Some of the most successful people are those who were scapegoated at an early age and learned self-reliance, and then, self-love. Thanks for helping instill that second piece
I really needed this today cause on Sunday, my narcissistic mother said a lot of mean and abusive things to me. And it opened my eyes to realizing, I have to let her go and go no contact with her. And then I see this - which is exactly what I need. So thank you!
I am late and crying after doing this. Guess it's what I need after being blamed by my mom for her divorce and blamed for not being my husband's version of perfect and for everything else in between. I feel better and will do this one again until I don't cry anymore. Thanks for the release.
I had so much clearing with this tapping video, as many of us are at the receiving end of unfair blame!! I could never understand why it always seemed to happen that way for me when I was younger, other people blaming me for their bad behaviour!! Its a real light bulb moment when you understand what is really going on. I can recognise this scapegoat pattern very easily now and handling it in a much healthier way. I have a lot to clear out around this issue and will repeat this tapping until I no longer resonate with this energy. Thank you so much!!
Perfect! A while back I dreamed my sisters and I were "hanging on a hook" in cell of some kind. My dad was the jailer and my mom was the "matron." There was more to the story but "doing the time when I didn't do the crime" resonates deeply. Thank you for this!
Thank you so much for this video! I had suggested this topic of scapegoat and was so surprised to see it today! I loved this part "I may have been the scapegoat, but now I am escaping". You always have such interesting wordplay that really helps the mind grasp the point. Great work 👍
Experiencing and moving through so much anger and rage today with this, the role of scapegoat, the role of rescuer in my family 😠 I chose against this role recently during an emergency with Mum, and it’s terrifying me. But I can’t do it anymore, I won’t do it anymore. And I don’t know what that looks like 😭
I had to do the same thing with my Narc parent. I took the advice of the therapist to go no contact. I offered to help in ways that did not involve direct contact with him but the offers were rejected by the siblings who now accuse me of abandoning them to take care of him. The truth is I was alway the caretaker of all of them from childhood on. Not once could I ever count on any of them to offer care to me. I did not owe any of them anything and even when I still tried I was still accused of things I did not do and blamed for things that were not my doing. I am free now but I have had to process a lot of grief and anxiousness to get to the place of peace. It was never my job to be the emotional punching bag of my family.
I've been watching your videos for awhile and just wanted to say thank you for all that you do Brad! Your tapping videos have helped me so much. Just watching your videos gives me such a sense of comfort. It makes me happy to know there's people like you out there that are dedicated to helping others heal and love themselves. 💕
Thank you so much for this timely tapping. I have always felt guilty and the accused, and as though I ought to know why I am doing time for allegedly committing crimes and being the accused. This tapping was very moving. I shall rinse and repeat so that I can escape from being the scapegoat.
Thankyou so much for this today, i was blamed today again and again, and with God's grace I refused to be targeted. I have been doing tapping and hoopono pono, Tara Ma chanting. After doing this tapping I feel so relieved, as this was meant for me, thanks again.
Hi! Your post is really inspiring, I was wondering if you would be willing to share what you've potentially seen change over the months since incorporating tapping and ho o Pono Pono , etc. thanks!
You read my mind :) Thank you dear Brad, thank you. Excellent. Freeing. Especially knowing this causes 'limiting action and taking risk for fear of being blamed'. Letting that go now!
Thank you for tapping on this theme - perfect for me! I found it powerful and healing. It's a comfort to know I can return to it as often as I need. Also, the comments by others are a big help to me. There's something so lonely about being scapegoated - I mean the whole deal is geared to make the targetted person feel like the only super weirdo in the universe. So the friendliness and wisdom of this whole community feels like a treasure to me.
Amazing! This afternoon I have tapped along your video "Lighten the Load". A very important one to me. Now this excellent newest one "Are You the Scapegoat...? points to the same direction, I feel. Both are about self-responsibility and other's responsibility. Perfect timing. Yes, I'll try to give back what doesn't belong to me, if possible in a gentle way. Deep gratefulness for your so loving and compassionate being, dear Brad. 🌹🌻🌺
Hi! And thank you Brad! This is the first time I ever heard anyone describe what has come up in my healing sessions a million times over. Punished for others misdeeds Anyone knowing my experiences would say and you are still here? I thank all who have led me on my path, knowing deep down I am not my experiences as Louise hay would say and the lessons in life. I can say how can I love more? , the more I forgive the more I love, myself included. My deepest hardest times now losing my husband to cancer 2019 losing everything we owned and still trying to find my way to support myself at age 58 many blessings to you and all who are experiencing difficult situations may everyone experience comfort. ❤️
Im the scapegoat of my family and i have had deep resentment and hate for them wantin help then blamin me.. i think its about time to let that story go I cried so much thank u for this tappin
Hi Brad! Thank you so much for your ongoing commitment to this work! Definitely has changed my life tremendously! To some degree I can track my progress based on which of your videos I’m needing and drawn to at any given time. Do you have, or would you consider making, a video about being more playful and light hearted? After “doing the work” day after day for so many years, I really want to awaken my playful goofy side and am guessing one of your videos would really really help! In any case, THANK YOU!!!
How do you even find all this things to tap to heal? I didnt even realize I needed this until I saw the video and almost started crying because that has been a huge issue and I never realized it until I read that sentence. Thank you once again.
Sending you love, Brad. I don't need this video right now (I need many others!) but I just want to say hi and that I see your heart and your vulnerability and your commitment to your own growth and peace, as well as your commitment to helping us grow and find peace 💞 That's incredible, thank you.
holy !!! I never consciously knew that I am holding these thoughts of Scapegoat!!. My memory took me to my workplace where I had joined and within 5 days, they made me responsible for a stuff that happened 7 years back. When I confronted, I was told you take responsibility as leader of past actions too !! Very frustrating it was during those days when I was grappling with new role and such unethically Scapegoat. ahhh !!! Will tap few more round
What do you think of the havening technique? It has become the second psycho-sensory healing therapy after tapping. Or maybe the third if you include mesmerism. Anyway I think we are returning to a time when hypnosis had a physical component. More tools for our tool box.
Gosh, why are victims of narcissistic abuse always told to love their abusers? Victims of sexual abuse aren’t told to love and forgive the person who sexually molested them as children? Studies show that emotional abuse has more severe long term consequences than sexual or physical abuse. One of the reasons is because we never get closure. We are always told to forgive. Even in EFT tapping video. It’s so important that victims of abuse get to decide when and if to forgive. Many have to leave their parents forever and it’s very tragic and painful. But it’s the only way to regain sanity and be safe. That’s the harsh reality of narcissistic/sadistic ongoing abuse. (Narc parents btw. show no empathy towards their children in brain scans. Let that sink).
I'm sorry if you felt I was saying anyone needed to forgive anyone else. I think it's great when someone can get there, because that is a powerful level of closure, so I hope I can facilitate that, but I don't believe it's a "should."
That’s interesting that Narc parents show no empathy towards their children in brain scans. The therapist I am working on childhood trauma with says my parent was narcissistic. I was his main scapegoat and this behavior was modeled for my siblings who have been scapegoating me for years but it has gotten worse since his passing.
I feel like you're our RUclips dad - speaking truth in the way we need it most. Thank you 🙏
Some of the most successful people are those who were scapegoated at an early age and learned self-reliance, and then, self-love. Thanks for helping instill that second piece
I really needed this today cause on Sunday, my narcissistic mother said a lot of mean and abusive things to me.
And it opened my eyes to realizing, I have to let her go and go no contact with her.
And then I see this - which is exactly what I need. So thank you!
Its taken me many months of healing to arrive at this knowledge. Thanks for this and I feel much relief already.
Thank you Brad 🙏
I am late and crying after doing this. Guess it's what I need after being blamed by my mom for her divorce and blamed for not being my husband's version of perfect and for everything else in between. I feel better and will do this one again until I don't cry anymore. Thanks for the release.
Oh my god…..I’m still carrying so much blame, shame, anger, grief ….. and a role that’s not mine 😢
I had so much clearing with this tapping video, as many of us are at the receiving end of unfair blame!! I could never understand why it always seemed to happen that way for me when I was younger, other people blaming me for their bad behaviour!! Its a real light bulb moment when you understand what is really going on. I can recognise this scapegoat pattern very easily now and handling it in a much healthier way. I have a lot to clear out around this issue and will repeat this tapping until I no longer resonate with this energy. Thank you so much!!
Perfect! A while back I dreamed my sisters and I were "hanging on a hook" in cell of some kind. My dad was the jailer and my mom was the "matron." There was more to the story but "doing the time when I didn't do the crime" resonates deeply. Thank you for this!
Thanķs🙏
Thank you so much for this video! I had suggested this topic of scapegoat and was so surprised to see it today! I loved this part "I may have been the scapegoat, but now I am escaping". You always have such interesting wordplay that really helps the mind grasp the point. Great work 👍
How did you know I needed this at this very time. Thank You Brad.
Experiencing and moving through so much anger and rage today with this, the role of scapegoat, the role of rescuer in my family 😠 I chose against this role recently during an emergency with Mum, and it’s terrifying me. But I can’t do it anymore, I won’t do it anymore. And I don’t know what that looks like 😭
I had to do the same thing with my Narc parent. I took the advice of the therapist to go no contact. I offered to help in ways that did not involve direct contact with him but the offers were rejected by the siblings who now accuse me of abandoning them to take care of him. The truth is I was alway the caretaker of all of them from childhood on. Not once could I ever count on any of them to offer care to me. I did not owe any of them anything and even when I still tried I was still accused of things I did not do and blamed for things that were not my doing. I am free now but I have had to process a lot of grief and anxiousness to get to the place of peace. It was never my job to be the emotional punching bag of my family.
Exactly what I needed ... Thank you. It was one of the leftover topics I had on my Tapping "to do" list. ♥️🇨🇦
Thank you, Brad!
Oh. My. Gosh. This is a thing? I thought it was just my particular mother, blaming me in particular. Thank you Brad
I've been watching your videos for awhile and just wanted to say thank you for all that you do Brad! Your tapping videos have helped me so much. Just watching your videos gives me such a sense of comfort. It makes me happy to know there's people like you out there that are dedicated to helping others heal and love themselves. 💕
Thanks for creating the resource to get in there and get it gone! Once we escape, then we get to be the G.o.a.t. Greatest of all time.
Thank you so much for this timely tapping. I have always felt guilty and the accused, and as though I ought to know why I am doing time for allegedly committing crimes and being the accused. This tapping was very moving. I shall rinse and repeat so that I can escape from being the scapegoat.
This came in the nick of time. It’s powerful! Thank you
Thankyou so much for this today, i was blamed today again and again, and with God's grace I refused to be targeted. I have been doing tapping and hoopono pono, Tara Ma chanting. After doing this tapping I feel so relieved, as this was meant for me, thanks again.
Hi! Your post is really inspiring, I was wondering if you would be willing to share what you've potentially seen change over the months since incorporating tapping and ho o Pono Pono , etc. thanks!
You read my mind :) Thank you dear Brad, thank you. Excellent. Freeing. Especially knowing this causes 'limiting action and taking risk for fear of being blamed'. Letting that go now!
❤Thank you ,Brad. Maria ,from Brazil(Maria Beatriz)🇧🇷
Thank you, I have tears of joy after the tapping. 🌺
Thank you for tapping on this theme - perfect for me! I found it powerful and healing. It's a comfort to know I can return to it as often as I need. Also, the comments by others are a big help to me. There's something so lonely about being scapegoated - I mean the whole deal is geared to make the targetted person feel like the only super weirdo in the universe. So the friendliness and wisdom of this whole community feels like a treasure to me.
such a great day for this tapping session, it helped to relieve a block i was having with myself. thank you.
Much appreciated! Right on time for me. Thank you for what you do.
Amazing! This afternoon I have tapped along your video "Lighten the Load". A very important one to me. Now this excellent newest one "Are You the Scapegoat...? points to the same direction, I feel. Both are about self-responsibility and other's responsibility. Perfect timing. Yes, I'll try to give back what doesn't belong to me, if possible in a gentle way. Deep gratefulness for your so loving and compassionate being, dear Brad. 🌹🌻🌺
Hi! And thank you Brad! This is the first time I ever heard anyone describe what has come up in my healing sessions a million times over. Punished for others misdeeds Anyone knowing my experiences would say and you are still here? I thank all who have led me on my path, knowing deep down I am not my experiences as Louise hay would say and the lessons in life. I can say how can I love more? , the more I forgive the more I love, myself included. My deepest hardest times now losing my husband to cancer 2019 losing everything we owned and still trying to find my way to support myself at age 58 many blessings to you and all who are experiencing difficult situations may everyone experience comfort. ❤️
Sending you tons of positive energy, Sharon. :)
@@tapwithbrad 💕 thank you so much
Need this so bad! Thank you Brad. ❤️
Im the scapegoat of my family and i have had deep resentment and hate for them wantin help then blamin me.. i think its about time to let that story go
I cried so much thank u for this tappin
thank you brad. this one was emotional
Thank you so much for this ❤
Hi Brad! Thank you so much for your ongoing commitment to this work! Definitely has changed my life tremendously! To some degree I can track my progress based on which of your videos I’m needing and drawn to at any given time. Do you have, or would you consider making, a video about being more playful and light hearted? After “doing the work” day after day for so many years, I really want to awaken my playful goofy side and am guessing one of your videos would really really help! In any case, THANK YOU!!!
Like this...? ruclips.net/video/8POhQpPV7F0/видео.html
Thank you ✨🙏 ✨
How do you even find all this things to tap to heal? I didnt even realize I needed this until I saw the video and almost started crying because that has been a huge issue and I never realized it until I read that sentence.
Thank you once again.
Sending you love, Brad. I don't need this video right now (I need many others!) but I just want to say hi and that I see your heart and your vulnerability and your commitment to your own growth and peace, as well as your commitment to helping us grow and find peace 💞 That's incredible, thank you.
Thanks so much Brad! I hope you're good ❤️
perfectly timed as always - thank you for sharing this xx
Lovely one Brad, big hug to you 💜 By the way, I like your new office set up, especially the inviting, comfy guided imagery couch 😉
holy !!! I never consciously knew that I am holding these thoughts of Scapegoat!!. My memory took me to my workplace where I had joined and within 5 days, they made me responsible for a stuff that happened 7 years back. When I confronted, I was told you take responsibility as leader of past actions too !! Very frustrating it was during those days when I was grappling with new role and such unethically Scapegoat. ahhh !!! Will tap few more round
Thank you so much.
Thank you friend. I had not seen this one before. It's another good one. I've been doing several per day for awhile now. It's really helping me!
Wow. I just looked like this, and there it was in my inbox. Perfect.
Thank you Brad.. spot on ❤️
Thank you ❤
I can’t do it anymore. The more I change, the more my Mum and I disagree and argue, the more she blames me for our arguments 😭 😭💔
This is so typical of dysfunctional family towards their allocated scapegoat
Genius 💫💛🌻
Thankyou 😊🙏
That hit deep for me
I’m trying to get out of scapegoat mode.
What do you think of the havening technique? It has become the second psycho-sensory healing therapy after tapping. Or maybe the third if you include mesmerism. Anyway I think we are returning to a time when hypnosis had a physical component. More tools for our tool box.
Brad, would you consider doing a tapping round on codependency?
I have a number of videos along those lines, like this one: ruclips.net/video/AP5BJ-83Usg/видео.html
@@tapwithbrad Thank you so much!
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Gosh, why are victims of narcissistic abuse always told to love their abusers? Victims of sexual abuse aren’t told to love and forgive the person who sexually molested them as children? Studies show that emotional abuse has more severe long term consequences than sexual or physical abuse. One of the reasons is because we never get closure. We are always told to forgive. Even in EFT tapping video. It’s so important that victims of abuse get to decide when and if to forgive. Many have to leave their parents forever and it’s very tragic and painful. But it’s the only way to regain sanity and be safe. That’s the harsh reality of narcissistic/sadistic ongoing abuse. (Narc parents btw. show no empathy towards their children in brain scans. Let that sink).
I'm sorry if you felt I was saying anyone needed to forgive anyone else. I think it's great when someone can get there, because that is a powerful level of closure, so I hope I can facilitate that, but I don't believe it's a "should."
That’s interesting that Narc parents show no empathy towards their children in brain scans. The therapist I am working on childhood trauma with says my parent was narcissistic. I was his main scapegoat and this behavior was modeled for my siblings who have been scapegoating me for years but it has gotten worse since his passing.
@@tapwithbrad thank you very much for these videos and especially this one.
Thank you!