I’m legally blind and I actually relate to most of these. It’s not my visual impairment that’s hard, it’s the way society treats me and the way the world isn’t made for me. Love your videos
I too am on the Autism spectrum. In public, I carry my iPad, a chewable fidget toy, and 2 other fidgets. I wear a ball cap, sunglasses, and I listen to music. When someone unexpectedly starts talking to me, or touches me, it makes me feel both angry and fearful. So going out anywhere, (church, school, work, the shops especially Walmart) can be like climbing Mount Everest underwater with no scuba suit or O2. I have a seizure disorder too. So I have an example. I was in Walmart, and what should’ve been only a 30-45 minute trip ended up being nearly 2 hours. There was a screaming kid behind me, lighting was bright, already loud in the store, weird but strong smells, etc. well, I ended up having a meltdown and the store manager asked if I was alright. I had to use my iPad to communicate with her, because I was too upset to speak. I “told” her I have autism and epilepsy and she asked if she could call someone to pick me up. (I drive, by the way, and I’m 23 years old.) my friend came to pick me up, and she talked to the store manager about autism for like 15 minutes. Now the Walmart I go to is working on ways to help autistic shoppers and their families and friends. (Less chemical cleaner being used, less harsh lighting, etc.) anyway my friend took me to her house, and let me sleep it off, gave me food, and let me play with her 2 dogs and her cat. She is amazing I don’t know what I’d do if she wasn’t one of my emergency contacts. The manager said she was going to call an ambulance for me because she originally thought it was a severe serious medical issue that caused the meltdown. Anyway I’m doing better now. Just wasn’t fun to deal with at the time.
That’s so great that they’re trying to help! My local supermarket has a poster outside saying “we know the importance of autism friendly shopping” which is true! They have very low lighting and no loud music. So it’s really great that they’re trying to help!
What age were you diagnosed with it because it really depends on how you get to live your life I’m gonna say any age under 5 will ruin your life 6-10 maybe ruin your life 11-18 unlikely to ruin your life 18-25 highly unlikely to ruin your life 25-80+ won’t ruin your life unfortunately for me I got diagnosed when I was 3 damn 😔
Tbh I like being babied, because when I feel people are babying me I feel more comforted and also I understand them more because they are using more basic and easy body language and word language 😅
Same. There’s this piano teacher that (I think) doesn’t know I’m autistic. But they patronise everyone. And I hate how she talks. It’s how people baby me it’s so horrible. We need to stop infantilising autistic people.
Yessss meeeee!! I still find it difficult to explain to my loved ones. And they have a hard time understanding me when I get like that. It’s been hard lol
Yes. It makes my job dangerous too because I HAVE TO continue working, I’m not allowed to stop, even when I feel like I’m just observing my body doing stuff. It sucks.
I'm undiagnosed but relate so much to what you're saying. Having suffered from anxiety, depression, bpd, possible asd and I agree, people downplaying or downsizing my struggles is demeaning. "Everybody gets a little sad from time to time." 😓
I agree I have aspergers and I hate it when people make fun of autistic people or make jokes about autism because they have no idea what we have to go through every single day in our lives
Along with being bullied at school is the next step of trying to work honestly and diligently in the workplace yet being taken advantage of by colleagues... It's hard to stand up for yourself or even realise what is taking place sometimes until much later then eventually processing emotions once the penny drops and feeling angry and resentful. Rinse and repeat.
I was bullied too. It was horrific especially the emotional side because i cant regulate emotion. I was always in trouble at school for my behaviour I was desperate to fit and have friends I i fell into wrong croud. I eventually introduced to drugs. It breaks my heart. I was diagnosed in adulthood I blame the misdiagnosis git my life being so shit. I'm starting a course with Autism In Mind. But the bullying was so traumatic for me I still remember clear as day. Like a form of PTS. X
Things I find difficult: - different emotional reactions to everyone. - being made to act "normal" - being made to hug people to say hello (touch) - having to explain the way I am processing and then people not understanding. There are more, but overall I am proud to be me and be on the spectrum!! Most of the time, the positives out weigh the negatives.
Hugging and eye contact were both something I did not like to do, it took me a long time to adjust and be okay with giving eye contact and I reserve hugs to just my friends I'm comfortable with.
I think these are the traits most of us struggle with, especially the unwritten social rules, which also differ from one culture to the other. I once decided how I would react in such cases and I stick to it, no matter what other (NT-people) think of it. I refuse to do anything just to fit in in the (NT-) society. For instance, I hate physical contact and therefore I don't shake hands and I don't hug people. Of course, that way you don't make many friends... In the end you don't behave the way they expect you to behave. But I couldn't care less. Autism is part of my identity and it even has more advantages than disadvantages. I'm happy the way it is.
OH MY GOSH I RELATE TO THE "HAVING DAYS WHERE YOU WANNA DO EVERYTHING AND THEN THE NEXT DAY YOU DON'T EVEN WANT TO LEAVE YOUR BED" THING MORE THAN ANYTHING I EVER HAVE IN MY LIFE I feel so seen
Not understanding others, struggling with short term memory/recall, bullying/judgment, exhaustion from sensory overload and feeling frustrated at uneducated people
My 5 reasons why I dislike having it: 1. Made my life unnecessarily confusing 2. Gets too comfortable with dull routines and too cowardly to break from the routines and pursue what I dream of doing 3. Limited interests are a pain, especially if they come up randomly and don't get you anywhere in life 4. Having a stereotypical monotone-sounding voice 5. Executive functioning is too hard For me, the cons outweigh the pros overall.
Sensory overload and meltdowns are the worst, especially as an undiagnosed female. I just constantly feel broken or faulty as I'm stuck trying to preform in a system that doesn't adhere to my needs and limitations.
My bully in school, who I avoided, went and told the principal that I was bullying and kicking them and swearing at them. None of that was true. I got accused of lying anyway. I got scared to go to school. People are so mean for no real reason other than wanting to embarrass others and make them sad. :(
Chole, although I do not have Autism, I do understand much of what your saying. I was bullied as a Child for the first 4 years of Elementary School because I was so timid and shy. I also was reading on a 2nd grade level in the 4th grade. I was not diagnosed with learning disabilities until I was in the 4th grade. In Elementary School I was called "the retard" by other Children as well as I also experienced physical violence like being punched in the stomach, punched in the eyes, punched in the nose in that today I have a permanent deviated septum in my nose, and even being pinned against a wall during Recess at school while the Children ganged up to kick me in unison. I am much older than yourself, but in the 70s as a Child our Principle right in front of one of the bullies said to me that "[I ] must have done something to deserve being called "the retard" and being beat up.". Chole, I did nothing to deserve being treated like that! What I learned from all this because of my caring Parents is that the other Children did not come from a loving family background as I did. Also, My 5th Grade Teacher who finally put a stop to me being bullied told my Mom, "You would be surprised how many Children have Parents that care nothing about them!". Hence, I deeply so understand the need to be kind and the need to try to understand others. However, my Junior High L.D. Teacher or "Resource Room" Teacher did "diminish" my ability to understand people and many other things because of being labeled L.D. As an Adult, now I can be unfairly judged by others because I have Auto-Immune Health Problems as well as physical injuries from being a Dancer in the past that caused me to not be able to do many of the things I would like to do. However, If you could see me, you would see that I do not look sick or injured to the naked eyes. Since I do not look sick or injured, many people have made cruel unfair remarks about me because they can not "see" my physical problems with their naked eyes. Chole, I highly admire and respect you as a person and I do not "undermine your abilities" because I can hear and see you are intelligent. However, although I do not have Autism, I can picture in my mind how much anxiety it would cause to have "sensory overload" with noises and lights. Also, I can understand fatigue because I can also suffer from fatigue at times. So, when you talked about "crashing" or "feeling fatigued" because of "sensory overload", I do understand how hard that would be. Chole, please forgive me if I sound ignorant in any way, but I really do believe that you have Autism and I also know you are an awesome, caring person:)!! I feel privileged to have found your You Tube Channel:).
Thank you for sharing your story, I am Autistic and your experience reminded me of my father's experience of being school in through the 70s. He is so super incredibly gifted visually and has worked as a graphic designer and now is a straight up artisan contractor/custom cabinetry maker and he is musical and all around good person and I have a hard time thinking about the discrimination and bullying he went through from kindergarten through his senior year because of his dyslexia and dyscalculia and probably some ASD communication struggles too. I am glad you got some understanding later in life with diagnoses. My dad still holds on to feelings of alienation and unworthiness and expresses them often when he asks my help for something as simple as the spelling of words. My understanding of his LD is that if my dad doesn't have a solid "picture" of the word in his head, he can't type it out, even phonetic spelling is difficult for him, and I always try to remind him it's ok to need help especially if it's because you are processing things in a way that diverges from the norm. I was identified as a "gifted" or "honors" student early on and continuously, and when I started to struggle with maths it was because of algebra, it felt like a hopeless struggle because I constantly failed to produce an image in my minds eye of all the variables and formulas. I believe the American school system is effective at traumatizing people who fall outside the norm, and similarly effective at blinding the folks in the middle to the oppression that the disabled and neurodivergent (which includes autism, ADHD, and LDs) kids face. The face of that oppression has changed since you or my dad left the school system and it's still scary but I think it's getting better cause u can comment here and share your experience and we got more freedom to express and make yt vids and whatnot
@@BagelBagelBagel + Thank you so much for sharing this with me and with many others;)!! You are a very intelligent, insightful person)!! Your Dad sounds like someone to be admired for all he accomplished and for being your Dad:)! However, I can understand you Dad's feelings. I am personally grateful for the spell check on You Tube, Instagram, and on my email! If I just can not find the word on the "spell check", I have to ask my Boyfriend, who is a much better speller than I or "Google it" to find how to spell more words than I would like to admit. Also, you are so right that "American School system back then was "effective at traumatizing people who fall outside the norm...blinding folks in the middle to the oppression that disabled and neurodivergent kids faced". I do hope that Children in America and in other Countries that have Austism, ADHD, and LD have it better with more understanding than your Dad and I did when we were Children. BagelBagel Bagel+ I think you are also someone to also be admired for your compassion, your understanding. and your strength:)!! Your Dad is blessed to have someone like yourself as his Daughter:)!!!!
You did not deserve what those kids did and said to you in school. Our society is not set up to include everyone, and people are influenced by that, so it makes them think it's okay to exclude people who are "different" I'm glad you have loving parents. You have to be a very strong person to get through that and still come out believing that you matter and you didn't deserve the way people treated you
So sorry that happened to you! You did not deserve to be treated so horribly at all! Hope you're doing better now! I have autism and haven't had the same experiences you did, but I have had other struggles and challenges socially and mentally, and I totally feel you.
I can literally relate to most points in this video, especially the dehumanising part. I’m the only one in my family and watching these videos makes me feel less alone
Number 5 hits me so hard. My son has the biggest heart of gold but he gets bullied for being different. He has been the target for so many kids and really hurt. But today he, for the first time ever, actually went to a birthday party he was invited to. Anyone reading this - The good people far outweigh the bad. You will find people who love and accept you for who you are. Spread love and treat everyone kindly. And if someone says something nasty - that’s on them, not you! ❤️
I hate it when I’m stimming and one of my family members who knows they shouldn’t try and stop me or interrupt me when I’m doing it goes “you alright love?” And starts grabbing my shoulders trying to get me to stop. I know they are trying to help but sometimes I just wanna tell them to leave me the fuck alone.
I can remember a lot of my bullying experiences in high school. A thing I told myself to cope was that those other kids, who you thought enjoyed watching you suffer were probably just relieved that it wasn't them that was the target. I found out a couple weeks ago that I might be on the spectrum, and it felt like suddenly my life made sense. Not that the bullying wasn't traumatic, but I accept it for what it was. I'm no longer being controlled by the depression and anxiety I learned to cope with for decades. My life actually feels like it can come back together rather than fall apart. Next time my in-laws get dramatic, hopefully i'll have the vocabulary to tell them why it takes me months before i'm ready to tolerate their bs again.
The only thing I hate about autism is coexisting ( or lack thereof) with allistic people. Just in my head today thinking how the tone of voice is only important if the species is prone to lying and manipulation. As an aspie honestly I've never lied.
Im autistic aswell diagnosed at 2 Btw your channel is growing quite well I also have bad bad social anxiety Like its literally terrifying going outside without another person but i pretty much have to force myself to do it
Wish I’d been diagnosed at a young age. Was diagnosed at 17, and if I’d known earlier, maybe I wouldn’t have had expectations for myself beyond my capabilities.
Spartan Goku hmmm maybe so But if the diagnosis lead to specialists education in my experience it fucked me over. The constant bullying from teachers and kids also being completely disvalued just for being autistic and slightly slower than others
I’ve definitely been infantilized and bullied for being Autistic. I had a few kids who did that to me but it was mostly my Special Ed teachers who did it. I think most of the kids appreciated me for how I thought and how smart I was but only a few actually yelled at me and said mean things to me, or even physically injured me. But I think my SE teachers did more damage on me for several reasons. They were adults and should have known how to treat me kindly, they clearly knew I was Autistic and were supposed to help me with it, and overall, I think they mostly just became SE teachers to take advantage of vulnerable disabled children. People like that are so PATHETIC!
This is frustrating. I did a school project with special ed kids at my middle school (they needed one more person for the group project and that was me). The one aid was horrible. She treated me with so much respect but she treated all the special ed kids with disrespect. Every idea I had was a good idea to her, and every idea they had was a bad idea. I integrated their ideas in the project and it turned out well. She also would get angry even when a kid asked a question about his homework. Instead of explaining, she yanked the paper away from him and did it on her own.
5 - Bullying - I used to experience this A LOT back in one of my old primary schools before my parents removed me from said school and I changed to another school in which I ended up graduating from the highschool that was joined with that. 4 - I honestly find subjects that just don't interest me as boring, if it's not interesting I don't particularly want to know. I can make small talk but there's certain small talk that just bores me. I have a huge interest in gaming and technology and sometimes it borderlines me not having much to do with my family but honestly I've always struggled with finding things that are interesting as conversation starters or continuers. 3 - Sensory overload sucks big time Chloe! I struggle with social sensory overload with my family, I have my bad days where as much as I love being around my family I can feel socially overwhelmed from the general interaction with people. 2 - Yeah I had this back in school when the vice principal tried to get me to do VCAL instead of my VCE certificate because of his "concerns" because I'm Autistic, I actually graduated with my VCE certificate but I chose not to pursue university because it was an expensive avenue and not interesting to what I want.
I can relate in so many ways. I got bullied for 5 years straight because of my autism. I've been left out. And I gotta say to you chloe you are so pretty and ur parents must be so proud of you.
Me: *graduating high school* Also me: *Has a job* Also me: *Sharing my art with people, and they’re giving me great feedback* Also me: *Listens to rock and metal* Also me: *Has 5-10 friends who know I’m autistic* My friends: “You’re so amazing and chill and talented and funny!” Me: “Thank you guys!” Some random guy: “You’re so stupid” Me: ..... *Boi*
Ooh Chloe this video was really great & it made me feel so valid! Recently I've been having trouble communicating verbally like I've just feel like I can't do as good as I use to. Often I have to try really hard to figure out what others are meaning which is kind of hard. So seeing you talk about your experiences and thoughts especially when having one of those weeks just means alot! Please keep up with what you're doing! 🥰
People who comment saying you're not autistic are possibly just not educated about what autism is. It's 2019 and some people still think all people on the spectrum are Rain Man or Sheldon Cooper (i.e. male, white and nerdy).
Thank. You. So. Much. Basically every time anyone has found out I have Aspergers/Autism they've said "Wow, I never would've guessed! You don't LOOK autistic!" It's like... Thanks?? XD I think? I mean that's great but it's also gonna be really awkward having to see someone explain that my weird "quirks" are because I'm autistic because nobody can outwardly see that. I think the thing about being autistic that really bothers me is that I don't know if I should tell a potential employer about my Aspergers because *#1: I've heard of autistic people who have gotten fired suddenly after having informed their employer about what they have* and *#2: I don't wanna make it seem like I'm attempting to use it as a crutch when I'm really trying to help them understand that there are some things I can't personally handle, as an autistic person (etc. Too much social interaction and work with strangers = sensory overload).* Life is complicated man. XD I'm just glad your around to help people understand autism better. ♥️
Ƒaith 2019 I struggle with that too! I haven’t told that many people about my autism because I don’t want to be treated differently, but at the same time maybe it would actually be helpful if people knew! I don’t know, it’s hard to figure it out 😓
I've heard that westerners living in japan often struggle with people being surprised they can speak japanese and bing congratulated for the most simple sentences, and I feel that has a lot of the same energy as "wow you do normal things while autistic???"
On twitter, I saw some mention of studies about alternative (and effective) social skills, it is not that we have none, it's just not what others expect; and that's what gets in way of comfortable connection maybe? And the weird reaction/tendency to ostracism that too many people have, social bullying using you as a wind-up because it makes them feel better or look better, but it doesn't have to be about competition, or driving out somebody who seems risky, or whatever. We are not your lightening rods.
I wish I grew up with u Chloé. Growing up was the worst. I always thought I had friends and just to find out they were talking about Mr behind my back. I would end up sitting alone at lunch and then have all the "cool boys" throw food at me...just me because they loved to see me melt down. I would 4 out of the 5 days go to the nurse and fake being sick and my mom would always come get me. I just found out this year (I'm 33) that I'm autistic, and for once in my life everything finally made sense. I really can relate to all your videos and they have helped me so much, I no longer feel alone...alienated. thank you so so very much! And if I ever go to Australia 🇦🇺 I would love to go for a trail ride or even just Mery you and all ur amazing animals ❤ ♥ 💙 me n my husband are saving up for a farm so I can have horses again. 🐎 much love Chloé ❤
Wow this girl I talk to she told me to watch this and she said that this is so relatable because me and her have autism and I was thinking the same thing when I finished the video I could relate to all of them and you explained sensory overload really good I think you should make another video like this one
Order and chaos is something to perfectly describe Autism, which can have its moments;also, I'm glad to be a high functioning Apsie. It's ok to have mixed feelings about being born with autism. Personally as a kid I resented my diagnosis, but later in time learned to accept and be happy for how I was born and appreciate the gift I was given . Anyway I wish all people who read this to accept yourself and feel emotions. PS. chloe you don't look emo at all;in fact,you look precious :)
Fantastic video thanks for sharing. Sensory overload is a major pain, a noisy room with a lot of people and my brain attempts to listen to every conversation with the effect of hearing nothing and sitting there like a statue. I was fortunate way back in school for not being bullied a product of being one of the largest kids in the year and hiding in plain sight.
I just find myself watching and rewatching your vids. I find myself attracted to your open bounceness. Just do a random dude a favor and dont ever give up being the unique you that only you can be! 😊
The bullying thing is so true. I didn't know I was autistic growing up, but kids throughout school could just *tell* that I was off somehow. I was weird, I started masking (didn't know what it was at the time, but it was masking) and they could *STILL* tell I was off somehow. Coupled with being a chubby girl and taller than most kids in any of my schools, unless significantly older, and I was a walking target. Even into college I was bullied, but people got smarter at hiding it because subtlety was not my strong suit. Bullying is no joke. And people can just tell sometimes that you are different, even if your "mask" is flawless.
I think most things I hate about being autistic is how the world isn’t made for me Also, the five aspies in one room cracked me up! We’d all just rave about our special interests tbh
People don't always see it in me, either. Unfortunately, when I have issues understanding or communicating with people and they don't see it, there's no...no leeway. It hurts. It has been extremely difficult to make and keep friends.
What I hate about it *from my point of view* -when people think it’s curable or they say “just go to therapy” -when people/ family just think I’m quiet and don’t believe I have autism and think my mum is just labeling me but that don’t see what happened at home (the meltdowns ect). -the fidgeting! I wish I could stop -the horrible focus! I think that’s the adhd thought. -not being able to wear certain clothes because of the way the material feels. -The social awkwardness I’m horrible at starting conversations and keeping friends but when I do I don’t stop talking lol -when people think I’m not listening just cause I can’t keep eye contact it’s awkward to me idk why lol. Thankfully I didn’t get bullied much because of it I think I just learned to hide it well
Oh, I know about bullies! I always thought it was because I was so tiny. Did not know anything about ASD in those days. Usually managed not to melt down in school.
Chloe, thanks for sharing these five things. I'm a parent of three boys on the Spectrum and they deal with many of these things everyday. For me the bullying issue is a major one due to the trauma that occurs to our kids. I'm hoping that the new AMAZE that you are part of will change the reactions of people out in the community to those on the Spectrum. Thanks again for being you.
I don't have autism I have a mild intellectual disability with some autistic traits, I can relate to the comments about bullying as I have been a victim myself, which is the worst possible thing to happen with me but I'm not going into detail as it makes me upset. I like to learn about the different types of disabilities and the sorts of resources they need to have, because I might want to do a course in disability in the future and help People with disabilities.
Great video! As an autistic person myself I 100% agree with them 5 reasons. Telling an autistic person that they "aren't" autistic or being sceptical is incredibly dangerous as it denies them peer/ mental/ financial support.
"If you just try to be a little more confident, you'll see that you aren't really autistic!" Uh, I'm fairly confident that I AM autistic. And I need you to stop seeing it as a curse, or a disease, or something that I can just switch off with sheer force of will.
Thanks for sharing. information on bullying. I'm an Aspie who prefers writing to speaking. My sons are Aspie too. I'm 45, did you know our life expectancy is 39. I think bullying is our biggest risk factor for premature death. It's so important to keep pushing for change. Good work 😀
I get frustrated with myself still because there are times I just want to do things without having to come up with a different way of doing it since I can’t do it the way other people can. Part of this is my ADHD but also Autism.
when i was getting bullied a girl read my diary to the entire class and that wasn't even the worst of it by far lmao, it barely had an impact on my mental health in comparison to some of the other stuff which might be too upsetting to put here. i certainly get upset when i think about it for too long. and all of it was just because i acted differently to everyone else. the adults didn't even listen to me, they just tried to reassure me that i was normal, which made it So Much Worse cause i clearly wasn't, i could identify ways in which i wasn't. and besides i didn't care about being normal, i cared about being treated as a human being. i have to admit that i really hate the term 'bullying'. it makes it seem so childish. it's something that leaves permanent marks on people's mental well-being, and then people use "oh were you bullied in school?" as like, a taunt. yes! i was! i was bullied to the point of intense self-loathing for something i didn't understand, something i couldn't control, while being told that i was overreacting by all the adults in my life! i developed a disassociation disorder because of it, like this shit's serious! it's not "just bullying," it's something that changes your entire life for the worse. in some cases it's fully traumatizing, especially when compounded by other things. genuinely so exhausted by the dismissal of (particularly teenagers') experiences and emotions. so much gets missed because it flies under the radar as "teenage angst" or whatever.
I hate having autism too. I feel like my autism makes me have trouble from getting over certain bad things that happened in my life, and I'm becoming more and more bitter because of it. Since one thing autism does to people is make them become extremely obsessed about certain things. Good or bad.
That's most main other thing I hate is metaphors and being excluded from away from my own personal life and even feeling like it too and not being able to express myself, its just not right at all, I just don't like it at all period.
Yeah I hate having autism too, I started smoking cigarettes then smoked 5 joints (marijuana cigarettes) a day and after I’m done with my 5 joints I go outside taking a 5 minute break smoking my cigarettes, I blame my autism for getting me depressed and giving me meltdown, I don’t like how my autism separated my family and friends. And now I just smoke cigarettes and habitually use marijuana because I thought this would cure me and I feel sad now and days :(
Thank you so much. I`m super drained over past 2-3 days. I need to be reminded that I can have down, lazy, tired days. Can't wait to the check out the rest of your channel.
I know that this is an older video but I have to say that personally what I hate about being autistic is that I was diagnosed so late in my life that there are no resources to help me. I was 30 when I was diagnosed. And unfortunately it was kind of a "Yep. You're on the autism spectrum. Have a nice day." I wish more people understood that autistic kids grow up to be autistic adults who need help too.
Conversations suck I get bored so fast taking to someone I will stop the conversation mid sentence and start a new one then get bored with that mite happen 6 or 7 times then I will go back to the first conversation and start it back were it left off
Bullies and not knowing when to stop talking is definitely something I notice a lot, though i don't actually talk i just chat, I'm getting better at knowing when to stop chatting though, but if you ask me something about horses, minecraft or autism, you better be ready for a very, very long story
Thank you for this video. I'm also autistic and I know how bloody hard it can be sometimes but it can be good and fun as well. So focus on the positives :)
My personal thing with being autistic is that we are subject to bullying beyond others. Not just bullying in terms of average bullying but i have heard of people being kicked out of friend groups for being autistic But and it’s not just me but if I hadn’t had been born with autism I’d possibly have picked up some arrogance and perdijuce ways
With that last one, I have something to state. Humans as a species always differentiate themselves to be the unique, beautiful people we aspire to be. So why do people segregate people on the spectrum for doing exactly that in their own unique way? In the US, people have segregated people of color and treated then as lesser beings. The same thing goes to the LGTBQ+ Community, with several people still getting a lot of hate, even to this day, just because of someone's sexual preference. It's moments like these where I fear the world will never escape ableism. Saying that people on the spectrum can't do anything like neurotypical people can do is like saying Stevie Wonder can't be a great musician because he's blind or black, or worse yet, Elton John can't become a great musician because he's gay.
What you said near the end about bullying was profound and goes beyond just people on the spectrum. The issue with bullying usually has to do with people who are narcissistic and have low empathy. People who are HFA could actually say they are also HSP since traits of both are pretty much the same. Anyway, this was a cute video and a nice message near the end.
Number 4 talking, my daughter :D I'm not a talky auty (haha) but my goodness, my girl doesn't stop. An amusing side note, I usually watch videos at 1.5x as I somehow process speech better when it's faster. Not you though, you seem to run naturally in 1.5x mode :D
What is the response to the AUTISM ON ACID book ? about the guy who has tested for 5 years and states that on small doses of LSD the wires in your brain move to the part where they are not normally are for AT people , which means for a few hours you can SEE and HEAR the physical communication that goes on between NTs, And that even once helps you to integrate far more easily and with far less Anxiety, and then to top it off he shows that the top psychologists and psychiatrists, wrote a paper in 1969 That declares that all AT people Should be given LSD to enable them to cope with NT's far more easily , Not huge mystic level doses , we are talking very small doses, that move the wires in the brain just enough to wake up the part of the brain temporality that is normally inactive
I was part of the 49%. I wasn't diagnosed until age 11 so I had no idea what made me so much different than anyone else. That has damaged my self esteem for years and I still have not recovered.
I don’t have many memories from before I was 7, but I do remember just being excluded in general. I was part of a group who would take turns choosing activities, and my turn was always skipped. There’s some other stuff, but that was the most pervasive.
People tried to bully me, but I didn't realize that's what they were trying to do. I thought maybe that was because I don't read people well. Now I feel like a moron.
I don't know when someone is a friend of you and that's mainly because of two things I think. First, there isn't a logical rule that gives you the answer to "is this person my friend". And second, I don't trust people's intentions when they're being nice to me because of some mean kids when I was younger. So yeah. Long story short, I feel kinda lonely
I’m a female autistic in 7th grade I still remember all of the times I was bullied vividly and they were not small things it sucks because this was on top of my abusive father the bullying is still happening it happens every single day
Some of these points are so relatable! I've been wanting to make a video talking about the spectrum (as I myself am autistic) and it frustrates me to no end when people assume I'm doing better than some of my auspie friends on the spectrum as well
I can relate so much. One day I accomplish a lot and the following don't feel like leaving the bed. I hated when people tried to communicate with me from far away with gestures, I never understand and never will. That's why I have C-PTSD...imagine if it's your mother
Regarding bullying, it has been a constant in my life since Year 5. I thought it might not continue after I finished school, but the same type of people just continue into the workplace. It's more subtle, and because I am unaware of people's motives I'm not always aware of it. I thought my workplace was safe, until I became aware of comments people were making about me behind my back, and had been for years. The comments began to be made in a much more public setting. My Manager at the time actually had a chat with me, didn't say who was making the comments, but he was aware of them. I wasn't aware of the extent of it until then. The entire workplace had a boys club culture, sexual harrassment was rife, especially males harassing other males. Nothing was done of course, except a memo went out from the CEO that several instances of harassment had been reported and it wasn't acceptable behaviour. The people doing the harassing weren't removed, or made to apologise, or undertake training on how to treat other people with respect, like a normal human being.
Im a 16 year old non-binary autistic person. I was bullied all of my school experience to the point where I now have to be on anti-depressants because of the psychological trauma. Being autistic AND non-binary really alienated me from society. Luckily my mother took me out of school and homeschooled me and then I found a wonderful collage who treats me like a "normal" person. I am so grateful I didnt have to stay in secondary school because to be completely honest, I dont know if I would still be alive if I was still there. I love your channel and I thank you for making videos like this💕
I’m legally blind and I actually relate to most of these. It’s not my visual impairment that’s hard, it’s the way society treats me and the way the world isn’t made for me. Love your videos
I agree
I agree to
Sameee
YESSS
“ I never know when to shut up “ I feel ya girl . I am a female aspie . Your videos are very relatable for me .
See like, I have the same problem O.o
Yes! Or sharing my life story with strangers because I feel it relates to the conversation or want to relate to them and all filters disappear 😅
When Im excited, I forget that social norms exist
@THE GR0?VE No thanks, I personally don't like being in the public eye. Thanks tho 👍
@THE GR0?VE Hey, I'd be happy to do an interview. It might take me a bit though XD
I too am on the Autism spectrum. In public, I carry my iPad, a chewable fidget toy, and 2 other fidgets. I wear a ball cap, sunglasses, and I listen to music. When someone unexpectedly starts talking to me, or touches me, it makes me feel both angry and fearful. So going out anywhere, (church, school, work, the shops especially Walmart) can be like climbing Mount Everest underwater with no scuba suit or O2. I have a seizure disorder too. So I have an example. I was in Walmart, and what should’ve been only a 30-45 minute trip ended up being nearly 2 hours. There was a screaming kid behind me, lighting was bright, already loud in the store, weird but strong smells, etc. well, I ended up having a meltdown and the store manager asked if I was alright. I had to use my iPad to communicate with her, because I was too upset to speak. I “told” her I have autism and epilepsy and she asked if she could call someone to pick me up. (I drive, by the way, and I’m 23 years old.) my friend came to pick me up, and she talked to the store manager about autism for like 15 minutes. Now the Walmart I go to is working on ways to help autistic shoppers and their families and friends. (Less chemical cleaner being used, less harsh lighting, etc.) anyway my friend took me to her house, and let me sleep it off, gave me food, and let me play with her 2 dogs and her cat. She is amazing I don’t know what I’d do if she wasn’t one of my emergency contacts. The manager said she was going to call an ambulance for me because she originally thought it was a severe serious medical issue that caused the meltdown. Anyway I’m doing better now. Just wasn’t fun to deal with at the time.
That’s so great that they’re trying to help! My local supermarket has a poster outside saying “we know the importance of autism friendly shopping” which is true! They have very low lighting and no loud music. So it’s really great that they’re trying to help!
wow I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. it must've been so hard and I'm so happy that they were trying to help you
“I do not suffer from Autism, but I do suffer from the way you treat me.”
-Tyler Durdin
Mikayla Davey well said.
I So Totally Agree !
I wonder if Racial Issue could be seen in a similar light, do Non-whites want to be cured of being Non-Whites?
Craig Browning no offence but it’s not “cured of being non-white” it’s called “trading your race” I think could be wrong though
Right, but anxiety, a lack of social skills and a lack of executive function make doing normal so much harder.
Me: is autistic
Me: has a job
Me: is a successful student
Me: isn’t any less autistic because I’m doing “normal” things
Elly Green UUGGHHH THIS COMMENT YES!
YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!
Elly Green wish I can feel the same
What age were you diagnosed with it because it really depends on how you get to live your life I’m gonna say any age under 5 will ruin your life 6-10 maybe ruin your life 11-18 unlikely to ruin your life 18-25 highly unlikely to ruin your life 25-80+ won’t ruin your life unfortunately for me I got diagnosed when I was 3 damn 😔
Reece Laidler 5
I hate being babied. Like I hate feeling like I'm being talked to as a child.
Tbh I like being babied, because when I feel people are babying me I feel more comforted and also I understand them more because they are using more basic and easy body language and word language 😅
Bringer of Change I feel you on that! I'm able to relate 100% It's so annoying!
Same. There’s this piano teacher that (I think) doesn’t know I’m autistic. But they patronise everyone. And I hate how she talks. It’s how people baby me it’s so horrible. We need to stop infantilising autistic people.
Happened to me while I was in school from teachers. I'd rather have a strict teacher than put up with that, aha.
Me too. I hate it
Does anyone else feel dissociated when going through sensory overload? Or is that just me? 😂
Yeah like today at school during a fire drill I dissociated for a bit
Yessss meeeee!! I still find it difficult to explain to my loved ones. And they have a hard time understanding me when I get like that. It’s been hard lol
Yes
Yes. It makes my job dangerous too because I HAVE TO continue working, I’m not allowed to stop, even when I feel like I’m just observing my body doing stuff. It sucks.
When it happens to me I lose all emotion and I can no longer feel my body at all. I also don’t recognise my reflection anymore.
I'm undiagnosed but relate so much to what you're saying. Having suffered from anxiety, depression, bpd, possible asd and I agree, people downplaying or downsizing my struggles is demeaning. "Everybody gets a little sad from time to time." 😓
As a person with autism I find it hard to be and feel normal
DHR 2 BIG mood
Since my diagnosis I now understand why I can't act normal, there are certainly times I would like to act normal, it's given me a reason to be myself.
me too I never completely fit in
Same
I can never be normal or for in
I'm not on the spectrum, but it makes me sooooo mad when people make comments about autism when they haven't educated themselves ahhhh
I agree I have aspergers and I hate it when people make fun of autistic people or make jokes about autism because they have no idea what we have to go through every single day in our lives
Right. 😭
I feel so drained from having to please people in social situations
Good to know it's not just me. Society is just so fake.
Along with being bullied at school is the next step of trying to work honestly and diligently in the workplace yet being taken advantage of by colleagues... It's hard to stand up for yourself or even realise what is taking place sometimes until much later then eventually processing emotions once the penny drops and feeling angry and resentful. Rinse and repeat.
Superb comment!
This 53y Aspie has exp that my whole life.
I can relate!!!
I was bullied too. It was horrific especially the emotional side because i cant regulate emotion. I was always in trouble at school for my behaviour I was desperate to fit and have friends I i fell into wrong croud. I eventually introduced to drugs. It breaks my heart. I was diagnosed in adulthood I blame the misdiagnosis git my life being so shit. I'm starting a course with Autism In Mind. But the bullying was so traumatic for me I still remember clear as day. Like a form of PTS. X
Things I find difficult:
- different emotional reactions to everyone.
- being made to act "normal"
- being made to hug people to say hello (touch)
- having to explain the way I am processing and then people not understanding.
There are more, but overall I am proud to be me and be on the spectrum!! Most of the time, the positives out weigh the negatives.
Hugging and eye contact were both something I did not like to do, it took me a long time to adjust and be okay with giving eye contact and I reserve hugs to just my friends I'm comfortable with.
I think these are the traits most of us struggle with, especially the unwritten social rules, which also differ from one culture to the other. I once decided how I would react in such cases and I stick to it, no matter what other (NT-people) think of it. I refuse to do anything just to fit in in the (NT-) society. For instance, I hate physical contact and therefore I don't shake hands and I don't hug people. Of course, that way you don't make many friends... In the end you don't behave the way they expect you to behave. But I couldn't care less. Autism is part of my identity and it even has more advantages than disadvantages. I'm happy the way it is.
OH MY GOSH I RELATE TO THE "HAVING DAYS WHERE YOU WANNA DO EVERYTHING AND THEN THE NEXT DAY YOU DON'T EVEN WANT TO LEAVE YOUR BED" THING MORE THAN ANYTHING I EVER HAVE IN MY LIFE
I feel so seen
Not understanding others, struggling with short term memory/recall, bullying/judgment, exhaustion from sensory overload and feeling frustrated at uneducated people
YES!
I'm nearly 60 and the bullying I had at school still affects me.
My 5 reasons why I dislike having it:
1. Made my life unnecessarily confusing
2. Gets too comfortable with dull routines and too cowardly to break from the routines and pursue what I dream of doing
3. Limited interests are a pain, especially if they come up randomly and don't get you anywhere in life
4. Having a stereotypical monotone-sounding voice
5. Executive functioning is too hard
For me, the cons outweigh the pros overall.
dude summed up my struggles
@@myflymkultra268 I'm honestly surprised someone related to me.
2 years later, as an autistic person myself this comment is so real 😭
Sensory overload and meltdowns are the worst, especially as an undiagnosed female. I just constantly feel broken or faulty as I'm stuck trying to preform in a system that doesn't adhere to my needs and limitations.
My bully in school, who I avoided, went and told the principal that I was bullying and kicking them and swearing at them. None of that was true. I got accused of lying anyway. I got scared to go to school. People are so mean for no real reason other than wanting to embarrass others and make them sad. :(
Well, if they thought you were doing it anyway, you might as well have made it true.
Bad advice.
@@spartangoku7610 That's one of the reasons I started smoking marijuana. 🤣
Chole, although I do not have Autism, I do understand much of what your saying. I was bullied as a Child for the first 4 years of Elementary School because I was so timid and shy. I also was reading on a 2nd grade level in the 4th grade. I was not diagnosed with learning disabilities until I was in the 4th grade. In Elementary School I was called "the retard" by other Children as well as I also experienced physical violence like being punched in the stomach, punched in the eyes, punched in the nose in that today I have a permanent deviated septum in my nose, and even being pinned against a wall during Recess at school while the Children ganged up to kick me in unison. I am much older than yourself, but in the 70s as a Child our Principle right in front of one of the bullies said to me that "[I ] must have done something to deserve being called "the retard" and being beat up.". Chole, I did nothing to deserve being treated like that! What I learned from all this because of my caring Parents is that the other Children did not come from a loving family background as I did. Also, My 5th Grade Teacher who finally put a stop to me being bullied told my Mom, "You would be surprised how many Children have Parents that care nothing about them!". Hence, I deeply so understand the need to be kind and the need to try to understand others. However, my Junior High L.D. Teacher or "Resource Room" Teacher did "diminish" my ability to understand people and many other things because of being labeled L.D. As an Adult, now I can be unfairly judged by others because I have Auto-Immune Health Problems as well as physical injuries from being a Dancer in the past that caused me to not be able to do many of the things I would like to do. However, If you could see me, you would see that I do not look sick or injured to the naked eyes. Since I do not look sick or injured, many people have made cruel unfair remarks about me because they can not "see" my physical problems with their naked eyes. Chole, I highly admire and respect you as a person and I do not "undermine your abilities" because I can hear and see you are intelligent. However, although I do not have Autism, I can picture in my mind how much anxiety it would cause to have "sensory overload" with noises and lights. Also, I can understand fatigue because I can also suffer from fatigue at times. So, when you talked about "crashing" or "feeling fatigued" because of "sensory overload", I do understand how hard that would be. Chole, please forgive me if I sound ignorant in any way, but I really do believe that you have Autism and I also know you are an awesome, caring person:)!! I feel privileged to have found your You Tube Channel:).
Thank you for sharing your story, I am Autistic and your experience reminded me of my father's experience of being school in through the 70s. He is so super incredibly gifted visually and has worked as a graphic designer and now is a straight up artisan contractor/custom cabinetry maker and he is musical and all around good person and I have a hard time thinking about the discrimination and bullying he went through from kindergarten through his senior year because of his dyslexia and dyscalculia and probably some ASD communication struggles too. I am glad you got some understanding later in life with diagnoses. My dad still holds on to feelings of alienation and unworthiness and expresses them often when he asks my help for something as simple as the spelling of words. My understanding of his LD is that if my dad doesn't have a solid "picture" of the word in his head, he can't type it out, even phonetic spelling is difficult for him, and I always try to remind him it's ok to need help especially if it's because you are processing things in a way that diverges from the norm. I was identified as a "gifted" or "honors" student early on and continuously, and when I started to struggle with maths it was because of algebra, it felt like a hopeless struggle because I constantly failed to produce an image in my minds eye of all the variables and formulas. I believe the American school system is effective at traumatizing people who fall outside the norm, and similarly effective at blinding the folks in the middle to the oppression that the disabled and neurodivergent (which includes autism, ADHD, and LDs) kids face. The face of that oppression has changed since you or my dad left the school system and it's still scary but I think it's getting better cause u can comment here and share your experience and we got more freedom to express and make yt vids and whatnot
@@BagelBagelBagel + Thank you so much for sharing this with me and with many others;)!! You are a very intelligent, insightful person)!! Your Dad sounds like someone to be admired for all he accomplished and for being your Dad:)! However, I can understand you Dad's feelings. I am personally grateful for the spell check on You Tube, Instagram, and on my email! If I just can not find the word on the "spell check", I have to ask my Boyfriend, who is a much better speller than I or "Google it" to find how to spell more words than I would like to admit. Also, you are so right that "American School system back then was "effective at traumatizing people who fall outside the norm...blinding folks in the middle to the oppression that disabled and neurodivergent kids faced". I do hope that Children in America and in other Countries that have Austism, ADHD, and LD have it better with more understanding than your Dad and I did when we were Children. BagelBagel Bagel+ I think you are also someone to also be admired for your compassion, your understanding. and your strength:)!! Your Dad is blessed to have someone like yourself as his Daughter:)!!!!
woihjb WAAAAAAAAAAAAA DONT CRY I LOVE U DONT CRY
You did not deserve what those kids did and said to you in school. Our society is not set up to include everyone, and people are influenced by that, so it makes them think it's okay to exclude people who are "different"
I'm glad you have loving parents. You have to be a very strong person to get through that and still come out believing that you matter and you didn't deserve the way people treated you
So sorry that happened to you! You did not deserve to be treated so horribly at all! Hope you're doing better now! I have autism and haven't had the same experiences you did, but I have had other struggles and challenges socially and mentally, and I totally feel you.
I can literally relate to most points in this video, especially the dehumanising part. I’m the only one in my family and watching these videos makes me feel less alone
My 3 Rules of Life:
1. We don't have the liars
2. We don't have the cruel people
3. We feel what we need to feel
I hate sensory issues. I hate the difficulties socialising and communicating. But the pros i think outweigh the cons for me anyway.
Really wish you could’ve said the pros and why they really make up for the cons
Number 5 hits me so hard. My son has the biggest heart of gold but he gets bullied for being different. He has been the target for so many kids and really hurt.
But today he, for the first time ever, actually went to a birthday party he was invited to.
Anyone reading this -
The good people far outweigh the bad. You will find people who love and accept you for who you are. Spread love and treat everyone kindly. And if someone says something nasty - that’s on them, not you! ❤️
Unfortunately for me it feels like the negatives far outweigh the positives
I wont find someone who loves and excepts me
@@reecelaidler5383 well i love and accept you :)
i fortunately have not had much bullying though i am always ready to kick some asshole's ass
As an Aspie who was treated like garbage in school and has intensely low self esteem, you have just won a new subscriber!
I hate it when I’m stimming and one of my family members who knows they shouldn’t try and stop me or interrupt me when I’m doing it goes “you alright love?” And starts grabbing my shoulders trying to get me to stop. I know they are trying to help but sometimes I just wanna tell them to leave me the fuck alone.
I can remember a lot of my bullying experiences in high school. A thing I told myself to cope was that those other kids, who you thought enjoyed watching you suffer were probably just relieved that it wasn't them that was the target.
I found out a couple weeks ago that I might be on the spectrum, and it felt like suddenly my life made sense. Not that the bullying wasn't traumatic, but I accept it for what it was. I'm no longer being controlled by the depression and anxiety I learned to cope with for decades. My life actually feels like it can come back together rather than fall apart.
Next time my in-laws get dramatic, hopefully i'll have the vocabulary to tell them why it takes me months before i'm ready to tolerate their bs again.
The only thing I hate about autism is coexisting ( or lack thereof) with allistic people.
Just in my head today thinking how the tone of voice is only important if the species is prone to lying and manipulation.
As an aspie honestly I've never lied.
Im autistic aswell diagnosed at 2
Btw your channel is growing quite well
I also have bad bad social anxiety
Like its literally terrifying going outside without another person but i pretty much have to force myself to do it
Wish I’d been diagnosed at a young age.
Was diagnosed at 17, and if I’d known earlier, maybe I wouldn’t have had expectations for myself beyond my capabilities.
Spartan Goku hmmm maybe so
But if the diagnosis lead to specialists education in my experience it fucked me over. The constant bullying from teachers and kids also being completely disvalued just for being autistic and slightly slower than others
I’ve definitely been infantilized and bullied for being Autistic. I had a few kids who did that to me but it was mostly my Special Ed teachers who did it. I think most of the kids appreciated me for how I thought and how smart I was but only a few actually yelled at me and said mean things to me, or even physically injured me. But I think my SE teachers did more damage on me for several reasons. They were adults and should have known how to treat me kindly, they clearly knew I was Autistic and were supposed to help me with it, and overall, I think they mostly just became SE teachers to take advantage of vulnerable disabled children. People like that are so PATHETIC!
This is frustrating. I did a school project with special ed kids at my middle school (they needed one more person for the group project and that was me). The one aid was horrible. She treated me with so much respect but she treated all the special ed kids with disrespect. Every idea I had was a good idea to her, and every idea they had was a bad idea. I integrated their ideas in the project and it turned out well. She also would get angry even when a kid asked a question about his homework. Instead of explaining, she yanked the paper away from him and did it on her own.
Chloe: *doused in flowers and glitter* I'm so emo today
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
There’s different types of emos so ya
5 - Bullying - I used to experience this A LOT back in one of my old primary schools before my parents removed me from said school and I changed to another school in which I ended up graduating from the highschool that was joined with that.
4 - I honestly find subjects that just don't interest me as boring, if it's not interesting I don't particularly want to know. I can make small talk but there's certain small talk that just bores me. I have a huge interest in gaming and technology and sometimes it borderlines me not having much to do with my family but honestly I've always struggled with finding things that are interesting as conversation starters or continuers.
3 - Sensory overload sucks big time Chloe! I struggle with social sensory overload with my family, I have my bad days where as much as I love being around my family I can feel socially overwhelmed from the general interaction with people.
2 - Yeah I had this back in school when the vice principal tried to get me to do VCAL instead of my VCE certificate because of his "concerns" because I'm Autistic, I actually graduated with my VCE certificate but I chose not to pursue university because it was an expensive avenue and not interesting to what I want.
If something is uninteresting to me I can't focus and I constantly have social sensory overload daily
@@RyanTheLion Same here!
I can relate in so many ways. I got bullied for 5 years straight because of my autism. I've been left out. And I gotta say to you chloe you are so pretty and ur parents must be so proud of you.
Me: *graduating high school*
Also me: *Has a job*
Also me: *Sharing my art with people, and they’re giving me great feedback*
Also me: *Listens to rock and metal*
Also me: *Has 5-10 friends who know I’m autistic*
My friends: “You’re so amazing and chill and talented and funny!”
Me: “Thank you guys!”
Some random guy: “You’re so stupid”
Me: ..... *Boi*
Ooh Chloe this video was really great & it made me feel so valid! Recently I've been having trouble communicating verbally like I've just feel like I can't do as good as I use to. Often I have to try really hard to figure out what others are meaning which is kind of hard. So seeing you talk about your experiences and thoughts especially when having one of those weeks just means alot!
Please keep up with what you're doing! 🥰
People who comment saying you're not autistic are possibly just not educated about what autism is. It's 2019 and some people still think all people on the spectrum are Rain Man or Sheldon Cooper (i.e. male, white and nerdy).
Thank. You. So. Much.
Basically every time anyone has found out I have Aspergers/Autism they've said "Wow, I never would've guessed! You don't LOOK autistic!" It's like... Thanks?? XD I think? I mean that's great but it's also gonna be really awkward having to see someone explain that my weird "quirks" are because I'm autistic because nobody can outwardly see that.
I think the thing about being autistic that really bothers me is that I don't know if I should tell a potential employer about my Aspergers because *#1: I've heard of autistic people who have gotten fired suddenly after having informed their employer about what they have* and *#2: I don't wanna make it seem like I'm attempting to use it as a crutch when I'm really trying to help them understand that there are some things I can't personally handle, as an autistic person (etc. Too much social interaction and work with strangers = sensory overload).* Life is complicated man. XD I'm just glad your around to help people understand autism better. ♥️
Ƒaith 2019 I struggle with that too! I haven’t told that many people about my autism because I don’t want to be treated differently, but at the same time maybe it would actually be helpful if people knew! I don’t know, it’s hard to figure it out 😓
SHUTDOWNS. And executive dysfunction. I want to be able to be productive so badly, but these two things get in the way all the time.
“Sensory overload” is the second worst thing in my life after issues with humans. It’s not annoying it’s painful and basically hell
So sensory overload is when my head feels like it's fuzzy and when I just wanna sit all the time
I also hate when poeple tells me, "This is not autism, you're not autistic." It made me so angry.
I've heard that westerners living in japan often struggle with people being surprised they can speak japanese and bing congratulated for the most simple sentences, and I feel that has a lot of the same energy as "wow you do normal things while autistic???"
Driving, flirting and job interviews are the worst for me
On twitter, I saw some mention of studies about alternative (and effective) social skills, it is not that we have none, it's just not what others expect; and that's what gets in way of comfortable connection maybe? And the weird reaction/tendency to ostracism that too many people have, social bullying using you as a wind-up because it makes them feel better or look better, but it doesn't have to be about competition, or driving out somebody who seems risky, or whatever. We are not your lightening rods.
I wish I grew up with u Chloé. Growing up was the worst. I always thought I had friends and just to find out they were talking about Mr behind my back. I would end up sitting alone at lunch and then have all the "cool boys" throw food at me...just me because they loved to see me melt down. I would 4 out of the 5 days go to the nurse and fake being sick and my mom would always come get me. I just found out this year (I'm 33) that I'm autistic, and for once in my life everything finally made sense. I really can relate to all your videos and they have helped me so much, I no longer feel alone...alienated. thank you so so very much! And if I ever go to Australia 🇦🇺 I would love to go for a trail ride or even just Mery you and all ur amazing animals ❤ ♥ 💙 me n my husband are saving up for a farm so I can have horses again. 🐎 much love Chloé ❤
Wow this girl I talk to she told me to watch this and she said that this is so relatable because me and her have autism and I was thinking the same thing when I finished the video I could relate to all of them and you explained sensory overload really good I think you should make another video like this one
Abigail Grubbs I’ve just created a channel I’m gonna focus on autism if you’re at all interested in watching!! 🙈
Order and chaos is something to perfectly describe Autism, which can have its moments;also, I'm glad to be a high functioning Apsie. It's ok to have mixed feelings about being born with autism. Personally as a kid I resented my diagnosis, but later in time learned to accept and be happy for how I was born and appreciate the gift I was given . Anyway I wish all people who read this to accept yourself and feel emotions. PS. chloe you don't look emo at all;in fact,you look precious :)
Fantastic video thanks for sharing. Sensory overload is a major pain, a noisy room with a lot of people and my brain attempts to listen to every conversation with the effect of hearing nothing and sitting there like a statue. I was fortunate way back in school for not being bullied a product of being one of the largest kids in the year and hiding in plain sight.
Love your channel, it helps me understand my ex/best friend
I just find myself watching and rewatching your vids. I find myself attracted to your open bounceness. Just do a random dude a favor and dont ever give up being the unique you that only you can be! 😊
Jaded_one hello, random dude. Can promise that is something that will never, ever change!
@@chloeshayden thank you! That does the random guys heart good! 😊
The bullying thing is so true. I didn't know I was autistic growing up, but kids throughout school could just *tell* that I was off somehow. I was weird, I started masking (didn't know what it was at the time, but it was masking) and they could *STILL* tell I was off somehow. Coupled with being a chubby girl and taller than most kids in any of my schools, unless significantly older, and I was a walking target. Even into college I was bullied, but people got smarter at hiding it because subtlety was not my strong suit.
Bullying is no joke. And people can just tell sometimes that you are different, even if your "mask" is flawless.
I think most things I hate about being autistic is how the world isn’t made for me
Also, the five aspies in one room cracked me up! We’d all just rave about our special interests tbh
Same
My sister has been my worst bully - you think your family would accept but mine don’t even believe in differences between atypical and neurotypicals
People don't always see it in me, either. Unfortunately, when I have issues understanding or communicating with people and they don't see it, there's no...no leeway. It hurts.
It has been extremely difficult to make and keep friends.
I relate to this. SO GODDAMNED MUCH.
@Shâdøw Gîrl Not intentionally XD I think it was just an addition.
What I hate about it *from my point of view* -when people think it’s curable or they say “just go to therapy” -when people/ family just think I’m quiet and don’t believe I have autism and think my mum is just labeling me but that don’t see what happened at home (the meltdowns ect). -the fidgeting! I wish I could stop -the horrible focus! I think that’s the adhd thought. -not being able to wear certain clothes because of the way the material feels. -The social awkwardness I’m horrible at starting conversations and keeping friends but when I do I don’t stop talking lol -when people think I’m not listening just cause I can’t keep eye contact it’s awkward to me idk why lol. Thankfully I didn’t get bullied much because of it I think I just learned to hide it well
I don’t know why the text turned out like that is was dot points
I think communication and tics are the things that bug me the most. Funny how my social skills never seem to get any better. 😅
Oh, I know about bullies! I always thought it was because I was so tiny. Did not know anything about ASD in those days. Usually managed not to melt down in school.
Chloe, thanks for sharing these five things. I'm a parent of three boys on the Spectrum and they deal with many of these things everyday. For me the bullying issue is a major one due to the trauma that occurs to our kids. I'm hoping that the new AMAZE that you are part of will change the reactions of people out in the community to those on the Spectrum. Thanks again for being you.
I hate when everything seems weird
I don't have autism I have a mild intellectual disability with some autistic traits, I can relate to the comments about bullying as I have been a victim myself, which is the worst possible thing to happen with me but I'm not going into detail as it makes me upset. I like to learn about the different types of disabilities and the sorts of resources they need to have, because I might want to do a course in disability in the future and help People with disabilities.
Great video! As an autistic person myself I 100% agree with them 5 reasons.
Telling an autistic person that they "aren't" autistic or being sceptical is incredibly dangerous as it denies them peer/ mental/ financial support.
I try biting my tongue but I still have a talent for saying exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. It's a gift!
I struggle with all of these,im 30 and I've been bullied most of my life including college and work.
"If you just try to be a little more confident, you'll see that you aren't really autistic!"
Uh, I'm fairly confident that I AM autistic. And I need you to stop seeing it as a curse, or a disease, or something that I can just switch off with sheer force of will.
Thanks for sharing. information on bullying. I'm an Aspie who prefers writing to speaking. My sons are Aspie too. I'm 45, did you know our life expectancy is 39. I think bullying is our biggest risk factor for premature death. It's so important to keep pushing for change. Good work 😀
I get frustrated with myself still because there are times I just want to do things without having to come up with a different way of doing it since I can’t do it the way other people can. Part of this is my ADHD but also Autism.
Treating me like I am autistic but yet telling me "you don't look autistic". Ugh.
When you start to have a sensory meltdown go-to your mind palace, like Benedict Cumberbatch on the BBC to show Sherlock.
Yes body language is a strange verification of sign language.
Well I can say that two of the things
that I love of having Autism or “eye sparkle” is having a high pain tolerance and sarcasm
when i was getting bullied a girl read my diary to the entire class and that wasn't even the worst of it by far lmao, it barely had an impact on my mental health in comparison to some of the other stuff which might be too upsetting to put here. i certainly get upset when i think about it for too long. and all of it was just because i acted differently to everyone else. the adults didn't even listen to me, they just tried to reassure me that i was normal, which made it So Much Worse cause i clearly wasn't, i could identify ways in which i wasn't. and besides i didn't care about being normal, i cared about being treated as a human being. i have to admit that i really hate the term 'bullying'. it makes it seem so childish. it's something that leaves permanent marks on people's mental well-being, and then people use "oh were you bullied in school?" as like, a taunt. yes! i was! i was bullied to the point of intense self-loathing for something i didn't understand, something i couldn't control, while being told that i was overreacting by all the adults in my life! i developed a disassociation disorder because of it, like this shit's serious! it's not "just bullying," it's something that changes your entire life for the worse. in some cases it's fully traumatizing, especially when compounded by other things. genuinely so exhausted by the dismissal of (particularly teenagers') experiences and emotions. so much gets missed because it flies under the radar as "teenage angst" or whatever.
I hate having autism too. I feel like my autism makes me have trouble from getting over certain bad things that happened in my life, and I'm becoming more and more bitter because of it. Since one thing autism does to people is make them become extremely obsessed about certain things. Good or bad.
You are so helpful for me as a mom to my autistic children. I have so much to learn.
That's most main other thing I hate is metaphors and being excluded from away from my own personal life and even feeling like it too and not being able to express myself, its just not right at all, I just don't like it at all period.
Yeah I hate having autism too, I started smoking cigarettes then smoked 5 joints (marijuana cigarettes) a day and after I’m done with my 5 joints I go outside taking a 5 minute break smoking my cigarettes, I blame my autism for getting me depressed and giving me meltdown, I don’t like how my autism separated my family and friends. And now I just smoke cigarettes and habitually use marijuana because I thought this would cure me and I feel sad now and days :(
Being told to stop being you...your whole life
Thank you so much. I`m super drained over past 2-3 days. I need to be reminded that I can have down, lazy, tired days. Can't wait to the check out the rest of your channel.
I know that this is an older video but I have to say that personally what I hate about being autistic is that I was diagnosed so late in my life that there are no resources to help me. I was 30 when I was diagnosed. And unfortunately it was kind of a "Yep. You're on the autism spectrum. Have a nice day." I wish more people understood that autistic kids grow up to be autistic adults who need help too.
Conversations suck I get bored so fast taking to someone I will stop the conversation mid sentence and start a new one then get bored with that mite happen 6 or 7 times then I will go back to the first conversation and start it back were it left off
Bullies and not knowing when to stop talking is definitely something I notice a lot, though i don't actually talk i just chat, I'm getting better at knowing when to stop chatting though, but if you ask me something about horses, minecraft or autism, you better be ready for a very, very long story
Thank you for this video. I'm also autistic and I know how bloody hard it can be sometimes but it can be good and fun as well. So focus on the positives :)
My personal thing with being autistic is that we are subject to bullying beyond others.
Not just bullying in terms of average bullying but i have heard of people being kicked out of friend groups for being autistic
But and it’s not just me but if I hadn’t had been born with autism I’d possibly have picked up some arrogance and perdijuce ways
With that last one, I have something to state. Humans as a species always differentiate themselves to be the unique, beautiful people we aspire to be. So why do people segregate people on the spectrum for doing exactly that in their own unique way? In the US, people have segregated people of color and treated then as lesser beings. The same thing goes to the LGTBQ+ Community, with several people still getting a lot of hate, even to this day, just because of someone's sexual preference. It's moments like these where I fear the world will never escape ableism. Saying that people on the spectrum can't do anything like neurotypical people can do is like saying Stevie Wonder can't be a great musician because he's blind or black, or worse yet, Elton John can't become a great musician because he's gay.
What you said near the end about bullying was profound and goes beyond just people on the spectrum. The issue with bullying usually has to do with people who are narcissistic and have low empathy. People who are HFA could actually say they are also HSP since traits of both are pretty much the same. Anyway, this was a cute video and a nice message near the end.
Number 4 talking, my daughter :D
I'm not a talky auty (haha) but my goodness, my girl doesn't stop.
An amusing side note, I usually watch videos at 1.5x as I somehow process speech better when it's faster. Not you though, you seem to run naturally in 1.5x mode :D
What is the response to the AUTISM ON ACID book ? about the guy who has tested for 5 years and states that on small doses of LSD the wires in your brain move to the part where they are not normally are for AT people , which means for a few hours you can SEE and HEAR the physical communication that goes on between NTs, And that even once helps you to integrate far more easily and with far less Anxiety, and then to top it off he shows that the top psychologists and psychiatrists, wrote a paper in 1969 That declares that all AT people Should be given LSD to enable them to cope with NT's far more easily , Not huge mystic level doses , we are talking very small doses, that move the wires in the brain just enough to wake up the part of the brain temporality that is normally inactive
I was part of the 49%. I wasn't diagnosed until age 11 so I had no idea what made me so much different than anyone else. That has damaged my self esteem for years and I still have not recovered.
I’ve never related to a video more.
Thanks for your help! I have a friend i want to be more helpful to - and these are great to watch. You’re a good person for making these
I don’t have many memories from before I was 7, but I do remember just being excluded in general. I was part of a group who would take turns choosing activities, and my turn was always skipped. There’s some other stuff, but that was the most pervasive.
People tried to bully me, but I didn't realize that's what they were trying to do. I thought maybe that was because I don't read people well. Now I feel like a moron.
She is very articulate, lively and eehhhmm lovely too.
I don't know when someone is a friend of you and that's mainly because of two things I think. First, there isn't a logical rule that gives you the answer to "is this person my friend". And second, I don't trust people's intentions when they're being nice to me because of some mean kids when I was younger. So yeah. Long story short, I feel kinda lonely
U kinda look like björk 😍
I’m a female autistic in 7th grade I still remember all of the times I was bullied vividly and they were not small things it sucks because this was on top of my abusive father the bullying is still happening it happens every single day
Some of these points are so relatable! I've been wanting to make a video talking about the spectrum (as I myself am autistic) and it frustrates me to no end when people assume I'm doing better than some of my auspie friends on the spectrum as well
I can relate so much. One day I accomplish a lot and the following don't feel like leaving the bed.
I hated when people tried to communicate with me from far away with gestures, I never understand and never will.
That's why I have C-PTSD...imagine if it's your mother
Regarding bullying, it has been a constant in my life since Year 5. I thought it might not continue after I finished school, but the same type of people just continue into the workplace. It's more subtle, and because I am unaware of people's motives I'm not always aware of it. I thought my workplace was safe, until I became aware of comments people were making about me behind my back, and had been for years. The comments began to be made in a much more public setting. My Manager at the time actually had a chat with me, didn't say who was making the comments, but he was aware of them. I wasn't aware of the extent of it until then. The entire workplace had a boys club culture, sexual harrassment was rife, especially males harassing other males. Nothing was done of course, except a memo went out from the CEO that several instances of harassment had been reported and it wasn't acceptable behaviour. The people doing the harassing weren't removed, or made to apologise, or undertake training on how to treat other people with respect, like a normal human being.
Im a 16 year old non-binary autistic person. I was bullied all of my school experience to the point where I now have to be on anti-depressants because of the psychological trauma. Being autistic AND non-binary really alienated me from society. Luckily my mother took me out of school and homeschooled me and then I found a wonderful collage who treats me like a "normal" person. I am so grateful I didnt have to stay in secondary school because to be completely honest, I dont know if I would still be alive if I was still there. I love your channel and I thank you for making videos like this💕
many autistic adults also get bullied and abused
Great video - yeah i think ur spot on in saying it's how other people respond that makes these things an issue not the actual aspergers/autism itself.