I don't even approach women because 100% of them all ready are spoken for ,and I don't try to start a conversation because I know it won't lead to anything but negative impulsive body language I can feel their negative spirit and I'm a good looking man!
Even when I'm clean cut, some girls still find me intimidating. When I talk to them, they engage in convo well tho. But just the first impression is affected. I don't mind it because I know its there. I just have to be the one to start the conversation which is okay by me. Great video!
Hey man how did you eventually get over like low self confidence or “not feeling right inside” as you say, that’s pretty much the last thing I need. I have attractive girls that other men around me say are 9s coming to me to talk directly and giving choosing signals but my energy is so off it pushes them away
So let me help. The best way to get past self Confidence is #1 the fact that 9s are walking up to you should give you a boost of confidence#2 and this was for me you need hobbies not just one but a few, you need to become well read I’d say in several subjects, GEO politics- one good one is study- banking fractional reserve banking, silver bullion - get a few books on body language- study some history- get smart take two years and just study the Bible read into it not just over it. spend a lot of time in the library can you work on a car? Can you fix the toilet, can you hang a door ? Are you in shape do you know body parts, internal organs? Go away on a few trips, NYC- LA- London- Paris - go by yourself see some museums learn about art, the masters Da Vinci - who are the Medici family? Example “ hi how are you? I have a question for you where is the most interesting place you have ever gone to? I did this to a beautiful women and she laughed and said she hasn’t gone anywhere- she then aske me how about you? Me London, Paris,Panama, Jamaica, LA, Canada, ask her does she have a favorite artist? And so on she probably has llittle To no experience if so it’s so EZ- just say next week I’m taking you to the museum set the date and go look at some art take her and show her the ones you like and talk about the artist that you studied up on most men are not confident because they don’t have much to be confident about. Hope this helps
I used to have low self-esteem and confidence. A man is only as tough / confident as you tell yourself you are. Self-love and care helped me. Put yourself 1st always. I'm 49 and eat healthy,dress nice, and still get women in their early 30s. You gotta act like you don't care around a woman and don't chase em. Give em just enough to keep her coming back. Women run on emotions and hormones. Hope this helps. Don't put yourself down
@@MarvOverMatter thanks man its so great to finally have someone to relate to cos i been trying to improve but your channel has helped me realise i was going about everything so wrong, just turned 20 last week and trying to make sure im not still making silly mistakes when im 30 or sumn
yooo, this video helped a lot. I really enjoyed the last leg about inner work required to capitalize off of being attractive. I also do notice a difference in how im treated when im dressed more professionally/put together vs when i dress casually. Can you make a video speaking on your personal journey to becoming comfortable with yourself? Keep it up man🔥
You' didn't ask me but I'll give a summary anyway. I've also got to the point where I'm really comfortable with myself and my experience is that as I've tried things and thought about things, I come up with solutions to problems, and after enough experience you just KNOW how things might go. If you've never experienced something before you might imagine the worst case and best case scenarios but it usually turns out to be not as bad or as good as you imagine. When you know what's going to happen or that everything will be ok, it will give you so much confidence. When you're young there's a lot of unknowns but that changes as you get more experience. It also helps a lot to have a stable environment - if you are always changing jobs, where you live, social circles, even hobbies, then you are constantly adapting to new things and it's challenging to really feel comfortable. When you have a solid foundation, especially if you're in control of that (e.g. owning vs renting a home, self-employed vs employed), it is much easier to be confident, in my experience. Because you just know that you have got things covered. If your car is having trouble you can't afford and you might not make a meeting, or your job may or may not be on the line, those sort of problems add burden to your mind and can affect your confidence. If you want to develop self-confidence and comfort with yourself I'd say the simplest way is to think of what obstacles you have in your life - anything that makes life difficult or annoying, anything you are worried about or are afraid of, and deal with them individually over time. If you don't like the way you look, start changing that. If money is an issue, fix that. If there's something about your living situation you don't like, fix that or change it. A friend that drains you, spend less time with them. You've always wanted to do X, learn some basics and give it a go. Through doing this you will deal with new things (fear of unknown), learn to solve problems, and reduce the burden on your energy and resources. Eventually these all build up, but it really is 10,000 little things, I think. If you slack off and don't put the effort then it does have an impact, even a small one, and makes life more difficult (which affects your confidence). So just notice where you have friction, lack, difficulty or some sort of problem in your life and deal with that, and then another one and so on. When you know everything is working and going your way, and you can handle anything that isn't, you can get rock solid confidence. Then people notice, you get validation from other people, and it reinforces that feeling. That's my 20 cents anyway.
I really cannot be more approachable for women and I have come into this conclusion because of my looks. I got hollow cheeks, really wide jaw with some beard that I trim twice a week, thick eye brows that look like I'm thinking about something when they are just being normal, with hunter eyes on top of it all. Overall my looks is really intimidating and I can tell it from how even men act around me. My normal resting face just looks like I'm about to kill someone of they do wrong move.... And I'm just a chill guy inside who will not take crap from people, so treat me like ya would treat any other person. One of my friends invited me over when he wanted to get his new gf to know me and oh boy the intimidation the girl had. From the first moment she just stared at me eyes wide and it took few years for her to ease up around me to act normally. This is just so annoying because from the very young age I have noticed this same thing with women. They are like cat's around me where I got to act really easy with them, or else they just run away instantly. And then they get pissed off at me that I'm not doing more towards them.
Yeah if they are that intimidated then you have to be easy going for sure. You almost HAVE to let them make the move. Being funny/playful would help you a lot.
I also have the same problem. With all types of people. I don't have the hollow cheeks or hunter eyes or anything like that. Just smile more if you can, talk first, initiate conversations.
@@MarvOverMatter Yeah, being playful and funny will help for sure, but it can backfire big time also. Sometimes when I've been funny/playful with girls I want, then it has lead into women who I do not really want getting attracted towards me. And then the women I was interested start playing stupid games and the ones you weren't interested, then ya got to start rejecting them... It's such a delicate balancing act ya got to do sometimes depending on culture. I just find it so tiresome most of the time and just show interest toward so few. And even then it leads into cases where women who I do not fancy at all get interested towards me and they start showing interest towards me, just because the women I'm interested can't keep their mouths shut. I have just taken into myself to be direct as hell with the women I want and if they're not on board, well I just move on. It also gets tiresome as hell when they're just intimated from get go, but I really don't feel like joking and easing them up too much.
@Hoki4 I hear you bro. But that’s always going to happen. Girls you don’t want are always going to like you if you look good. You can do the smallest thing and they’ll be in love. It’s the same with an attractive girl, they have so many men they are disgusted by liking them and hitting on them. It just comes with the territory. How has being super direct been working though I’m curious?
@@MarvOverMatter Being direct and when they're intimidated, it usually just ends up with them sabotaging themselves out of situation. And then afterwards ya can clearly see that they regret sabotaging the situation but they can't help it. And after all that they just get more intimidated because they feel like they will look stupid and it causes even more intimidation, because they don't want you to think they're really stupid. But then there are those women who do not feel that intimidated about you and either things go forwards or they don't when ya being direct.
Wuts funny is wen i was less confident, less muscular, i got way more compliments and approaches. They were like " i smell weakness" and circled in like sharks😂 wen i started self improving that sh1t went out the window. Bout 2 start wearing a 3XL white sweater and look like the Michelin man. NO ONE is intimidated by the Michelin man🤣
I wouldn’t say that, when I had dreads lots of girls would approach me but they wouldn’t make their intentions known. I have waves now and I intimidate women now than I ever have.
You talked about in the last video how if almost all women are ignoring you or very subtle then there has to be a problem to your presentation, been wondering in the past hour how if the issue is beyond clothes .....
@JosephJackson-u5t Then she got over whatever she was upset about. She may want you to hit her up. But that’s up to you whether you do. There should be less games since yall already dated.
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😂😂 facts. Preciate it bro 🙏🏾 I’ll def keep ‘em coming!
I don't even approach women because 100% of them all ready are spoken for ,and I don't try to start a conversation because I know it won't lead to anything but negative impulsive body language I can feel their negative spirit and I'm a good looking man!
And a smart one too
Even when I'm clean cut, some girls still find me intimidating. When I talk to them, they engage in convo well tho. But just the first impression is affected. I don't mind it because I know its there. I just have to be the one to start the conversation which is okay by me. Great video!
Preciate it man 🙏🏾 Yeah like I said there’s some girls you’re just not going to be able to get no matter what but don’t focus on those ones.
Hey man how did you eventually get over like low self confidence or “not feeling right inside” as you say, that’s pretty much the last thing I need. I have attractive girls that other men around me say are 9s coming to me to talk directly and giving choosing signals but my energy is so off it pushes them away
What’s up man, appreciate the support! I’ll do a video talking about this.
So let me help. The best way to get past self Confidence is #1 the fact that 9s are walking up to you should give you a boost of confidence#2 and this was for me you need hobbies not just one but a few, you need to become well read I’d say in several subjects, GEO politics- one good one is study- banking fractional reserve banking, silver bullion - get a few books on body language- study some history- get smart take two years and just study the Bible read into it not just over it. spend a lot of time in the library can you work on a car? Can you fix the toilet, can you hang a door ? Are you in shape do you know body parts, internal organs? Go away on a few trips, NYC- LA- London- Paris - go by yourself see some museums learn about art, the masters Da Vinci - who are the Medici family? Example “ hi how are you? I have a question for you where is the most interesting place you have ever gone to? I did this to a beautiful women and she laughed and said she hasn’t gone anywhere- she then aske me how about you? Me London, Paris,Panama, Jamaica, LA, Canada, ask her does she have a favorite artist? And so on she probably has llittle
To no experience if so it’s so EZ- just say next week I’m taking you to the museum set the date and go look at some art take her and show her the ones you like and talk about the artist that you studied up on most men are not confident because they don’t have much to be confident about. Hope this helps
I used to have low self-esteem and confidence. A man is only as tough / confident as you tell yourself you are. Self-love and care helped me. Put yourself 1st always. I'm 49 and eat healthy,dress nice, and still get women in their early 30s. You gotta act like you don't care around a woman and don't chase em. Give em just enough to keep her coming back. Women run on emotions and hormones. Hope this helps. Don't put yourself down
@@MarvOverMatter thanks man its so great to finally have someone to relate to cos i been trying to improve but your channel has helped me realise i was going about everything so wrong, just turned 20 last week and trying to make sure im not still making silly mistakes when im 30 or sumn
@@stahliwood8755 thank you man, it's so good to hear from older men with some wisdom.
Bro you’re not capping about the dreads I combed mine out now I have braids and my PR is 🚀
I’m sayin, that clean look helps!
@ the Quality of women changes too I was pulling mostly ratchets at first Lol!
@Rellioso Presentation matters a lot
yooo, this video helped a lot. I really enjoyed the last leg about inner work required to capitalize off of being attractive. I also do notice a difference in how im treated when im dressed more professionally/put together vs when i dress casually. Can you make a video speaking on your personal journey to becoming comfortable with yourself? Keep it up man🔥
I’m glad to hear it bro. Yeah the inner work is very important. And let me think about that. I’ll get back to you on the video.
You' didn't ask me but I'll give a summary anyway.
I've also got to the point where I'm really comfortable with myself and my experience is that as I've tried things and thought about things, I come up with solutions to problems, and after enough experience you just KNOW how things might go. If you've never experienced something before you might imagine the worst case and best case scenarios but it usually turns out to be not as bad or as good as you imagine.
When you know what's going to happen or that everything will be ok, it will give you so much confidence. When you're young there's a lot of unknowns but that changes as you get more experience.
It also helps a lot to have a stable environment - if you are always changing jobs, where you live, social circles, even hobbies, then you are constantly adapting to new things and it's challenging to really feel comfortable. When you have a solid foundation, especially if you're in control of that (e.g. owning vs renting a home, self-employed vs employed), it is much easier to be confident, in my experience. Because you just know that you have got things covered. If your car is having trouble you can't afford and you might not make a meeting, or your job may or may not be on the line, those sort of problems add burden to your mind and can affect your confidence.
If you want to develop self-confidence and comfort with yourself I'd say the simplest way is to think of what obstacles you have in your life - anything that makes life difficult or annoying, anything you are worried about or are afraid of, and deal with them individually over time. If you don't like the way you look, start changing that. If money is an issue, fix that. If there's something about your living situation you don't like, fix that or change it. A friend that drains you, spend less time with them. You've always wanted to do X, learn some basics and give it a go.
Through doing this you will deal with new things (fear of unknown), learn to solve problems, and reduce the burden on your energy and resources. Eventually these all build up, but it really is 10,000 little things, I think. If you slack off and don't put the effort then it does have an impact, even a small one, and makes life more difficult (which affects your confidence).
So just notice where you have friction, lack, difficulty or some sort of problem in your life and deal with that, and then another one and so on.
When you know everything is working and going your way, and you can handle anything that isn't, you can get rock solid confidence. Then people notice, you get validation from other people, and it reinforces that feeling.
That's my 20 cents anyway.
I really cannot be more approachable for women and I have come into this conclusion because of my looks. I got hollow cheeks, really wide jaw with some beard that I trim twice a week, thick eye brows that look like I'm thinking about something when they are just being normal, with hunter eyes on top of it all. Overall my looks is really intimidating and I can tell it from how even men act around me. My normal resting face just looks like I'm about to kill someone of they do wrong move.... And I'm just a chill guy inside who will not take crap from people, so treat me like ya would treat any other person.
One of my friends invited me over when he wanted to get his new gf to know me and oh boy the intimidation the girl had. From the first moment she just stared at me eyes wide and it took few years for her to ease up around me to act normally. This is just so annoying because from the very young age I have noticed this same thing with women. They are like cat's around me where I got to act really easy with them, or else they just run away instantly. And then they get pissed off at me that I'm not doing more towards them.
Yeah if they are that intimidated then you have to be easy going for sure. You almost HAVE to let them make the move. Being funny/playful would help you a lot.
I also have the same problem. With all types of people. I don't have the hollow cheeks or hunter eyes or anything like that. Just smile more if you can, talk first, initiate conversations.
@@MarvOverMatter Yeah, being playful and funny will help for sure, but it can backfire big time also. Sometimes when I've been funny/playful with girls I want, then it has lead into women who I do not really want getting attracted towards me. And then the women I was interested start playing stupid games and the ones you weren't interested, then ya got to start rejecting them... It's such a delicate balancing act ya got to do sometimes depending on culture.
I just find it so tiresome most of the time and just show interest toward so few. And even then it leads into cases where women who I do not fancy at all get interested towards me and they start showing interest towards me, just because the women I'm interested can't keep their mouths shut.
I have just taken into myself to be direct as hell with the women I want and if they're not on board, well I just move on. It also gets tiresome as hell when they're just intimated from get go, but I really don't feel like joking and easing them up too much.
@Hoki4 I hear you bro. But that’s always going to happen. Girls you don’t want are always going to like you if you look good. You can do the smallest thing and they’ll be in love. It’s the same with an attractive girl, they have so many men they are disgusted by liking them and hitting on them. It just comes with the territory.
How has being super direct been working though I’m curious?
@@MarvOverMatter Being direct and when they're intimidated, it usually just ends up with them sabotaging themselves out of situation.
And then afterwards ya can clearly see that they regret sabotaging the situation but they can't help it. And after all that they just get more intimidated because they feel like they will look stupid and it causes even more intimidation, because they don't want you to think they're really stupid.
But then there are those women who do not feel that intimidated about you and either things go forwards or they don't when ya being direct.
Wuts funny is wen i was less confident, less muscular, i got way more compliments and approaches. They were like " i smell weakness" and circled in like sharks😂 wen i started self improving that sh1t went out the window. Bout 2 start wearing a 3XL white sweater and look like the Michelin man. NO ONE is intimidated by the Michelin man🤣
Lmao. That’s a fact
I wouldn’t say that, when I had dreads lots of girls would approach me but they wouldn’t make their intentions known. I have waves now and I intimidate women now than I ever have.
Were your dreads clean though?
You talked about in the last video how if almost all women are ignoring you or very subtle then there has to be a problem to your presentation, been wondering in the past hour how if the issue is beyond clothes .....
So did this answer that?
What does it mean when a ex unblocks you on social media
She opening the line of communication. How do you know she unblocked you?
I was going through instagram trying to follow somebody then she popped up in my suggested
@JosephJackson-u5t Then she got over whatever she was upset about. She may want you to hit her up. But that’s up to you whether you do. There should be less games since yall already dated.
I’m good I rather move on I’m not going back a ex is a ex for a reason
@JosephJackson-u5t i agree with you on that one 💯