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I'm grateful to God that I'm living the life that I want don't mind to show off. I had wedding that I like, I have not so handsome husband that I like..I was quietly have been living and travelling for 7 years..and I don't need other jealous to be happy...on the contrary, who can be happy if many people are hating you because of jealous
My mother used to tell me about what you’re describing as flex culture. She said people would buy a lot of things just to show off. And she also told me that real well-to-do people didn’t worry about buying these things. Rather, they were more concerned about saving their money and enjoying life.
My flex is knowing luxuries won't make you happy. I'm ambivalent about Anna's content, but she's an intriguing woman, I like seeing her change and put things into questions.
Some of the happiest people I've ever seen in my life are the mountain people of morocco . They don't even know what a chanel bag is and they laugh and smile and eat fresh food..breathe fresh air .. sometimes I wonder how the world became so obsessed with material goods as if it matters in the grand scheme of things...and yes I drive a bmw and have 2 chanel bags but I can easily go without those ever again in favor of a more simple, natural life . Just my two cents ...☺️
@@AnnaBeyOfficiali think these triggered people usually comment before finishing the video, so they missed the point especially your message at the end. 😅
I think ‘flex culture’ is an addiction. Not necessarily the items, clothes or cars. It’s the response of people. The likes, the comments and even the jealousy. I think it has the same effect as narcissistic supply for narcissists.
I agree. I listen to others say things like “they not going to want to see me in this” or “I know they waiting to see how my house look” (family member that purchased a new home. Who is they? I don’t believe they care as much.
I'm so glad there was no social media in my childhood/teenage years. My parents didn't have much money, but I never felt poor and never had the feeling of missing out because no one was showing off their lifestyle. I don't want to experience what some people with low self esteem go through these days. That's Anna's best video by the way, such an important topic ❤️
@@gmaxh4549 yes..pre internet era was the coolest time for teenagers ...being a 90s kids...we just focused on having more fun outdoors and not how we look ...cz nobody really cared about those things...
I really realized how you've become more self assured and also likeable in your videos. You have a much more natural approach to all these things now and are so much more relaxed and convincing meanwhile. You developed great! Thumbs up!
Dear Anna, When I saw your content a few years ago, even though I found you interesting, I felt it was a bit too focused on becoming or looking rich. And since one or two years. I feel like your content mostly promotes real ‚class‘, in a sense of acting respectful and empathetic, living a healthy lifestyle with a healthy self worth, and pursuing the things we want by positive changes. I really love how it’s not anymore so much about finding a certain type of partner but how to be classy yourself. And as you said in recent videos, one can have little money and still be an elegant and classy. I am so happy for you, to see your development to so much healthy self confidence independent of flexing or money, you are just classy and I‘m here for it 🥰
That's exactly what I thought. She also listens to her followers' opinions and reflect on her previous content. A very down to earth classy woman. I love Anna, I can listen to her voice all day
This is what self-improvment means. When people are improving themselves, they don't usually like their previous points of view, and see the changes and are never shy to share them with others. Thank you, Anna! So happy that the Universe made our ways crossed ❤
Definitely we outgrow certain thoughts and opinions with time, the same way we outgrow taste in music/food/clothes/activities etc. Not all of course, I still have quite a lot of opinions and tastes that I'm holding on to :) But with time I have gained wider perspective and simply don't care for the same things I cared for 5 years ago. 10 years ago etc.
@@AnnaBeyOfficialI really enjoyed this video. I've been following you for a while, and you're like an awesome cousin or friend that gives good insights and shows us how to be classy. I'm all about self awareness, improvement, etc. And I like your tips on feeling and looking elegant.
There's so much freedom that comes with losing the desire to impress people. Of course many of us want to be well liked and well received. As Anna said, it's a natural human instinct. What I try to think about whenever I'm buying something or posting something is: "do I like my reason for doing this?" I've found it helps me make better decisions.
Absolutely. @theheartbreaknurse Some of us used to post online [ahem] MySpace and Facebook travel, luxurious meals, shopping bags pictures filled with items and other activities. While posting some memories online is great, there is a fine line between sharing a special moment with family and flexing your wealth and health with everyone on social media. As the question you stated, "Do I like the reason for doing this?" "What is my picture trying to convey?" "Will this picture go on public or private posting?" Personally, I enjoy creating personalized albums over time and only pick out pictures I know someday I will share with friends, my own children and my future spouse. These pictures showcase the happy, sad, difficult times and other phases of my life.
Oh wow, what an excellent question to ask!! Also, I’m decluttering right now and it’s working in reverse for me as well. “Do I like the reason I’m feeling the need to keep the item?”
My flex is my pumpkin patch! It’s only like 15 pumpkin plants in pots in my backyard, but I finally got a female and male flower to bloom today, and hand pollinated it and I feel very proud to have gotten this far with them. It’s the little things in life that make me happy. After I had my first baby, I realized I truly don’t care what anyone thinks of me. As long as I’m doing my best to raise a good human I am happy.
@@softsophisticate just male and female flowers! The male flowers pollen gets in to the female flower, and then a pumpkin starts growing from the base of the female flower. Should be very similar to your summer squash! I recommend! It’s lots of fun!
I really liked how this video was filmed- almost like a podcast- and you're absolutely right about flex culture. it's more about competition and less about individuality and self respect. That's literally why trends are the most transient- after a couple months all the money is wasted on clothes that are no longer "in." Timeless fashion forever
This is my favorite video of yours to date, Anna - outstanding. I remember when getting married, all the hype around the "wedding flex" - and one of my friends at the time said "it's not the wedding, it's the marriage". The best things in life we cannot buy - our friends, family, and love.
My sentiments are like yours, give me a great marriage and an ok wedding, the wedding will be just a day, the Marriage will be till death do as part!!!
Even though we know the best things in life our free it often gets missed that we actually go not value that in our society in pop culture. Definitely not in social media for the most part.
I feel like I live in a completely different world than what you showed. I had no idea what Flex Culture was until this video. It's crazy to me. I have no social media besides watching YT which is curated to my interests. When you aren't exposed to influencers, celebs, and all these fake people on the daily, life is completely peaceful. I don't need any of these narcissists in my life especially when they are complete strangers. It's sad to see such an unhealthy attachment to consumerism and unattainable goals for most people. Great video!
Most commonly yes, showing off in particular status, privilege, wealth, status symbols etc. But of course, flexing can be done in so many different ways as discussed in the video.
I think flex culture is definitely getting old. I definitely felt influenced by social media to always only show of myself my good traits and material possessions. And I find it so disgusting when others do it. Humble. Nailed it.
You speaking up and acknowledging how some of your past videos were (kind of) toxic is a flex and refreshing. Good to see you taking accountability in such an elegant way.
In my younger years I cared too much what other people thought of me. The older I get though, the less I care who I impress and it's SO FREEING. I'm 1000x happier in my 40s as an eccentric cat lady living life for ME than I ever was in my youth when I used to crave validation and follow trends I didn't even like just to fit in. I used to worry endlessly about being thought of as weird, now I embrace it. I'm not cool or trendy or rich, but I'm happy.
Anna, I think you nailed this talk towards the end, when you drew the difference between (1) showing off and appearing to be "better" than you are, and (2) embracing your privileged lifestyle gratefully, and daring to share it. That was an original insight, and very useful advice. It deserves much more analysis, especially as it is VERY difficult to draw the line. It would deserve a whole series of videos!
I'm sure some people will miss that part as it came towards the end of the video, BUT important to know that there is a difference between the toxic flexing I was referring to throughout the video, and then what can be perceived as flexing, although it's literally just a personal showing glimpses from their lives and that life happens to be luxurious. But they're not showing glimpses from the perspective of showing off, they're just showing / sharing. I hope my ladies will be able to see the difference.
Yes I’d love a series of videos where the line of just showing off and just showing your wealth because it’s a part of your life. No one shows off there UC penny goods. When someone just photographs their designer bag I definitely would say that it’s just about “showing off” about how much money that you have.
Great video, Anna! I love how you've grown and changed your views over the years! And I love that you're not ashamed to embrace that you might have been wrong before. ❤️
Thank you! It would be strange not to evolve or change anything since 5 years. Especially as I invest in my personal growth. It would be sad if none of it had any effect, imagine!? 😅
I agree, Anna is always helping us grow as well. Us human’s need to evolve and learn or we will forever be stuck in a one mind point of view. I love that Anna is always giving us new material to learn ❤.
I am sure that working with a therapist has helped you evolve, Anna, but I also think that just the fact that you have matured has also lead you to deeper thinking. Glad to see this😊
One thing flex cultures exposes is, most of these people are really not happy. Buying things and showing them off is temporary happiness, microwaved happiness. I make good money and I’m a sneaker head, I love my sneaker collection. Been collecting since 2015 just about, not once have I posted my collection online because I collect them for me, not for others.
Hello Anna! I have to say how much I appreciate you showing your own self-transformation journey so that we can be comfortable in pursuing it for ourselves. I am also saddened by the coarsening of culture globally. Thank you for all you do out there. You are benefitting so many people!
all of social media is a flex. it can be mildly entertaining or totally obnoxious. it’s nice to feel connected to people through social media. But it’s very easy to feel like a failure in multiple ways seeing all this on a daily basis. i watched you from far back and i love your growth. i love your message of elegance, which is available to everyone.
I thought that I had to limit myself by not doing things that are not rich and elegant that I enjoy like camping, rock climbing and extreme sports. Yet I was not getting happy. So I decided to do adventure sports and still being classy, dressing appropriately and elegantly for all occasions and still enjoy once in a while the finer things in life.
I unfollowed you a few years ago because I didn't like what you were teaching. However, I stumbled across one of your videos a few days ago, and decided to watch. I noticed the difference and the change! Amazing! ❤️
I love the way your content has changed and developed over the years - I wasn't a big fan of all those "how to look rich and start hanging with afluent people" videos at all. But now it's much more about being the best version of yourself instead of "fake it till you make it" and I think it's a great change
I am so happy to see that I am not the only one who sees this topic in the same way. I despise the flex culture so much that I live “poor”, I take care of my finances in a very aggressive fashion so that I can build wealth but, I keep any flexing to a minimum. I much prefer a simple life. Anna, thank you for putting this video out here. 😉
One of the things that is so lovely about you, Anna, is that you are always self-reflecting and growing. You're humble, and you take accountability. I will never regret clicking on the video that introduced us, and I'm grateful to "know" you. 🙂
The answer is to go back to country side. To go back to simple life. And I understood that you want that too Anna. I hope your dream will come true. ❤️
One thing is to be a materialistic person full of ego and trying to humiliate others by throwing on their faces a fake perfect life based all on money and fake appearance and another thing is to be classy, educated and to love yourself and be the best you can be. Love this Anna. Can’t wait to purchase some pieces from your line. ❤❤❤
The beautiful thing about authentic people, Anna, is that there is always an upward spiral. You were authentic in previous videos just as you are authentic now. When you believed in aspiring for the more material things, you did not cover it with artifice of being 'above' it - it is a natural human desire. And now, having grow to that level and as you grow past it, you are so genuinely inspiring. And in seeing your journey, we skew ours for the better too :) Such thoughtful content. Thank you!
I LOVE how we’re growing with you, I outgrew a lot of channels in the last two years, so we love the ones who evolve and grow with us. Thank you for all the effort you put into making your videos, VERY appreciated ❤
I grew up poor and still am poor. I have nothing to show off. I'm glad I feel no pressure to show people all the expensive stuff I own just to one up someone or feel good about myself.
It does bring a temporary feeling of happiness and accomplishment. But 99% of the times it just wears off very quickly. And then you need to replace it with a new hit of something else. I think most people who own luxury can relate somehow.
I’m a young man and I do enjoy your videos. You’d be surprised by the amount of people who do not like the trending ugliness around us. I think its about finding a right balance between being pagan in soul, Christian at heart and cosmic in thinking.
If you love yourself for who you are, If you have a house where you feel at home, an animal to love, family you can rely on, friends you can have fun with and trust, clean clothes you feel great in, healthy food to eat, clean water to drink, You are richest person in the world.
Such a subtle rebranding! Shows growth mindset and is an example that we evolve and change and we don’t have to commit to the version of ourselves we were in the past.
Thank you for changing your style. I’m glad the young lady Lissette changed and stopped ruining her life by portraying an unauthentic picture of her life. Simplicity and not flexing is elegant. Just being oneself, treating oneself respectfully, and treating others respectfully is elegance.
I love your content for years Anna! Thanks to you I realized my (now ex) boyfriend was a low value man. You opened my eyes a lot when it comes to values. Thank you for your content!
Beautifully explained Anna! People could be happier with what they have and feel more confident in themselves and their lives if they stopped giving so much power and credence to 'influencers'. Who are these people? Why should their viewpoints determine who we are and what we aspire to? We need to ask ourselves (instead of listening to other's opinions) what would make us happy and what gives us joy. Yes, it might be a Rolls Royce, but it may also be a rocking chair on a porch in the woods. W need to listen to our own hearts, rather than letting strangers influence our choices.
This is my favorite video of yours Anna! I have followed you on and off throughout the years, like phases in life, sometimes you have the space to level up and at times not. I love that your content is evolving with your own values and viewpoints! We are multifaceted and I'm excited to see more of your content :)
Anna, you have been very humble by admitting that you have changed your direction with your videos and are being less 'Flex' yourself. I have noticed your content has changed in particular this year (for the better). Its called growing and developing as person into the better version of you xx
I like how you have grown and transformed yourself, Anna. I recently found your channel and watched few old videos of yours. You have become more natural, wiser and kinder, and tha, along with elegance, is perfect a combination.
This is why I like Canva CEO, Melanie Perkins, I might know her like tip of an iceberg but haven’t heard of her flexing her billions along with husband. She is so simple and even donated millions to eradicate poverty as part of their company goal. I attended one live online training for free where she spoke and she is such a breath of fresh air, so calm, so simple, relax and wise. I aspire to be like her.
I am re-subscribing to your channel bc I love how your content/message has evolved. Thank you, Ana! People shouldn't let Tiktok, IG, Twitter, FB, etc. consume their time and emotions. They don't need all those distractions/influences that are just taking their focus away fr living a productive and satisfying life. I, myself, am too busy tending to my organic backyard garden which is how I contribute to the preservation of the environment while I learn and get rewarded!
Hi Anna, I’m following you for a couple of years and it’s beautiful to see how u have changed your channel for better. It seems more mature and smart. ❤ that’s makes me like more your channel. Thank you for sharing it!
Anna, to admit to the world what you've endured; the changes, the motivation, and the top rise to attention is the therapy/counsel. Wow. I admire you so much more if that is even possible. God bless you for your videos, and just for YOU! So much love sent your way. 💓
❤ Going to rewatch with pen and paper this evening. My brain was having aha moments continuously throughout the video , but I need to write things down and reflect on these truths in order to ensure that I implement them into my life.
Love this topic! I think the biggest flex is how you are as a person. The priorities have shifted and we think having materialistic things is what’s important, but it’s so far from that!! Even though I don’t have as much as I would want- I know that I’m a kind, humble person and it brings a lot of great opportunities and experiences.
I like this video my university dissertation was based on this concept of materialistic consumption, identity and how advertising influences us. I must say your podcast is great and educational and well thought out
Your symmetrical hair is breathtakingly gorgeous. Symmetry suits you. Interesting topic, Flex. Someone probably earned a doctorate researching this topic for years. You are exactly right that it is so very complex. The wisdom of your warning that the novelty wears off...this is the wisdom of angels...and truly mature people.
Love the video!! Very informative and made me really scrutinize myself because I’ve fallen in ‘flex cultures’ trap and I’ve been trying to weasel my way out of it. Once again awesome video!!
I think we all have flexed in one way or another, it's probably part of a certain age or development stage of a human. But some people stay in those stages so hoping that this video can raise some awareness.
Hi Anna. While yes- I agree with most of the points you make, I cannot help but recall the handful of Hermes bags and vca pieces in your collection. This “flex culture” you speak of- you are also a part of it. Once we realize that it’s okay to indulge, don’t make someone feel bad when you yourself are participating in that indulgent lifestyle.
If owning luxury items is flexing, then we’re right to different opinions! I don’t see flexing as such. This video was about toxic flexing, not about owning luxury. , it was about showing off your wealth, when you’re deliberately making your wealth seen on purpose continuously. If you think I do that, my ears are open but I personally don’t think I do that as I get no validation from it. My biggest validation is my dog licking my face. Means he loves me 😂
I agree with Anna on this. Luxury and a lifestyle of abundance is not flexing-we shouldn’t feel guilty for being able to afford beautiful or expensive things. I do, however, believe in scaling down any obviously expensive items depending on situational awareness. Classy is not flashy and it’s never meant to make anyone feel less in any way; that goes for education, experiences, luxury goods, lifestyle etc. Bravo for making this video
@@nadias6435 you know we can have sustainable animal-sourced things? and how animals are not humans (and humans not animals, despite some parts of the world seeming otherwise)? we treat them with respect, yes, but it is not immoral to kill and use animals in a way that doesn't torture them. if you think otherwise, i hope every single item and meal in your life has been produced without "hurting" any animal ever :)
@@siunkii Hey? All Humans are animals. In fact, we are mammals, genetically related to chimps and like all other mammals evolved from a small shrew like animal. I think some people have forgotten this, that we are animals on this planet, which is our home which we share with all the other plants and animals on this planet. We are not separate from it. We are part of it. We forget this at our peril. Also other cultures - appearances are deceptive. They may seem primative, but their cultures are likely highly complex. We are a complex animal.
Yeah, I am 25 years old and I have met so many people in my life and I live in a small village with lots of nature and mature, empathetic neighbors. And this is my luxury
What you are doing now, Anna, is so interesting. I have learned a lot from watching your previous videos and attending your Level Up Boot Camp. What you are doing now in the last couple of videos I have watched is making us think, think about who we are, what our motivations are, and where confidence really comes from...in other words how to be the best versions of ourselves. The journey you are sharing with us is deep and inspiring. Thank you.
Another flex is when you're showing off how "good" you are. As in how many orphans you help, how many people you help in the lower social economic status.
Thank you Anna. I don't think you have been shallow & frivolous, I think you were being true to yourself to your own standards. I have noticed a change in your focus. About modern consumption, the truth is humans have never been as wealthy & live comfortable lifestyles in huge homes with vast comfort & conveniences as now.
It’s very saddening that some people have to go to such extreme to feel good about themselves. It’s UNGODLY . I’m happy that I have never depended on anything external to feel great about myself. It is called FREEDOM.
Thank you for your self reflexion and the addition of the importance of therapy. Seeking help is still quite stigmatized but is so beneficial for literally anyone... this video is a great example of "do better when you know better" 💙
Thank you Anna for bringing up sustainability! I’m currently taking a sustainable fashion course; and we talk a lot about how the pressure to consume and be trendy, always wear new outfits (fast fashion) is a top contributor to killing our planet. I’ve referenced your style advice many times in class regarding elegant, timeless pieces, and saving up for high quality items (often made of natural fibers)
I love the way you are changing! Not only your content but also your mind and opinions on things 😊 Once I've read somewhere: Change bring progress. I love that and I am looking forward for all the topics you will create for us ❤ regards from Munich
7:25 The corporate agenda not only takes advantage of people's insecurities they also aggravate their insecurities and their needs for validation. Your videos help people to introspect which helps people to heal and empower themselves from within.
Thank you, Anna ❤️. I would say that this video came at the right time for me. Recently I found myself in a dilemma; I was caught between 'flexing' my academic achievements and extracurricular activities and doing it in silence, knowing that I am happy and proud of myself. I started to consider flexing them because of my political aspirations in college. Now, as I watch this video, I know that it is not worth it. I will continue to excel and hope my work is recognized without me having to shove it into everyone's faces 😂❤️.
Brag about my academic accomplishments to my mates in school? I know some of them that do and it does not look like a tasteful thing-bragging because of my first-class grade? I don't think so 😂
It's a blurry line when you are looking for your first job, or any jobs after that. You have to do some amount of self promotion in the job hunt, but flexing your academic credentials too much once you are in the post or even when looking for a promotion (unless it's a career-pivot) does come off a bit weird. I still see people do it (I work in Engineering), and it always strikes me as a bit odd, since your work and professionalism should speak for themselves.
My Gawd, Anna! This was the BEST therapy session! You, truly, have become one of my heroines. You've changed me for the better. And I'm getting the dusty pink dress you designed! O.M.G. Again, thank you, Anna. I love you.
Love this video Anna! My biggest flex is showing up as a diginified and decent person ... no gossiping, arrogance etc. Another big flex is being a good host when I have guests... not by throwing lavish parties but doing enough to make my guests feel welcome. A lot of people have forgotten hospitality, humility, and just being genuinely caring towards others. Its sad.
I didn’t want to say “this is exactly what you have done, Anna”, but I’m glad you acknowledge it. You have grown up. Your content is still very much aspirational, however. Many people I know were put off by your quite frank chasing of rich men and their lifestyles, but I saw glimmers of better things from you here and there. Even in your early content, I thought you had some contributions to make on female empowerment, such as valuing one’s self and setting boundaries with men. I also found your candor and ability to self-correct refreshing. Plus, you didn’t just relax into your new wealth, but kept working. I hung in there, hoping for better content and you are beginning to deliver it.
I think "chasing of rich men & their lifestyles" does not tell the nuanced truth of my content back in the days when I was blogging and sharing education on high-society. Dating affluent men was a big part of that content, but it wasn't the only thing I was teaching. Funny how it's, the only thing that really triggered people and sticked in their memory. I don't know why people are put off, it tells me more about them as someone with an open mind would just have an open mind. My content keep evolving with time as once I have said everything I want to say on a subject, I keep moving forward. However... one of the things that have never changed is that I fully embrace if a woman wants to level up her life with the help of her partner. Wanting to marry up should not be frowned upon in our society and that's what that conversation was and I was giving the tools. Sadly our society is still not ready for these conversations as people have too many preconceptions and just jump to conclusions.
@@AnnaBeyOfficial Exactly! I think others putting down your past self for sharing such helpful videos because it was about dating men, is not really a compliment like the commentor intended.
What I appreciated about find a rich man and lifestyle is the message to women to not settle for someone who treats them poorly. But for that we also need to level up ourselves. We need to dress/treat ourselves with respect.
This content is what I need. I wish I could have a conversation with you as a young person myself and talk about how I am eaten by the society. I always admired elegance and how to deal with with kind of situation in this modern life. Thank you so much.
That was brilliant Anna. I don't buy into the flex culture. I do treat myself but I don't compete I do it for me. I know a lot of people who do and they never seem satisfied. Why waste time,energy and money trying?
I love your videos and I love your style, in your nature you always seek to improve, you always seek to improve yourself and you always achieve it. In all your videos I see a sincere interest in helping others, in helping us all do better, thank you for sharing everything you have learned, it is very valuable that there are people like you sharing on social networks. 😘
I love nice things. I love fashion. However life for me isn’t about impressing others. Validation from within is what true power is. Just being authentic and yourself while striving for the best version of that is a major flex ☺️
I had some guest over for the first time and they just toured the house and my closet/dressing room etc. she asked me why I don’t have RUclips and sharing all my bags, clothes, jewels etc. she didn’t just ask, she was literally forcing me by saying I have contents for 100 videos and go on to explain all non sense. Actually she is not a RUclips influencer. I told her I’m not all that, if she is that interested she should probably pursue it. She said she is waiting for some kind of increase in her cash flow, so that she can start RUclips. I started thinking when did ordinary people start thinking about social media every minute.. She couldn’t understand the fact that I buy jewel, bag, clothes so I can wear and enjoy..For her, it seems there is no purpose, if I don’t post them in RUclips/Instagram.
Wait..in 2023 not in 1950..your family was giving you trouble for not have kids in general? Whether married or not? You do know that women are free now not to have children and to never listen to old fashioned idiots who think women should procreate and then flex their often not happy, miserable family on facebook while bei g jealous of childfree, career, traveling and other goal oriented women. Especially in our broken world, having kids is selfish. Intelligent people are not having children knowing orphanages are full and our Earth is dying fast.
@@shhhperry9852I think she shared that bc others are also posting their own "flex(es)" (weird word lol) in other comments. Apparently this is simply her version of it 👍🏻👍🏻
This is lovely Anna! I really feel as though I made a bit of a transition together with you. I really fell down the rabbit hole of being obsessed with my look, material things, striving to have the ceo life. But then a lot of things happened and I no longer really see it the same. I actually enjoy being ordinary in a way, and let my actions speak. I always think when I am gonna be on my death bed what am I going to be the most proud of? All the money I made or all the people I had an impact on? Thank you again Anna I love these types of videos and your insight, you are always a step ahead of other online personalities.
I love you Anna and thank you for being mature enough to admit the role you and other creators have played in this in the past . We all have contributed to this one way or the other so we cant pretend its a "they" problem. Unfortunately, "flex culture" is here to stay and not going anywhere anytime soon . Personally , i dont feel bad or get intimidated i feel inspired seeing aspirational content mostly when it's done modestly and tastefully. But for those who cant tolerate it I'd advise unfollowing, blocking and cleansing your timeline for whatever you wish not to see . Hopefully that helps a bit ❤
Great video! It is true, everyone is trying to out-do everyone else. But please don't regret your past content. You've helped me tremendously! I 100% believe the reason I am where I am today because of the way you inspired me. My transformation has been enormous, a complete 180 in almost every aspect of my life and you were honestly the catalyst to these changes. So thank you from the bottom of my heart and don't ever regret a thing! ❤🙏 -Mrs. Jessica McLaurin
Just to clarify, I don’t regret my past content. I regret some things I said that didn’t come out clear or gave a nuanced perspective. But majority of my past videos are still my thoughts today. Just the execution of some could have been better, oh well
Sadly the applause and approval of others is really important to some. Especially now with social media. People go into debt just to prove something they are not. . . The phrase “ Money can’t buy you class “ has never been more true . !
I'm really glad I watched this video. Frankly, I didn't know exactly what "Flex Culture" meant. I knew that how you described it was a thing. I have a small YT music channel and yes, I think I started it for a couple of reason but some of it is that I wanted people to say, "You're good." I guess I need validation in a business that devalues you because of age and looks. The one thing I'll say is: shop consignment or thrift. Seriously. You can find some very good things that are gently used. It's really worth pursuing. It's like recyling too. It can be harder to find stuff BUT if you embrace "the hunt", you can look very chic on a budget. And it's just not for Size 2 girls either!! You've given me a lot ot think about. Thanks, Anna!
This!! I too go treasure hunting in Thrift / Consignment shops. And i really think about anything i purchase & how/where it’s made and impact of shipping. Especially travel. Consider the impact on 🌍and all the creatures and peoples 💗
It is really so nice to see such a genuine video. You are sharing your own examples and the mistakes and don't want any of your elegant ladies to do that mistake again. I really admire you a lot and try to follow as much as possible from you. Just stay like this always. Thanks Anna!
The timing of this video upload couldn't be more perfect, Anna. I came on RUclips to cheer up after another one of my depressing crying sessions. Being average is no longer the norm and lately my life has been average. It's been hard to deal with it especially when everyone aspires to be the prize, live the dream life, be the ONE! It is exhausting and I'm exhausted. I know there are good times and bad times in life but people only show how to deal with the good times. Rihanna said to pretend, I've pretended until I can't anymore.
I have a coworker who liked to say “fake it until you make it” Well, two months ago his girlfriend found out he was a poseur so she dumped him for lying to her about how “awesome” his life was. He is up to his eyeballs in credit card debt and will probably end up losing everything. Sorry to hear you’ve been crying. Rihana is wrong.
Thank you for watching! ❤What do you think about flex culture? Leave your thoughts in the comments below!
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I don't understand why you're criticizing flexing + old money æsthetic, when that's literally what you're doing and promoting - what am I missing?
I am so not 'flex-culture' that I did not know it was even a thing... I always thought these people were just showing off. 😄
I'm grateful to God that I'm living the life that I want don't mind to show off.
I had wedding that I like, I have not so handsome husband that I like..I was quietly have been living and travelling for 7 years..and I don't need other jealous to be happy...on the contrary, who can be happy if many people are hating you because of jealous
Flex means boast? I'm Russian
@@annerink4327exactly with all her birkins and Kelly’s Hermes shoes and belts.
My dad always said, “The lion doesn’t need to roar. Everybody knows he’s the lion.” Sooo true.
Fantastic.
I like that!
Mic drop! Your dad is a smart gentleman! 👏
Very true!!
& yet it still roars!!!
My mother used to tell me about what you’re describing as flex culture. She said people would buy a lot of things just to show off. And she also told me that real well-to-do people didn’t worry about buying these things. Rather, they were more concerned about saving their money and enjoying life.
My best friend is wealthy, and he's the one who taught me how to go Spartan. The first thing he did with his money was pay down his debts.
So true
Facts. People buy things to impress people who really don't care about them...but for some reason they don't seem to understand that concept.
My biggest flex is no debt, And not living paycheck to paycheck.
Oh, Wait... That's not very sexy is it?
@@TheDowntownHermit-xj6rqIt's much more attractive in a person than any materialistic label chaser clown
My flex is knowing luxuries won't make you happy. I'm ambivalent about Anna's content, but she's an intriguing woman, I like seeing her change and put things into questions.
At least you're still here keeping an open mind, instead of sitting and hating behind a screen like some other people! 😀👏❤❤❤❤
They can make you happy, but it’s not the ONLY thing that makes you happy ❤
Some of the happiest people I've ever seen in my life are the mountain people of morocco . They don't even know what a chanel bag is and they laugh and smile and eat fresh food..breathe fresh air .. sometimes I wonder how the world became so obsessed with material goods as if it matters in the grand scheme of things...and yes I drive a bmw and have 2 chanel bags but I can easily go without those ever again in favor of a more simple, natural life . Just my two cents ...☺️
I'm not going to prevaricate, I ❤ the Ralph Lauren lifestyle.
@@AnnaBeyOfficiali think these triggered people usually comment before finishing the video, so they missed the point especially your message at the end. 😅
I think ‘flex culture’ is an addiction. Not necessarily the items, clothes or cars. It’s the response of people. The likes, the comments and even the jealousy. I think it has the same effect as narcissistic supply for narcissists.
I agree with you dear
I agree. I listen to others say things like “they not going to want to see me in this” or “I know they waiting to see how my house look” (family member that purchased a new home. Who is they? I don’t believe they care as much.
So many people burn themselves out trying to keep up with the Jones's.
I'm so glad there was no social media in my childhood/teenage years. My parents didn't have much money, but I never felt poor and never had the feeling of missing out because no one was showing off their lifestyle. I don't want to experience what some people with low self esteem go through these days.
That's Anna's best video by the way, such an important topic ❤️
Not compared to Friends?
@@gmaxh4549 yes..pre internet era was the coolest time for teenagers ...being a 90s kids...we just focused on having more fun outdoors and not how we look ...cz nobody really cared about those things...
I came of age during the 80s, however there were certain pressures. Having the Member's Only jacket, the Lacoste shirt, Calvin Klein jeans, etc.
I really realized how you've become more self assured and also likeable in your videos. You have a much more natural approach to all these things now and are so much more relaxed and convincing meanwhile. You developed great! Thumbs up!
I appreciate that! Thank you for adding a positive touch to my day! I hope I added one to yours ❤
Dear Anna, When I saw your content a few years ago, even though I found you interesting, I felt it was a bit too focused on becoming or looking rich. And since one or two years. I feel like your content mostly promotes real ‚class‘, in a sense of acting respectful and empathetic, living a healthy lifestyle with a healthy self worth, and pursuing the things we want by positive changes. I really love how it’s not anymore so much about finding a certain type of partner but how to be classy yourself. And as you said in recent videos, one can have little money and still be an elegant and classy. I am so happy for you, to see your development to so much healthy self confidence independent of flexing or money, you are just classy and I‘m here for it 🥰
That's exactly what I thought. She also listens to her followers' opinions and reflect on her previous content. A very down to earth classy woman.
I love Anna, I can listen to her voice all day
I agree with what you say! I also noticed the shift and it’s definitely in a good way :) @@Marivi247
I just love Anna, because of all you have said. Very open and down to earth.
This is what self-improvment means. When people are improving themselves, they don't usually like their previous points of view, and see the changes and are never shy to share them with others. Thank you, Anna! So happy that the Universe made our ways crossed ❤
Definitely we outgrow certain thoughts and opinions with time, the same way we outgrow taste in music/food/clothes/activities etc. Not all of course, I still have quite a lot of opinions and tastes that I'm holding on to :) But with time I have gained wider perspective and simply don't care for the same things I cared for 5 years ago. 10 years ago etc.
@@AnnaBeyOfficialI really enjoyed this video. I've been following you for a while, and you're like an awesome cousin or friend that gives good insights and shows us how to be classy. I'm all about self awareness, improvement, etc. And I like your tips on feeling and looking elegant.
There's so much freedom that comes with losing the desire to impress people. Of course many of us want to be well liked and well received. As Anna said, it's a natural human instinct. What I try to think about whenever I'm buying something or posting something is: "do I like my reason for doing this?" I've found it helps me make better decisions.
Absolutely. @theheartbreaknurse Some of us used to post online [ahem] MySpace and Facebook travel, luxurious meals, shopping bags pictures filled with items and other activities. While posting some memories online is great, there is a fine line between sharing a special moment with family and flexing your wealth and health with everyone on social media. As the question you stated, "Do I like the reason for doing this?" "What is my picture trying to convey?" "Will this picture go on public or private posting?"
Personally, I enjoy creating personalized albums over time and only pick out pictures I know someday I will share with friends, my own children and my future spouse. These pictures showcase the happy, sad, difficult times and other phases of my life.
@@hameley12 love that!
Absolutely. Huge freedom 🙌🏾
Oh wow, what an excellent question to ask!! Also, I’m decluttering right now and it’s working in reverse for me as well. “Do I like the reason I’m feeling the need to keep the item?”
My flex is my pumpkin patch! It’s only like 15 pumpkin plants in pots in my backyard, but I finally got a female and male flower to bloom today, and hand pollinated it and I feel very proud to have gotten this far with them. It’s the little things in life that make me happy.
After I had my first baby, I realized I truly don’t care what anyone thinks of me. As long as I’m doing my best to raise a good human I am happy.
Wow, didn't know you got male and female pumpkins :) I grow my own veg - currently have squash, but never grown pumpkins - will have to give it a try.
@@softsophisticate just male and female flowers! The male flowers pollen gets in to the female flower, and then a pumpkin starts growing from the base of the female flower. Should be very similar to your summer squash! I recommend! It’s lots of fun!
Love it 🌱🎃🌱
I really liked how this video was filmed- almost like a podcast- and you're absolutely right about flex culture. it's more about competition and less about individuality and self respect. That's literally why trends are the most transient- after a couple months all the money is wasted on clothes that are no longer "in." Timeless fashion forever
The allure and novelty quickly wears off! Let's not be a slave to it... Thank you for your kind thoughts! Glad you liked my podcast set up
This is my favorite video of yours to date, Anna - outstanding.
I remember when getting married, all the hype around the "wedding flex" - and one of my friends at the time said "it's not the wedding, it's the marriage". The best things in life we cannot buy - our friends, family, and love.
This is so true. A couple who love each other, a certificate and a wedding rings, are the most important elements.
My sentiments are like yours, give me a great marriage and an ok wedding, the wedding will be just a day, the Marriage will be till death do as part!!!
Even though we know the best things in life our free it often gets missed that we actually go not value that in our society in pop culture. Definitely not in social media for the most part.
I feel like I live in a completely different world than what you showed. I had no idea what Flex Culture was until this video. It's crazy to me.
I have no social media besides watching YT which is curated to my interests. When you aren't exposed to influencers, celebs, and all these fake people on the daily, life is completely peaceful. I don't need any of these narcissists in my life especially when they are complete strangers. It's sad to see such an unhealthy attachment to consumerism and unattainable goals for most people.
Great video!
Well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
🎯 1000%
Damn what country are you from cause I’m surprised
My love for Anna has doubled since 2020 she has taught me to appreciate myself and that classic elegant in my own element. ❤
Thank you! Do elegance & level up in a way that suits you! Wishing you all the best
❤❤❤❤yes
I had no idea what Flex Culture was. It’s basically just showing off!
Most commonly yes, showing off in particular status, privilege, wealth, status symbols etc. But of course, flexing can be done in so many different ways as discussed in the video.
LOL when this video popped up I thought it was about flexible work culture, like partly working from home 🤦😆
I think flex culture is definitely getting old. I definitely felt influenced by social media to always only show of myself my good traits and material possessions. And I find it so disgusting when others do it. Humble. Nailed it.
You speaking up and acknowledging how some of your past videos were (kind of) toxic is a flex and refreshing. Good to see you taking accountability in such an elegant way.
Very few people have the courage and grace to embrace self accountability and admit their shortcomings. Anna you inspire us all
In my younger years I cared too much what other people thought of me. The older I get though, the less I care who I impress and it's SO FREEING. I'm 1000x happier in my 40s as an eccentric cat lady living life for ME than I ever was in my youth when I used to crave validation and follow trends I didn't even like just to fit in. I used to worry endlessly about being thought of as weird, now I embrace it. I'm not cool or trendy or rich, but I'm happy.
I love how Anna admits to her past mistakes and show how she is evolving every year ❤
Anna, I think you nailed this talk towards the end, when you drew the difference between (1) showing off and appearing to be "better" than you are, and (2) embracing your privileged lifestyle gratefully, and daring to share it. That was an original insight, and very useful advice. It deserves much more analysis, especially as it is VERY difficult to draw the line. It would deserve a whole series of videos!
I'm sure some people will miss that part as it came towards the end of the video, BUT important to know that there is a difference between the toxic flexing I was referring to throughout the video, and then what can be perceived as flexing, although it's literally just a personal showing glimpses from their lives and that life happens to be luxurious. But they're not showing glimpses from the perspective of showing off, they're just showing / sharing. I hope my ladies will be able to see the difference.
Yes I’d love a series of videos where the line of just showing off and just showing your wealth because it’s a part of your life. No one shows off there UC penny goods. When someone just photographs their designer bag I definitely would say that it’s just about “showing off” about how much money that you have.
Great video, Anna! I love how you've grown and changed your views over the years! And I love that you're not ashamed to embrace that you might have been wrong before. ❤️
Thank you! It would be strange not to evolve or change anything since 5 years. Especially as I invest in my personal growth. It would be sad if none of it had any effect, imagine!? 😅
I agree, Anna is always helping us grow as well. Us human’s need to evolve and learn or we will forever be stuck in a one mind point of view. I love that Anna is always giving us new material to learn ❤.
That’s growth. We all change are not the same person from 20-30, 30-40, 40-50….hey, Anna!
I am sure that working with a therapist has helped you evolve, Anna, but I also think that just the fact that you have matured has also lead you to deeper thinking. Glad to see this😊
One thing flex cultures exposes is, most of these people are really not happy. Buying things and showing them off is temporary happiness, microwaved happiness. I make good money and I’m a sneaker head, I love my sneaker collection. Been collecting since 2015 just about, not once have I posted my collection online because I collect them for me, not for others.
Hello Anna! I have to say how much I appreciate you showing your own self-transformation journey so that we can be comfortable in pursuing it for ourselves. I am also saddened by the coarsening of culture globally. Thank you for all you do out there. You are benefitting so many people!
Amazing flex! Well done to you!!
all of social media is a flex. it can be mildly entertaining or totally obnoxious. it’s nice to feel connected to people through social media. But it’s very easy to feel like a failure in multiple ways seeing all this on a daily basis. i watched you from far back and i love your growth. i love your message of elegance, which is available to everyone.
Modesty is class!
I thought that I had to limit myself by not doing things that are not rich and elegant that I enjoy like camping, rock climbing and extreme sports. Yet I was not getting happy. So I decided to do adventure sports and still being classy, dressing appropriately and elegantly for all occasions and still enjoy once in a while the finer things in life.
Yes!! Create your own level up and what luxury means to you! LOVE IT!
@@AnnaBeyOfficial Thank you! 😊🙏
Well done. Thats living.
I unfollowed you a few years ago because I didn't like what you were teaching. However, I stumbled across one of your videos a few days ago, and decided to watch. I noticed the difference and the change! Amazing! ❤️
My biggest flex is going from 42 inch waist to 28 inch waist. ❤❤❤💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿 good health is TRUE wealth🗝️🗝️🗝️
I love the way your content has changed and developed over the years - I wasn't a big fan of all those "how to look rich and start hanging with afluent people" videos at all. But now it's much more about being the best version of yourself instead of "fake it till you make it" and I think it's a great change
I am so happy to see that I am not the only one who sees this topic in the same way. I despise the flex culture so much that I live “poor”, I take care of my finances in a very aggressive fashion so that I can build wealth but, I keep any flexing to a minimum. I much prefer a simple life. Anna, thank you for putting this video out here. 😉
One of the things that is so lovely about you, Anna, is that you are always self-reflecting and growing. You're humble, and you take accountability. I will never regret clicking on the video that introduced us, and I'm grateful to "know" you. 🙂
The answer is to go back to country side. To go back to simple life.
And I understood that you want that too Anna. I hope your dream will come true. ❤️
I love this: "Comparison is the death of joy"
You speak truth, I lack for nothing, but what brings me happiness is my family, friends and animals. All the other things are just icing on the cake .
One thing is to be a materialistic person full of ego and trying to humiliate others by throwing on their faces a fake perfect life based all on money and fake appearance and another thing is to be classy, educated and to love yourself and be the best you can be. Love this Anna. Can’t wait to purchase some pieces from your line. ❤❤❤
The beautiful thing about authentic people, Anna, is that there is always an upward spiral. You were authentic in previous videos just as you are authentic now. When you believed in aspiring for the more material things, you did not cover it with artifice of being 'above' it - it is a natural human desire. And now, having grow to that level and as you grow past it, you are so genuinely inspiring. And in seeing your journey, we skew ours for the better too :) Such thoughtful content. Thank you!
Thank you so much!
I LOVE how we’re growing with you, I outgrew a lot of channels in the last two years, so we love the ones who evolve and grow with us. Thank you for all the effort you put into making your videos, VERY appreciated ❤
Thank you for this!
Omg me too I out grew all the unboxing and collection videos lol
@@AnnaBeyOfficial no way! The complete opposite we love how you are growing
I didn't receive your messages well couple years ago because of wording. I appreciate that you reflected on the way you gave style advice.
I love the cute irony of roasting overconsumption while promoting the new clothing line^^. Awesome video!
I grew up poor and still am poor. I have nothing to show off. I'm glad I feel no pressure to show people all the expensive stuff I own just to one up someone or feel good about myself.
Well said Anna!! 👏 it's a message that so many people need to hear. Materialism doesn't bring happiness.
It does bring a temporary feeling of happiness and accomplishment. But 99% of the times it just wears off very quickly. And then you need to replace it with a new hit of something else. I think most people who own luxury can relate somehow.
I’m a young man and I do enjoy your videos. You’d be surprised by the amount of people who do not like the trending ugliness around us.
I think its about finding a right balance between being pagan in soul, Christian at heart and cosmic in thinking.
If you love yourself for who you are, If you have a house where you feel at home, an animal to love, family you can rely on, friends you can have fun with and trust, clean clothes you feel great in, healthy food to eat, clean water to drink, You are richest person in the world.
Such a subtle rebranding! Shows growth mindset and is an example that we evolve and change and we don’t have to commit to the version of ourselves we were in the past.
Thank you for changing your style. I’m glad the young lady Lissette changed and stopped ruining her life by portraying an unauthentic picture of her life. Simplicity and not flexing is elegant. Just being oneself, treating oneself respectfully, and treating others respectfully is elegance.
You are such a lovely soul. Been following you since 2015 and I am in awe of how you've grown as a person and where you've taken your channel
I love your content for years Anna! Thanks to you I realized my (now ex) boyfriend was a low value man. You opened my eyes a lot when it comes to values. Thank you for your content!
Same, she did it for me too!!!!
Beautifully explained Anna! People could be happier with what they have and feel more confident in themselves and their lives if they stopped giving so much power and credence to 'influencers'. Who are these people? Why should their viewpoints determine who we are and what we aspire to? We need to ask ourselves (instead of listening to other's opinions) what would make us happy and what gives us joy. Yes, it might be a Rolls Royce, but it may also be a rocking chair on a porch in the woods. W need to listen to our own hearts, rather than letting strangers influence our choices.
This is my favorite video of yours Anna! I have followed you on and off throughout the years, like phases in life, sometimes you have the space to level up and at times not. I love that your content is evolving with your own values and viewpoints! We are multifaceted and I'm excited to see more of your content :)
I love your humility and grace in admitting your past mistakes so openly Anna. Quiet follower here ❤
Anna, you have been very humble by admitting that you have changed your direction with your videos and are being less 'Flex' yourself. I have noticed your content has changed in particular this year (for the better). Its called growing and developing as person into the better version of you xx
I like how you have grown and transformed yourself, Anna. I recently found your channel and watched few old videos of yours. You have become more natural, wiser and kinder, and tha, along with elegance, is perfect a combination.
This is why I like Canva CEO, Melanie Perkins, I might know her like tip of an iceberg but haven’t heard of her flexing her billions along with husband. She is so simple and even donated millions to eradicate poverty as part of their company goal. I attended one live online training for free where she spoke and she is such a breath of fresh air, so calm, so simple, relax and wise. I aspire to be like her.
I am re-subscribing to your channel bc I love how your content/message has evolved. Thank you, Ana!
People shouldn't let Tiktok, IG, Twitter, FB, etc. consume their time and emotions. They don't need all those distractions/influences that are just taking their focus away fr living a productive and satisfying life. I, myself, am too busy tending to my organic backyard garden which is how I contribute to the preservation of the environment while I learn and get rewarded!
My biggest flex is my daughter. 😎
That is so sweet 😍
Love that!
Respect ❤️
Same 🥰🥰🥰
Same here ❤️
This is a great message. And I wish my younger self had watched this video years ago. I hope this video finds anyone else who needs to hear it
Hi Anna, I’m following you for a couple of years and it’s beautiful to see how u have changed your channel for better. It seems more mature and smart. ❤ that’s makes me like more your channel. Thank you for sharing it!
Thank you for emphasizing that the "quiet luxury" aesthetic is STILL flex culture. It's a different side of the same coin.
Anna, to admit to the world what you've endured; the changes, the motivation, and the top rise to attention is the therapy/counsel. Wow. I admire you so much more if that is even possible. God bless you for your videos, and just for YOU! So much love sent your way. 💓
❤ Going to rewatch with pen and paper this evening. My brain was having aha moments continuously throughout the video , but I need to write things down and reflect on these truths in order to ensure that I implement them into my life.
I'm so grateful that a great and elegant woman like Anna is willing to talk about this topic.
Love this topic! I think the biggest flex is how you are as a person. The priorities have shifted and we think having materialistic things is what’s important, but it’s so far from that!! Even though I don’t have as much as I would want- I know that I’m a kind, humble person and it brings a lot of great opportunities and experiences.
I like this video my university dissertation was based on this concept of materialistic consumption, identity and how advertising influences us. I must say your podcast is great and educational and well thought out
Your symmetrical hair is breathtakingly gorgeous. Symmetry suits you. Interesting topic, Flex. Someone probably earned a doctorate researching this topic for years. You are exactly right that it is so very complex. The wisdom of your warning that the novelty wears off...this is the wisdom of angels...and truly mature people.
Love the video!! Very informative and made me really scrutinize myself because I’ve fallen in ‘flex cultures’ trap and I’ve been trying to weasel my way out of it.
Once again awesome video!!
I think we all have flexed in one way or another, it's probably part of a certain age or development stage of a human. But some people stay in those stages so hoping that this video can raise some awareness.
@@AnnaBeyOfficial I agree
Plus, I like your clothing line. Wonderful pieces, great colors. Looking forward to what you do next.
Hi Anna. While yes- I agree with most of the points you make, I cannot help but recall the handful of Hermes bags and vca pieces in your collection. This “flex culture” you speak of- you are also a part of it. Once we realize that it’s okay to indulge, don’t make someone feel bad when you yourself are participating in that indulgent lifestyle.
If owning luxury items is flexing, then we’re right to different opinions! I don’t see flexing as such. This video was about toxic flexing, not about owning luxury. , it was about showing off your wealth, when you’re deliberately making your wealth seen on purpose continuously. If you think I do that, my ears are open but I personally don’t think I do that as I get no validation from it.
My biggest validation is my dog licking my face. Means he loves me 😂
I agree with Anna on this. Luxury and a lifestyle of abundance is not flexing-we shouldn’t feel guilty for being able to afford beautiful or expensive things. I do, however, believe in scaling down any obviously expensive items depending on situational awareness. Classy is not flashy and it’s never meant to make anyone feel less in any way; that goes for education, experiences, luxury goods, lifestyle etc. Bravo for making this video
@@AnnaBeyOfficial Did you know that bag is also made from another animal's skin? Is their life worth your "indulgence"?
@@nadias6435 you know we can have sustainable animal-sourced things? and how animals are not humans (and humans not animals, despite some parts of the world seeming otherwise)? we treat them with respect, yes, but it is not immoral to kill and use animals in a way that doesn't torture them. if you think otherwise, i hope every single item and meal in your life has been produced without "hurting" any animal ever :)
@@siunkii Hey? All Humans are animals.
In fact, we are mammals, genetically related to chimps and like all other mammals evolved from a small shrew like animal.
I think some people have forgotten this, that we are animals on this planet, which is our home which we share with all the other plants and animals on this planet. We are not separate from it. We are part of it. We forget this at our peril. Also other cultures - appearances are deceptive. They may seem primative, but their cultures are likely highly complex. We are a complex animal.
Yeah, I am 25 years old and I have met so many people in my life and I live in a small village with lots of nature and mature, empathetic neighbors. And this is my luxury
What you are doing now, Anna, is so interesting. I have learned a lot from watching your previous videos and attending your Level Up Boot Camp. What you are doing now in the last couple of videos I have watched is making us think, think about who we are, what our motivations are, and where confidence really comes from...in other words how to be the best versions of ourselves. The journey you are sharing with us is deep and inspiring. Thank you.
Another flex is when you're showing off how "good" you are. As in how many orphans you help, how many people you help in the lower social economic status.
Thank you Anna. I don't think you have been shallow & frivolous, I think you were being true to yourself to your own standards. I have noticed a change in your focus.
About modern consumption, the truth is humans have never been as wealthy & live comfortable lifestyles in huge homes with vast comfort & conveniences as now.
It’s very saddening that some people have to go to such extreme to feel good about themselves. It’s UNGODLY . I’m happy that I have never depended on anything external to feel great about myself. It is called FREEDOM.
Thank you for your self reflexion and the addition of the importance of therapy. Seeking help is still quite stigmatized but is so beneficial for literally anyone... this video is a great example of "do better when you know better" 💙
Thank you Anna for bringing up sustainability! I’m currently taking a sustainable fashion course; and we talk a lot about how the pressure to consume and be trendy, always wear new outfits (fast fashion) is a top contributor to killing our planet. I’ve referenced your style advice many times in class regarding elegant, timeless pieces, and saving up for high quality items (often made of natural fibers)
I love the way you are changing! Not only your content but also your mind and opinions on things 😊
Once I've read somewhere: Change bring progress.
I love that and I am looking forward for all the topics you will create for us ❤ regards from Munich
7:25 The corporate agenda not only takes advantage of people's insecurities they also aggravate their insecurities and their needs for validation. Your videos help people to introspect which helps people to heal and empower themselves from within.
Good to see this pursuit for deeper meaning to life, far beyond the shallow consumerist world💫
Such an important topic. Thank you for bringing it up and being honest and kind to humanity and the planet 🤍
Thank you, Anna ❤️.
I would say that this video came at the right time for me. Recently I found myself in a dilemma; I was caught between 'flexing' my academic achievements and extracurricular activities and doing it in silence, knowing that I am happy and proud of myself. I started to consider flexing them because of my political aspirations in college. Now, as I watch this video, I know that it is not worth it. I will continue to excel and hope my work is recognized without me having to shove it into everyone's faces 😂❤️.
Brag about my academic accomplishments to my mates in school? I know some of them that do and it does not look like a tasteful thing-bragging because of my first-class grade? I don't think so 😂
I agree with you, Stella
It's a blurry line when you are looking for your first job, or any jobs after that. You have to do some amount of self promotion in the job hunt, but flexing your academic credentials too much once you are in the post or even when looking for a promotion (unless it's a career-pivot) does come off a bit weird. I still see people do it (I work in Engineering), and it always strikes me as a bit odd, since your work and professionalism should speak for themselves.
I like that you change up for formats of filming🤩 This set-up is nice😁
My Gawd, Anna! This was the BEST therapy session! You, truly, have become one of my heroines. You've changed me for the better. And I'm getting the dusty pink dress you designed! O.M.G. Again, thank you, Anna. I love you.
Love this video Anna! My biggest flex is showing up as a diginified and decent person ... no gossiping, arrogance etc. Another big flex is being a good host when I have guests... not by throwing lavish parties but doing enough to make my guests feel welcome. A lot of people have forgotten hospitality, humility, and just being genuinely caring towards others. Its sad.
I didn’t want to say “this is exactly what you have done, Anna”, but I’m glad you acknowledge it. You have grown up. Your content is still very much aspirational, however. Many people I know were put off by your quite frank chasing of rich men and their lifestyles, but I saw glimmers of better things from you here and there. Even in your early content, I thought you had some contributions to make on female empowerment, such as valuing one’s self and setting boundaries with men. I also found your candor and ability to self-correct refreshing. Plus, you didn’t just relax into your new wealth, but kept working. I hung in there, hoping for better content and you are beginning to deliver it.
I think "chasing of rich men & their lifestyles" does not tell the nuanced truth of my content back in the days when I was blogging and sharing education on high-society. Dating affluent men was a big part of that content, but it wasn't the only thing I was teaching. Funny how it's, the only thing that really triggered people and sticked in their memory. I don't know why people are put off, it tells me more about them as someone with an open mind would just have an open mind.
My content keep evolving with time as once I have said everything I want to say on a subject, I keep moving forward. However... one of the things that have never changed is that I fully embrace if a woman wants to level up her life with the help of her partner. Wanting to marry up should not be frowned upon in our society and that's what that conversation was and I was giving the tools. Sadly our society is still not ready for these conversations as people have too many preconceptions and just jump to conclusions.
@@AnnaBeyOfficial Exactly! I think others putting down your past self for sharing such helpful videos because it was about dating men, is not really a compliment like the commentor intended.
What I appreciated about find a rich man and lifestyle is the message to women to not settle for someone who treats them poorly. But for that we also need to level up ourselves. We need to dress/treat ourselves with respect.
Being oneself and doing things in moderation is key. Loving yourself will make you feel both powerful and sufficient.
This content is what I need. I wish I could have a conversation with you as a young person myself and talk about how I am eaten by the society. I always admired elegance and how to deal with with kind of situation in this modern life. Thank you so much.
That was brilliant Anna. I don't buy into the flex culture. I do treat myself but I don't compete I do it for me. I know a lot of people who do and they never seem satisfied. Why waste time,energy and money trying?
I love your videos and I love your style, in your nature you always seek to improve, you always seek to improve yourself and you always achieve it. In all your videos I see a sincere interest in helping others, in helping us all do better, thank you for sharing everything you have learned, it is very valuable that there are people like you sharing on social networks. 😘
I love nice things.
I love fashion.
However life for me isn’t about impressing others.
Validation from within is what true power is.
Just being authentic and yourself while striving for the best version of that is a major flex ☺️
I had some guest over for the first time and they just toured the house and my closet/dressing room etc. she asked me why I don’t have RUclips and sharing all my bags, clothes, jewels etc. she didn’t just ask, she was literally forcing me by saying I have contents for 100 videos and go on to explain all non sense. Actually she is not a RUclips influencer. I told her I’m not all that, if she is that interested she should probably pursue it. She said she is waiting for some kind of increase in her cash flow, so that she can start RUclips. I started thinking when did ordinary people start thinking about social media every minute.. She couldn’t understand the fact that I buy jewel, bag, clothes so I can wear and enjoy..For her, it seems there is no purpose, if I don’t post them in RUclips/Instagram.
I don't think it's a good idea to advertise your possessions so in detail. It attracts robberies unfortunately!
Advertising your valuables on you tube is a sure fire way to invite burglars.
I’m more shocked by the fact she toured your house and got into your closet. It’s so rude!
So proud of you!
My biggest flex is not having children before marriage. It was a plague in my family. I call that a success.
Wait..in 2023 not in 1950..your family was giving you trouble for not have kids in general? Whether married or not? You do know that women are free now not to have children and to never listen to old fashioned idiots who think women should procreate and then flex their often not happy, miserable family on facebook while bei g jealous of childfree, career, traveling and other goal oriented women. Especially in our broken world, having kids is selfish. Intelligent people are not having children knowing orphanages are full and our Earth is dying fast.
I thought this was a fashion channel… why are we talking about marriage and children?
@@shhhperry9852 why not? She is proud of herself for making good life choices. Don't hate because u didn't do the same...
Good for you, girl! 🎉
@@shhhperry9852I think she shared that bc others are also posting their own "flex(es)" (weird word lol) in other comments. Apparently this is simply her version of it 👍🏻👍🏻
I love this, thank you for taking a stand against something that drives young people into debt and damages the self esteem of many!
This is lovely Anna! I really feel as though I made a bit of a transition together with you. I really fell down the rabbit hole of being obsessed with my look, material things, striving to have the ceo life. But then a lot of things happened and I no longer really see it the same. I actually enjoy being ordinary in a way, and let my actions speak. I always think when I am gonna be on my death bed what am I going to be the most proud of? All the money I made or all the people I had an impact on?
Thank you again Anna I love these types of videos and your insight, you are always a step ahead of other online personalities.
Beautiful shirt! Classic and timeless.
I love you Anna and thank you for being mature enough to admit the role you and other creators have played in this in the past . We all have contributed to this one way or the other so we cant pretend its a "they" problem. Unfortunately, "flex culture" is here to stay and not going anywhere anytime soon . Personally , i dont feel bad or get intimidated i feel inspired seeing aspirational content mostly when it's done modestly and tastefully. But for those who cant tolerate it I'd advise unfollowing, blocking and cleansing your timeline for whatever you wish not to see . Hopefully that helps a bit ❤
Hi Anna, good video. What is also worrisome is the fake flexing. People getting themselves in huge debt to keep up with appearances. :(
Great video! It is true, everyone is trying to out-do everyone else. But please don't regret your past content. You've helped me tremendously! I 100% believe the reason I am where I am today because of the way you inspired me. My transformation has been enormous, a complete 180 in almost every aspect of my life and you were honestly the catalyst to these changes. So thank you from the bottom of my heart and don't ever regret a thing! ❤🙏 -Mrs. Jessica McLaurin
Just to clarify, I don’t regret my past content. I regret some things I said that didn’t come out clear or gave a nuanced perspective. But majority of my past videos are still my thoughts today. Just the execution of some could have been better, oh well
Sadly the applause and approval of others is really important to some. Especially now with social media. People go into debt just to prove something they are not. . . The phrase “ Money can’t buy you class “ has never been more true . !
I'm really glad I watched this video. Frankly, I didn't know exactly what "Flex Culture" meant. I knew that how you described it was a thing. I have a small YT music channel and yes, I think I started it for a couple of reason but some of it is that I wanted people to say, "You're good." I guess I need validation in a business that devalues you because of age and looks.
The one thing I'll say is: shop consignment or thrift. Seriously. You can find some very good things that are gently used. It's really worth pursuing. It's like recyling too. It can be harder to find stuff BUT if you embrace "the hunt", you can look very chic on a budget. And it's just not for Size 2 girls either!!
You've given me a lot ot think about. Thanks, Anna!
This!! I too go treasure hunting in Thrift / Consignment shops. And i really think about anything i purchase & how/where it’s made and impact of shipping. Especially travel. Consider the impact on 🌍and all the creatures and peoples 💗
It is really so nice to see such a genuine video. You are sharing your own examples and the mistakes and don't want any of your elegant ladies to do that mistake again. I really admire you a lot and try to follow as much as possible from you.
Just stay like this always.
Thanks Anna!
The timing of this video upload couldn't be more perfect, Anna. I came on RUclips to cheer up after another one of my depressing crying sessions. Being average is no longer the norm and lately my life has been average. It's been hard to deal with it especially when everyone aspires to be the prize, live the dream life, be the ONE! It is exhausting and I'm exhausted. I know there are good times and bad times in life but people only show how to deal with the good times. Rihanna said to pretend, I've pretended until I can't anymore.
I have a coworker who liked to say “fake it until you make it”
Well, two months ago his girlfriend found out he was a poseur so she dumped him for lying to her about how “awesome” his life was.
He is up to his eyeballs in credit card debt and will probably end up losing everything.
Sorry to hear you’ve been crying. Rihana is wrong.
Stop listening to celebrities.