@aaliyahtheinvestor1044 You are so right. About once a month I get EXTREMELY lonely and want to reach out to a less-than-qualified man. I finally realized that it was my cycle causing me to feel this way.
“When women don’t care is when men care the most.” No truer words have been said. Ladies: Don’t give them too much too soon. Keep your standards VERY HIGH, this will weed out dusty men. Don’t be TOO nice, people will notice this and take advantage of you. Don’t commit EVER until you’re married.
That saying is so true. I remember I liked this guy for 3 years, I was so emotional for him, but then one day I completely pulled back and told myself to move on. A year later he hit my dms and basically fell in love with me
Thats being masculine.You will only attract a beta male who is not interested in fucking you around anyway.For that he will live off your success while he allows you to brow beat him.
I was only 13 when this video came out, and I was watching it because I was stressing over my first lil boyfriend 😂. Years have past and let me tell you, this woman has really helped me enjoy my youth with and WITHOUT men.
If I saw this when I was 13 my life would have gone completely differently. Im 36 now and married with a child. It doesnt change after marriage, you still have to keep your emotions in check and not be too nice.
@@Shortstacksandticktacks I don’t want to live a life like this… not yours per se but if I have to hold back then what’s the point?? It’s just dumb to me -edit: my cycle came. I was PMSing. My head is back in the game
Shera is right about everything, if you don't believe her there's a man out there who's going to make you realise and you're going to learn the hard way
So very true as I have recently experienced. I forgot this strategic tip, lost sense of my goal and became emotional with this guy. Thankfully there was no sex to be even more attached! He ghosted after 4 strong months. Viewing SheRa was initially harsh. That was bcuz I was still hurting which I blamed myself for. Now, U see her as sharing valuable relationship info to save many many heart sick women! I am appreciative of her insights and ur comment. Thank you much.
This was a HARD pill to swallow. I’ve been a pickmeshia and overly emotional. Whole time wondering why I attract “top tier” men only to lose them. Shera, you’re the missing piece I needed!! THANK YOU SO MUCH❤
You hit the nail with this, I’ve witnessed men falling for me/ doing more things when I’m not emotionally attached. So, it’s in a woman’s best interest to put herself first and this is one of your best videos thus far.
Jdore Couture yes!!!! I broke it off last year in December with this dude I was dating because he was in a situation shop where he still was living wit his ex. So I’m like I’m not stupid I like you but I want more for myself so I’m ending this period of dating you because I want marriage and someone for me. Girlll in today’s present day. He moved out ended the relationship and telling me daily to pray for us and a longevity in us building and maintaining a relationship
aneema chowdhury I started to not make myself too accessible and still had hobbies. So, it made them think I have a life and it was a honor to talk to me.
@@eyeofra4059 He must be broke living with an ex but dating other people. Run girl. Get someone on your level or higher with no baggage. Don't let someone guilt you into being with them. Date up. He already showed you his true colors. Believe him.
**✍🏾Cliff notes for the newcomers ** - If you are 25+, Date for money and lifestyle, NOT for love! Also, don't date for looks. ((- If you are under 25, just date for fun. Date for looks and for puppy love. Experience that "dusty phase" while you are still young. Just don't pay for dates and DON'T get pregnant.)) - Pick the correct targets (make sure he likes you way more than you do) - Getting a provider is a numbers game...u gotta be out and about in public several times a week! Almost everyday! And make sure u look good from all angles. - If he starts playing games, just get another man (preferably multiple men) - Dont give the 🐱 up unless he is paying all your bills - LEVEL UP !! Look GOOD every time you leave your house (hair,makeup,nails on point) - Go to the nice side of town for happy hours. Go by yourself. - Online dating is a waste of time - Never pay for dates -Don't cook don't clean - No 50/50 roommate situation! He needs to provide 100%. - Date OLDER men, preferably 15 years+ older than you - Do not tell them upfront that you have kids - ALL men cheat (you can cheat back 🤷🏾♀️) - Men fall in LUST, they don't fall in love with women - Start making up sob/damsel in distress stories to encourage men to spend on u ( "I just paid my granma's rent, I lost my job, my aunt is sick i gotta pay her hospital bills"🥺...) - Stay unbothered and don't let other people's opinion affect u - Always prioritize yourself - Never play fair in an unfair world - When men give you money, save it to invest in yourself (start your own business so u dont have to work a 9-5 anymore) - Sprinkle Sprinkle 💰
Ya I’m tired of playing the nice “I want to make you happy type of person”. Because for some odd reason that always leaves me feeling unhappy. Sorta sad how we can’t just make each other happy- someone always loses- I don’t like being the loser.
You cannot meet every guy believing that he is the one. Take it slow and follow the signs. Go out on day dates, lunch dates and reserve dinner dates for the person you are some what interested in. All alone the way , you are looking for signs of 1. Who is he as a person. 2. Is this person reliable, can you count on him? 3. How does he handle love, grief, loss , when things are not going right. 4. Is this man responsible? Does he have financial order in his life? And never lend any money at any time to him.
A man’s energy (masculine energy) is similar to a line; it is straightforward, to the point and action oriented. As compared to a woman’s feminine energy which is the spiral and is complex, swirling, and more spiritual and emotion based. A man is BASED ENERGETICALLY on ACTION, a man shows you how you feel based on action on doing on building If his ACTIONS don’t show you he “loves” you then he doesn’t care about you point blank period no excuses. Want to know what a man’s version of love for a woman is? You know how your parents, which is undoubtably the ONLY TRUE FORM OF LOVE on this earth is, take care of you? Feed you, clothe you, let you live in their home and not pay rent, and all of those parent things they do for you? Yea, that. If a man doesn’t provide for you, protect you, take care of you similar to how your parents do, he doesn’t give a shit about you. Sorry but that’s the real world
@shogun harlem look, we are not here to keep men loyal..we cleaned and cooked and they still cheated and didn't even give shit. Its okey let him cheat, as long as my bills are paid to the T, and the insurance, and the upgrades. Coz I can still cheat too..everybody got private parts..
Men know this men know anyone who is overly emotional is a basket case and easily subdued. All humans are emotional. Emotion is energy in motion. They use this to manipulate and control women. That’s why they constantly drive it in our heads that we are emotional and get hella pissed when we are strategic, a strategic woman is extremely powerful men know this!
Moneybags Anderson I'm sorry but you guys are terribly misguided. A good man does not want a power struggle with his wife. If you have a good man, then there is nothing wrong with being submissive to him.
Been there done that she speaks the truth🤷🏾♀️. Also when you remove your feelings you see the situation CLEARLY for what it is. Men dont operate like we do the sooner women realize that the better.
I'll listen to this daily until I get it..until it sinks in my mind .and I'll keep listening to more.. I'll keep learning..this world is harsh to emotional people .all my emotional decisions led to trashy results..am done..am the user now
I followed all this advice and I'm proud to say I landed a sugar daddy who is spoiling me. He's ready and waiting and I'm filing my nails and rolling my eyes lol thanks SheRah we need to get you a pulpit and a choir for these sermons they are invaluable. Dropped my dusty on Wednesday got a sugar daddy on a Friday lol no longer letting these stupid ass men waste my time, #stay winning...listen ladies her advice works and when we change these men change.
Congratulations! I'm dropping mine tonight. I have an older electrician who owns his own company, former military and chilin' who has let me know he's interested. I kept putting him off while the DUSTY my age kept finding ways not to spend money and kept trying to get some. I haven't given it up yet and now I never will. He's dust. This electrician, however, may get it after he gives me what I want. We're having that conversation tomorrow over brunch. Hehe. I have lots of things that need to be done around my house AND I need new tires for my car. Let's see how badly he wants it.
Baby Moscato yep the more feminine and girly the better. Compliment him like it's so nice to see a hard working man shit like that work on his ego...you have to boost it up so that if you leave he will end up in a sunken place lol his self esteem should depend on you...I'm so happy you got rid of that loser...you deserve better all of us women do.
I just LITERALLY watched a podcast with men bragging about how regular looking women, single mothers and cougars treat them like kings. Yet they were talking about how the INSTAGRAM types don't do anything but they still wanted them. What you're saying is 100% true.
Majority of men who desire instagram type women only do for pleasure, not to marry and build happy lives with. The instagram type woman spends time investing in things that won’t matter in the long run. Look for men with husband characteristics and who are dating to marry, and stop letting these entertainers (podcasters) steer you in the wrong direction.
I remember this guy, my ex when I was young like 21 brought his laundry to my apartment talking bout do my laundry for me, we had a huge argument, I was like we don't live together, you pay no bills or rent, we aren't married.. he demanded I did his laundry so I pretended like ok lemmie get this laundry and I dumped it down 3 flights of stairs and said, go get that.
Top 5 videos EVER created. Nothing but damn gems. I used to be this girl and since I’ve started investing in myself rather than men and stopped getting emotionally attached to the people around me my life has done a complete 180. Now instead of being the chaser I am now the one being chased. All the guys I used to sweat over now look at me like the missed opportunity and been trying desperately to double back. Y’all better listen. Shera is God sent.
I feel like ever since i started listening to sprinkle sprinkle lady i feel soo beautiful and powerful and noticed all my mistakes i made in my passed .i maybe single but i have learnt alot thanks girl
Seriously I hAve been listening to this woman for a month now and since then I have stepped my game up 😀 I have just went on my first shopping date I used her tips and got designer heels and a fur coat. I also got all my bills payed for the money. And yesterday he brought up a monthly allowance 😍 sit down and watch all of her videos level up and get ur money
Been married before. Now divorced, won't do it again... Being a wife isn't an end all goal... It's the beginning of torture and he'll emotionally. Why would I want that? From a man? Just to say we are together? Just be yourself that's all a man wants, and don't play games with them... Especially if you have feelings for them, and they are petty? Your feelings will be hurt more.
And when he does not treat you rite ..... law intervened and Eureka you get paid for it ..... and then the magical word comes in the becoming “Financial Security”
tee I'm a mother I always thought this was a bad way of thinking until I got walked on like a door mat you got this information now use it young lady....
She probably didn’t even know about it herself. Women are groomed to be taken advantage of lately. This type of advice has been lost because people associate it with malicious intent. It’s not malicious, it’s just a realistic way of protecting yourself. We are conditioned to make ourselves available all the time, but that is what eventually makes us seem “used up” over time. I’m glad that many women have learned to appreciate this info more.
I literally had a guy tell me that I give too much. I also do laundry, cook, and clean and my kids father called me desperate. First time I've ever been called desperate and it was amazing to me how stupid and ungrateful people are.
It’s human nature to take people for granted. If you have a man paying your bills for a year and he stops you’re going to feel some type of way. Never put yourself in that position because men are not appreciative of that. They want a pretty princess that THEY cater to and can show off. Men don’t fall in love with what you do for them they fall in love with what they do for YOU. Promise
He called you desperate, because sadly you did all of those things & you still aren’t a wife. It’s a harsh truth, and be glad he told you. Now you know better & will never make that mistake again. You’re BEAUTIFUL 😍💕
No,your baby daddy likes you,that is why he is telling Truth,he doesn't want you to continue your desperado in the next relationship, because he had absolutely nothing to gain and a lot to lose to be honest with you
Every woman who has mastered the art of emotional stability and all the other skills to become a high value woman has a personal responsibility and obligation to teach every young woman close to her these skills and knowledge. Sprinkle Sprinkle revolution 🎉🎉
You are so right with these tips. I used to be that over emotional girl at some point. But I have learned that is worst mistake ever because men will take advantage of you like nothing. My current man is always telling me that he don't think I really love him the way he adores me lol. I love hearing him say that because I love him, I just don't show him that much so he keeps guessing.
You cant pretend to have one foot in and ine foot out....you really have to feel this way. Don't be invested in it be willing to let it go if it's not a good fit. Women invest quickly and get dumped just as fast.
"You don t marry the type of woman who would do anything for you, who is a doormat. Because you will never truly respect her or love her." this one hit me hard
I TRIED THIS TATIC AND IT WORKS! I GOT THE GUY THAT I WAS MADLY IN LOVE WITH CHASING AND DOING EVERYTHING FOR ME ...LOL ITS LIKE THEY LIKE THE WOMEN THAT DOG THEM OUT BUT HEY IF THATS HOW U WANT IT LOL I LOVE IT ..I JUST HAVE A I DONT CARE ATTITUDE NOW ( WHILE PAINTING MY NAILS) LOL
Can't wait for "he started showing his true colors" update. Yall pretend to want good guys, but will play dumb ass games...YET act brand new when the dude is a playa as well. And that's why people say women can't think logically............
Respressing your emotions is the most unhealthy thing to do, it will cause stress in the body and make you ill. Love yourself for who you are. If you are an emotional woman, love yourself even more. Let it out.
If I had known half of the knowledge you drop back in my day, life would have been so much better. These young women better listen, you be dropping gems. #wisdom
I’ve been saying this even in my teenage years. I never understood why women are so emotional in relationships. I’ve always been told that I am a man at heart. This video says everything I’ve been saying since day one. You don’t cook, clean, do his taxes-- nothing! Use your intellect and wit and not emotions. Pull it out!
This is a WORD!!!! I got emotionally involved with a dusty and he broke my heart. Luckily I started learning about hypergamy right as things were shifting between us. I’ve seen the light and now I’m moving accordingly and working on becoming the best version of myself.
My mom taught me the exact opposite of this very valuable information. Had to untrain myself from her pick me behavior where she is the alpha and is basically paying my dad to be with her, paying most of the bills, cleaning, cooking for him and says she is happy just because she can boast 50 years of marriage. I deserve better!
Being with an emotionally abusive man for 15 years taught me that if i don’t put myself first no one will! I learned to love myself so much that i fell out of love with him. Because if he isn’t going to treat me as well as i treat myself, we’re done.
Something I have always done and what my mother has taught me is to cook for your husband but stupid me, I felt like I was proving to boyfriends I could be good wife material by being so doting and cooking for them. Most times, I was left unappreciated and men trying to go 50/50. Not doing that again. I'm thankful for your channel.
I literally had a guy tell me he had to eat three times a day at different womens houses that he was sleeping with . All these women thinking they the only one cooking for him . My husband cooked for me . I won’t cooking nothing unless we are married
Ladies it has nothing to do with how young they are . I dated an older man that a 5 year old was more mature. It has to do with how there raised . Older men are very set in there ways. And quite frankly have been more burned in there relationships than a younger guy.. And by the way most of them are penny pinchers and paying child support .. and there PISSED 😡 about that . In my experience do not go for the older men . Unless he’s a millionaire.... run!!!!!!
I recently realized that I have low self-esteem and I am actively working on boosting my confidence. In the past, I allowed myself to become emotionally attached to someone who didn't meet my standards. Despite spending a lot of time together, he wasn't financially stable and didn't treat me well. I have learned from this experience and now understand the importance of prioritizing my own happiness. Shera's guidance has been invaluable in helping me recognize my worth.
I agree with you S.C.. An older Man more mature if you are looking for a provider/ commitment. "Older" is relative as well. If your in your 20's look for a guy in his mid 30's, if your 30 look for a guy in his 40's and so forth.
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"Women mistake their maternal instinct for the love of a man." Damn......that was powerful.
Really powerful
👏🏽 I FELT THAT SHIT. Omg. 😐
I'm shook
ms_hav 1 so powerful
Wow!!!
A woman who learns to control her emotions is a powerful woman.
@@Xxhdhdh learn your hormones, learn about your cycle, study your triggers
That’s me
Amen to that🙌
@aaliyahtheinvestor1044 You are so right. About once a month I get EXTREMELY lonely and want to reach out to a less-than-qualified man. I finally realized that it was my cycle causing me to feel this way.
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Who listening in 2024??
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Meee !❤😂
Twice a week for maintenance
Meeeeee! 💅
Wheew
She’s the reality check you wish you had years ago…
Yes
Frl 🥲
Hey it's okay girl, you never late
“When women don’t care is when men care the most.” No truer words have been said.
Ladies: Don’t give them too much too soon. Keep your standards VERY HIGH, this will weed out dusty men. Don’t be TOO nice, people will notice this and take advantage of you. Don’t commit EVER until you’re married.
Great advice
Yes. I was too nice at one point and men and women took advantage of me.
That saying is so true. I remember I liked this guy for 3 years, I was so emotional for him, but then one day I completely pulled back and told myself to move on. A year later he hit my dms and basically fell in love with me
yh thats true until the game has no more oil then becomes rusty n breaks
Agreed a 💯
Get emotionally attached to goals not THE MAN..
Thats being masculine.You will only attract a beta male who is not interested in fucking you around anyway.For that he will live off your success while he allows you to brow beat him.
EXACTLY!♡
Luna Bhattacharya you got that right!!!!!👍💖
BOZACKSKY The goal is securing the bag
BOZACKSKY that’s what we want lmmao .. why would want men who dismiss us? That’s a rookie move .. getting with a high & mighty alpha .. naw
"Fall in love with yourself and find the man that is going to treat you the best!"..that statement is GOLD!
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That’s a dumb and stupid quote.
How if I’m ugly? I am for real
@@Emiliah1996that's your problem you believe your ugly no such thing as an ugly woman
I listen to this twice a week for maintenance
Zodiac Wars That’s good!! I started dating a guy and realized I fell off a bit! Watching these for maintenance currently!
Same here! Gotta keep being reminded.
It’s A MUST
Lol. I know that's right.
Zodiac Wars, I am joining you but first recovery then maintenance! Damn Shera! This is so good...
“Fall in love with yourself and marry the man who treats you the best” These words are now my wallpaper. Thank ya ma’am!♥️
What a profound statement damn
I was only 13 when this video came out, and I was watching it because I was stressing over my first lil boyfriend 😂. Years have past and let me tell you, this woman has really helped me enjoy my youth with and WITHOUT men.
If I saw this when I was 13 my life would have gone completely differently. Im 36 now and married with a child. It doesnt change after marriage, you still have to keep your emotions in check and not be too nice.
@@Shortstacksandticktacks I don’t want to live a life like this… not yours per se but if I have to hold back then what’s the point?? It’s just dumb to me
-edit: my cycle came. I was PMSing. My head is back in the game
@@labeezly6080 u r a pickmesha
@@labeezly6080 I'm glad you ok sis. The point is having someone pay your bills while you live as you wish ❤
Dang you are lucky! Many many years could have been saved in my life had I'd been in your position.
Do not act like someone's wife until you have a ring and marriage license and a house.
Melinda Earl-Roop 💯💯💯💯💯
@lemmieatit Of course, but if they have all that, why be in a relationship at all? (unless you want children)
Exactly
I realized this finally
So you can divorce and win half of the men’s assets
I heard a motivational speaker say "If you don't control and contain your emotions, they will use you."
Regina Craig profound!! 👏🏽👏🏽
Amen
Yes...they used me for 12 years😪😔😌
Be with a man that treats you like royalty 💍👸
This reminds me when he said I'm not a princess.im not a princess im a Queen👸 boy bye
Do they exist?
gl finding that, that's living in a teenager girls delusional and unexperienced head
@@anastasiaumegbolu7456hell no 😂
Men value themselves so much they don’t take half the BS we deal with
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Bingo
So true
No one should marry for love. Marriage is more than love
Exactly
I so agree
I definitely agree they need to provide stability & consistency
Marriage is a contract. Love may or may not come. It doesn't matter, ultimately.
Man marry when they are in love with you, so make sure you make them fall in love with you. That's why they don't see it as a contract like we do.
My emotional attachment HAS definitely been my downfall. NEEDED To HEAR THIS
Same
Me too. I vow to be engaged this year. I’m so glad i found her video.
Same
Hope you’re better today
Same gurl
It took me whole lotta inner work and healing to stop being so overly emotional 😵💫
Your reasons for selecting a mate are priceless...the man should cherish, protect, provide and support on all levels.
Yes, true
That's automatic
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I found shera at 24, what she's saying about controlling your emotions is absolutely true. listen to her , I wish I found her sooner
Hey girlie.. you Ghanaian?
@@nanaamakyerewaa6656 hey yeah
Kenyan here. Happy that African girls we are about to level up
I’m 24, and I just found her. I’m the biggest pickmesha I know with no emotional control.
@@nanaamakyerewaa6656 Nigerian here 🙈
Shera is right about everything, if you don't believe her there's a man out there who's going to make you realise and you're going to learn the hard way
Attachment is the cause of suffering
So very true as I have recently experienced. I forgot this strategic tip, lost sense of my goal and became emotional with this guy. Thankfully there was no sex to be even more attached! He ghosted after 4 strong months. Viewing SheRa was initially harsh. That was bcuz I was still hurting which I blamed myself for. Now, U see her as sharing valuable relationship info to save many many heart sick women! I am appreciative of her insights and ur comment. Thank you much.
I agree.....it was a gut punch......I've learned now. The good thing is, it's never too late too learn and I WILL NEVER forget the lesson!
The root.
i.pinimg.com/564x/ad/7a/49/ad7a493a2ede458de2fff1c04b176266.jpg ("Attachment" by Buddha.)
Buddha!
Girl you are an excellent source of feminine energy.
Candi D. I agree!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
“If you’re cooking, throw out all your pots.” 💀 🤣🤣. I love this woman!!
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Haha, right?! So funny I used to cook gourmet meals. Never again
BAhahaha !!
😂😂😅 so lovely
Shirley Jean-Baptiste and turn off the stove immediately or just let it burn and say ooops🙊😂 according to Sheraseven1
“Being over emotional only gets you things temporarily.” This is sooo true!!!
This was a HARD pill to swallow. I’ve been a pickmeshia and overly emotional. Whole time wondering why I attract “top tier” men only to lose them. Shera, you’re the missing piece I needed!! THANK YOU SO MUCH❤
Not easy to face the fact that you were a pick me, wishing you health and wealth towards your new path.
How you know they were top tier?
@@MegaLadylove2012 money, social class, how they provided and treated me.
@@Ihatecornballs😂
I have such a problem with what most women say is "pick me" behavior. Can you tell me what you mean by it?
You hit the nail with this, I’ve witnessed men falling for me/ doing more things when I’m not emotionally attached. So, it’s in a woman’s best interest to put herself first and this is one of your best videos thus far.
Jdore Couture yes!!!! I broke it off last year in December with this dude I was dating because he was in a situation shop where he still was living wit his ex. So I’m like I’m not stupid I like you but I want more for myself so I’m ending this period of dating you because I want marriage and someone for me. Girlll in today’s present day. He moved out ended the relationship and telling me daily to pray for us and a longevity in us building and maintaining a relationship
How did u change ur self from being emotionally attached to them chasing you?
aneema chowdhury I started to not make myself too accessible and still had hobbies. So, it made them think I have a life and it was a honor to talk to me.
@@eyeofra4059 He must be broke living with an ex but dating other people. Run girl. Get someone on your level or higher with no baggage. Don't let someone guilt you into being with them. Date up. He already showed you his true colors. Believe him.
Yes Maam... I've always had men under my Spell....And yes I'm Married now
yes!!
one foot in and one foot out.
think LOGICALLY not emotionally
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Been far less emotionally invested since I've been watching Shera. Saving me a whole lot of heartache. Thanks girlfriend!! 👌
Jenna Parker JPTV for reall!!
I need this every week
So be like a man is what you're saying
@@shaw9851 Yes
@@shaw9851 yeah what ab it
"If they want home cooked meals, call their Momma." 😂💯
"Even the ugliest woman can be worth more than any man" 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Period
**✍🏾Cliff notes for the newcomers **
- If you are 25+, Date for money and lifestyle, NOT for love! Also, don't date for looks.
((- If you are under 25, just date for fun. Date for looks and for puppy love. Experience that "dusty phase" while you are still young. Just don't pay for dates and DON'T get pregnant.))
- Pick the correct targets (make sure he likes you way more than you do)
- Getting a provider is a numbers game...u gotta be out and about in public several times a week! Almost everyday! And make sure u look good from all angles.
- If he starts playing games, just get another man (preferably multiple men)
- Dont give the 🐱 up unless he is paying all your bills
- LEVEL UP !! Look GOOD every time you leave your house (hair,makeup,nails on point)
- Go to the nice side of town for happy hours. Go by yourself.
- Online dating is a waste of time
- Never pay for dates
-Don't cook don't clean
- No 50/50 roommate situation! He needs to provide 100%.
- Date OLDER men, preferably 15 years+ older than you
- Do not tell them upfront that you have kids
- ALL men cheat (you can cheat back 🤷🏾♀️)
- Men fall in LUST, they don't fall in love with women
- Start making up sob/damsel in distress stories to encourage men to spend on u ( "I just paid my granma's rent, I lost my job, my aunt is sick i gotta pay her hospital bills"🥺...)
- Stay unbothered and don't let other people's opinion affect u
- Always prioritize yourself
- Never play fair in an unfair world
- When men give you money, save it to invest in yourself (start your own business so u dont have to work a 9-5 anymore)
- Sprinkle Sprinkle 💰
Thank you, darlinggg
Ya I’m tired of playing the nice “I want to make you happy type of person”. Because for some odd reason that always leaves me feeling unhappy. Sorta sad how we can’t just make each other happy- someone always loses- I don’t like being the loser.
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Girl 😂
What Tupac said “I don’t want it if it’s to easy “
That is powerful
"...if you feel guilty, keep doing it until you don't..." #BLOOP
Tekara Mia
Okaaaay! LOL
Tekara Mia 🤣🤣
Tekara Mia 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Riight! Haha
sprinkle sprinkle
The pretending you don’t want a relationship works so well had my ex going crazy and then I REALLY didn’t want him lol
Lol true dat.
Brianna Keen she literally said “you’re the one he can’t have a relationship with”
It works 😝😅😂& I swear I’m so “Unapologetically Unbothered”💕💕🍾
so why you didnt break up with him lame b?
Why is this funny?
You cannot meet every guy believing that he is the one. Take it slow and follow the signs. Go out on day dates, lunch dates and reserve dinner dates for the person you are some what interested in. All alone the way , you are looking for signs of 1. Who is he as a person. 2. Is this person reliable, can you count on him? 3. How does he handle love, grief, loss , when things are not going right. 4. Is this man responsible? Does he have financial order in his life? And never lend any money at any time to him.
“Fall in love with yourself and choose the man who is going to treat you the best”❤️ this wisdom is unmatched
Unmatched🗣
Wow. Mic drop
A man’s energy (masculine energy) is similar to a line; it is straightforward, to the point and action oriented. As compared to a woman’s feminine energy which is the spiral and is complex, swirling, and more spiritual and emotion based.
A man is BASED ENERGETICALLY on ACTION, a man shows you how you feel based on action on doing on building
If his ACTIONS don’t show you he “loves” you then he doesn’t care about you point blank period no excuses.
Want to know what a man’s version of love for a woman is?
You know how your parents, which is undoubtably the ONLY TRUE FORM OF LOVE on this earth is, take care of you? Feed you, clothe you, let you live in their home and not pay rent, and all of those parent things they do for you?
Yea, that.
If a man doesn’t provide for you, protect you, take care of you similar to how your parents do, he doesn’t give a shit about you.
Sorry but that’s the real world
@shogun harlem look, we are not here to keep men loyal..we cleaned and cooked and they still cheated and didn't even give shit. Its okey let him cheat, as long as my bills are paid to the T, and the insurance, and the upgrades.
Coz I can still cheat too..everybody got private parts..
@shogun harlem My nigga!
shogun harlem my man is exactly how she described pay bills for me and his kids and is a true man. He is alpha and respected
Michael Allen broke dusty
shogun harlem the other thing is if transgender can get the princess life why can’t true women can’t 😂 get ur dusty out here
Men know this men know anyone who is overly emotional is a basket case and easily subdued. All humans are emotional. Emotion is energy in motion. They use this to manipulate and control women. That’s why they constantly drive it in our heads that we are emotional and get hella pissed when we are strategic, a strategic woman is extremely powerful men know this!
Moneybags Anderson I'm sorry but you guys are terribly misguided. A good man does not want a power struggle with his wife. If you have a good man, then there is nothing wrong with being submissive to him.
Imonous you can be strategic and submissive at the same time
Super true!!
@@corsicanlulu no there are alot of good Men they just not looking for your masculine ran through black behind😉
S. Vero Exactly. It’s possible to submit to a man and think logically lmao.
Dont COOK for them ya'll!!! Thats wife privilege! 🤣😂
Amen 😂😂😂😂
Thank you ,really powerful
I love this channel🤣
This 💯💯💯💯💯 I almost cooked for a fuckboi 🤣 Thank God I didn’t lol
Will stop doing that now
Been there done that she speaks the truth🤷🏾♀️. Also when you remove your feelings you see the situation CLEARLY for what it is. Men dont operate like we do the sooner women realize that the better.
I'll listen to this daily until I get it..until it sinks in my mind .and I'll keep listening to more.. I'll keep learning..this world is harsh to emotional people .all my emotional decisions led to trashy results..am done..am the user now
"When some people hear your situation from a distance, they just want to slap you." I fell all thee way out. Her humor is the absolute best!
I felt that 😂😂
IM EMBARRASSED
I'm throwing my emotions in the trash thx Shera!
Doing D same
Me 3lol
Dump that shit, bae🗑!!!! 💪🏽😎
❤️❤️💯
Me too pooh!!!
I followed all this advice and I'm proud to say I landed a sugar daddy who is spoiling me. He's ready and waiting and I'm filing my nails and rolling my eyes lol thanks SheRah we need to get you a pulpit and a choir for these sermons they are invaluable. Dropped my dusty on Wednesday got a sugar daddy on a Friday lol no longer letting these stupid ass men waste my time, #stay winning...listen ladies her advice works and when we change these men change.
Congratulations! I'm dropping mine tonight. I have an older electrician who owns his own company, former military and chilin' who has let me know he's interested. I kept putting him off while the DUSTY my age kept finding ways not to spend money and kept trying to get some. I haven't given it up yet and now I never will. He's dust. This electrician, however, may get it after he gives me what I want. We're having that conversation tomorrow over brunch. Hehe. I have lots of things that need to be done around my house AND I need new tires for my car. Let's see how badly he wants it.
S. C. Yes! Thank you for the advice. I'm practicing batting my lashes. 😂
Baby Moscato yep the more feminine and girly the better. Compliment him like it's so nice to see a hard working man shit like that work on his ego...you have to boost it up so that if you leave he will end up in a sunken place lol his self esteem should depend on you...I'm so happy you got rid of that loser...you deserve better all of us women do.
too bad i dont care for compliments
Dark knight trust me boo your type is not on the radar you have absolutely nothing to worry about lol
I’m married and I listen to this once a month to keep myself together! lol 😂
I just LITERALLY watched a podcast with men bragging about how regular looking women, single mothers and cougars treat them like kings. Yet they were talking about how the INSTAGRAM types don't do anything but they still wanted them. What you're saying is 100% true.
Yep. Men brags so much
😂 😂 is ironic but true
Just go back to times , u weren’t feeling the guy who wanted u. Then when he gets u 😅 😂 starts acting lazy and mean 😭 sometimes ghosting
Ofc they would they are rutheless and we should be too. What podcast?
Majority of men who desire instagram type women only do for pleasure, not to marry and build happy lives with. The instagram type woman spends time investing in things that won’t matter in the long run. Look for men with husband characteristics and who are dating to marry, and stop letting these entertainers (podcasters) steer you in the wrong direction.
I remember this guy, my ex when I was young like 21 brought his laundry to my apartment talking bout do my laundry for me, we had a huge argument, I was like we don't live together, you pay no bills or rent, we aren't married.. he demanded I did his laundry so I pretended like ok lemmie get this laundry and I dumped it down 3 flights of stairs and said, go get that.
😄😄😄😄
Amanda Sutherland 😮 😂 should have done that too
Lol
What happened after you threw his clothes down the steps?
@Amanda Sutherland GIRL HOW DID HE REACT LMFAOOOO DKDKEJ I'M CRYING
In other words, have a life and better, a goal, outside thirsting for a man because u can bet their lives don’t revolve around u.
Trust and believe.
Watching this at the age of 20 at the perfect time. Thank you for the great video !!!
I'm a little late 23😂😂 but we here lol
Im 22 mang. We can do this. Les get this bag 💰
Im 27...and im taking the streets by storm. Too mucj of ny heart broken aint nothing left no more but the bitchy part
Gurlll, you lucky 😂
I'm 19 lol
Top 5 videos EVER created. Nothing but damn gems. I used to be this girl and since I’ve started investing in myself rather than men and stopped getting emotionally attached to the people around me my life has done a complete 180. Now instead of being the chaser I am now the one being chased. All the guys I used to sweat over now look at me like the missed opportunity and been trying desperately to double back. Y’all better listen. Shera is God sent.
Can you please share next 4 videos as well
Which are the other 4 videos?
I feel like ever since i started listening to sprinkle sprinkle lady i feel soo beautiful and powerful and noticed all my mistakes i made in my passed .i maybe single but i have learnt alot thanks girl
Same here, girl. we're in this together ❤️
Seriously I hAve been listening to this woman for a month now and since then I have stepped my game up 😀 I have just went on my first shopping date I used her tips and got designer heels and a fur coat. I also got all my bills payed for the money. And yesterday he brought up a monthly allowance 😍 sit down and watch all of her videos level up and get ur money
Brittany Norbert seriously do tell
Where do i find these men??
How old is the lucky fella?
Halfway through them all now!!!! 500 more to go
What did you do and how did you get designer heels and coat?Share with us please❤
You can get a marriage license and still end up loosing. Getting married doesn't guarantee a man will treat you right.
It never ends.. I m exchausted
Yeah but at least the law on your side.
Been married before. Now divorced, won't do it again... Being a wife isn't an end all goal... It's the beginning of torture and he'll emotionally. Why would I want that? From a man? Just to say we are together? Just be yourself that's all a man wants, and don't play games with them... Especially if you have feelings for them, and they are petty? Your feelings will be hurt more.
Takisha Ricks this is truee
And when he does not treat you rite ..... law intervened and Eureka you get paid for it ..... and then the magical word comes in the becoming “Financial Security”
my mom never talked about this stuff
tee my mom did but she called these women floosies lol, these are the women she warned me about but now I’m taking their advice 😂
tee I'm a mother I always thought this was a bad way of thinking until I got walked on like a door mat you got this information now use it young lady....
She probably didn’t even know about it herself. Women are groomed to be taken advantage of lately. This type of advice has been lost because people associate it with malicious intent. It’s not malicious, it’s just a realistic way of protecting yourself. We are conditioned to make ourselves available all the time, but that is what eventually makes us seem “used up” over time. I’m glad that many women have learned to appreciate this info more.
tee Mine neither 😕
tee My mother was a Pick Me, unfortunately!!! Listen to her young Sistren she's dropping 💎💎💎👌🏾
I literally had a guy tell me that I give too much. I also do laundry, cook, and clean and my kids father called me desperate. First time I've ever been called desperate and it was amazing to me how stupid and ungrateful people are.
It’s human nature to take people for granted. If you have a man paying your bills for a year and he stops you’re going to feel some type of way. Never put yourself in that position because men are not appreciative of that. They want a pretty princess that THEY cater to and can show off. Men don’t fall in love with what you do for them they fall in love with what they do for YOU. Promise
why were you doing all that? did they pay you to do it? 💀
He called you desperate, because sadly you did all of those things & you still aren’t a wife. It’s a harsh truth, and be glad he told you. Now you know better & will never make that mistake again.
You’re BEAUTIFUL 😍💕
No,your baby daddy likes you,that is why he is telling Truth,he doesn't want you to continue your desperado in the next relationship, because he had absolutely nothing to gain and a lot to lose to be honest with you
@@greatestever80sbaby dusty alert
"You're playing a role he ain't even ask you to audition for"💯 Shera we love you lol
“If you feel bad for not being basic, then you’re stupid” GOLD
She’s so unbothered 😂 I love it
I’ll admit this was hard to listen to but I needed to hear it. Thanks a lot.
this is the first time I've heard someone say "you don't want someone to understand everything about you" and ironically I feel so seen.
Right?
"fall in love with yourself and choose the man who's gonna treat you the best!"
sad but men seem to prefer games lol!!! Oh well let the games begin😂
missball404 exactly. If they did not we would not have to be playing the mind games.
Lol!!!
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May the odds be ever in your favor 🏆🥇
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I don’t even save numbers anymore. I text back like who this???🤔
good idea
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That’s me... LOL
Same 😂😂😂
I believe that emotion is a feminine power. You don't EVER get rid of your emotions. But, with everything in life, it's a about management.
Emotional intelligence
Every woman who has mastered the art of emotional stability and all the other skills to become a high value woman has a personal responsibility and obligation to teach every young woman close to her these skills and knowledge. Sprinkle Sprinkle revolution 🎉🎉
So true, I heard one say “he’s behaving himself because he can’t afford a woman right now” you have to watch out for those kind of man
Everytime she says “okay?” I’m like YES MA’AM LOL
You are so right with these tips. I used to be that over emotional girl at some point. But I have learned that is worst mistake ever because men will take advantage of you like nothing. My current man is always telling me that he don't think I really love him the way he adores me lol. I love hearing him say that because I love him, I just don't show him that much so he keeps guessing.
QueenD that's because you're dating a bottom feeder beta simp man
Hogan Mgtow who cares what you think dude. Afterall opinions are like asses everyone has one😊.
QueenD apparently you care... you responded back to my comment
Hogan Mgtow nope I really don't!
QueenD your little weak minded beta male simp boyfriend must not be giving you attention because you're still writing me
Watching this with teary eyes. Wish i could go back in time and knew about this channel. Thank you Shera you re my mentor ❤
elia1789 Don't beat yourself up. Move forward
BlessedVivi 😘😘
Me too
I feel you it's time to move on....
elia1789 🙏🏾
When you said “some women are just too nice” , I felt that. Damn I needed this video.
"if i come back as a man in my next life, I'm going straight to pick me's" lmboooo sis is right
Her sarcastic giggle is priceless! LOL! Perfect reaction of her disapproval 😂
nasty badger I was thinking the Same thing lol I laugh everytime when she does it lol she real tho
Haha! Totally agree with you guys ❤😂
I think I needed to hear this ... it’s time to level up I’m a diamond and I’m priceless
yes you are!God made us to be queens!
You cant pretend to have one foot in and ine foot out....you really have to feel this way. Don't be invested in it be willing to let it go if it's not a good fit. Women invest quickly and get dumped just as fast.
If women don’t listen to this , they’re crazy 💯🤷🏽♀️
"You don t marry the type of woman who would do anything for you, who is a doormat. Because you will never truly respect her or love her." this one hit me hard
My Mama always told me never give a boyfriend Husband Privileges!!! Thanks Mom, RIP!!!
All of your videos are amazing but this one is pure GOLD. This is the advice of a truly truly WISE woman.
I TRIED THIS TATIC AND IT WORKS! I GOT THE GUY THAT I WAS MADLY IN LOVE WITH CHASING AND DOING EVERYTHING FOR ME ...LOL ITS LIKE THEY LIKE THE WOMEN THAT DOG THEM OUT BUT HEY IF THATS HOW U WANT IT LOL I LOVE IT ..I JUST HAVE A I DONT CARE ATTITUDE NOW ( WHILE PAINTING MY NAILS) LOL
They need to be challenged. It makes them stronger.
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Can't wait for "he started showing his true colors" update. Yall pretend to want good guys, but will play dumb ass games...YET act brand new when the dude is a playa as well. And that's why people say women can't think logically............
You reap what you sow. Your only making hard for youself lol. Laugh now cry later
Controlling emotions is key. When you show emotions, he has control and sometimes take advantage - is also too much for a man to deal with.
Respressing your emotions is the most unhealthy thing to do, it will cause stress in the body and make you ill. Love yourself for who you are. If you are an emotional woman, love yourself even more. Let it out.
I agree! I think it’s more about controlling emotions & protecting yourself than repressing emotions because the latter is definitely unhealthy
Exactly
I think this misses the point, control emotions doesn’t mean suppression and you can go pay someone to help to talk about emotions.
We need more women like you in this world.
That's right, then these men will be forced to level up and be what they need to be.
He should not marry you for your maid skills!!!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Hallelujah
If I had known half of the knowledge you drop back in my day, life would have been so much better. These young women better listen, you be dropping gems. #wisdom
“ Don’t let men make you feel bad for not doing pick me stuff , because if you feel bad for not being basic then you stupid “ 28:59
YESSS
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And even when you get married girl you STILL have to make sure you aren't too emotional. Trust me I'm married and I have to keep myself in check. 👌
Brit Brit this true
True
Sad.
This is exactly what I needed to see
So much work?! My word
This is golden information that nobody ever taught me. I need to book a consultation
Well my emotions have been disconnected.... right about.....NOW LOL
Mines too
I’ve been saying this even in my teenage years. I never understood why women are so emotional in relationships. I’ve always been told that I am a man at heart. This video says everything I’ve been saying since day one.
You don’t cook, clean, do his taxes-- nothing!
Use your intellect and wit and not emotions.
Pull it out!
This is a WORD!!!! I got emotionally involved with a dusty and he broke my heart. Luckily I started learning about hypergamy right as things were shifting between us. I’ve seen the light and now I’m moving accordingly and working on becoming the best version of myself.
My mom taught me the exact opposite of this very valuable information. Had to untrain myself from her pick me behavior where she is the alpha and is basically paying my dad to be with her, paying most of the bills, cleaning, cooking for him and says she is happy just because she can boast 50 years of marriage. I deserve better!
Oh my, break the cycle sis 💟
So many elders are this way. They're proud of their marriages but those marriages are built of the blood and sacrifice of the wife. It's very sad.
azizajewelry
Gosh.🤐🤭
Same boo
ohhhhh yuck!!! I'd rather be single.
Being with an emotionally abusive man for 15 years taught me that if i don’t put myself first no one will!
I learned to love myself so much that i fell out of love with him. Because if he isn’t going to treat me as well as i treat myself, we’re done.
Absolutely and when you have strong boundaries, toxic draining people disappear from your life.
Repeat when you have strong boundaries, toxic draining people disappear from your life..FOR REAL
That's how I learned over 14 yrs ago
Powerful!
Yasss 👏🏻👏🏻
Something I have always done and what my mother has taught me is to cook for your husband but stupid me, I felt like I was proving to boyfriends I could be good wife material by being so doting and cooking for them. Most times, I was left unappreciated and men trying to go 50/50. Not doing that again. I'm thankful for your channel.
Right along with you
Omg I’m doing this right now with my boyfriend, I cook for him because I enjoy it and he loves it but recently seen him not trying.
I literally had a guy tell me he had to eat three times a day at different womens houses that he was sleeping with . All these women thinking they the only one cooking for him . My husband cooked for me . I won’t cooking nothing unless we are married
“It’s temporary and only a chemical reaction to get you to reproduce.” Whew!! Great note
That’s deep fr…
She may tell a joke, but she never told a lie!
Wife Priviledge...Don't cook for that man.
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I had two friends that cook for guys immediately. It's one of the first things they do
Did the guy stay🤡@@ladylady7848
Ladies it has nothing to do with how young they are . I dated an older man that a 5 year old was more mature. It has to do with how there raised . Older men are very set in there ways. And quite frankly have been more burned in there relationships than a younger guy.. And by the way most of them are penny pinchers and paying child support .. and there PISSED 😡 about that . In my experience do not go for the older men . Unless he’s a millionaire.... run!!!!!!
Interesting
OMG ..so right!
THESE ARE FACTS!!!! FACTS. AS A SCORPIO, I HAVE BEEN TOO EMOTIONAL.
Same here👐🏿 #teamscorpio we water signs, we to emotional😢
Im a Scorpio as well!! I totally understand
Mee too. Doing damage control now.
Pridefulebony same
I'm a pisces I can relate all too well my emotions are ridiculous.
I recently realized that I have low self-esteem and I am actively working on boosting my confidence. In the past, I allowed myself to become emotionally attached to someone who didn't meet my standards. Despite spending a lot of time together, he wasn't financially stable and didn't treat me well. I have learned from this experience and now understand the importance of prioritizing my own happiness. Shera's guidance has been invaluable in helping me recognize my worth.
I listen to this every morning before work as a reminder that I'm in my "becoming a bad b*tch" era- Shera would be proud! 😊❤
Leave these young stupid men alone date older seasoned men who are traditional and know a woman's value and who wants to provide.
They are old and dumb too
When you say older, what’s the age range?
Last asshole I met was 35
Get you some pimpin
I agree with you S.C.. An older Man more mature if you are looking for a provider/ commitment. "Older" is relative as well. If your in your 20's look for a guy in his mid 30's, if your 30 look for a guy in his 40's and so forth.