I'm HSP and as a man, its even harder. I cry/get angry etc easily. After work, my emotion and mind would be drained. The slightest annoyance in my boss' voice would be enough to ruin my day. Luckily my wife understood HSPs (she is a psychologist). Thank you so much for the video 😊
Oh yeah, I can imagine it's a lot harder as a man. The societal expectation is for men to be almost free of sensitivity and emotion, which is incredibly unhelpful. I'm glad you found someone who understands this and what it means to be an HSP and who supports you! Sensitivity is not a weakness, it's a strength, it just goes along with different personal boundaries.
You described my last career perfectly. I'm working a job in the trades now, but I need to make more money. I'm so lost. I CANNOT put myself thru another career like that. It nearly ended my life.
Its exhausting, makes me feel uncomfortable in daily life even though my friends and family understand. Seems to get worse as I get older. Thank you for your video.
I prefer to call it a highly aware person . Most people are asleep almost dumb and unaware of life. It’s the world that is out of balance with all the unnecessary noise and information crammed into our brains,uninvited. it’s us aware folk that have to analyze it all to help those that are unaware. ❤
Thanks SO much for this as I was always embarrassed being a GUY wired as a "hsp." And I for one need LOTS of alone time to "recharge" my battery" lol. My wife is wired the opposite. When I get over stimulated, I find a quick hug or sitting on her lap so calming. 😎 This video helped so much, thanks!
😮😊This is the Best Video😮😢I searched i got you. Youre so decent. Women. Wow. Respect from Bharat IIndia. I will journal these great points by you miss 😊Dr thank you sooomuch.❤👌💐😊
Yes, cities are very stimulating and can get a bit much, especially if we‘re not accustomed to it. I‘m glad the video was helpful. Wish you a good bounce-back time after the trip now ❣️
Glad you found sth. new to try out! Lots of success with this. It may work to different degrees with different triggers/stimuli/situations, but it's definitely an important strategy. I used to get really overstimulated speaking in front of groups. As a teenager I even fainted in front of the whole class once. Since then, I've become so used to it, I genuinely enjoy it and don't feel overstimulated anymore.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank You. It is really funny how our traits and experiences shape our lives and understanding. Perceptions and labelling can dramatically alter these perceptions. I really enjoy your videos. They are so clear and teach us a lot about who we are as individuals and the steps we can use to lessen the suffering we all contend with within our lives. Best Wishes 🤍.
@@Teasehirt Thank you, I'm glad to hear you're enjoying my videos ♥ Yes, our perception and experience changes dramatically when we use a different language or change the way we make sense of things.
I’m so grateful to hear this. I am attending a 6 day, 8 hours a day of training. And halfway through I am in tears and feel totally overwhelmed. Almost everyone else is doing fine. But I just hit a wall and I’m done.
My mom thinks I’m as strong as her emotionally & physically and I’m like no ma’am we are all different. I get so mad when she says I’m crazy like bro my heart is gonna just collapse cuz I want take too much negativity/noise.
That sounds like a challenging situation. It‘s painful when we‘re not seen for who we are or allowed to be that way. The most important thing is what you know to be true about yourself and not letting another person take that from you 💕 Maybe you‘d like to watch my video on emotional intimacy vs enmeshment, I touch upon that there. I also have a few on emotional autonomy that are relevant to this.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank you! I’ll be looking into your videos for it. I’ve had a real panic attack a few months ago and I feel very different now. Thank you so much for responding!
Hey Dr. Maika, you continue to inspire us with these very interesting topics and give relevant insights into the very suble parts of our lifes. A million "Thank you" to you, for this beautiful work you do! Thank you for sharing your professional understandings. I am sure you help a lot of people with this! :) I keep watching your stuff and share it with friends!
Thank you, Soulmate08! I'm glad to hear you're still here and finding value in my videos :-) Thank you for the appreciative comment, comments like these are always encouraging to me. 🌞
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Great to be here 😊 Doc could u tell what are the 3 most crucial books for dealing with worry, uncertainty, danger & extreme emotions as an empath or sensitive person ??
Hi, it's great to have you here as well! 🙋 Some important books on these topics are: Robert Leahy: The Worry Cure David Carbonell: The Worry Trick S. Mars, C. Pittman & E. Karle: Rewire Your Anxious Brain
Hi! I'm glad you liked the video. I'd love to have subtitles for all languages, but they need to be added manually/specifically for each language. So I unfortunately can't just turn them on, someone who speaks that language would need to write them in.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Hi ! yes, I know that feeling....I translate most of my video's. But almost all users are aware that the translation sometimes is off, and that about 98% is correct. They will forgive you the few words that are wrong. If you sent me the original text (copy it out of the translation-section) Ill proofread the Dutch version for you if you like. That's step one.
@@10000wordsMenzo ah ok, so you use Google translate or something similar to create an automatic translation for your videos and then you copy and paste that into the relevant section on RUclips? But how does it synchronize which sentence to show when? I manually created subtitles for my first video (German) and it took AGES, so I never did it again after that...
Ok... Do you use an external software? I did some research, and it seems I would need a software that generates a subtitle file for each language and then upload that? If you do it differently, would you mind sharing a step-by-step instruction with me?
All your suggestions are fine and I've known this about myself for years. However, there's a huge problem that nobody seems to want to address. Simply put, poor people aren't able to do a lot of those things. As for unhoused people, under constant surveillance by those who purport to be "helping" with absolutely no awareness of the damage they cause with their demands and insensitivity! This is not being addressed at all. The first book I found many years ago, "Sensitivity, The Agony And The Ecstasy" was written by a psychologist who said he recognized the majority of his patients were very sensitive and decried "the dirth of literature" on the subject. I would not be at all surprised if the majority of unhoused people are highly sensitive, yet, as I said, it isn't addressed For me, your words are more important for those claiming to help, rather than for me personally. Please take this seriously, acknowledge the harm being done to poor people, and gather others to speak out about this Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! I agree, there are a lot of self-leadership sklls that are harder or not possible to do when someone is poor and/or unhoused and most countries could do a better job at supporting everyone who is in such a situation.
Yes! They are different and can be mistaken for one another. Also, they can both occur at the same time. One of the main difference is in how HSPs and people with a spectrum disorder experience social situations. There are also differences in brain activity, like how the brain processes emotions.
They can be very helpf for HSPs. I recommend intentionally not wearing them from time to time, though, so as to train the brain not to become even more sensitive to acustic triggers.
I haven’t seen any specific research on this question. The understanding that is most common at the moment as I gather is: Yes, there is a difference. Someone can be highly sensitive, but not an empath, but an empath is always highly sensitive (so above-average empathic ability is seen as a possible but not necessary domain/manifestation of sensitivity).
I wonder what the cause of this is or how it is linked to mental health. It's caused a great deal of stress for me and it gets worse as my mental health gets worse
I'm sorry to hear this is becoming more and more of a burden to you. There are lots and lots of different kinds of sensitivities and with that also different kinds of causes. Sometimes it's more physical, like certain physicall illnesses can make a person more sensitive, but past experiences, trauma or mental illnesses can also make a person more sensitive. And sometimes it's a sensitivity a person is born with as discussed when psychology talks about a "highly sensitive person". Any of these causes can feel very similar... So it's always important to get to the bottom of one's sensitivity: where is it coming from, when did it start and is there anything that could or needs to be taken care of (and under the guidance of which health professionals) so it doesn't become a burden to a person's health. The studies I've come across regarding the connection between being an HSP and mental health are finding that when someone is highly sensitive, it's even more important for them than for others to learn and apply the kind of skills discussed in this video. When a person gets good at managing their sensitivity, it can even make them stronger in the long run.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank you for taking the time to write this! It's certainly something I was born with, as far back as I can remember loud or unpleasant sounds distressed me, and my sense of touch could (and still can) become very keen. I was also diagnosed with GAD at age 13 and have gone through multiple long depressions. Trauma seems to have a bit of an influence as to what sounds will distress me but when anxiety/depression is worse it makes the hyper focusing much worse. I also started dissociating a lot which I attribute mostly to my mental health but certainly is also linked to sensitivity. If I endure physical pain like a bad fall or something as well it hikes the sensitivity through the roof. You mentioned it could become a strength and I've certainly found this to be true; I've been a musician since I was 5 and plan to pursue it as my career now and my sensitive hearing has enhanced (if not caused) my talents in so many ways
It sounds like you've gone through a lot, and also like you've asked for and gotten support in making sense of it all, which is great. I wish you all the best for your future, for your health and with unfolding your musical talents! 💖 I'm glad to read that you're so aware of how your sensivity is connected to the experiences (challenging and others) you're making. That is such a strong fundament for managing it well.
I'm a hsp and I love it. But being too nice is a prob so I try too hard to stop being too nice. You know it's not good with relationships and people, I have problems bc of it. Should I change or how can I cope with this ?plz reply
Does anyone have this happen you'll be getting something out of your back of your car and people are going by and looking in and their dog is coming over by you and you're trying to maybe put together a sandwich or organize your private things and they're looking in and it just drives me nuts I never know where to park and they parked that right next to you with their dog and their kid and their smoke and you go move the car and sometimes they just keep following you to better and better spots
How about the old guy label of being "A high maintainance woman" This is what I tell people now, "Look at the world right now and tell the truth, don't we NEED more sensitvity?
People can be born with a higher sensitivity, and it can come from experiences (also trauma) and the way we deal with life (for example, if we keep avoiding challenges and facing our fears, we'll become more and more anxious about/sensitive to challenges). If you'd like to hear more about this, this is my part one video for the HSP: ruclips.net/video/BgE6i018HUU/видео.html
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I'm HSP and as a man, its even harder. I cry/get angry etc easily. After work, my emotion and mind would be drained. The slightest annoyance in my boss' voice would be enough to ruin my day. Luckily my wife understood HSPs (she is a psychologist). Thank you so much for the video 😊
Oh yeah, I can imagine it's a lot harder as a man. The societal expectation is for men to be almost free of sensitivity and emotion, which is incredibly unhelpful. I'm glad you found someone who understands this and what it means to be an HSP and who supports you! Sensitivity is not a weakness, it's a strength, it just goes along with different personal boundaries.
I'm like that
You described my last career perfectly. I'm working a job in the trades now, but I need to make more money. I'm so lost. I CANNOT put myself thru another career like that. It nearly ended my life.
Its exhausting, makes me feel uncomfortable in daily life even though my friends and family understand. Seems to get worse as I get older. Thank you for your video.
All the best to you!
I prefer to call it a highly aware person . Most people are asleep almost dumb and unaware of life. It’s the world that is out of balance with all the unnecessary noise and information crammed into our brains,uninvited. it’s us aware folk that have to analyze it all to help those that are unaware. ❤
Thanks SO much for this as I was always embarrassed being a GUY wired as a "hsp." And I for one need LOTS of alone time to "recharge" my battery" lol. My wife is wired the opposite. When I get over stimulated, I find a quick hug or sitting on her lap so calming. 😎 This video helped so much, thanks!
😮😊This is the Best Video😮😢I searched i got you. Youre so decent. Women. Wow. Respect from Bharat IIndia. I will journal these great points by you miss 😊Dr thank you sooomuch.❤👌💐😊
Sensitivity is STRENGTH!!!!
ah thank you
Yes, cities are very stimulating and can get a bit much, especially if we‘re not accustomed to it. I‘m glad the video was helpful. Wish you a good bounce-back time after the trip now ❣️
I have never practiced getting use to an over amount of stimulation. Didn't think that was possible. I will try it. Ty.
Glad you found sth. new to try out! Lots of success with this. It may work to different degrees with different triggers/stimuli/situations, but it's definitely an important strategy. I used to get really overstimulated speaking in front of groups. As a teenager I even fainted in front of the whole class once. Since then, I've become so used to it, I genuinely enjoy it and don't feel overstimulated anymore.
Great insight. It is indeed the highly refined nervous system that we posess that can be a curse and blessing..
This was awesome - I am such a news junkie, although I know its spikes my anxiety.
Glad you liked it and thanks for suggesting this topic, it resonated with a lot of people!
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank You. It is really funny how our traits and experiences shape our lives and understanding. Perceptions and labelling can dramatically alter these perceptions. I really enjoy your videos. They are so clear and teach us a lot about who we are as individuals and the steps we can use to lessen the suffering we all contend with within our lives.
Best Wishes 🤍.
@@Teasehirt Thank you, I'm glad to hear you're enjoying my videos ♥ Yes, our perception and experience changes dramatically when we use a different language or change the way we make sense of things.
I’m so grateful to hear this. I am attending a 6 day, 8 hours a day of training. And halfway through I am in tears and feel totally overwhelmed. Almost everyone else is doing fine. But I just hit a wall and I’m done.
My mom thinks I’m as strong as her emotionally & physically and I’m like no ma’am we are all different. I get so mad when she says I’m crazy like bro my heart is gonna just collapse cuz I want take too much negativity/noise.
That sounds like a challenging situation. It‘s painful when we‘re not seen for who we are or allowed to be that way. The most important thing is what you know to be true about yourself and not letting another person take that from you 💕 Maybe you‘d like to watch my video on emotional intimacy vs enmeshment, I touch upon that there. I also have a few on emotional autonomy that are relevant to this.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank you! I’ll be looking into your videos for it. I’ve had a real panic attack a few months ago and I feel very different now. Thank you so much for responding!
Great topic!!! And thank you so, so much also for the link to the "Relaxation Affirmations" - love it❣️ 👍🥰
I‘m glad my videos are of value to you! ☀️🙂🌈🌸
Hey Dr. Maika, you continue to inspire us with these very interesting topics and give relevant insights into the very suble parts of our lifes. A million "Thank you" to you, for this beautiful work you do! Thank you for sharing your professional understandings. I am sure you help a lot of people with this! :) I keep watching your stuff and share it with friends!
Thank you, Soulmate08! I'm glad to hear you're still here and finding value in my videos :-) Thank you for the appreciative comment, comments like these are always encouraging to me. 🌞
Remember to subscribe if you're new here 🙂 👉 t1p.de/2o0n and what you can watch next:
▶ 4 Signs Of A Highly Sensitive Person I Is It Biological Or Learned? I What Does It Mean?
ruclips.net/video/BgE6i018HUU/видео.html
▶ How To Be Empathic And Emotionally Resilient At The Same Time
ruclips.net/video/hlt_EGwT7SA/видео.html
▶ How To Make Decisions Using Both Reasoning And Intuition
ruclips.net/video/ipZKeR5Tfew/видео.html
▶ Emotional Agility: The Mental Habits And Emotions Of Resilient People
ruclips.net/video/iILW2ieI5HE/видео.html
▶ Anti-Stress-Affirmations: Goodbye Overcommitment and Overcaring
ruclips.net/video/am1DB69olzU/видео.html
▶ Relaxation-Affirmations: Giving Yourself Permission To Rest
ruclips.net/video/4TggRz-f2qA/видео.html
▶ Boundaries Playlist:
ruclips.net/p/PLzRKYOPcN3c8cAsy94uaCWyY6p1Nro4ZC
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Doc could u tell what are the 3 most crucial books for dealing with worry, uncertainty, danger & extreme emotions as an empath or sensitive person ??
Hi, it's great to have you here as well! 🙋
Some important books on these topics are:
Robert Leahy: The Worry Cure
David Carbonell: The Worry Trick
S. Mars, C. Pittman & E. Karle: Rewire Your Anxious Brain
Thank you, great video!
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Hi. Good info. Could you switch on subtitles (in Dutch preferably) too, to help more people in other languages too?
Hi! I'm glad you liked the video. I'd love to have subtitles for all languages, but they need to be added manually/specifically for each language. So I unfortunately can't just turn them on, someone who speaks that language would need to write them in.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Hi ! yes, I know that feeling....I translate most of my video's. But almost all users are aware that the translation sometimes is off, and that about 98% is correct. They will forgive you the few words that are wrong. If you sent me the original text (copy it out of the translation-section) Ill proofread the Dutch version for you if you like. That's step one.
@@10000wordsMenzo ah ok, so you use Google translate or something similar to create an automatic translation for your videos and then you copy and paste that into the relevant section on RUclips? But how does it synchronize which sentence to show when?
I manually created subtitles for my first video (German) and it took AGES, so I never did it again after that...
@@DrMaikaSteinborn There are a few tricks to do, but I have some tools for that too...Not a big problem
Ok... Do you use an external software? I did some research, and it seems I would need a software that generates a subtitle file for each language and then upload that? If you do it differently, would you mind sharing a step-by-step instruction with me?
All your suggestions are fine and I've known this about myself for years.
However, there's a huge problem that nobody seems to want to address. Simply put, poor people aren't able to do a lot of those things. As for unhoused people, under constant surveillance by those who purport to be "helping" with absolutely no awareness of the damage they cause with their demands and insensitivity! This is not being addressed at all.
The first book I found many years ago, "Sensitivity, The Agony And The Ecstasy" was written by a psychologist who said he recognized the majority of his patients were very sensitive and decried "the dirth of literature" on the subject. I would not be at all surprised if the majority of unhoused people are highly sensitive, yet, as I said, it isn't addressed
For me, your words are more important for those claiming to help, rather than for me personally.
Please take this seriously, acknowledge the harm being done to poor people, and gather others to speak out about this
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! I agree, there are a lot of self-leadership sklls that are harder or not possible to do when someone is poor and/or unhoused and most countries could do a better job at supporting everyone who is in such a situation.
Wow, that was great.
Glad to hear that ☀️
superr!!
🙂🙏🏻
Is there a very fine line between having a spectrum disorder and being highly sensitive?
I’ve recently thought about that as well. I’m Interested in finding this out also.
Yes! They are different and can be mistaken for one another. Also, they can both occur at the same time. One of the main difference is in how HSPs and people with a spectrum disorder experience social situations. There are also differences in brain activity, like how the brain processes emotions.
Would noise cancelling headphones be a bad or good strategy?
They can be very helpf for HSPs. I recommend intentionally not wearing them from time to time, though, so as to train the brain not to become even more sensitive to acustic triggers.
Is there a difference from being a highly sensitive person and being an empath?
I haven’t seen any specific research on this question. The understanding that is most common at the moment as I gather is: Yes, there is a difference. Someone can be highly sensitive, but not an empath, but an empath is always highly sensitive (so above-average empathic ability is seen as a possible but not necessary domain/manifestation of sensitivity).
I wonder what the cause of this is or how it is linked to mental health. It's caused a great deal of stress for me and it gets worse as my mental health gets worse
I'm sorry to hear this is becoming more and more of a burden to you.
There are lots and lots of different kinds of sensitivities and with that also different kinds of causes. Sometimes it's more physical, like certain physicall illnesses can make a person more sensitive, but past experiences, trauma or mental illnesses can also make a person more sensitive. And sometimes it's a sensitivity a person is born with as discussed when psychology talks about a "highly sensitive person". Any of these causes can feel very similar... So it's always important to get to the bottom of one's sensitivity: where is it coming from, when did it start and is there anything that could or needs to be taken care of (and under the guidance of which health professionals) so it doesn't become a burden to a person's health.
The studies I've come across regarding the connection between being an HSP and mental health are finding that when someone is highly sensitive, it's even more important for them than for others to learn and apply the kind of skills discussed in this video. When a person gets good at managing their sensitivity, it can even make them stronger in the long run.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank you for taking the time to write this! It's certainly something I was born with, as far back as I can remember loud or unpleasant sounds distressed me, and my sense of touch could (and still can) become very keen. I was also diagnosed with GAD at age 13 and have gone through multiple long depressions. Trauma seems to have a bit of an influence as to what sounds will distress me but when anxiety/depression is worse it makes the hyper focusing much worse. I also started dissociating a lot which I attribute mostly to my mental health but certainly is also linked to sensitivity. If I endure physical pain like a bad fall or something as well it hikes the sensitivity through the roof. You mentioned it could become a strength and I've certainly found this to be true; I've been a musician since I was 5 and plan to pursue it as my career now and my sensitive hearing has enhanced (if not caused) my talents in so many ways
It sounds like you've gone through a lot, and also like you've asked for and gotten support in making sense of it all, which is great. I wish you all the best for your future, for your health and with unfolding your musical talents! 💖
I'm glad to read that you're so aware of how your sensivity is connected to the experiences (challenging and others) you're making. That is such a strong fundament for managing it well.
@@DrMaikaSteinborn thank you so much, and thank you for helping me make sense of things a little better with this video and your replies :)
I'm a hsp and I love it. But being too nice is a prob so I try too hard to stop being too nice. You know it's not good with relationships and people, I have problems bc of it. Should I change or how can I cope with this ?plz reply
Hi! You can check out the videos in my "boundaries" playlist to learn more about this topic: ruclips.net/p/PLzRKYOPcN3c8cAsy94uaCWyY6p1Nro4ZC
@@DrMaikaSteinborn thanks
That thumbnail is me 😅
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Does anyone have this happen you'll be getting something out of your back of your car and people are going by and looking in and their dog is coming over by you and you're trying to maybe put together a sandwich or organize your private things and they're looking in and it just drives me nuts I never know where to park and they parked that right next to you with their dog and their kid and their smoke and you go move the car and sometimes they just keep following you to better and better spots
How about the old guy label of being "A high maintainance woman"
This is what I tell people now, "Look at the world right now and tell the truth, don't we NEED more sensitvity?
💯
Are people born HSPs or does trauma cause it? Because from what I’ve heard, only a tiny part of the population is HSP
People can be born with a higher sensitivity, and it can come from experiences (also trauma) and the way we deal with life (for example, if we keep avoiding challenges and facing our fears, we'll become more and more anxious about/sensitive to challenges). If you'd like to hear more about this, this is my part one video for the HSP: ruclips.net/video/BgE6i018HUU/видео.html