the abuser amd believing them instead. With no proof or anything. Just take their word for it. Its disgusting.
It really is crazy. That happened to me, my father was a pathological liar and abuser, we begged our family for help but they said they wanted to "talk" to him first. Then they told us we should stay and work through it and that they'll pray for us 😂
I think people have a tendency to believe what they want to believe. If they want to believe that a situation wasn't as bad as someone said they will believe the person who says it really wasn't that bad.
@@Chonts I bet their lazy asses just didn't feel like dealing with it.
They love the drama
In the SIL's cause, chasing that social credit score and make her audience happy. And probably make more money for drugs.
This was wild from start to finish.
Op just can't catch a break. She left one trash family and married into another somewhat trash family (minus her husband and her mil and her fil).
Why do I get this feeling that op's twin is just losing her mind at the idea op is living a much happier life despite being their parent's favorite child and led to believe op doesn't deserve to be happy. Twin sister just wants to ruin op's happiness.
Op's parents sound like shameless psychopaths.
I wouldn't be surprised if that was the case. the twin is a scumbag.
If there isn't a term for it yet then I nominate Golden Turd syndrome. It's where the golden child is less talented/successful/attractive than the scapegoat despite everything handed to them, thus the animosity towards the scapegoat is escalated by the parent(s) and/or the golden child.
@@djdomain I just call them Pyrite brats.
I fucking lost it at the husband showing naked with a beer. Amazing man.
Gigachad move.
Salute that flag.
He said and he did👏
The way OP’s sister basically re-wrote reality in her eyes is scary accurate to how abusers behave irl
It's pretty typical narcissistic behavior. From experience they will legit gaslight not only others but themselves and basically rewrite memories because "I was happy then so everyone was too!"
I have to say: OP got the best husband ever! I hope they are doing well :)
8:47 - Now that's what I call a good answer to clueless relatives! Way to go sir!
I'm a 70 year old man I personally would never put up with any of this drama I've never had drama like this in my family before but I'm glad for you and your family I'm really very happy that you moved to another country and found a new life for yourself just cut off all these idiots any one of them who wants to be against you all of them you're only family you need to be worried about is your husband and the little babies you're going to make that is the family you owe your obedience and loyalty too, remember when you took an oath to your husband at the altar that was not your mother or your father or to anybody else that was to your husband and your future family, and I think you've got a good handle on it right now with what you did just go with your gut and thank God for your husband with a shiny spine, he's the best
Man your lucky am barely a third your age and I’ve had tons of insane shit like this. Hell the most vivid had to be when my aunt went nuts when people weren’t doing what she wanted because she abandoned everyone when we were taking care of my dying grandmother. She came back and expected it be in charge and got violent and tried to actually bite my face when we told her off. So yeah I can easily see this happen, most family’s are messy.
@@dragb9284 I think the only reason people don't mess with me and my family is because I worked on the docks for 25 years and I'm really really strong and I used to be a bouncer for 10 years, so the people in my family don't give me crap they don't dare and now that I'm the oldest person in the family I'm the patriarch so the few family members I have left they tell their friends don't mess with my cousin Jean because you won't like the consequences well at a party one time they told us to a girl and the first thing she did was mess with me I looked at her I gave her one chance I said, and then I said don't do it again and she went ahead and tried to mess with me again so 5 minutes later she's crying her eyes out running out of the house because I can be a really Gruff mean person when I want to I never touched them I just say things that make them cry which is pretty easy seeing as when you working on the docks you've heard a lot of crap it's not hard to make people cry especially women
Hey man, I saw this comment, and I personally hope you have a nice day, you seem chill and that's pretty cool. 😊
People have GOT to stop taking advice from the comments section and applying it at a high stakes family meeting. It's a bad call.
Sometimes it's helpful to hear an outside opinion, it's only a problem if you treat it as an objective fact rather than advice. Hear other people's opinions, consider your options, and decide what you ultimately think would be best for you.
SIL posted half truths. And took the advice of commenters who knew only half truths.
She purposely left out very important details so I think she wanted people to ask her to reunite the twins so it could seem like she reunited two long separated twins so she’d seem like the heroine so she did it for brownie points
@@monkey-man7430 Seeing that Op didn't want to give any kind of letter to avoid SIL being praised despite failing makes me believe that.
People on the Internet also have a problem with you not taking their advice without question. Asked reddit for help once, and when I asked follow-up questions (as I didn't feel they took everything into consideration in their answers), I got called out for not accepting help.
Oh look, a family as messed up as mine 😂. Poor OP, I know how it goes.
Good to hear this story again after years of searching.
I find this situation funny that all this drama, jailings, and karmic justice all started because of a junkie SIL chasing social credit (clout as the kids call it)
The husband is a wonderful and whimsical human being.
Going naked to the door, the whole flamingo deal, and his deft management of the family by simply canceling the holidays.
So,OP wanted to know if she would be evil by wishing those ________ to be stuck on an island and waste away. That's not evil. That's a vacation. That's alright. OP isn't the vindictive scorched earth type.
Wtf is with folks who have NO EXPERIENCE in living with trauma and abuse to tell others how they should feel/deal about it??? The utter audacity and entitlement to outright refuse to clearly see the divide od victim and abuse and that there's NO grounds for neutrality in this. All their "healthy" raising and they lack so much Empathy/compassion/ and logic. SIL and her supporters are DISGUSTING
She did do drugs wastthinking rationally
@rebewtinydino2572 That may be the case for SIL here, but there are plenty other instances of others not under the influence of families/friends trying to act as 'mediator' between victim and abuser blatantly ignoring how selfish they sound arguing "It's been *insert time* can't you move past it by now?" , or the case of others with "Well, I talked to *insert abuser*, and they said you were lying/exaggerating" like someone would really outright admit to being an abuser, not even bothering to look up the paper trail and just go off word of mouth like SIL here
@@rebewtinydino2572 Oh she knows what she's doing. Chasing those social credit (clout) points.
Privilege.
These people come from backgrounds where they have absolutely no experience with dysfunctional families, abuse, or struggle, so from their ignorant POV, the problem should be solvable with some communication and a hug. It's naive at best, and insulting at worst.
Child abuse is absolutely disgusting, i ,like many have seen ut first hand. But a forced reconciliation is just wrong, the abuse is brought back up again. The twin it evil , her mind is warped, enjoying giving pain to other us sadistic.
8 years in prison for SIL XD
Yea sounds like drugging your brother's wife and grand theft auto gets you in hot water.
You are saving your child from the childhood you had
Its so insane how so many people only bank THEIR relationships with their siblings and so think it has to be the same with everyone.
Their poor attorney 😭 I feel so bad
It was confusing at times becuase they kept mixing who was who
Yeah I wish OP gave them names instead
Omg poor OP got the Harry Potter childhood I just realized that
I can’t be the only one who got so lost while listening
I had to listen to it a couple times to really understand
man that husband answering the door naked infront of his grandparents😂😂
I love a happy ending 🥰
Feeling lucky my crazy sister stopped her nastiness years ago. The stress OP and her family are dealing with is horrific. Waiting for the revenge.
Holy smokes. I hope OP and DH have a good life together considering the drama that just keeps unfolding around them! They freaking deserve paradise after all of this. 🥺
1:21 That went from 0 to 100 really fast!
How is it that all these people who are animals, at best, know where OP lives and works and have her phone number?
A person in this situation would be a lot more aware of the fact that they are under major threat and need to be unreachable.
This is what can be so messed up about “family”. Unless you take the power away from them to abuse and harass you, then you are giving them an invitation to screw you down to hell.
All family are cut off if there’s any possibility of sharing or stealing that info.
OP could’ve been their own best protection but fell prey to the wrong adage that you never abandon family.
The 'funny' thing is, OP has done exactly nothing. She literally just stayed calm, collected, logical, gone through legal channels and acted like an adult. She hasn't hurt anyone, hasn't behaved bad, said anything bad.
Her family is freaking INSANE 😮😮😮
"A beer in one hand and his flag pole in the other" Damn I wish I could buy that man a drink for making good on his threat.😂😂😂😂😂
That was possibly the saddedst story I have ever heard in my life.....
20:58 okay, wtf? I get throwing your other kid under the bus, but this? This is some Auschwitz level stuff.
What a lovely sil, choosing to believe a complete stranger over her brothers wife she grew up with 🤦♂️
What the actual f@$# did i just read....
A car-crash of disfunctional people and one normal person trying to pass off as a family
this is a messy one pretty sad too
Wow, the moment when your husband stood up and immediately called the police was incredibly intense! I can't imagine how terrifying it must have been to see your twin sister brought to your doorstep like that.
I have tried to facilitate a reconciliation between my BIL & FILbut its mostly asking if one would be interested in texting the other Merry Christmas. I gave up around the 2nd Christmas. (No abuse, just money disagreements) It is insane to take it that far & try to force a meeting!
It's a shit show out here..
Influencers are right up there with vegans and cyclists as some of the worst non criminals people out there.
Also good on MIL and FIL, outside of Husband true studs of the story.
Cyclists?
Bro is ripping and tearing, fighting for his life through those caves in the minecraft gameplay
Fr it was almost more captivating than the story
God , what a fucking nightmare
Honestly, you’re my favourite Reddit channel on RUclips
Thank you brother, thank you so much for those kind words. I'll try to entertain you with great stories
@@SecretVoices25 Your reddit channel is like comfort food.
A chaotic family😮
“I’ll never ever come home until DH divorces OP!” Well, I guess the trash took itself out
You got to love that man
True king husband answering the door with his long John silver and beer on the back swing 😎😂
There are so many abreviations I lost track. Who are all this people with a "J" in them.
JN- just no, so her bio granddad is JNgranddad, he's not someone she wants in her life. JM- just maybe, JMaunt is someone she cares about but holds her away for her own peace of mind
Lol, ya'll I used to think my family was the only crazy one!! Op I hope you live your best life!!
Blessings to OP and DH!
Did they move the flamingos? Inquiring minds want to know!
Some people are so deep in lala land and there no hope
damn that was a wild ride
God has nothing to do with those evil people.
Wow. I had a difficult pregnancy, so I ended up getting multiple ultrasounds. Each person doing it told me I had a boy. Unless I have razor blades up there, they got it wrong. Instead of my baby being named Joshua, she is now Kendra. And, I got over it in one day. Now it’s just a funny story on why you never trust ultrasound to pick the gender
The op really needs therapy. Her family did a number on her.
This is the best one I’ve ever heard
Wtf is this?! I can’t even watch/listen to this whole video. I’m at 14:35 and I’m tapping out ✋🏼 😳 🤚🏼
Why😭😭 what happened
It's funny that we say people have people pleasing behaviour as if it's a them problem they have to work with when literally the entire world is demanding we please them all day, every day. "Ever hear an angry Swedish lady?", yes, I am one and so is every woman in my family.
This was the WILDEST story I have ever heard. I would have moved to a yurt in Tibet. 😵💫
Wish op would update on how treatments went
Gotta love how the Parents and the Twin started stabbing each other at the end.
And I thought the Griffin family was dysfunctional
Hard to follow with all the non common abbreviations
this was a very satisfying story. feel like I need a cigarette
Yeah non of this story makes sense, she's telling people to watch out because she controls access to grandchildren and yet then she has her tubes tied years ago?
They're using IVF to have kids, could also use a surrogate if they need.
Pretty sure it was a case of "I'm not ready to tell people yet that this has happened". But while they were unaware she could use that as a threat
Call the cops on them. Or get a Lawyer. Don't let them get away with it.
They have.
So many nutjobs in this story! While probably very awful for OP, I’m glad that whole bs is over with for OP.
8 years for drugs? That seems like an injustice.
Usually depends on the amount found. Not always, but usually. I’m guessing SIL got caught with an ungodly amount of drugs. Above a certain amount, you are charged with possession with intent to distribute, and above that is a charge of trafficking. For example we’ll use Cocaine:
a little baggy of coke = possession.
Several bags of coke = intent to distribute.
And bricks of the stuff = trafficking.
And naturally the sentences get more severe the higher up you go. Including life in some places.
These laws are intended to target dealers and syndicates. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying that it’s how it is.
I would tell Anne to vent about Kendall to the “friends” who called OP cruel. Of course she wouldn’t because it’d make her look bad, but that wouldn’t stop me from “kindly” suggesting it. She can vent to them or no one; those would be my options.
I’m an AH, so while she was venting, I’d end up laughing. I’d _maybe_ listen if offered a genuine apology without me asking for it. Otherwise, she can go elsewhere with her boo-hooing, especially after intentionally and selfishly interrupting my relaxation time at my favorite cafe.
As for Kendall, it’s possible (perhaps common) to need professional help _and_ be an entitled, volatile b-tch. I’d give more consideration to it being a psychotic break _if_ she hadn’t already been acting this way for more than a year. She needs a reality check, and if that comes in the form of forced professional help _and_ legal consequences then so be it.
Damn!!! Just surrounded by crazy
If you are old enough to drive you should be mature enough to not force an abused person to see their abuser, which makes you a co-abuser. Also if you are old enough to drive you technically are not a child because children don't drive.
Everybody’s talking about how awesome OP‘s husband is (and rightfully so) but can we also talk about OP in-laws? The way they immediately came to her aid and absolutely REFUSED to allow the SIL to potentially talk her way out of anything/rightfully punished her? Hearing that OP’s MIL was a former DV advocate makes me wonder just how stupid the SIL was when she thought inviting the abuser of a DV victim to their house while said victim was also there was supposed to fly with her parents ESPECIALLY the mom?
There is so much going on in this. Hope OP is doing okay now and that therapy helped
I can’t stand by and watch my sister get murdered by somebody else but me!
I do feel bad for MIL and FIL 🙁 they won’t get to watch their potential grandkids grow up all bc their drugged out daughter decided “you’re lying , I don’t believe you” 😒
What a story!
This made my head spin holy shit
That one gay friend really is a savour
This story was very hard to follow, there were lots of unfamiliar initials and suddenly there's egg donor and spermdonor?
OP is the wife of DH(dear husband in this case), her parents are egg donor and sperm donor because they hate her being a girl instead of boy like they were told. Mil, Fil, obvious what these are and they're good people. Sil is a wannabe influencer and ruined her following for posting about OP and abusive family. GG is the husband's grandparents, JNgrandpa is OP's bio granddad, JN means just no. JMaunt is just maybe aunt, meaning she's helpful to OP but she's not quite close as the rest of the people in OP's life.
@@RylieRiddle or "JMaunt " may mean "Just My Aunt".
Jy is "just yes" (good guys)
Jn is "just no" (bad guys)
Pretty sure Jm is "just maybe" (unsure, possibly changing sides)
The egg and sperm donors are her parents, she doesn't consider those things her parents.
You confuse sister and sister-in-law a couple times that or the story just doesn't make sense
The parents in law are real goat
I may be a little dumb, but can someone explain the jyaunt and jngrandfather thing?
I think it was just to differentiate the people that were helpful and hurtful in her life.
A Just Yes person is someone who’s on you’re side/a good person, while a Just No is is someone who’s often abusive/narcissistic and just not good for you. Useful Reddit terms.
@@meghanbrooks3990 Thank you. Makes so much more sense now.
Wow. Both E.D and Twin are both cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs.
1:32 OMORI REFERENCE
He answered the door to nana and grandfather balls naked wow .
ok i got a few clarification questions
- what happened to middle BIL at the end (seemed like he wasnt on good terms with family)
- when and why did middle BIL's gf "switch sides" (she immediately told everyone when younger SIL was back with middle BIL)
- when and why did young SIL get on drugs
- why is young SIL in federal prison for so long (8 yrs)
i also do feel bad for youngest SIL. maybe answers to those clarifying questions will change my mind. and she did fuck up, but i do feel like she had good intentions and just went too far, and then it seemed everyone except couple ppl turned against her. i can see that affecting her poorly and sending her into a downward spiral where she basically makes things worse and worse bc she's just like panicking on the inside from everyone turning against her
For that last one, middle BIL's GF reported the SIL when she left. She didn't just tell the family, she reported to the cops.
@@southernflight5078 i should've clarified, i'm confused why it's such a long crime. it sounds like 8 years just for taking drugs, am i missing something?
@@verygooddeal4436 She drugged someone and stole a car. Depending on the state that is attempted murder or assault. and grand theft auto is still a pretty serious crime.
@@BaeBunni oh ok thanks, i missed that she drugged someone else. i only caught that she had drugs herself
@@verygooddeal4436 also the person she drugged was her middle brother's wife so family likely didn't get her attorney and she probably got a public defender which push for guilty pleas pretty often to reduce overall sentencing especially in cut and dry cases like this.
What a nice mining trip.
That was pretty hard to follow
So confusing and hard to follow. I give up.
Holy shit the first minute into this was like me telling it. I'm fraternal and was supposed to he boy and parents were disappointed. But I'm 6 minute younger
It's a long one, so I am a bit confused about a few things. First op says she's only one that can have baby, that's why they got in contact, then said when younger had medical emergency which ended with her tubes tied so she can't have a baby, but then says she's on ivf treatment to have a baby? I thought the medical emergency meant it was impossible, so why would they be on ivf?
Also, why is younger sil getting 8 years in a fed prison? So mid bil gf caught her using so told people and left bil, so like she's using, got stole so non expensive things and her mums car, but that got her 8 years in fed?
Were the mil and FIL alright with them at the end, kept saying most family angry with them, but didn't specify how they felt, even though originally was saying how much on their side they were, agreed to distance themselves from sil for her actions. Did they know about her using?
Her tubes are defunct, but IVF treatments exist that can get around that.
Read the one where the inlaws wanted to get rid of 2 of their triplet grandkids
wait, told op was gonna be a boy wasn't, parents neglected op, but op had a twin also a girl, parents fine with her? what?
Apparently not gender biased per se, but narrow and unrealistic expectations with little to no maturity on the parents’ part to adapt to the new family they had.
Sometimes my short term memory isn’t that great and I forget things as soon as I hear them. Which has made me confused on some points. Can someone explain? I’ve tried to scroll back through the video to figure it out, but there is a lot to go through.
1. what happened with the numerous felonies that bio parents committed?
2. 27:31 does she mean that FIL and MIL were with them and threatening the bio parents, or was it a typo and she meant that the bio parents were threatening her and her husband?
Or were FIL and MIL also trying to move in next to them? And if so, didn’t OP have a good relationship with them? Did that change somewhere and I forgot?