4 AWFUL Habits That Make People Disrespect You | Stoic PHILOSOPHY
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*Title: 4 Awful Habits That Make People Disrespect You (And How to Stop Them)*
Hey everyone! In this video, we dive into four toxic habits that can lead to losing respect from those around you, and how you can overcome them using principles from Stoicism. By addressing these behaviors, we can foster better relationships and live a more dignified life.
🔹 *Habit 1: Gossiping*
Discover why gossiping erodes trust and how to shift to more uplifting conversations.
🔹 *Habit 2: Being Unreliable*
Learn the importance of keeping your commitments and how being reliable can transform your relationships.
🔹 *Habit 3: Interrupting Others*
Understand the impact of constantly interrupting and the power of active listening.
🔹 *Habit 4: Complaining*
Find out how constant complaining drains positivity and how focusing on solutions can make a huge difference.
I share some personal stories and hard-learned lessons to highlight the real-life consequences of these habits. By applying Stoic wisdom, we can all work towards being better individuals who earn respect naturally.
If you found this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up, subscribe to the channel, and share it with someone who might need to hear this. Let’s strive to live better, more respectful lives together!
*Chapters:*
0:00 - Introduction
1:28 - Habit 1: Gossiping
4:30 - Habit 2: Being Unreliable
7:50 - Habit 3: Interrupting Others
11:10 - Habit 4: Complaining
14:30 - Conclusion
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1. Gossiping
2. Being unreliable
3. Interrupting others
4. Complaining constantly
This sounds like some of the neighbors 😅😅😅😢
MSM is a gossip-generating machine to say the very least.
Unreliable
Interrupts
Constantly complaining
We are what we consume
I also think “whining” is included in complaining. Lol. I def know some perpetual whiners.
Love it when ppl do this with lists like this, THANK YOU!!!
Being negative
I totally hate when someone says they will do something then never do
Talking over you.
I refuse to listen to gossip. I dont care if u get shocked. I literally say “I cant listen to gossip”
When somebody insult you or put you down once you never forget those phrases, and the disrespect is starting in that relationship and the fun together is slowly over.
At 64 yo, I’ve had to kick people out of my life; primarily due to all of these; and not on my part. When one person is the only person practicing self-awareness in the group, it’s time to evaluate the group one is part of. I have, and now I’m alone most of the time. My solitude and peace of mind is way more important than trying to belong where I don’t fit in. 🙏🏼
❤..yes
👍necessary
Your courage to prioritize your own well-being and peace of mind is truly admirable. It's a testament to your strength and self-awareness. How has embracing solitude enriched your life and allowed you to reconnect with yourself on a deeper level?
Yep. I learned this long ago. Work on you and don't worry about the 'friends' network.
There’s an old Italian saying. “It’s better to be alone, than in bad company”
And I’m not referring to the rock band 😂
I wish I found Stoicism 20 years ago, The fewer people in your life the happier you will be. Gossip is def the worst, especially family members who do it to each other.
Having been the topic of my family's for the past 5yrs, I totally agree with your take on it. It appears to have drawn some closer to each other, as they've become friends over sharing a scapegoat. Painful and cruel but there it is.
Agreed.
I don't think stoicism is about having few people in your life, but rather the right people. It's not about solitude, It's about being surrounded with the right people.
A fifth bad habit: only using others, only take don't give
This one is so important because I was going out with somebody who I had a lot of respect for. He begged me to move in, and after I moved in, he wanted me to be his housekeeper and pay some of the bills. He said he will do the yardwork, but then forced me to do the yardwork. I moved out and away sometime. Still talk to him I have zero respect for him. He always want want want.
"unreliable"
Most people are TAKERS. They take take and take and expect you to give and give and give till there is nothing left to give, then dump you!
...Not specific enough.
A friend in need is a friend indeed.
The one thing that nobody will forgive you for is embarrassing them !! It is # 1 !!
Actually, lightly embarrassing someone can be a form of flirting. If you ask someone their favorite movie, and then go off with a hilarious response, like "OMG, really, you're one of those????", it can put them in a position of wanting to defend their choice - in other words, they now WANT your further attention so they can win you over. THAT's flirting....
@@nobodyknows3180 Maybe in private but public ally embarrassing someone will end the relationship.
I'm working hard on interrupting.
One thing I can’t stand is me busy interrupting when somebody is speaking!!
Worse than all those is lying
This is my number 1 most hated thing.
He speaks the truth.... I can identify. A mentally ill AA member was constantly mocked outside of the meetings ... Once I joined in it... I realized I had done something out of my usual character and when he stopped coming to meetings ... It's something I'll ALWAYS regret, I don't need or want to fit in anymore... Keeping integrity is priceless and will never join in to fit in!!
missed alot of opportunities in places I worked, ,had the gossip crowd, bosses kiss ass buddies, list goes on .be nice and keep work ,work,then go home..works out better for me .
One more habit: A CRITICAL SPIRIT about everyone
Very bad habit!
I bow out gracefully!!
🙏😊
@@annettemiranda4803Overcoming a critical spirit requires love and faith in the Creator of love, from one's pure heart and clean hands.
I wish I could say that “isn’t me” lol. 😂
Yep Just like Here!
I had a college roommate who was a terrible gossip. We confronted her & told her we didn't want to hear it, how ugly it was. She finally did it by making up a huge lie and spreading it and we got her kicked out of the dorm .
Remember this “ do unto others, as you would have done onto you “.
That’s why I have no friends only acquaintances.there are few people you can call friend.
Things matter more, than people do to most.
5:25
"Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Anything beyond this is from the evil one."
Matthew 5:37
Why do they not accept it the first time. They make you defend your position and then are more offended. Lot of evil going on problem is liars and manipulators don’t think it’s evil. But the word speaks volumes about these. To deny my answer is to disrespect me while demanding respect your not due.
I’m learning to say little but even when I do it still bothers them. Why can’t they learn to let you be , just because you don’t want to be in there group doesn’t mean you told them not to have their group. It’s not my fault they lack character or integrity. We all make our choices and they have consequences, I’m well aware mine set me apart from the group. It’s a personal decision not meant to offend anyone, but yet it infuriates them……..
I once dated a woman who had a dog named Buck. This woman was always telling Buck what to do and how to do it. When I finally ended our relationship, she couldn’t understand why I was doing so. I told her that she needed a man like Buck and that I wasn’t Buck
Thank you for sharing your experience, Luckystoic. It sounds like you had an interesting dynamic with your ex-partner. What lessons did you learn from this relationship that you carry with you today?
I😂lmao
Tried to treat you like that dog.. 😮😢😂
Hope you gave her the Dwight Eisenhower quote on your way out the goor, “The buck stops here”
@@mtp4430 😅😅
I had a friend who constantly talked about his friends in a negative way and one of those friends said he was saying the same things about me! I can no longer confide with this person for fear of him telling others. I no longer consider him a friend after so many years, our friendship has run its course, it's over.
once heard someone say "does NOT matter how GOOD you are at work, IF you RARELY show up"
I avoid people. I don’t really care about people anymore especially the way the world is today.
Seems to be necessity today.
Exactly!
I am currently reading Mark Manson's book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k" - and it teaches how to let go of all the little inconsequential things that we waste energy giving a f**k about. You can still be a deeply caring person when it comes to others, but this book teaches you the difference between good investments of your time and others. By the way, in case you might be interested, Mark Manson does have a channel right here on You Tube.
1. breathing
2. having your own opinion
3. being nice
4. being around people
Being a woman
😂😂😂😂
Breathing, having your own opinion but listen to others as well, being respectful, not nice, being only around people who deserve it.
@@henry6525 what are you saying here.
@@grawakendream8980think.
Gossip is something that we all need to avoid.....Some very positive comments in this article ....
Definitely, Gossiping is the baddest defect we all need to overcome. It seems harmless at first, but the thing is that affects someone else's reputation. Even if our intentions are not evil, the ones who hear our comments on someone, may perceive such a person as ridiculous, weird, bizarre, or whatsoever. That person's reputation would be scratched already.
I have been guilty of many of these things. And I gave up a friend who was always complaining to me. I just got fedup of listening to her complaints.
Very enlightening 😉
Thank you for sharing your experience, user-yx6jm5pn4n. It sounds like you've made a difficult but necessary decision for your own well-being. How do you maintain boundaries in your relationships to ensure they remain healthy and supportive for both parties?
@@KingStoic101 oh , I find that very challenging. To maintain boundaries with people close to me, and yet continue to grow the relationship , it's very challenging indeed. I have no easy answer. It's easier to just give up on a friendship .
I feel you, I just gave up a friend who wants to talk only about herself.
@@missp5050 insightful decision. I guess such a friend has zero interest in you, it's all about herself only.
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An old Jewish saying;
Better an empty house
than a bad tenant.
These four habits are what I will be looking for when avoiding toxic people.
Has it ever occurred to you, the label ‘toxic’ is the elite’s method of censorship and control?
Better still, try to avoid in yourself
If you have a problem with someone or they did something you were not happy with go to the person alone and then discuss a solution dont confront them in front of everyone or go behind there backs and mention it to other people if the person. Finds out it would cause much hurt and anger always show love to others its. Very importantn to your. Well being and heals many wounds ❤❤❤
Sounds like you've read the gospel of Matthew, starting in Chspter 18, verse 15.
instruction on the duty to forgive offenses and forgive in love if an offender seeks to save.
Yes, but we stick to our negative experiences with someone sooner than with the positive. That’s why these advices are important.
Start listening to some people though and they'll go on forever
…and stop being around people. I’ve never had more peace since I stopped this nasty habit. No more being around people. 🙏🏼
I get tired of small talk and surface level conversations
Some good people who have been misunderstood will adjust by giving more detail with the hope of being understood correctly. Sometimes being understood doesn’t matter but other events are very important to have your friends and/or close neighbors understand. People can have long periods of stress-free encounters at work, with neighbors and family THEN SUDDENLY things go to crap. They should be allowed to talk about what happened. It reduces the gossip temptation of filling in the blanks with what you imagine.
So many times when I've said hello to someone I don't even know, they immediately launch into giving me their whole life story without pausing once 😞
Or some will starting whinging about everything.
About complainers.....
I don't mind listening to some troubled soul once in a while. I listen patiently and express my sympathy. BUT...
I don't want to hear that person ONLY talk about THEIR troubles and neglect to be interested in me once in a while.
I have neighbors who ONLY complain. To myself I call them
"The Head Up Their Butts People". I have quit interacting with them. I'm much more peaceful now.Happier.
Amen.
@@user-tr7yg7zo3j
......and so it is. 😊
I’m the same I don’t mind listening to others problems and situations and I have expressed sympathy and concern. bUT I feel the exact same way as you when it’s all about complaining and not listening or looking for and creating solutions it’s like a Merry go round. I won’t to be either people who show some interest in me and offer a listening ear . I have experienced the negative effects of gossip and seen it frequently in my personal and professional life. You or your loved one’s information can be shared and violate HIPPA guidelines and be an incident that occurred a long time ago and because of gossip it’s kept front and center when it should really be in the past and rear view mirror. other issue in gossip is often the person or their loved ones are talked about behind your back then it’s all exposed in a public forum with the intention to shame and humiliate.
@@donnaramer8644
👌 ✌
We nurses cannot stand the Wendy whiners or Wally whiners.We know if you are really in pain or are just using melodrama to get attention.We don't have time for that BS.
A real simple phrase that I say everyday to remind myself is, "say what you mean and mean what you say."
My father told me that ever since I was a young child and I live by it. He lived by it and he was a man with the most Integrity that I have ever known.
I’m so glad I clicked on this. I’m always looking for ways to improve myself, and will definitely be more cognizant of any habits like this that I can I can improve upon. Thank-you.
Lucky you. I have more of a feeling I am only beginning working on this…
Very common yet extremely true and helpful. Not to gossip, be unreliable, interrupting is being dismissive and last but not the least complaining and not look for solutions.
It helped me stop cancelling when my friends expressed disappointment, there have been many who hadn’t nor had they invited me in the second place. It helps when someone shows you that you mean something to them. It does matter. Your presence in Their life matters.
Complaining is a worthless substitute for action.
Thank you for sharing your perspective, Goldfinder4498. It's a profound insight. How do you personally differentiate between productive action and unproductive complaining in your own life?
@@KingStoic101 wisdom is justified in all of her children.
Your insight into the futility of complaints is both profound and empowering. It reflects a proactive mindset geared towards progress. How do you channel this philosophy into meaningful action in your own life?
Gossiping started in the garden of Eden.
Great advice & golden tools to make you a better person, I will try harder here on inn harder.
Thanks a lot for reminders
No one can really claim to be perfect but sometimes merely refusing to be part of plot, and asking for a release, HONESTY and INTEGRITY greatly causes rejection but honestly I would really appreciate called out to be truthful, loose a job, or be friendless than to compromise the truth.😢😢
I agree with most of this, but not necessarily complaining. The world is full of lazy people who do not do their jobs. If you don’t complain about people like that, you end up worse off, and so does everyone else. Complaining is fine, if it’s justified.
Difference between complaints and moaning to no purpose. One is not apathetic
SUPERB ! These are the most important lessons one has to learn in life ! Thank you so much !
Your honesty is great! Glad for you that you have turned your life around.
Number 3 was the first that came to mind for me. Something I'm working on. Thank you!
Loved the video and all these points resonate 🙏🏽 thank you for adding personal experiences too .
This is the stuff kids should be learning in schools at an early age.
Thank you, sir, for sharing your wisdom with us !
One of the best, most genuine videos around - thank you, James (I’ve got work to do on myself)
Wow, so true and full of wisdom. I'll listen to this again and again.
A true man's man. I've fallen so many times, dusted myself off and climbed again. Success eventually came but it's the lessons learned that aided me the most.
THANKS !! That was very revealing and instructive. Trying to be better.
No. 2 and No. 4 are the two bad habits that caused me to lose friends and romantic partners the most. God knows how many friends I have lost due to them flaking out, and me calling them out for doing so. One best friend got so mad at me for calling her out after the 4th time for no shows, and one last minute cancellation that she went on a complete revenge mode. I knew instantly that the friendship was beyond repair.
With the complainers, I always got tired of people complaining at the workplace, or family member about a birthday gift that was not up to par, or me not showing my emotions enough. I had so many people at the various places that I work at about how the place sucked, how the managers were not understanding, or disorganized, or how everyone sucked, and that they didn’t get paid enough. In my family, some of the relatives would constantly complain about how someone would be dominating the dinner conversation, or about me not showing my feelings enough.
I am so glad i found this video today ❤ i really needed to hear this today . Thank you
very much thanklful for the insights ❤❤❤
Thanks for this offering. As I considered the four points you make, I began to be smug because I thought, "I've tried to avoid these all my adult life." No, I haven't been that consistent. I have violated trusts, been missing in action, pressed my opinion, and proven toxic by betraying a negative attitude. I haven't been the wise and stable person I'd like to have been.
The misspelling of, "disrespect," in the thumbnail I first saw caused me to avoid this video at first. Use of the AI voice was another turn-off. Yet, I listened to / read along with the content and began to examine myself to see where I've fallen short. You made an impact.
Last point: I was introduced to the Stoic philosophy in high school - along with many other philosophies, faiths, world views, and ideologies. In today's chaotic World, it seems there's been a revival of Stoicism as one of many efforts to encourage men to be good men - not tyrants. My question is: Does the Stoicism you promote acknowledge God, or just Man acting like a god?
😢 Oh,, I S0 FEEL THIS 😢 So glad I found this Post 2 remind me to GMSTG 😢
You’re right. This useful video would have been much nicer with the recorded voice of the author himself/herself. It’s deeply offensive to hear this machined voice, but the text is excellent.
Thank you. Great video. I realize there are more such habits, and perhaps you have additional videos about them, but personally I’d put impatience with others, particularly conversational impatience, right up there too. It is similar to interrupting but different in that it includes how you respond even if having let them finish. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for this 🙏🏾❤
I appreciate 🙏, I have changed right now and right here.
Just think how well rounded people could be...
(1)Having knowledge and knowing when to share it, in a tactful way. (2)You can groan and moan in pain just dont go on with the whooh is me bit. (3). You can interupt someome when they are fillibustering(4) you need to follow through , finish tasks, if late then work late (5) authority should not be critisized ingeneral, only when the incompetant, wicked and abusive are in control.(6)dont over commit , life is to busy as it is (7) avoid or say NO! To "the users"such as narrcisists, sociopaths, and psycopaths, they are dangerous.( they are friendly, and have smiles on thier faces) (8) be kind, generous and helpful, as a rule . Dont be taken advantage of and become someones victim.(10)be able to say NO as easy as you can say YES.
Well received.Many are guilty of all points.
That's because they're only humans. We all have these traits it's just something we have to watch for order to keep from doing. A lot of these traits we do without even thinking about it. Because it's part of our society and part of Being Human. Just pay attention to yourself and what you're saying and doing and then you will know when to quit doing them.
I think the number one thing that makes me loose respect for someone is lying. Especially if it has gone on for years.
Thank you for you're wisdom 😊❤🙏💝
Thanx a lot. This is also for me an eyeopener, ......
This video was more so about how to people please 101. People that people please agree with this sugar-coded way of saying, "Try to impress everybody, try to avoid people's bad sides. Don't ever express your concerns because to everybody else you're selfish and inconsiderate. Though in reality nobody considers you. But ignore that realization to keep associates, not friends, associates, possibly enemies." This video confirmed to me that I'm better off to myself instead of ever complying with this nonsense to make others comfortable with being self-centered jerks.
concentrating on problems more then on solutions... That is a good one. We should not do that.... Instead we should ACT on the solutions and try things out. Then you can talk about that the next time you see a friend. He will keep helping you as long as you ACT and TRY. (instead of keeping complaining)
❤Thank you 🙏 So Much.
Alot of 💕
Very helpful, thank you.
Wow such honesty! I believe im So guilty of all of these.
Me too but these Stoic Wisdom videos gives us the power to get self aware and to change!!
4 brilliant life lessons. I've listened to this a few times, it's very constructive advice how to live your life. how to be in relationship to others.
This is brilliantly insightful and informatve. I have been guilty of most of these points at various stages of my life.
Thank you for your kind words, KevinSmith5318. It's great to hear that you found the content insightful. Reflecting on your experiences, which of these points do you find most challenging to overcome, and what strategies have you found effective in addressing them?
thank you for sharing this.
Thanks for this. I am - sorry, was - an interrupter.
There isn't a person on this earth that doesn't have all 4 negatives....unless they're in a coma. Quit expecting people to be perfect. We are flawed.
The point is: of course we are all flawed, but that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t improve ourselves.
You are right 😊
I've never understood why people couldn't accept when they've made a mistake, everyone makes mistakes. It's not the mistake that's important it's what you learned from it. So many people in this lifetime just want you to not make any mistakes but that's not how you learn you learn by making mistakes.
All good points BUT like minded people tend to move in their own circles and you soon learn which circle you belong in, then you have the circles within circles.
🕉 mind blowing 🤯 suuuuuuper msg
Thank you HariOm 👍👌🌺🙏🌺
Thank you very much.
Thank You ❤
Very true 100%
Thank you 😂❤❤❤❤❤
If you are calm and stay open minded when you are confronted for your mistakes. People won't see any need to talk behind your back. If you are too egotistical and hostile when confronted about your mistakes. Then people will have no choice but to talk about it behind your back. And they will talk about your poor or good behaviours too see if everyone else is experiencing the same thing from you. When people people gossip about your good conducts they generally respect amd trust you. The opposite happens when they talk ill of you. Build your reputations through your actions and how you interact with people out there.
Cheers!
Interruptions can be annoying and Disrespectful.
Thank you ❤
Very worthwhile
Very nice advice....
Thanks!
thank you
Thank you so much!🤝
I have a friend who is complaining always in a positive manner, wondering how in positive manner? Always says something negative but ending it with "I will be better one day", and that day never comes. When we used to be hanging around together i always wondered why I'm coming back home with headache...
Is it your voice on all the Stoic channels? It's very impressive, even beyond Alan Watts, and makes it hard to imagine that you'd ever engage in petty behaviours.
Never can stand gossip. Anytime my friends decide to gossip I would leave. This has been the case since I was little because my mom loved to gossip, and it was all pointless. The people she gossiped about were usually people she probably was envious about. Then she complains complaints complaints.
I loved the video ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Interspection is so important.
introspection yO
Good information
And taking everthing for granted
A person is only as good as their word.....
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Some women complains a lot about many things to feel good and happy. Her complaints are really about herself!
i don’t think if people say gossip about me should effect me. i think after being in hell and dying in my sleep many of times. i can’t be so shrewd as people behave. if you saw hell you would try to be more kind. if people keep behaving so shrewd then the world becomes blind to the torment of what it’s like to be in hell. i wouldn’t wish it upon anyone
Thanks
very interesting
Never can stand gossip. Anytime my friends decide to gossip I would leave. This has been the case since I was little because my mom loved to gossip, and it was all pointless. The people she gossiped about our usually people she probably was envious about. Then she complains complaints complaints.
I have to say I love a good bit of gossip. 😅
I hate when people come to me with their problems and not share with me when they have reached a suitable solution. I think they call it dumping but in a sense that is what it is. Especially if they solicit my advice. I had a girl like that. Today l told her to forget my number and hang my phone up.
That might seems rude but I must protect my spirit. I had told her times after times. Just so you know she had already betrayed me in February now is May.