Kudos to you for sharing your experience with this book. You raise so many important points about situations like this. Having also been raised in a small town, I know how much importance is placed on the sports teams and the culture of community adoration around it. That can be a powerful thing for good, like you mentioned, but it can also create a situation where very flawed human beings can do no wrong. Thank you for speaking up so passionately about this topic, Josh!
I appreciated the way you discussed this subject. I can’t help thinking of Kavenaugh and how this is exactly the mindset he had in the 80s and was dismissed. It’s disgusting.
Thanks for sharing this difficult topic. As a mother is something that always is running in my mind. When my oldest daughter reached her teenage and started to attend to parties we developed a secret word , I told her that "if you see something strange or feel uncomfortable call me and tell me the secret word". The Word per se is something light for example: Hi Mom Can i stay? THE PARTY IS AWESOME, so that way I know right away that something is wrong (i also told my son to use it). Not only for them but also if it involve somebody else. Thanks again for address the topic.
This is an issue that the society and educational system have to take heed of. In Taiwan we accentuate sex education to raise awareness including molestation even in primary schools. You would be surprised to know how many cases teachers have to deal with of accusations. They all result in ignorance from the society where people don't understand the act committed by kids or youngsters can not be simply attributed to their emotional immaturity thus be easily forgiven. This will shape kids' understanding about respecting others when they grow up.
Thank you for this video, Josh. I appreciate your sensitive handling of a really difficult topic. Watching this video and your comments about r*pe culture and how it's rarely looked at from the victim's viewpoint made me think about another book that tackles that topic. I don't know if you have heard about or read 'Know my Name' by Chanel Miller but it's apparently a beautifully written response from the Stanford Univ. SA victim. I have read her trial statement, but not the book just because the subject matter is too much for me, however from what I have heard from reviews and from friends and even my husband who read it, it's an incredible book that challenges the idea that just because someone has athletic talent, they are somehow morally exempt and shouldn't have to face the consequences of their actions like everyone else. It just seemed like worth bringing this book up as part of the conversation :) PS - I have been avoiding Beartown myself because of the subject matter, but my husband says it's one of the best series he has read. Maybe someday I can handle it, I love Backman.
Thank you for your comment. Chanel Miller's book is on my radar, and I had intended to mention her incident in the video, but sometimes I forget to weave things into my reviews since I don't script anything. I have a friend continuing to try to convince me to give Beartown another try as well.
Thank you for speaking about this in such a forthright way, it's a difficult thing to speak about rationally as so often victims are blamed or objectified. I don't understand why that is, but i am so glad some of us see the perpetrators for what they are, manipulators, users, criminal's.
Similar issue happened in a town near me, but it wasn’t SA, it was hazing. And instead of splitting the community, the community turned on the family and boy who reported it to the police because it ruined the football season. Not the best priorities
@@RedFuryBooks the frustration with the doc, as I am certain is similar to the book is that you just get the feeling that little will change. That is pretty cynical I know, but as you know, what high school program has a stadium like that?! You know where the priority is.
@@therealbookaholic in regards to stadiums, you'd be surprised! I live in Texas now, and big expensive HS football stadiums are the norm down here. Some of them rival college stadiums!
Wow. Steubenville. That town is rough. Worse than Youngstown. I simply could not knowingly read about rape. If it comes up in fiction I skim. I fume just thinking about it. Frat parties and date rape drugs are still happening. People need to know.
I have a lot of respect for the way you delivered that trigger warning. Important book and topic.
Thank you, Joe, I appreciate it.
Thank you for sharing your experience reading this very difficult and very important book, Josh.
Thank you, Philip.
Kudos to you for sharing your experience with this book. You raise so many important points about situations like this. Having also been raised in a small town, I know how much importance is placed on the sports teams and the culture of community adoration around it. That can be a powerful thing for good, like you mentioned, but it can also create a situation where very flawed human beings can do no wrong.
Thank you for speaking up so passionately about this topic, Josh!
Thank you, Tori. I was hesitant to post this video and glad it’s been received positively.
Great job on a very difficult topic. Sensitive, sensible and sober. An important book with an important message.
I appreciated the way you discussed this subject.
I can’t help thinking of Kavenaugh and how this is exactly the mindset he had in the 80s and was dismissed. It’s disgusting.
Agreed. Thanks for checking out the video!
Thanks for sharing this difficult topic. As a mother is something that always is running in my mind. When my oldest daughter reached her teenage and started to attend to parties we developed a secret word , I told her that "if you see something strange or feel uncomfortable call me and tell me the secret word". The Word per se is something light for example: Hi Mom Can i stay? THE PARTY IS AWESOME, so that way I know right away that something is wrong (i also told my son to use it). Not only for them but also if it involve somebody else. Thanks again for address the topic.
Tough, sobering, yet essential to talk about
Thank you very much for this important video, I think you speak very eloquently about this subject and I really appreciate this video.
Thank you and I’m glad it’s been well received.
This is an issue that the society and educational system have to take heed of. In Taiwan we accentuate sex education to raise awareness including molestation even in primary schools. You would be surprised to know how many cases teachers have to deal with of accusations. They all result in ignorance from the society where people don't understand the act committed by kids or youngsters can not be simply attributed to their emotional immaturity thus be easily forgiven. This will shape kids' understanding about respecting others when they grow up.
I teach in rural Texas now, and small towns destroy girls' lives.
There was an article about this in regards to girls in rural towns. I remember the focus wasn’t texas but it’s definitely a universal problem.
Thank you for this video, Josh. I appreciate your sensitive handling of a really difficult topic.
Watching this video and your comments about r*pe culture and how it's rarely looked at from the victim's viewpoint made me think about another book that tackles that topic. I don't know if you have heard about or read 'Know my Name' by Chanel Miller but it's apparently a beautifully written response from the Stanford Univ. SA victim. I have read her trial statement, but not the book just because the subject matter is too much for me, however from what I have heard from reviews and from friends and even my husband who read it, it's an incredible book that challenges the idea that just because someone has athletic talent, they are somehow morally exempt and shouldn't have to face the consequences of their actions like everyone else. It just seemed like worth bringing this book up as part of the conversation :)
PS - I have been avoiding Beartown myself because of the subject matter, but my husband says it's one of the best series he has read. Maybe someday I can handle it, I love Backman.
Thank you for your comment. Chanel Miller's book is on my radar, and I had intended to mention her incident in the video, but sometimes I forget to weave things into my reviews since I don't script anything. I have a friend continuing to try to convince me to give Beartown another try as well.
Thank you for speaking about this in such a forthright way, it's a difficult thing to speak about rationally as so often victims are blamed or objectified. I don't understand why that is, but i am so glad some of us see the perpetrators for what they are, manipulators, users, criminal's.
Thanks for this video Josh. I deeply appreciate your stance.
Similar issue happened in a town near me, but it wasn’t SA, it was hazing. And instead of splitting the community, the community turned on the family and boy who reported it to the police because it ruined the football season. Not the best priorities
Oh how horrible.
@@RedFuryBooks It even made national news. The story was on 48 Hours
A great video indeed! Congratulations!
Thank you for sharing.
Pss. There was also a doc on this. Can’t remember if it was on Netflix
Oops. You said that. :)
I ended up watching it on Amazon Prime. I feel the book is much stronger in tackling the topics.
@@RedFuryBooks the frustration with the doc, as I am certain is similar to the book is that you just get the feeling that little will change. That is pretty cynical I know, but as you know, what high school program has a stadium like that?! You know where the priority is.
@@therealbookaholic in regards to stadiums, you'd be surprised! I live in Texas now, and big expensive HS football stadiums are the norm down here. Some of them rival college stadiums!
I lived in that town and my daughter knew this girl.
Ps. I can’t believe that is where you were from. Insane. Lived there for 13 years.
Small world! What years did you live there?
@@RedFuryBooks we were there for 13 years. From like 2002-2015. I got my masters at the university there and taught for a few years there as well.
@@therealbookaholic we missed each other! I left Ohio in 1997.
Wow. Steubenville. That town is rough. Worse than Youngstown. I simply could not knowingly read about rape. If it comes up in fiction I skim. I fume just thinking about it. Frat parties and date rape drugs are still happening. People need to know.
Thanks for your review. Very respectful and timely👏👏👏🙋♀️