As a childless man who has been single and unwanted for the better part of his life, i am sick to damn death of people telling me if i want to have a child of my own one day that i should consider adoption, stepfathering or becoming a sperm donor. How are any of these options as meaningful and fulfilling as starting a family of your own? They arent.
There's literally no one to talk to about this. And it gets so depressing. No one cares about how we feel. I'll be 37 soon, and all my life I've been single. I know my only chance to have kids is with a young woman who isn't married, doesn't already have children and can actually have them. But I know realistically that's not going to happen. I don't want to adopt or become a step parent - i want my own biological children. So what do I do? The older I get the lonelier i get and the more depressed I'm getting. All my friends, cousins etc are married with kids and no one has ever wanted me. I never have anyone to spend time with. 😔
@@whitneyanders5945 I thought about that a number of times. But the thought of not getting to raise or possibly even meet my own child breaks my heart.
@whitneyanders5945 There are no women who would even look twice at me let alone want my sperm to start a family. I'd be giving that gift to somebody else while at the same time not even being present in the life of my own child. I don't know what kind of family would raise them either. I don't even know what the quality of my sperm is like anymore.
Count me in... lost 2 pregnancies ...its been 10 years ...Im sick of people telling me to " dont worry...it will happen" Bullshit.... Its a long lonely road for a man who wants a baby more than anything. I have to deal with it when my wife is sleeping , so i can hide my grief from her. I need to be the strong one . I had a daughter for a few minutes...she died in my arms
I've never even come close to having a child of my own, despite being 37 years of age. I'm sick of feeling like it's never going to happen and that it's too late. Some say "you can have kids at any age". Some say "don't worry you'll find someone" and others either ignore the fact that I even exist or have nothing positive to say at all. Others even tell me that I should be thankful. Thankful for what?? Having no purpose and nothing to live for?
I´m turning 47 late this year and have tried my whole life to find the right girl and start a family. I gave the wrong ones that I didnt love enough too much time over & over.. now I´m with a girl 15 years younger than me and guess what..she dont want children. We are having a timeout right now because I cant figure out if I should give it one last shot.. so here I am looking for youtube videos of people without children..are they happy, will I be happy if I go that way or will I regret. To be honest I´m so tired of pursuing it... I will have a test next week to see if I can have children at all. There isnt much material out there discussing men who wanted children but didnt get them - but thank you for this video.
I feel your pain & you can't help but feel envious when you hear someone is going to be a parent, obviously happy for them but at the same your thinking to yourself they have something coming in to their life that you want & a lot of people who have kids don't realize this, anyway good luck !!!
Having never married at 35 or even been in a relationship, and having no kids.. I have days where I am chronically depressed and I feel like throwing myself off a bridge. It just gets like, what's the point you know? There's nothing to look forward to.
@@1legend517 I feel your pain buddy, it sounds very tough and I guess many days are a struggle.. it makes you doubt what is the purpose of life. Hang on there Legend...I think we are able to still be happy if we can accept that life turned out differently than we thought, and who knows maybe the girl shows up when you least expect it.
Such an important topic and so glad it's getting attention. Both men and women deserve same attention and help when dealing with infertility. In fact, men's infertility has now surpassed women's in terms of %, 37% s 32% respectively, and this needs to be acknowledged.
How much attention exactly is this topic getting? There may be a 5 minute discussion and then most people skip over it because this doesn't apply to them. If it were about women's infertility and involuntary childlessness it would be loaded with comments and support. But men's issues don't seem to get the same coverage or priority.
Growing older and knowing that youre able to have children and wanting a family of your own but no one wants to have children with you is the worst feeling in the world. Meanwhile I've had to watch on as all my friends, family etc got married and had families and disappeared from my life and im constantly wondering what's wrong with me.
I've never even come close to having a child of my own, despite being 37 years of age. I'm sick of feeling like it's never going to happen and that it's too late. Some say "you can have kids at any age". Some say "don't worry you'll find someone" and others either ignore the fact that I even exist or have nothing positive to say at all. Others even tell me that I should be thankful. Thankful for what?? Having no purpose and nothing to live for?
@@1legend517 I know how you feel. I just turned 44, technically I can still have children but what young woman wants me now? It's too late for me and everyday I'm in pain knowing the probability of me being alone for the rest of my life and dying in loneliness is very high now. I hope God will show me mercy on my soul at least.
@@Ghost-vi8qm I feel exactly the same way. It's just a constant state of depression and feeling dead inside. Few people, if any, understand how we feel.
Of course they do! There are heaps of guys who want/wanted kids but cant find a partner or the right partner. Or cant have them for a variety of reasons.
This affects me nearly every day. Nearly every day I have an existential crisis. Why the hell would it only affect women? It does affect men and the problem is with men's issues that a) nobody listens and b) nobody cares. That's the way things have always been and unfortunately the problem is getting worse.
I forgot to ask... What is your sample size for "most men"? Because I know for a fact that no woman has ever asked me if I want children or even cared whether I do. They just assumed that I don't.
kia ora,, and thank you,, im glad i came across this,, ive just finished watching and it has helped more than you will ever know. i too am a childless man and i feel your pain,, yes, the struggle is real, but theres always a way through,, all the best to you and yours,, kia kaha
Thanks Willi. Sorry to hear you've had to travel this path too. If it helps, our story is told in longer form here: sheridanvoysey.com/resurrectionyear/ It may help you know you're not alone in this journey.
We tried adoption (eight months of assessment followed by a two year wait in the New South Wales system). This interview only tells part of our story. The full account is in the book Resurrection Year.
Yeah I guess having a child that doesn't resemble you in any way, shape or form and is not blood or genetically related is the same as having a child of your own.. you might as well date a single mother and become a stepfather. Same thing without the costs.
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As a childless man who has been single and unwanted for the better part of his life, i am sick to damn death of people telling me if i want to have a child of my own one day that i should consider adoption, stepfathering or becoming a sperm donor. How are any of these options as meaningful and fulfilling as starting a family of your own? They arent.
There's literally no one to talk to about this. And it gets so depressing. No one cares about how we feel. I'll be 37 soon, and all my life I've been single. I know my only chance to have kids is with a young woman who isn't married, doesn't already have children and can actually have them. But I know realistically that's not going to happen. I don't want to adopt or become a step parent - i want my own biological children. So what do I do? The older I get the lonelier i get and the more depressed I'm getting. All my friends, cousins etc are married with kids and no one has ever wanted me. I never have anyone to spend time with. 😔
Don't give up.
@@generationchristmovementgc2285 I've already given up. There's no hope.
Become a sperm donor?
@@whitneyanders5945 I thought about that a number of times. But the thought of not getting to raise or possibly even meet my own child breaks my heart.
@whitneyanders5945 There are no women who would even look twice at me let alone want my sperm to start a family. I'd be giving that gift to somebody else while at the same time not even being present in the life of my own child. I don't know what kind of family would raise them either. I don't even know what the quality of my sperm is like anymore.
Count me in... lost 2 pregnancies ...its been 10 years ...Im sick of people telling me to " dont worry...it will happen" Bullshit.... Its a long lonely road for a man who wants a baby more than anything. I have to deal with it when my wife is sleeping , so i can hide my grief from her. I need to be the strong one . I had a daughter for a few minutes...she died in my arms
I am so sorry to read this.
Also Sorry to hear this.
So sad to read this. I hope you are allright still
Sometimes I think that the good things in life always happen for the people who deserve it the least.
I've never even come close to having a child of my own, despite being 37 years of age. I'm sick of feeling like it's never going to happen and that it's too late. Some say "you can have kids at any age". Some say "don't worry you'll find someone" and others either ignore the fact that I even exist or have nothing positive to say at all. Others even tell me that I should be thankful. Thankful for what?? Having no purpose and nothing to live for?
I´m turning 47 late this year and have tried my whole life to find the right girl and start a family. I gave the wrong ones that I didnt love enough too much time over & over.. now I´m with a girl 15 years younger than me and guess what..she dont want children. We are having a timeout right now because I cant figure out if I should give it one last shot.. so here I am looking for youtube videos of people without children..are they happy, will I be happy if I go that way or will I regret. To be honest I´m so tired of pursuing it... I will have a test next week to see if I can have children at all. There isnt much material out there discussing men who wanted children but didnt get them - but thank you for this video.
I feel your pain & you can't help but feel envious when you hear someone is going to be a parent, obviously happy for them but at the same your thinking to yourself they have something coming in to their life that you want & a lot of people who have kids don't realize this, anyway good luck !!!
Having never married at 35 or even been in a relationship, and having no kids.. I have days where I am chronically depressed and I feel like throwing myself off a bridge. It just gets like, what's the point you know? There's nothing to look forward to.
@@1legend517 I feel your pain buddy, it sounds very tough and I guess many days are a struggle.. it makes you doubt what is the purpose of life. Hang on there Legend...I think we are able to still be happy if we can accept that life turned out differently than we thought, and who knows maybe the girl shows up when you least expect it.
@@Soundoverload Thanks for that buddy. I appreciate the kind words. I hope the same thing happens for you too.
@@Soundoverload It's weird but I've seen some guys in their 50s, 60s and even 70s remarrying and having more kids. I dont know how they do it.
Such an important topic and so glad it's getting attention. Both men and women deserve same attention and help when dealing with infertility. In fact, men's infertility has now surpassed women's in terms of %, 37% s 32% respectively, and this needs to be acknowledged.
How much attention exactly is this topic getting? There may be a 5 minute discussion and then most people skip over it because this doesn't apply to them. If it were about women's infertility and involuntary childlessness it would be loaded with comments and support. But men's issues don't seem to get the same coverage or priority.
Growing older and knowing that youre able to have children and wanting a family of your own but no one wants to have children with you is the worst feeling in the world. Meanwhile I've had to watch on as all my friends, family etc got married and had families and disappeared from my life and im constantly wondering what's wrong with me.
2nd year of constant trying..... it's really a struggle.
I'm 43 and I really would like to have children but no woman wants me. I hope it's not too late for me. Jesus help me.
I feel exactly the same way. Every. Single. Day.
I've never even come close to having a child of my own, despite being 37 years of age. I'm sick of feeling like it's never going to happen and that it's too late. Some say "you can have kids at any age". Some say "don't worry you'll find someone" and others either ignore the fact that I even exist or have nothing positive to say at all. Others even tell me that I should be thankful. Thankful for what?? Having no purpose and nothing to live for?
@@1legend517 I know how you feel. I just turned 44, technically I can still have children but what young woman wants me now? It's too late for me and everyday I'm in pain knowing the probability of me being alone for the rest of my life and dying in loneliness is very high now. I hope God will show me mercy on my soul at least.
@@Ghost-vi8qm I feel exactly the same way. It's just a constant state of depression and feeling dead inside. Few people, if any, understand how we feel.
WOW didn't know that man got affected this badly. Most of them these days as far as I know don't want kids.
I talk to many men who are devastated at the prospect of not becoming fathers.
Of course they do! There are heaps of guys who want/wanted kids but cant find a partner or the right partner. Or cant have them for a variety of reasons.
@@SheridanVoysey I’m sorry
This affects me nearly every day. Nearly every day I have an existential crisis. Why the hell would it only affect women? It does affect men and the problem is with men's issues that a) nobody listens and b) nobody cares. That's the way things have always been and unfortunately the problem is getting worse.
I forgot to ask... What is your sample size for "most men"? Because I know for a fact that no woman has ever asked me if I want children or even cared whether I do. They just assumed that I don't.
kia ora,, and thank you,, im glad i came across this,, ive just finished watching and it has helped more than you will ever know. i too am a childless man and i feel your pain,, yes, the struggle is real, but theres always a way through,, all the best to you and yours,, kia kaha
Thanks Willi. Sorry to hear you've had to travel this path too. If it helps, our story is told in longer form here: sheridanvoysey.com/resurrectionyear/ It may help you know you're not alone in this journey.
thank you
And having kids can ruin your life because of the insane alimony payments.
No, thanks. Seriously, not.
Very well done, Sheridan. Shame the Beeb spelled your name with a C!
And the other outlets mispronounced it. Ah well...
adoption??
We tried adoption (eight months of assessment followed by a two year wait in the New South Wales system). This interview only tells part of our story. The full account is in the book Resurrection Year.
Yeah not really the same thing??
Yeah I guess having a child that doesn't resemble you in any way, shape or form and is not blood or genetically related is the same as having a child of your own.. you might as well date a single mother and become a stepfather. Same thing without the costs.
Fuck "handling it well", at the end you die.... And all for nothing. You leave nothing on this world.
You were here... For nothing...
Yep, that's pretty much how i feel.
I agree. Fuck handling it well. I'm not handling it well at all. If anything I feel myself slipping into more and more of a depression.