i feel for pam, sana pinakinggan rin siya ng ex friends niya. ang hirap mag maintain ng friendships if ang dami mong kailangan iresolve sa sarili mo and sometimes, we resort to isolation kahit na hindi naman natin sinasadya, hanggang sa marealize natin na ang tagal mo na palang ganun. i just hope people would be more understanding sa isa’t isa.
Exactly my thoughts. Parang dapat friends yung isa sa makaintindi satin when we have our "ghosting" time dahil di tayo mentally okay. Or maybe di lang talaga lahat aware sa mga instances na nagse-self isolate yung ibang tao because of personal issues. Hayz
Ang toxic lang nung naka green na jacket lolz. Ang aggressive niya the whole video. "Ex-landi" pa lang naman sila nung girl, dating stage siguro. 'Di pa nga sila grabe na makabakod? Yikes. At sa best friend pa? Dude, if you're that insecure, na pati best friend mo pinagdududahan mo kahit nagsabi na mismo sayo na platonic lang ang friendship nila, baka wala na sa kanila yung problem. He said it himself pa nga, na the other dude was the gold standard of a friend. Soooo... Tsaka yung breaking the bro code? Please. Prime example yan of patriarchal reinforcement. Women aren't objects you can call "dibs" on. Kahit pa may label kayo or wala. I'm happy for Efren for dodging the bullet there.
I guess the two girls on black and white floral outfits are no longer "ex-friends" from the moment they reunited for this video. Hehe. I'm happy they still consider each other "bestfriend". :)
Ang petty lang, sana rin naman inapproach niya to check kung okay lang 'yung kaibigan niya? Minsan kailangan mo lang din silang kumustahin eh. Hahahaha ewan ko ba
as first impressions go I guess thats true but I think she's mature enough to cut off people no longer welcome in her life. its not about blaming the other person, its just about putting your best foot forward for your own interest.
but once you learn how to forgive yourself from said loss, you actually grow a lot from it! Like as if your heart had been given some immunization from the harshness of losing someone.
Kapal ng mukha. To think na nagfeeling lang siya na nilalandi nung ex friend niya yung girl na "gusto lang naman niya" kaya nasira ang friendship nila. Kapal talaga
@@paulinemusni192 i was about to say na may point magalit yong nkagreen. Akala ko kasi nging gf nya yon pala gusto nya lg. 🤣 kmi nga ng bestfrnd ko mas malala. Ignored each other for yrs because of one girl but still ended up forgiving each other. I guess it all depends on the level of frndship.
I relate to pam's reasoning behind her ghosting. I was in the same situation for the past months and I'm currently trying to be more connected with my friends while dealing with my issues. I am just glad that I have understanding friends:] once I've responded to them (to their bday greetings) after months of ghosting, they told me to take my time and space, they won't bother me until I am in my best condition.
My friend was also like this, and what we do as her friends, we understand her. Sometimes she'll messaged us, more often she'll not. But it's okay with us. Everyone needs to be alone at some point in their lives. Everyone deserves peace. Kaya, I would say. Choose your friends wisely. Yung alam mong hindi lang pang-saya kung hindi pati na rin sa ghosting phase mo.
Update: so yong internet friend ko halos 3days na niya ako kinukulit chinachat tinatawag sa mga socmed acc. pero hindi ko paden siya kinikibo i feel bad kasi baka feeling niya ayaw ko na sakaniya eh ang hindi niya alam gusto ko talaga mapagisa and i feel bless kasi hindi niya paden ako sinusukuan🥺huhu
i commend pam for still saying she looks up to the girl na naka black croptop. it's not easy going through personal things and your friends just not giving you understanding when you need it most. but here she is still appreciating her. the fact that she reached out shows she still brought out some courage to approach. understanding is key not pride
legit yung "nakakapagod din naman mag first move" I really felt that, kahit "uy! kamusta" mga ganon laking tulong nun lalo na kung kaylangan mo talaga marinig yon sa mga oras na yon:((
Naiintindihan ko sila ate na naka-black na top at ung isa na naka-blue. Darating talaga tayo sa punto na isang araw gigising nalang tayo sa umaga na 'magpapahinga o mapapagod tayo bilang kaibigan nila'. At valid pa rin ang pakiramdam na 'yon.
Ang immature nung other person na nam-block dhil di kinausap for a year. Now, knowing the circumstances na she was down and did not want to meet anyone, dapat mas intidihan nya pa kasi baka (clinically) depressed si Girl. I am only reading between the lines. Still, for a depressed person, the least a person wanted to do is reached out and ask for help. And the moment that person wanted to talk, yun na yung isa sa mga senyales na she gathered all her courage to talk. Kaso, di nila sya pinakinggan, nam-block pa.
right!!! ang immature hahaha tinry na nga makipagreconcile pero nablock pa. most likely nadagdagan pa ng pasanin si pam kasi siya yung nagmumukhang may kasalnan
I wouldn't approach the guy na naka green jacket, nor would I attempt to be friends with him. Ang toxic ng ugali niya. Laging walang kasalanan. Yes, hindi ko siya kilala. Pero based on this, and his assumption (lang) about yung ex landi niya, he can keep his insecurities to himself. Like dude, it's 2021. Platonic relationships do exist. And if hindi nga platonic at tama ka, learn some self control naman.
1:40 although i didn't know their whole story, this case made me sad especially for pam. both of their feelings are valid pero masyadong mean yung pag-block nung naka black top kay pam just because she was coping and dealing with her life problems. hindi ata kaya nung naka black top ang low maintenance friendships. I guess it's good for pam na nawalan siya ng ganyang klaseng kaibigan na bibitawan ka porket nawalan lang ng communication. understandable siguro kung may ginawang masama si pam, pero the black top girl said na nawala siya for a year because pam isolated herself from people dahil sa stress and problems. mukhang okay naman si black top girl kahit may "other friends" naman siya. remember na some people need their alone time kapag nagdedeteriorate ang mental health. i hope we'll respect and understand na ganon sila mag-cope.
Pam's friends could've been more understanding of her. She's going through something and sometimes people need space to fix and to figure out things on their own. Also, blocking a friend after "seenzoning" her doesn't make sense to me. I mean why wait for that person to message you on your birthday when you could've blocked her long before. Sooooo immature and petty methinks!
True di ko bet ugali nun sa totoo lang blessing in disguise na rin if naremoved siya sa buhay ni Pam.We don’t need toxic friends dapat he could’ve been more understanding.
we really dont know the side of pam's ex friend what if nahurt talaga siya sa ginawa ni Pam? ung cant just ghost ur friend just like that ng di man lang nagsasabi ng reason or explanation sa kanila gaya nga ng sabi sa vid they were really bestfriends and then bigla nalang silang inalis sa buhay ni Pam that time without saying anything. but the good thing with pam is that she knows the consequences of her doings.
@@riaapanlilio8327 Her reason was "i got depressed" that should be a reason enough. Kung magpamataas ka pa. Wala kang kwentang kaibigan. Also your friends, di sila nanay or tatay mo para need mo mag paalam. Kung may friends kayo na sila pa nagalit instead of worrying kung ano ngyare sayo immature sila. I felt sorry for Pam. She deserves better friends.
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Why would you end a friendship just because the other person needed time for herself? Also, it was just one year. At least she sent a message on her birthday but blocking her was kinda mean and immature. Kami nga ng close friends ko once a year lang makaka hang out dahil narin sa busy scheds and school but we don't take that against each other. We still enjoy being together and talk like we've been seeing each other everyday even tho we sometimes won't be able to talk for a year sad haha. Thankful for those kind of friends ❤️❤️
I somehow relate to Pam' reason. As I left my teenage years and enter the adulting stage, I've faced many problems (mostly identity crisis and personal issues). This was then the time I began to isolate myself from everyone (including my friends) and become more reserved. I never chat them anymore. I turn off my active status on socmed and even phone's notifs. Though, I still consider them as a friend at that phase of isolating myself, I usually question if our friendship still exists, when I often see photos of her in socmed with new set of friends. Then I realized, it's not really that bad having only yourself. You focus on yourself and you enjoy you also your time with yourself ❤️
the girl in a black top blocking her friend for "ghosting them" rubs me off the wrong way haha ewan ko lang baka kasi nakarelate ako kay ateng nakablue kaya i can't help but feel for her more
Based on their conversations and reasonings i personally wouldn’t want a friend like the one with green jacket and the girl in black croptop. I feel bad dun sa girl na naka blue na shirt, selfish ng ex-friend nya masyado:(
don’t judge ate naman. we don’t really know the real story behind her ending the friendship between the blue shirt girl. masyadong vague yung story na nakita natin sa video to conclude na selfish si ate irl.
@@arajahstan6549 Gets, but that’s how im seeing it kac blue shirt girl reached out to her and whatever reasons if she truly cares for her friend she could’ve listen atleast. Crop top girl even said “i have other friends” lol
@@cloudofreverie786 sabi nga *Ex* edi ok ? Bat parang kasalanan ko wahhaha 😂 Kahit na" taking place palang " the fact na alam ni kuya na me gusto tska baka "niligawan". tas nag hangout pala sila nung gurl tsaka kaibigan nya medj red flag na *Katropa* mo yun eh tas, sa babae lng nag kaganyan na same goes for kuyang naka green. Still need nila mag usap tlga Kahit sabihin pa nung kuya "Wala lng yung pag hangout nila". Just an *Opinion* di ko think na insecure sya more of *Betrayed* na *Kaibigan* pa tlga nya
Love the friendship and personality of the curly-haired woman and her friend an naka white sobrang chill nila and you can feel na willing sila to resolve whatever issue they had para mabalik young friendship nila nakakatuwa young ganun pareho silang open to re-connect :) As for the guy na naka green jacket grabe makabakod eh "kalandian" mo palang naman yng girl and akala ko ba may bro code ang mga boys na "bros before ***'*" eh bakit pinagpalit mo yung BESTFRIEND mo dude masydo kang nagpaka galit eh nag hang out lang naman pala sila wala namang ginawa. I guess insecure ka sa mismong bestfriend mo. Kc listening to his reason he is very consistent sa sinasabi nyang di nya bet yung kalandian mo at nagkataon lang na naghang out sila nun girl but you took it in a wrong way. Kudos dun sa bestfriend mo he is willing to patch things up with you kahit ang toxic ng ugali mo at wala kang tiwala sknya.
Green guy can’t seem to see past his own ego to understand floral guy’s pov. Like if you don’t trust your bestfriend enough to believe him when he says that the thing with the gal is platonic then that’s a you problem lol. Also, ang shallow ng reason for the whole FO kasi him and the girl weren’t even a thing in the first place so essentially parang there’s a misplaced anger deflected to floral guy bec clearly green jacket guy has no one else to get mad to (seems like a simp for the gal so probs cant get mad at her) and it’s probs his own way of making himself feel better. Just my two cents.
i was able to experience a suitor similar to the boy wearing the green jacket. he got possessive over me and he got jealous when i seemed to pay more attention to my other suitor even though I already made it clear sakaniya na we're just friends and we'll never get past that. Still, he didn't listen and the next thing i know he slammed the boy on the pavement outside of our campus and it quickly got really messy. He almost tainted my almost perfect school record just because he's insecure. Geezus, these type of guys are really dangerous. i'm glad i dodged a bullet.
pam and bianca’s situation speak to me a lot but i am bianca. i understand kung bakit ganon siya ka-guarded after what pam did. imagine establishing yourself as this person’s “best friend” and then isang araw, nag-iba na lahat. imagine being left clueless, confused, and frustrated. i’m going to think that something is wrong with me and it’s going to take a toll on me too. best friend nga ako diba, so if you tell me you’re going to ghost me, ako dapat, of all people, ang unang makakaintindi. so you not telling me what’s up is such a big bruise sa friendship. it’s just sad that a lot of people in the comments are invalidating bianca’s feelings. the pain and anxiety goes both ways. bianca being labeled as “toxic” for cutting of someone who has caused her so much pain and anxiety is such a one-sided take on their story.
omg someone said it already, i do feel for pam in some ways, but the comments they left for bianca were just intolerable. I cannot stand how they invalidate bianca's side when we only have the snippet of what happened between the friends. I was actually starting to think i might be as well a bad friend myself, bcs i know sooner i'd be like bianca for my own sake too. Like pam, maybe bianca has her own reason for what she chose to do. And also, i really admire pam for accepting and respecting it.
Dibaaaa... the feeling imbes na bestfriend turingan niyo but ikaw pa yong clueless. Muntik or naging bianca ako at some point sa relationship namin ng bestfriend ko. But we're goods now. Di niya nalaman na naging ganon yong feeling ko but na intindihan ko din siya kalaunan. Mahirap intindihin ang side ni bianca if you haven't experienced it first hand
kahit lagi ako nanonood ng rec-create vids, minsan lang ako magcomment dito pero can i just say na sobrang savage nung naka-black v-neck shirt na girl pota kung ako yung ex-bestfriend niya tapos sinabihan akong "phase lang sa buhay" iiyak na ko eh ahahahahahaha
feel na feel ko talaga itong episode na ito 😭😩 i've lost many good friendships kasi im not the type of person who is active online or in social media in general i just find it harder to reach out/connect with people if i cant be in physical contact with them
Panong Di na ako sasama sa kanila e na a outcast na ako. They're that friends na pag Di mo INA approach Di din sila mag a approach sayo like wtf are y'all my friends? Or napipilitan Lang kayo makipag kaibigan sakin. Like WTF?! We're friends since 3rd year high school pero Yung trato nyo sakin ay parang others. So I decided to rid off my self to them for the sake of my mental health na Rin.
i wish ate bianca could've been more understanding of ate pam's situation, and hahahaha tbh, we really see birthdays as opportunities to converse w ppl whom we have lost contact w for a looong time so for me there's nothing 'fishy' abt that
Ok SKL about my story, about the “bro code” thing. Long story short this guy na kaibigan ko told his friends to “back off” din from me. So when we all hang out, no one was approaching me and that made me feel lonely and kasama ko lang the whole time was this guy friend. Nakakafrustrate lang kasi in my persoective ang satingin ko parang I got “dibs” like yung dating nya is, “oi wag nyo kakausapin yan akin lang yan” when in reality is guy friend ko lang sya and I DON’T see him that way. It pissed me off because kahit na guy friend kita or kahit na GUSTO mo ko, you have NO rights to limit or control who approaches me na gusto makipagusap saken and who I want go talk to. Sino ka ba para pumili kung ano yung tama o mali in your opinion? Like WTF nakakainis lang. Para saken, red flag yan matic heck even my female friends and mutual friends din namin na lalaki naoff sa kanya when he said that (kasi everyone knew except for me so my female friends told me what happened). Guys let the girl choose who she wants to talk to and who wants to talk to her because you DO NOT own her.
This is not to bash Kuya with black shirt and a sweater, but his statements were as if kasalanan lahat ni Kuyang nakafloral, basically invalidating whatever reasons or explanations he may throw. And Kuyang nakablack shirt with a sweater... I've been there also, pero sana naman nakinig po tayo. He might be honest with his reasons na all he have done was all for entertainment kasi nga he enjoys the company. He even said na he respects you kasi nga bet mo yong "girl" na kasakasama niya/ niyo sa galaan. I think, you isolated yourself all of a sudden without even knowing the whole part of the story. You will never know the other side of the coin without flipping it 😊 I hope kahit mahal ang Bali, pagbibigyan mo si Kuyang nakafloral because I think he is trully a gold standard friend.
@@jimboypogi0909 I think that's not the case here po. We consider sarcasm about that specific issue when it was brought up once, but once we hear it more than one time. That's no longer sarcasm, as if he's throwing those words to Kuyang nakafloral to ask his apologies where in fact nothing wrong happened. Ex-fling palang po kasi iyon and like what other people said, he's as if putting a mark on his belongings/ territories where there is none.
@@atsuki18 I thought so too. Maybe he's not that confident kaya feel niya naaagawan/ maaagawan siya. I feel sorry for him but he's not being nice to Kuyang nakafloral.
i understand pam in some ways. been distant to my friends (idk if i'm allowed to still call them friends) cause im down, unwell. i see a part of me in her. but i can't blame bianca for not wanting the friendship again i wish both of u happiness and peace of mind. hugs :>
This is the level of petty I can’t stand, not to invalidate their feelings or anything pero I find it very immature how they handled their friendship. Napakashallow ng reasons nila why they ended their relationship with their supposedly bestfriend because honestly true friends communicate, understand, and empathize with each other which apparently there is a lack of in this video. Now if something trivial ends a friendship then probably you’re not genuine friends after all, maybe just friends out of convenience. This clearly goes to show that we must value quality over quantity, naiinis ako dun sa statement na I have other friends naman, parang dispensable mga friends nya, tsk tsk.
hope pam feels better na and i hope she is in a good headspace rn. yung nakablack, i understand na she got hurt and was left confused as to why pam ghosted them but i wish nagreach out sila or nagbigay support for pam. everyone copes in a different way. i feel like masyadong inoverthink nung nakablack yung pagsorry ni pam nung birthday niya lmao. so what na nagsorry si pam nung birthday niya? maybe pam was trying to find a time where mas magaan yung pakiramdam nung nakablack or timing na okay yung usapan nila. not everyone has bad intentions!! kahit anong time, as long as they are not taking advantage of you, their words may be sincere. wag masyadong mapride at maging maintindihin din :) but then again, we don't really know the full story no
For Pam, you are a good person. Never let your "former friends" tell you otherwise. You deserve a more understanding friend than the one who is just there when you're "convenient and happy". Being alone is better than surround yourself with people with not so genuine interests in you. You did nothing wrong, you were battling a war alone and you deserve better treatment than that. Virtual hugs.
Masakit talaga mawalan ng best friend, but I do believe in the saying that people come and go. I really miss my bestfriends and it ended ng dahil lang sa simple misunderstanding. I hope I do get a chance to catch up with them or maybe talk to them again, someday.
I have a friend, nag-away kami nung graduation practice namin which is di namin alam na lockdown na pala the next day. We didn’t talk for almost 4 months kasi we’re both ma-pride and that time rin I’m dealing a personal problems ko and dumagdag pa yung away namin kaya mas bumigat yung nararamdaman ko nung nagsisimula pa lang ang pandemic. But nung birthday nya chinat ko sya, I decided to say sorry kasi we’re both at fault naman and para na rin mabawasan ang pain na nararamdaman ko cause I know that I would regret it if tuluyan ng masisira ang friendship namin. Sinabi nya na she wants to chat me raw para magkaayos kami but nalilimutan nya at hindi dahil sa pride sya kundi nalilimutan nya lang talaga, nung sinabi nya yon na-isip ko na if she wants talaga di na nya ipagpapaliban pa lalo na’t lagi nya itong nalilimutan but di na ako nag-overthink the important is nag-kaayos kami before it’s too late so save our friendship. After that sobrang gumaan ang pakiramdam ko, we’re still close but Hindi na the closest sa barkada. Our friendship became stronger but I decided to not expect much sa friendship namin, kasi feel ko mas nag-wowork ito sa amin.
people come and go but there are times that you'll meet someone you'll call bestfriend. May mga valid reasons din naman sila kaya sila lumalayo pero masakit din ma-ghost at iwanan sa ere ng kaibigan mo. To those people who wish there bestfriends good fortune even though you haven't spoken for the longest time, I salute you! Keep moving forward.
Madalas ako mawala sa social media no connection with friends kasi sa mental breakdown kailangan ko magrefresh, luckily sobrang understanding Ng friends ko kahit Hindi ko sinasabi na magooff muna ako sa socmed they will accept me parin etc. Kay ate na naka blue sana okay kana ngayon kung ano man nararanasan mo. Fighting!
Someone forwarded me an invitation about sa binyag ng daughter ng ex-close friend ko kasi akala niya ay invited ako, argh pain. Expected ko na that they already burn the bridges pero hindi ko magawa sa kanila kasi I really treasure them kaya pinipigilan ko na lang na makibalita hanggang sa masanay ako. Pero masakit pa rin pala talaga kapag friendship
Yeah, ang sakit ng akala ng iba invited ka pero hindi pala, nasaktan ka na nga na-ingit ka pa kasi mas close kayo minsan sa buhay nyo pero ikaw ang hindi ka na-invite
Ang hirap pala no. I had very good friends sa previous work ko that I built for almost 10 years but because of bad decisions mawawala na lang connection. Thinking about it now nakakamiss din yun mga happy and not so happy memories. This video is giving me hope na baka maayos pa yun yung mga connections na yun. I hope its not too late.
Missing my ex-bestfriend too. Matagal na kaming di nag uusap. Madaming reasons. Isang part na din yung adulthood. Change of priorities. Change of personalities too.
to that one bestfriend of mine who i never talked to during the lockdown. i heard ur going thru something rough right now. if you somehow see this for whatever circumstance, i hope you'll be okay. i don't think we can still mend our friendship, but i hope it helped u grow, because it helped me a lot.
I'm not perfect and may have done numerous mistakes in the past but watching this video and reading thru the comments, I'm just thankful na if ever ma invite ako dito wla akong maisip na dalhing "ex-friend". Kasi my friends are few but I never really had someone totally cut off from my life. Even if di na kami nag uusap, feel ko naman friends pa din kami and walang bad blood between us.
pam's friends could've been more understanding. bc in pam's devastating time, they were probably more mentally stable. but we all respond differently so...
sorry pero yung green jacket guy ang insecure mo naman, wala ka bang tiwala sa sarile mo? hahaha like dude, if the girl hangs out/kumausap sa ibang guys (kahit friend mo pa yun) sorry pero wala kang right magsabi ng wag tas ang weird naman maggalit ka sa kaibigan mo, e paano kung naguusap lang talaga sila? AND if gusto ka talaga ni girl, pwede naman niya idecline yung hangout nila... e wala, na amoy tuloy yung insecurity mo. next time, lessen your insecurity, show your confidence, mas ggustuhin yun ng girl
yess hahah dunno why it would be called *Insecurity* na magtaka tsaka magalit knowing na Nag uusap *Malapit* mung kaibigan at *Ex* mo. If your in his shoes tingnan natin kung gusto mo *Ex* mo makikipag hang out sa *Malapit* mung *Kaibigan* . parang betrayal eh kahit sabihin nyang walang *Malisya* ?... *lalaki* sya *babae* yun anu ba topic nilang paguusapan *makeup* ? *TRUST* IS VERY IMPORTANT SA FRIENDSHIP AND IT GOES BOTH WAYS.
That’s bro code hello. Anu ka ba. When the brad says back off. No questions ask. Aba si kuya pa good boy effect, may pag hang out sa ex nun bro? Very very very bad.
i really think pandemic has been one of the huge cause of friendship break ups. but in my perspective, a lot pf people are blaming pandemic because it "brought out the real us", that "our friendship should wistand this pandemic", i mean it's true in some aspect. but based on personal experiences, the pandemic itself is the reason of our depression and anxiety that leads to not following up with friends. and often times, nagkakatalo, sabay sabay nangyayari sa lahat, mistaking to that "di sya mag c chat if di ako maga approach" scenario.
i completely understand why bianca was upset after pam "ghosted" her. i mean, if i got ghosted too by my highschool best friend without having any idea why they did so despite my attempts of trying to reach out to them, i'd feel upset too. we dont know the entire story but im sure bianca has her reasons as to why she felt this way, they used to be best friends after all. nonetheless, what pam feels is so valid and so are bianca's feelings :DD
I relate to Pam. I had a group of friends during my 1st year in college. But then shit happened, I lost my mom due to a brain tumor. Bumagsak yung buong mundo ko because she was my everything. Nawalan ako ng gana sa lahat. Sa studies, sa pakikipagsocialize, sa pagkain. AS IN LAHAT. I even got to the point na gusto ko sumunod sa nanay ko. I got super thin, I was destructive. And those people that I considered as my friends weren't there for me. They didn't understand what I was feeling and what I was going through. I felt lost, I felt alone. I was depressed for years. It was a really cruel time for me. But thankfully, I got through it and I'm okay now. So ayun sana lang if you have friends going through the same, please be there for them. Always be kind to each other. You don't know what anybody is going through. Yakap ng mahigpit sa mga taong may mga problema o pinagdadaanan. You are not alone.
Thank GOD the “ nilalandi “ nung dalawa di napunta sa GREEN jacket guy. Shuta Bad Vibes in one guy .The toxicity & negativity oozing from him. Stressed siguro mga friends to sakanya 😬
i like this segment and ang genuine lang lahat and all of them are so brave to voice out what they feel kahit na pwedeng makasakit sa other side and also admire their courage na harapin yung mga ex friends nila nicee
Ang shallow naman pag yung friendship nyo matatapos dahil nagkapandemic. Like whyyy? my best friend and I don't usually talk. Umaabot ng months or even a year but when we find a time naman we're still the same. I guess people have different views on how you should befriend them. And yung tampo tampo, medyo petty. Sorry. nakakapika lang yung ganun lalo na pag busy ka sa life.
calling their friendship shallow means your invalidating their feelings. dude, magkakaiba tayo. don't question others' friendships just because theirs aren't strong as what you have. please lang. those so-called tampos had different reasons and labeling them as petty shows how ignorant you are. you're lucky but ignorance sometimes isn't a bliss to most of ppl
I also resorted to isolation during pandemic. Cause that was also the time I broke up with my ex where I just closed myself off from the world. I didn't want to talk to anyone including my friends hoping na I can resolve my issues on my own. But I guess I'm lucky because my friends were not like Bianca na kahit ang tagal ko silang hindi nakausap, hindi nila ako binlock. They still tried to understand me and my situation kahit na hindi ko pa sinasabi or kinekwento sa kanila yung reason. Because at that time I wasn't ready to open up, I still needed some time and space for me to heal. Don't worry Pam, honestly you don't deserve that kind of friendship. Mas mabuti pa ring kaibiganin yung mga taong marunong umunawa sa'yo.
Meron kasi tayong friends na possessive talaga at super sensitive. Nakakasakal minsan lalo't ako yung taong gusto makakilala ng iba't-ibang tao. I'm glad that my hs friends became more mature. Now we're friends again.
I cannot be friends with my former best friend despite of all the good things that we've been through. Sexual harrasment is a good reason to stop our connection. I'm thankful nag cross paths natin pero sana hindi na tayo magkita.
That’s really a violation of bro code. Pag sinabe na nga ng bro mo na back off, tumigil ka na kahit wala lang yun pag hang out mo sa ex nya. May tension and galit pa din tuloy kahit pa joke. The other two girls are still bestfriends, na offend lang pero mamemend. The other pair, heartless yun isang girl. Kaya nga lumayo yung isa kase meron shang personal issues. That’s where understanding comes in, na dapat andun ka. Nag message na sayo what did you do? You read and blocked.
bro code is not absolute. Sometimes, have some reality check din, like un naka green na jacket, more on insecurities lang nya un and he was just blaming Efren. Nilinaw naman nung isa na platonic relationship lang (yes, that exists with man and a woman) Also, women are not object para i-“dibs” lang. Just saying
People change. That's it. HAHAHA I just wish all of us together with our friends won't and shouldn't hate each other just because we are changing as we explore our own life paths. Cheers!
I'm so thankful to my friends who actually understand that I'm going to need my own space. Specially this pandemic I was so stressed out because I felt stagnant and I can't get myself to pretend to be all happy and chatty with them and I told my bestfriend that. That I'm going to be mostly MIA but when they reach out I'll be there for them. Being friends shouldn't be just based on whether u sti hang out or not. Because you'll grow up and have ur own busy life and so are they. But there are also friends that u out grow. Personally I cant force myself to be mentally and emotionally okay for my friends when I'm actually not. But I always remind them how much I love them
Akala ko ako lang may ganon sa sitwasyon ni Pam, from shs to college at naging defense mechanism ko is iwasan sila tapos dumating pandemic yung issue ko sakanila from jhs pa hindi na naayos now wala na akong friends kasi nagka silent agreement na lang kami na wag na mag exists sa isa't-isa. nakakamiss maging tao haha yung may friends ka na makakausap aside sa family mo. but can't blame them. nice video anws!
This has to be my second favorite rec-create drinkinh keme, second to Angelica-Bea's hahaahahaha Cheers to ate girl in black! I live for your audacity, and how unapologetic you are about the things u want and u dont. Cheka hahahahahaua
Hahaha Bianca (girl in black) is so entitled and toxic. Ang shallow ng reason nya and up to now di man lang nya naintindihan si Pam. This pandemic really hits hard and we all have different actions to deal with it. Not because pinili nung isa na mag space out doesn’t mean na end na un. Also, if she is a true friend, sana mas naging understanding sya. Nag reach out naman si Pam nung birthday nya but she still blocked her without asking anything man lang. Good riddance for Pam!!!
@@ajaxp7176 yeah but reaching out *specifically* only on her birthday is pretty sus. it goes to show kung ano na yung status ng friendship nila at that point, i think kahit before the pandemic pa. it is what it is ig. but she doesn't seem entitled and toxic, alam lang niya kung paano unahin ang best interest niya sa buhay (its a good trait for some).
@@PeterPenn10 hahahaa what is suspicious about that? Can’t we greet our friend on their birthdays? or dapat ba palagi ka chat para lang masabi na healthy un friendship? Di ba pwede the other way around, na naalala nya un special day ng friend nya? As I’ve mentioned, more on understanding issue talaga. Bianca should learn that not everyone will act on her standard. Yes, good thing she knows what she wants but I think to throw their friendship just like that goes to show how selfish she is. This episode mukang willing un Pam to mend their friendship pero itong si Bianca wala na. To think na medyo petty lang naman un issue (nag space out lang naman si Pam due to personal issue especially now na pandemic pa). Well, opinion mo yan pero for me, okay lang naman to cut off friends pero sana pinakinggan muna whatever the reason was. Wag puro ka negahan na puro pagdududa. Lastly, lahat naman affected ng pandemic pero we can be a little kinder naman to everyone not puro doubting and suspicions lalo na kung friend mo naman
i feel for pam, sana pinakinggan rin siya ng ex friends niya. ang hirap mag maintain ng friendships if ang dami mong kailangan iresolve sa sarili mo and sometimes, we resort to isolation kahit na hindi naman natin sinasadya, hanggang sa marealize natin na ang tagal mo na palang ganun. i just hope people would be more understanding sa isa’t isa.
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exactlyyy it feels so bad to be in that mental state tas pag balik mo sa "friends" mo, they took it personally lol
This 💯
Exactly my thoughts. Parang dapat friends yung isa sa makaintindi satin when we have our "ghosting" time dahil di tayo mentally okay. Or maybe di lang talaga lahat aware sa mga instances na nagse-self isolate yung ibang tao because of personal issues. Hayz
@@jem3706 exactlyyy
Ang toxic lang nung naka green na jacket lolz. Ang aggressive niya the whole video. "Ex-landi" pa lang naman sila nung girl, dating stage siguro. 'Di pa nga sila grabe na makabakod? Yikes. At sa best friend pa? Dude, if you're that insecure, na pati best friend mo pinagdududahan mo kahit nagsabi na mismo sayo na platonic lang ang friendship nila, baka wala na sa kanila yung problem. He said it himself pa nga, na the other dude was the gold standard of a friend. Soooo...
Tsaka yung breaking the bro code? Please. Prime example yan of patriarchal reinforcement. Women aren't objects you can call "dibs" on. Kahit pa may label kayo or wala. I'm happy for Efren for dodging the bullet there.
This. Really this one. I don't get that bro code thing tho, siguro the incorrect thing is kung nilandi talaga, pero at his case he did not.
I know right. Evident yung inis at galit sa tao. Hahaha
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So true. Self-absorbed si kuya 🤟
Also takot masapawan lmao
I guess the two girls on black and white floral outfits are no longer "ex-friends" from the moment they reunited for this video. Hehe. I'm happy they still consider each other "bestfriend". :)
WAS ROOTING FOR THEM THE ENTIRE TIME
Same
The girl na naka black na top sya yung tipo ng friend na pag nag away sya yung pinaka ma pride HAHAHHAHAHA
First 2mins and I already had a bad typa vibe coming from her. Also, body language speaks for itself.
TOTOO MUKHA(EXPRESSIONS) PALANG E BAD VIBES NA
Ang petty lang, sana rin naman inapproach niya to check kung okay lang 'yung kaibigan niya? Minsan kailangan mo lang din silang kumustahin eh. Hahahaha ewan ko ba
Gusto pa nung nakablack iba pa magadjust
as first impressions go I guess thats true but I think she's mature enough to cut off people no longer welcome in her life. its not about blaming the other person, its just about putting your best foot forward for your own interest.
Kudos sa pagiging cool ni Efren despite sa bitterness ni Mark althroughout the video.
that's brothers
Being left behind by a friend or losing a friend is actually more heartbreaking than a break-up.
True
Mas nakakapang-hinayang
This is true but at least you know who will be called your "true friend" with any given circumstances.
Shiiit this is my first heartbreak talaga grabe
but once you learn how to forgive yourself from said loss, you actually grow a lot from it!
Like as if your heart had been given some immunization from the harshness of losing someone.
The one wearing the green jacket is the type of friend i would never want lmao
He's the type of person no one should be associated with he's the gold standard for jerks apaka toxic ni koya
Tumanda sana siya na single at walang tunay na kaibigan🤞🏽
Kapal ng mukha. To think na nagfeeling lang siya na nilalandi nung ex friend niya yung girl na "gusto lang naman niya" kaya nasira ang friendship nila. Kapal talaga
@@paulinemusni192 i was about to say na may point magalit yong nkagreen. Akala ko kasi nging gf nya yon pala gusto nya lg. 🤣 kmi nga ng bestfrnd ko mas malala. Ignored each other for yrs because of one girl but still ended up forgiving each other. I guess it all depends on the level of frndship.
Ardy Armedilla mom y mmmol OOOO y su familia de mi
I relate to pam's reasoning behind her ghosting. I was in the same situation for the past months and I'm currently trying to be more connected with my friends while dealing with my issues. I am just glad that I have understanding friends:] once I've responded to them (to their bday greetings) after months of ghosting, they told me to take my time and space, they won't bother me until I am in my best condition.
Halos 1 year na akong gento and kahit ngayon my friends didn't know what is going to me,ang nagyari parang ako yong ng break ng friendship namen
My friend was also like this, and what we do as her friends, we understand her. Sometimes she'll messaged us, more often she'll not. But it's okay with us. Everyone needs to be alone at some point in their lives. Everyone deserves peace. Kaya, I would say. Choose your friends wisely. Yung alam mong hindi lang pang-saya kung hindi pati na rin sa ghosting phase mo.
Same. Pero nagabiso ako sa friends ko na I’ll be away indefinitely. < 3
Update: so yong internet friend ko halos 3days na niya ako kinukulit chinachat tinatawag sa mga socmed acc. pero hindi ko paden siya kinikibo i feel bad kasi baka feeling niya ayaw ko na sakaniya eh ang hindi niya alam gusto ko talaga mapagisa and i feel bless kasi hindi niya paden ako sinusukuan🥺huhu
ohmy same
i commend pam for still saying she looks up to the girl na naka black croptop. it's not easy going through personal things and your friends just not giving you understanding when you need it most. but here she is still appreciating her. the fact that she reached out shows she still brought out some courage to approach. understanding is key not pride
I agree.
legit yung "nakakapagod din naman mag first move" I really felt that, kahit "uy! kamusta" mga ganon laking tulong nun lalo na kung kaylangan mo talaga marinig yon sa mga oras na yon:((
Samedt :(((
true tapos para tayo lang anh may pakialam sa kanila hahah
huy oo totoo too, nakakapagod na ikaw lagi nakakaalala hahahaha
Truthhhh knowing na mas kailangan mo yun pero ikaw yung unang magsasabi nun like parang ako nalang ba palagi nakakaalala
Ramdam ko talaga to. Tapos sa'yo, never sila nagtanong kung okay ka lang ba or kumusta ka?
Naiintindihan ko sila ate na naka-black na top at ung isa na naka-blue. Darating talaga tayo sa punto na isang araw gigising nalang tayo sa umaga na 'magpapahinga o mapapagod tayo bilang kaibigan nila'. At valid pa rin ang pakiramdam na 'yon.
Ang daming emotional baggage ng kuyang naka green jacket. Good luck making friends with that energy/vibe 😬😬😬
Mukhang mahirap syang maging tropa... 🤣🤣
Mukhang toxic na friend
Haha..feeling entitled nga si kuya..putah kung ako, bahala ka sa buhay mo.oi..
Ang immature nung other person na nam-block dhil di kinausap for a year. Now, knowing the circumstances na she was down and did not want to meet anyone, dapat mas intidihan nya pa kasi baka (clinically) depressed si Girl. I am only reading between the lines. Still, for a depressed person, the least a person wanted to do is reached out and ask for help. And the moment that person wanted to talk, yun na yung isa sa mga senyales na she gathered all her courage to talk. Kaso, di nila sya pinakinggan, nam-block pa.
right!!! ang immature hahaha tinry na nga makipagreconcile pero nablock pa. most likely nadagdagan pa ng pasanin si pam kasi siya yung nagmumukhang may kasalnan
I wouldn't approach the guy na naka green jacket, nor would I attempt to be friends with him. Ang toxic ng ugali niya. Laging walang kasalanan. Yes, hindi ko siya kilala. Pero based on this, and his assumption (lang) about yung ex landi niya, he can keep his insecurities to himself. Like dude, it's 2021. Platonic relationships do exist. And if hindi nga platonic at tama ka, learn some self control naman.
Very well said
That's what I thought as well
nabibibwisit ako sa kanya ahhshsah
Same thoughts. Negatron alert. Akala ko nung una nagbibiro lang eh, pero hanggang dulo ng vid galit pa din haha. The guy clearly has baggage.
Kaloka kayo haha kaya nga ex-friends eh kasi may dalang hinanakit
1:40 although i didn't know their whole story, this case made me sad especially for pam. both of their feelings are valid pero masyadong mean yung pag-block nung naka black top kay pam just because she was coping and dealing with her life problems. hindi ata kaya nung naka black top ang low maintenance friendships. I guess it's good for pam na nawalan siya ng ganyang klaseng kaibigan na bibitawan ka porket nawalan lang ng communication. understandable siguro kung may ginawang masama si pam, pero the black top girl said na nawala siya for a year because pam isolated herself from people dahil sa stress and problems. mukhang okay naman si black top girl kahit may "other friends" naman siya.
remember na some people need their alone time kapag nagdedeteriorate ang mental health. i hope we'll respect and understand na ganon sila mag-cope.
Pam's friends could've been more understanding of her. She's going through something and sometimes people need space to fix and to figure out things on their own. Also, blocking a friend after "seenzoning" her doesn't make sense to me. I mean why wait for that person to message you on your birthday when you could've blocked her long before. Sooooo immature and petty methinks!
Toxic things lang. Ways to hurt someone
True di ko bet ugali nun sa totoo lang blessing in disguise na rin if naremoved siya sa buhay ni Pam.We don’t need toxic friends dapat he could’ve been more understanding.
we really dont know the side of pam's ex friend what if nahurt talaga siya sa ginawa ni Pam? ung cant just ghost ur friend just like that ng di man lang nagsasabi ng reason or explanation sa kanila gaya nga ng sabi sa vid they were really bestfriends and then bigla nalang silang inalis sa buhay ni Pam that time without saying anything. but the good thing with pam is that she knows the consequences of her doings.
@@riaapanlilio8327 Her reason was "i got depressed" that should be a reason enough. Kung magpamataas ka pa. Wala kang kwentang kaibigan. Also your friends, di sila nanay or tatay mo para need mo mag paalam. Kung may friends kayo na sila pa nagalit instead of worrying kung ano ngyare sayo immature sila. I felt sorry for Pam. She deserves better friends.
@@steff162 ta's para do'n sa friend ni Pam, si Pam pa ang immature and toxic hshshshs
no wonder they are not friends anymore, one of each pairs are “toxics”
except the two pairs tbh
suggestions: political and apolitical strangers
a cheater and the cheated one (I'm not sure if someone will volunteer hahah)
ex lovers for more than 5 years in a relationship but ended up marrying other person
Up for ex lovers for more than 5 years in a relationship but ended up marrying another person
YESSS PLSS!!
UPPP!!!
This would be so interesting
the last one is gonna be so juicy lmfaoo
Why would you end a friendship just because the other person needed time for herself? Also, it was just one year. At least she sent a message on her birthday but blocking her was kinda mean and immature. Kami nga ng close friends ko once a year lang makaka hang out dahil narin sa busy scheds and school but we don't take that against each other. We still enjoy being together and talk like we've been seeing each other everyday even tho we sometimes won't be able to talk for a year sad haha. Thankful for those kind of friends ❤️❤️
Agree
Hello, everyone. This is Pam (the one wearing the blue shirt, at yes Jujutsu Kaisen po yan HSHSJAJSGS)
Thank you for this opportunity, Rec create! 🥰
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Proud of you ate!! 💗
@@urmytwenties Thank you, bb!
Hello Pam! I just want to say that I would love to be your friend. :)
@@nicoleramirez200 Omg hello! thank you
the girl who's wearing black top. doesn't even try to understand what pam's feelings lol
toxic talagaa
cute sana sya, kaso her personality got so toxic so quick
true! i get very toxic vibes from her.
"may konting galit pa ... kasi hobby ko magalit eh" honestly, same
I somehow relate to Pam' reason. As I left my teenage years and enter the adulting stage, I've faced many problems (mostly identity crisis and personal issues). This was then the time I began to isolate myself from everyone (including my friends) and become more reserved. I never chat them anymore. I turn off my active status on socmed and even phone's notifs. Though, I still consider them as a friend at that phase of isolating myself, I usually question if our friendship still exists, when I often see photos of her in socmed with new set of friends. Then I realized, it's not really that bad having only yourself. You focus on yourself and you enjoy you also your time with yourself ❤️
Yan yung naramdaman ko po. Same as yours, I felt so worthless at the point na I choose to stay away from everyone.
the girl in a black top blocking her friend for "ghosting them" rubs me off the wrong way haha ewan ko lang baka kasi nakarelate ako kay ateng nakablue kaya i can't help but feel for her more
yung naka jacket na green halatang may kinikimkim pa ah.
pinaka masakit yung "i have other friends"
Based on their conversations and reasonings i personally wouldn’t want a friend like the one with green jacket and the girl in black croptop. I feel bad dun sa girl na naka blue na shirt, selfish ng ex-friend nya masyado:(
I think you should not judge them, if you did not experienence how they feel.
truly
don’t judge ate naman. we don’t really know the real story behind her ending the friendship between the blue shirt girl. masyadong vague yung story na nakita natin sa video to conclude na selfish si ate irl.
True
@@arajahstan6549 Gets, but that’s how im seeing it kac blue shirt girl reached out to her and whatever reasons if she truly cares for her friend she could’ve listen atleast. Crop top girl even said “i have other friends” lol
the guy with green jacket kinda gives of 'toxic ex-friend' vibes
You can't really judge him unless you know the full story, Can't blame him medj betrayed sya dun sa Friend nya hanging out with his ex
@@michaku6272 di nga sila magex, taking stage pa lang sila nun. Inecure lang talaga siya kasi binakuran niya na yung girl hindi pa nga sila lmao
@@cloudofreverie786 sabi nga *Ex* edi ok ? Bat parang kasalanan ko wahhaha 😂 Kahit na" taking place palang " the fact na alam ni kuya na me gusto tska baka "niligawan". tas nag hangout pala sila nung gurl tsaka kaibigan nya medj red flag na *Katropa* mo yun eh tas, sa babae lng nag kaganyan na same goes for kuyang naka green. Still need nila mag usap tlga
Kahit sabihin pa nung kuya "Wala lng yung pag hangout nila". Just an *Opinion* di ko think na insecure sya more of *Betrayed* na *Kaibigan* pa tlga nya
@@michaku6272 platonic relationships exist yk? Hindi naman por que nag hahang out sila may something na agad na namamagitan sa kanila
@@jxcnnie omg.. you again lol ok.
skl again "opinion only" also " benefit of the doubt"
Love the friendship and personality of the curly-haired woman and her friend an naka white sobrang chill nila and you can feel na willing sila to resolve whatever issue they had para mabalik young friendship nila nakakatuwa young ganun pareho silang open to re-connect :)
As for the guy na naka green jacket grabe makabakod eh "kalandian" mo palang naman yng girl and akala ko ba may bro code ang mga boys na "bros before ***'*" eh bakit pinagpalit mo yung BESTFRIEND mo dude masydo kang nagpaka galit eh nag hang out lang naman pala sila wala namang ginawa. I guess insecure ka sa mismong bestfriend mo. Kc listening to his reason he is very consistent sa sinasabi nyang di nya bet yung kalandian mo at nagkataon lang na naghang out sila nun girl but you took it in a wrong way. Kudos dun sa bestfriend mo he is willing to patch things up with you kahit ang toxic ng ugali mo at wala kang tiwala sknya.
“Ayoko nga sayo eh.” Grabe yung pagkafarmer ni kuyang naka-green jacket hahaha
Wahahhaa ang paet nga nya ee. Like omg parang walang bilib sa sarili ang taas ng insecurities niya.
Oo jusq kapangit pangit naman
Tru
Green guy can’t seem to see past his own ego to understand floral guy’s pov. Like if you don’t trust your bestfriend enough to believe him when he says that the thing with the gal is platonic then that’s a you problem lol. Also, ang shallow ng reason for the whole FO kasi him and the girl weren’t even a thing in the first place so essentially parang there’s a misplaced anger deflected to floral guy bec clearly green jacket guy has no one else to get mad to (seems like a simp for the gal so probs cant get mad at her) and it’s probs his own way of making himself feel better. Just my two cents.
same thoughts because ang shallow lang and at the end of the day, it's the girl's choice. why would he even get possessive eh suitor palang siya lmao
i was able to experience a suitor similar to the boy wearing the green jacket. he got possessive over me and he got jealous when i seemed to pay more attention to my other suitor even though I already made it clear sakaniya na we're just friends and we'll never get past that. Still, he didn't listen and the next thing i know he slammed the boy on the pavement outside of our campus and it quickly got really messy. He almost tainted my almost perfect school record just because he's insecure. Geezus, these type of guys are really dangerous. i'm glad i dodged a bullet.
I’m sorry but the insecurity of the guy in green jacket towards his ex bff screams.
pam and bianca’s situation speak to me a lot but i am bianca. i understand kung bakit ganon siya ka-guarded after what pam did. imagine establishing yourself as this person’s “best friend” and then isang araw, nag-iba na lahat. imagine being left clueless, confused, and frustrated. i’m going to think that something is wrong with me and it’s going to take a toll on me too. best friend nga ako diba, so if you tell me you’re going to ghost me, ako dapat, of all people, ang unang makakaintindi. so you not telling me what’s up is such a big bruise sa friendship.
it’s just sad that a lot of people in the comments are invalidating bianca’s feelings. the pain and anxiety goes both ways. bianca being labeled as “toxic” for cutting of someone who has caused her so much pain and anxiety is such a one-sided take on their story.
omg someone said it already, i do feel for pam in some ways, but the comments they left for bianca were just intolerable. I cannot stand how they invalidate bianca's side when we only have the snippet of what happened between the friends. I was actually starting to think i might be as well a bad friend myself, bcs i know sooner i'd be like bianca for my own sake too.
Like pam, maybe bianca has her own reason for what she chose to do. And also, i really admire pam for accepting and respecting it.
Dibaaaa... the feeling imbes na bestfriend turingan niyo but ikaw pa yong clueless. Muntik or naging bianca ako at some point sa relationship namin ng bestfriend ko. But we're goods now. Di niya nalaman na naging ganon yong feeling ko but na intindihan ko din siya kalaunan. Mahirap intindihin ang side ni bianca if you haven't experienced it first hand
kahit lagi ako nanonood ng rec-create vids, minsan lang ako magcomment dito pero can i just say na sobrang savage nung naka-black v-neck shirt na girl pota kung ako yung ex-bestfriend niya tapos sinabihan akong "phase lang sa buhay" iiyak na ko eh ahahahahahaha
pota teh same. hahagulgol talaga ko nyan pag ako sinabihan
napaka emotional damage nun
tension between bianca and pam though .. i hope they're happy !! hehe nice vid, recreate
feel na feel ko talaga itong episode na ito 😭😩
i've lost many good friendships kasi im not the type of person who is active online or in social media in general
i just find it harder to reach out/connect with people if i cant be in physical contact with them
I’m happy for the ladies in black seems like they’re about to be bffs again.
Panong Di na ako sasama sa kanila e na a outcast na ako. They're that friends na pag Di mo INA approach Di din sila mag a approach sayo like wtf are y'all my friends? Or napipilitan Lang kayo makipag kaibigan sakin. Like WTF?! We're friends since 3rd year high school pero Yung trato nyo sakin ay parang others. So I decided to rid off my self to them for the sake of my mental health na Rin.
THIS!!! its better off to be alone than being an outcast.
omaig!
MOST TOXIC ENERGY GOES TO THE GUY WITH THE GREEN JACKET 😂 ENTITLED AF
Super true!!!
i wish ate bianca could've been more understanding of ate pam's situation, and hahahaha tbh, we really see birthdays as opportunities to converse w ppl whom we have lost contact w for a looong time so for me there's nothing 'fishy' abt that
Ok SKL about my story, about the “bro code” thing. Long story short this guy na kaibigan ko told his friends to “back off” din from me. So when we all hang out, no one was approaching me and that made me feel lonely and kasama ko lang the whole time was this guy friend. Nakakafrustrate lang kasi in my persoective ang satingin ko parang I got “dibs” like yung dating nya is, “oi wag nyo kakausapin yan akin lang yan” when in reality is guy friend ko lang sya and I DON’T see him that way. It pissed me off because kahit na guy friend kita or kahit na GUSTO mo ko, you have NO rights to limit or control who approaches me na gusto makipagusap saken and who I want go talk to. Sino ka ba para pumili kung ano yung tama o mali in your opinion? Like WTF nakakainis lang. Para saken, red flag yan matic heck even my female friends and mutual friends din namin na lalaki naoff sa kanya when he said that (kasi everyone knew except for me so my female friends told me what happened). Guys let the girl choose who she wants to talk to and who wants to talk to her because you DO NOT own her.
This is not to bash Kuya with black shirt and a sweater, but his statements were as if kasalanan lahat ni Kuyang nakafloral, basically invalidating whatever reasons or explanations he may throw.
And Kuyang nakablack shirt with a sweater... I've been there also, pero sana naman nakinig po tayo.
He might be honest with his reasons na all he have done was all for entertainment kasi nga he enjoys the company.
He even said na he respects you kasi nga bet mo yong "girl" na kasakasama niya/ niyo sa galaan.
I think, you isolated yourself all of a sudden without even knowing the whole part of the story.
You will never know the other side of the coin without flipping it 😊
I hope kahit mahal ang Bali, pagbibigyan mo si Kuyang nakafloral because I think he is trully a gold standard friend.
Nag kukupalan lang sila pero totoo mag tropa parin sila deep inside hahaha need lang ni kuya ng time maka move on sa babae. HAHA
For me sarcastic lang yung naka green na jacket kaya ganun siya ganun den kase ako sa mga naging friends ko before kaya naiintindihan ko siya
welp insecurity really ate him up lmao
@@jimboypogi0909 I think that's not the case here po.
We consider sarcasm about that specific issue when it was brought up once, but once we hear it more than one time. That's no longer sarcasm, as if he's throwing those words to Kuyang nakafloral to ask his apologies where in fact nothing wrong happened. Ex-fling palang po kasi iyon and like what other people said, he's as if putting a mark on his belongings/ territories where there is none.
@@atsuki18 I thought so too.
Maybe he's not that confident kaya feel niya naaagawan/ maaagawan siya. I feel sorry for him but he's not being nice to Kuyang nakafloral.
i understand pam in some ways. been distant to my friends (idk if i'm allowed to still call them friends) cause im down, unwell. i see a part of me in her. but i can't blame bianca for not wanting the friendship again
i wish both of u happiness and peace of mind. hugs :>
This is the level of petty I can’t stand, not to invalidate their feelings or anything pero I find it very immature how they handled their friendship. Napakashallow ng reasons nila why they ended their relationship with their supposedly bestfriend because honestly true friends communicate, understand, and empathize with each other which apparently there is a lack of in this video. Now if something trivial ends a friendship then probably you’re not genuine friends after all, maybe just friends out of convenience. This clearly goes to show that we must value quality over quantity, naiinis ako dun sa statement na I have other friends naman, parang dispensable mga friends nya, tsk tsk.
hope pam feels better na and i hope she is in a good headspace rn. yung nakablack, i understand na she got hurt and was left confused as to why pam ghosted them but i wish nagreach out sila or nagbigay support for pam. everyone copes in a different way. i feel like masyadong inoverthink nung nakablack yung pagsorry ni pam nung birthday niya lmao. so what na nagsorry si pam nung birthday niya? maybe pam was trying to find a time where mas magaan yung pakiramdam nung nakablack or timing na okay yung usapan nila. not everyone has bad intentions!! kahit anong time, as long as they are not taking advantage of you, their words may be sincere. wag masyadong mapride at maging maintindihin din :) but then again, we don't really know the full story no
For Pam, you are a good person. Never let your "former friends" tell you otherwise. You deserve a more understanding friend than the one who is just there when you're "convenient and happy". Being alone is better than surround yourself with people with not so genuine interests in you. You did nothing wrong, you were battling a war alone and you deserve better treatment than that. Virtual hugs.
Masakit talaga mawalan ng best friend, but I do believe in the saying that people come and go. I really miss my bestfriends and it ended ng dahil lang sa simple misunderstanding. I hope I do get a chance to catch up with them or maybe talk to them again, someday.
Nakakaiyak naman sila Pam gagi mas masakit pa sa break up ng jowa mo
I have a friend, nag-away kami nung graduation practice namin which is di namin alam na lockdown na pala the next day. We didn’t talk for almost 4 months kasi we’re both ma-pride and that time rin I’m dealing a personal problems ko and dumagdag pa yung away namin kaya mas bumigat yung nararamdaman ko nung nagsisimula pa lang ang pandemic. But nung birthday nya chinat ko sya, I decided to say sorry kasi we’re both at fault naman and para na rin mabawasan ang pain na nararamdaman ko cause I know that I would regret it if tuluyan ng masisira ang friendship namin. Sinabi nya na she wants to chat me raw para magkaayos kami but nalilimutan nya at hindi dahil sa pride sya kundi nalilimutan nya lang talaga, nung sinabi nya yon na-isip ko na if she wants talaga di na nya ipagpapaliban pa lalo na’t lagi nya itong nalilimutan but di na ako nag-overthink the important is nag-kaayos kami before it’s too late so save our friendship. After that sobrang gumaan ang pakiramdam ko, we’re still close but Hindi na the closest sa barkada. Our friendship became stronger but I decided to not expect much sa friendship namin, kasi feel ko mas nag-wowork ito sa amin.
people come and go but there are times that you'll meet someone you'll call bestfriend. May mga valid reasons din naman sila kaya sila lumalayo pero masakit din ma-ghost at iwanan sa ere ng kaibigan mo. To those people who wish there bestfriends good fortune even though you haven't spoken for the longest time, I salute you! Keep moving forward.
Madalas ako mawala sa social media no connection with friends kasi sa mental breakdown kailangan ko magrefresh, luckily sobrang understanding Ng friends ko kahit Hindi ko sinasabi na magooff muna ako sa socmed they will accept me parin etc. Kay ate na naka blue sana okay kana ngayon kung ano man nararanasan mo. Fighting!
Same sis✨
Someone forwarded me an invitation about sa binyag ng daughter ng ex-close friend ko kasi akala niya ay invited ako, argh pain. Expected ko na that they already burn the bridges pero hindi ko magawa sa kanila kasi I really treasure them kaya pinipigilan ko na lang na makibalita hanggang sa masanay ako. Pero masakit pa rin pala talaga kapag friendship
Yeah, ang sakit ng akala ng iba invited ka pero hindi pala, nasaktan ka na nga na-ingit ka pa kasi mas close kayo minsan sa buhay nyo pero ikaw ang hindi ka na-invite
Ang hirap pala no. I had very good friends sa previous work ko that I built for almost 10 years but because of bad decisions mawawala na lang connection. Thinking about it now nakakamiss din yun mga happy and not so happy memories. This video is giving me hope na baka maayos pa yun yung mga connections na yun. I hope its not too late.
Missing my ex-bestfriend too. Matagal na kaming di nag uusap. Madaming reasons. Isang part na din yung adulthood. Change of priorities. Change of personalities too.
ako lang ba nabbitchy-han dun sa girl na naka black?
:mangangamusta ko, magssend ka lang ng picture
"ano gagawin ko dyan papaprint ko?"
HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA
to that one bestfriend of mine who i never talked to during the lockdown. i heard ur going thru something rough right now. if you somehow see this for whatever circumstance, i hope you'll be okay. i don't think we can still mend our friendship, but i hope it helped u grow, because it helped me a lot.
I'm not perfect and may have done numerous mistakes in the past but watching this video and reading thru the comments, I'm just thankful na if ever ma invite ako dito wla akong maisip na dalhing "ex-friend". Kasi my friends are few but I never really had someone totally cut off from my life. Even if di na kami nag uusap, feel ko naman friends pa din kami and walang bad blood between us.
Asawa at Kabit nmn 🤣
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Yooooo epic episode
Hahahha ginoo. Mahimong tulfo ni hahahahaha
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"hobby ko talagang magalet" as the biggest energy in the room
pam's friends could've been more understanding. bc in pam's devastating time, they were probably more mentally stable. but we all respond differently so...
sorry pero yung green jacket guy ang insecure mo naman, wala ka bang tiwala sa sarile mo? hahaha
like dude, if the girl hangs out/kumausap sa ibang guys (kahit friend mo pa yun) sorry pero wala kang right magsabi ng wag
tas ang weird naman maggalit ka sa kaibigan mo, e paano kung naguusap lang talaga sila? AND if gusto ka talaga ni girl, pwede naman niya idecline yung hangout nila... e wala, na amoy tuloy yung insecurity mo.
next time, lessen your insecurity, show your confidence, mas ggustuhin yun ng girl
Bat nga kasi sila *Nagu-usap* ng *ex* nya , i think MAS medj weird lng *Kaibigan* mo tas *Naghahangout* sila ng *Ex* *mo* ano paguusapan nila
RIGHT?
He just aired a major red flag tbh. Nilalandi pa lang pero willing to lose a bro over a girl na.
yess hahah dunno why it would be called *Insecurity* na magtaka tsaka magalit knowing na Nag uusap *Malapit* mung kaibigan at *Ex* mo. If your in his shoes tingnan natin kung gusto mo *Ex* mo makikipag hang out sa *Malapit* mung *Kaibigan* . parang betrayal eh kahit sabihin nyang walang *Malisya* ?... *lalaki* sya *babae* yun anu ba topic nilang paguusapan *makeup* ?
*TRUST* IS VERY IMPORTANT SA FRIENDSHIP AND IT GOES BOTH WAYS.
PERIODT. Dude also seems like the type of guy na magbabawal sa gf niya na magkaroon ng guy friends, which is toxic af.
That’s bro code hello. Anu ka ba. When the brad says back off. No questions ask. Aba si kuya pa good boy effect, may pag hang out sa ex nun bro? Very very very bad.
i really think pandemic has been one of the huge cause of friendship break ups. but in my perspective, a lot pf people are blaming pandemic because it "brought out the real us", that "our friendship should wistand this pandemic", i mean it's true in some aspect.
but based on personal experiences, the pandemic itself is the reason of our depression and anxiety that leads to not following up with friends. and often times, nagkakatalo, sabay sabay nangyayari sa lahat, mistaking to that "di sya mag c chat if di ako maga approach" scenario.
ang wholesome nung magka matchy ng outfit na girls 🥺 i miss my best friend :(((
i completely understand why bianca was upset after pam "ghosted" her. i mean, if i got ghosted too by my highschool best friend without having any idea why they did so despite my attempts of trying to reach out to them, i'd feel upset too. we dont know the entire story but im sure bianca has her reasons as to why she felt this way, they used to be best friends after all. nonetheless, what pam feels is so valid and so are bianca's feelings :DD
I love reading the comments about the guy with the green jacket and girl with the black top I'm quaking!!!
I relate to Pam. I had a group of friends during my 1st year in college. But then shit happened, I lost my mom due to a brain tumor. Bumagsak yung buong mundo ko because she was my everything. Nawalan ako ng gana sa lahat. Sa studies, sa pakikipagsocialize, sa pagkain. AS IN LAHAT. I even got to the point na gusto ko sumunod sa nanay ko. I got super thin, I was destructive. And those people that I considered as my friends weren't there for me. They didn't understand what I was feeling and what I was going through. I felt lost, I felt alone. I was depressed for years. It was a really cruel time for me. But thankfully, I got through it and I'm okay now. So ayun sana lang if you have friends going through the same, please be there for them. Always be kind to each other. You don't know what anybody is going through. Yakap ng mahigpit sa mga taong may mga problema o pinagdadaanan. You are not alone.
Thank GOD the “ nilalandi “ nung dalawa di napunta sa GREEN jacket guy.
Shuta Bad Vibes in one guy .The toxicity & negativity oozing from him.
Stressed siguro mga friends to sakanya 😬
Shy q naman jan HAHAHAHA Salamat Rec•Create ❤
i like this segment and ang genuine lang lahat and all of them are so brave to voice out what they feel kahit na pwedeng makasakit sa other side and also admire their courage na harapin yung mga ex friends nila nicee
7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Uy a readerrrrrrr 🖤
isa sa mga rason bakit me subscription ako dito! Iba talaga mga content nyo Guys! Keep creating beautiful and less toxic contents.
I just can't imagine myself with a so called bestfriend
samee
Same. I have issues with being intimate and open to other people. Loss faith to humanity it is.
Ang awkward pero salamat, rec-create!!! 😅
ang ganda po ng jacket mo
Ang shallow naman pag yung friendship nyo matatapos dahil nagkapandemic. Like whyyy?
my best friend and I don't usually talk. Umaabot ng months or even a year but when we find a time naman we're still the same. I guess people have different views on how you should befriend them. And yung tampo tampo, medyo petty. Sorry. nakakapika lang yung ganun lalo na pag busy ka sa life.
You already said it "My" yun ka eh, yun kayo ng kaibigan mo at hindi lahat ng tao katulad nyo o mo makipagkaibigan, hope you gwt the message right
Let's not invalidate the girl's choice. If it really helps her mental health that tome then it's definitely worth it.
calling their friendship shallow means your invalidating their feelings. dude, magkakaiba tayo. don't question others' friendships just because theirs aren't strong as what you have. please lang. those so-called tampos had different reasons and labeling them as petty shows how ignorant you are. you're lucky but ignorance sometimes isn't a bliss to most of ppl
I also resorted to isolation during pandemic. Cause that was also the time I broke up with my ex where I just closed myself off from the world. I didn't want to talk to anyone including my friends hoping na I can resolve my issues on my own.
But I guess I'm lucky because my friends were not like Bianca na kahit ang tagal ko silang hindi nakausap, hindi nila ako binlock. They still tried to understand me and my situation kahit na hindi ko pa sinasabi or kinekwento sa kanila yung reason. Because at that time I wasn't ready to open up, I still needed some time and space for me to heal.
Don't worry Pam, honestly you don't deserve that kind of friendship. Mas mabuti pa ring kaibiganin yung mga taong marunong umunawa sa'yo.
"Hobby ko talaga ang magalit." i feel u bro
Meron kasi tayong friends na possessive talaga at super sensitive. Nakakasakal minsan lalo't ako yung taong gusto makakilala ng iba't-ibang tao.
I'm glad that my hs friends became more mature. Now we're friends again.
Me and my friends also lost connection during the pandemic but we settle it now. we're friends again now
"Communication is the key"
I experienced that na isang araw gumising wala na akong pake parang dati habol na habol ako sa mga friends ko. Pero ngayon. Wala na parang "ahh okay"
keeno and jonty parin😩
This
They're friends already
This one really showed the best character human being could give to other.
"Forget the person and forgive myself" -- As a Scorpio, I say TAMA!!!
also, gulat ako walang nagsapakan eme HAHAHA
Grabe naman etong Bianca na eto. What a cold hearted person.
ung naka green jacket alam mong may galit pa eh hqahaha
i really like this kind of content, please do more haha
Yung naka black at naka navy blue! HAHAHAHAHHAHA omgggg the tension!!!!
Agree. They embody the whole sense of this vid na ex-friend talaga, yung iba kasi parang friends parin naman
I love the vibe of the curly hair girl and the girl wearing white. Yung awkward at 1st pero in the middle magiging okay na sila.
Now I realize how I am blessed and super thankful to have my bestfriends 💓 I really love my personss!
I cannot be friends with my former best friend despite of all the good things that we've been through. Sexual harrasment is a good reason to stop our connection. I'm thankful nag cross paths natin pero sana hindi na tayo magkita.
That’s really a violation of bro code. Pag sinabe na nga ng bro mo na back off, tumigil ka na kahit wala lang yun pag hang out mo sa ex nya. May tension and galit pa din tuloy kahit pa joke. The other two girls are still bestfriends, na offend lang pero mamemend. The other pair, heartless yun isang girl. Kaya nga lumayo yung isa kase meron shang personal issues. That’s where understanding comes in, na dapat andun ka. Nag message na sayo what did you do? You read and blocked.
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bro code is not absolute. Sometimes, have some reality check din, like un naka green na jacket, more on insecurities lang nya un and he was just blaming Efren. Nilinaw naman nung isa na platonic relationship lang (yes, that exists with man and a woman) Also, women are not object para i-“dibs” lang. Just saying
Girls are not a thing you call "dibs". Bro code is stupid
People change. That's it. HAHAHA I just wish all of us together with our friends won't and shouldn't hate each other just because we are changing as we explore our own life paths. Cheers!
ang daming tea 😂 parang ansarap makipag inuman tas ayun yung topic
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Let's rephrase that, forgive and move on ! period
straight agad dito thru fb eh haha
I'm so thankful to my friends who actually understand that I'm going to need my own space. Specially this pandemic I was so stressed out because I felt stagnant and I can't get myself to pretend to be all happy and chatty with them and I told my bestfriend that. That I'm going to be mostly MIA but when they reach out I'll be there for them. Being friends shouldn't be just based on whether u sti hang out or not. Because you'll grow up and have ur own busy life and so are they. But there are also friends that u out grow. Personally I cant force myself to be mentally and emotionally okay for my friends when I'm actually not. But I always remind them how much I love them
when kuya mark says “hobby ko talaga magalit” same kuya same HAHAHAHHA
Akala ko ako lang may ganon sa sitwasyon ni Pam, from shs to college at naging defense mechanism ko is iwasan sila tapos dumating pandemic yung issue ko sakanila from jhs pa hindi na naayos now wala na akong friends kasi nagka silent agreement na lang kami na wag na mag exists sa isa't-isa. nakakamiss maging tao haha yung may friends ka na makakausap aside sa family mo. but can't blame them. nice video anws!
This has to be my second favorite rec-create drinkinh keme, second to Angelica-Bea's hahaahahaha
Cheers to ate girl in black! I live for your audacity, and how unapologetic you are about the things u want and u dont. Cheka hahahahahaua
Hahaha Bianca (girl in black) is so entitled and toxic. Ang shallow ng reason nya and up to now di man lang nya naintindihan si Pam.
This pandemic really hits hard and we all have different actions to deal with it. Not because pinili nung isa na mag space out doesn’t mean na end na un. Also, if she is a true friend, sana mas naging understanding sya. Nag reach out naman si Pam nung birthday nya but she still blocked her without asking anything man lang. Good riddance for Pam!!!
@@ajaxp7176 yeah but reaching out *specifically* only on her birthday is pretty sus. it goes to show kung ano na yung status ng friendship nila at that point, i think kahit before the pandemic pa. it is what it is ig. but she doesn't seem entitled and toxic, alam lang niya kung paano unahin ang best interest niya sa buhay (its a good trait for some).
@@PeterPenn10 hahahaa what is suspicious about that? Can’t we greet our friend on their birthdays? or dapat ba palagi ka chat para lang masabi na healthy un friendship? Di ba pwede the other way around, na naalala nya un special day ng friend nya? As I’ve mentioned, more on understanding issue talaga. Bianca should learn that not everyone will act on her standard. Yes, good thing she knows what she wants but I think to throw their friendship just like that goes to show how selfish she is.
This episode mukang willing un Pam to mend their friendship pero itong si Bianca wala na. To think na medyo petty lang naman un issue (nag space out lang naman si Pam due to personal issue especially now na pandemic pa). Well, opinion mo yan pero for me, okay lang naman to cut off friends pero sana pinakinggan muna whatever the reason was. Wag puro ka negahan na puro pagdududa. Lastly, lahat naman affected ng pandemic pero we can be a little kinder naman to everyone not puro doubting and suspicions lalo na kung friend mo naman
"I considered her as 'phase' lang sa buhay ko" damn that hurts