6:53 bullying is prevalent everywhere even grad programs not just school. Adults stay bullying too 8:44 that’s true we don’t live in big family units or tribes no more so we all alone so we go to therapists now. Pain to purpose? 11:08 battle of Uhud 13:03 surah Al Imran 14:09 be gentle with them (those who went through trauma). Not tell them to read more Quran or pray more etc 16:44 Umar ibn Al khatab 23:57 overcome nafs 26:09 shahawaat-animalistic desires. Shubuhaat-Racism, classism, arrogance. Have taqwa 31:09 low self esteem, waswas, they don’t know what their purpose is 31:45 Trauma psychological wound. You need to work through it otherwise leads to addictions, anxiety. How do you work through it? 32:50 what happened to you? Have compassion 36:48 attachment styles due to how your caregivers were 39:31 negative associations given by parents with hijab which in turn to resentment towards Allah 😢. Our relationship with Allah is like our relationship with our parents 😢 41:43 Allah is merciful. Nothing will happen to you unless by permission of Allah. Allah will guide your heart after affliction ❤ 43:41 your affliction will turn into wisdom which you can help others with 45:17 you’ll get afflicted with trials so be patient and you will get good news
I’m so happy this popped up on my recommendations alhamdullilah. We hear so much content now that is directed towards the kuffar on how to deal with trauma, we need more of this education and understanding for us as believers. It helped me a lot, thank you and بارك الله فيك
I felt a deep wound/pain in my heart since 1995, a feeling surfaced in my teenage years. A trauma (sadma) feeling of sadness, broken heart, terror, panic and grief. No one can be aware of it save me. It seems very old, but I had no clue what kind of sadma/trauma I am carrying with me. It was needed to be felt, validated, comforted, acknowledged, grieved, assured. Like someone noticed it and comforted it with hopes and a word that all will be OK. But it took me 30 years to realize to do this completion process for trauma feelings. Why? Because it was a preverbal trauma (that I identified later with deeper work on my psyche/emotions). No memory associated with it, only feelings, very deep feeling of sadness. A psychiatrist will diagnose it as a classical depression, linking symptoms with only brain. But what if the body felt a trauma when it was infant and stored in its nervous system for time being to protect infant, till body has resources to process it. Without any medicines the feeling of depression were cured for me when I realized and accepted my childhood trauma and comforted it like how it needs to be comforted in the present moment. Like body, nafs is also a reality. The emotions and feelings are connected to your nafs/psyche. If stuck emotions and feelings are there it will affect you psyche your personality your feeling state. The remedy for these stuck feelings is to feel them fully and process it, what is called the healing of childhood PTSD. It is not a new thing or unknown thing this is how we process trauma. When tragedy stuck, we share our feeling, grieve, all relative closed ones support us in this journey, faith and spirituality also helps a lot. In my opinion the Quran calls itself shifa for sudoor because it heals our trauma, by addressing our deep stuck feelings and reassuring them that in the end all will be OK. See surah Duha. But for people stuck in sad feeling for very long time, taking help from trauma healing therapy should be encouraged along with all duas, Quran recitation and regular prayers you can do.
My husband was neglected as a child. Now he is a narcissist. He is now abusing me phsycologicaly..mentally n financially. Even brainwashed my children against me . I am in deep trauma 😢
This is my first time hearing your speech it’s good Alhumdullah but I believe to keep strict with your kids to save them I believe our relationship with Allah is transactional I don’t have a issue with that but you are very knowledgeable
This is very informative 👏
Good stuff ya habbib 😊, on point..
6:53 bullying is prevalent everywhere even grad programs not just school. Adults stay bullying too
8:44 that’s true we don’t live in big family units or tribes no more so we all alone so we go to therapists now. Pain to purpose?
11:08 battle of Uhud
13:03 surah Al Imran
14:09 be gentle with them (those who went through trauma). Not tell them to read more Quran or pray more etc
16:44 Umar ibn Al khatab
23:57 overcome nafs
26:09 shahawaat-animalistic desires. Shubuhaat-Racism, classism, arrogance. Have taqwa
31:09 low self esteem, waswas, they don’t know what their purpose is
31:45 Trauma psychological wound. You need to work through it otherwise leads to addictions, anxiety. How do you work through it?
32:50 what happened to you? Have compassion
36:48 attachment styles due to how your caregivers were
39:31 negative associations given by parents with hijab which in turn to resentment towards Allah 😢. Our relationship with Allah is like our relationship with our parents 😢
41:43 Allah is merciful. Nothing will happen to you unless by permission of Allah. Allah will guide your heart after affliction ❤
43:41 your affliction will turn into wisdom which you can help others with
45:17 you’ll get afflicted with trials so be patient and you will get good news
Allahu Akbar nailed it and gives me insentitive of my spiritual struggels ,Allahu Akbar ❤❤
I’m so happy this popped up on my recommendations alhamdullilah. We hear so much content now that is directed towards the kuffar on how to deal with trauma, we need more of this education and understanding for us as believers. It helped me a lot, thank you and بارك الله فيك
Wow mashallah!! I pray that every single person gets to hear this amazing talk !!
What an incredibly beautiful and inspiring talk. Allahumma barik!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Subhan ALLAH loved the talk and shared with others
Love how u say Allah swt wants your pain to become a purpose .👌
It’s true! Allah only want good for us. We have to try and see HIS WISDOMS in trials and tribulations!
Mashallah Brother, thank you for your Teaching
MashaAllah
I felt a deep wound/pain in my heart since 1995, a feeling surfaced in my teenage years.
A trauma (sadma) feeling of sadness, broken heart, terror, panic and grief.
No one can be aware of it save me. It seems very old, but I had no clue what kind of sadma/trauma I am carrying with me.
It was needed to be felt, validated, comforted, acknowledged, grieved, assured. Like someone noticed it and comforted it with hopes and a word that all will be OK.
But it took me 30 years to realize to do this completion process for trauma feelings.
Why?
Because it was a preverbal trauma (that I identified later with deeper work on my psyche/emotions).
No memory associated with it, only feelings, very deep feeling of sadness. A psychiatrist will diagnose it as a classical depression, linking symptoms with only brain.
But what if the body felt a trauma when it was infant and stored in its nervous system for time being to protect infant, till body has resources to process it.
Without any medicines the feeling of depression were cured for me when I realized and accepted my childhood trauma and comforted it like how it needs to be comforted in the present moment.
Like body, nafs is also a reality. The emotions and feelings are connected to your nafs/psyche. If stuck emotions and feelings are there it will affect you psyche your personality your feeling state.
The remedy for these stuck feelings is to feel them fully and process it, what is called the healing of childhood PTSD.
It is not a new thing or unknown thing this is how we process trauma. When tragedy stuck, we share our feeling, grieve, all relative closed ones support us in this journey, faith and spirituality also helps a lot.
In my opinion the Quran calls itself shifa for sudoor because it heals our trauma, by addressing our deep stuck feelings and reassuring them that in the end all will be OK. See surah Duha.
But for people stuck in sad feeling for very long time, taking help from trauma healing therapy should be encouraged along with all duas, Quran recitation and regular prayers you can do.
My husband was neglected as a child. Now he is a narcissist. He is now abusing me phsycologicaly..mentally n financially. Even brainwashed my children against me . I am in deep trauma 😢
This is my first time hearing your speech it’s good Alhumdullah but I believe to keep strict with your kids to save them I believe our relationship with Allah is transactional I don’t have a issue with that but you are very knowledgeable
Mashallah