Marriage Is A Way Of Trapping Women Biggest SCAM
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Im married. Its a scam. Once the children come, you deal with taking care of the children and a hostile, angry male in the house.
I’m with you. I didn’t have the children but I did deal with the angry, sullen male in the marriage. Happily single now. 😊 Marriage was the ultimate scam.
I'm praying for your freedom, sis. It's never too late to choose yourself. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. Full solidarity, sister.
Love your honesty!
Young ladies 4B that is the way. My advice
Been saying this since my husband said he married me so he will never have a drought and not have to worry about pleasing me since I have no one to compare him to lol glad I left with my virginity cause y would I let you use my body for ur pleasure only? I was young and dumb even though everyone told me not to do it smh I wish I would've listened now at 27 I'm still apologizing for not listening
I was married for six years. There was no benefit to me mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, or otherwise. After the wedding and honeymoon, my life went back to normal, except I had a man under the same roof and more work. He wasn't the one cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, planning, and keeping up with the household for ME. I was doing all that for HIM, plus I worked and made just as much money as he did. There was no way I was having kids and taking on even more work, so marriage was useless to me.
We got divorced because I refused to have a baby. 🤷🏾♀️
I'm glad you listened to yourself and got out before it got worse.
I had mine pay me to think about having it first I asked for 70k he said he would do 62k then the rest after so I took the 62k and dipped I had to leave with something for all the bs
I was married and also refused to have a baby. Go girl!
@@shaypope4732 lol!! Damn… well played
@@shaypope4732 Smart move! You were lucky enough to have a guy who would actually care about you enough to hand you over all that money AND be able to make an escape plan. That's a rare scenario of luck indeed.
Statistically we live longer & thrive without them. On the other hand, them without us.....THEY PERISH💅🏾
Facts!
Yep! I was just about to comment the statistics on this. ❤
😂😂😂they perish….
they perish I say!!
Show me the stats
I waited until I was 40 to get married. That's how slim the pickings are. I finally found a man who is good, a true help mate, showed me unconditionally understanding. But it took 25 years. I wouldn't recommend the literal hell it took to find him. I wished I had spent those years alone. ❤
Facts!!! I'm in the same boat. I finally found a good partner that pours into me. So glad I waited and put my eggs on ice😂😂😂!!!!
@@ineedhoez that's what we should tell these young women, put em on ice till you find him. Because it may take 25 years.
@RachelKagiorgis1111 hell yeah! I got mine done in cancun 4500 for everything. Gave me peace of mind.
@@ineedhoezI wish I would've went to a cheap place instead of pissy Paris
@shaypope4732, if you have the money to get your eggs frozen in Paris, I am...so proud of you. Boss lady ❤❤❤❤❤
Your grandmother and maybe your mother needed marriage since they couldn’t work or have a credit card without a man. And they paid for that in so many difficult ways.
You don’t have to in 2024. You can choose to get married or not but if you choose it, it better serve more purpose than “I have a man”
THIS. 1000000%
Single women never have to endure domestic violence.
Marrying the wrong one is a major scam; bamboozle. Women should never marry for love. He's more likely looking for a "mother" he can sleep with... You live longer and more peaceful single...
Facts
Agreed I've seen some women say to not marry for money but those women are probably still young and they haven't been through enough relationship yet to know that it's delusional thinking because if a guy is not constantly working and massively out earning you just don't ever get married you wont get anything out of it if you need to leave. I'm okay with dating while poor but not marrying them when there poor because that's rewarding bad behavior if they really loved you that much it would inspire them to excel and save money and if there constantly wasting money then they don't love you.
I don't ever want to be married. I do believe marriage is a trap for women. Statistics show that single, childfree women live longer than married women and single (or married yet still single) mothers. Enough said. All I need are my friends to look after my home and cats if I'm gone. Life is peaceful and estate planning is easy: everything goes to my precious kitties.
Perfect decision!
Nice everything goes to my niece's n nephews since they parents didn't set them up financially they get 5k each month while in college so they won't have to work n go to school like I did plus I got my niece her dream car even though she is only 11 she wanted a Audi Q5 truck so I brought it in cash n keeping it until she gets her license I stopped giving the parents money n invested in them instead cause they weren't getting anything I gave them cause they parents would wait until I left n take it Im trying to get them started on their own business so they can also have multiple streams of income without leaving the house when they don't want to cause one have bad periods, anxiety, ADHD, the other one I'm not sure how to even pronounce it but trying make sure they keep taking care of their mental health without having to show up at dead end jobs that trigger them and not care about their issues plus they weren't put on this earth to suffer at least not while I'm here lol
I mean being a cat lady is definitely one way to go and stats show it’s becoming more common
@@reezgaming1475 true
@@shaypope4732What a wonderful auntie you are! Those children are so blessed to have you in their lives because their parents are apparently not going to give them any kind of good future. I’m sure they will, in turn, help other people in their lives and the world will be a better place because of your generous gift.
Never married 50-somerhing woman. Get told at least once a month by either a married man or woman that "I'm one of the smart ones" because I've never been married. I've come to treasure the freedom over being a bangmaid.
Your life sounds boring
@@2okaycolayou sound jealous
@@2okaycola spoken like a child who will rue ignoring aunty's advice one day
Love this freedom of doing whatever u want whenever u want
@@bigoof5879 let them learn the hard way who can't hear must feel
idk if it’s a scam or not but i’ve never been married and i ain’t trying to get married to find out
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Only a scam when you marry the wrong person. Don’t miss out on what can be because a bunch of hurt women and men say marriage is bad. Nothing is guaranteed, but marriage can be great and it can be horrible. LIFE has ups and downs whether married or not. You don’t know unless you try. Good luck. 😌
@@sg5720please leave folks alone if your happily married go be that and let others chador themselves
@@sg5720 it's not worth the gamble
Nothing wrong with you not wanting to if your happy that’s all that matters it’s your life
Don’t get married us the answer. Live in separate houses
Problem solved
Yup
I know.. And when a man knows hes coming up short in marriage, their father or elders will advise them to " put a baby in her " SO SHE CANT LEAVE
Yeah, my husband tried that, but it didn’t work. I had my tubes tied the first year I was married. No accidents will happen with me. Period.
I could see what was going on when I was a little girl. Mom did everything. Dad went to the office and came home and relaxed. I said "If I was a boy, I'd get married. But I'm a girl, so I won't." I said this at a gathering of extended family, and no adults corrected me. They told me I was smart.
Trapped is a light word I use to describe my marriage- he lied from the beginning and yes, I vetted him. I didn't come to a marriage thinking I need or want a man, a pick me, something to show off or anything financial. I wanted a partner, to walk through life with, laugh, enjoy each other and yes, I wanted to have a least one child. I have the child, and he is magnificent, but that is all I have from my marriage. All I ended up is a deeper mistrust of people, especially men, severe anxiety and debt. I am working my way back to the light.
🙏🏾 Ninjas ain’t ish
Keep ya head up ma cause I know exactly how you feel 💜
WHEN WOMEN COULDN'T PROVIDE
FOR THEMSELVES OR THEIR CHILDREN
MARRIED BENIFITED WOMEN
BUT NOT ANYMORE
A GOOD CAREER
IS MORE BENEFICIAL
TO WOMEN
Marriage never benefited women. Women were barred from most kinds of work; what work they were allowed didn't pay (like the $7.25 minimum wage today); weren't allowed to own bank accounts or property.
They wouldn't have had children if not for having to marry in order not to starve.
@@fantym1633 MARRIAGE BENIFITED WOMEN
WHEN WOMEN COULDNT WORK
WEREN'T ALLOWED TO OWN ANYTHING
OR HAVE A BANK ACCOUNT IN THEIR OWN NAMES
MARRIAGE BENIFITED WOMEN IN THOSE TIMES
ESPECIALLY IF A WOMAN WAS POOR AND MARRIED INTO WEALTH
THAT MARRIAGE WOULD BE FINANCIALLY BENIFICIAL FOR HER
PLEASE ALSO REMEMBER
NOT EVERY HUSBAND WAS INSUFFERABLE
NOT EVERY MARRIAGE WAS BAD
A FEW MARRIAGES WERE HAPPY
@@uspeak7Too few marriages were happy. Most were miserable for the women. And still are.
Women couldn't work? Nah, lemme correct that. MEN stopped women from working, made it illegal to have their own bank accounts. MEN enslaved women to the point of us learning helplessness.
@@uspeak7 too few for statistical significance, sadly
But how many women actually get spousel support, and how much do they get ? Definitely not millions or thousands a month.
These guys are out here hunting for women to marry so she can do all the work while he goes on living as a single man in private.
So yes, it's a trap and a scam
If I’d never married my ex I would be a millionaire by now and if he had been nurturing or loving we both would have been millionaires.
I divorced my ex, I pay HIM money, he’s unemployed and I’m working 4 jobs, all my clothes are second hand. And no I don’t know that makes any sense at all.
@gingerfellah5665 This is terrible . I'm so sorry
Exactly!
@@gingerfellah5665do you need help stopping it hun?I worked in Jag for a few years so I know loop holes when it comes to not paying property tax, child support, spousal support etc
I think marriage can be beneficial if two people are on the same page. But the problem is most people get married for the wrong reasons or to the wrong person.
Unfortunately, this is the key that most of them are missing. 👍🏾🤦🏽♀️
You marry for the wrong reasons, to the wrong person when you don't know yourself. I really think most people just get married due to social pressure.
The best lesson I learned from being married is that it is better to live single and children-free!
Personally I think selling us the concept of "weddings" since the craddle is propaganda. You grow up associating "marriage" with the idea of being dressed like a princess and eating delicious cake and being showered with attention and praises, you're told this will be the happiest day of your life and it cannot get any better than that.
I'm not surprised some women take their wedding so seriously they become bridezillas, they are convinced they have no other purpose !
But no one talks about what happens after you get married.
Preach 💯
All fairytales end with "happily ever after", yet there is no story on how that works, happy for whom exactly, we're only left to trust the word of the narrator. So in life too the perfect pretend fairytale relationship falls apart and magic leaves after "I do!". We're not supposed to dream about or expect happy married life in a tangible way and actual examples, only figure out that this "happily" is supposed to be faking a smile through drudgery unless you wanted a lobotomy, and it's too late now. Only the wedding party is a bait to strife for as that was enough cheese to mousetrap you legally. It is quite the propaganda.
I feel like marriage should be legal for only those who are 37 and up.
I've been told by so many married people that marriage is overrated. I'm starting to see more & more what they are talking about.
I agree! My dad told me that men should wait until they’re 40+ and women should be 35+.
@@talkswithjas7959 Probably good advice, honestly. I used to tell people who were married young that in my 20s marriage was not something I was even considering and I found it interesting that others did it so young. These were clearly people who did not know themselves yet.
What I learned from being married is to always have your own game plan and know there is a good possibility you will be left alone at some point so best be prepared. Also, don't give more than you are given
I’m still in my early twenties so no marriage yet but every woman I know is married.
I don’t see much real benefit for most women besides someone else to spilt bills with and the social status a woman gets from being a wife.
In fact I’d argue most women don’t even truly want marriage, they want the ring and a wedding.
I’ve said this time and time again
No there is no benifit to marriage since u don’t get anything different or new then what u already had before marriage
And in this day in age it’s more trouble then what it’s worth to a lot of people
I'm in my late 20s and wish I would've never did it
I've been there and done that. I will NEVER do it again. It's been 12 years since I signed those papers, and I thank God every day that I'm free. We didn't have any assets together, and I got my house 6 years later. Marriage isn't that fantasy it's presented as, with the wrong man, it's hell. Even if you get married, have your own, career, and money. If he tries to control you or mistreat you, then it's easier to chuck the duces and leave.
Marriage has alwasy been a scam for women but all these Disney love stories and bella Naija wedding is what clouds most women's head from the reality of marriage.
Anyways the most important thing is having your own money as a women so when things starts to go sideways you'll be able to still find your way out.
Yes!!!! The Bella Naija Weddings!!!!! It's all fluff 😂 most of them are smelling pepper 🌶 and suffering in silence 🤫
Everytime my friends complain about being married but then turn around and say they can't wait till i do because it's nice and marriage has ups and downs i side eye them. There's only one of my husbands friends i fw because he's trying to change himself and be a better man the rest naw.
Your husband's friends? Elaborate, you just said you weren't married, unless you meant to say Her husbands friend? Irregardless of the confusing im assuming typo I agree with you
@Rosemary46840 I meant to say my friends husbands lol I'm so sorry
That’s why you have you own home , money and vehicle
I changed the locks on my ex. He couldn’t do anything.
Never took my ex last name
Me either. I’m so glad of that.
Same… Married 29 Years… SAHWM And Always Controlled Finances… w/ my own accounts and investments… My mom didn’t raise a fool!!!
Unfortunately, this isn't wrong at all.
I broke up with one long-term BF (he was constantly emotionally abusive, and he'd tried to lay hands on me a few times) and he wasn't OK - his response was "I should have married you!"
My reply was that it wouldn't have mattered, I'd still be out, and he argued with me and told me that I'd never get divorced 😂 as if he'd ever been paid attention enough to know what I would or wouldn't do. Idiot seemed to think marriage = freedom to act horribly
A year later I heard he'd gotten married, and a few months later, his cousin told me she'd kicked him out - I sometimes wonder if he learned anything, but suspect he was beyond that.
Now, I'm very much afraid that if anyone wanted to put a ring on it, there would be a lot of questions and agreements to be negotiated before I even considered it
Men who put their hands on women never end up happy. Even if they marry, their wives deep down seriously resent them.
Solo mamma here!!
My late husband can rest in peace cause look my life is great. Its peaceful. My kids are good and healthy. Money is stacking and trips are planned.
I am now happily Single for life!!!
I live in India and arranged marriages are still a thing here, and every married women i have spoken to has told me to NOT get married precisely because how much useless work it is
There is a benefit if the man is a high earner, he's generous and you want kids. Besides that , eh.
I’m happy to never get married 😌 it’s crazy how much women are conditioned from childhood on to find a husband. As if it was the biggest achievement to be picked by a man. These insta proposal videos are cringe, but much worse are the women that get humiliated by their spouses DURING the wedding. No thanks!
I've had 99 bad experiences, but marriage wasn't 1. 😂
Tugs at my heart and saddens me how ‘happily married’ is fading fast. 😞 I didn’t hear anyone mention love.
Marriage to a GOOD MAN can be a plus, but marriage to a BAD MAN is the worst thing a woman could ever be trapped in.
Married rhymes with Buried.
You thought that was just a coincidence?
BIG ASS SCAM😤
3:22 Spiritual Whistleblower is no joke! She’s a “serious” sister!
4B. Team bear 🐻
These videos are keeping me sane. Keep going
Married. Marriage is one of the most beautiful partnship but only with the right person and the right reasons. I used to be scared of it because my parents divorced twice and it was a nightmare as their only child I was traumatized. My grand parents also had terrible marriages. I learned from their mistakes and asked Jesus to give me discernment in dating and the strenght to let go of men who were not right for me. Negative experiences are everywhere but don't let them consume you or give up on marriage for that. Marriage is not the problem find someone who wants the same thing as you and with whom you can be yourself then its a beautiful thing.
I hate when married people try to tell you wdf to do with your life ok your happy hood for you wdf does that have to do with me I’m not telling you wdf to do with your life wdf are you over here trying to tell me wdf to do with mine unprovoked
They need you to help them feel they made the right decision because they are not sure themselves.
Well. I married 25 years ago. I stayed home untill November of 2022 because oir kids are in college now. I homeschooled them. Its been good for me.
Marriage has a legal, cultural, and religious component. I can't call it a scam if I don't know which component(s) one married for. If your region doesn't recognize defacto relationships; if your faith doesn't recognize playing house and illegitimate children; if your culture determines marriage as a rite of passage and the union of families, then marriage will have its merits. If one's simply regretful of their choice to marry because they expected a different reality, then it will feel like a scam!
It shouldn't even work anymore. But you're either conscious and strong in your resolve not to ignore the knowledge you have or you're not.
You know it.Been down that road.Wont ever go back to that life.
I believe it's like an item which is very good as original, but it's so many poor quality fakes that even if you pay very decent you still could get a fake.
Or like lottery. Most of the time lose more than gain, but dream of jackpot don't leave you. Plus if you get a jackpot you better have it quietly.
It doesn’t even take kids or giving up your career to become trapped. Women who end up becoming disabled or have an illness that disrupts their ability to earn can also become trapped even if they previously had a good career. Always prepare to take care of yourself on your own first and foremost.
Can we talk about if Marriage protects women better when kids are involved or when they arent married but have kids together is that better?
THESE WOMAN ARE RIGHT....IM A MAN AND THAT'S WAY I STAY ON THE ROAD driving a 28 wheeler
I'm grateful to be married to my husband 😊❤
Because it is more comfortable and society lets them get away with it! Probably they had the same exemple in their parents and all around
I don’t think marriage is a scam but I’m sure if you’re married to the wrong person it feels like one
If I were to ever marry a man, it would be thru civil marriage (living 7+ years together) and I want a private ceremony to save money, and I hate having so much attention on me (I'm autistic and I don't like attention or my pictures taken). I don't want a chunky flashy ring, I"m fine with my favorite stone, but I refuse to make the marriage legal via the government cause legal marriage is for insurance basically.
i'm autistic too and i'm scared of getting married. if so, that means my healthcare is terminated. that means i'd have to rely on my partner's healthcare plan. i'll take not being married tbh
@@daft_j right? I'll gladly do the "cosplay" marriage at this rate 😂
Good ~ The Man.
I love this channel so much. 😁❤️
Marriage is like lemonade it taked the bitter and the sweet to get that favor of a strong partnership but not all people like lemons women where pushed to get marriage for protection
Most often requiring protection from whom she was/is married to
Algor...
18 wheeler
She funny about marriage
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I wonder if Maria is married
Men who are spiritual are good men. Men who do not follow God you need to stay away from. period. A spiritual man brings glory to his wife and home. nowadays no one follows God. It is very rare.. we have lost our ways.
Even men who claim to be God fearing and deeply spiritual can be dangerous.
My parents, married for 25 years and both of devout Christian faith, got married to each other when my Mom was in her late 20s and my Dad in his late 30s. They are both highly educated and with doctoral degrees in their respective fields. They were away abroad on a vacation. When my mother was sexually harassed and groped on the buttocks by a male family relative in my Dad’s presence, she laughed off the discomfort as a defense mechanism.
Instead of seeing it as such, my Dad thought my Mom was somehow minimizing and encouraging the assault. He never defended her when this was happening or confronted the man. Instead, my father privately berated my Mom, his wife, for laughing at her assault, thinking she embarrassed HIM by laughing at her assault. My Dad has also planted tracking devices on my Mom, attempting to employ me and my siblings for “tech support”. He frequently verbally harasses my Mom in the presence of his children as well. I suspect he may be autistic but it’s no excuse for poor behavior.
I’ve never looked at him the same since all of this. And he’s never truly acknowledged that pain he caused. I guess he hopes we have moved on and forgot about it.
God fearing men aren’t always acting in good faith either so… 🤷🏾♀️
Uh...you can marry a spiritual man and still find out your sleeping with the devil. There are too many cases of pastors or religious men living a double life or like she said will wear a mask in public until you get home.
Whether its cheating, domestic violence, spiritual abuse (using religion or the bible to trap your partner) or sexual assault.
Just bc you go to church every Sunday and can quote scripture doesn't make you a suitable partner to nobody.
Its often said that the devil was once an angel so you have to be careful.
*laughs in Greg Locke*
So, religion is supposed to fix everything? I'm sorry. Believing in "god" does not stop men from acting like literal menaces.
ZZbut this shit is funny
Im single. Ill admit- i dont want to get married, but I want a wife. I want that partner thats gonna be just as dedicated to me as I am to her, both focused on the wellness and achievements of ourselves and each other. If i met someone who wanted to be a wife in legal terms, Id give them that legal title. But personally idc strongly enough for marriage as an institution to personally want that legal aspect
You are not "giving" anyone that legal title, it is not your to give. OMG. You are really showing your true self with this comment.
TH are u talking about?? Women do not want your useless title, what is the title supposed to do for a woman? Males should always be the ones giving more in a relationship because in reality if the woman has kids for him there's nothing he could actually do that would be anywhere close to what she gives. It's not even possible. Also, marriage is not some treasured prize that you're giving us lowly women. You sound ridiculous 🙄
@teancoffwe208 By, boy. Go somewhere else with that double talk.
So in other words, you want a free slave and incubator. Nice 👍🏽
@@liesdamnliesandstatsweird1934 I'm a woman you dipshits. I can make someone MY wife. They can't be my wife unless I want them to, and vice versa. They can't be my wife legally without signing a paper, and I sign it too. It takes at least two to tango in any external relationship a person has.
If I met someone who I already felt like was my wife and vice versa, but they wanted to make it legal, I'd GIVE that to them, as I said.
Only women who have had bad luck in relationships and marriages say this, OR women who have seen others have horrible experiences and think it will happen to them. Whether these type of women like it or not, some marriages are absolutely wonderful for BOTH men and women. 😊
Where did any of these woman say all marriages and marriages in general these women are simply highlighting that there is a bad side to marriage while women like you only want to highlight the good side smh nothing is wrong with speaking on both sides to not would be you purposely ignoring it to feel good
Statistically speaking, those numbers are low
@@downbad2874 exactly 💯
Ya based on condition lol
Very few marriages are beneficial to women. Most benefit men.
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Hebrews 13:4 KJV
Is this from the same book 📖 that says a woman must marry her grapist ?
@@Childfree334 you should prolly stay child free
“But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die: but unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter: for he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her.”
Deuteronomy 22:25-27 KJV
Punishment for r@pe is death.
R@pe is punishable by death but I rarely see any of these men even get a prison sentence.
Punishment for the damsel being gr@ped but not heard screaming in the field or believed by her family = marriage. Anyway, not everyone abides by or believes in the teachings of the bible, so you can save your scriptures.
@@funshinebear4822 why would I ever take biblical advice from someone who doesn’t read it. You don’t know what the hell you’re talking about.
Nope my wife loves being married to me. We both love the traditional route and the patriarchy.
We want to hear from her.
If she feels that way best believe it is because how YOU treat her. I love being married to MY husband. He makes the traditional route comfortable and he shows me the OTHER side to patriarchy, and I like it. He consistently treats me as a Queen. He aids in making our lives comfortable and enjoyable. With that said, some men abuse the power they have in their “traditional” roles. So if your wife is happy with the set up, no doubt you treat her right. 😌
@@sg5720 glad to hear. We have our disagreements. I have PTSD from Iraq and I been through 5 doctors since 2015. Mostly didn’t work and I learned how to control and deal with it. My issues are sleeping and having nightmares where I couldn’t save my battle buddy from committing suicide. I was married before but my ex cheated on my when I was in Iraq. It took me time to trust anyone again
We would like to hear from her. Remember, white slave owners also said their black slaves love working for them
U had to tell us this why? Y’all act like telling people this someone how effects their life 😂 your happy doesn’t mean the next person is or will be