Your work is real. As you don’t sell anti-narcisist t-shirts, bags and other merch, making money on victimhood. Isn’t that abuse itself? Respect for your work mr.V ✌🏼thanks
Everything you said is true. Once you have dealt with one of these predators, you are able to spot them immediately. It's a hard lesson but once you know, you know.
I came across some of those videos. It felt empty and commercial. I believe your channel have everything we need to know about narcissism and it's free. Which is very appreciated!
It almost like they gave the professor autistic lack of shame instead of narcissistic lack of shame, and now we have access to some of the greatest insights about narcissisms available.
From what I have learned, my understanding is that Narc’s are full of shame and perhaps self loathing, disgust with others perceived inferiority. In turn revealing their projection of their subconscious fear of being interior?
Absolutely. Time in video 25:50, I'm not perfect, but my particular experience yes. I was in a devastating situation, he rescued me, or so I thought, all the things I told him, he turned on me, used against me, created situations to rescue me from, isolated me, and really, I could have avoided it. Be grateful for the hand that feeds, that helps, beware the one who wishes to. Thank you sir. I really appreciate your content. I really appreciate your honesty. 😊
O and watch their mother figures ladies and gentlemen, for your own sake. I'm breaking habits, I'm breaking chains, I'm seeking help, I'm in therapy... I've seen many go leaps and bounds, but never for any reason other than to hone their skills and traits that only further themselves. I wondered about myself for some time, I've my reasons, learning to adapt to stay safe, to protect myself, it can make you as terrible as the monsters of the world. With people like the professor here, we can create a world without masks. Again. Thank you sir.❤
I can relate to your organic abs raw version of how you explain narcissism at the very core! You helped me escape a5 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I believe I have mild bpd and was diagnosed with general anxiety. Everything you explained about bpd and covert narc union was me and him. Thank you so much for your contribution to mental health Dr. Vaknin your are the father of narc movement! ❤🙏🏽🙌🏽🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
On a related topic, I have noticed a lot of psychologists (online and otherwise) who give advice about narcissists seem to have narcissistic tendencies themselves.
I really miss you professor of emotion for me in Sukkot... Thank you I appreciate every word and especially in the last six months, after I experienced first hand the rage and violence of a narcissist who turned into a psychopath! Thank you Professor for being persistent and an investor, I wish you all the best and lots and lots of videos in the future🏆🔝👑
Dear PROF SAM , What you said in the introduction of this video , about your own self :---- My homage to your's such raw truthfulness towards your own soul self beings . Very few persons in this earth plane possess the courage to be such bluntness honest to own self . 🕉 🙏 .
I had a saviour narcissist. I wanted him so badly but we did not have sex because he was in a relationship. It drove me insane because he groomed me to want him desperately for months on end.
If I trust anyone, it's you. I don't know anyone else who is noticeably authentic. The combination of your professional title and your narcissism is very unique. It is of great importance even though you are not here for us but for yourself. personally, I have reason to be convinced that narcissists cannot be cured exactly as you claim. And I I noticed that narcissists do not know the concept of rules,, of justice and morality. For me the message of the video is crystal clear.
How do communal narcissists interact with each other, e.g. I see a lot of them in groups (niches) for example work related and it’s so obvious they are narcissists but also friends?! What is the dynamic between friends who are narcissists or even in romantic relationships? I see narcissists of the same type together? Is it all unspoken who will be the dominant one or do they switch roles?
Bonded together in a shameless game of dominance. I think they operate as fule for each other and take turns pretending to be human for the sake of the other one as long as the favor is returned in kind at a later time.
@@CakeslyMcShakesly makes sense. Gosh it’s disgusting, I mean they relate to each other based on their fake selves and take turns?! I literally see them in horrible shape when they are on the bottom and then blossom when they are on top but still stay together… suffering?! They would rather be absolutely miserable and fake rather than authentic and happy. I really don’t know how to act around them as I have to interact with them for work or training related reasons. They act as if they are doing me a favour giving me their attention and time but I’m paying them for it (in the case of classes etc) and they are so sweet as they are trying to lure me in 🤯 little do they know I already know the game (thanks to my covert sadistic narcissist mother, she has trained me well)
If you want to meet a pack of communal narcissists who cooperate (likely including mild psychopaths and normal individuals from the lower strata who find a space for affirmation and who ensure cohesion), look for a neo-Protestant church that is part of a relatively decent mainstream religion or movement (Baptist or Adventist). The main characteristic should be the number of members exceeding 500. Pay particular attention to the leaders (elders and the committee) over a period of more than 9 months. Try to find out how they got into their positions. Some of them got involved in charitable activities initiated by honest people, took advantage, promoted themselves, and then ended up in leadership positions, managing diplomacy somewhat like in the game Civilization 6. Small cults and sects derived from mainstream neo-Protestant religions have a different dynamic with less sophisticated diplomacy. Communal narcissists with social skills and business reputation prefer large mainstream religious communities, not the small or dubious ones. After they reach certain positions, they develop relationships with political leaders and popular NGOs. The struggles between them are more subtle and limited to small tasteless jokes. Otherwise, they focus on obtaining consensus and the approval of others. They don't risk conflicts that could lead to schisms. Sometimes bad narcissists appear, who end up moving to smaller communities after causing chaos where they achieve minimal advancement just enough to avoid collapsing.
@@MingPhoenix-Romania it is so funny you wrote that. My aunt that has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and in my opinion she is also a narcissist got involved in 1 of those. I have no words
I do have apd(avoidant personality disorder) But when I always read about it I can clearly tell that is not how I am as a person. I got it diagnosed for 7 years ago. And I am 27 now. They say that may disorder is cluster c also that I am avoidant and have anxiety. But I do have a goal in life. And my goal is to become a big RUclipsr. And I work with a team I have build up over the past 2 years. I am a leader for a lot of different projects I like. I love to go out with my gf(been together for also 7 years now) and do stuff! I do love to talk with people and I do have eye contacts with people. I feel I can be whoever I want to be when I am with people. I do not have many irl friends but I do have all my friends on internet. I really do love who I am. And my interest for some things changes every day. I do love build Lego one day, sort out Pokemon cards other day and focus on RUclips next day and so on. But it goes in a loop in my daily routine. And I hope as my RUclips channel grow that I can experience more with travelling to different country’s and getting more irl friends and so on. I do also love reading and exploring everything that has to do with psychology. I can always be what I prefer to be. Clumsy version of me is the best. Hehe! But I do believe my self that I do not have any personality disorder anymore since I overcome many of the avoidant main factors I did had before… Thank you for reading my story about me. And feel free to check out my channel to support my work!
Sir, I have heard from UG Krishnamurti and even Jiddu sometimes that communication is impossible. Jiddu said it in a different way. He said that you cannot say to a person that you know them. That is a form of violence. I truly feel this to be real. This is why I never say no to anyone. Everyone gets what they want from me. I do not feel comfortable when this is happening but I give benefit of the doubt. I expect I will finally get a friend but it ends up such that I get taken advantage of. The way I feel can be summed up in Charles Bukowski's The Genius of The Crowd. Sir, I am in hell. What am I to do?
There are a few people in my life whom I used to consider friends. They are DEMANDING my attention. They are advising me on matters of morality. I have no patience for this. I have lost all respect for my friends. I do not think they are my friends anymore. I am already enlightened and do not need the advice of people who have barely gotten out of their cradle. It is irritating to listen to them talk to me with such pride and arrogance that I am making immoral decisions. I respect as equals and I respect their rights. But you know how this psychological manipulation or mind game goes. I have tolerated them for years. Now, I feel like I wanna kill myself. At first they show niceness and not kindness then they lash out feeling betrayed with me not responding then they lash out and then they use love as a device to display that they have changed and finally they hate you and do their damndest to hurt you. Finally they become apathetic. All of this going on while I’m stuck in a deep and I mean VERY DEEP moral situation. Morality is unique to every situation. I hate that people say it’s subjective. They do not realise that morality is the only serious situation. Anyone who prefers ethics over morality has already lost credibility in my book. I can see them coming from a mile away. I see EVERYTHING. What should I do? There is such a thing as dangerous knowledge. People use knowledge as means to an end. I respect it for its own sake. Trolls are everywhere and I didn’t invite them. They shoved themselves into my life. Sir, how do I communicate with you? If you think I might be able to provide some valuable insight whether as a case study because you might think I am a narcissist or because I am willing to play by the rules, please let me know. Of course you owe me nothing but I need your help. You are the only one who could understand me because you yourself have said you’re a narcissistic psychopath. I’m not insulting you. I just think I might be one too. Help me understand. If not for my sake then the people in my life or the people I might meet in the future. Thank you either way.
Sir I am also willing to open up completely and have a therapy session. How do I contact you? Or rather the question is how do I set up an appointment? I feel a bit guilty because I have no money of my own. I will have to ask my dad to support me with this. But with all the things we have spent money on this of all things is absolutely vital. Any snide remarks anyone might want to throw at me for the sake of amusement is also welcomed. I am making a decision here. I will only respond with absolute clarity that I have attained over the course of the past few years. What I am looking for to be honest is either dissent and advice or confirmation that either I’m wrong about everything, something or whatever it may be or that I am right but still culpable. Again honestly speaking I already know that latter is true. I am culpable. Help me, sir. I really wanna talk but I’m also somewhat intimidated. But, I’m courageous enough to push through this. If you respond give me some time, sir. A day or two to get acclimated to the prospect of having a session. I often feel crippling anxiety and cave in to it and retreat back into myself. I will do my best to avoid this. But ultimately the appointment relies on when you have the time to set up one. I do not desire to take away from you the valuable time that you must be having for other commitments. I have been as personal as I can. Here on out I will be as professional as I can until the appointment is set. I will open up completely as per your rules. You will have my complete attention and acceptance. Sir, be as harsh with me as needed or even blunt. The decision is ultimately yours. Sorry or thank you as per your sensibilities. But you have my thanks either way.
Sir, they say if you have nothing good to say then be silent. But, I do not think that is true. You silence can mean a few things: 1) you are keeping distance. 2) you cannot see my comments. 3) you have personal reasons or boundaries to keep. If this comment is also bypassed I'll let the communication attempt end here. Either way I thank you for everything, sir.
2:47:50 at stage 4 merit criteria, offering your seat to older people or a pregnant lady would fit here, correct? If so, would a person who doesnt get it raise a big red flag? Thats a fairly common everyday occurence that one can observe pretty soon. Thinking back the narcissist i know genuinely doesnt get it why should he ever do such thing. He made a point to do the opposite if possible. Treat pregnant women worse than average (almost like to restore justice because others were overly attentive to them, lol) etc. He was cartoonishly furious when something like that (especially pregnant women) came up, even when he saw someone else do it, it was almost comical, but then i just filed it under asshole-y things.
I love your sense of humor, the spontaneous sarcasm
Your work is real. As you don’t sell anti-narcisist t-shirts, bags and other merch, making money on victimhood. Isn’t that abuse itself?
Respect for your work mr.V ✌🏼thanks
All my seminars and lectures are free as well. In fact, I charge money only if you want to talk to me. Everything else is free of charge.
Everything you said is true. Once you have dealt with one of these predators, you are able to spot them immediately. It's a hard lesson but once you know, you know.
I came across some of those videos. It felt empty and commercial. I believe your channel have everything we need to know about narcissism and it's free. Which is very appreciated!
You are the best Sam now and always 😊 Thank you so much for all your work.
Your honesty is somethin' else. whew! People tell me I'm direct, but you take the cake! Enjoyed the introductory 11.5 minutes of this video.
Your truthfulness is as much as valuable as your brilliant efforts to save yourself, and us!
It almost like they gave the professor autistic lack of shame instead of narcissistic lack of shame, and now we have access to some of the greatest insights about narcissisms available.
From what I have learned, my understanding is that Narc’s are full of shame and perhaps self loathing, disgust with others perceived inferiority. In turn revealing their projection of their subconscious fear of being interior?
I never felt connected listen to some of them ,its like something doesn't feel right.
Absolutely. Time in video 25:50, I'm not perfect, but my particular experience yes. I was in a devastating situation, he rescued me, or so I thought, all the things I told him, he turned on me, used against me, created situations to rescue me from, isolated me, and really, I could have avoided it. Be grateful for the hand that feeds, that helps, beware the one who wishes to. Thank you sir. I really appreciate your content. I really appreciate your honesty. 😊
O and watch their mother figures ladies and gentlemen, for your own sake. I'm breaking habits, I'm breaking chains, I'm seeking help, I'm in therapy... I've seen many go leaps and bounds, but never for any reason other than to hone their skills and traits that only further themselves. I wondered about myself for some time, I've my reasons, learning to adapt to stay safe, to protect myself, it can make you as terrible as the monsters of the world. With people like the professor here, we can create a world without masks. Again. Thank you sir.❤
I can relate to your organic abs raw version of how you explain narcissism at the very core! You helped me escape a5 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I believe I have mild bpd and was diagnosed with general anxiety. Everything you explained about bpd and covert narc union was me and him. Thank you so much for your contribution to mental health Dr. Vaknin your are the father of narc movement! ❤🙏🏽🙌🏽🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
On a related topic, I have noticed a lot of psychologists (online and otherwise) who give advice about narcissists seem to have narcissistic tendencies themselves.
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I really miss you professor of emotion for me in Sukkot...
Thank you I appreciate every word and especially in the last six months,
after I experienced first hand the rage and violence of a narcissist who turned into a psychopath!
Thank you Professor for being persistent and an investor,
I wish you all the best and lots and lots of videos in the future🏆🔝👑
Dear PROF SAM ,
What you said in the introduction of
this video , about your own self :----
My homage to your's such raw
truthfulness towards your own
soul self beings .
Very few persons in this earth plane
possess the courage to be such
bluntness honest to own self .
🕉
🙏 .
I had a saviour narcissist. I wanted him so badly but we did not have sex because he was in a relationship.
It drove me insane because he groomed me to want him desperately for months on end.
Stay strong and hopefully you’ll get him!
Thank you, over and over, Sir.
You are my ONLY hero
Princella the Queen Maker and Andrew Tate.
Christmas Sam Vaknin is a rare and favourite collectible.
If I trust anyone, it's you.
I don't know anyone else who is noticeably authentic.
The combination of your professional title and your narcissism is very unique.
It is of great importance even though you are not here for us but for yourself.
personally, I have reason to be convinced that narcissists cannot be cured exactly as you claim.
And I I noticed that narcissists do not know the concept of rules,, of justice and morality.
For me the message of the video is crystal clear.
Lol. This is Too Good!
How do communal narcissists interact with each other, e.g. I see a lot of them in groups (niches) for example work related and it’s so obvious they are narcissists but also friends?! What is the dynamic between friends who are narcissists or even in romantic relationships? I see narcissists of the same type together? Is it all unspoken who will be the dominant one or do they switch roles?
Bonded together in a shameless game of dominance. I think they operate as fule for each other and take turns pretending to be human for the sake of the other one as long as the favor is returned in kind at a later time.
@@CakeslyMcShakesly makes sense. Gosh it’s disgusting, I mean they relate to each other based on their fake selves and take turns?! I literally see them in horrible shape when they are on the bottom and then blossom when they are on top but still stay together… suffering?! They would rather be absolutely miserable and fake rather than authentic and happy. I really don’t know how to act around them as I have to interact with them for work or training related reasons. They act as if they are doing me a favour giving me their attention and time but I’m paying them for it (in the case of classes etc) and they are so sweet as they are trying to lure me in 🤯 little do they know I already know the game (thanks to my covert sadistic narcissist mother, she has trained me well)
If you want to meet a pack of communal narcissists who cooperate (likely including mild psychopaths and normal individuals from the lower strata who find a space for affirmation and who ensure cohesion), look for a neo-Protestant church that is part of a relatively decent mainstream religion or movement (Baptist or Adventist). The main characteristic should be the number of members exceeding 500. Pay particular attention to the leaders (elders and the committee) over a period of more than 9 months. Try to find out how they got into their positions. Some of them got involved in charitable activities initiated by honest people, took advantage, promoted themselves, and then ended up in leadership positions, managing diplomacy somewhat like in the game Civilization 6.
Small cults and sects derived from mainstream neo-Protestant religions have a different dynamic with less sophisticated diplomacy. Communal narcissists with social skills and business reputation prefer large mainstream religious communities, not the small or dubious ones. After they reach certain positions, they develop relationships with political leaders and popular NGOs. The struggles between them are more subtle and limited to small tasteless jokes. Otherwise, they focus on obtaining consensus and the approval of others. They don't risk conflicts that could lead to schisms.
Sometimes bad narcissists appear, who end up moving to smaller communities after causing chaos where they achieve minimal advancement just enough to avoid collapsing.
@@MingPhoenix-Romania it is so funny you wrote that. My aunt that has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and in my opinion she is also a narcissist got involved in 1 of those. I have no words
Just keep all interactions that you have to engage in short, sharp and on point and walk away if challenged and always stay vigilant around them ✌️
I do have apd(avoidant personality disorder) But when I always read about it I can clearly tell that is not how I am as a person. I got it diagnosed for 7 years ago. And I am 27 now. They say that may disorder is cluster c also that I am avoidant and have anxiety. But I do have a goal in life. And my goal is to become a big RUclipsr. And I work with a team I have build up over the past 2 years. I am a leader for a lot of different projects I like. I love to go out with my gf(been together for also 7 years now) and do stuff! I do love to talk with people and I do have eye contacts with people. I feel I can be whoever I want to be when I am with people. I do not have many irl friends but I do have all my friends on internet. I really do love who I am. And my interest for some things changes every day. I do love build Lego one day, sort out Pokemon cards other day and focus on RUclips next day and so on. But it goes in a loop in my daily routine. And I hope as my RUclips channel grow that I can experience more with travelling to different country’s and getting more irl friends and so on. I do also love reading and exploring everything that has to do with psychology. I can always be what I prefer to be. Clumsy version of me is the best. Hehe! But I do believe my self that I do not have any personality disorder anymore since I overcome many of the avoidant main factors I did had before… Thank you for reading my story about me. And feel free to check out my channel to support my work!
Good evening Sir.Thank you always❤.
Sir, I have heard from UG Krishnamurti and even Jiddu sometimes that communication is impossible. Jiddu said it in a different way. He said that you cannot say to a person that you know them. That is a form of violence. I truly feel this to be real. This is why I never say no to anyone. Everyone gets what they want from me. I do not feel comfortable when this is happening but I give benefit of the doubt. I expect I will finally get a friend but it ends up such that I get taken advantage of. The way I feel can be summed up in Charles Bukowski's The Genius of The Crowd. Sir, I am in hell. What am I to do?
There are a few people in my life whom I used to consider friends. They are DEMANDING my attention. They are advising me on matters of morality. I have no patience for this. I have lost all respect for my friends. I do not think they are my friends anymore. I am already enlightened and do not need the advice of people who have barely gotten out of their cradle. It is irritating to listen to them talk to me with such pride and arrogance that I am making immoral decisions. I respect as equals and I respect their rights. But you know how this psychological manipulation or mind game goes. I have tolerated them for years. Now, I feel like I wanna kill myself. At first they show niceness and not kindness then they lash out feeling betrayed with me not responding then they lash out and then they use love as a device to display that they have changed and finally they hate you and do their damndest to hurt you. Finally they become apathetic. All of this going on while I’m stuck in a deep and I mean VERY DEEP moral situation. Morality is unique to every situation. I hate that people say it’s subjective. They do not realise that morality is the only serious situation. Anyone who prefers ethics over morality has already lost credibility in my book. I can see them coming from a mile away. I see EVERYTHING. What should I do? There is such a thing as dangerous knowledge. People use knowledge as means to an end. I respect it for its own sake. Trolls are everywhere and I didn’t invite them. They shoved themselves into my life. Sir, how do I communicate with you? If you think I might be able to provide some valuable insight whether as a case study because you might think I am a narcissist or because I am willing to play by the rules, please let me know. Of course you owe me nothing but I need your help. You are the only one who could understand me because you yourself have said you’re a narcissistic psychopath. I’m not insulting you. I just think I might be one too. Help me understand. If not for my sake then the people in my life or the people I might meet in the future. Thank you either way.
Sir I am also willing to open up completely and have a therapy session. How do I contact you? Or rather the question is how do I set up an appointment? I feel a bit guilty because I have no money of my own. I will have to ask my dad to support me with this. But with all the things we have spent money on this of all things is absolutely vital. Any snide remarks anyone might want to throw at me for the sake of amusement is also welcomed. I am making a decision here. I will only respond with absolute clarity that I have attained over the course of the past few years. What I am looking for to be honest is either dissent and advice or confirmation that either I’m wrong about everything, something or whatever it may be or that I am right but still culpable. Again honestly speaking I already know that latter is true. I am culpable. Help me, sir. I really wanna talk but I’m also somewhat intimidated. But, I’m courageous enough to push through this. If you respond give me some time, sir. A day or two to get acclimated to the prospect of having a session. I often feel crippling anxiety and cave in to it and retreat back into myself. I will do my best to avoid this. But ultimately the appointment relies on when you have the time to set up one. I do not desire to take away from you the valuable time that you must be having for other commitments. I have been as personal as I can. Here on out I will be as professional as I can until the appointment is set. I will open up completely as per your rules. You will have my complete attention and acceptance. Sir, be as harsh with me as needed or even blunt. The decision is ultimately yours. Sorry or thank you as per your sensibilities. But you have my thanks either way.
Sir, they say if you have nothing good to say then be silent. But, I do not think that is true. You silence can mean a few things: 1) you are keeping distance. 2) you cannot see my comments. 3) you have personal reasons or boundaries to keep. If this comment is also bypassed I'll let the communication attempt end here. Either way I thank you for everything, sir.
Professor, have you ever heard of Mark Burno's work? If you did, what's your opinion on it?
Never heard of him.
2:47:50 at stage 4 merit criteria, offering your seat to older people or a pregnant lady would fit here, correct? If so, would a person who doesnt get it raise a big red flag? Thats a fairly common everyday occurence that one can observe pretty soon.
Thinking back the narcissist i know genuinely doesnt get it why should he ever do such thing. He made a point to do the opposite if possible. Treat pregnant women worse than average (almost like to restore justice because others were overly attentive to them, lol) etc. He was cartoonishly furious when something like that (especially pregnant women) came up, even when he saw someone else do it, it was almost comical, but then i just filed it under asshole-y things.
Offering your seat reflects social-cultural mores, not a specific personality structure.
@@samvaknin got it, thank you!