Hi Again - Got your post today and I totally understand. I will turn 75 in june and I often get the blues. I am finding that I am more clinging to my wife who is simply bouncing along with her retirement. She is getting pretty short with me. I get this weird feeling that I am now on a treadmill racing along to my death and am taking this trip by myself. One thing that does help is that I have a loving wife, and a daughter that is only 8 miles away and we speak each day. 2 grandsons and my other daughter are in Sacramenta - -a bit far away, but that is where our lives take is. no one says you live in the town you grew up in - that just implies you have not seen the world perhaps???? Anyway, we speak each day for a nice chat and that helps a lot. Mu biggest exercise right now is cutting the grass - -which I used to love to do. I do pretty good getting out of bed in the morning and getting dressed for the day. some people crawl under the covers and you never see them again. I have 3 other friends and we have breakfast ever Monday morning and chat about all sorts of things for a few hours. For me, things got so bad that I took myself to a shrink to see if he could help me. He stated that I was headed for chronic depression. He at least put me on a very small pill dailey that has smoothed my mood out. Try not to dweal on the past too deeply, especially your childhood, as many people do try to go back and live their prior life - it is important to stay in the present. In my town there is a very nice senior center with pool, track, exercises, lunches twice a week. Today it is nice and sunny but it has been raining a lot and too wet to get into the yard yet for mowing - perhaps another day. If you do not get into the yard, nature will take it back and not a good idea. Write me back anytime you wish. Thanks again. Bob S
Hi Bob, thanks for engaging with our video. I’m sure plenty of retirees can empathise with your heartfelt description of post work life. You’re obviously comfortable navigating the net and your willingness to share honest observations of your life will help you meeting others in similar circumstances. I’ll be 75 in a couple of years and have just joined a tennis social where we play 2 hours doubles 3 times a week. Most of us are in 60s and 70s with one woman 81 whose serve is ungettable! Cheers, Brooke
I went into shock, being retired. I tried to return but it wasn't allowed. I got so stressed out! I got serious anxiety!, and insomnia!, and severe depression! I lost all interest in all my hobbies, activities.! I lost too much weight, and im mentally paralyzed. I won't even go outside. My mental and physical health are declining, I ruined my life , i shouldn't have retired!!!!! I didn't have to. 🤬😫💔
I am 76 and have recently that friends from around the old work and the neighborhood are passing on. I am 75 and take a 1-a-day vitamin each day!!!!!! So I guess I am lucky in that regard. So here are some thoughts - Take seniors to doctors that need help at a retirement home. Teach children how to read at your local grade school. Volunteer at church. Go to a senior center and work out, take classes, run the tread mill, make new friends, etc. You are not alone!!!!!! Find a few mates around. IF your wife works ouit - do so with her, for fun for both of you. Perhaps dinner out either once a week or once a month. Family if they are close by. You are still you - -- it is all upstairs. STop missing work - it is over. time to open a few new doors, one step at a time More than likely, it was a pain anyway. The weirdest feeling is going form a salary to no salary. You did nothing wrong. Easy to say I know, but try your best. I went thru it and it taks a bit of work. Get out in th esun and fresh air - helps a lot. Bob Cleveland Ohio.
I'm extremely upset with retiring.!!!! I hate everything about it! I want my job back! But wasn't allowed... I stressed so bad, I got horrible anxiety!, and sleepless insomnia, and... severe Depression. I lost everything! No interest, pleasure, identity, structure, workplace atmosphere, coworkers, friends, security.....!! Not even hobbies or activities I used to enjoy.!! I actually hate living now. .... I ruined my life, leaving the job I loved,... and by listening to others. Glad you're happy and enjoying life still. It sucks being depressed, and not being able to like anything anymore.. even life. 😫🤬💔☠️
I HATE MYSELF FOR RETIRING.!!!!! I HAD IT MADE, I REALLY ENJOYED MY CITY BUS ROUTES. I FOOLISHLY FOLLOWED OTHERS OUT. MY IDENTITY, PURPOSE, SOCIAL INTERACTION, FRIENDS,.... I LOST INTEREST IN ALL MY HOBBIES AND ACTIVITIES.! I DON'T DO ANYTHING ANYMORE. SUCKS!! GUILT AND REGRET .😫☠️
Sorry to hear about your post retirement experiences. Funnily enough you have actually taken the first step towards making your life better! You've made a list of what you need to focus on. You could start by contacting other retirees who left the same time as you to either get empathy for your feelings or ideas about what to do. Perhaps you could find a new purpose by looking for activities that involve spending time with other people where friendships and social interactions could develop. From all of that a new identity might emerge. Positivity takes effort in your situation but it will be worth it. Good luck!
@brookewalford6428 💐Thank you for caring about me. It's a bummer for sure. I didn't plan,.. and trying to return, I failed. Change of heart... I'm having to try and let my dreams of moving up in the Co, and not being able to drive my routes,..and be with my coworkers and friends. There's more to that ... but. I'll stop here. If I didn't have stress, anxiety, insomnia, and depression... I would be able to be involved with other things,.... Now,.. I have to overcome these ailments,.. and they are very uncomfortable. I'll continue to try to let go/move on.. It's not good for my health,.. staying like this. Thank you again ✨️⚘️🙏
Hi Again -
Got your post today and I totally understand.
I will turn 75 in june and I often get the blues.
I am finding that I am more clinging to my wife who is simply bouncing along with her retirement. She is getting pretty short with me. I get this weird feeling that I am now on a treadmill racing along to my death and am taking this trip by myself.
One thing that does help is that I have a loving wife, and a daughter that is only 8 miles away and we speak each day. 2 grandsons and my other daughter are in Sacramenta - -a bit far away, but that is where our lives take is. no one says you live in the town you grew up in - that just implies you have not seen the world perhaps????
Anyway, we speak each day for a nice chat and that helps a lot.
Mu biggest exercise right now is cutting the grass - -which I used to love to do.
I do pretty good getting out of bed in the morning and getting dressed for the day. some people crawl under the covers and you never see them again.
I have 3 other friends and we have breakfast ever Monday morning and chat about all sorts of things for a few hours.
For me, things got so bad that I took myself to a shrink to see if he could help me. He stated that I was headed for chronic depression. He at least put me on a very small pill dailey that has smoothed my mood out.
Try not to dweal on the past too deeply, especially your childhood, as many people do try to go back and live their prior life - it is important to stay in the present.
In my town there is a very nice senior center with pool, track, exercises, lunches twice a week.
Today it is nice and sunny but it has been raining a lot and too wet to get into the yard yet for mowing - perhaps another day.
If you do not get into the yard, nature will take it back and not a good idea.
Write me back anytime you wish.
Thanks again.
Bob S
Hi Bob, thanks for engaging with our video. I’m sure plenty of retirees can empathise with your heartfelt description of post work life. You’re obviously comfortable navigating the net and your willingness to share honest observations of your life will help you meeting others in similar circumstances. I’ll be 75 in a couple of years and have just joined a tennis social where we play 2 hours doubles 3 times a week. Most of us are in 60s and 70s with one woman 81 whose serve is ungettable! Cheers, Brooke
I went into shock, being retired. I tried to return but it wasn't allowed. I got so stressed out! I got serious anxiety!, and insomnia!, and severe depression! I lost all interest in all my hobbies, activities.! I lost too much weight, and im mentally paralyzed. I won't even go outside. My mental and physical health are declining,
I ruined my life , i shouldn't have retired!!!!! I didn't have to. 🤬😫💔
I am 76 and have recently that friends from around the old work and the neighborhood are passing on. I am 75 and take a 1-a-day vitamin each day!!!!!! So I guess I am lucky in that regard.
So here are some thoughts -
Take seniors to doctors that need help at a retirement home.
Teach children how to read at your local grade school.
Volunteer at church.
Go to a senior center and work out, take classes, run the tread mill, make new friends, etc.
You are not alone!!!!!! Find a few mates around.
IF your wife works ouit - do so with her, for fun for both of you.
Perhaps dinner out either once a week or once a month.
Family if they are close by.
You are still you - -- it is all upstairs.
STop missing work - it is over. time to open a few new doors, one step at a time
More than likely, it was a pain anyway.
The weirdest feeling is going form a salary to no salary. You did nothing wrong.
Easy to say I know, but try your best. I went thru it and it taks a bit of work.
Get out in th esun and fresh air - helps a lot.
Bob Cleveland Ohio.
I'm extremely upset with retiring.!!!! I hate everything about it! I want my job back! But wasn't allowed... I stressed so bad, I got horrible anxiety!, and sleepless insomnia, and... severe Depression. I lost everything!
No interest, pleasure, identity, structure, workplace atmosphere, coworkers, friends, security.....!!
Not even hobbies or activities I used to enjoy.!!
I actually hate living now.
.... I ruined my life, leaving the job I loved,... and by listening to others.
Glad you're happy and enjoying life still.
It sucks being depressed, and not being able to like anything anymore.. even life. 😫🤬💔☠️
I HATE MYSELF FOR RETIRING.!!!!! I HAD IT MADE, I REALLY ENJOYED MY CITY BUS ROUTES. I FOOLISHLY FOLLOWED OTHERS OUT.
MY IDENTITY, PURPOSE, SOCIAL INTERACTION, FRIENDS,.... I LOST INTEREST IN ALL MY HOBBIES AND ACTIVITIES.! I DON'T DO ANYTHING ANYMORE. SUCKS!! GUILT AND REGRET .😫☠️
Sorry to hear about your post retirement experiences. Funnily enough you have actually taken the first step towards making your life better! You've made a list of what you need to focus on. You could start by contacting other retirees who left the same time as you to either get empathy for your feelings or ideas about what to do. Perhaps you could find a new purpose by looking for activities that involve spending time with other people where friendships and social interactions could develop. From all of that a new identity might emerge. Positivity takes effort in your situation but it will be worth it. Good luck!
@brookewalford6428 💐Thank you for caring about me.
It's a bummer for sure. I didn't plan,.. and trying to return, I failed.
Change of heart...
I'm having to try and let my dreams of moving up in the Co, and not being able to drive my routes,..and be with my coworkers and friends.
There's more to that ... but. I'll stop here. If I didn't have stress, anxiety, insomnia, and depression... I would be able to be involved with other things,.... Now,.. I have to overcome these ailments,.. and they are very uncomfortable.
I'll continue to try to let go/move on..
It's not good for my health,.. staying like this.
Thank you again ✨️⚘️🙏