At first, I was offended by Tony saying, that we should leave if the man doesn't love us more. But, he is talking to us, the way he would tell his Daughter or Sister. He is trying to protect us.
@@a.pieceofpie like men have to initiate the relationship. It just makes me sad. I appreciate Tony, you, and people here, looking out for women..like you would say to your sister...Don't rush in.
When a girl talks about a man in the early "crush" stages ... I always ask her how does he feel about you. If he isn't goo goo gah gah over you then leave. If a woman is more interested in the man I don't think it really works. And now one of the most honest men that most of us could get knowledge from is telling us that so we need to let that sink in.
We women are the ones doing the talking .the calling ..etc and that is why we think the relationship is working ...LOL!! ..a lot of times we don't stop to see what his actions ..opinions etc are ...when he says he is leaving etc we break down because "we did everything" and you know what ..we were doing everything .. that's why it hurts so much .... the guy was never checked in.....once I realized that my relationships were never the same ...
White chocolate mochas be hitting! Great message as always, Tony. Older women always say “never love a man more than he loves you” and it’s facts. Be blessed
It takes a man a lot to really open up and allow himself to fall in love. When a man loves you the most, you will know that it’s real for him. I’ve even heard some men saying they are not in love with their girlfriends/wives, but they love them.
@@marrencebaraquiel As an exemple I love my friends but I’m “not in love”with them, if that make sense for you. This is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
How funny Tony that you mention that you would not like to do the things that women do on a daily basis and how you are amazed that we do it because just a few days ago my dad said the same thing. My mother passed away nine years ago and now that he is taking care of himself he realizes what a hard-working woman not only my mother was but all women. He also said that we are incredibly strong because we get sick and we keep on working and that men break a nail and they have to spend days in bed. Lol. I admire your drive and work ethic Tony.
Tony you are absolutely right! Thank you! I had that type man. My husband died 9 years ago. He was loving and caring and provided a great life for us. He built the house I continue to live in with his hands. I had a great husband.. and when women ask me how did I get that type of husband, I tell them.. first of all I’m a loving woman and wanted the best for myself, and didn’t settle.
I think I agree with you! If I ever love again, I will keep quiet about it until I hear him say he loves me first. If I don't hear him say it by the time I'm tired of waiting to hear it, I will just give up on loving him, drop it and move on. 👌🏼👏🏼
Im my experience with men is when most of them stop loving and treating you right, then he may be involved with another woman. If that's the case, he may never treat you like he use to.
Wow it's amazing that you're soaking this up at a young age. I pray that you apply what you're learning and stay focused on being a healthy young woman emotionally you spiritually. Enjoy your life but please live with wisdom 🙏🏽
Many years ago I was told to never love a man more than he loves you. After dealing with the worst narcissist of my 20s ( notice I didn’t say life) I definitely understand why that statement was made.
Tony I’m experiencing men in their 40s and up that communicate that lifestyle with me. The men in their 20s and 30s still leaning towards the woman working. This is why women are more career driven and wanting children later in life, even marriage. I haven’t yet dated men my age that is willing to sit a woman down and work and pay all the major bills
If a man would love that way instead of as in a competition marriages would work and be happy. This was a very good explanation of how women reciprocate love and when men become complacent how women sometimes need to let it go.
Unfortunately there are men out here that wants to stay home and want the wife to work her fingers to the bone, while he stayed home and doing the bare minimum. This man was not focused, really did not want to work and was cheating. She got tired of being the bread winner and carrying him, so she divorced him. I don't think he loved her and married her for what he could get from her.
It's not that your wife doesn't accept help, men are just sometimes halfish and don't pay as much attention to detail so it's actually less work for her to do it herself so she doesn't have to come behind you to re-do it. And it works out well bc you both perform well in your specific areas. It balances things out that she is type A with the house work
Some of them admit that they do this on purpose.. They do things badly so she will think "he doesn't know how to do it, better if I'll just do it myself and don't waste time". They play dumb just to hear "don't worry, I'll do it myself". So they show that they are willing to do something but they just can't make do it right, and at the end they don't feel responsible or guilty for not doing anything. Or when they say to their partners "sure I can look after our son tonight..go out with your friends, take some rest" just to call her after ten minutes asking what to do, where is the food, what to do if the kid's crying, etc. Or "sure, I'll go buy groceries for you, stay home, relax" and then "hey babe, but where is x or y? How much I have to buy of that?". Even making meals it's about a lot of thinking: the amount of food, what kind, what to prepare, what will expire soon, so you buy less, what is in the fridge, what is missing, etc. And it's not normal that an adult don't know how to do this, you don't need to be a type A in the house work, it's just basic adult stuff: make a meal, do laundry, clean your house,..
@Priscilla Absolutely, but we live in a society were they teach little girls how to be a good future wife etc. since early years .. and they expect it (like helping with house chores etc.) but they don't do the same to their sons .. And now we see this dumb entitlement from grown men that don't know how to survive alone without their mothers. It's a sad truth and a messed up society. Not everywhere, or everyone, but still too many with this mentality.
The last minute of the video was extremely important and really clicked for me. It’s so important that a woman leave when a man gets complacent, even if he did love first to begin with. A woman “trying” more will not make a man love her more. That is not the language a man speaks.
This is why I started listening to TG 🎧 since 2019. His commutations skills are very methodical; and my soul gets the message each and every time😊! Thank you ☺️
I admire your wife! As a single woman I prayed to be able to be the house mother I desiree while I provide for me and my children. Definitely agree that it depends on what each couple agrees will work for them. God is faithful. Yes Sir leaving that legacy for your sons and family is what it's about. Amen!
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@tonygaskins My ex told me that he wouldnt mind staying home to be a stay at dad and the women/ mother going out and working, "He said whats wrong with that ?" ... I was shocked but then again he has always did the bare minimum when it came to life, no goals !! ... I knew right then we would never get back together... LMBO, NO THANKS !!
My ex fiance said something quite similar. His mother told me he would be a better helper than a leader I lost respect for him. I am so happy that I didn't follow through on the marriage. In order for me to love and marry I have to respect him .
Man...may I be blessed with a husband who sees all that I do as his wife and the mother of his children and appreciates me like you do Tony🙏Love the way you love her honestly
OMG. I say the SAME thing to my husband. I don't like how he washes dishes, folds clothes and he can't cook. I just tell him to sit down. Cause honestly I end up going behind him and doing it again. Gotta be a Southern thing. 😂😂
Thank you for this message. It was well received, and greatly appreciated. Especially the part about you not wanting any handouts. I have the exact, same mentality. So, some odd years back, my ex mother in law, offered to purchase a foreclosed home and fix it up, for my now, ex husband, myself and our children, to live in. I told her no, that I did not want it, and I otherwise, did not accept it. Now, it wasn't that I did not appreciate it, it's just that, I would have rather worked for it. To this day, she, along with so many others, including her son, cannot understand, why I turned it down. It goes back to that age old saying, "If you give a man a fish, he'll eat for a day, but if you teach a man to fish, he'll eat for a life time." She's a real estate agent/investor and needless to say, I'd rather eat for a lifetime. Hopefully, you reached my point. Angel 💜😇
@@ohheynoella exactly. I asked her to teach me to fish, (teach me what she knows) so I could get it on my own, and then in turn, I could teach what she taught me, to her grandchildren (my children) and the rest of the generations to come. Needless to say, she wasn't willing, because she wanted to keep me and her son, dependent upon her. He was then and very much still is, to this day, a grown boy, currently residing in one of her rental properties, pursuing his next victim, & living rent free, while myself & children (her grandchildren) are presently, homeless. Now, had she been willing to teach me to fish, we wouldn't be. But no worries though, because although it took for me to lose everything I owned, due to not using proper discernment, when it came to meeting and marrying her son, God is now teaching me how to fish. And with him teaching me, (by the way; lesson learned) I can no longer lose.
Wow. That's deep. You really value independence. And that probably was a wise idea. At this point in my life I am not strong enough to turn something like that down. Simply because I desire to love rent free lol I admire you. That takes guts. Grown woman foreal.
My most serious and earnest declaration as I believe God for my King/ husband is that he will show MORE love and affection for me than I'll have for him. My ❤ loves with loyalty and sincerely and I'm convinced that a man will have to take the lead in that ( period)! Real men are definitely pursuers/ hunters 🙌🏾
U r every inspirational & u & ur wife r very lucky to have each other. An ur relationship is the relationship i would like equality & a willing to work at keeping it together.
When I saw your book I was inspired to do a journal about turning pain into purpose. I piggybacked off your title, but my book topic and content are completely different. My book is about finding purpose through pain. I knew using the same title would make my book pop up when they searched for you. Just a strategy I wanted test out. Hope you don't mind. I would never steal anyone's content though. I'm a author and creator too, so I understand the work that goes into it. Love everything you do brother, and yes, I do take the advice you say literally. I started my own academy and left a toxic marriage with 7 kids because if you. Thank you.💕
THANK YOU TONY SO MUCH FOR YOUR VIDEOS AND BOOKS I'M REALLY ENJOYING A WOMENS INFLUENCE , I ALSO LIKE TO THANK YOUR WIFE FOR HER PERSPECTIVE IN THE BOOK, PLEASE KEEP THE VIDEOS AND BOOKS COMING.
Good morning, it also has to do how your wife was raise. To be completely honest in the Caribbean we are raise like that and if you are born in the states with Caribbean mothers you are taught those values.
Hi Tony! Thanks for this video. Really vital information here. I know you're talking about men and women in a relationship scenario, but it makes me wonder also about how these principles can be applied to raising a son. As in making them EARN everything, rather than giving them things and they don't appreciate it and they squander it. Boys are a different type of animal. I don't have kids yet, but it got me thinking about that.
Thank you for this. Im a supporter of yours and have welcomed your encouragement and wisdom. This video really hit home for me because what happens when you have a husband who is a self proclaimed, church-going Christian and quotes scripture verses but is NOT a provider and refuses to obtain gainful employment or elevate himself in order to elevate his family? He also apparently skipped over the scripture in the Bible that mentions a man who doesn't work doesn't eat. What is a woman to do?
I'm ok with working, but it would feel good to be able to have that helpmate, but as far as being a housewife that's not my life. lol! I want someone to be able to help me clean up or even wash clothes or dishes. I would definitely be ok with him paying all the bills but I like to make my own money, so if I need to leave I can and no one can hold their money over my head... which when u are married it's suppose to be "our money". I just wanted to comment of this part of the video, I agree pretty much with everything else u were talking about.
Thank you so Much Mr. Gaskin!!! Iv been wanting to hear your perspective and Gods design of the responsibility of Man/Husband!! I’m thanking God for this video!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
When my kids go off to school I can go get a job at office etc. But im finishing up schooling and running my own business im 35. I hope by 39 38 I can have kid
First a man must REALLY KNOW not think that love is without conditions attached to really know he's in love. I dated a man who said he loved me...but he had a condition and it was that he did not want to MARRY again after his wife had died...he's still single after 3 years after I let him go.😐
If I read your statement right . Love does have conditions . The only unconditional love that exist is between you and your kids other than that love has conditions
Hey 👋 Tony, I have a very unique story and I would like to write ✍️ a book. I’m ready to put the work in. I watch your videos a lot and I respect ✊ how you are completely. Please reach back out. I’d like to share my story and see if you have any advice on the steps I should take to get started on my book. Thank you 🙏🏽
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I am a realtor who has done welll have always had a high standard ) I WANT A MAN WHO CAN Pay ALLL THE BILLS SO I CAN REDUCE WHAT I DO OR ACTUALLY STOP WORKING !!) and I make this clear from day 1
Love the video as usual. I do want to run the household and have a husband provide a living, leave a legacy, and providing generational wealth. I have a question, as a single mom and admire yall parenting skills. How do I deal with a daughter who won't do schoolwork but is respectful?
So hard 4 all. I have my own business I made it this way I learned because I wanna raise my kids an pick them up be a stay home mom . And I can do 100k a year
Men love Woman but NEVER BE IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN period. Look up Men in Love with Woman. This to see how the conducted themselves in this dynamic. She must always respect you because she can not love you. Her expression love by her actions not her words. Because Woman are as the wind they will say I Lo-ve you and hate you the next hour. She will be ready to move on to a Man with more stuff. This is based on Money, Status, and material possession of the lost value system. This taught to woman by there Femininism teachers (Their Mothers.) Be safe Brothers also the good Sisters who actually want to be wives without a motive🤔.
How so do a women finds the reverse. Im have a creative mind. I rather make a living. nd have my future husband do kids laundry amd cooking. I mean I will help but I really want a man that can be a stay at home dad. He can have a pt job or side hustle but I want to be able to work and know my kids and the home is taken care of
Nothing wrong with having a partner who WANTS and UNDERSTANDS "the goal" but most men don't have that understanding.... staying at home for a man is different from staying at home for a woman .... if he was not already raised to understand responsibility.. flexibility...respect ..... communication..... there is no way he understands to cook..clean.. laundry.. school drop off and pick up etc ... There is a lot that goes into taking care of a home and children...not much time to be playing games ... physical.. emotional or otherwise .... it is said team work makes the dream work Hope it works out for you🙏🏾
@@clarkclarke yea I had it with both my children's fathers. i only did homework regularly everything else they did the majority I would just pitch in of needed. Im a mom of 4 but they always start to get heavily intoxicated be it drug and alcohol so I was forced to leave both relationships bc they would not get help. So now Im stuck doing what doing what TG does and Sheri does and Im exhausted. Literally running on fumes. Been in the hospital a few times for burnout. i have 0 help
@@AriesTiger1 im definitely listening to his advice. It should made me aware I will need to make more money to be able to afford a full time nanny, chef, and tutor. So my future husband can do what fulfills him also
You’re on the wrong page. To ask a Christian to omit Christ, you don’t understand the changing power of Christ. To ask me to not speak on my beliefs is like asking me to live without breathing. Bless you!
I hope Tony repents over the last comments you passed in this video. So you are going against the word of God in 1 Peter 3 :1-2 which tells women to continue doing good to their men even if their husband is not doing the same. Tony advises you to withdraw your benefits as a wife until your husband reciprocates. That is why the world as what it is today with our motivational speakers all coming up with their own principles that never work and lead people to perdition. Guys please read the word of God and follow it only!
So when a husband is not obeying God's teaching and is not persuaded by the way their wife lives by submitting, she should just continue to take the disrespect? The Bible didn't say be a fool. You have to know when to hold'em and when to fold'em.
@@MissPrettySweetC this isnt what 1 Peter 3 1-2 says. Im not asking anyone to be fools but your behavior and perseverance may end up saving that same man. I guess long suffering and perseverance is not longer a thing in modern day lives after all we only live once!
@@iolasoy they also took a man outside the village and killed him for collecting sticks on a Sunday in deuteronomy. We following the Bible literally still or what?????? Stop it.
@@thebarbieinvestor5428 the New Testament is meant to be followed literally okay However the Old Testament you quoted is the law and has been replaced by the new covenant. It’s meant to help you understand the nature of God but not Ff literally
“As men… when it come to receiving something that we have not worked for, we don’t appreciate it and take it for granted.” TG
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I'm inclined to say not just men do this but women and children do too.
The work, the challenge, the chase. It matters! And if it's overly easy to obtain, you shouldn't want it. It's not as valuable.
@@c.l.9344 Exactly. That’s what he said.
When a man loves a woman FIRST, it means he truly allowed her to capture his HEART. ♥️
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I did that, won't happen again I learned my lesson lol!
At first, I was offended by Tony saying, that we should leave if the man doesn't love us more. But, he is talking to us, the way he would tell his Daughter or Sister. He is trying to protect us.
Why did that offend you?
He was looking out, it's always best when the man loves more. ❤ women catch up and even overtakes when a man is good to you.
Sadly it’s true what he’s saying
He's trynna put you on real knowledge...if a man don't love you more you spend your time trynna win them over...shouldn't be that way
@@a.pieceofpie like men have to initiate the relationship. It just makes me sad. I appreciate Tony, you, and people here, looking out for women..like you would say to your sister...Don't rush in.
When a girl talks about a man in the early "crush" stages ... I always ask her how does he feel about you. If he isn't goo goo gah gah over you then leave. If a woman is more interested in the man I don't think it really works. And now one of the most honest men that most of us could get knowledge from is telling us that so we need to let that sink in.
We women are the ones doing the talking .the calling ..etc and that is why we think the relationship is working ...LOL!! ..a lot of times we don't stop to see what his actions ..opinions etc are ...when he says he is leaving etc we break down because "we did everything" and you know what ..we were doing everything .. that's why it hurts so much .... the guy was never checked in.....once I realized that my relationships were never the same ...
@@clarkclarke U hit the nail right on the head
Facts!!!
@@tjaspire wish I would have known this 😂
I learned the hard way. I will never so much as even like a man unless he like me first.
White chocolate mochas be hitting! Great message as always, Tony. Older women always say “never love a man more than he loves you” and it’s facts. Be blessed
It takes a man a lot to really open up and allow himself to fall in love. When a man loves you the most, you will know that it’s real for him. I’ve even heard some men saying they are not in love with their girlfriends/wives, but they love them.
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I hear men say this also And it shows
How to know if they just love you or they’re in love with you?
@@marrencebaraquiel As an exemple I love my friends but I’m “not in love”with them, if that make sense for you. This is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
How funny Tony that you mention that you would not like to do the things that women do on a daily basis and how you are amazed that we do it because just a few days ago my dad said the same thing. My mother passed away nine years ago and now that he is taking care of himself he realizes what a hard-working woman not only my mother was but all women. He also said that we are incredibly strong because we get sick and we keep on working and that men break a nail and they have to spend days in bed. Lol. I admire your drive and work ethic Tony.
Yes! I say this all the time..headaches, cramps, pinched nerves, just now feeling well OR FEELING LIKE DOING ANYTHING AT ALL..but we still do it.
Tony you are absolutely right! Thank you! I had that type man. My husband died 9 years ago. He was loving and caring and provided a great life for us. He built the house I continue to live in with his hands. I had a great husband.. and when women ask me how did I get that type of husband, I tell them.. first of all I’m a loving woman and wanted the best for myself, and didn’t settle.
I think I agree with you! If I ever love again, I will keep quiet about it until I hear him say he loves me first. If I don't hear him say it by the time I'm tired of waiting to hear it, I will just give up on loving him, drop it and move on. 👌🏼👏🏼
“Support ain’t FREE.” - Tony Gaskins Wooow that was a Word!
Isn’t it?! Wow
Im my experience with men is when most of them stop loving and treating you right, then he may be involved with another woman. If that's the case, he may never treat you like he use to.
Exactly.
This happens a lot of the time. Nothing can make a man stay unless he wants to stay. The involved with another woman part hurts
i just turned 18, ive been watching tony for 2 years and wow… all i have to say is thank you.🙏🏻 these are things i would never know.
Wow it's amazing that you're soaking this up at a young age. I pray that you apply what you're learning and stay focused on being a healthy young woman emotionally you spiritually. Enjoy your life but please live with wisdom 🙏🏽
You're SO lucky
Smart young lady, I'm proud of you!!!
I appreciate how Tony called his wife independent rather than calling her controlling because he understands her personality type
Many years ago I was told to never love a man more than he loves you. After dealing with the worst narcissist of my 20s ( notice I didn’t say life) I definitely understand why that statement was made.
Tony I’m experiencing men in their 40s and up that communicate that lifestyle with me. The men in their 20s and 30s still leaning towards the woman working. This is why women are more career driven and wanting children later in life, even marriage. I haven’t yet dated men my age that is willing to sit a woman down and work and pay all the major bills
Good on you for looking outside of that box because I for sure will never settle for that type of man. I know I'd be miserable!
I'm 29 and, I think that I'm heading for that trajectory.
Tell all the women to leave the workforce at the same time and stop competing with men most of these jobs aren't esential.
Just go for an older guy
If a man would love that way instead of as in a competition marriages would work and be happy. This was a very good explanation of how women reciprocate love and when men become complacent how women sometimes need to let it go.
Unfortunately there are men out here that wants to stay home and want the wife to work her fingers to the bone, while he stayed home and doing the bare minimum. This man was not focused, really did not want to work and was cheating. She got tired of being the bread winner and carrying him, so she divorced him. I don't think he loved her and married her for what he could get from her.
I never regret watching a video from you. Honest, relatable, and inspiring ❤️ have a nice one!
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It's not that your wife doesn't accept help, men are just sometimes halfish and don't pay as much attention to detail so it's actually less work for her to do it herself so she doesn't have to come behind you to re-do it. And it works out well bc you both perform well in your specific areas. It balances things out that she is type A with the house work
Some of them admit that they do this on purpose.. They do things badly so she will think "he doesn't know how to do it, better if I'll just do it myself and don't waste time". They play dumb just to hear "don't worry, I'll do it myself". So they show that they are willing to do something but they just can't make do it right, and at the end they don't feel responsible or guilty for not doing anything.
Or when they say to their partners "sure I can look after our son tonight..go out with your friends, take some rest" just to call her after ten minutes asking what to do, where is the food, what to do if the kid's crying, etc. Or "sure, I'll go buy groceries for you, stay home, relax" and then "hey babe, but where is x or y? How much I have to buy of that?". Even making meals it's about a lot of thinking: the amount of food, what kind, what to prepare, what will expire soon, so you buy less, what is in the fridge, what is missing, etc. And it's not normal that an adult don't know how to do this, you don't need to be a type A in the house work, it's just basic adult stuff: make a meal, do laundry, clean your house,..
@Priscilla They will search for another woman asap, or ask their mothers
@Priscilla Absolutely, but we live in a society were they teach little girls how to be a good future wife etc. since early years .. and they expect it (like helping with house chores etc.) but they don't do the same to their sons .. And now we see this dumb entitlement from grown men that don't know how to survive alone without their mothers. It's a sad truth and a messed up society. Not everywhere, or everyone, but still too many with this mentality.
The last minute of the video was extremely important and really clicked for me. It’s so important that a woman leave when a man gets complacent, even if he did love first to begin with. A woman “trying” more will not make a man love her more. That is not the language a man speaks.
“Nothing is free. You pay now, or pay later”
A whole word in that sentence
This is why I started listening to TG 🎧 since 2019.
His commutations skills are very methodical; and
my soul gets the message each and every time😊!
Thank you ☺️
I admire your wife! As a single woman I prayed to be able to be the house mother I desiree while I provide for me and my children. Definitely agree that it depends on what each couple agrees will work for them. God is faithful. Yes Sir leaving that legacy for your sons and family is what it's about. Amen!
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@tonygaskins My ex told me that he wouldnt mind staying home to be a stay at dad and the women/ mother going out and working, "He said whats wrong with that ?" ... I was shocked but then again he has always did the bare minimum when it came to life, no goals !! ... I knew right then we would never get back together... LMBO, NO THANKS !!
My ex fiance said something quite similar. His mother told me he would be a better helper than a leader I lost respect for him. I am so happy that I didn't follow through on the marriage. In order for me to love and marry I have to respect him .
@@uniquelondon1220 wow
-“What a man appreciates is what he has worked for. What a man respects is what he has worked for” TG
It's the message with in the message for me.
Man...may I be blessed with a husband who sees all that I do as his wife and the mother of his children and appreciates me like you do Tony🙏Love the way you love her honestly
OMG. I say the SAME thing to my husband. I don't like how he washes dishes, folds clothes and he can't cook. I just tell him to sit down. Cause honestly I end up going behind him and doing it again. Gotta be a Southern thing. 😂😂
Your so real I appreciate finding this channel! Very much needed during these times!! We need more men like this!
So grateful to have this perspective. Thank you, Tony. Hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday season! ♥️
Thank you for this message.
It was well received, and greatly appreciated.
Especially the part about you not wanting any handouts.
I have the exact, same mentality.
So, some odd years back, my ex mother in law, offered to purchase a foreclosed home and fix it up, for my now, ex husband, myself and our children, to live in. I told her no, that I did not want it, and I otherwise, did not accept it.
Now, it wasn't that I did not appreciate it, it's just that, I would have rather worked for it.
To this day, she, along with so many others, including her son, cannot understand, why I turned it down.
It goes back to that age old saying, "If you give a man a fish, he'll eat for a day, but if you teach a man to fish, he'll eat for a life time."
She's a real estate agent/investor and needless to say, I'd rather eat for a lifetime.
Hopefully, you reached my point.
Angel 💜😇
@@ohheynoella exactly. I asked her to teach me to fish, (teach me what she knows) so I could get it on my own, and then in turn, I could teach what she taught me, to her grandchildren (my children) and the rest of the generations to come.
Needless to say, she wasn't willing, because she wanted to keep me and her son, dependent upon her. He was then and very much still is, to this day, a grown boy, currently residing in one of her rental properties, pursuing his next victim, & living rent free, while myself & children (her grandchildren) are presently, homeless.
Now, had she been willing to teach me to fish, we wouldn't be.
But no worries though, because although it took for me to lose everything I owned, due to not using proper discernment, when it came to meeting and marrying her son, God is now teaching me how to fish. And with him teaching me, (by the way; lesson learned) I can no longer lose.
@@AwordwithAngel well said!!! I’m currently going through that now
@@AwordwithAngel well said!!! I’m currently going through that now
@@shantalbarbot5801 Thank you. It truly is a sad thing to have to go through. I'll keep you in my prayers, alongside myself.
Blessings!
Angel 💜😇
Wow. That's deep. You really value independence. And that probably was a wise idea. At this point in my life I am not strong enough to turn something like that down. Simply because I desire to love rent free lol I admire you. That takes guts. Grown woman foreal.
A women’s influence book is one of the best books I ever read 😊
I just got it in the mail!
i started reading it . So far it’s good 👍🏾
Absolutely!!
Be Blessed 😊
My most serious and earnest declaration as I believe God for my King/ husband is that he will show MORE love and affection for me than I'll have for him. My ❤ loves with loyalty and sincerely and I'm convinced that a man will have to take the lead in that ( period)! Real men are definitely pursuers/ hunters 🙌🏾
I'm here second taking notes 📝 as class is in session
I'm late, let me copy your paper. 😆
@@saetae9208 I got you Sis .
I was thinking of this yesterday ... and this pops up... thank you for the reinforcement.
Thank you so much Mr Gaskins for this 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank GOD for this Message & the Messager🌹
U r every inspirational & u & ur wife r very lucky to have each other. An ur relationship is the relationship i would like equality & a willing to work at keeping it together.
When I saw your book I was inspired to do a journal about turning pain into purpose. I piggybacked off your title, but my book topic and content are completely different. My book is about finding purpose through pain. I knew using the same title would make my book pop up when they searched for you. Just a strategy I wanted test out. Hope you don't mind. I would never steal anyone's content though. I'm a author and creator too, so I understand the work that goes into it. Love everything you do brother, and yes, I do take the advice you say literally. I started my own academy and left a toxic marriage with 7 kids because if you. Thank you.💕
Be Blessed!!! You ain’t never lied.
Awesome! Great topic to hear about from a man perspective.. thank you
Thank you Mr. Gaskin for what you do!! I really appreciate you being through and detailed in your videos!! Don’t change how you let God use you!!
Thank GOD For YOUR Knowledge and That You Share This Truth.
God bless you if only you. Could see and hear the progress I’ve made just by listening to you thank you for being a. Blessing in my life.
THANK YOU TONY SO MUCH FOR YOUR VIDEOS AND BOOKS I'M REALLY ENJOYING A WOMENS INFLUENCE , I ALSO LIKE TO THANK YOUR WIFE FOR HER PERSPECTIVE IN THE BOOK, PLEASE KEEP THE VIDEOS AND BOOKS COMING.
Thank you for acknowledging a family can be adopting or animals. For some women, it's too late or they are not able to have their own children. 🙏
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Awesome video Tony…thank you! The white chocolate mocha is my jam, too 😂
Good morning, it also has to do how your wife was raise. To be completely honest in the Caribbean we are raise like that and if you are born in the states with Caribbean mothers you are taught those values.
Thank you Tony!!
Hi Tony! Thanks for this video. Really vital information here. I know you're talking about men and women in a relationship scenario, but it makes me wonder also about how these principles can be applied to raising a son. As in making them EARN everything, rather than giving them things and they don't appreciate it and they squander it. Boys are a different type of animal. I don't have kids yet, but it got me thinking about that.
Great point
Amen Amen , Brother Tony !!
God's honest truth. Not one lie detected. Thanks for the reminder.
Thank you Tony ✨
Thank you for this. Im a supporter of yours and have welcomed your encouragement and wisdom. This video really hit home for me because what happens when you have a husband who is a self proclaimed, church-going Christian and quotes scripture verses but is NOT a provider and refuses to obtain gainful employment or elevate himself in order to elevate his family? He also apparently skipped over the scripture in the Bible that mentions a man who doesn't work doesn't eat. What is a woman to do?
I'm ok with working, but it would feel good to be able to have that helpmate, but as far as being a housewife that's not my life. lol! I want someone to be able to help me clean up or even wash clothes or dishes. I would definitely be ok with him paying all the bills but I like to make my own money, so if I need to leave I can and no one can hold their money over my head... which when u are married it's suppose to be "our money". I just wanted to comment of this part of the video, I agree pretty much with everything else u were talking about.
I loved first, got ghosted, lesson learned, never again but good message!
It’s a blast Tony because you are in purpose, in God’s will.🙌
Thank you so Much Mr. Gaskin!!! Iv been wanting to hear your perspective and Gods design of the responsibility of Man/Husband!! I’m thanking God for this video!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
PREACH!!!!!N Amen
Makes sense to me about the car. You want what you want and your were willing to pay for it.
I enjoy the back story Tony. Thoroughly!!!💯💯💯💯💯
I’m sorry but the men I approach are emotionally unavailable and are lazy to put me in commitment
Not surprised ..... Let them come to you
lol I’m not an expert but I’ll say mistake #1; Approaching them.
@@mojadah10 no they approach me than fall off the wagon
When my kids go off to school I can go get a job at office etc. But im finishing up schooling and running my own business im 35. I hope by 39 38 I can have kid
First a man must REALLY KNOW not think that love is without conditions attached to really know he's in love. I dated a man who said he loved me...but he had a condition and it was that he did not want to MARRY again after his wife had died...he's still single after 3 years after I let him go.😐
If I read your statement right . Love does have conditions . The only unconditional love that exist is between you and your kids other than that love has conditions
Bravo
Get that white chocolate mocha!! Sounds delish
12x12 is 144 items a day. That’s a whole lot of washing clothes!
This would be nice. I always felt I liked them more
My horrible abusive ex blatantly said he wanted me working so he could sleep in all day.
He is trifling 🤬
Hey 👋 Tony, I have a very unique story and I would like to write ✍️ a book. I’m ready to put the work in. I watch your videos a lot and I respect ✊ how you are completely. Please reach back out. I’d like to share my story and see if you have any advice on the steps I should take to get started on my book. Thank you 🙏🏽
congradulations!!! it's true!
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12x12 , that’s 48 items a day took me out. Lmfaooooo. I said I think he meant 12x4
I am a realtor who has done welll have always had a high standard ) I WANT A MAN WHO CAN Pay ALLL THE BILLS SO I CAN REDUCE WHAT I DO OR ACTUALLY STOP WORKING !!) and I make this clear from day 1
Lemme get some of those peanuts too
You so funny 😆
Good afternoon 👋🏽
Good afternoon!!!
Hey, I drink a WCM too! GOOD TASTE
I like ur wife ideas ohh u guys stay home together all day n work and when kids get out then time for sports
I don’t know if she copied ME or if I copied HER 😩😩😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣
I would have been a GREAT Wife smh 😩
Help me please!
Tony, give us the plug for those boiled peanuts nahhhh.
Love the video as usual. I do want to run the household and have a husband provide a living, leave a legacy, and providing generational wealth. I have a question, as a single mom and admire yall parenting skills. How do I deal with a daughter who won't do schoolwork but is respectful?
She needs dad for that
💯
The laundry. :)
So hard 4 all. I have my own business I made it this way I learned because I wanna raise my kids an pick them up be a stay home mom . And I can do 100k a year
Men love Woman but NEVER BE IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN period. Look up Men in Love with Woman. This to see how the conducted themselves in this dynamic. She must always respect you because she can not love you. Her expression love by her actions not her words. Because Woman are as the wind they will say I Lo-ve you and hate you the next hour. She will be ready to move on to a Man with more stuff. This is based on Money, Status, and material possession of the lost value system. This taught to woman by there Femininism teachers (Their Mothers.) Be safe Brothers also the good Sisters who actually want to be wives without a motive🤔.
With all do respect yall go through too many outfits a day. Im 45 and never... I love your content always though
How so do a women finds the reverse. Im have a creative mind. I rather make a living. nd have my future husband do kids laundry amd cooking. I mean I will help but I really want a man that can be a stay at home dad. He can have a pt job or side hustle but I want to be able to work and know my kids and the home is taken care of
Nothing wrong with having a partner who WANTS and UNDERSTANDS "the goal" but most men don't have that understanding.... staying at home for a man is different from staying at home for a woman .... if he was not already raised to understand responsibility.. flexibility...respect ..... communication..... there is no way he understands to cook..clean.. laundry.. school drop off and pick up etc ... There is a lot that goes into taking care of a home and children...not much time to be playing games ... physical.. emotional or otherwise ....
it is said team work makes the dream work
Hope it works out for you🙏🏾
@@clarkclarke yea I had it with both my children's fathers. i only did homework regularly everything else they did the majority I would just pitch in of needed. Im a mom of 4 but they always start to get heavily intoxicated be it drug and alcohol so I was forced to leave both relationships bc they would not get help. So now Im stuck doing what doing what TG does and Sheri does and Im exhausted. Literally running on fumes. Been in the hospital a few times for burnout. i have 0 help
I think if you tried something and it failed you should maybe listen to Tony's message and follow his advice.
I think if you tried something and it failed you should maybe listen to Tony's message and follow his advice.
@@AriesTiger1 im definitely listening to his advice. It should made me aware I will need to make more money to be able to afford a full time nanny, chef, and tutor. So my future husband can do what fulfills him also
26:34…… 🎯
🤢 i love these hour long videos🤗
Is it possible for you to answer any of these questions without going into religion?
You’re on the wrong page. To ask a Christian to omit Christ, you don’t understand the changing power of Christ. To ask me to not speak on my beliefs is like asking me to live without breathing. Bless you!
The audacity!🙄
@@TonyGaskins 🙌🙌🙌👑💜
I hope Tony repents over the last comments you passed in this video. So you are going against the word of God in 1 Peter 3 :1-2 which tells women to continue doing good to their men even if their husband is not doing the same. Tony advises you to withdraw your benefits as a wife until your husband reciprocates. That is why the world as what it is today with our motivational speakers all coming up with their own principles that never work and lead people to perdition. Guys please read the word of God and follow it only!
So when a husband is not obeying God's teaching and is not persuaded by the way their wife lives by submitting, she should just continue to take the disrespect? The Bible didn't say be a fool. You have to know when to hold'em and when to fold'em.
@@MissPrettySweetC this isnt what 1 Peter 3 1-2 says. Im not asking anyone to be fools but your behavior and perseverance may end up saving that same man. I guess long suffering and perseverance is not longer a thing in modern day lives after all we only live once!
@@iolasoy they also took a man outside the village and killed him for collecting sticks on a Sunday in deuteronomy. We following the Bible literally still or what?????? Stop it.
@@thebarbieinvestor5428 the New Testament is meant to be followed literally okay However the Old Testament you quoted is the law and has been replaced by the new covenant. It’s meant to help you understand the nature of God but not Ff literally
Thank you Tony.