Parents- Want Your Child to Feel and Perform Like a WINNER?
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- Опубликовано: 12 июл 2012
- Parents often ask me what they can do to help their child perform better. I offer concrete advice to help your child learn the fastest and play their best. www.competitivedge.com
Dr. Alan Goldberg, internationally known peak performance consultant and director of Competitive Advantage specializes in helping athletes across all sports at every level, bust slumps and overcome performance fears and blocks. Dr. G's website, www.competitivedge.com offers thousands of pages of FREE resources including mental toughness questionnaires for athletes, parents and coaches, articles on every aspect of coaching and parenting in youth sports, as well as a mental toughness blog. 
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Really great video Alan. It’s very hard for parents to understand this. They are under the illusion of action (forcing, yelling, criticizing) when it’s not asked for or needed. They think the more they do/ force means the more they love. Well intentions ofcourse but not a great long term strategy.
Exactly! They forget what their MAIN role on the "team" is which is to NOT coach and be unconditionally loving and supportive to their kids in a way that has nothing to do with their child's performance!
Thanks Doc. I really needed this one!
so why do many successful athletes have parent's who personally coached them in every way. Tiger woods, Williams sisters, Payton and Eli Manning, Steph Curry, etc.
I understand the importance of the support role parent in the message. however, to be realistic, kids will rather take the easy way out because they have yet to understand the importance of daily practice (and when they do, it's usually as adolescent and by then it may be too late to reach proper progression).
I try to make practice (when not officially with the coach) a daily bonding exercise. eventually, he will learn to critique himself in technique and training when not with the coach.
but I do without a doubt defer to the coach in all situations and become the support during tournaments.
What if you are the parent and the coach?
When the player says 'I want to make varsity' or 'I want to get more club playing time' - yet they are under the impression that just going to the regularly scheduled training will achieve that goal for them. Doesn't the parent have a role in pushing / explaining that the level of commitment is not adequate to the goal?
Dan,
The parent shouldn't push. You should encourage and explain what it takes to become successful, but ultimately it is up to the young athlete to discover their own passion for the sport and then follow their dream with their own hard work.
Parents who try to push their kids, even when meaning well, inadvertently get themselves into hot water. They end up pressuring their kids too much and killing their child's enjoyment of the sport.
@@TheCompetitivedge thank you!
@@dansheehan8408 Any time Dan!
Here's my situation:
- My son is in a professional programme, and there I'm not his coach.
- He's also on a recreational team (he's not yet good enough to be exclusively in the pro programme), and I'm the head coach.
- The pro programme has cuts every 9 weeks. He loves the programme and I think his membership in it even forms part of his identity on some level, so I'm desparate for him not to be cut and thus tend to coach him for the programme quite a lot. At the same time, I'm worried that I'm putting too much pressure on him
Any advice?
Chris Veysey In my opinion, if your child really is going to be a great player he won't crumble under pressure. He will thrive on it.
I teach dance. My husband has coached football for years. No, it doesn't always come from the child particularly in today's technological world. Come on, most kids would rather be on their phones then practicing sports. Parents must push their is and force them these days. We did it whether they liked it or not and our boys for scholarships to Universities. I pushed my daughter in dance whether she liked it or not and today as a teen she's teaching dance and she's been invited by two Universities to study dance with them. So, I'm sorry but your opinion isn't going to get kids anywhere.
Force? Maybe to try something that they are afraid to do initially. This leads to resentment more cases than not and either quitting or hating the sport. Receiving scholarships doesn’t mean they are happy with what they are doing. They could have been just trying to make you happy if they were “forced”
Well the problem is this video assumes that your coach is great. What if you have a terrible bully all the kids are afraid of and he's the coach?! This video is incredibly one sided, it's clearly from a good coach's perspective. Fact is when you have a bad coach and you don't have the option of changing teams etc.. driving an hour away... you as the parent do need to be the parent and the good coach.