This is first video giving advice and hope, us who strugle years with an avoidant, and this battle is extremely difficult, scary, painful. You really need many years to understand avoidant way of thinking and then start with healing. Thx
This video basically just says it can be done - but not how to do it. Why? Because DAs don't see any problems with their lives or how they impact others and if you can't see your own problems you'll never be motivated to change.
After i ruined my last relationship during my first ever Da cycle which I came back but thankfully my ex is strong and didn’t instantly accept my return it shook my core and led me to dig deep into my inner subconscious and like a blindfold being lifted off my eyes everything has become so clear and I see all my wrongs all my sabotage ,everything is clear as day and it breaks my soul that my ex had to experience that . I have identified my trigger and it was a stupid trigger that I know for a fact won’t repeat we’ve been dating for 3 months and it’s a slow process and I may not get the happy ending I hope for but I know I was the problem and I know I’ll fight every day and do what ever it takes to over come my childhood trauma not just for my ex but for me as well.
@@frock512The underlying thought of “oh this probably isn’t going to work out anyway” is a huge issue. Stop thinking like that. If a partner took you back after what you did, they obviously love you so much. Take accountability and make sure it doesn’t happen again. You can do this. ONLY you can put in the work.
This is first video giving advice and hope, us who strugle years with an avoidant, and this battle is extremely difficult, scary, painful. You really need many years to understand avoidant way of thinking and then start with healing. Thx
This video basically just says it can be done - but not how to do it. Why? Because DAs don't see any problems with their lives or how they impact others and if you can't see your own problems you'll never be motivated to change.
After i ruined my last relationship during my first ever Da cycle which I came back but thankfully my ex is strong and didn’t instantly accept my return it shook my core and led me to dig deep into my inner subconscious and like a blindfold being lifted off my eyes everything has become so clear and I see all my wrongs all my sabotage ,everything is clear as day and it breaks my soul that my ex had to experience that . I have identified my trigger and it was a stupid trigger that I know for a fact won’t repeat we’ve been dating for 3 months and it’s a slow process and I may not get the happy ending I hope for but I know I was the problem and I know I’ll fight every day and do what ever it takes to over come my childhood trauma not just for my ex but for me as well.
@@frock512The underlying thought of “oh this probably isn’t going to work out anyway” is a huge issue. Stop thinking like that. If a partner took you back after what you did, they obviously love you so much. Take accountability and make sure it doesn’t happen again. You can do this. ONLY you can put in the work.
@frock512 That's really beautiful that you're working so hard on your self-awareness.