Well this issue is all about individuals and environment. As a yoruba man, I lived in the midst of yoruba and igbo while in Nigeria. I am married to an igbo woman and its the second most important decision I have made after accepting Christ. About a decade now and no regrets. Having said that I think it's easier and more common to see Yoruba men marrying other tribes. No tribe is superior or better than another. I have seen terrible yoruba people and terrible igbo people. I have also see amazing yoruba people and igbo people too(especially my wife). Let's love appreciate and tolerate ourselves and we will have a glorious Nigeria
I can marry from any where in this world even though am from North Central.I only care about the person being a true christian. Once you are a true Christian, you are indeed my brother and sister.
People have sentiments over different things.Some religion, tribe, color. These things make us different, but people can truly find beauty in differences.
This is also very wrong and discriminatory. There’s no such thing as a true Christian beings whites made up the religion. But good luck with all that sir.
@rdokoye please Nigeria is one don’t bring disunity and for real if not for the Igbos Nigeria will not be that recognized as it is today the business minds behind Nigeria they’re every where in the World
@rdokoye Thank you for this. Idk why they can’t understand that concept. They hate Igbo, belittled, marginalize and degrade us yet, still shouting “We are one” whenever we mention we want out of that rubbish engagement. One Nigeria my ass.
Yorubas and Igbos can get along anytime, as we have similar ideologies. The main problem is, injustices done against the Igbos during and after the nigerian/Biafran war. Sadly, these unjust acts are still been perpetrated, under a different face. All seaports and intl airports closed in the east, but open in lagos, etc. Love and unity between the tribes will only come, when these evils are corrected. Hypocrisy is, when you keep smacking a child, and still ask him the cause of his tears!
My sister, Nigeria's tribalism scares me o! I was born into a Yoruba family, in a small West/Central African island. Brought up by my grandmother, a Yoruba woman from Abeokuta, Ogun State. My grandmother was considered as a mother to all, both to the natives on the island and Nigerians alike of all tribes referred to her as mama; in turn, the old woman considered all of them as her sons. So, I was brought up to respect every human being irrespective of their color, tribe or religion. I dare not misbehave or disrespect anybody because the reaction and verdict of my grandma will never be in my favor. My great shock of tribalism started when for the first time in 1975 I traveled to Nigeria. I was made to know that although my surname is Yoruba, but my face is more of an Easterner (an Igbo). You can't believe that I was made jest of even within my household. Not to mention when I became a sales representative in Lagos, I suffered both in the hands of Ibos and Yorubas. The Yorubas discriminated against me because of my facial appearance and not being able to speak Yoruba language fluently. On the other hand, some Ibos who would have welcomed me at face value, would later dramatically turn against me once they noticed my Yoruba surname. Well, with the support of our director, I spent more time preaching against tribalism than doing my normal selling job. At the end of the day and to my surprise, I had more Ibo friends than Yorubas. My philosophy of life became even up to date, “show love to everybody, and move closer to people who accept you as you are.” Also, I later discovered that they're some good Nigerians out there from different tribes with world view who are completely detribalized. Today, I deal with racism like many of you in the diaspora. If you ask me between tribalism and racism which one is better, I would say “none” is better, but I think I can endure racism more than tribalism. The reason is that one being outside of his country/continent, can become blind to some of these things (although in some situations it’s almost impossible) rather than suffer tribalism within one’s country and within his own people, is that not painful and a tragedy, considering that Nigeria is not the only country with different tribes or nationals? Other societies even some European countries downplay that dark part of their history. We, especially Africans should make effort to accommodate, live and let's live; after all, they say, "Charity" begins at home. For me as a person, mine at least is almost over, but I worry for my children who cannot even speak Yoruba language. Anyway, all hope is not lost, we will continue to pray, and support and push for someone like Omoyele Sowore for a modern and a detribalized Nigeria, where all Nigerians will be happy and their rights protected.
@Courtie Shay I used to think Nigerians are one then I traveled to Nigeria is more like 4 countries in one place. They don't like each other that well. They activities of their Government even shows that
It’s amazing how this stuff goes on everywhere. It completely sucks. My mother is Colombian and hates our neighbor Venezuela; my father is Russian and they don’t like their brother countries, like Poland, my grandmother was Serbian and you know how Serbs and Croatians were killing each other; brothers in the same country. So stupid. I’m with you; hate, bigotry and prejudice of any kind, and am so tired of this crap. It’s absolutely exhausting. Aaargh! We’re all human!!! And that song is awesome, by the way! Blended is best (my opinion)!💖
Aisha Johnson. Serbia and Croatia used to be one country under Yugoslavia so she’s right 100%. In fact they fought a war to break away that’s what she was trying to say but you missed the most important of the comment which is hatred, prejudice and tribalism that bring nothing but deadly wars if not managed
I am a half Yoruba and half Igbo Teen and I love it, being able to experience both cultures and both languages is so special and no 'cultural norms' should be able to say that that shouldn't happen
I'm ibo and married to a wonderful Ekiti man. I wouldn't have done it another way. These tribal sentiments are just stuff passed down from our parents which has distorted our feelings for each other. Most of my siblings are married to people from different tribes and I bless my parents for bringing us up the way they have done...
Well my Yoruba friend is the neatest lady l have ever met, her home is immaculately clean. She has three jobs and her bosses love her to bits because of her maintaining the Cleaness of the Offices she works at, her Bosses all don't want to loose her as a Staff.
My Aunt got married to an Igbo man. Of all the son-inlaw that we have, he is the only one I look up to. Funny enough if I'm asked to choose between my Aunt and her husband, I'll choose the man. I stayed with them for about 6months after my service year and my perspective changed. Being a true Christian is all that matters. Before I left, I started paying attention to the language and igbo culture generally. For me, so long she's a Christian and I like her, I marry her, end of story.
AM A GHANIAN MY MUMMY IS IGBO, I AM SMART AND BLESSED BECAUSE OF THE BLESSING OF MY MOTHER IGBO. AMONG ALL MY COUSINS, WE ARE THE MOST BLESSED , AND MY DADDY LOVE MY BEAUTIFUL IGBO MOTHER. MY MOTHER IS FROM IGBO ANAMBRA STATE WOMAN. SHE IS THE MOST INFLUENTIAL AMONG OTHER WIVES OF MY UNCLES. I WILL MARRY IGBO WOMAN.
Hi Summer, I stumbled on one your videos and I have always loved watching you and listening too. I am a Yoruba guy who loves pple doesn't matter where you are from. I love this particular video because this issue of hating one another is what has stopped us as a pple , nation to move forward. If you personally talk to pple and dialogue, ask why he or she hates igbo or Yoruba even Hausa, they don't know why. All they talk about is " we don't trust them , etc" . I think it's time we all start to deal with each other individually because then you can identify who is nice and who is not, regardless of tribe etc. Thank you for the video, very educative . God bless you.
Please my lovely people, We need positive vibes!! There are lots of devilish acts going on in the world presently due to things like this. Lets spread love. God bless us all. ❤
The best people that I’ve known are all Igbos. They are my friends and I love them dearly. Igbo women are people to die for. They are the best. Those one with thick Igbo accent when speaking English are pure turn on. God bless the Igbo women.
Good for you. Now let an igbo person make similar statement and you will see how my igbo brethren will rush over to swallow the person up. If you go thru the comment thread, you will see what I am talking about.
I am an Igbo man that speak and write yoruba when I find it tough to write igbo. Summer I can tell you one thing, I don't think an Igbo man really cares compared to his yoruba counterpart when it comes to tribes. I tell my yoruba friends that they find it easy to get our girls but when they see their girls dating an Igbo man this is what tell her....ah were ori eniyan fe, omo yibo lo lofe. Translating ah mad girl you no see person to marry na ibo person you go marry. Igbo people travel a lot and because of that they know not to start trouble but there's a limit to their tolerance. This topic can be debated nonstop by both sides without a winner or looser.
Great discussion. For those of us with ancestral roots in both cultures confirmed, it is hard to understand this division. Those of us in the diaspora are trying to reach back and learn about the people and cultures lost to us, to only find separation and division. We become stuck in the between place of the people that flow in our veins not getting along. When we as the separated people already find it hard to be accepted, as we know we’re not culturally Yoruba or Igbo, it makes us sad. If you can’t get along, we don’t have a chance of learning about our people. My majority African makeup is over 50% mix of Yoruba and Igbo, very high because I have recent great great grandparents straight from what is now known as Nigeria.
Pls let's be honest Igbos and yoruba won't work ,the recent happenings in Nigeria shows it, look at the closure of tradefare complex by Lagos state government, look at how yorubas attacked Igbos in Lagos during the last elections,yorubas have been telling Igbos to go home,the extortion from Igbo traders at oniru market,the constant closure of ladipo market to affect Igbos,now Igbos are advising themselves not to make any major investments in Lagos . Summer aku yorubas say Igbos want to take over Lagos. The animosity on Igbos is increasing if you marry a yoruba enjoy it, we Igbos have decided to face our land
Please don't generalise. Those ones are politician and their thugs. A lot of Igbos are in Ondo State. Nobody attacked them. They voted peacefully. One politician does not equal all yoruba people
Ibo and Yoruba wouldn't work for people like you, I have work plenty ibos in Lagos and we have enjoyed good relationships throughout the time that I spent with them in Nigeria and hoping to see them anytime I go back to Nigeria... Dialogue can solve a lot of problems. Let's swallow pride and face reality. I so much love my ibo brothers and sisters❤
From personal experience as a yoruba girl. My sister married a man from Anambra state. Unfortunately my igbo sister is was bad. The verbal, physical and emotional abuse my sister went through. I can not stop crying in her behalf. She loved him dearly. But they are divorced now. And it is for the better. My cousin on the other hand married an igbo man. He is pro biafra, pro trump everything but treats my cousin very well they live in England. I mean I guess it depends on who you meet.
I agree totally. My aunt married yoruba and the family gave her hell.. all hated her calling her omo ibo oshi etc. and finally divorced..my sis married yoruba they are a joy to behold.
I’m a Yoruba lady. I was once married to an ibo guy. He ends up beating up both of my parents and that’s what ended my marriage with him despite we have kids together . That experience alone made me hate the ibo tribe . despite we have ibo family friends that are very good people to us for over 35yrs
@@justme123456100, i'm sorry about the bad experience you encountered in your marriage. Didn't you see some signs that he was a vicious person, prior to you marrying him? With that being said, that practice is not synonymous with only Igbos but all tribes. I know you're angry but you can't paint a whole tribe with the same brush. I just hope you find a good man that will cherish you and your kids.
The funny thing is that Igbos and Yorubas are way more similar than we think. We have similar goal and aspirations. We both work hard, etc. Even some words are the same or very close. For example: Nose: Igbo (imi), Yoruba (imu) Stone/rock: Igbo (okwute), Yoruba (okuta) Kick the ball: Igbo (Gbaa ball.), Yoruba (Gba ball) Please, the Yorubas in the house, correct my spelling. It is up to us in this generation to threw all our prejudices aside and unite.
Blessings from America, you have millions descended from you in S. America, N. America, Europe and the Carribean. Very surprising to hear our original land is divided as well, keep teaching.
I understand there’s that inherited hate between the two tribes but I think cultural diversity in any marriage is generally something to be very cautious and aware of! I’m British and my husband is Yoruba, I’ve learnt both people need to be very open to change/compromise when in a relationship with someone with a different culture to your own.
If you mean couples of different ethnicities, yes of course I do. I am in one. I’m in no way talking about ‘colour’ in my comment. My husband and I have taught our children that we are all the same ‘colour’ which is ‘skin colour’ we are just all different shades of this colour. I am very anti labelling people as races or colours we are one race... the human race. The point I was trying to make was cultural differences add to the challenges in any relationship. That could be two European’s from different countries, two African’s from different countries or a mixture of any two different cultures around the world. Obviously all couples would have this on a family tradition level. But when a couple are culturally diverse the differences are exaggerated compared to those who share a common general culture.
temmydizzle thats a silly statement the jews have not forgotten what happened to them in nazi Germany, Rwandans still celebrate remembrance of the genocide they faced. So how can you say the igbo’s should forget about the war when 2million innocent people were starves to death till this day the war is not taught in schools unless nigerians start recognising the war my brother it will be hard to forget
temmydizzle Do you know how much the us spent on reconstruction and aid after the war. What did nigeria do for the igbos after the war nothing. So before bringing up other wars read a book bro
temmydizzle am not bitter bro but people dont want to be honest and see that they the igbos have not been treated fairly after the war thats it. Inter tribal marriage is good in my opinion
It's deeper and goes waayyy back than most will ever know. I am from neither but wondered too. When the Almighty Creator woke me up and I started to understand who we really are, I start to understand what is going on with us. It will be too deep to understand but read; Isaiah 11:11-13. Knowing our identity will sort answer a lot of our questions. Peace✌🏾
Several cousins and nieces are married to Igbo men and they are all happily married. I know so many Igbos who grew up in Lagos and speak Yoruba better than me sef. We treat each other as family and will do anything to support and help each other. It’s probably only the people in the village who are embracing that kain mindset. A lot of people have moved beyond that type of thinking. Thank God all that has been left behind. I was so sure I would marry an Igbo man because I was only toasted by Igbo guys back then.
I think the hatred started after Biafra war and many Igbo believe that Yoruba soldier's play a big part of the civil war and more fire was Ignited when Igbo started saying Lagos is no man's land, that is one of the words an average Yoruba hated most.
@Daniel Okeke TV, the fact that he stated that he speaks yorùbá Does not in any way suggest that he hates being Igbo. We suffered a lot during that war, but I think we need to heal and move forward. If we don't try to heal from our pain, then there's no way we can find true joy in this world.
@Oyin Ade remain were you no body want you guys is obvious that the reason why y'all is coming close to us because of our wealth I'm very sure because that was what a Yoruba girl told me and I don't like it marry your men please
My sister summer thank you for yr Good work the grush between us as Nigeria people is our government we are all one sorry for my ignorance I think I don't know anything God bless you and yr generation
I'm reading the comments and everyone is saying something different. As a non-Nigerian, I can objectively say that it's based on history and personal experience. People say the same thing about tribes in Kenya where I'm from. People also say the same things between white and black people. People wanna pin evil onto their phenotypes, when really it has to do with their hearts.
@@ziziiapple5591 Thank you! That's just my thoughts on it. As I was reading, I saw one after the other defend whether they think Igbos are good or bad or Yorubas are good or bad. How can fact be so inconsistent? It's all based in deep personal wounds.
You are so wrong. If i go into a bar or shop in london do you think i look around at peoples RACE . WE DO NOT CARE AS LONG AS I GET SERVED WITH DECENCY. YOU SHUD KNOW MILLIONS DIED IN WARS IN EUROPE. LOOK AT YOUR OWN AFRICAN TRIBALISM N IGNORANCE. I SEE KENYANS HATING WHITES AS IF WE CARE. BUT NO MORE TOURISTS BOTHER WITH KENYA hurt them in their pockets n they might have more manners..
I’m Ghanaian , but this is so interesting to hear about between the two tribes. There’s also been fights between Africans (Ghanaians and Nigerians) too. We both share so similar cultures.
My entire life I never thought Nigerian was divided but by season 16 of Jenifa’s Diary I sense that Nigeria is sort of divided like many others country.I have researched so much and I can’t believe it,it eye opening and senseless.And I keep hearing one Nigeria and am like unless there’s a problem but why they keep saying that.
This hatred is real I worked In Lagos for over 10 years and I felt the hatred. I was omo ibo to some people. i actually overheard one lady in my office refer to me as that in a very sarcastic manner. Infact you will even have stunted growth in some organizations in Lagos as a result of being Igbo with all the back stabbing going on. Funny thing was that I was oblivious of this till I moved to Lagos after university for my NYSC. I was so young and just couldn’t understand what was going on And just like you rightly said Summer, many of the people doing the hatred have no idea why they feel that way. Simply no justification for the hatred Nigeria is just a special kind of place It was one of the reasons I left the country I realized at some point in my children’s lives they will be unfairly judged because of their tribe
I agree with you. I grew up in Enugu. I had a classmate in secondary school that was Yoruba. She was well loved. No discrimination whatsoever. I was, and still is, shocked at the discrimination and hatred here. Several times when am house hunting, I was told I couldn't get an apartment because am Igbo!!! And, if Lastma catch you and you can't speak Yoruba, you don enter that day. It's really disheartening seriously. I preach love but honestly I can't marry a Yoruba man because I don't want to be judged/ hated because of my tribe. It's something I don't have control over. So, I steer clear of Yoruba men. Incidentally, many Yoruba men like Igbo women. Some will tell you to teach them your language because they love it. They like that our girls are committed in relationships and marriages, are home- builders, respect their husband and their list is long.
@@chichy1535 my sister they can't love us the ladies and hate our men, I stay totally clear off Yorubas, if relationship goes beyond SS&SE count me off, I might accept to marry Idoma in Benue state but for Yorubas it's a no go area.
I’m igbo. My husband is Yoruba. I’m in a beautiful blend. My inlaws love me. My husband adores me. My father in law is a Yoruba king who had never crossed the Niger bridge before my igbankwu. I prefer to deal with relationships on a case by case basis. People are people and will do people things. I won’t use a generic brush on everyone.
We are one, our many different tribes’ affiliations should not divide us, it should unite us as one. We should cherish and celebrate our cultures richness and the beauty as one.
Respect for this topic Summer,this were the issue we need to Address because as far as am concerned Racism and discrimination originated from Africa, for instance Africans travelled to Europe and America for greener pastures ,they married the europeans and American indigene ,they travelled to foreign Land and seek for equality but Back at Home,maginalisation,tribalism,nepotism,and culture diversity is their main and Routine pleasure.. Not until we address and put aside our differences otherwise we still have a Long way to go.. because our forefathers have inserted the hatred on the new Generation, it is the duty of the young Generation to say No to the old Sentiment of our forefathers because the world is advancing while we are busy fighting ourselves unnecessarily. My Personal opinion. Have a nice pleasant week.
Racism and tribalism is allowing foreigners to control our destiny, I recently did my ancestral DNA, which shows I'm partly Benin, Congolese, southern bantu, Ghana, Ivory coast and Togo. Looking down on anyone equate to looking down on yourself. We belong to richest continent but still the poorest due to our attitude towards one another
Here in states i realize that once u are a Nigerian we all have same characters i think to me our problems as two different tribe ate envious and jealousnes for each other one tribe we say we are d most educated and sophisticated ones the other tribe we say we are d most bizness pple and d one building d nation economy but to me i repeat it we r the same Nigerians in our attitudes here cuz I've lived,worked and lives we both
You must also realize that the yorubas, always want to be on the top.they never want to see any other southern region develop.which explain why they always join hand with rhe fulanis to bring down other southern region.look at their role during the so call civil war(genocide against igbos). look at the way they worked against Jonathan in 2015.choosing an illiterate fulani ma.these people are simply jealous of the fact igbos keep succeeding, despite all the marginalization.and they will surely fail. yorubastards.hate them with passion.
Hehehe 🤣🤣🤣🤣 aje okuta, ma momi 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Honestly, am here laughing really hard at all the 12 reasons 🤣🤣🤣🤣. If the 12 reasons are laughable, then they are not worth it. Love is all that matters ❤❤❤
My father is from Akure and my mother is from Asaba. I was partially raised by my auntie who married a prominent Hausa man thus I am by tribe a Yoruba man and maternally Delta Igbo. I am also connected to my Hausa cousins. We all related very well with each other and other tribes. I am lucky and well brought up with love from these tribes. I thanked our parents that they understand love and went above this tribalism. My FEAR. I see a war coming as some parents are passing down bad feelings amongst the new generations.
It's not supremacy.. The problem is that these tribes cannot co-exist among each other... They were not supposed to co-exist.... It was the white man who caused us to come together... If not we existed separately and peacefully
@@mac2milla441 It is time we open our minds to the good in each culture. I grew up having Igbo classmates and we all get along well and I know we can live together.
It's the politicians that are playing the tribes against themselves. Until we learn to ignore these politicians the resentments will continue. The funny thing is there has been a lot of inter marriages between the two tribes
I am an igbo girl, married to a yoruba man and it is the best decision I've ever made in my life. I have peace, love & joy and we've been married for 11yrs
The list is heart wrenching. Although it was a generational thing and thank God this prejudice is disappearing because we are now better educated. Discrimination do happen within my tribe (Yoruba) too. I remember growing up, we used to hear that we should not marry ladies from Ijebu and Abeokuta because of old rivalries and differences between them and the rest of Yoruba, and I use to question our fathers and mothers then. I made them realise that I will marry anybody I fal in love with and this old things won't stop me. Fortunately and happily for them, I marry a lady from same town as us.
Truthfully you just need to see the person not the tribe. My best man at my wedding 30 years ago was and my brother in law is Igbo. I think it was Martin Luther King who implored Americans in his day to look beyond the colour of the skin to the content of one’s character. Same principle should apply here.
Yes sir..that's right...I'm from USA..I NEVER EVER KNEW ALL THIS IS HAPPENING IN YOUR COUNTRIES..OMG..SO SORRY..I ALSO WANT TO VISIT NIGERIA IN 2021....IDK NOW!!😞😭😭
I think the hatred started after Biafra war and many Igbo believe that Yoruba soldier's play a big part of the civil war and more fire was Ignited when Igbo started saying Lagos is no man's land, that is one of the words an average Yoruba hated most.
Woman, why not be proud to be an African or a human.... it's obvious you haven't travelled abroad then you'll loose the idea of being Igbo but a proud African (a minority in Europe) among many Europeans who only see firstly your colour as an identity but you therefore knowing who you are as a proud African in Europe can lift your head high. Over here they don't give a bread whether you are Igbo or Yoruba, everyone sees you as African.... Something you should be proud of, not some tribal associations that's seeded with internal discrimination of local differences.
@Dan Don this your write-up shows you lack home training, this is why you come on Internet saying rubbish, do you have respect for your Yoruba girls before attacking others with your stupid logic? hatred will kill you,
I think the problem is actually poverty promoted by our government. What’s dividing us should actually be the strong point to build our union. Ajokuta ma mu omi in the past means that ibo people like making their Eba and Iyan harder than yorubas. This I believe made ibos strong people. Yorubas on the other hand cook with a lot of palm oil, which makes our egusi stew looks palatable. I am a Yoruba man, I love Isi Ewu, I love fura de nunu and all the rest. We are one ☝️ Nigeria. Our government should stop corruption and promote hard work. Provide jobs for the youths so they can stay busy and stay away from idle talks. The people you see fighting on the streets are agberos and people that are doing Baranda. You won’t see bankers oil industry workers, construction Engineers on the street fighting over whether ibo is better than yorubas or otherwise. Yorubas, Ibos, Hausas, ibiobio, Efik and all the rest are one. This is the main reason we have the nysc service.
Freddy Sonya yes actually the course of it all is poverty if those thugs were busy some where working some where wouldn’t have gotten time for thuggery works
Is just ignorance,love got nothing to do with our differences. Am partly igbo and yoruba by birth. Sis Summer Weldon on this topic, all tribes has good and bad people.
Our two tribes are some of the best in the country , and we all know about it. Both tribes can bring so much to the table. We can complement each other.. It defies logic why we don't easily see eye to eye. But wait a minute, circumstances can get us in each other's arms, not on each other's throats. It will be awesome. It will be a model democracy in Africa where emphasis will move from domi ating one tribe to the most heathy competition. Think about it.
Thank you my sis for at least raisings ur voice to address this issue. Part of the reason why southern Nigeria has been raped badly. The two tribes are brilliant people with wonderful colourful cultures. From an Igbo point of view our parents felt so betrayed during the event leading on to the war by the Yoruba's led by Awo. Bcos of that singular event and today they feel so caged in Nigeria and they blame the Yoruba's who supposedly back stabbed them during the Biafra war which claimed so many Igbo lives. Had Awolowo not reneged, did a u turn and join the north, the Igbo's could have been on their own now. That's the Igbo side. Don't really know abt the Yoruba grouse except fear of the Igbo domination. In the end, I feel it is more of rivalry. No one would cede an inch to the other in a supposed superiority stuff. Trust me, individually the Igbo's and Yoruba's get on so well mostly in business, socially etc. But beneath that is always that deep rivalry and suspicion. ( its not hate)
Nice one... Preach the love... Former military governor of Oyo State- Colonel Ike Nwosu adopted a Yoruba girl that was left for dead in Ibadan years back. That was an Igbo man showing love to a Yoruba girl then. Governor Ike Nwosu adopted Bose that was the girl's name as her own. I think some people or ritualists drove a 6 inch nail into the girl's head and she was found on Christmas or New year'd eve then by very good Samaritans or say Nigerians. The incident then touched the mind of people then and after. I think she was about 4 or 6 year old then. Let us show love to one another. By nature humans are racist or tribalistic but with love, understanding and knowledge we can overcome all these. One Nigeria.
Most parents don't go for holidays in other states with their children to learn more about other cultures. A child may spend over two decades under their parents in their geographical zone without stepping into other states to experience a different form of lifestyle. Some of their now-grown children may be lucky enough to gain university admission into other geographical zones --that's if they even make the effort to explore other universities outside of the ones in their states/provinces. This rare opportunity exposes them to other cultures for the first time in their lives. I once met an Igbo girl abroad who had never lived outside of her State. It was a big leap for her travelling abroad all the way from her State, Imo. Her Igbo accent was very strong, & had never experienced life outside of her province. In fact, her first time in Lagos was the time she had to board the flight abroad. This is how clingy some people can be to their states. They're not interested in mingling with other tribes. They'd school, work, marry & die in their states. The Nigerian university system doesn't also make it easy for the students who wish to explore by schooling in other parts of Nigeria. These Universities always prefer to fill up their admission seats with their own citizens before leaving whatever number of seats left to the overqualified students from other provinces. This makes it tough for these foreign students to gain admission, hence, discourages them from schooling outside of their states. This tribalism also affects the labour force & private businesses too. The government compensated for this by introducing the NYSC. If they aren't daft, shouldn't they mandate that every university must admit, at least, 50% of students from other states? This's far more effective than the NYSC crap. The only people that aren't usually biased when it comes to tribal issues in Nigeria are those who grew up in multicultural states like Abuja & Lagos. This had enabled me to have friends all over Nigeria. It made me fluent at calling many tribal names; familiar with a lot of cuisines; understood much sense of humour; know a few phrases in many languages etc. The list is inexhaustible. Until universities stop being tribalistic by admitting students regardless of their state of origins, and corporate orgs. start giving jobs to the deserving candidates who qualify, & not based on the state of origins, it will continue like this. PS. There was a time I went to a Calabar restaurant to buy an Afang soup. When I brought it home, my mom was irritated by it, shook her head in pity & went straight into her bedroom. I began munching my soup with fufu, & then she suddenly resurfaced back into the parlour where I was eating. She couldn't get over the aroma emanating from the soup. This tempted her to have a taste of it. She reluctantly tasted it with a doubtful face, as if to confirm the absurdity of the soup's taste. Her face lightened like a spark when the soup landed on her tastebud. And she said: "Why didn't you buy many?" See the significance of living with other ethnic groups? Her generation definitely feels this way.
If na spanish man speak english with his strong spanish accent you wont talk..but once its an igboman you all rant and say hes igbotic..okay make we no use our mother tongue speak again?...you all think yorubas dont have strong accent??but you wont see igbos say hes yorubatic or so.
😂😂😂😂😂 kilo fa ija 😂😂😂😂 I'm married to my wonderful ibo husband. We are attracted to our differences. Our children are beautiful and respectful. That music is so funny. Opposite attract. My dear it's us that should make the new family of love not hate. It's old history and should not define us. 💕✌
"Three weeks ago, Chief Awolowo publicly endorsed the East's demand for a loose confederation of Nigeria's four existing regions: East, West, Mid-West and North. Chief Awolowo also went on record as saying that if the East seceded, the West will automatically follow, setting in motion the possible brake-up of the federation. The fact that he has now consented to join Gen. Gowon's advisory group indicates at least his temporary acceptance of the General's policies." ---------- New York Times. Saturday June 3, 1967
"Awolowo dismantled Fiscal Federalism in 1968 (usurping oil ownership and control from South-East and Mid-West Regions to the center controlled by Hausa-fulani-Yoruba) and as the author of Gowon's economic policy from 1967 - 1970, he stripped the Southern Minorities of their resource rights and control through the Chief G.I. Dina Commission." --- Obi Nwakanma Vanguard Newspapers Sunday July 31, 2005.
"Awolowo was a devil and his policies led to the present problems that the people of Niger Delta are fighting…the Yoruba instead should apologize to the Niger Delta people for the federal government’s policies the late premier of defunct Western Region influenced against the interest of the Niger Delta.” -------- Asari Dokubo Champion Newspapers Tuesday march 22, 2005.
Unless Awolowo pay us back our money, and the abandoned properties in Port Harcourt which he was master planner. Since Yoruba don't see anything wrong with his action and always celebrate him as their hero, we don't see any reason to associate with such hypocrite...
We are one,tribalism is evil. My ibo friend speak better ekiti language with proverbs ....I trust them and love them.i also have Hausa friend.I am blessed with good friends from other tribes.
Sis summer....thanks for having this discussion on your forum...the inter marriage issues are due to the fact that Nigerians don't know real love or practice it....as our Lord Jesus died for.... Most Nigerians parents didn't teach their children real love (hence back) but fear and competition...as a kids they were thought not to be mumu......till today...most parents don't know how to tell their children that I love you...most Nigerians only express like as love...that's one the reasons...if the root of a tree is rotten...there wouldn't be a tree... As you know with love the heart is pure and forgiven...but if all a child grew up with is the opposite how can he or she really know what love means.... The same reasons why Nigerian marriages countinues to fail...bc there's no real love...bc if you have love for that person...you won't lie to hurt their feeling or cheating with somebody...or things that will hurt the next person.....Jesus Creed do unto others as you wish upon yourself... That's y the tribes can't talk to each other... Without love how can a marriage survive not talking of inter marriages... Nigerians are afraid of each other but pretends that they like each other....even Igbo to Igbo fails...same as Yoruba....bc of the absent of love... What's the difference between kkk n tribalism...it's the same....some Nigerians are racist....but they themselves don't know that they are racist like a racist white person.... The only way to change this problem is to let every Nigerian parent to start expressing real love in speeches and behavior....if not that problem will never change...it's a virus.... Also this adds another dimension to the fact that the government in Nigeria politics and politicians... cannot inter marry the ideas that will help their country but to steal n plunder...bc there's no love.....
People hate jehovah witnesses because they always knock on your door when you don'thave time and on the street if you want to vive them chance for 5 mins you'll end up arguing for 5 hours.
I think the problem started from Biafran war period ,but am an igbo man ,I think there is no much difference between yorubas and igbos ,cos after igbos pray they shout isee nd yorubas will shout ashee, so we re not much difference from each other, but they told us that Banjo and Awolowo betrayed us in Biafra war nd you know it has been hard for igbos to forget about the war cos they killed us with no feeling ,like we were not human being .
And yet we cry about racism and xenophobia when when we travel out of Nigeria. When we can't love ourselves we expect others to love us. 😢
My thoughts exactly! The truth is, racism, tribalism, prejudice, and xenophobic can't be eradicated but it can be reduced.
Africans have been killing and enslaving themselves for the past 3-5 thousand years. African men taught white men about slavery.
The hate in Nigeria is far more than the racism we face outside Nigeria
Wahab Odusola
I wonder o
Especially those that promote it via social media
Why even give such negative exposure?
Abi ooo my darling... Ask us??
Well this issue is all about individuals and environment. As a yoruba man, I lived in the midst of yoruba and igbo while in Nigeria. I am married to an igbo woman and its the second most important decision I have made after accepting Christ. About a decade now and no regrets. Having said that I think it's easier and more common to see Yoruba men marrying other tribes. No tribe is superior or better than another. I have seen terrible yoruba people and terrible igbo people. I have also see amazing yoruba people and igbo people too(especially my wife). Let's love appreciate and tolerate ourselves and we will have a glorious Nigeria
Thank you so much for this. I'm glad you're enjoying your marriage.
The woman made mistake
I can marry from any where in this world even though am from North Central.I only care about the person being a true christian. Once you are a true Christian, you are indeed my brother and sister.
People have sentiments over different things.Some religion, tribe, color. These things make us different, but people can truly find beauty in differences.
thats nice @ Jibrin...
Do North ve xtians?
I guess Jack gowon must be one.
Do something else pls
JIBRIN MARIAM I will like know you more Mariaim
This is also very wrong and discriminatory. There’s no such thing as a true Christian beings whites made up the religion. But good luck with all that sir.
Nigeria, a nation of almost 200 million people, would be a super power if they could overcome tribalism.
Super power......why?
Igbo and Yoruba need to unite. Outside of Nigeria they see us all the same.
Please there’s no difference between y’all ogini Kilode
@rdokoye Nigeria is one
@rdokoye please Nigeria is one don’t bring disunity and for real if not for the Igbos Nigeria will not be that recognized as it is today the business minds behind Nigeria they’re every where in the World
@rdokoye Facts!
@rdokoye Thank you for this. Idk why they can’t understand that concept. They hate Igbo, belittled, marginalize and degrade us yet, still shouting “We are one” whenever we mention we want out of that rubbish engagement. One Nigeria my ass.
Yorubas and Igbos can get along anytime, as we have similar ideologies. The main problem is, injustices done against the Igbos during and after the nigerian/Biafran war. Sadly, these unjust acts are still been perpetrated, under a different face. All seaports and intl airports closed in the east, but open in lagos, etc. Love and unity between the tribes will only come, when these evils are corrected. Hypocrisy is, when you keep smacking a child, and still ask him the cause of his tears!
My sister, Nigeria's tribalism scares me o! I was born into a Yoruba family, in a small West/Central African island. Brought up by my grandmother, a Yoruba woman from Abeokuta, Ogun State. My grandmother was considered as a mother to all, both to the natives on the island and Nigerians alike of all tribes referred to her as mama; in turn, the old woman considered all of them as her sons. So, I was brought up to respect every human being irrespective of their color, tribe or religion. I dare not misbehave or disrespect anybody because the reaction and verdict of my grandma will never be in my favor.
My great shock of tribalism started when for the first time in 1975 I traveled to Nigeria. I was made to know that although my surname is Yoruba, but my face is more of an Easterner (an Igbo). You can't believe that I was made jest of even within my household. Not to mention when I became a sales representative in Lagos, I suffered both in the hands of Ibos and Yorubas. The Yorubas discriminated against me because of my facial appearance and not being able to speak Yoruba language fluently. On the other hand, some Ibos who would have welcomed me at face value, would later dramatically turn against me once they noticed my Yoruba surname. Well, with the support of our director, I spent more time preaching against tribalism than doing my normal selling job. At the end of the day and to my surprise, I had more Ibo friends than Yorubas. My philosophy of life became even up to date, “show love to everybody, and move closer to people who accept you as you are.” Also, I later discovered that they're some good Nigerians out there from different tribes with world view who are completely detribalized.
Today, I deal with racism like many of you in the diaspora. If you ask me between tribalism and racism which one is better, I would say “none” is better, but I think I can endure racism more than tribalism. The reason is that one being outside of his country/continent, can become blind to some of these things (although in some situations it’s almost impossible) rather than suffer tribalism within one’s country and within his own people, is that not painful and a tragedy, considering that Nigeria is not the only country with different tribes or nationals? Other societies even some European countries downplay that dark part of their history.
We, especially Africans should make effort to accommodate, live and let's live; after all, they say, "Charity" begins at home. For me as a person, mine at least is almost over, but I worry for my children who cannot even speak Yoruba language. Anyway, all hope is not lost, we will continue to pray, and support and push for someone like Omoyele Sowore for a modern and a detribalized Nigeria, where all Nigerians will be happy and their rights protected.
First of all is not ibo but Igbo.
God bless you sir
@@jidennaofficial6832 second of all? Was looking forward to more substantive contribution from you, following your "first of all"....
I laughed when you said Igbos should have welcomed you on your "Face value". How does your face look? 😁😁😁😁
I always thought Nigerians are just Nigerians....all i know is you are one of the most brilliant nations in Africa....
@Courtie Shay I used to think Nigerians are one then I traveled to Nigeria is more like 4 countries in one place. They don't like each other that well. They activities of their Government even shows that
Wilma Swanepoel LOVE YOU! love from Nigeria!
Lol...how's Nigerians just Nigerians? And what's even the meaning of being a Nigerian? @Wilma Swanepoel
@Kedu Nu Biafrans had a state for 3 years. So u need to go back further than that to figure out who is who
@Kedu Nu so Igbo were originally Biafran? and Yoruba are nigerian?
I'm proudly IGBO and I don't care about tribe, race, colour e.t.c, I'm going wherever I find love and happiness.
Thank you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Welcome sister
Chigozie gi
@@IamGodSonyou're not the smartest.
It’s amazing how this stuff goes on everywhere. It completely sucks. My mother is Colombian and hates our neighbor Venezuela; my father is Russian and they don’t like their brother countries, like Poland, my grandmother was Serbian and you know how Serbs and Croatians were killing each other; brothers in the same country. So stupid. I’m with you; hate, bigotry and prejudice of any kind, and am so tired of this crap. It’s absolutely exhausting. Aaargh! We’re all human!!!
And that song is awesome, by the way! Blended is best (my opinion)!💖
M. Roman you're talking of people from two different Nations (Countries) she's talking about people from the same Country.
Aisha Johnson. Serbia and Croatia used to be one country under Yugoslavia so she’s right 100%. In fact they fought a war to break away that’s what she was trying to say but you missed the most important of the comment which is hatred, prejudice and tribalism that bring nothing but deadly wars if not managed
Human behave foolish sometimes
you all need to learn history 😶🌫
It is well.
I am a half Yoruba and half Igbo Teen and I love it, being able to experience both cultures and both languages is so special and no 'cultural norms' should be able to say that that shouldn't happen
Interesting how much the Tribes are like from what you 🤔 notice and understand ?
I'm ibo and married to a wonderful Ekiti man. I wouldn't have done it another way. These tribal sentiments are just stuff passed down from our parents which has distorted our feelings for each other. Most of my siblings are married to people from different tribes and I bless my parents for bringing us up the way they have done...
@@dozzatv9068 lol! As per say na you born me na
BuBu IK you can’t even write Igbo, is not ibo is actually Igbo if your really from Igbo land
Ora jor aya mi did you understand Ekiti and do you like to eat Iyan and ( obe osiki )😁 we love you
My Friend you are not Genuine Igbo
That is so true tribalism is a African issue which makes unity so hard
Well my Yoruba friend is the neatest lady l have ever met, her home is immaculately clean. She has three jobs and her bosses love her to bits because of her maintaining the Cleaness of the Offices she works at, her Bosses all don't want to loose her as a Staff.
My Aunt got married to an Igbo man. Of all the son-inlaw that we have, he is the only one I look up to. Funny enough if I'm asked to choose between my Aunt and her husband, I'll choose the man. I stayed with them for about 6months after my service year and my perspective changed. Being a true Christian is all that matters. Before I left, I started paying attention to the language and igbo culture generally. For me, so long she's a Christian and I like her, I marry her, end of story.
This is nice
Lobe that
This is encouraging. We should share more of these examples. May God continue to bless their marriage
@@chidacat Amen, Thank you. Happy New Year to you.
@@SavvyOlawale Thanks, and same to you, Happy New Year!
Shai! Summer can dance ooo💃💃💃 you and Emma are killing it 🤣🤣🤣🤣
AM A GHANIAN MY MUMMY IS IGBO, I AM SMART AND BLESSED BECAUSE OF THE BLESSING OF MY MOTHER IGBO.
AMONG ALL MY COUSINS, WE ARE THE MOST BLESSED , AND MY DADDY LOVE MY BEAUTIFUL IGBO MOTHER.
MY MOTHER IS FROM IGBO ANAMBRA STATE WOMAN.
SHE IS THE MOST INFLUENTIAL AMONG OTHER WIVES OF MY UNCLES.
I WILL MARRY IGBO WOMAN.
Oga get work first
God bless you
@@frankkingsley9721 Your comment is completely off topic. After all he said, how is your response, "Oga get work first". Nawa o
@@chynyee 😜😜isi aki obasara gu
@@frankkingsley9721 Isi aki oyibo, ogbasakwara m o 😅😂🤣. Edehala ya na Social media, ogbasara onye o bula.
Omg the song is so funny and danceable sis u are good at dancing oh let me keep watching
Hi Summer, I stumbled on one your videos and I have always loved watching you and listening too. I am a Yoruba guy who loves pple doesn't matter where you are from. I love this particular video because this issue of hating one another is what has stopped us as a pple , nation to move forward. If you personally talk to pple and dialogue, ask why he or she hates igbo or Yoruba even Hausa, they don't know why. All they talk about is " we don't trust them , etc" . I think it's time we all start to deal with each other individually because then you can identify who is nice and who is not, regardless of tribe etc.
Thank you for the video, very educative . God bless you.
Please my lovely people, We need positive vibes!! There are lots of devilish acts going on in the world presently due to things like this. Lets spread love. God bless us all. ❤
It is not HATRED; the issues are SUSPICION, LACK OF TRUST, & FEAR OF BETRAYAL.
The best people that I’ve known are all Igbos. They are my friends and I love them dearly.
Igbo women are people to die for. They are the best. Those one with thick Igbo accent when speaking English are pure turn on. God bless the Igbo women.
Good for you. Now let an igbo person make similar statement and you will see how my igbo brethren will rush over to swallow the person up.
If you go thru the comment thread, you will see what I am talking about.
I am an Igbo man that speak and write yoruba when I find it tough to write igbo. Summer I can tell you one thing, I don't think an Igbo man really cares compared to his yoruba counterpart when it comes to tribes. I tell my yoruba friends that they find it easy to get our girls but when they see their girls dating an Igbo man this is what tell her....ah were ori eniyan fe, omo yibo lo lofe. Translating ah mad girl you no see person to marry na ibo person you go marry. Igbo people travel a lot and because of that they know not to start trouble but there's a limit to their tolerance. This topic can be debated nonstop by both sides without a winner or looser.
Waoo! If you can dance so well like this while sitting down I can't imagine how good you will dance when on your feet.thanks dear I enjoyed the video
Beautiful sis love it 😍
Great discussion. For those of us with ancestral roots in both cultures confirmed, it is hard to understand this division. Those of us in the diaspora are trying to reach back and learn about the people and cultures lost to us, to only find separation and division.
We become stuck in the between place of the people that flow in our veins not getting along.
When we as the separated people already find it hard to be accepted, as we know we’re not culturally Yoruba or Igbo, it makes us sad. If you can’t get along, we don’t have a chance of learning about our people.
My majority African makeup is over 50% mix of Yoruba and Igbo, very high because I have recent great great grandparents straight from what is now known as Nigeria.
Pls let's be honest Igbos and yoruba won't work ,the recent happenings in Nigeria shows it, look at the closure of tradefare complex by Lagos state government, look at how yorubas attacked Igbos in Lagos during the last elections,yorubas have been telling Igbos to go home,the extortion from Igbo traders at oniru market,the constant closure of ladipo market to affect Igbos,now Igbos are advising themselves not to make any major investments in Lagos . Summer aku yorubas say Igbos want to take over Lagos. The animosity on Igbos is increasing if you marry a yoruba enjoy it, we Igbos have decided to face our land
If tribe is an issue in your marriage, the problem is not the tribe, it's you
Please don't generalise. Those ones are politician and their thugs. A lot of Igbos are in Ondo State. Nobody attacked them. They voted peacefully. One politician does not equal all yoruba people
@elsie onyejekwe gbam nwanne dalu chukwu gozie gii na ezu nulo gii
Exactly
Ibo and Yoruba wouldn't work for people like you, I have work plenty ibos in Lagos and we have enjoyed good relationships throughout the time that I spent with them in Nigeria and hoping to see them anytime I go back to Nigeria...
Dialogue can solve a lot of problems. Let's swallow pride and face reality.
I so much love my ibo brothers and sisters❤
Here’s the link to Emma OhMyGod’s song
ruclips.net/video/vfKGb0ZpmhU/видео.html
Aww summer! Now I understand why you made this video....! God be with you dear. 🙏🤗
From personal experience as a yoruba girl. My sister married a man from Anambra state. Unfortunately my igbo sister is was bad. The verbal, physical and emotional abuse my sister went through. I can not stop crying in her behalf. She loved him dearly. But they are divorced now. And it is for the better. My cousin on the other hand married an igbo man. He is pro biafra, pro trump everything but treats my cousin very well they live in England. I mean I guess it depends on who you meet.
My dear you're truly right.
I agree totally. My aunt married yoruba and the family gave her hell.. all hated her calling her omo ibo oshi etc. and finally divorced..my sis married yoruba they are a joy to behold.
Yes it does...people are different
I’m a Yoruba lady. I was once married to an ibo guy. He ends up beating up both of my parents and that’s what ended my marriage with him despite we have kids together . That experience alone made me hate the ibo tribe . despite we have ibo family friends that are very good people to us for over 35yrs
@@justme123456100, i'm sorry about the bad experience you encountered in your marriage. Didn't you see some signs that he was a vicious person, prior to you marrying him?
With that being said, that practice is not synonymous with only Igbos but all tribes. I know you're angry but you can't paint a whole tribe with the same brush.
I just hope you find a good man that will cherish you and your kids.
The funny thing is that Igbos and Yorubas are way more similar than we think. We have similar goal and aspirations. We both work hard, etc. Even some words are the same or very close. For example:
Nose: Igbo (imi), Yoruba (imu)
Stone/rock: Igbo (okwute), Yoruba (okuta)
Kick the ball: Igbo (Gbaa ball.), Yoruba (Gba ball)
Please, the Yorubas in the house, correct my spelling.
It is up to us in this generation to threw all our prejudices aside and unite.
I agree. Both tribes do have similarities.
Blessings from America, you have millions descended from you in S. America, N. America, Europe and the Carribean. Very surprising to hear our original land is divided as well, keep teaching.
Am just reading the comments and smile ,can somebody join me and give this lady big thanks to this wonderful sister.
I understand there’s that inherited hate between the two tribes but I think cultural diversity in any marriage is generally something to be very cautious and aware of! I’m British and my husband is Yoruba, I’ve learnt both people need to be very open to change/compromise when in a relationship with someone with a different culture to your own.
Do you support a marriage between people of different race?
If you mean couples of different ethnicities, yes of course I do. I am in one. I’m in no way talking about ‘colour’ in my comment.
My husband and I have taught our children that we are all the same ‘colour’ which is ‘skin colour’ we are just all different shades of this colour. I am very anti labelling people as races or colours we are one race... the human race.
The point I was trying to make was cultural differences add to the challenges in any relationship. That could be two European’s from different countries, two African’s from different countries or a mixture of any two different cultures around the world. Obviously all couples would have this on a family tradition level. But when a couple are culturally diverse the differences are exaggerated compared to those who share a common general culture.
The main thing is the Biafra war hatred inherited from Parents of that Era!
Yep HANG OBSANJO.
U r absolutely right. My man.
temmydizzle thats a silly statement the jews have not forgotten what happened to them in nazi Germany, Rwandans still celebrate remembrance of the genocide they faced. So how can you say the igbo’s should forget about the war when 2million innocent people were starves to death till this day the war is not taught in schools unless nigerians start recognising the war my brother it will be hard to forget
temmydizzle Do you know how much the us spent on reconstruction and aid after the war. What did nigeria do for the igbos after the war nothing. So before bringing up other wars read a book bro
temmydizzle am not bitter bro but people dont want to be honest and see that they the igbos have not been treated fairly after the war thats it. Inter tribal marriage is good in my opinion
It's deeper and goes waayyy back than most will ever know. I am from neither but wondered too. When the Almighty Creator woke me up and I started to understand who we really are, I start to understand what is going on with us.
It will be too deep to understand but read;
Isaiah 11:11-13.
Knowing our identity will sort answer a lot of our questions.
Peace✌🏾
Thanks sis this video is awesome we are the same people 👌🏾❤️😘
It's not just Yoruba and igbo its everywhere
There is no hatred, but such cultural diversity that adjusting may be difficult without compromise
Several cousins and nieces are married to Igbo men and they are all happily married. I know so many Igbos who grew up in Lagos and speak Yoruba better than me sef. We treat each other as family and will do anything to support and help each other. It’s probably only the people in the village who are embracing that kain mindset. A lot of people have moved beyond that type of thinking. Thank God all that has been left behind. I was so sure I would marry an Igbo man because I was only toasted by Igbo guys back then.
I think the hatred started after Biafra war and many Igbo believe that Yoruba soldier's play a big part of the civil war and more fire was Ignited when Igbo started saying Lagos is no man's land, that is one of the words an average Yoruba hated most.
Like me am igbo but I speak yoruba very well u can not know am igbo only if I tell you
@Daniel Okeke maka why
@Daniel Okeke TV, the fact that he stated that he speaks yorùbá Does not in any way suggest that he hates being Igbo. We suffered a lot during that war, but I think we need to heal and move forward. If we don't try to heal from our pain, then there's no way we can find true joy in this world.
@Oyin Ade remain were you no body want you guys is obvious that the reason why y'all is coming close to us because of our wealth I'm very sure because that was what a Yoruba girl told me and I don't like it marry your men please
My sister summer thank you for yr Good work the grush between us as Nigeria people is our government we are all one sorry for my ignorance I think I don't know anything God bless you and yr generation
Did you guys catch the "36 million naira serpent" in that song? Lol🤣🤣🤣 ...I fell out 😂😂😆😆
😂
You can watch the full song here
ruclips.net/video/vfKGb0ZpmhU/видео.html
Lol... Yeah
I'm reading the comments and everyone is saying something different. As a non-Nigerian, I can objectively say that it's based on history and personal experience. People say the same thing about tribes in Kenya where I'm from. People also say the same things between white and black people. People wanna pin evil onto their phenotypes, when really it has to do with their hearts.
Very true
Cindy Makori wow,ur last paragraph was deep sister
@@ziziiapple5591 Thank you! That's just my thoughts on it. As I was reading, I saw one after the other defend whether they think Igbos are good or bad or Yorubas are good or bad. How can fact be so inconsistent? It's all based in deep personal wounds.
You are so wrong.
If i go into a bar or shop in london do you think i look around at peoples RACE .
WE DO NOT CARE AS LONG AS I GET SERVED WITH DECENCY.
YOU SHUD KNOW MILLIONS DIED IN WARS IN EUROPE.
LOOK AT YOUR OWN AFRICAN TRIBALISM N IGNORANCE.
I SEE KENYANS HATING WHITES AS IF WE CARE. BUT NO MORE TOURISTS BOTHER WITH KENYA hurt them in their pockets n they might have more manners..
@@thepresence2095google5 mombasaraha.
U might get lucky..
I’m Ghanaian , but this is so interesting to hear about between the two tribes. There’s also been fights between Africans (Ghanaians and Nigerians) too. We both share so similar cultures.
love love your dress !
My entire life I never thought Nigerian was divided but by season 16 of Jenifa’s Diary I sense that Nigeria is sort of divided like many others country.I have researched so much and I can’t believe it,it eye opening and senseless.And I keep hearing one Nigeria and am like unless there’s a problem but why they keep saying that.
This hatred is real
I worked In Lagos for over 10 years and I felt the hatred. I was omo ibo to some people. i actually overheard one lady in my office refer to me as that in a very sarcastic manner. Infact you will even have stunted growth in some organizations in Lagos as a result of being Igbo with all the back stabbing going on.
Funny thing was that I was oblivious of this till I moved to Lagos after university for my NYSC. I was so young and just couldn’t understand what was going on
And just like you rightly said Summer, many of the people doing the hatred have no idea why they feel that way.
Simply no justification for the hatred
Nigeria is just a special kind of place
It was one of the reasons I left the country
I realized at some point in my children’s lives they will be unfairly judged because of their tribe
Aptly captured
I agree with you. I grew up in Enugu. I had a classmate in secondary school that was Yoruba. She was well loved. No discrimination whatsoever. I was, and still is, shocked at the discrimination and hatred here. Several times when am house hunting, I was told I couldn't get an apartment because am Igbo!!! And, if Lastma catch you and you can't speak Yoruba, you don enter that day. It's really disheartening seriously. I preach love but honestly I can't marry a Yoruba man because I don't want to be judged/ hated because of my tribe. It's something I don't have control over. So, I steer clear of Yoruba men. Incidentally, many Yoruba men like Igbo women. Some will tell you to teach them your language because they love it. They like that our girls are committed in relationships and marriages, are home- builders, respect their husband and their list is long.
@@chichy1535 my sister they can't love us the ladies and hate our men, I stay totally clear off Yorubas, if relationship goes beyond SS&SE count me off, I might accept to marry Idoma in Benue state but for Yorubas it's a no go area.
How do you know how to speak both igbo and Yoruba?
I love you tho keep it up .
One love keep us together, easier said than done though.
I’m igbo. My husband is Yoruba.
I’m in a beautiful blend.
My inlaws love me.
My husband adores me.
My father in law is a Yoruba king who had never crossed the Niger bridge before my igbankwu.
I prefer to deal with relationships on a case by case basis. People are people and will do people things. I won’t use a generic brush on everyone.
SUMMER you forced me to love ❤ you for your plain openeness . You are fantastic!!!!
U have said it all ❤
You're beautiful, intelligent, unbiased and a lovely person. If only all Nigerians have your type mentality.
Well done sis. One love
coochie eater ..
omg.. the name!!!
THAT NAME😂😭😂😭😂😭
@@doctorfeline9911 it is what it is😉
We are one, our many different tribes’ affiliations should not divide us, it should unite us as one. We should cherish and celebrate our cultures richness and the beauty as one.
You have tried very well nice one there 100%
Respect for this topic Summer,this were the issue we need to Address because as far as am concerned Racism and discrimination originated from Africa, for instance Africans travelled to Europe and America for greener pastures ,they married the europeans and American indigene ,they travelled to foreign Land and seek for equality but Back at Home,maginalisation,tribalism,nepotism,and culture diversity is their main and Routine pleasure.. Not until we address and put aside our differences otherwise we still have a Long way to go.. because our forefathers have inserted the hatred on the new Generation, it is the duty of the young Generation to say No to the old Sentiment of our forefathers because the world is advancing while we are busy fighting ourselves unnecessarily. My Personal opinion. Have a nice pleasant week.
Racism and tribalism is allowing foreigners to control our destiny, I recently did my ancestral DNA, which shows I'm partly Benin, Congolese, southern bantu, Ghana, Ivory coast and Togo. Looking down on anyone equate to looking down on yourself. We belong to richest continent but still the poorest due to our attitude towards one another
Here in states i realize that once u are a Nigerian we all have same characters i think to me our problems as two different tribe ate envious and jealousnes for each other one tribe we say we are d most educated and sophisticated ones the other tribe we say we are d most bizness pple and d one building d nation economy but to me i repeat it we r the same Nigerians in our attitudes here cuz I've lived,worked and lives we both
You must also realize that the yorubas, always want to be on the top.they never want to see any other southern region develop.which explain why they always join hand with rhe fulanis to bring down other southern region.look at their role during the so call civil war(genocide against igbos). look at the way they worked against Jonathan in 2015.choosing an illiterate fulani ma.these people are simply jealous of the fact igbos keep succeeding, despite all the marginalization.and they will surely fail. yorubastards.hate them with passion.
Hehehe 🤣🤣🤣🤣 aje okuta, ma momi 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Honestly, am here laughing really hard at all the 12 reasons 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
If the 12 reasons are laughable, then they are not worth it.
Love is all that matters ❤❤❤
What's your point
My father is from Akure and my mother is from Asaba. I was partially raised by my auntie who married a prominent Hausa man thus I am by tribe a Yoruba man and maternally Delta Igbo. I am also connected to my Hausa cousins. We all related very well with each other and other tribes. I am lucky and well brought up with love from these tribes. I thanked our parents that they understand love and went above this tribalism. My FEAR. I see a war coming as some parents are passing down bad feelings amongst the new generations.
I think it depends on the family. But I am happy to see more of the cultural diversity in this generation.
You are right
The two tribes blame their unhappiness on each other,it's a struggle of supremacy between the two,the misunderstanding will not end soon.
It's not supremacy.. The problem is that these tribes cannot co-exist among each other... They were not supposed to co-exist.... It was the white man who caused us to come together... If not we existed separately and peacefully
@@mac2milla441 It is time we open our minds to the good in each culture. I grew up having Igbo classmates and we all get along well and I know we can live together.
Titi hell no we can’t .
@@samuelokorie5181 including those that are married and living happily?
you will never see a Yoruba person blame his misfortune on the Igbos. it is always the reverse. ALWAYS
I'm a Liberian but I like the music. Do they have common boundaries?
You are so right Summer.
Hi sis.
I don’t know the difference 😁. All I see is, Nigerians (Africans like me) 😁. Sorry for my ignorance.
Stay blessed. 💐😘
Nothing to be sorry about sis
You’re speaking the truth
It's the politicians that are playing the tribes against themselves. Until we learn to ignore these politicians the resentments will continue. The funny thing is there has been a lot of inter marriages between the two tribes
Right! ❤️...
I am an igbo girl, married to a yoruba man and it is the best decision I've ever made in my life. I have peace, love & joy and we've been married for 11yrs
May God continue to bless your union.
And who cares
And who cares
@@danielochuba6809 sharap
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The list is heart wrenching. Although it was a generational thing and thank God this prejudice is disappearing because we are now better educated. Discrimination do happen within my tribe (Yoruba) too. I remember growing up, we used to hear that we should not marry ladies from Ijebu and Abeokuta because of old rivalries and differences between them and the rest of Yoruba, and I use to question our fathers and mothers then. I made them realise that I will marry anybody I fal in love with and this old things won't stop me. Fortunately and happily for them, I marry a lady from same town as us.
Good talk but it will certainly makes no change.
Truthfully you just need to see the person not the tribe. My best man at my wedding 30 years ago was and my brother in law is Igbo. I think it was Martin Luther King who implored Americans in his day to look beyond the colour of the skin to the content of one’s character. Same principle should apply here.
Yes sir..that's right...I'm from USA..I NEVER EVER KNEW ALL THIS IS HAPPENING IN YOUR COUNTRIES..OMG..SO SORRY..I ALSO WANT TO VISIT NIGERIA IN 2021....IDK NOW!!😞😭😭
WE Love Some Martin Luther KING❤❤👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏USA
My mom is halfJamaican and half South African and my dad is half Trinidadian and half Guyanese. I was born and breed in NYC. Marry who you want
I enjoy your stories
Sis are you promoting the music or what lol. Thou I like the way you dance. Well done
Proud 2 be igbo🤞🏽. Haters gonna hate🤷🏽♀️
I think the hatred started after Biafra war and many Igbo believe that Yoruba soldier's play a big part of the civil war and more fire was Ignited when Igbo started saying Lagos is no man's land, that is one of the words an average Yoruba hated most.
Dan Don loool but we don’t, maybe your mother does
You ain't gonna hate any of these tribal, beautiful woman like you will always be proud to be igbo but all the same let the love spread. God bless
Woman, why not be proud to be an African or a human.... it's obvious you haven't travelled abroad then you'll loose the idea of being Igbo but a proud African (a minority in Europe) among many Europeans who only see firstly your colour as an identity but you therefore knowing who you are as a proud African in Europe can lift your head high. Over here they don't give a bread whether you are Igbo or Yoruba, everyone sees you as African.... Something you should be proud of, not some tribal associations that's seeded with internal discrimination of local differences.
@Dan Don this your write-up shows you lack home training, this is why you come on Internet saying rubbish, do you have respect for your Yoruba girls before attacking others with your stupid logic?
hatred will kill you,
I am Proudly yoruba......is just ignorance not to marry each other
Both a BUNCH OF COWBOY PASTORS..
Exactly
Queen Jo you should be because your a Yoruba not that they the best in Nigeria
I think the problem is actually poverty promoted by our government. What’s dividing us should actually be the strong point to build our union.
Ajokuta ma mu omi in the past means that ibo people like making their Eba and Iyan harder than yorubas. This I believe made ibos strong people. Yorubas on the other hand cook with a lot of palm oil, which makes our egusi stew looks palatable.
I am a Yoruba man, I love Isi Ewu, I love fura de nunu and all the rest. We are one ☝️ Nigeria. Our government should stop corruption and promote hard work. Provide jobs for the youths so they can stay busy and stay away from idle talks. The people you see fighting on the streets are agberos and people that are doing Baranda. You won’t see bankers oil industry workers, construction Engineers on the street fighting over whether ibo is better than yorubas or otherwise.
Yorubas, Ibos, Hausas, ibiobio, Efik and all the rest are one. This is the main reason we have the nysc service.
Freddy Sonya yes actually the course of it all is poverty if those thugs were busy some where working some where wouldn’t have gotten time for thuggery works
Hmmm! The title got me.
Nice blend of Music.
I guess exposure and education in regards to traveling out will bridge the gap. Hopefully, the younger generation will see things differently
Prince Aghamiogie who wise like God
Is just ignorance,love got nothing to do with our differences. Am partly igbo and yoruba by birth. Sis Summer Weldon on this topic, all tribes has good and bad people.
Thanks for saying that I am a yoruba woman dating a wonderful igbo man. Treats me like Gold. Love is love.
Our two tribes are some of the best in the country , and we all know about it. Both tribes can bring so much to the table. We can complement each other.. It defies logic why we don't easily see eye to eye. But wait a minute, circumstances can get us in each other's arms, not on each other's throats. It will be awesome. It will be a model democracy in Africa where emphasis will move from domi ating one tribe to the most heathy competition. Think about it.
You're 100% right sister
I'm a Yoruba man and most of my friends are igbo, we are all brothers and sisters...God bless you summer
We are not brothers Yoruba betrayed we igbos
@@ojukwubucket8735 gbam thank you brother
You betrayed us and Hausa first
Thank you my sis for at least raisings ur voice to address this issue. Part of the reason why southern Nigeria has been raped badly. The two tribes are brilliant people with wonderful colourful cultures. From an Igbo point of view our parents felt so betrayed during the event leading on to the war by the Yoruba's led by Awo. Bcos of that singular event and today they feel so caged in Nigeria and they blame the Yoruba's who supposedly back stabbed them during the Biafra war which claimed so many Igbo lives. Had Awolowo not reneged, did a u turn and join the north, the Igbo's could have been on their own now. That's the Igbo side. Don't really know abt the Yoruba grouse except fear of the Igbo domination. In the end, I feel it is more of rivalry. No one would cede an inch to the other in a supposed superiority stuff. Trust me, individually the Igbo's and Yoruba's get on so well mostly in business, socially etc. But beneath that is always that deep rivalry and suspicion. ( its not hate)
Aptly captured
Hi Summer. Welcome back. How are your family? Are you doing a family Vlog for Christmas day?
Nice one...
Preach the love...
Former military governor of Oyo State- Colonel Ike Nwosu adopted a Yoruba girl that was left for dead in Ibadan years back. That was an Igbo man showing love to a Yoruba girl then. Governor Ike Nwosu adopted Bose that was the girl's name as her own.
I think some people or ritualists drove a 6 inch nail into the girl's head and she was found on Christmas or New year'd eve then by very good Samaritans or say Nigerians. The incident then touched the mind of people then and after. I think she was about 4 or 6 year old then.
Let us show love to one another.
By nature humans are racist or tribalistic but with love, understanding and knowledge we can overcome all these.
One Nigeria.
Most parents don't go for holidays in other states with their children to learn more about other cultures.
A child may spend over two decades under their parents in their geographical zone without stepping into other states to experience a different form of lifestyle.
Some of their now-grown children may be lucky enough to gain university admission into other geographical zones --that's if they even make the effort to explore other universities outside of the ones in their states/provinces. This rare opportunity exposes them to other cultures for the first time in their lives.
I once met an Igbo girl abroad who had never lived outside of her State. It was a big leap for her travelling abroad all the way from her State, Imo.
Her Igbo accent was very strong, & had never experienced life outside of her province. In fact, her first time in Lagos was the time she had to board the flight abroad.
This is how clingy some people can be to their states. They're not interested in mingling with other tribes. They'd school, work, marry & die in their states.
The Nigerian university system doesn't also make it easy for the students who wish to explore by schooling in other parts of Nigeria. These Universities always prefer to fill up their admission seats with their own citizens before leaving whatever number of seats left to the overqualified students from other provinces. This makes it tough for these foreign students to gain admission, hence, discourages them from schooling outside of their states.
This tribalism also affects the labour force & private businesses too.
The government compensated for this by introducing the NYSC. If they aren't daft, shouldn't they mandate that every university must admit, at least, 50% of students from other states? This's far more effective than the NYSC crap.
The only people that aren't usually biased when it comes to tribal issues in Nigeria are those who grew up in multicultural states like Abuja & Lagos.
This had enabled me to have friends all over Nigeria. It made me fluent at calling many tribal names; familiar with a lot of cuisines; understood much sense of humour; know a few phrases in many languages etc. The list is inexhaustible.
Until universities stop being tribalistic by admitting students regardless of their state of origins, and corporate orgs. start giving jobs to the deserving candidates who qualify, & not based on the state of origins, it will continue like this.
PS.
There was a time I went to a Calabar restaurant to buy an Afang soup. When I brought it home, my mom was irritated by it, shook her head in pity & went straight into her bedroom.
I began munching my soup with fufu, & then she suddenly resurfaced back into the parlour where I was eating. She couldn't get over the aroma emanating from the soup. This tempted her to have a taste of it. She reluctantly tasted it with a doubtful face, as if to confirm the absurdity of the soup's taste. Her face lightened like a spark when the soup landed on her tastebud. And she said: "Why didn't you buy many?"
See the significance of living with other ethnic groups? Her generation definitely feels this way.
ALEXEIS U are so sweet!! I love ur submission nd ur soup story with ur Mum!! U are a great guy!! Keep it up!! Good nd positive mindset!!
If na spanish man speak english with his strong spanish accent you wont talk..but once its an igboman you all rant and say hes igbotic..okay make we no use our mother tongue speak again?...you all think yorubas dont have strong accent??but you wont see igbos say hes yorubatic or so.
Beautifully captured.
I am proudly ibo..and I love all humans...Yoruba and igbo are one...please let's learn to live and let live...
Please can i get the title of this song
There has been a never-ending competition among the two tribes. It’s not as if they hate each other.
😂😂😂😂😂 kilo fa ija 😂😂😂😂 I'm married to my wonderful ibo husband. We are attracted to our differences. Our children are beautiful and respectful. That music is so funny. Opposite attract. My dear it's us that should make the new family of love not hate. It's old history and should not define us. 💕✌
adeola ade But its called IGBO not IBO.
God Bless You @Adeola ade
@@steveveron251 shut up troll
Samuel Emmanuel It's Igbo not Ibo, how does that make me a troll you midget?
Method Man Igbo.. it's not Ibo
"Three weeks ago, Chief Awolowo publicly endorsed the East's demand for a loose confederation of Nigeria's four existing regions: East, West, Mid-West and North. Chief Awolowo also went on record as saying that if the East seceded, the West will automatically follow, setting in motion the possible brake-up of the federation. The fact that he has now consented to join Gen. Gowon's advisory group indicates at least his temporary acceptance of the General's policies."
---------- New York Times. Saturday June 3, 1967
"Awolowo dismantled Fiscal Federalism in 1968 (usurping oil ownership and control from South-East and Mid-West Regions to the center controlled by Hausa-fulani-Yoruba) and as the author of Gowon's economic policy from 1967 - 1970, he stripped the Southern Minorities of their resource rights and control through the Chief G.I. Dina Commission."
--- Obi Nwakanma Vanguard Newspapers Sunday July 31, 2005.
"Awolowo was a devil and his policies led to the present problems that the people of Niger Delta are fighting…the Yoruba instead should apologize to the Niger Delta people for the federal government’s policies the late premier of defunct Western Region influenced against the interest of the Niger Delta.”
-------- Asari Dokubo Champion Newspapers Tuesday march 22, 2005.
Well done 😊
Unless Awolowo pay us back our money, and the abandoned properties in Port Harcourt which he was master planner. Since Yoruba don't see anything wrong with his action and always celebrate him as their hero, we don't see any reason to associate with such hypocrite...
We are one,tribalism is evil. My ibo friend speak better ekiti language with proverbs ....I trust them and love them.i also have Hausa friend.I am blessed with good friends from other tribes.
Sis summer....thanks for having this discussion on your forum...the inter marriage issues are due to the fact that Nigerians don't know real love or practice it....as our Lord Jesus died for....
Most Nigerians parents didn't teach their children real love (hence back) but fear and competition...as a kids they were thought not to be mumu......till today...most parents don't know how to tell their children that I love you...most Nigerians only express like as love...that's one the reasons...if the root of a tree is rotten...there wouldn't be a tree...
As you know with love the heart is pure and forgiven...but if all a child grew up with is the opposite how can he or she really know what love means....
The same reasons why Nigerian marriages countinues to fail...bc there's no real love...bc if you have love for that person...you won't lie to hurt their feeling or cheating with somebody...or things that will hurt the next person.....Jesus Creed do unto others as you wish upon yourself...
That's y the tribes can't talk to each other...
Without love how can a marriage survive not talking of inter marriages...
Nigerians are afraid of each other but pretends that they like each other....even Igbo to Igbo fails...same as Yoruba....bc of the absent of love...
What's the difference between kkk n tribalism...it's the same....some Nigerians are racist....but they themselves don't know that they are racist like a racist white person....
The only way to change this problem is to let every Nigerian parent to start expressing real love in speeches and behavior....if not that problem will never change...it's a virus....
Also this adds another dimension to the fact that the government in Nigeria politics and politicians... cannot inter marry the ideas that will help their country but to steal n plunder...bc there's no love.....
We all bleed blood...perfect conclusion Sis.
You are a good dancer ooo
My sister is just like Jehovah's witness,people hate them but if you ask them they can't give you tangible reason for their hatred.
People hate jehovah witnesses because they always knock on your door when you don'thave time and on the street if you want to vive them chance for 5 mins you'll end up arguing for 5 hours.
I think the problem started from Biafran war period ,but am an igbo man ,I think there is no much difference between yorubas and igbos ,cos after igbos pray they shout isee nd yorubas will shout ashee, so we re not much difference from each other, but they told us that Banjo and Awolowo betrayed us in Biafra war nd you know it has been hard for igbos to forget about the war cos they killed us with no feeling ,like we were not human being .
You are really intelligent
So on point