I love how the mother lets the daughter express herself freely without confirming or denying anything she's saying. She just gives her the space to say what she wants to say. Communication 101 people!!
All I can say is that he's been living like a bachelor for 17 years until the present because all the parenting work was done by the mom. The way he threw the mouse though... an adult doing tantrums isn't emotionally mature.
Omg! What a terrible father! “She’s not doing something great. All students study” is soooo wrong. Only so many students value their education like she does! He needs to be more grateful that his daughter turned out the way she is! Ugh.
exactlyyyy.... I find studying now soooo tough..... imagine you're studying and someone directly outside playing games and shouting with loud spamming on their keyboards and mouse... I would've have went there and broke the keyboard istg
@@MissGourmandefr sure but again just because it’s the norm it doesn’t mean like it should be taken for granted, i myself start to feel burnt out with my academics so kudos to her and not to him for being unnecessary
Tbh he is not her dad emotionally. He is just biologically her dad. He never lived with her and never did anything that a parent should do. He is just selfish. Parents always put their child's needs before their owns and when it's about her career, he should do everything possible to support her but he can't even give up on his games? like seriously? He is weird ,immature and not eligible to be called a parent. Like my parents do anything they can to support me and my siblings especially when it's about our studies and they are more worried for us than we ourselves. So I think he should learn how to be a parent first, just giving birth doesn't make you a parent. The mother in this is what a parent is! She is caring for her daughter and always putting her first than herself . I hope the daughter won't face any problems in the future.
He doesnt need to give up his games. U can be a good father while still enjoying your hobbies. He is just immature and never experienced being what a father should be
She’s already stressed and over-worked as is. He should be doing his best to help her not be as stressed, not doing everything in his power to make her more stressed. I think it’s unfortunate that he made all of those decisions without consulting his family, resulting in them being basically strangers.
It was his choice to leave the family, so he should own up to the results. The daughter is at her home and dealing with her responsibilities. Why is the dad ignoring his responsibilities with the family?
I mean...not to excuse his loudness and whatnot but he is the reason why the family is so well provided for their entire lives. Their apartment is so nice and they clearly have money. The daughter goes to cram schools which as far as I know, cost a lot of money for the good ones. Like the reason why the family is doing well is in large part due to the dads financial stability and capability (and of course super hero mom basically but that doesnt need to be said lol)
@@babyyneekyy Yes but it also doesn't excuse his lack of emotional investment in his family. The dad here is obviously not accustomed to a family's life, he thinks everything should go his way because he provides food and money and he disregards everyone's feelings. Have you ever thought about what his daughter goes through? Living 17 years with an absent father, having to meet up everyone's expectations just because she studies in a good school, and we don't know what else goes on behind the screens. South Korea's school system is one of the harshest out there and it even leads to some students suicide. I recommend you to watch some documentaries about it.
@@babyyneekyy He's just being a financial supporter and a sperm doner at this point. Emotionally, he's been away for 17 years and demand his family to understand him while he probably doesn't even know his kids and thinks just he's entitled to them because he financially provided for them. It's the same for loan providers, they just give you the money.
@@judys5864 He left for their own good its not like he wants to leave his family may Dad always leave for work and be away for in 3 or 5 years I try to understand my dad because when me my mom and my little brother is living a luxurious life my dad is working abroad
@@denniseang4137 i have read here in some comments that he have a choice to be a baseball player in US or in Korea, he chose to go to US and only forced to go back.
He’s a selfish father. His daughter values education, and he doesn’t support her properly. This really hits close to home with my parents. They never cared about my feelings at all, and only talked about their feelings all the time. He is inconsiderate.
This dude does not know how to be a parent. He's been living like a bachelor the past 17 years so he's also acting like he just hit puberty yesterday. So immature. If you don't know how or don't want to be a husband and a father, just don't get married and bear children. I don't understand why people can't understand such a simple concept. If you know you're not ready, don't put your spouse and your future children in such traumatic situations. Financial contribution isn't all there is to parenting and family-building. Jesus Christ.
The thing is, most people don't know what it's like to be a parent and I guess assume that it works automatically without any effort from the parent other than providing for the family. It's only after you have children, who grow up to become teenagers and adults in their own right, do people really understand how difficult it is to be a parent and how it's so much more than taking care of your children's physical needs.
@@abul9052 well Im not sure in other country but right now im glad that in my country that there’s a class that u have to take before proceed with marriage process . Im not sure what they will explain or teach but im sure related to these kind of things.
This is giving me hard step-parent vibes, like a bad step-parent, one that joins the family abruptly and expects things as if they raised the kids all along or how kids should just listen to their elders. Gosh, I hope he can understand his daughter at the end of this.
He was gone for seventeen years suddenly comes back and demands for respect he doesn’t deserve it right away. From the actions he shown it hasn’t really shown anything to gain respect. The daughter is in a sensitive situation she is stressed from school and studying in my perspective she is really stressed so the dad shouldn’t suddenly come up and ask for respect he is really selfish he doesn’t understand the situation he has never really been a parent he should try to understand the daughter he is the one that disturbed their lives and suddenly wants to be given stuff like that’s not how it works
The daughter is studying cause it’s exam season and it’s normal for them to go from school to cram school and then home and study more. I agree she puts too much pressure on herself but her dad needs to be more understanding and maybe work around her schedule since he’s the one with free time. Maybe make her snacks for when she comes home and help her study.
9am to 10pm is 13 hours of schooling to then go home and study more, anybody would be irritated at a lazy pos who isn't doing anything but complaining and making their days even longer....
imagine your parents working 13 hour days and you waking them up at night with video games....wouldnt they be mad as hell?? YES the answer is obviously yes
Allright, I’m not the only one who think her father is childish.. He’s been away for so long and when he came home he can’t even act like a father Wth you’re a father for God sake!!! You should try understand your kids first
Honestly, I have the same situation as them. my dad works overseas for like decades now and only comes home a month or two and then leave again BUT the difference is that my dad was always understanding and always gives us motivation to study at our best cuz he always says that "We have money, so your financially stable, my only wishes is for you to study hard and take care of yourselves" he understood why we have to study late night and wake up late noon but at the same time he always reminds us siblings that we should always take breaks. This dad right here is just purely immature he should be happy that his child is studying well and takes education seriously. She's doing a lot of sacrificial stuff herself for the benefit of a good future. He just keeps on using his "Dad Authority" to push everyone around when he literally never stood as a father to his children.
A man who has been gone for almost 2 decades has no place to talk leaving his family behind and living his best life in the US seriously the daughter has every single right to feel the way she does. If he genuinely cared enough about her and how she feels he would try to under stand her. If I was in her place I wouldn’t like my father either if he just pranced in to my life 17 years later.
I am not a parent so I don't completely understand the father. But I think he forgot what it's like to have a child, to be with a family, to be a Dad. Good thing the mother remains calm and neutral through out. I understand how the child can be frustrated by the Dad, I wouldn't like it either if someone just comes in my life and routine, and wants me to adjust to their lifestyle.
What throws me off is when he said "She's not even doing something great! All students study!" like sir your daughter literally studies to have a better future because that's her dream. It's just like you and your goals with your sport career but hers is about her academic career.
the mom is so amazing she is such a strong middle ground and is so calm as well. i am totally on the side of the daughter bec I have been on the same situation before. The father has been gone for years and he has his own ambition i get it. But he has formed a family and has kids plus he just went off by himself. Honestly he doesnt seem like a dad. His daughter studies well and knows her priorities. He should put more effort into understanding his own daughter and get to know her first bec there really is no bond at all. it feels like he is not a parent. You decided to have kids so have some responsibility man. She is such a good kid too.
I’m sorry but it’s clearly obvious the dad doesn’t know anything abt parenting, like throwing the mouse, saying she clearly doesn’t like him rather than thinking why she’s doing that, he’s acting like a kid
I think he just ran away from the responsibility of being a parent in the guise of being busy as an athlete. I don't want to compare but Naeun's dad and Sian's dad, who are also athletes, can make time for their family. The wife said, he has 6 days of games then 3 days to rest before going away again. What did he do during those times? He should've became a dad in those times but obviously he didn't. If I was his daughter, I'd also hate him because he wants to suddenly be part of a family he never tried to be part of in 17 years.
17 years apart from your own family is a long time! And, they just take you back bc you have the label of being a “Dad/Father” but is a disappointment the moment you step foot out that door… while your kids were at such a young age. And, your wife having to take care of them by herself.
Wow this guys ego is no joke. Mentally I think he’s like a young teen who feels jilted that his dreams of becoming a famous baseball player got cancelled cause of COVID. he needs to grow the hell up and learn how to take care of his family after leaving it to his wife for 17 years. I’m glad this family appeared on this programme so at least he knows how bad of a job he is at being a father and husband.
So he was busy chasing his dream, for god knows why still decided to have children, then continued chasing his dream, thinks that being a family is just being bank acc for em, left em alone for decades and now that he’s no longer able to chase his dream but mentality he still is. He’s taking out his unhappiness and regrets onto his family and complains about having an existential crisis. Bruh…. Sometimes staying in a marriage and trying to force things to work out isn’t the answer… might as well get a divorce and the daughter could just stay w her mom instead (she’s even old enough to understand that too) and he can continue to figure out his own existence without taking it out on his own family…
Hey father your daughter has grown up, she already knows she can show her emotions, she has been without a father figure for too long and suddenly you come making noise. I also feel disappointed
My dad wasn’t always with us cause he had to work somewhere else when he came back he just tried to work with our schedules because you don’t expect people to change their entire life because you came to live with them. If your child finds it hard to study be understanding don’t compare especially when you’ve never seen how hard she worked before you came to live with her
And you know, I'm sure that was your dad's best choice. Not like this man, who used work as an excuse to run away abroad and live as a single man, when he could've worked just as well in Korea.
Why did the wife take his washed out baseball self back and disrupt her kids life....I like when he said I came back to my family...you should have came.back 4 years ago before COVID MADE you come back.....Mr Baseball Man you went back to Korea because COVID made you go back....
I want to say so much, but, the fact that korean system is this hard n every students willing to do itself is already so great. And i believe even if he doesnt do anything, like he doesnt disturb, it will be so hard for her to get used to him, bcs they get used to live just 3 people, he doesnt need to feel lost, he is the "dad" in his home, he should do what father need to do. Not asking for respect when he doesnt want to respect her hardworking.
17 years is not 17 days or 17 months..please try to understand your kids. Please start from 0. He is really a MCP. If I were you I already kick him out of the house😡
I'm sorry but you really can't call him a father. He hasn't been in his children's lives for 17 years. He has been living the bachelor lifestyle while his wife has been doing an great job of raising those children. This girl is seriously working her but off studying and all he is talking about is himself and the injustice he is facing.
Honestly this made me cry. If it was not for COVID he would not be home with his family. Instead of being encouraging and supportive father he is creating more stress for his family. He wants everyone to bend to what he wants. He is not setting a good example for anyone in the family.
Omg!! Hwari and her dad are a split image of each other!! OMG!! The one thing I’ve learned in my many years of marriage and parenting.. as a mom.. you will always be the mediator.. but one side has to bend a little and let’s just say it’s never the dads side..
Im someone who was raised by my grandparents and I know how she feels. Im grateful Im alive, well, have food and a roof above my head but tbf those are the bare necessities that you as a parent bestowed upon yourself when you decided to have a child. I love my mom and dad I do but the emotional bond we have is so strained that I always instinctively find a way to not be in a room with them. They say Im like my father both stubborn and demanding which is why we fight a lot but what hurts is my mom never really sided with me once always with dad. I can see my father in him and I can tell you it's not really looking like a good relationship between father-daughter
What a lame comment about her daughter! Terrible father! "She's not doing something great" "Every student studies" just be thankful and grateful you got a hardworking daughter like her not all students are like her its rare to find a student like her since most of the students nowadays are lazy while she studies so hard. The father should be the one to adjust he's the one who left them to do what he wants and the family let him do what he wants and now he came back he suddenly wants everyone to adjust to him
The mom is amazing. Grace under fire. The dad is not a bad person. He just doesn’t have the tools. He thought he just had to make money so he is also perplexed coz his job is definitely not easy. I believe he should listen and learn. She resents him for being away more. They are a beautiful family and I wish ti o see them mend this. Mom is amazing. Just lots of patience and grace. Wow
So he’s mad at his daughter for studying and getting mad at him because he wants to play games on the computer past midnight? Please who’s really the parent here.
**the how does he really feel portions tells me something about the father.** 'I had a big ambition and I wanted to join the major league and achieve something but it was stopped against my will.' Now that he is home, he thinks, 'Who am I, what is this place'. He's been living 17 years of his life for his OWN. The way he acts and response is different from those people who are forced to be a part from their family for work. From his answer, you may deduce that it seems like his family is not his driving force. 😊 But then again, I may be wrong. If so, then it's good for the family.
Ugh. I can relate to the daughter because my father keep playing game too in the midnight and shout out her lung out. Dont he learn that midnight is time to sleep and resting?? And we as student need to study regardless it's time to sleep???!!!!
I guess fathers expect automatic respect and that everyone in the family is supposed to work around them. To some extent, yes, parents should be respected simply for that but the rest must be earned. Also, being a father doesn't mean that your needs and preferences come above anyone else in the family.
The father is really childish and selfish, you're the one who should change your behaviour. Try to understand your daughter. You're used to living alone for 17 years, you can't do the same if you're living with others. Smh so annoying, the father is just a title to him but no responsibilities. Shame. Why he decided to appear in this program anyway
i love her daughter is still so calm and mindful cuz i can't be that calm.. like c'mon imagine father coming home after so many years and started to act like some kind of moody teenager... he is clearly blaming everything on that poor girl who's just following her routine.
We had the same relationship with our fathers. They tend to be selfish and disregard their daughters as if we are non-existent. I don't believe that only children will respect their elders. We should be also respected as well.
Mom u r the best. Woahhhh Dad do u realize u not with them for 17 years n u expect Ur daughter to understand u all of sudden.. come on... Mom right u should understand your daughter first.
He have a family but he act like he is not a father and live alone for many years and just do what he wants to do. Then, he doesn't want to understand her daughter just because he don't get why he need to? Seriously? Why so selfish? All he just think is himself. He said all those words without even considering his family..seriously
Honestly, they look they may be able to afford a separate apartment for the dad lol, instead of the wife having to parent him and sort out his relationship issues with his daughter.
I can relate to the daughter. My father also retired from work due COVID-19 after working out of the country. He does whatever he want without thinking how we feel. Like the daughter I was also doing my best in work in order to support my family but it feels like he didn't appreciate as he sometimes complains. So I just ended having a fight with him. I didn't like it but I can't suppress it anymore.
She's just study not doing something great ... These words are only come from those who never study and always fail . As a student i really hate these type of persons even if it's my own family or friends .
The dad is like both my parents. On top of that they always pull the “you should be grateful for all the things we do for u ” in every fight, even if it’s clearly their fault just so that they can have an upper hand. They’re not even getting their point across too, they just want to assert dominance
He's like a big baby 😂😂😂😂poor thing it must be a lot to adjust to but he must be mindful that he is the parent and must lead by example first and after 17 years he has a lot to make up for
why is it that he had to "sacrifice" his family life for his career when plenty of pro athletes manage to be good husbands and fathers while being a pro athlete?
I understand where both sides are coming from. However, this is how you create bigger gaps in your family. I used to be very close with my father, now it is painful to even sit in the same room together. Even if you lost your way because something that you relied on and the way you wanted to live your life changed, you cannot allow yourself to use those things as an excuse. You can’t expect someone to be close to you and love you the same way that they used to after you have been separated for so long and made the decisions to not maintain and grow the relationship the way it should have. Hwari studies very hard and for very long amounts of time. As a university student, I admire her ability to do that. Her father has a hard time understanding what it means to her and her motivations to do so. He does not take the time to get to know his daughter and really learn about or understand her. He has a selfish way of viewing things that needs to change if he wants to repair the damages in the father-daughter relationship. While Hwari does not always convey her words in an “ideal” manner, and sometimes yells or makes snarky remarks, the way that he listens and takes those words must also change. Both need to work on communication, but the father the most. It should never be only about him, but he must consider his wife’s feelings, his daughter’s, and his son’s. He has a family, they are not statues or just people who live with him. They love him and, for the most part, understand him and try to work things out. He needs to reciprocate that to his family. I truly admire the mom for taking the time to understand both sides and try to find a solution. She does not have snarky comments, nor does she defend either side. She listens, conveys the messages, and also communicates. She is empathetic about the situation, and the way she explains things to the father and daughter are wonderful. There’s no yelling, although there might be times where she does yell. I wish my mom took the time to listen the way this woman does.
That’s the problem. Patriarchal dads don’t see daughters as their own people, as humans lol I wish my mom had been on my side and understanding like her mom instead of taking his side cause “he’s your dad”. First, earn that respect.
Sorry but I rlly don't like him. He should go back to US and stop bothering them by his selfishness. He's the one who left them behind yet he's expecting him to understand him.🤦♀️
This gives me the worst flashbacks when I had to constantly do this between my daughter and my husband. They still don't get along well. At least this family has the excuse that the father hasn't really lived with his family for years so they didn't get to develop an understanding. It wasn't like that in my case. We've been together the whole way through but they can barely stay in the same room together.
her daughter is growing up, so she would already understand the feeling of lonely that her dad isn't always right by her side all these years. that's why there is a big gap between them. the dad doesn't understand it fully and just think about himself and how the daughter should treat him and understand him, not trying to understand her as a dad should be. luckily the mom is considered of both. it's good that her daughter value studying, though she is also hard to herself. both should really have a deep talk and tell each other what they feel towards each other, or else it will get worse.
@@KristinaLovesJustin I don't think they mean that the daughter should be ashamed, but it's embarrassing for her either way. Teens often feel embarrassed by family situations that are out of their control. The only saving grace is that her peers are probably too busy to watch TV.
if he was gonna be that irresponsible as a man he shouldnt have started a family. what kind of dad and a husband is this? the mom is amazing, i liked how she listened to both side of the story and explained her thoughts neutrally
Don't judge him for his mistakes he's going through changes we all endure them let this be a learning practise of how to treat others when you find yourself in the same position
What a terrible way to treat his own daughter Personally my own dad literally gave me a whole room and cramped others together just so i can focus on my studies and went as far as renovating a new room on 2nd floor because my brother kept bothering me. He understands me and tries his best. Thats how parents need to be. He doesn't understand that not everyone studies like his daughter and the more competitive the environment gets the more stressed a student gets. While poor her studies all night he plays games and refuses to let the poor girl relax in peace. Im appalled honestly. Ur the adult u understand her it should not be the other way around. As someone who suffers from anxiety and panic attacks, it gets extremely frustrating at times. He literally has the whole day but still chooses to play games at night, the only time his daughter needs peace and quiet. All of us are literally with the daughter right now Some people should just never build families i tell you. So immature i cannot even-
He’s not ready to be a dad! 17 years spent living like he never had a family back home in Korea and he comes home expecting to be a father figure?! That’s not how it works paps. Parenting takes years and years to master, and even then, parents still aren’t perfect. What makes you think coming home after being gone most of your children’s lives that you’ll make an exception? You don’t even appreciate the willingness of your daughter to study.
The dad wants to live like a teenage again and wants to be alone and live his life freely without his family. Dude why are u being like that your family is so beautiful your children studying harder and your wife was a super mom to them,on the other hand u live your life for 17 years without them and now u want to be alone and u want them to adjust just for u?? You're the father u should be the one who will adjust in that situation your child is not a kid anymore and try to fit in with their environment and how their mom handle the positive situation but you're being a childish to them😟😟😟
Oh my gosh I relate to the daughter so much. I study like crazy but I still get average grades. There has been lots and lots of days where I would cram 6 hours and only sleep 5 hours. And if any of my parents nag at me I get raged. Then I feel bad about it but at the same time I am trying my best. The dad is behaving like a child.
Why he is married he is totally selfish I am pity on her mom she is almost like a single mother to take care her children but there is no communication from the family he just think himself not only other he is lucky to have wonderful family but communication is must important in every family
He literally needs counseling cause there is no way someone would just come back home after being gone without any notice for 17 years and comes back asking people to be doing something different after doing it for the past year they’ve been gone..like no sir you need to be respectful and understanding cause he’s not the “leader” of the household atp the mother should be the one telling people what to do but she doesn’t she tries and understands both people and doesn’t side with anyone and she especially lets them speak out instead of bottling it up inside so I feel like the award should rlly go to the mother for raising these kids right over the past 17 years and she should for sure put the dad in his place
The father is acting like a teenager the pride that he has oh gawd also 17 years?! he left without asking his familly and now he's acting like a father figure. He's terrible. I feel so bad to the daughter and glad she have her loving mother.
After watching this video it felt like it has similar with my family my dad is an engineer and my mum and dad has love marriage at first he show my mom he is a very nice person he didn't have any bad in him but after 1 year of marriage he started drinking alcohol so much and beat my mom each and everyday he didn't care about me and my brother he just live for himself and never give a single penny to us like our school fees and other house hold things and not even for food and grocery it's been 25 years of marriage he is the same but my mom is the powerful women in the whole universe she works so hard and gave her children a right path now my brother has complete his engineering and get a job and now we didn't even talk to my father. he didn't even know that in which grade his daughter is studying,is she good at her studies or not what my son is doing, how my wife is managing all this alone 😭😭
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Can we just appreciate the mum!! Shes so considerate of both sides and mending her family. Shes honestly a super hero mum !!
I know right!?!? She's just amazing
That takes a toll on the person
Yep!!
She shouldn’t have to be. Her husband should grow up.
@@志瑜杨 I didnt say she should have... I said appreciate the mom because she does so much.
I love how the mother lets the daughter express herself freely without confirming or denying anything she's saying. She just gives her the space to say what she wants to say. Communication 101 people!!
Sugoi.. thats a rarity
She's enabling her.
All I can say is that he's been living like a bachelor for 17 years until the present because all the parenting work was done by the mom. The way he threw the mouse though... an adult doing tantrums isn't emotionally mature.
i love the daughter she has such a strong force and i love how she doesn't hold back how she feels for her dads sake
I love how she counsels her dad, (even though she shouldn't have to). He is such an embarrassment, he should be ashamed of himself.
Omg! What a terrible father! “She’s not doing something great. All students study” is soooo wrong. Only so many students value their education like she does! He needs to be more grateful that his daughter turned out the way she is! Ugh.
In South Korea, studying like she is is considered normal so I understand where he comes from, nevertheless I agree that her efforts should be valued
exactlyyyy.... I find studying now soooo tough..... imagine you're studying and someone directly outside playing games and shouting with loud spamming on their keyboards and mouse... I would've have went there and broke the keyboard istg
If i was the wife, I would've smacked his head right then and there. Do you think having the discipline and motivation to study is easy?!
period
@@MissGourmandefr sure but again just because it’s the norm it doesn’t mean like it should be taken for granted, i myself start to feel burnt out with my academics so kudos to her and not to him for being unnecessary
Tbh he is not her dad emotionally. He is just biologically her dad. He never lived with her and never did anything that a parent should do. He is just selfish. Parents always put their child's needs before their owns and when it's about her career, he should do everything possible to support her but he can't even give up on his games? like seriously? He is weird ,immature and not eligible to be called a parent. Like my parents do anything they can to support me and my siblings especially when it's about our studies and they are more worried for us than we ourselves. So I think he should learn how to be a parent first, just giving birth doesn't make you a parent. The mother in this is what a parent is! She is caring for her daughter and always putting her first than herself . I hope the daughter won't face any problems in the future.
Couldn’t have said it better👏🏻
I'm so agree with the sentence, "learn how to be a parent first"
He doesnt need to give up his games. U can be a good father while still enjoying your hobbies. He is just immature and never experienced being what a father should be
I agree!!
i can’t believe he wasn’t even there for their birth
She’s already stressed and over-worked as is. He should be doing his best to help her not be as stressed, not doing everything in his power to make her more stressed. I think it’s unfortunate that he made all of those decisions without consulting his family, resulting in them being basically strangers.
It was his choice to leave the family, so he should own up to the results. The daughter is at her home and dealing with her responsibilities. Why is the dad ignoring his responsibilities with the family?
I mean...not to excuse his loudness and whatnot but he is the reason why the family is so well provided for their entire lives. Their apartment is so nice and they clearly have money. The daughter goes to cram schools which as far as I know, cost a lot of money for the good ones. Like the reason why the family is doing well is in large part due to the dads financial stability and capability (and of course super hero mom basically but that doesnt need to be said lol)
@@babyyneekyy Yes but it also doesn't excuse his lack of emotional investment in his family. The dad here is obviously not accustomed to a family's life, he thinks everything should go his way because he provides food and money and he disregards everyone's feelings. Have you ever thought about what his daughter goes through? Living 17 years with an absent father, having to meet up everyone's expectations just because she studies in a good school, and we don't know what else goes on behind the screens. South Korea's school system is one of the harshest out there and it even leads to some students suicide. I recommend you to watch some documentaries about it.
@@babyyneekyy He's just being a financial supporter and a sperm doner at this point. Emotionally, he's been away for 17 years and demand his family to understand him while he probably doesn't even know his kids and thinks just he's entitled to them because he financially provided for them. It's the same for loan providers, they just give you the money.
@@judys5864 He left for their own good its not like he wants to leave his family may Dad always leave for work and be away for in 3 or 5 years I try to understand my dad because when me my mom and my little brother is living a luxurious life my dad is working abroad
@@denniseang4137 i have read here in some comments that he have a choice to be a baseball player in US or in Korea, he chose to go to US and only forced to go back.
He’s a selfish father. His daughter values education, and he doesn’t support her properly. This really hits close to home with my parents. They never cared about my feelings at all, and only talked about their feelings all the time. He is inconsiderate.
ik what you mean but she shouldn't be escalading the situation
@@derekford7230 all she asked was to study in peace and he was being loud how is she escalating it when he is provoking her
@@GUUUTS. that's the other way around
@@derekford7230 wym
This dude does not know how to be a parent. He's been living like a bachelor the past 17 years so he's also acting like he just hit puberty yesterday. So immature. If you don't know how or don't want to be a husband and a father, just don't get married and bear children. I don't understand why people can't understand such a simple concept. If you know you're not ready, don't put your spouse and your future children in such traumatic situations. Financial contribution isn't all there is to parenting and family-building. Jesus Christ.
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true af
Yass louder
The thing is, most people don't know what it's like to be a parent and I guess assume that it works automatically without any effort from the parent other than providing for the family. It's only after you have children, who grow up to become teenagers and adults in their own right, do people really understand how difficult it is to be a parent and how it's so much more than taking care of your children's physical needs.
@@abul9052 well Im not sure in other country but right now im glad that in my country that there’s a class that u have to take before proceed with marriage process . Im not sure what they will explain or teach but im sure related to these kind of things.
This is giving me hard step-parent vibes, like a bad step-parent, one that joins the family abruptly and expects things as if they raised the kids all along or how kids should just listen to their elders. Gosh, I hope he can understand his daughter at the end of this.
Dude this was my life. I love my step parent. But i dont forget the mess i went thru
He was gone for seventeen years suddenly comes back and demands for respect he doesn’t deserve it right away. From the actions he shown it hasn’t really shown anything to gain respect. The daughter is in a sensitive situation she is stressed from school and studying in my perspective she is really stressed so the dad shouldn’t suddenly come up and ask for respect he is really selfish he doesn’t understand the situation he has never really been a parent he should try to understand the daughter he is the one that disturbed their lives and suddenly wants to be given stuff like that’s not how it works
The daughter is studying cause it’s exam season and it’s normal for them to go from school to cram school and then home and study more. I agree she puts too much pressure on herself but her dad needs to be more understanding and maybe work around her schedule since he’s the one with free time. Maybe make her snacks for when she comes home and help her study.
9am to 10pm is 13 hours of schooling to then go home and study more, anybody would be irritated at a lazy pos who isn't doing anything but complaining and making their days even longer....
imagine your parents working 13 hour days and you waking them up at night with video games....wouldnt they be mad as hell?? YES the answer is obviously yes
Allright, I’m not the only one who think her father is childish..
He’s been away for so long and when he came home he can’t even act like a father
Wth you’re a father for God sake!!! You should try understand your kids first
Honestly, I have the same situation as them. my dad works overseas for like decades now and only comes home a month or two and then leave again BUT the difference is that my dad was always understanding and always gives us motivation to study at our best cuz he always says that "We have money, so your financially stable, my only wishes is for you to study hard and take care of yourselves" he understood why we have to study late night and wake up late noon but at the same time he always reminds us siblings that we should always take breaks. This dad right here is just purely immature he should be happy that his child is studying well and takes education seriously. She's doing a lot of sacrificial stuff herself for the benefit of a good future. He just keeps on using his "Dad Authority" to push everyone around when he literally never stood as a father to his children.
A man who has been gone for almost 2 decades has no place to talk leaving his family behind and living his best life in the US seriously the daughter has every single right to feel the way she does. If he genuinely cared enough about her and how she feels he would try to under stand her. If I was in her place I wouldn’t like my father either if he just pranced in to my life 17 years later.
Probably been cheating on her the whole time too. Wouldn’t be surprised
Are you saying he never saw his family in those 17 years?
@@skillbopster Clearly it was rare. His daughter expressed that blatantly.
I am not a parent so I don't completely understand the father. But I think he forgot what it's like to have a child, to be with a family, to be a Dad. Good thing the mother remains calm and neutral through out. I understand how the child can be frustrated by the Dad, I wouldn't like it either if someone just comes in my life and routine, and wants me to adjust to their lifestyle.
Yeah i agree
What throws me off is when he said "She's not even doing something great! All students study!" like sir your daughter literally studies to have a better future because that's her dream. It's just like you and your goals with your sport career but hers is about her academic career.
the mom is so amazing she is such a strong middle ground and is so calm as well. i am totally on the side of the daughter bec I have been on the same situation before.
The father has been gone for years and he has his own ambition i get it. But he has formed a family and has kids plus he just went off by himself. Honestly he doesnt seem like a dad. His daughter studies well and knows her priorities.
He should put more effort into understanding his own daughter and get to know her first bec there really is no bond at all. it feels like he is not a parent.
You decided to have kids so have some responsibility man. She is such a good kid too.
God the dad is insufferable. Absentee dad tries to stake his claim to a family he abandoned for more than a decade. Ew.
I’m sorry but it’s clearly obvious the dad doesn’t know anything abt parenting, like throwing the mouse, saying she clearly doesn’t like him rather than thinking why she’s doing that, he’s acting like a kid
I think he just ran away from the responsibility of being a parent in the guise of being busy as an athlete. I don't want to compare but Naeun's dad and Sian's dad, who are also athletes, can make time for their family.
The wife said, he has 6 days of games then 3 days to rest before going away again. What did he do during those times? He should've became a dad in those times but obviously he didn't.
If I was his daughter, I'd also hate him because he wants to suddenly be part of a family he never tried to be part of in 17 years.
17 years apart from your own family is a long time! And, they just take you back bc you have the label of being a “Dad/Father” but is a disappointment the moment you step foot out that door… while your kids were at such a young age. And, your wife having to take care of them by herself.
The mom deserve huge amount of appreciation ❤️
Wow this guys ego is no joke. Mentally I think he’s like a young teen who feels jilted that his dreams of becoming a famous baseball player got cancelled cause of COVID. he needs to grow the hell up and learn how to take care of his family after leaving it to his wife for 17 years. I’m glad this family appeared on this programme so at least he knows how bad of a job he is at being a father and husband.
mum really tries her best for a better father-daughter relationship ❤
So he was busy chasing his dream, for god knows why still decided to have children, then continued chasing his dream, thinks that being a family is just being bank acc for em, left em alone for decades and now that he’s no longer able to chase his dream but mentality he still is. He’s taking out his unhappiness and regrets onto his family and complains about having an existential crisis. Bruh…. Sometimes staying in a marriage and trying to force things to work out isn’t the answer… might as well get a divorce and the daughter could just stay w her mom instead (she’s even old enough to understand that too) and he can continue to figure out his own existence without taking it out on his own family…
Hey father your daughter has grown up, she already knows she can show her emotions, she has been without a father figure for too long and suddenly you come making noise. I also feel disappointed
My dad wasn’t always with us cause he had to work somewhere else when he came back he just tried to work with our schedules because you don’t expect people to change their entire life because you came to live with them. If your child finds it hard to study be understanding don’t compare especially when you’ve never seen how hard she worked before you came to live with her
And you know, I'm sure that was your dad's best choice. Not like this man, who used work as an excuse to run away abroad and live as a single man, when he could've worked just as well in Korea.
Why did the wife take his washed out baseball self back and disrupt her kids life....I like when he said I came back to my family...you should have came.back 4 years ago before COVID MADE you come back.....Mr Baseball Man you went back to Korea because COVID made you go back....
I want to say so much, but, the fact that korean system is this hard n every students willing to do itself is already so great. And i believe even if he doesnt do anything, like he doesnt disturb, it will be so hard for her to get used to him, bcs they get used to live just 3 people, he doesnt need to feel lost, he is the "dad" in his home, he should do what father need to do. Not asking for respect when he doesnt want to respect her hardworking.
17 years is not 17 days or 17 months..please try to understand your kids. Please start from 0. He is really a MCP. If I were you I already kick him out of the house😡
I'm sorry but you really can't call him a father. He hasn't been in his children's lives for 17 years. He has been living the bachelor lifestyle while his wife has been doing an great job of raising those children. This girl is seriously working her but off studying and all he is talking about is himself and the injustice he is facing.
Honestly this made me cry. If it was not for COVID he would not be home with his family. Instead of being encouraging and supportive father he is creating more stress for his family. He wants everyone to bend to what he wants. He is not setting a good example for anyone in the family.
Omg!! Hwari and her dad are a split image of each other!! OMG!! The one thing I’ve learned in my many years of marriage and parenting.. as a mom.. you will always be the mediator.. but one side has to bend a little and let’s just say it’s never the dads side..
Im someone who was raised by my grandparents and I know how she feels. Im grateful Im alive, well, have food and a roof above my head but tbf those are the bare necessities that you as a parent bestowed upon yourself when you decided to have a child. I love my mom and dad I do but the emotional bond we have is so strained that I always instinctively find a way to not be in a room with them. They say Im like my father both stubborn and demanding which is why we fight a lot but what hurts is my mom never really sided with me once always with dad. I can see my father in him and I can tell you it's not really looking like a good relationship between father-daughter
17 years is not a joke i mean it feels like suddenly start to live with a stranger..😥
i feel so mad at everything that her dad said
What a lame comment about her daughter! Terrible father! "She's not doing something great" "Every student studies" just be thankful and grateful you got a hardworking daughter like her not all students are like her its rare to find a student like her since most of the students nowadays are lazy while she studies so hard. The father should be the one to adjust he's the one who left them to do what he wants and the family let him do what he wants and now he came back he suddenly wants everyone to adjust to him
Why is the dad acting like a 👶 child
The mom is amazing. Grace under fire. The dad is not a bad person. He just doesn’t have the tools. He thought he just had to make money so he is also perplexed coz his job is definitely not easy. I believe he should listen and learn. She resents him for being away more. They are a beautiful family and I wish ti o see them mend this. Mom is amazing. Just lots of patience and grace. Wow
So he’s mad at his daughter for studying and getting mad at him because he wants to play games on the computer past midnight? Please who’s really the parent here.
He may be physically there but emotionally& Mentally he’s still in America.
The fact that this situation almost the same with my situation is relatable...
**the how does he really feel portions tells me something about the father.**
'I had a big ambition and I wanted to join the major league and achieve something but it was stopped against my will.'
Now that he is home, he thinks,
'Who am I, what is this place'.
He's been living 17 years of his life for his OWN. The way he acts and response is different from those people who are forced to be a part from their family for work.
From his answer, you may deduce that it seems like his family is not his driving force. 😊
But then again, I may be wrong. If so, then it's good for the family.
No, you're not wrong
Boss mother she is such a good parent
Ugh. I can relate to the daughter because my father keep playing game too in the midnight and shout out her lung out. Dont he learn that midnight is time to sleep and resting?? And we as student need to study regardless it's time to sleep???!!!!
I guess fathers expect automatic respect and that everyone in the family is supposed to work around them. To some extent, yes, parents should be respected simply for that but the rest must be earned. Also, being a father doesn't mean that your needs and preferences come above anyone else in the family.
The father is really childish and selfish, you're the one who should change your behaviour. Try to understand your daughter. You're used to living alone for 17 years, you can't do the same if you're living with others. Smh so annoying, the father is just a title to him but no responsibilities. Shame. Why he decided to appear in this program anyway
Ok so the father just went to U.S because he wanted to? Leaving his family? If I'm wrong please explain
He provided for this family so I can understand his side of frustration
i love her daughter is still so calm and mindful cuz i can't be that calm.. like c'mon imagine father coming home after so many years and started to act like some kind of moody teenager... he is clearly blaming everything on that poor girl who's just following her routine.
He is more like a kid than a dad
We had the same relationship with our fathers. They tend to be selfish and disregard their daughters as if we are non-existent. I don't believe that only children will respect their elders. We should be also respected as well.
First time after 17 years ? Bet he had someone else by his side bruh
lol he forgot where he stands, he left them 17 years. you are long forgotten and they survived 17 years without a father and a husband.
His dad lives as if he doesn't have a family, he acts like a stubborn eldest brother in the family, he doesn't even try to understand his daughter.
Mom u r the best.
Woahhhh Dad do u realize u not with them for 17 years n u expect Ur daughter to understand u all of sudden.. come on...
Mom right u should understand your daughter first.
Bruh how are you gonna be gone for 17 years and think that things should all be jolly when you come back out of nowhere.
He’s a narcissist. That’s it.
FOR REAL.
That's what I was gonna say
How is this narcissism?
He have a family but he act like he is not a father and live alone for many years and just do what he wants to do. Then, he doesn't want to understand her daughter just because he don't get why he need to? Seriously? Why so selfish? All he just think is himself. He said all those words without even considering his family..seriously
wow the father whooaaaaaa. if I'm his wife, I would already flipped table at himmmmmmm
Honestly, they look they may be able to afford a separate apartment for the dad lol, instead of the wife having to parent him and sort out his relationship issues with his daughter.
I can relate to the daughter. My father also retired from work due COVID-19 after working out of the country. He does whatever he want without thinking how we feel. Like the daughter I was also doing my best in work in order to support my family but it feels like he didn't appreciate as he sometimes complains. So I just ended having a fight with him. I didn't like it but I can't suppress it anymore.
I can relate to that, my dad always tell me to do housework regardless of my exam, he never cares about my education
She's just study not doing something great ... These words are only come from those who never study and always fail .
As a student i really hate these type of persons even if it's my own family or friends .
The dad is like both my parents. On top of that they always pull the “you should be grateful for all the things we do for u ” in every fight, even if it’s clearly their fault just so that they can have an upper hand. They’re not even getting their point across too, they just want to assert dominance
providing financially does not make you a good father, i hope some of you can understand that
He's like a big baby 😂😂😂😂poor thing it must be a lot to adjust to but he must be mindful that he is the parent and must lead by example first and after 17 years he has a lot to make up for
why is it that he had to "sacrifice" his family life for his career when plenty of pro athletes manage to be good husbands and fathers while being a pro athlete?
I understand where both sides are coming from. However, this is how you create bigger gaps in your family. I used to be very close with my father, now it is painful to even sit in the same room together.
Even if you lost your way because something that you relied on and the way you wanted to live your life changed, you cannot allow yourself to use those things as an excuse. You can’t expect someone to be close to you and love you the same way that they used to after you have been separated for so long and made the decisions to not maintain and grow the relationship the way it should have.
Hwari studies very hard and for very long amounts of time. As a university student, I admire her ability to do that. Her father has a hard time understanding what it means to her and her motivations to do so. He does not take the time to get to know his daughter and really learn about or understand her. He has a selfish way of viewing things that needs to change if he wants to repair the damages in the father-daughter relationship. While Hwari does not always convey her words in an “ideal” manner, and sometimes yells or makes snarky remarks, the way that he listens and takes those words must also change. Both need to work on communication, but the father the most. It should never be only about him, but he must consider his wife’s feelings, his daughter’s, and his son’s. He has a family, they are not statues or just people who live with him. They love him and, for the most part, understand him and try to work things out. He needs to reciprocate that to his family.
I truly admire the mom for taking the time to understand both sides and try to find a solution. She does not have snarky comments, nor does she defend either side. She listens, conveys the messages, and also communicates. She is empathetic about the situation, and the way she explains things to the father and daughter are wonderful. There’s no yelling, although there might be times where she does yell. I wish my mom took the time to listen the way this woman does.
That’s the problem. Patriarchal dads don’t see daughters as their own people, as humans lol I wish my mom had been on my side and understanding like her mom instead of taking his side cause “he’s your dad”. First, earn that respect.
Sorry but I rlly don't like him. He should go back to US and stop bothering them by his selfishness. He's the one who left them behind yet he's expecting him to understand him.🤦♀️
This gives me the worst flashbacks when I had to constantly do this between my daughter and my husband. They still don't get along well. At least this family has the excuse that the father hasn't really lived with his family for years so they didn't get to develop an understanding. It wasn't like that in my case. We've been together the whole way through but they can barely stay in the same room together.
Lmao me and my dad argue all the time he says sorry by buying me snacks💀
her daughter is growing up, so she would already understand the feeling of lonely that her dad isn't always right by her side all these years. that's why there is a big gap between them. the dad doesn't understand it fully and just think about himself and how the daughter should treat him and understand him, not trying to understand her as a dad should be. luckily the mom is considered of both. it's good that her daughter value studying, though she is also hard to herself. both should really have a deep talk and tell each other what they feel towards each other, or else it will get worse.
I wonder why they decided to come out on the show… it’s so embarrassing for the daughter, letting the whole world know she has this kind of dad…
Its not embarrassing for daughter.. its not her fault, its embarrassing for that man. He seems egoistic
because of the cha-ching lol
It's not embarassing for the girl. The Dad neds to grow up urgently otherwise he will loose not only his dreams, but most importantly, his family.
@@KristinaLovesJustin I don't think they mean that the daughter should be ashamed, but it's embarrassing for her either way. Teens often feel embarrassed by family situations that are out of their control. The only saving grace is that her peers are probably too busy to watch TV.
if he was gonna be that irresponsible as a man he shouldnt have started a family. what kind of dad and a husband is this? the mom is amazing, i liked how she listened to both side of the story and explained her thoughts neutrally
Wow he should litrally be trying his best to fit in and listen to the family when he’s not lived with them in 17 years
10pm end of study omg 🥺 the father should understand his child
Don't judge him for his mistakes he's going through changes we all endure them let this be a learning practise of how to treat others when you find yourself in the same position
What a terrible way to treat his own daughter
Personally my own dad literally gave me a whole room and cramped others together just so i can focus on my studies and went as far as renovating a new room on 2nd floor because my brother kept bothering me. He understands me and tries his best. Thats how parents need to be. He doesn't understand that not everyone studies like his daughter and the more competitive the environment gets the more stressed a student gets. While poor her studies all night he plays games and refuses to let the poor girl relax in peace. Im appalled honestly. Ur the adult u understand her it should not be the other way around. As someone who suffers from anxiety and panic attacks, it gets extremely frustrating at times. He literally has the whole day but still chooses to play games at night, the only time his daughter needs peace and quiet. All of us are literally with the daughter right now
Some people should just never build families i tell you. So immature i cannot even-
3:12 both father n daughter have higher ambition they fought becoz they are of same kind😁
He’s not ready to be a dad! 17 years spent living like he never had a family back home in Korea and he comes home expecting to be a father figure?! That’s not how it works paps. Parenting takes years and years to master, and even then, parents still aren’t perfect. What makes you think coming home after being gone most of your children’s lives that you’ll make an exception? You don’t even appreciate the willingness of your daughter to study.
wish my parents was like this. Everytime i got angry becoz of my studies, they all blame me as the worst kid cuz i cant do more than studying...
The dad wants to live like a teenage again and wants to be alone and live his life freely without his family. Dude why are u being like that your family is so beautiful your children studying harder and your wife was a super mom to them,on the other hand u live your life for 17 years without them and now u want to be alone and u want them to adjust just for u?? You're the father u should be the one who will adjust in that situation your child is not a kid anymore and try to fit in with their environment and how their mom handle the positive situation but you're being a childish to them😟😟😟
Oh my gosh I relate to the daughter so much. I study like crazy but I still get average grades. There has been lots and lots of days where I would cram 6 hours and only sleep 5 hours. And if any of my parents nag at me I get raged. Then I feel bad about it but at the same time I am trying my best. The dad is behaving like a child.
Wow, seriously that apa is a serious work. God, please help him.
Why he is married he is totally selfish I am pity on her mom she is almost like a single mother to take care her children but there is no communication from the family he just think himself not only other he is lucky to have wonderful family but communication is must important in every family
He literally needs counseling cause there is no way someone would just come back home after being gone without any notice for 17 years and comes back asking people to be doing something different after doing it for the past year they’ve been gone..like no sir you need to be respectful and understanding cause he’s not the “leader” of the household atp the mother should be the one telling people what to do but she doesn’t she tries and understands both people and doesn’t side with anyone and she especially lets them speak out instead of bottling it up inside so I feel like the award should rlly go to the mother for raising these kids right over the past 17 years and she should for sure put the dad in his place
the way he thinks he’s the victim is blowing my mind….he’s so selfish it’s disgusting to see
I want her hair
The heck?
He should be greatful that her daughter study hard!
All students studies blahblahblah NO THEY DONT!
As an adult and baseball veteran he should understand his juniors. Ah is this how he should understand this. 😑
Omg...is he 10....wtf how 😭😭😭😭😭
Much relate..
I think she looks so familiar to me??? did she became part of TVN's Leaving the Nest????
The father is acting like a teenager the pride that he has oh gawd also 17 years?! he left without asking his familly and now he's acting like a father figure. He's terrible. I feel so bad to the daughter and glad she have her loving mother.
After watching this video it felt like it has similar with my family my dad is an engineer and my mum and dad has love marriage at first he show my mom he is a very nice person he didn't have any bad in him but after 1 year of marriage he started drinking alcohol so much and beat my mom each and everyday he didn't care about me and my brother he just live for himself and never give a single penny to us like our school fees and other house hold things and not even for food and grocery it's been 25 years of marriage he is the same but my mom is the powerful women in the whole universe she works so hard and gave her children a right path now my brother has complete his engineering and get a job and now we didn't even talk to my father. he didn't even know that in which grade his daughter is studying,is she good at her studies or not what my son is doing, how my wife is managing all this alone 😭😭