I know that I definitely allow myself to accept less then I deserve, because I’ve told myself I have no worth. The “would you let your daughter do this” really snapped my thinking around, and made me realize how I’m treating myself.
I had the opposite problem - I set my standards for other as high as I have them for myself and nobody was able to meet them. Except for me, because I live with those standards my whole life.
Maybe narrow down the set of standards to some mandatory things that are absolutely must and non negotiable. And then make a list of things that you would like your friends to have in them. But those would act as a plus point not mandatory. Maybe then you'll be able to excuse some of the negotiable things and just focus on the basics.
Giirl i love you so much. You literally helped me change my life. I grew up abused and developed multiple traumas so i decided to live in another country alone and i was in a flight or fight mode yet deep down I'm very feminine and the hustle culture isn't really for me. Ever since i relaxed and started to get out of my head and be more in my body and being more feminine. Surprisingly i got more money at my job and had more clients because i became magnetic and believe me I'm already booked for months ahead and i have other clients on my waiting list, and mind you I'm only 6 months in this country. I upgraded my wardrobe and my house and it made a huge impact on my life. Utilize being a woman my dears . Love 💕 🌺🌹 🌷
Wow thank you so much!! Asking myself “would I accept xyz for my daughter” is brilliant and makes the process of raising my standards so much easier. When you explained this, it was like a light bulb moment. Thank you 🙏🏻
I had eureka 💡 moment when I was in a toxic relationship and things progressed to physical abuse (on both ends). I didn’t want to be in the receiving end OF COURSE, but I also didn’t want to be THAT person either. Didn’t like who I was becoming and it finally clicked when I asked myself this: Would I want my daughter to go through something like this? (no) Would I want my daughter to BE someone who BEHAVES like this (NO! 🤯). I wouldn’t want her to be either abused OR the abuser. Definitely puts things in prospective.
Wow such a good video. I needed to hear this. I am always letting people walk all over me. I am so thankful for your videos. You are so young and wise. My husband is an alcoholic and never helps me with my son. He is pushing me to have another child. I know he won't help me. I am exhausted all the time. I would not want my daughter to get pushed around like this.
Yes I relate with the health issues and diet thing. I also went through an unidentified health issue, the doctors couldn't do anything about it, I decided to take things into my hands and looked into alternative healing, diet, natural food supplements and it has totally changed my life. Lastly the thing about would I want my daughter to experience this in making your standards crystal clear: if you have a narcissistic mother it might sound cognotively dissonant. I have found out more than anything else having a narcissistic parent can really make a child grow up having low self esteem, performing to be someone else to get love and approval, not honoring one's boundaries and needs because they've been conditioned to live that way by a narcissistic parent.
I just found you on RUclips, and glad I have. I really like how you put things into perspective. The part I enjoyed most of this video is when you were like, go back to your 8-year-old self and think would you want her being friends with those girls who talk behind her back. Absolutely not, your teenage daughter hanging with that boy that just invites her over for Netflix and chill, like ew no, what a waste of time. That helped me look at certain things in such a different way. Thanks!
I almost got a divorce from the love of my life because he wasn't giving me princess treatment. But your videos have helped me see that I wasn't allowing him to step into his masculine energy because I was doing everything for him. Finally, yesterday (after binge watching all your videos for weeks) he told me, you look very "zen" , are you okay? So I think I'm slowly stepping into my feminine energy , I'm more soft spoken, Im taking my time to enjoy the small and beautiful things that make me happy, I let him lead....he even planned a whole date(he never could, I will always have everything planned on my calendar) we had a wonderful evening, and I'm feeling so appreciated. I guess what I'm trying to say is THANK YOU ❤ you've helped me so much,😊
Wow, your video resonated so much with me, you made me cry! My sense of self worth and self esteem has been pretty low lately, but hearing you change things from shoulds to musts made me realize I need to reevaluate how I am treating myself. And the "if this were my daughter" thinking really clicked with me as well. Great video as always ❤
Thank you soooo much for your pieces of advice!!! I am I my twenties & I feel so lost recently... I'm trying to reinvent myself, but failed so many times to do so... I finally got a better perspective for myself, thanks to your softness & your openness when you talked. I aspire to become someone as soft & gentle with myself & others, as you seem to be. Thank you sooo much! 💞😊
Thank you for your beautiful videos! I was listening to you with a warm smile on my face as being feminine by nature, I’ve been always living a soft, elegant, well-balanced life, and you very skillfully put into words my thoughts and feelings on the topic of femininity. ❤️
Amazing video once again. Yesterday I realized how I have trouble accepting love from friends and thus lower my standards. So now I -must- have friends who truly care about me.
Fabulous stuff as usual. Wonderful advice, Jillz. Needed to hear this on a personal note. Loving yourself and deaming yourself worthy of good things is a struggle for a lot of us. Love this channel.
I was in relationship for over 4 years and I even got married. But I knew I was accepting the bare minimum. I allowed it because I was in love and hoped he would change. He improved but didn’t last for too long. I was so hurt but decided to end the relationship for my own sake. It hurt me but I’m so thankful I did because I feel so much better with myself. Now I know what I want and deserve. I’m gonna be that woman that a real man wants and needs. I’ll be the Queen to my King 🫶🏻
Wow thank you! I really needed this, like this connected the dots for me. It helped so much in a practical way, to actually excercise having high standards and not just wanting them. Will definitely watch over and over☺️❤️🔥
Fully believing that your musts will happen and being excited about them will put you in an abundant state. Always being fearful they won’t come to fruition is what puts you in a lack/desperate state ❤️
Another amazing video ❤️ I was hoping if you could do a video concerning issues younger women may face especially college students. College has not been easy on me and I have developed health issues due to the amount stress so I'm trying to take control over my life again and allow myself to be in a healthy feminine higher version of myself but sometimes it's really hard to do. I would be really really grateful if you could share some tips and advices! Love you ❤️❤️
I would be happy if you made a video on how to raise your standard as an office worker both during the job search process and when you are already working
When I have daughters I’m going to literally do my best to instill SELF WORTH it is so so lacking in young women this generation (and I myself there too)
Yup, knowing what u deserve in terms of respect and treatment is imp! These standards help bc then uk what u can and cannot accept in relationships. The guy who doesn't align with ur values and goals gotta go.
sadness and grief and longing and aching and misery and nostalgia: flood me. my heart literally physically hurts. HOW COULD HE DO THIS TO ME? HOW AND WHY? he doesn't miss me? I'm that easy to replace? I'M THAT EASY TO BE THIS CRUEL TO? I don't deserve a goodbye nor an explanation? our connection and friendship wasn't real? I AM STUCK IN FREEZE (mostly, perpetually). my heart is so heavy. the grief; the ache; the longing. I miss him. I needed him. I miss our connection. HOW THE FUCK COULD HE ACTUALLY REALLY DO THIS TO ME? One day we're talking all day, every day, the next, we're complete strangers. I die inside. PANIC PANIC PANIC AND. SO. MUCH. GRIEF!! I truly die inside. The pain is unbearable. I am dizzy with grief. Truly unimaginable darkness. DEBILITATING PARALYZING PANIC... I wish to die. I have severe PTSD. the person whom I thought was my best friend, gave me this PTSD. he raped me. on a soul level. he viciously brutally violently maliciously raped my soul. ghosted me. discarded me like garbage. replaced me for another. (STUPID SICK MOTHER FUCKING ASSHOLE, HE IS!!) I feel the PTSD in my body. I am drowning in darkness. I'm in hell with no escape. I face every moment of every day: with utter dread and sheer terror. so... as an act of my own free will... I choose to release and detach all vibrations and frequencies that do not serve my highest good. I responsibly cut all cords from all people in my past, and declare and command their energy to no longer have access to the sacred parts of my being! I release and send back their energy to them with the purest intent. I call back my energy from their sacred space. I command this all, for my inner healing and for my inner peace. IN JESUS' PRECIOUS HOLY MIGHTY POWERFUL NAME, I DECLARE, IT IS SO! I am embracing the light within my soul. I forgive therefore I am forgiven. I love therefore I receive love. And so it is. NOTES TO SELF: - work on yourself - heal yourself - purify, release, cleanse, attract - be independent; fall in love with you - radiate magical energy - develop a sense of mystery and safety and astonishment - visualize wishes fulfilled (COMMAND and FEEL) - live your life on purpose ❤ - Radical Honesty = EASY (if you're not afraid of losing something) Thank you Heavenly Father ❤ Thank you Universe ❤ Thank you God❤ Thank you Gurus❤ Thank you Angels❤ Thank you Ancestors ❤ Thank you Divine Spirit ❤ Thank you Mother Earth ❤
I'm confused with something. Let's say I want someone who have some characteristics, for example, being chivalrous, so if I want that I have to be chivalrous myself? Like I also have to open doors for my man? Or that's not what your talking about?
I have question for women. As a man, i was asked by my mom and sister why am i single. My reason: I offer a blood oath level of commitment and only accepts nothing less than the same. I would offer my women only food, water, and shelter, but she will have my entire wealth of knowledge, experience, and expertise at her disposal. That being said, no new shoes no 5-stars restaurants, but she will have my good advices and guidence to build her career or business. My offer has a good educational effect and would strengthen my partner, but why did this frightened them and i still can't get a girlfriend? I would jump in if offered lifelong covenant with exchange of experience and expertise.
@@mitch1847 yes nothing wrong with chivalry I will teach my son basic respect so that he won’t think women “should keep their mouths shut” 🙄 nothing traditional about cooking and cleaning as they are basic life skills.
I know that I definitely allow myself to accept less then I deserve, because I’ve told myself I have no worth. The “would you let your daughter do this” really snapped my thinking around, and made me realize how I’m treating myself.
That way of thinking always helps me too ❤️
“You attract what you are”
I love how this is about self accountability instead of entitlement
I had the opposite problem - I set my standards for other as high as I have them for myself and nobody was able to meet them. Except for me, because I live with those standards my whole life.
Same ): how did you work on this?
Maybe narrow down the set of standards to some mandatory things that are absolutely must and non negotiable. And then make a list of things that you would like your friends to have in them. But those would act as a plus point not mandatory. Maybe then you'll be able to excuse some of the negotiable things and just focus on the basics.
If nobody in your surroundings can meet your standards - change your surroundings, don't lower your standards.
Giirl i love you so much. You literally helped me change my life. I grew up abused and developed multiple traumas so i decided to live in another country alone and i was in a flight or fight mode yet deep down I'm very feminine and the hustle culture isn't really for me. Ever since i relaxed and started to get out of my head and be more in my body and being more feminine. Surprisingly i got more money at my job and had more clients because i became magnetic and believe me I'm already booked for months ahead and i have other clients on my waiting list, and mind you I'm only 6 months in this country. I upgraded my wardrobe and my house and it made a huge impact on my life. Utilize being a woman my dears . Love 💕 🌺🌹 🌷
Wow!
Wow thank you so much!! Asking myself “would I accept xyz for my daughter” is brilliant and makes the process of raising my standards so much easier. When you explained this, it was like a light bulb moment. Thank you 🙏🏻
Ahh so glad it resonated with you!!❤️
I had eureka 💡 moment when I was in a toxic relationship and things progressed to physical abuse (on both ends). I didn’t want to be in the receiving end OF COURSE, but I also didn’t want to be THAT person either. Didn’t like who I was becoming and it finally clicked when I asked myself this: Would I want my daughter to go through something like this? (no) Would I want my daughter to BE someone who BEHAVES like this (NO! 🤯). I wouldn’t want her to be either abused OR the abuser. Definitely puts things in prospective.
Wow such a good video. I needed to hear this. I am always letting people walk all over me. I am so thankful for your videos. You are so young and wise. My husband is an alcoholic and never helps me with my son. He is pushing me to have another child. I know he won't help me. I am exhausted all the time. I would not want my daughter to get pushed around like this.
dont you'll be trapped save your self.
I am forwarding this to my sister; she needs to watch it. I want so much more for her than what she is settling for.
Yes I relate with the health issues and diet thing. I also went through an unidentified health issue, the doctors couldn't do anything about it, I decided to take things into my hands and looked into alternative healing, diet, natural food supplements and it has totally changed my life.
Lastly the thing about would I want my daughter to experience this in making your standards crystal clear: if you have a narcissistic mother it might sound cognotively dissonant. I have found out more than anything else having a narcissistic parent can really make a child grow up having low self esteem, performing to be someone else to get love and approval, not honoring one's boundaries and needs because they've been conditioned to live that way by a narcissistic parent.
I cried this whole video. I'm so uncomfortable being comfortable. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO
I just found you on RUclips, and glad I have. I really like how you put things into perspective. The part I enjoyed most of this video is when you were like, go back to your 8-year-old self and think would you want her being friends with those girls who talk behind her back. Absolutely not, your teenage daughter hanging with that boy that just invites her over for Netflix and chill, like ew no, what a waste of time. That helped me look at certain things in such a different way. Thanks!
I almost got a divorce from the love of my life because he wasn't giving me princess treatment. But your videos have helped me see that I wasn't allowing him to step into his masculine energy because I was doing everything for him.
Finally, yesterday (after binge watching all your videos for weeks) he told me, you look very "zen" , are you okay? So I think I'm slowly stepping into my feminine energy , I'm more soft spoken, Im taking my time to enjoy the small and beautiful things that make me happy, I let him lead....he even planned a whole date(he never could, I will always have everything planned on my calendar) we had a wonderful evening, and I'm feeling so appreciated. I guess what I'm trying to say is THANK YOU ❤ you've helped me so much,😊
Loved the daughter method for making decisions! That makes it so much clearer. Thank you
Watched this one twice. I’ll come back to it again. That’s how amazing it is ♥️
Wow, your video resonated so much with me, you made me cry! My sense of self worth and self esteem has been pretty low lately, but hearing you change things from shoulds to musts made me realize I need to reevaluate how I am treating myself. And the "if this were my daughter" thinking really clicked with me as well. Great video as always ❤
So glad you loved the video!!!😘
Thank you soooo much for your pieces of advice!!! I am I my twenties & I feel so lost recently... I'm trying to reinvent myself, but failed so many times to do so... I finally got a better perspective for myself, thanks to your softness & your openness when you talked. I aspire to become someone as soft & gentle with myself & others, as you seem to be. Thank you sooo much! 💞😊
Your videos are a therapy for me ❤
💕💕💕
I love your emphasis on the power of the subconscious mind to determine what we experience in life.
Thank you for your beautiful videos! I was listening to you with a warm smile on my face as being feminine by nature, I’ve been always living a soft, elegant, well-balanced life, and you very skillfully put into words my thoughts and feelings on the topic of femininity. ❤️
Amazing video once again. Yesterday I realized how I have trouble accepting love from friends and thus lower my standards. So now I -must- have friends who truly care about me.
It's very helpful. I feel refreshed every time I watch your videos.🥰
Aw yay that makes me so happy!💕
I love how you take spiritual concepts I align with and ground them on a real-world level. You are so beautiful! Thank you!!
Fabulous stuff as usual. Wonderful advice, Jillz. Needed to hear this on a personal note. Loving yourself and deaming yourself worthy of good things is a struggle for a lot of us. Love this channel.
This is one of your best videos! The MUST concept is awesome and what would u tell ur daughter is brilliant 👍 Much love!❤
I immediately subscribed and took many notes! Thank you, sis! You put everything into perspective for me!
Girl you are changing my life with all this amazing advices ✨
I really enjoyed Pipers contribution to this video 🥰
I love how you present the topic. You’re beautiful. Thank you
Yay! Made me so happy to see a new vid to start my Sunday. Love you, Jillz!
Ahh so glad!! Love you!!😘
definitely needed to hear that! Thank you!!🤍
You’re so welcome! ❤️
I was in relationship for over 4 years and I even got married. But I knew I was accepting the bare minimum. I allowed it because I was in love and hoped he would change. He improved but didn’t last for too long. I was so hurt but decided to end the relationship for my own sake. It hurt me but I’m so thankful I did because I feel so much better with myself. Now I know what I want and deserve. I’m gonna be that woman that a real man wants and needs. I’ll be the Queen to my King 🫶🏻
Wow thank you! I really needed this, like this connected the dots for me.
It helped so much in a practical way, to actually excercise having high standards and not just wanting them. Will definitely watch over and over☺️❤️🔥
i love u so much you are that online sister that every girls nedd 😭
Can we have a part 2 of this? I found this one to be very helpful. ❤
10:57 You're supremely gorgeous Jillz
Aw thank you so much 🥰🥰❤️❤️
How can we make sure our musts are coming across from a place of abundance and not desperation or lack?
Fully believing that your musts will happen and being excited about them will put you in an abundant state. Always being fearful they won’t come to fruition is what puts you in a lack/desperate state ❤️
An amazing video Jillz❤ what I really need, that Lil push to know my worth than asking someone to see my worth ❤
Another amazing video ❤️
I was hoping if you could do a video concerning issues younger women may face especially college students. College has not been easy on me and I have developed health issues due to the amount stress so I'm trying to take control over my life again and allow myself to be in a healthy feminine higher version of myself but sometimes it's really hard to do.
I would be really really grateful if you could share some tips and advices! Love you ❤️❤️
I would be happy if you made a video on how to raise your standard as an office worker both during the job search process and when you are already working
Jillz I love your personality and your videos so much. Just thank you for being you!
I love the should to must switch!! Great video, as always!
This is great advice for woman of all ages
Have you ever tried velcro rollers and vintage hair styles? They give so much volume and I think you would love them.
you are literally a girl's girl. thanks a ton really needed this
This is one of the best advices ever, thank you!!!
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I love your videos your much. Your videos are always one of my favorite. I am so grateful I found your channel
I like the end part. Awesome 👌🏽
Just found your channel today and Im binge-watching all your videos! I
Thank you for this timely video! ❤
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always at the right time
Thankyou for the video. Love you Jillz❤❤
Thanks for watching 😘😘😘❤️
When I have daughters I’m going to literally do my best to instill SELF WORTH it is so so lacking in young women this generation (and I myself there too)
Even in a marriage, it is NOT OK to settle Marian or increase your worth so your partner can treat you with the love and respect you deserve
oh my god i love you girl
Thank you jillz❤️
Thank you♥️I always love watching your videos!
Awww love to hear that ❤️
💖💖. Thank you so much beautiful for all your great work
Your videos are amazing! Thank you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
loved it. thanks for the advice.
Always good advice
Thank you so much for this amazing video. Really love your channel. Absolutely my favorite RUclipsr ❤❤
Jillz, thank you so much for another great video ❤❤❤
Glad you liked it!!❤️
yes I alway love your info 🩷
So good...as always!❤
Thank you!! Glad you enjoyed it! 🥰
You're amazing!
Start with the Universal Standard -- the Golden Rule -- _Do unto others ..._
Yup, knowing what u deserve in terms of respect and treatment is imp! These standards help bc then uk what u can and cannot accept in relationships. The guy who doesn't align with ur values and goals gotta go.
Very true😊
Thank u so much for this video ❤
I loved this video ❤
Love this one!
you wanna raise your standards? then raise your beahaviour, and values, simple as that.
Videos like this and cultivating feminine eneregy are also releveant for men, if somewhat less. :)
Loved itt❤❤❤
Love your top💙💙
Such a great content❤️
Mam sometimes we do feel these things strongly In our mind but implementation is something challenging how to overcome that
Great video! Thanks
sadness and grief and longing and aching and misery and nostalgia: flood me.
my heart literally physically hurts.
HOW COULD HE DO THIS TO ME?
HOW AND WHY?
he doesn't miss me?
I'm that easy to replace?
I'M THAT EASY TO BE THIS CRUEL TO?
I don't deserve a goodbye nor an explanation?
our connection and friendship wasn't real?
I AM STUCK IN FREEZE (mostly, perpetually).
my heart is so heavy.
the grief; the ache; the longing.
I miss him.
I needed him.
I miss our connection.
HOW THE FUCK COULD HE ACTUALLY REALLY DO THIS TO ME?
One day we're talking all day, every day,
the next, we're complete strangers.
I die inside.
PANIC PANIC PANIC
AND. SO. MUCH. GRIEF!!
I truly die inside.
The pain is unbearable.
I am dizzy with grief.
Truly unimaginable darkness.
DEBILITATING PARALYZING PANIC...
I wish to die.
I have severe PTSD.
the person whom I thought was my best friend,
gave me this PTSD. he raped me. on a soul level.
he viciously brutally violently maliciously raped my soul.
ghosted me. discarded me like garbage. replaced me for another.
(STUPID SICK MOTHER FUCKING ASSHOLE, HE IS!!)
I feel the PTSD in my body. I am drowning in darkness.
I'm in hell with no escape.
I face every moment of every day:
with utter dread and sheer terror.
so...
as an act of my own free will...
I choose to release and detach all vibrations and frequencies
that do not serve my highest good.
I responsibly cut all cords from all people in my past,
and declare and command their energy to no longer have access
to the sacred parts of my being!
I release and send back their energy to them
with the purest intent.
I call back my energy from their sacred space.
I command this all, for my inner healing and for my inner peace.
IN JESUS' PRECIOUS HOLY MIGHTY POWERFUL NAME, I DECLARE, IT IS SO!
I am embracing the light within my soul.
I forgive therefore I am forgiven.
I love therefore I receive love.
And so it is.
NOTES TO SELF:
- work on yourself
- heal yourself
- purify, release, cleanse, attract
- be independent; fall in love with you
- radiate magical energy
- develop a sense of mystery and safety and astonishment
- visualize wishes fulfilled (COMMAND and FEEL)
- live your life on purpose ❤
- Radical Honesty = EASY (if you're not afraid of losing something)
Thank you Heavenly Father ❤
Thank you Universe ❤
Thank you God❤
Thank you Gurus❤
Thank you Angels❤
Thank you Ancestors ❤
Thank you Divine Spirit ❤
Thank you Mother Earth ❤
I'm an introvert yet still have self respect my standards are still high
Good, a necessary told off 😂❤
I love ittt+ l think we need a transition in Arabic ✨🦋
I’m going to lift my standards by having bariatric surgery. I’m sick of being unhappy and unhealthy.
I'm confused with something. Let's say I want someone who have some characteristics, for example, being chivalrous, so if I want that I have to be chivalrous myself? Like I also have to open doors for my man? Or that's not what your talking about?
No I just mean the type of energy or way of being that’s compatible with that ❤️
@@JillzGuerin ohhhh I see, thank you💗
I have question for women. As a man, i was asked by my mom and sister why am i single.
My reason: I offer a blood oath level of commitment and only accepts nothing less than the same. I would offer my women only food, water, and shelter, but she will have my entire wealth of knowledge, experience, and expertise at her disposal. That being said, no new shoes no 5-stars restaurants, but she will have my good advices and guidence to build her career or business.
My offer has a good educational effect and would strengthen my partner, but why did this frightened them and i still can't get a girlfriend? I would jump in if offered lifelong covenant with exchange of experience and expertise.
Epic video. 🙏🏼💖
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Good stuff
Wow 👏
And my sons I’m going raise the same, I won’t have them thinking cooking or cleaning are women’s jobs or womanly these are basic human skills !
@@mitch1847 yes nothing wrong with chivalry I will teach my son basic respect so that he won’t think women “should keep their mouths shut” 🙄 nothing traditional about cooking and cleaning as they are basic life skills.
@@mitch1847 cooking for your partner is an act of love not a requirement. Your mindset is awful
When i think of myself creating high standards what i oniy see is my ugliness and then i think nvm i don't even deserve this maybe
necessary!
Love u for that 🩵💙🩵💙
😘😘
I am the princess the confident one
Musts are different than Lusts
you are soo Beautiful 🌛
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♥️
😘😘
If you don‘t want to be needy and stop settling- don‘t have kids.;)
If it's he or she I would never disrespect people by calling them genderless mumbo-jumbo
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