No contact has been the hardest, toughest and BEST thing I've done since deciding to remove myself from the most toxic person I've ever encountered. Everything was a complete lie... Everything!
Love it! I found the insight into no contact and succeeding in silence and it was a game changer. You gain your control back when you cut off the narcissist. They hate no contact because they feed off your reaction you will give them when they devalue you. No contact is the way to go if you wanna take back your life, the narcissist tried to steal. Joe said on one of his videos, there are endless people and things that you can interact with, why are you holding onto this one person and giving them so much power over your life?
No contact has been hell. I'm still trauma bonded and everyday is a struggle. But I'm progressing, slowly. I feel she has hijacked my mind so much of my mental energy is wasted on her which often will exacerbate urges to break NC. I find myself talking out loud to myself a lot, cursing her out and telling her how much of a two faced fraud she is. I'm sure she would love to know that's what I'm doing but I'm not giving her that satisfaction.
Write down everything rotten she has done to you. Then when you get the urge to contact her look at that page of things that you wrote down,or notebook full. Depending on how truly evil she was to you. I've gone through the same thing and that helped me. We can forget sometime how much crap we really put up with and start to pick up the phone. I hope that you're as stubborn as I was for your sake.
Nothing with integrity matters to the N. They’re only interested in getting what they can from you. It’s a setup from the beginning. Walk away once you’ve completely understand their motive!
So true. The negative supply they get from devaluing another is a pure dopamine hit for them. Sickening. 2 years and 3 months free. No contact is necessary with these sick creatures.
Their approach to life and the way they relate to other people is so alien that's taken me years of study to wrap my head around it. I've found that people who've experienced true narcissistic abuse subsequently obtain a damn near phd level of education on the matter just to figure out what happened.
No contact and all access denied for almost a year. Anyone connected to him has also been denied access to me. I am fortunate that my family and friends also have denied him access. April will be 1 year of no contact and my friends and I will be celebrating a get together on a fun weekend. 1st 3 months were the hardest but I never gave in. Thank you joe for your beautiful messages ❤️
Before I learned that my soon to be ex, was a textbook narcissist, we were doing a “trial” separation, which, of course I learned is very typical language narcissist use in their discard, I thought we would actually learn how much we were each taking each other for granted. Of course, he had planned it all along andhad a second supply lined up. Discarded me after 27 years of marriage, 35 years together, for a quick thrill. Hope she was worth it! They’re no longer together, of course and I am guessing he’s just sleeping around and realizing I’m not easy to replace.
Excellent video Joe. Complete No Contact for 15 months. Clear mind, no confusion and trauma bond broken. It’s the only way unless you have very specific circumstances. It worked for me and thousands of others. ❤️
Time and space, even a few days, gives your body a break from the over active nervous system youve gradually grown accustomed to and the mind peace it gives you. You can have clarity on just how bad this day to day toxic stress this person is causing you .. and 'breathe" fresh air and calmed emotions. It can be the beginning of the realisation of just how much this person is so badly affecting you, and your overall health. Narcissists work on the theory of 'unrelentless, unforgiving boundary breaking', never giving you a chance to draw breath and get a true perspective on what youre experiencing.. so this is very good advice ❤❤❤
Good morning !🌞Lets have a cup joe☕☕ with Joe and listen to his unique take on narcissism, his knowledge and wisdom is priceless ! Thank you Joe for one more magical video ! 🤗❤
This may sound perverse, but a secret in long-term after care, I've noticed, when dealing with the person with NPD, if you're obnoxious towards them any time you might unintentionally interact with them, if you're intentionally hurtful towards them and you keep them red-line pissed-off, it short circuits their process in that it prevents their internal hard drive from their usual catalytic conversion, keeping them stuck with viewing you as "all black," and it renders them incapable of re-idolizing you as being "all white" again when they seek to return to you and siphon your resources. This also serves to circumvent any future hoovering activity.
Time and space will reattract Narky. You'll be new and exciting again. You've become mysterious which causes curiosity. Narky just can't wait for another round. Each time you take Narky back expect things to get worse. Narky knows a person with self love and self respect wouldn't bother with such tierany and torture. This could be your chance to get even or play Nark games. It's fun to confuse and dangle the carrot 🥕 4 a little while. Narky likes fun and games...
Listening to your videos. Thank you Joe. I just had a thought.. I think my ex "Narcissist" was looking for a mercy killing... And for me to take responsibility for it... Or looking for some justification in taking my life... Or gaslighting me into taking my own. I think she was mentally ill and toxic to the point of evil.
No contact has been the hardest, toughest and BEST thing I've done since deciding to remove myself from the most toxic person I've ever encountered. Everything was a complete lie... Everything!
Same with me but I’m so strong now. Every single thing was a lie you are correct. Insane to fathom
You can give your all. And they will take everything you have left!
They take advantage of people, they see you as a purpose to their means. It’s so odd.
It's dehumanizing and disgusting.
Love it! I found the insight into no contact and succeeding in silence and it was a game changer. You gain your control back when you cut off the narcissist. They hate no contact because they feed off your reaction you will give them when they devalue you. No contact is the way to go if you wanna take back your life, the narcissist tried to steal. Joe said on one of his videos, there are endless people and things that you can interact with, why are you holding onto this one person and giving them so much power over your life?
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉. You are winning Now. Stay strong 💪. I've been Narc free for 3yrs. God is good, Life is good.😅
Yes! And it was weird I was in this sort of fog! Very unexpected for me ! I'm not in that fog anymore though!
Cuz most are weak insecure doormats
No more fog for me too
Because I have BPD and he's my "favorite person". I could be around millions of people, and I'd still look for him 😢
No contact has been hell. I'm still trauma bonded and everyday is a struggle. But I'm progressing, slowly. I feel she has hijacked my mind so much of my mental energy is wasted on her which often will exacerbate urges to break NC. I find myself talking out loud to myself a lot, cursing her out and telling her how much of a two faced fraud she is. I'm sure she would love to know that's what I'm doing but I'm not giving her that satisfaction.
im right there with ya bro
@@rexil4585 Me too, take the pain and move on. No contact ever.
Write down everything rotten she has done to you. Then when you get the urge to contact her look at that page of things that you wrote down,or notebook full. Depending on how truly evil she was to you. I've gone through the same thing and that helped me. We can forget sometime how much crap we really put up with and start to pick up the phone. I hope that you're as stubborn as I was for your sake.
Damn son you and me both
Been there and still have some more to go. But eventually, things start to get better. Good luck!
you never mattered.
Radical ecceptance😢
Neither did the filthy narc 😂😂😂
Nothing with integrity matters to the N. They’re only interested in getting what they can from you. It’s a setup from the beginning. Walk away once you’ve completely understand their motive!
So true. The negative supply they get from devaluing another is a pure dopamine hit for them. Sickening. 2 years and 3 months free. No contact is necessary with these sick creatures.
Their approach to life and the way they relate to other people is so alien that's taken me years of study to wrap my head around it. I've found that people who've experienced true narcissistic abuse subsequently obtain a damn near phd level of education on the matter just to figure out what happened.
So true.
And the next someone disrespects you, you'll stand up 4 yourself..
No shit that is so true! It’s all so crazy making🥶
🤣 True
When you go no contact, you take away the narcs “captive audience” 🕷️🕸️
NC helped me tremendously
Love this
No contact and all access denied for almost a year. Anyone connected to him has also been denied access to me. I am fortunate that my family and friends also have denied him access. April will be 1 year of no contact and my friends and I will be celebrating a get together on a fun weekend. 1st 3 months were the hardest but I never gave in. Thank you joe for your beautiful messages ❤️
Before I learned that my soon to be ex, was a textbook narcissist, we were doing a “trial” separation, which, of course I learned is very typical language narcissist use in their discard, I thought we would actually learn how much we were each taking each other for granted. Of course, he had planned it all along andhad a second supply lined up. Discarded me after 27 years of marriage, 35 years together, for a quick thrill. Hope she was worth it! They’re no longer together, of course and I am guessing he’s just sleeping around and realizing I’m not easy to replace.
Narky DOESN'T care he has no empathy. And besides you've been devalued to less than dirt. There's no more supply/boost that he could get from you...
Aww that’s so sad. Keep your head up you will get through this. They always have a second supply lined up. Karma has no limits.
It feels like you're addicted
Excellent video Joe. Complete No Contact for 15 months. Clear mind, no confusion and trauma bond broken. It’s the only way unless you have very specific circumstances. It worked for me and thousands of others. ❤️
Talking to us help us to move forward, thank you.
Time and space, even a few days, gives your body a break from the over active nervous system youve gradually grown accustomed to and the mind peace it gives you. You can have clarity on just how bad this day to day toxic stress this person is causing you .. and 'breathe" fresh air and calmed emotions. It can be the beginning of the realisation of just how much this person is so badly affecting you, and your overall health. Narcissists work on the theory of 'unrelentless, unforgiving boundary breaking', never giving you a chance to draw breath and get a true perspective on what youre experiencing.. so this is very good advice ❤❤❤
Joe, the voice for us all. Thanks my friend. 🤍🤗🤍🤗
Thank you Jo for your great advice you are a gift to humanity.
Good morning !🌞Lets have a cup joe☕☕ with Joe and listen to his unique take on narcissism, his knowledge and wisdom is priceless ! Thank you Joe for one more magical video ! 🤗❤
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This may sound perverse, but a secret in long-term after care, I've noticed, when dealing with the person with NPD, if you're obnoxious towards them any time you might unintentionally interact with them, if you're intentionally hurtful towards them and you keep them red-line pissed-off, it short circuits their process in that it prevents their internal hard drive from their usual catalytic conversion, keeping them stuck with viewing you as "all black," and it renders them incapable of re-idolizing you as being "all white" again when they seek to return to you and siphon your resources. This also serves to circumvent any future hoovering activity.
Or they will hoover, with a revenge activity.
That's how you get Narky 2 respect you. She won't like you but will respect you cuz you got the power. She knows how nasty she really is...
Time and space turn the regret and rumination into power and understanding.
No contact works well. Thumbs up!
Thank you for your insight and content.
Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶
Thank you for helping to keep me strong and on point!! Really appreciate you 👍
Thanks Joe….always appreciated 🙏🏻….this week needed an extra dose of strength to keep moving forward, you always provide it ❤❤❤
Thank you!
And that's right, keep moving forward!! ❤
Every time I break no contact, it mind F's me for days. I think I can handle it bc I'm feeling better, and I don't want her back...nope.🤦
Amazing, thank you
Yay! A brand new video 🙂
A am sure I'll get some more high quality information about narcissism.
Thank you ❤
Two weeks n I can’t remember his face n it’s weird that I can’t see his face n it feels so liberating n a weight off my heart
Forever your sub Joe. Thanks ❤
🙏🙏
What about no contact with a borderline ? 🥴
Time and space will reattract Narky. You'll be new and exciting again. You've become mysterious which causes curiosity. Narky just can't wait for another round. Each time you take Narky back expect things to get worse. Narky knows a person with self love and self respect wouldn't bother with such tierany and torture. This could be your chance to get even or play Nark games. It's fun to confuse and dangle the carrot 🥕 4 a little while. Narky likes fun and games...
LOL. Narky sure does!
😂😂
Listening to your videos. Thank you Joe. I just had a thought.. I think my ex "Narcissist" was looking for a mercy killing... And for me to take responsibility for it... Or looking for some justification in taking my life... Or gaslighting me into taking my own. I think she was mentally ill and toxic to the point of evil.
That boost would have lasted quite a long time for Narky. ALL POWERFUL ALL SUPERIOR. Of course she would have enjoyed knowing she destroyed you...
❤️