isolation sucks
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- Опубликовано: 11 окт 2024
- Hi! I’m Savannah, a 25 year old human being who is just doing the best she can. I hope this video reaches whoever it needs to reach whenever it needs to reach them. Hopefully I can be a mirror for you out there in the world, and a reminder that no life is perfect. We are all human and a part of being human is feeling negative emotions and having unpleasant experiences. I think it’s what you do as a result of those experiences that matters most. So, I am sharing with you my experience of isolation and the detrimental effects it has on the psyche.
Takeaways: We need an “other” to fully know ourselves. We cannot fully ourselves without having us reflected back to us from the outside world.
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Where to start? I just found your video on my feed. I have found a few like this recently. All of them have arrived at the right moment for me. The phrase “silence is deafening” is so very real for me. The rawness of depression and anxiety shaking my body uncontrollably. Its like a waking nightmare.
Being a human is hard. Being in a world that makes no sense is hard.
On behalf of the tens of millions that feel just like you, Thank you for having the courage to make this video. I sincerely wish you many more breaths to come.
Sometimes that’s all we can do is just breathe.
From someone who struggles with crippling anxiety and is extremely avoidant, the last part of the vid helped alot. I have no friends, never been in a relationship, and i am in my mid 20's, the only thing that keeps me grounded is my family. I hope things get better for you.
Hi Savannah, I'm writing my comment partway through your video but it connected with me. I've had a habit of avoiding discomfort which has led to spending a lot of time alone in my apartment. I had a bit of a breakthrough in why I do this, I'm hoping it's just a matter of putting in the work for changing habits. Learning the why is relieving though, since it makes me feel like I'm responding to a situation rather than there being something wrong with you. I hope you heal well because knowing yourself makes it easier to forgive yourself where you stumble and give yourself credit for hanging in there, even if it doesn't feel like much in the moment.
Isolation sucks, everyday is another scoop out the bottom of the pit leading further down. My anxiety led me to not even having the capability to have a conversation, just always thinking about what the other person was thinking. After awhile I just gave up, on caring. I realized that, was the first thing I Could Do. But that only came after I had accomplished some things and felt that I was worthy of that demeanor. Accomplish things that make you feel worthy, and the anxiety, turns into a cloud and blows away.
I sincerely wish the best of luck to you. Stay strong. You WILL make it through, and get better if you keep pushing forward, regardless of how hard it might get.
I recognize the social anxiety/depression problem so much lol, spent large parts of my 20s isolated because of it. You’re so correct about relationships too.
I think part of it is that people are so hooked on freedom as the ideal. A relationship is a type of bond and I think some people view every type of bond as a chain tying them down because being connected does restrict freedom in a way, and relationships can be very painful too. In reality though, relationships aren’t chains but roots. It’s a bond but it also gives nurishment and without them, both plants and people die.
I’m sorry about your situation and nothing I write will help much but I just wanted to let you know I connected a lot with what you spoke about. Subscribed!
Yes! There is a big fixation on hyperindependence and going through everything alone. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for the support!
I have built walls -- a fortress, deep and mighty, that none may penetrate. I have no need of friendship, friendship causes pain; it's laughter and loving I disdain. I am a rock, I am an island.
I’m sorry you feel this way my friend. I think maybe it’s no so much that friendship in general causes pain, but definitely having the wrong people as friends causes pain. I don’t believe friendship in itself is the source. Sounds like maybe you have had experiences with people who aren’t the right match for you. And, honestly any relationship you have has the potential to cause pain, no matter how perfect it is. That was the whole point of me sharing this video, relationships of any kind require vulnerability and with vulnerability comes potential for you to be hurt. It’s an inevitable part of being human and relating with others. It’s sounds like you have been deeply hurt and for that I am sorry, but I hope that one day you can open your heart back up to people.
There’s an old saying that goes…”no man is an island”, and it basically means none of us can, are or meant to exist without interacting with others. That’s what I like about RUclips, even though it’s not as organic as it used to be, it can still serve as a means to connect people to each other. And even if it isn’t “real life”, it is still real in terms of energy exchange. Especially while you’re still a smaller creator, you can build a lil community of people that are interested in what you have to say! Might even make a pal or two. In any case, life ebbs and flows…some days will be good, and some not, but you can get where you’re going.
One foot in front of the other.
My problems arent a problem if Im alone
But then being alone is a problem
Thank you so much for this video.
I just wanna say, first of all things do get better. Things seem hopeless and like you’ll never get out but as long as you make small changes, eventually you’ll look back and you’ll be on a completely different path. My first piece of advice would be to start small. If going outside scares you, maybe you could try sitting outside for a while. 20 minutes. Anything to get your brain to recognize that there is no immediate danger. Logically you know you are safe. Your Nervous System does not. It only wants to protect you. But to retrain it you must do what you fear. That’s unfortunately the only way to teach it that things aren’t so scary. Another thing I will say as someone who has dealt with isolation is that you have to celebrate the small victories. Rumination is the enemy of progress. Exposure therapy really does work. Progress may be slow, but just know that as long as you are trying, you are progressing. Stagnation is defeat. I know you will make it through this. The world is not as cruel as your brain tells you it is. Stay strong ❤
Wow. Thanks for sharing all of that! I’ve actually been working on the agoraphobia for a while and am able to go to town and stuff. I also sit outside almost everyday! Recently, I took my first long trip (5 hours) with my family that I’ve taken in 7 years. So, I’m actually doing well on that part. Now it’s just more of the social aspect and allowing others into my life, which will need the same approach that you’re talking about-exposure. It’s just very hard, but I know I’ll get there. Thanks again for your comment. That was a lot to type out lol and I appreciate it very much. 🤍
Hi Savannah, you hit the nail right on its head. I have had a period where I was around other people, but just doing my own thing for the most part. I spent so many evenings alone in my room. What you said about us needing a mirror is so very true especially when you feel like you don't know yourself (anymore). The barrier to seek out connection can be high, but like you said, everyone needs a tribe. Luckily, I think I finally found mine.
People need to hear this more often, so if you feel complied to, please continue doing this! My hope is that you find what you seek.
^Daan
Thank you so much for sharing and for the encouragement! 🤍
Its a volatile situation. We feel better some days but it never heals.
I’m 50. I have some of the same symptoms. You need to make sure your vitamin D levels are in the normal range. Look at allergies and anything that may be causing inflammation. Exercise is helpful. Antidepressants like Prozac and Lithium are powerful anti inflammatory drugs. The food we eat can also have a major effect. Psychology and Biology go hand in hand.
Thank you for posting this video. It really spoke to me
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I have the same .. try to get a pet to start with. I am isolated, too. You speak very wisely ... you just need company and I think this will help
Thank you for the suggestion! I was actually thinking the same thing about needing a pet. I’m currently looking at bunnies or maybe a dog.
I wish I was your neighbor, we could go on walks. I am isolated too, most after effect from abuse, and being autistic on top doesn't help. Sending hugs from Ohio
Thanks Savannah for your vulnerability.
Hey Savannah, I'm not sure how I got to this video, but I watched the whole thing. I feel for what you are saying. We definitely need people. I'm with you. If you want to exchange emails, we can. Wishing you well.
Thank you for your comment and offering your email. I am feeling much better now as I’ve taken some action steps to help myself. Wishing you all the best as well. 🤍
@@savannahmasters That's great to hear.
Isolation is ruining your mental health
Yes, this is kind of obvious lol. 😂
@@savannahmasters there is a right way or a wrong way. Isolation can be a religious/monastic way to divine whats within you, but you need tools of self awareness and a true desire, however tiny, to grow and change away from it as habit or cope.
Sometimes being alone is safer than anything. It is an open path one can get lost in is all. Walk to the light, or crawl if you have to.
Why is the quality so fucking bad? Does someone know how to make the quality better on iPhone?
What iphone do you have?
@sizzledrizzle I have an iPhone 11. I don’t know if the quality looks bad to others or not, but it looks bad on my end when I watch it back. However, I also watched a video today that I know is good quality and filmed with studio cameras and the quality was the same. So, it might just be my settings on my phone or my internet connection.🤷🏻♀️
@@savannahmasters maybe but I would mess around with the settings more and try different lenses if possible. I followed you on IG btw
Looks perfectly normal and fine to me?? ❤❤ Your cuter
@@savannahmasters Hey! The quality of your camera is actually great! It is the lighting that is making it look bad. Buy a ring lamp to place in front of you while recording or try facing the natural light source to remove the shadows on you. It will make a night and day difference.
Thank you for sharing this btw! It is good to find space to be alone and introspect, but we are such social creatures; never isolate for extended periods of time. My mental health has taken the piss this year too after a bad breakup. Depression/anxiety just builds upon the seemingly impossible task of breaking the isolation, like a spiral almost. Sending lots of love your way; we got this!
I’m not going diagnose you nor give you advice. You selflessly give viewers a cautionary story to not repeat your steps but yet you can fully identify you’re predicament with clarity.You may feel as though you are in a abyss but you do have self reflection(that’s huge),age & a natural beauty going for you. I will only add that solitary confinement is used in the correctional system for a reason,you’ve committed no crime so I hope you find the happiness you deserve & thank you for sharing