Chaiii been the only daughter and also a strong catholic ,l feel ur pains,l know some one the abort her baby cos of this particular issue in Anglican and she find it so difficult to conceived again. Peperempe if is possible for you, you can celebrate ur 10 yrs anniversary in form of wedding ,in all we glorified God.
Chai! Chai! Chai!!! ...after traditional marriage, she got pregnant then she aborted it. Even if it was out of wedlock...like before trad Wedding, still if the man takes responsibility & pays her bride price, she can do blessing of marriage in church. Chai!! ...that abortion was some level of stupidity o. People need to read your Bible, know the God you serve personally. We serve a God that is merciful & forgiving. Chai, my heart aches for her. I'm sorry my sister. It's unfortunate how one decision can change the course of one's life. Udo...
Tell me one person that did white wedding on the Bible. Once your parents hands you over and blesses you(traditional wedding), you are married and sex is not a sin. You were not unholy it is their system that is warped. The Anglican Church and such churches should improve on this. They should treat married couples who wants a white wedding better. They can ask for proof. They should look into it. The lady who aborted her child was not wise
@@onyekaeluwa3649 . Our parents weren’t just blessed by their parents and then go to their spouses house. There’s need for a ceremony but am not saying you should waste money .
Why did u do it? I think you should have just canceled the whole thing. I fell sick after my traditional wedding. Then later I got pregnant. I decided not to do any white wedding anymore. Because of these things. They are not important but they add a spice to our ceremonies and memories. I didn't want anything to ruin my beautiful memories.
I am a Sierra Leonean/ US citizen, I am a man, I shed tears listening to your church wedding story, I am a parent who walked my only daughter to the alter on her wedding day. The experience notwithstanding , am happy you have a happy marriage, even thought you were deprived of your white dress, veil etc. God bless your family
Barrister Neze - you made the right decision but what you need to do is have another wedding on your 10th year anniversary to dampen the hurt of the first. ❤
I'm also tempted to share a bit of my wedding story... But the most important thing for me is that I've vowed to use my experience to ensure my children have theirs however they choose by Gods grace
I am “120%” catholic . From primary school, I was already active in church. By junior secondary school, I was a daily morning mass girl; I will wear my school uniform to morning mass and after mass, head out to school. I went deeper into my faith by 1st year in university when I started attending retreats, workshops, doctrine classes to understand the Bible, sacraments and teachings of the Church and how they are biblical. When I was around 20, I had contemplated celibacy and started praying about it. I got clear inspirations during my prayers that God wanted me to raise a family. I then started praying DAILY to God through the intercession of our mother Mary and my patron saint stating specifically the qualities I wanted in a man. There were 3 qualities I wasn’t going to compromise and 2 others that I asked God for as jara. Of course, number one for me was a practicing Catholic that can be on the same wavelength with me in the way I have chosen to serve God (which is in the Catholic Church). I was realistic that finding a young guy that understands the catholic faith like me was not going to be easy so I used to ask God for at least someone “malleable”… LOL… that was exactly the word I used EVERYDAY to pray. God answered my prayer to the latter… even the jaras He gave me. ****One thing for the younger ones to learn from your story is that discussions about what is important to a person should be started early in a relationship. In my opinion, N’eze started the discussion about where the church marriage should be quite late, especially knowing that she cherished her Catholic faith so much. Starting the discussion after court, traditional wedding and pregnancy had happened was late. Dating and courting should be a period for deep conversations that will set the tone for marriage and the family that 2 people are about to raise.
Was touched by your story. I'm so glad you didn't miss the man of your dream despite all that happened. My wedding day about 22 yrs ago also wasn't exactly the way I wanted it. Coca cola refused to deliver the drinks even when we had paid for it to be chilled from source! But NP I can hear in your voice how it still hurts...pls plan a 10yr or 15 yr Anniversary/ Renewal of vows and wear your white beautiful dress, make it the most beautiful day you can think of and make sure you have those who matter most around you yolo :)
Just seeing this video. I really empathize with you. I am an Igbo lady too and it's a common saying that a woman has no church so you marry in your husband's church except he agrees to marry you in yours. I don't think it's something to make much of an issue about though, I believe knowing that will help you in choosing because depending on the man you marry and the family, the church issue may keep coming up in the marriage. On the aspect of pregnancy before white wedding, I am a pentecostal and many Pentecostal churches I know won't even conduct white wedding for you when pregnant. I don't take this personal, rules are rules for a reason so any place you wish to be part of or partake in an event, know the rules and follow them. I believe you could use your experience to talk to other intending couples to before hand check the rules of the church they wish to marry at so they don't end up unhappy. I believe that as a lawyer you know rules are not personl. I remember when I was in law school, the rule was that at the dinners and the call to bar ceremony, you must carry your natural hair unbraided. I don't understand the rule but I had to comply to be called to the bar. Infact on my call to bar day, while about to enter the hall, a colleague was gisting me about how she just put to bed. She didn't remember that she hasn't loosened her hair. Someone called our attention to it and right there and then, I had to ask a photographer for scissors and we helped her loosen her attachments. It was an experience. Another colleague had to remove her fixed long nails before being allowed into the hall, they all had to be quick about this because once the event starts, you can't enter the hall again. So for intending couples, please find out the rules of the church or mosque or institutions where you HAVE DECIDED to get married ahead of time and just follow it to avoid unsavoury situations.
No that’s Yoruba’s culture, not Igbo culture. Remember that after your wine carrying and dowry, in Igbo culture you’re already married; that’s why you hear Igbos talk about “Solemnization” or blessing of marriage. This also comes after Court wedding. So this white wedding holds in your husband’s (now your new family) church while you are already almost living with him. This is why most serious Christian couples rush the white wedding or even now do both same day. If you remember after your wine carrying, when you go home your people instead of saying “welcome” would say, “have you come?” For me, that was when it downed on me that the deal was done.
Hmmm, our experience is quite similar. I don’t want to share my story because it would be too long, I have put it behind me but I also felt “short-changed” and my dad (God rest his soul) was also denied the joy of walking his eldest daughter, his first fruit down the aisle 😔. All I know is that a lot of those who did big white wedding with all the trimmings, they are not necessarily still together today. To God be the glory, 19 years don pass and we’re still going strong 💪🏾 😊
Wow I am a Catholic too, a single lady and I definitely don't know a lot of these rules. After my university days I somehow tilted towards focusing on knowing God for myself. I am still a devoted Catholic but I only engage in church activities that I understand enough. No Stress. Your experience sounds like rules human beings made themselves in the church and not really directions from the holy spirit how wedding should be done. I cried but I am happy how your marriage has blossomed. God bless your family 🎉
Thank God for your husband who truly and genuinely love you. That love has covered for that day. If you so wish you can celebrate your anniversary to compensate for your wedding day.I also grew up in the West but married in the North. It wasn't funny we give up so much for love.
A very brilliant narrator. I’ve binge watched your videos and they crack me up. You’ve touched on a very topical bane of us Africans - religion. At the Berlin Conference, it was decided to conquer Africa using the “Three Cs” - Commerce, Civilisation and Christianity. Centuries after, we are still in the bind of these three Cs. Away from your wedding, importantly you enjoying a happy married life.
Thankful for videos like yours that opened my eyes to necessary questions like what church will we be married in. Thankfully we've agreed on my family church.
U are a brave warrior. Thumbs up. Am a Congolese. Usually the wedding day takes place at the ladies church, from there u r released to join ur husband's church if his from a different church . Wow it's amazing his an only son and you an only daughter. They would have given you the privilege of being walked down the by ur Dad.
Lol Neze, you had audience in the back of you. Your story is real and we appreciate you sharing...learned so much about your Catholic and Anglican experience.
You made the right choice. Its because of your faith in Hod that were able to endure such humiliation of your purity. I am catholic and we dont judge. Its your heart that matters ❤❤❤❤❤ sending you lots hugs. It was very sad
Thank God you were able to go through and come through to the place of glory. Look at you now. Your sacrifice paid off. Hallelujah!!!! All glory to Jesus. You are so transparent. I really thank God for your life. More grace. Shalom.
Congratulations NEZE your story is so so touching I'm sorry for what happened to you. But it's all ends in praise. That's is ur own valley experiences Neze ♥️🥰
I just watched this your wedding story, but dear sis you and your hubby can redo your wedding and all your wedding dreams can now and still come to pass...
Marriage is about growth and maturity. In most cases, it’s a union of two immature people, who (hopefully) grow and mature together. In most cases, something goes wrong during the wedding process, or even in cases where things go perfectly, the couple struggle to adjust to married life -at least during the first couple of years. My case was the later. We had a simple church wedding in Chicago, with no high expectations from both families, but for the first two years, there was a lot of head butting between us 😂. Now almost 20 years later, we are happily married, and best of friends.
Hmmm....I feel your pain. My wedding day was a sad one. I wish to re- do my wedding again maybe in 3 yrs time which will be our 10th wedding anniversary.
sis neze, please thanks for sharing but the most important thing is that you are married and you have a happy marriage period love your energy and content
I have a similar story. I'm getting married December. I've been dating my current fiancé for almost 4 years and in those 4 years we broke up twice because of our parents stand on church. I grew up in Living faith while he grew up Catholic. His mum was a CWO president for 3 years while his dad is a Knight and was also CMA president at a time. My parents both grew up Anglican and later after a series of experiencing in different churches ended up in Living faith till date. My fiance is not a staunch Catholic and before we knew how serious the church thing was going to be, we decided to choose a neutral church so we can avoid any issues. That was a big mistake because when his parents found out, things went haywire. They said I wanted to change their family culture and tradition, that a woman has no church so how will I want to carry their son elsewhere. It was an eye owner to say the least. We broke up then because I felt he wasn't man enough to stand up to his parents. But after making my findings I realised they were right. He's from Imo state and I'm from Anambra state, women no get church for Igbo land. In summary, after thinking about it critically, I decided that having found a man who was perfect for me in every other area, I wouldn't let man made rules and regulations Rob me of my happiness. And so I reached out to him again and we've been going strong since then. We just had our intro and it went wonderfully well. I had to fight a difficult battle with my family in the background because of their prejudices about the Catholic Church and some of their practices, in fact at a point, my father said he wouldn't step foot in the Catholic Church for my wedding but God ended up giving me wisdom and favour and all that is now a thing of the past.
Catholic Church have too much rules, I know of a person whose wife is not Catholic, she was told,that she will go to the catholic church as a school to learn alot of teachings in the Catholic Church before she is allowed to marry her husband, and the question I asked him then is, do you really love her?and he said yes, then go to her state and marry her in her own church. That's what really love is all about, COMPROMISES ❤❤❤❤
I feel your pain my dear sister. I have my own story too. It's in the past now, please put it behind you and be happy. The future and now is more important.
Aunt Taught me what real peace of mind and happiness was. She learnt a trade after secondary school. Which was baking and sowing. And girl. She got married to her husband over and over again. And her reason was just out of the inspiration of the younger brides she catered for (the fancy weddings). And we as children at that time Taught of her as adventurous and entertaining. I have vowed to do the same.
Newbie here. Just stumbled on this video and i want to suggest you do a dream wedding anniversay just the way you would have wanted it. Trust me it will even bang more than the wedding. I hope you see this❤❤❤
I was to get married to someone on march 2014 but the marriage didn't hold even after we had done introduction, paid the bride price and finished marriage class in church. basically because the guys family was Anglican and swore not to attend the wedding if it held elsewhere. Even though the guy involved wasn't attending Anglican. So after the that breakup I made sure anyone I got with would not mind Wedding me in my church because I wouldn't want to wed in another church, fast forward to when I wanted to wed my husband he knew that its either my church or no wedding. He is from a Catholic family but he wasn't attending Catholic at the time. It caused alot of rifts for some people. But I remember my husband telling his mum that if she doesn't want to attend the church wedding she can wait for us at the reception. And actually my husband family where very accommodating. They didn't fight it, maybe because my husband head dey touch and they knew he won't listen to them. Trust me if you where not pregnant you would have stood your ground and they would have come to your church to wed you. But thank God you have a beautiful family to compensate you for that day. Really I don't think there is a supposed place, the couples should come together and agree on where they want their wedding to hold. The person who has less to loose should give in to the other. Thats what I think.
I’m so sorry you had to go through all this 😭. I can’t even tell from the picture because you still looked so beautiful on that day, soo beautiful 😍 😍 😍
I’m glad you chose to marry your husband despite the denomination issue. I regret refusing to marry someone I know I would have created a great and happy life with, because of church. I wish I had a support system that advised me appropriately. I can only hope for the best now.
Dear Neze, you didn’t deserve this humiliation, I am truly sorry you went through this. Truly sorry. It was not your choice. Circumstances dictated the choice. Truly sorry.
My dear, Neze Peperempe! I totally understood all you said ooh! Bcos I was almost wearing the same shoes with you! Your story is nothing different from mine! I was also the daughter of the family! I cried through out that period as if all hell was let loosed on me! The wedding that was supposed to hold in 2014, eventually took place towards the end of 2015 bcos of the katakata on ground from both families as a result of church differences. In the end we resolved to court wedding as none of the families agreed to let go! Hmm mm! This church wedding thing na big wahala for would be couple ooh! 😊
Awwwww, this is one video of yours I have watched and is like the ever happy Perperemper is someone else. Don't worry my Dear.. Like is of both positive and negative experiences and the end always justifies the means. For me I am proud of you and the woman that you have become, especially the way you treat people around you and most especially your family.. I have always loved you and will always do. Infact I have adopted you as my younger sister. Is left for you to accept me as your elder sister. Be happy always and win forever.
So sorry to hear you felt this way especially when it should have been one of your happiest memories BUT remember you were already married traditionally which is deemed most important regardless of white wedding PLUS God has blessed your lives with so much laughter that overshadows all else. Your family is such a joy to watch! Anyone would give everything for this, over a magical white wedding day and then a marriage trap of hopeless misery. Many have even sadly crashed almost immediately. However, is the stand of the Catholic Church any different? Aren't they stricter even? At the same time, the Church must uphold certain tenets. The Word of God remains the same and cannot change as our ideas about modernity evolve. Case in point, the word of God on sexuality versus the 'woke' argument - these are fundamental issues so the Church can't cherry-pick. I pray so many more beautiful things for you that will eclipse this memory by God's grace. ❤
If your husband was a practicing Anglican he would have known all these things and either asked you to wait until the White wedding to get pregnant or allow for you to get married in the Catholic Church since your expectations and fantasy of your perfect wedding. In my country, the wedding is the Bride's own
I wasn't born Catholic but I ended up with a staunch Catholic Guy. He insisted on the wedding to happen in his church and l agreed.what broke the camel's back was this wedding class, and the kind waiting period in between his date and our chosen date..it was awfully amidst the Winter season .Soooo...we went ahead and did a Civil one at the county's Court House..Case was closed,that same weekend we went to our provincial diocese and the priest blessed our union and so was it.. The reception wasn't as good as we planned it, but it turned out simple and neat for our inner circle to share our Joyful moments with us ..
I love your energy ma💕.... So much vibe here, I enjoyed watching💯, Birthing Nezeperempe is really a smart idea....I listened to your story on Loudly woman series and I'm really sorry it didn't turn out the way you wanted,you deserve a happier one💃
About your wedding day be comforted and know this : you have the most blessings of a caring husband , children , a happy home , best In-laws and you are doing what you love. That cannot be said for many who married in church with their faces covered . If it was a battle , you won .
Your choice was right. Life is deeper. Am happy you didn’t allow church destroy what you had with your husband. I have another couple I counseled to follow love and life, not Church dogma, and they’re doing well today
Its eye opening for me to realize some people get married in their husband's church. It's almost a no brainer for a yoruba girl like me to marry in my parent's church, it wasnt even debatable. My parents attend rccg and his family attend seventh day church, the issue would have been what day it will hold but my husband stood his ground and it was on a Saturday That pregnancy test thing ehn, I had to go to the church designated hospital for blood test 2 days to my wedding accompanied by a church elder, it's very invasive and the man was just giving snide comments of threats that the church will cancel if I was pregnant
it's the church elder for me. Why try to tell you what you already know. In my case the Dcn. was so warm to me. I took the test and I requested for the result only for me to be informed that it will be sent to the pastor after I paid for it o.😂
@@Graceshittu01 I paid too and the result was sent to the pastor. And the pastor now called my dad to tell him congratulations the wedding will hold. Wedding planning especially church with the rigorous counselling (which I actually enjoyed and think is important) was stressful
Hi Neze, I can understand what you went through and In Loudly Woman by Nelo you made a comment about not being committed to God anymore because of that experience. My Question is How is your relationship life with God now?
I don't even know how I feel about this but honestly this doesn't feel right at all. I'm glad we are more enlightened now and understand that we can object some of these unfair treatment. I hope that sharing your story would help you heal through this process. Sending you loads of hugs from here.🤗🤗🤗🤗
Aww this is so touching, but we give God all the glory for where you are today. Thanks God for the love, peace and joy in your home. It's the same with some pentecostal churches., They do blessing of marriage not holy matrimony. All Thanks to God. Everyone has a story to tell.
Different culture in Nigeria with the different ways they conduct wedding. The yorubas usually conduct both traditional and church wedding in the bride's place because it is seen as a sign of respect to the bride's family. I know the northern christians conduct church wedding in the man's church as well as the Igbos. I think wedding should be a thing of knowing what is obtainable in the culture especially if it is intertribal marriage not a matter of church because I know the Yorubas will never leave where they are to go wed their daughter in the groom's church except in extreme cases so the basic is understand the culture or tradition.
My experience was that I wedded in my husbands church. And it was a lovely decision. It's not like a I had a church of my own, Waldo my parents church would never have accepted me.
Congratulations once again beautiful Barrister Neze ... I really feel for you but am happy seeing your Children at back of the car... May God continue to add honey to your marriage lovely woman. Joy Ikpi Abuja
Mme you made the right decision. Your home is your church. The unity and bond that exist between father mother and children surpass rules of a church. At that point you showed your husband respect over you hurt, and trust me that is the almost debt he has over you. Your happiness is above some church regulations . Trust me when I say I am a staunch catholic woman, from Cameroon . Your home is the first temple of God. Continue to honor, respect and cherish that man and he will love you more and more. May God almighty give you peace over the feeling of your wedding day and continue to protect and bless your beautiful home AMEN🙏🏿👍🏻🫶🏼
For the pregnancy test being conducted in churches,I personally think it is a wrong way of determining purity as they think because it encourages abortion. Singles that intend to get marry should know what is obtainable in their church so that it can guide them and avoid unnecessary dramas.
I am so sorry to hear what you went through, Neze. It is difficult to understand exactly why churches do this but perhaps had there been pre-marital counselling beforehand, this pain could have been avoided. Since the traditional marriage states or infers that you are already married, perhaps those who go through this way should consider just having a church blessing. The alternative being the full church wedding is done before the traditional rites. The Anglican Church does not conduct full Holy Matrimony services for couples who are already expecting, and some non traditional churches utterly refuse to join such couples, as the deed has already been done without the spiritual blessing. My late mum had to plead for a cousin to be married in the Anglican Church we attended after her parents’ church refused. Her dress had to be re sewn with an underlay of blue under the the white lace, was not allowed to cover her face but her dad walked her down the aisle, she was the only child of her parents. The exhortation that day was a word to all young unmarried ladies in the service: if you are not properly wedded before God and man, you should not be intimate with a man. This was back in 1976. My take on the wedding being conducted in the bride’s church is split: a) it is the bride honouring her parents and saying a public farewell and receiving a send off blessing from the spiritual home she was brought up in. I said split but on second thought, I want to have peace throughout today and I do not want anyone coming after me on RUclips with guns blazing, so let me stop here. Again Neze, I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I know from experience that sharing painful times does bring clarity and most importantly, healing to the inner you. I pray that that the Balm of Gilead wipes your pain and heals you totally regarding this issue. In Jesus Name. Amen. Stay blessed and favoured.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
If you want to wed in the church please no sexual relationship to your partner till after wedding if not both the couple and the reverend father or pastor have sinned against God almighty because the white gown means purity thanks.
I am so angry about this!My husband and I both Anglicans. Married in 1994 almost 20 years before you and no one asked me to take a test. This definitely did not happen everywhere and not in my time or to me!! What the heck?? What??? I am so angry!!! So sorry!!!
Wow this is really hurting,am so sorry you passed through all of that.. I and my husband are both Catholics so it wasn’t any problem for us,infact during our marriage classes the councilor was like if I get pregnant bfr the wedding day I shouldn’t try to take it out ooh, they are going to wed me like that.
Exactly ... Ladies should be encouraged never to do abortions..... Some Ladies now do abortions all because they want to wear WHITE WEDDING DRESS AND AVOID BLESSING OF MARRIAGE AND AVOID COLOURED WEDDING DRESS. ABORTION IS EVIL .
Chaiii been the only daughter and also a strong catholic ,l feel ur pains,l know some one the abort her baby cos of this particular issue in Anglican and she find it so difficult to conceived again. Peperempe if is possible for you, you can celebrate ur 10 yrs anniversary in form of wedding ,in all we glorified God.
Chai! Chai! Chai!!! ...after traditional marriage, she got pregnant then she aborted it. Even if it was out of wedlock...like before trad
Wedding, still if the man takes responsibility & pays her bride price, she can do blessing of marriage in church. Chai!! ...that abortion was some level of stupidity o. People need to read your Bible, know the God you serve personally. We serve a God that is merciful & forgiving. Chai, my heart aches for her. I'm sorry my sister. It's unfortunate how one decision can change the course of one's life. Udo...
Tell me one person that did white wedding on the Bible. Once your parents hands you over and blesses you(traditional wedding), you are married and sex is not a sin.
You were not unholy it is their system that is warped. The Anglican Church and such churches should improve on this. They should treat married couples who wants a white wedding better. They can ask for proof. They should look into it. The lady who aborted her child was not wise
@@onyekaeluwa3649 . Our parents weren’t just blessed by their parents and then go to their spouses house. There’s need for a ceremony but am not saying you should waste money .
There was a ceremony na, there is always a ceremony during traditional wedding. Must it be done the white way?.@@adebayoolubunmi2201
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Why did u do it? I think you should have just canceled the whole thing. I fell sick after my traditional wedding. Then later I got pregnant. I decided not to do any white wedding anymore. Because of these things.
They are not important but they add a spice to our ceremonies and memories. I didn't want anything to ruin my beautiful memories.
Sorry about that experience ok
Thank you for sharing. Thank you for listening to the advice of your family.
May God bless your union
I am a Sierra Leonean/ US citizen, I am a man, I shed tears listening to your church wedding story, I am a parent who walked my only daughter to the alter on her wedding day. The experience notwithstanding , am happy you have a happy marriage, even thought you were deprived of your white dress, veil etc. God bless your family
Babe, the most important thing is that you're happy in your marriage.
Barrister Neze - you made the right decision but what you need to do is have another wedding on your 10th year anniversary to dampen the hurt of the first. ❤
I'm also tempted to share a bit of my wedding story...
But the most important thing for me is that I've vowed to use my experience to ensure my children have theirs however they choose by Gods grace
I am “120%” catholic . From primary school, I was already active in church. By junior secondary school, I was a daily morning mass girl; I will wear my school uniform to morning mass and after mass, head out to school. I went deeper into my faith by 1st year in university when I started attending retreats, workshops, doctrine classes to understand the Bible, sacraments and teachings of the Church and how they are biblical. When I was around 20, I had contemplated celibacy and started praying about it. I got clear inspirations during my prayers that God wanted me to raise a family. I then started praying DAILY to God through the intercession of our mother Mary and my patron saint stating specifically the qualities I wanted in a man. There were 3 qualities I wasn’t going to compromise and 2 others that I asked God for as jara. Of course, number one for me was a practicing Catholic that can be on the same wavelength with me in the way I have chosen to serve God (which is in the Catholic Church). I was realistic that finding a young guy that understands the catholic faith like me was not going to be easy so I used to ask God for at least someone “malleable”… LOL… that was exactly the word I used EVERYDAY to pray. God answered my prayer to the latter… even the jaras He gave me.
****One thing for the younger ones to learn from your story is that discussions about what is important to a person should be started early in a relationship. In my opinion, N’eze started the discussion about where the church marriage should be quite late, especially knowing that she cherished her Catholic faith so much. Starting the discussion after court, traditional wedding and pregnancy had happened was late. Dating and courting should be a period for deep conversations that will set the tone for marriage and the family that 2 people are about to raise.
Was touched by your story. I'm so glad you didn't miss the man of your dream despite all that happened. My wedding day about 22 yrs ago also wasn't exactly the way I wanted it. Coca cola refused to deliver the drinks even when we had paid for it to be chilled from source! But NP I can hear in your voice how it still hurts...pls plan a 10yr or 15 yr Anniversary/ Renewal of vows and wear your white beautiful dress, make it the most beautiful day you can think of and make sure you have those who matter most around you yolo :)
My daughter, Let it go is over church is not going to take you to heaven GOD has already BLESSED with a good husband and a beautiful family.
Last honor to the lady to marry in her church, then she joins her husband in his church for life. God bless you richly!
Just seeing this video. I really empathize with you. I am an Igbo lady too and it's a common saying that a woman has no church so you marry in your husband's church except he agrees to marry you in yours. I don't think it's something to make much of an issue about though, I believe knowing that will help you in choosing because depending on the man you marry and the family, the church issue may keep coming up in the marriage. On the aspect of pregnancy before white wedding, I am a pentecostal and many Pentecostal churches I know won't even conduct white wedding for you when pregnant. I don't take this personal, rules are rules for a reason so any place you wish to be part of or partake in an event, know the rules and follow them. I believe you could use your experience to talk to other intending couples to before hand check the rules of the church they wish to marry at so they don't end up unhappy. I believe that as a lawyer you know rules are not personl. I remember when I was in law school, the rule was that at the dinners and the call to bar ceremony, you must carry your natural hair unbraided. I don't understand the rule but I had to comply to be called to the bar. Infact on my call to bar day, while about to enter the hall, a colleague was gisting me about how she just put to bed. She didn't remember that she hasn't loosened her hair. Someone called our attention to it and right there and then, I had to ask a photographer for scissors and we helped her loosen her attachments. It was an experience. Another colleague had to remove her fixed long nails before being allowed into the hall, they all had to be quick about this because once the event starts, you can't enter the hall again. So for intending couples, please find out the rules of the church or mosque or institutions where you HAVE DECIDED to get married ahead of time and just follow it to avoid unsavoury situations.
Exactly.
That part when you said GOD knows best really touched me 🥲
I had a similar story but am glad I healed 🙏
No that’s Yoruba’s culture, not Igbo culture. Remember that after your wine carrying and dowry, in Igbo culture you’re already married; that’s why you hear Igbos talk about “Solemnization” or blessing of marriage. This also comes after Court wedding. So this white wedding holds in your husband’s (now your new family) church while you are already almost living with him. This is why most serious Christian couples rush the white wedding or even now do both same day. If you remember after your wine carrying, when you go home your people instead of saying “welcome” would say, “have you come?” For me, that was when it downed on me that the deal was done.
Hmmm, our experience is quite similar. I don’t want to share my story because it would be too long, I have put it behind me but I also felt “short-changed” and my dad (God rest his soul) was also denied the joy of walking his eldest daughter, his first fruit down the aisle 😔. All I know is that a lot of those who did big white wedding with all the trimmings, they are not necessarily still together today. To God be the glory, 19 years don pass and we’re still going strong 💪🏾 😊
Wow I am a Catholic too, a single lady and I definitely don't know a lot of these rules. After my university days I somehow tilted towards focusing on knowing God for myself. I am still a devoted Catholic but I only engage in church activities that I understand enough. No Stress.
Your experience sounds like rules human beings made themselves in the church and not really directions from the holy spirit how wedding should be done.
I cried but I am happy how your marriage has blossomed. God bless your family 🎉
Neze you are such a vivacious beautiful kind hearted woman. I love your channels ❤️ from Australia
Much 🤎
Thank God for your husband who truly and genuinely love you. That love has covered for that day. If you so wish you can celebrate your anniversary to compensate for your wedding day.I also grew up in the West but married in the North. It wasn't funny we give up so much for love.
Oh my, so sorry about all that happened. However, it is well and you are loved. 🤗💌
A very brilliant narrator. I’ve binge watched your videos and they crack me up. You’ve touched on a very topical bane of us Africans - religion. At the Berlin Conference, it was decided to conquer Africa using the “Three Cs” - Commerce, Civilisation and Christianity. Centuries after, we are still in the bind of these three Cs.
Away from your wedding, importantly you enjoying a happy married life.
Thankful for videos like yours that opened my eyes to necessary questions like what church will we be married in. Thankfully we've agreed on my family church.
Neze, we are awaiting your 10 year wedding anniversary 💃🏽.
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U are a brave warrior. Thumbs up. Am a Congolese. Usually the wedding day takes place at the ladies church, from there u r released to join ur husband's church if his from a different church . Wow it's amazing his an only son and you an only daughter. They would have given you the privilege of being walked down the by ur Dad.
A very good 👍 lady you are thank you for following the man of your dream without looking back that is pure love ❤ God bless you 🙏 ❤.
Lol Neze, you had audience in the back of you. Your story is real and we appreciate you sharing...learned so much about your Catholic and Anglican experience.
You made the right choice. Its because of your faith in Hod that were able to endure such humiliation of your purity. I am catholic and we dont judge. Its your heart that matters ❤❤❤❤❤ sending you lots hugs. It was very sad
Thank God you were able to go through and come through to the place of glory. Look at you now. Your sacrifice paid off. Hallelujah!!!!
All glory to Jesus.
You are so transparent.
I really thank God for your life. More grace. Shalom.
Congratulations NEZE your story is so so touching I'm sorry for what happened to you. But it's all ends in praise. That's is ur own valley experiences Neze ♥️🥰
be happy God has healed you your sacrifice of years back is paying you have a lovely family and you are happy in your marriage
I just watched this your wedding story, but dear sis you and your hubby can redo your wedding and all your wedding dreams can now and still come to pass...
Marriage is about growth and maturity. In most cases, it’s a union of two immature people, who (hopefully) grow and mature together. In most cases, something goes wrong during the wedding process, or even in cases where things go perfectly, the couple struggle to adjust to married life -at least during the first couple of years. My case was the later. We had a simple church wedding in Chicago, with no high expectations from both families, but for the first two years, there was a lot of head butting between us 😂. Now almost 20 years later, we are happily married, and best of friends.
I am sooo sorry you went through that!! You were already married!! That was intrusive. In 2013 for goodness sake? This is ridiculous!!
Hmmm....I feel your pain. My wedding day was a sad one. I wish to re- do my wedding again maybe in 3 yrs time which will be our 10th wedding anniversary.
sis neze, please thanks for sharing but the most important thing is that you are married and you have a happy marriage period
love your energy and content
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I have been waiting for the wedding story from Loudly woman episode
Have a renewal of vow’s ceremony on your tenth wedding anniversary and have your father walk you down the isle. It doesn’t have to be in a church.
I have a similar story. I'm getting married December. I've been dating my current fiancé for almost 4 years and in those 4 years we broke up twice because of our parents stand on church. I grew up in Living faith while he grew up Catholic. His mum was a CWO president for 3 years while his dad is a Knight and was also CMA president at a time.
My parents both grew up Anglican and later after a series of experiencing in different churches ended up in Living faith till date.
My fiance is not a staunch Catholic and before we knew how serious the church thing was going to be, we decided to choose a neutral church so we can avoid any issues. That was a big mistake because when his parents found out, things went haywire. They said I wanted to change their family culture and tradition, that a woman has no church so how will I want to carry their son elsewhere. It was an eye owner to say the least. We broke up then because I felt he wasn't man enough to stand up to his parents. But after making my findings I realised they were right. He's from Imo state and I'm from Anambra state, women no get church for Igbo land.
In summary, after thinking about it critically, I decided that having found a man who was perfect for me in every other area, I wouldn't let man made rules and regulations Rob me of my happiness. And so I reached out to him again and we've been going strong since then. We just had our intro and it went wonderfully well. I had to fight a difficult battle with my family in the background because of their prejudices about the Catholic Church and some of their practices, in fact at a point, my father said he wouldn't step foot in the Catholic Church for my wedding but God ended up giving me wisdom and favour and all that is now a thing of the past.
Beautiful
Im happy to know this..
Truly, a good husband supersedes all these man made boundaries.
Wishing you a happy marriage
@@NezePeperempe thank you so much.
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Catholic Church have too much rules, I know of a person whose wife is not Catholic, she was told,that she will go to the catholic church as a school to learn alot of teachings in the Catholic Church before she is allowed to marry her husband, and the question I asked him then is, do you really love her?and he said yes, then go to her state and marry her in her own church. That's what really love is all about, COMPROMISES ❤❤❤❤
i miss this side of Neze, welcome back
I feel your pain my dear sister. I have my own story too.
It's in the past now, please put it behind you and be happy.
The future and now is more important.
I am Ghanaian living in Germany,I just love you ❤❤❤❤
Am happy to be among the first viewers of the first Peperempe videos 💃💃💃💃
I’m from Liberia 🇱🇷, if both people are from different churches, you should get in the girl’s church. I love you girl
Each time you share this story, I so feel your pain. In my tradition (Magongo in Kogi state), wedding is done in the lady's Church. It is well.
Aunt
Taught me what real peace of mind and happiness was.
She learnt a trade after secondary school.
Which was baking and sowing.
And girl.
She got married to her husband over and over again.
And her reason was just out of the inspiration of the younger brides she catered for (the fancy weddings).
And we as children at that time Taught of her as adventurous and entertaining.
I have vowed to do the same.
Newbie here. Just stumbled on this video and i want to suggest you do a dream wedding anniversay just the way you would have wanted it. Trust me it will even bang more than the wedding. I hope you see this❤❤❤
I really feel for you. A lady should feel like a princess on her wedding day
I think you should do a do-over for one of your anniversary.
I was to get married to someone on march 2014 but the marriage didn't hold even after we had done introduction, paid the bride price and finished marriage class in church. basically because the guys family was Anglican and swore not to attend the wedding if it held elsewhere. Even though the guy involved wasn't attending Anglican. So after the that breakup I made sure anyone I got with would not mind Wedding me in my church because I wouldn't want to wed in another church, fast forward to when I wanted to wed my husband he knew that its either my church or no wedding. He is from a Catholic family but he wasn't attending Catholic at the time. It caused alot of rifts for some people. But I remember my husband telling his mum that if she doesn't want to attend the church wedding she can wait for us at the reception. And actually my husband family where very accommodating. They didn't fight it, maybe because my husband head dey touch and they knew he won't listen to them.
Trust me if you where not pregnant you would have stood your ground and they would have come to your church to wed you. But thank God you have a beautiful family to compensate you for that day.
Really I don't think there is a supposed place, the couples should come together and agree on where they want their wedding to hold. The person who has less to loose should give in to the other. Thats what I think.
Wow Debby 🙌
i love you NEZE, your story is so touching..im happy you are sharing
Ewoh!!! Is all good nne. Thank you for this beautiful story.
Don't worry you have your son that's the blessings
Wow so good my beloved you did it all by yourself knowing God and living God remain blessed 💓🙏🙏🙏🙏
I’m so sorry you had to go through all this 😭. I can’t even tell from the picture because you still looked so beautiful on that day, soo beautiful 😍 😍 😍
I’m glad you chose to marry your husband despite the denomination issue. I regret refusing to marry someone I know I would have created a great and happy life with, because of church. I wish I had a support system that advised me appropriately. I can only hope for the best now.
Finally !! Glad to have you here ❤️😘💓
I was so touched by your story Neze.
Guess what, this video got me and showed me how special you are🎉
Dear Neze, you didn’t deserve this humiliation, I am truly sorry you went through this. Truly sorry. It was not your choice. Circumstances dictated the choice. Truly sorry.
Same happened to me nne. Catholic to Anglican family 😂. All the same, what matters is our Relationship with the Creator ❤
My dear, Neze Peperempe! I totally understood all you said ooh! Bcos I was almost wearing the same shoes with you! Your story is nothing different from mine! I was also the daughter of the family! I cried through out that period as if all hell was let loosed on me! The wedding that was supposed to hold in 2014, eventually took place towards the end of 2015 bcos of the katakata on ground from both families as a result of church differences. In the end we resolved to court wedding as none of the families agreed to let go! Hmm mm! This church wedding thing na big wahala for would be couple ooh! 😊
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Awwwww, this is one video of yours I have watched and is like the ever happy Perperemper is someone else. Don't worry my Dear.. Like is of both positive and negative experiences and the end always justifies the means. For me I am proud of you and the woman that you have become, especially the way you treat people around you and most especially your family.. I have always loved you and will always do. Infact I have adopted you as my younger sister. Is left for you to accept me as your elder sister. Be happy always and win forever.
So sorry to hear you felt this way especially when it should have been one of your happiest memories BUT remember you were already married traditionally which is deemed most important regardless of white wedding PLUS God has blessed your lives with so much laughter that overshadows all else. Your family is such a joy to watch! Anyone would give everything for this, over a magical white wedding day and then a marriage trap of hopeless misery. Many have even sadly crashed almost immediately. However, is the stand of the Catholic Church any different? Aren't they stricter even? At the same time, the Church must uphold certain tenets. The Word of God remains the same and cannot change as our ideas about modernity evolve. Case in point, the word of God on sexuality versus the 'woke' argument - these are fundamental issues so the Church can't cherry-pick. I pray so many more beautiful things for you that will eclipse this memory by God's grace. ❤
If your husband was a practicing Anglican he would have known all these things and either asked you to wait until the White wedding to get pregnant or allow for you to get married in the Catholic Church since your expectations and fantasy of your perfect wedding. In my country, the wedding is the Bride's own
I am speechless really. God bless your marriage really good.
I felt your pain....me that I am still angry over the wrong scarf that I didn't use for my wedding...talk more of this. So sorry this happened to you.
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I wasn't born Catholic but I ended up with a staunch Catholic Guy. He insisted on the wedding to happen in his church and l agreed.what broke the camel's back was this wedding class, and the kind waiting period in between his date and our chosen date..it was awfully amidst the Winter season .Soooo...we went ahead and did a Civil one at the county's Court House..Case was closed,that same weekend we went to our provincial diocese and the priest blessed our union and so was it.. The reception wasn't as good as we planned it, but it turned out simple and neat for our inner circle to share our Joyful moments with us ..
Mern I was touched by your story my dear but I'm glad you love your husband regardless
I love your energy ma💕.... So much vibe here, I enjoyed watching💯, Birthing Nezeperempe is really a smart idea....I listened to your story on Loudly woman series and I'm really sorry it didn't turn out the way you wanted,you deserve a happier one💃
You made the right decision and that God for the beautiful marriage that you have.
You need to write a book with these storytime experiences
Finally! av been waiting for Neze peperempe❤️💃🏾💃🏾
About your wedding day be comforted and know this : you have the most blessings of a caring husband , children , a happy home , best In-laws and you are doing what you love. That cannot be said for many who married in church with their faces covered . If it was a battle , you won .
Your choice was right. Life is deeper. Am happy you didn’t allow church destroy what you had with your husband.
I have another couple I counseled to follow love and life, not Church dogma, and they’re doing well today
Its eye opening for me to realize some people get married in their husband's church.
It's almost a no brainer for a yoruba girl like me to marry in my parent's church, it wasnt even debatable.
My parents attend rccg and his family attend seventh day church, the issue would have been what day it will hold but my husband stood his ground and it was on a Saturday
That pregnancy test thing ehn, I had to go to the church designated hospital for blood test 2 days to my wedding accompanied by a church elder, it's very invasive and the man was just giving snide comments of threats that the church will cancel if I was pregnant
Very invasive and insane
The church in some countries really have a long way to go
it's the church elder for me. Why try to tell you what you already know.
In my case the Dcn. was so warm to me. I took the test and I requested for the result only for me to be informed that it will be sent to the pastor after I paid for it o.😂
@@Graceshittu01 I paid too and the result was sent to the pastor. And the pastor now called my dad to tell him congratulations the wedding will hold.
Wedding planning especially church with the rigorous counselling (which I actually enjoyed and think is important) was stressful
Hi Neze, I can understand what you went through and In Loudly Woman by Nelo you made a comment about not being committed to God anymore because of that experience. My Question is How is your relationship life with God now?
You still look beautiful though, more bliss Neze❤️
Strong and true to their faith
I don't even know how I feel about this but honestly this doesn't feel right at all. I'm glad we are more enlightened now and understand that we can object some of these unfair treatment. I hope that sharing your story would help you heal through this process. Sending you loads of hugs from here.🤗🤗🤗🤗
10 year anniversary renewal celebration is pending 🤩
Aww this is so touching, but we give God all the glory for where you are today. Thanks God for the love, peace and joy in your home. It's the same with some pentecostal churches., They do blessing of marriage not holy matrimony. All Thanks to God. Everyone has a story to tell.
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Different culture in Nigeria with the different ways they conduct wedding. The yorubas usually conduct both traditional and church wedding in the bride's place because it is seen as a sign of respect to the bride's family. I know the northern christians conduct church wedding in the man's church as well as the Igbos. I think wedding should be a thing of knowing what is obtainable in the culture especially if it is intertribal marriage not a matter of church because I know the Yorubas will never leave where they are to go wed their daughter in the groom's church except in extreme cases so the basic is understand the culture or tradition.
My sweet Nezepeperempe love 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
My experience was that I wedded in my husbands church. And it was a lovely decision. It's not like a I had a church of my own, Waldo my parents church would never have accepted me.
Congratulations once again beautiful Barrister Neze ... I really feel for you but am happy seeing your Children at back of the car... May God continue to add honey to your marriage lovely woman. Joy Ikpi Abuja
Had missed your family vlogs please upload more of these
Mme you made the right decision. Your home is your church. The unity and bond that exist between father mother and children surpass rules of a church. At that point you showed your husband respect over you hurt, and trust me that is the almost debt he has over you. Your happiness is above some church regulations . Trust me when I say I am a staunch catholic woman, from Cameroon . Your home is the first temple of God.
Continue to honor, respect and cherish that man and he will love you more and more. May God almighty give you peace over the feeling of your wedding day and continue to protect and bless your beautiful home AMEN🙏🏿👍🏻🫶🏼
Thank you ma
Hey Girly our awaited first video is here. Congratssssss🎉🏅🏅🏅❤️❤️❤️
This is interesting story, I have a friend that have similar experience
For the pregnancy test being conducted in churches,I personally think it is a wrong way of determining purity as they think because it encourages abortion. Singles that intend to get marry should know what is obtainable in their church so that it can guide them and avoid unnecessary dramas.
See you today, strong and loved by you huby
Yes ooo i missed the peperempe part of the intro at your other channel
Awesome! What a Happy Home. Neze Peperempe!♥️🍅
I love this gal ❤
Finally there’s a video here 🥳🥳… So sorry about that day ma’am.
Nice to be here, loving the vibe
Well it’s heartbreaking to say the least. No woman should be sad on her wedding day.
I am so sorry to hear what you went through, Neze. It is difficult to understand exactly why churches do this but perhaps had there been pre-marital counselling beforehand, this pain could have been avoided.
Since the traditional marriage states or infers that you are already married, perhaps those who go through this way should consider just having a church blessing. The alternative being the full church wedding is done before the traditional rites.
The Anglican Church does not conduct full Holy Matrimony services for couples who are already expecting, and some non traditional churches utterly refuse to join such couples, as the deed has already been done without the spiritual blessing. My late mum had to plead for a cousin to be married in the Anglican Church we attended after her parents’ church refused. Her dress had to be re sewn with an underlay of blue under the the white lace, was not allowed to cover her face but her dad walked her down the aisle, she was the only child of her parents. The exhortation that day was a word to all young unmarried ladies in the service: if you are not properly wedded before God and man, you should not be intimate with a man.
This was back in 1976.
My take on the wedding being conducted in the bride’s church is split: a) it is the bride honouring her parents and saying a public farewell and receiving a send off blessing from the spiritual home she was brought up in.
I said split but on second thought, I want to have peace throughout today and I do not want anyone coming after me on RUclips with guns blazing, so let me stop here.
Again Neze, I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I know from experience that sharing painful times does bring clarity and most importantly, healing to the inner you. I pray that that the Balm of Gilead wipes your pain and heals you totally regarding this issue. In Jesus Name. Amen. Stay blessed and favoured.🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
If you want to wed in the church please no sexual relationship to your partner till after wedding if not both the couple and the reverend father or pastor have sinned against God almighty because the white gown means purity thanks.
I love your family alot ❤️
At least your trad was beautiful for you. Console your self with that Nne.
So happy to be here as this first video drops..
much love from Nezeville
I’m here ! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
I am so angry about this!My husband and I both Anglicans. Married in 1994 almost 20 years before you and no one asked me to take a test. This definitely did not happen everywhere and not in my time or to me!! What the heck?? What??? I am so angry!!! So sorry!!!
Wow this is really hurting,am so sorry you passed through all of that.. I and my husband are both Catholics so it wasn’t any problem for us,infact during our marriage classes the councilor was like if I get pregnant bfr the wedding day I shouldn’t try to take it out ooh, they are going to wed me like that.
Exactly ... Ladies should be encouraged never to do abortions.....
Some Ladies now do abortions all because they want to wear WHITE WEDDING DRESS AND AVOID BLESSING OF MARRIAGE AND AVOID COLOURED WEDDING DRESS.
ABORTION IS EVIL .