Honestly, after reading a bunch of these stories, I feel like that phrase needs an addendum: "People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, _but they always will."_
Sarah was projecting lol Who gives a paternity test to a child knowing her 2 kids weren’t her 😢 husband’s! I’d block her and ignore her! Sarah has some nerve thinking OP owes her a thing. Poor Todd and those 2 kids.
Unless the AP was a person of color, there's no real way to KNOW he was the actual father, if she was having 'marital relations' with both men at the same time. That's WHY these tests are so important. Stupid and short sighted, though. She's the one who knew she was having an affair, she should have thought of the possibilities! A true illustration of her spite being stronger than her brain.
Sarah was definitely projecting her guilt. But the sad part is, her actions probably hurt her husband and kids the most. It’s always the innocent people who suffer when someone refuses to take responsibility for their own mistakes.
I have major props for Todd for still loving the kids.even.though they aren't biologically his. Manny (understandably) can't love the kids after finding out the truth. So i greatly respect the ones that do.
My granny used to say "the one accusing is usually the one doing" ..... my dad used to accuse my mom of cheating & 5 weeks after my mom died he moved another woman i had never met into our house, & he had apparently been hanging out with her for a while 🤷🏻♀️
This is a tough situation, and it’s heartbreaking to see family members act in ways that could hurt others. It’s important to remember that trust and communication are the foundation of any strong relationship. Situations like this can teach us the value of honesty and the consequences of trying to manipulate others. Hopefully, everyone involved can learn and grow from this experience, finding a way to rebuild relationships with respect and understanding.
I have dark auburn hair and black/very dark brown eyes my siblings were blonde one has green eyes and the other has grey eyes dad had black hair and blue eyes mom had brown hair and blue eyes. Genetics are fun.
Both I and my late husband were brunette, and he had blue eyes, I have brown and grey eyes. 1 kid is brunette with my grey brown eyes. 1 kid is redhead (nobody else in their generation has red hair) with hazel eyes (my mother had hazel eyes). 1 kid is redhead with blue eyes. Genetics are a lot of fun to watch play out over generations, outside cheating situations...
@ I have 2 and it amazes me because one is a strawberry blonde with brown eyes that have very noticeable flecks of red in them the other is a dirty blond with red highlights and brown eyes with gold flecks in them I’m hoping as I get older and go grey that I get the streak of pink my mom developed. I can’t wait to see what genetics play out in my grand kids.
@@cherrienorris1780 One of my nieces is strawberry blond. When she was little, it was like somebody put a pink rinse on butter blond hair, it was the prettiest color.
I wouldn't get involved in the parents drama but I would focus on the kids. Having him come to your house a lot more for sleep overs and letting him know that if there's anything he needs to talk about that you're willing to listen and support him.
I was outraged that you originally thought to help sarah instead of todd. Sarah cheated on todd and deserves nothing. Todd is a one that deserves everybody's help. I was impressed that todd wanted the children even though they were not his biologically. Hard to say what the court would do in those circumstances. But Todd may be on the birth certificates as the legal father.
So, Sarah started all this with the test for Nathan because she knew that the spouse would provide one for Tommy and the truth would be revealed. Sarah lost her mind and hasn't been able to care for herself not to mention the children. This woman has done nothing but cause mayhem in her family disregarding her children and spouse in her effort to destroy the brother and more specifically the sister in law. Did we miss anything significant? Oh, yeah the spouse should get custody of the kids.
The best decision was to block her. Though surprising that OP did not testify in court as to her character in favor of the Father of the children. The years of her behavior would help show a pattern that was not good. But the best thing that Op and her family did, was show concern for the children. It was clear that the children needed therapy and op may want to place her son in to help him understand and work through this as well.
I’ve noticed that people who accuse others of something are often guilty of it themselves. A supporting indication is that people don’t normally think of those sorts of terrible things (cheating, lying, infidelity, etc) but the people who do those things will obviously have those thoughts in their minds.
Now that the bio father gave up his parental rights, we just have to wait for Sarah to give up her rights. She doesn't deserve to be a mother to the children.
¡Qué situación tan complicada! La interferencia en relaciones familiares nunca trae buenos resultados. Es importante resolver estos temas con respeto y comunicación en lugar de causar daño.
Why would you even have Sarah’s phone number still I would have blocked her straight up. She has outright treated you like crap the whole time she’s been in the family, support Todd & the children only
Took them long enough to decide right -- support the good spouse; and enough of the sermonising/hemming and hawing between the children's overall welfare while not wanting to be part of the "drama" and simply do something about it. Good thing the grandparents finally called a spade a spade and acted decisively, too, once they were on it.
Keep out of Sarah's business and let her soon to be ex husband go forward with his child custody as it's for the best. Sarah would only use anything that happens good or bad against as she never wanted you in the family. She created this mess and now she has to clean it up on her own now.
So basically ops sister in law is a hypocrite hinting op was a cheater when in fact she did it and had to kids out of it and desived her ex husband damn but feel bad for those kids and husband hope they try and heal best they can
what you should do is with your husband asked you to do mind your business and stay out of it Todd is taking those two children even though he knows they are not his biological children he loves him he'll be a good father to him as he has been down through their lives mind your business and stay out of it !!Sarah what she was doing when she wentand had affair with that other man!! I had two children and pulled them off on her husband a good man who said I'll take full custody I will raise them mind your business lady stay out of it it's none of your businessyou have a mouth you was willing to use it to help her with her deceit and try to help her talk tied into taking her back!😊use that voice to tell her to stop calling you because you don't want to be involved in that!!concentrate on your child your marriage and your own affairs!!
Out of my parents seven kids I'm the only one to end up with my Grandma's green eyes, the rest of my siblings have blue eyes like Mom and Dad. N9 one cared.
This is where people get things misconstrued at. The real victim is the husband because he was the one that was lied to and have been raising children that was the product of his wife's affair for years. Yes we all know the children are not responsible for the decisions that the mother made their let's get that straight it was the mother that made the decision to go out and cheat and lay up with whoever different men or the same man that produce these children and her marriage. If this man chose to walk away from taking care of these children he has every f****** right to do that because he is the true victim in this story.
No! The real victims are the husband AND the kids! The kids went from a stable secure home, where they knew both parents, to now having one biological parent who is now known to be narcissistic and to having a bio dad who doesn't want them and a non bio dad whose ability to keep them is in jeopardy! You can ALWAYS get another spouse, but kids can't always get other parents! Your bio parents are who they are! Kids don't ask to be brought into any mess, even if spouses overlook the faults of the other spouse!
Todd is an idiot , he knew her behavior was suspect for years 🙄he simped out and bought her bs gaslighting, now that the truth is known he’s going crazy . Divorce already and walk away.
It's weird how OP is primarily only concerned about her son and tommy. what about the daughter? Is she just a forgotten plot device or something? at 9:03 "Tommy and Nathan deserve better than this and it's painful to see them suffer because of their parents mistakes" uh...one of them is OP's child? Did she mess up? Post is probably fake/ragebait
He _is_ their father; he's been their father since the day they were born. Biology and DNA take second place. He isn't divorcing because he isn't their father - he's divorcing because his wife was unfaithful.
@frankhooper7871 If he ADOPTED them, THEN your comment would make sense. Since he found out that he ISN'T the father and DIDN'T adopt them, your comment makes ZERO sense whatsoever.
@RedPyramid-lf4sb if his name is still in their birth certificate, then he is view as their legal father by court and adoption is not necessarily. There's many case when the father found their children are not his, when they divorce they ask to remove their names from the birth certificate and sign away their parental rights. But in his case, he wants full custody so he can use the birth certificate to show the court he has same parental rights as the mother.
I love these AI stories. A home test doesn't sequence your entire genome, our professor told us its also not admissible in court. Also how can he sue for full custody for kids that are not his, because that is a contradiction in terms of him wanting the divorce. So weird.
@BeingMe-t6m it isn't that, it's more based on who they know is gonna financially care for the kid plus who has been present in the kid's life longest to minimize emotional damage as I understand it
@BeingMe-t6m home test DNA tests are not because they don't cover enough of the genome. Also the law is flexible and can be applied case by case. Lawyers use existing cases to argue for consistency or deviation from accepted statutes. This is an AI generated story so arguing is pointless. But you can't sue for custody before you divorce. These are separate filings. It is a separate case sometimes requiring different lawyers and researchers. These processes will bankrupt the average person but these stories make it seem quick and easy.
I know it's a bullshit story but come on? The not-bio dad receiving all custody despite being arrested for assault not too long ago and the wife slandering him? Her whole family taking his side despite -again- the assault? Oh the bio dad was refused any visitation because of his character and because he just didn't want to pay child support? Bfr.
The mother's bad influence has nothing to do with her being a cheater. You can cheat and not be a crappy person overall. This is not the case with her lol.
Is it me or this trash of a op only think about males kids and left out the female kid cause she always saying her son and nephew is hurt but not the niece weird right
I'm sorry op but you're stupid and wrong and it ends up hurting the kids anyways it's like he's using the kids to punish his ex and that is wrong so yes the kids have every right to see the the other parent cheating is not a form of abuse so it's not going to be eligible for you to take full custody it's not abuse I hate when parents do this because it makes you the worst parent you don't think about your kids you only think about yourself
As the common saying goes,
"people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones."
So true! People in glass houses really shouldn’t throw stones. Sarah needs a reality check
Honestly, after reading a bunch of these stories, I feel like that phrase needs an addendum: "People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, _but they always will."_
@@Eden_Laika something tells me they don't have the common sense of the common man.
Their brains function in another whole way.
Sarah was projecting lol Who gives a paternity test to a child knowing her 2 kids weren’t her 😢 husband’s! I’d block her and ignore her! Sarah has some nerve thinking OP owes her a thing. Poor Todd and those 2 kids.
Unless the AP was a person of color, there's no real way to KNOW he was the actual father, if she was having 'marital relations' with both men at the same time. That's WHY these tests are so important. Stupid and short sighted, though. She's the one who knew she was having an affair, she should have thought of the possibilities! A true illustration of her spite being stronger than her brain.
Exactly! Sarah has no business blaming OP. She needs to own up and leave OP out of it
Sarah was definitely projecting her guilt. But the sad part is, her actions probably hurt her husband and kids the most. It’s always the innocent people who suffer when someone refuses to take responsibility for their own mistakes.
Do not help Sarah. Keep out of her business. Let the outcome naturally play out.
Trying to clean someone's kitchen when her's is dirty.
Pay stupid games, win stupid prizes!!
I have major props for Todd for still loving the kids.even.though they aren't biologically his. Manny (understandably) can't love the kids after finding out the truth. So i greatly respect the ones that do.
My granny used to say "the one accusing is usually the one doing" ..... my dad used to accuse my mom of cheating & 5 weeks after my mom died he moved another woman i had never met into our house, & he had apparently been hanging out with her for a while 🤷🏻♀️
Classic case of "whoever stirs the pot has to lick the spoon"
Play stupid games and when even more stupid prizes! 😂 Sarah is a complete fool. She was so dishonest.
The audacity to ask for help from the person you tried to sabotage
This is a tough situation, and it’s heartbreaking to see family members act in ways that could hurt others. It’s important to remember that trust and communication are the foundation of any strong relationship. Situations like this can teach us the value of honesty and the consequences of trying to manipulate others. Hopefully, everyone involved can learn and grow from this experience, finding a way to rebuild relationships with respect and understanding.
My red hair and gold and green eyes contrasted with my parents' brown hair and brown eyes. Nobody blinked
Sounds like my daughter and granddaughter. Took the DNA test... amazing what our heritage really is. 😂
I have dark auburn hair and black/very dark brown eyes my siblings were blonde one has green eyes and the other has grey eyes dad had black hair and blue eyes mom had brown hair and blue eyes. Genetics are fun.
Both I and my late husband were brunette, and he had blue eyes, I have brown and grey eyes. 1 kid is brunette with my grey brown eyes. 1 kid is redhead (nobody else in their generation has red hair) with hazel eyes (my mother had hazel eyes). 1 kid is redhead with blue eyes. Genetics are a lot of fun to watch play out over generations, outside cheating situations...
@ I have 2 and it amazes me because one is a strawberry blonde with brown eyes that have very noticeable flecks of red in them the other is a dirty blond with red highlights and brown eyes with gold flecks in them I’m hoping as I get older and go grey that I get the streak of pink my mom developed. I can’t wait to see what genetics play out in my grand kids.
@@cherrienorris1780 One of my nieces is strawberry blond. When she was little, it was like somebody put a pink rinse on butter blond hair, it was the prettiest color.
I wouldn't get involved in the parents drama but I would focus on the kids. Having him come to your house a lot more for sleep overs and letting him know that if there's anything he needs to talk about
that you're willing to listen and support him.
I was outraged that you originally thought to help sarah instead of todd. Sarah cheated on todd and deserves nothing. Todd is a one that deserves everybody's help.
I was impressed that todd wanted the children even though they were not his biologically.
Hard to say what the court would do in those circumstances. But Todd may be on the birth certificates as the legal father.
It is pretentious of OP to think she can change what is happening. Sarah ruined her own life and nobody can fix it.
The sister-in-law learned the hard way. If you play stupid games, you win stupid prizes.
So, Sarah started all this with the test for Nathan because she knew that the spouse would provide one for Tommy and the truth would be revealed. Sarah lost her mind and hasn't been able to care for herself not to mention the children. This woman has done nothing but cause mayhem in her family disregarding her children and spouse in her effort to destroy the brother and more specifically the sister in law. Did we miss anything significant? Oh, yeah the spouse should get custody of the kids.
The best decision was to block her. Though surprising that OP did not testify in court as to her character in favor of the Father of the children. The years of her behavior would help show a pattern that was not good. But the best thing that Op and her family did, was show concern for the children. It was clear that the children needed therapy and op may want to place her son in to help him understand and work through this as well.
I’ve noticed that people who accuse others of something are often guilty of it themselves. A supporting indication is that people don’t normally think of those sorts of terrible things (cheating, lying, infidelity, etc) but the people who do those things will obviously have those thoughts in their minds.
Now that the bio father gave up his parental rights, we just have to wait for Sarah to give up her rights. She doesn't deserve to be a mother to the children.
Sarah gets whatever happens, she started all of this by being petty. Now we know she is the cheater.
Don’t get involved in her drama. Love and support the kids and that’s it
You see what pain karma caused.
I'll bet sister will keep her mouth shut now.
Why does Sarah think Todd will even care what OP thinks?
Every accusation is a confession.
OP should simply reply "FAFO".
It's awesome when women are affected by other women not taking responsibility. This is what all men deal with every day FOR EVER!
¡Qué situación tan complicada! La interferencia en relaciones familiares nunca trae buenos resultados. Es importante resolver estos temas con respeto y comunicación en lugar de causar daño.
Narcissism
She was projecting onto op
Sarah is a textbook narcissist.
Why would you even have Sarah’s phone number still I would have blocked her straight up. She has outright treated you like crap the whole time she’s been in the family, support Todd & the children only
*Randy Feltface voice*
K A R M A!
Took them long enough to decide right -- support the good spouse; and enough of the sermonising/hemming and hawing between the children's overall welfare while not wanting to be part of the "drama" and simply do something about it. Good thing the grandparents finally called a spade a spade and acted decisively, too, once they were on it.
Stay out of this. You need to be there for the children after this mess is over.
Keep out of Sarah's business and let her soon to be ex husband go forward with his child custody as it's for the best. Sarah would only use anything that happens good or bad against as she never wanted you in the family. She created this mess and now she has to clean it up on her own now.
Why not tell the parents until they get this resolved why don’t the kids stay with you guys until then
Leave Sarah alone and stay out of her life she did this all by herself and blocked her and don't talk to her
Stay out of it .If you get involved she will blame you for everything..Stay away listen to your husband..
So basically ops sister in law is a hypocrite hinting op was a cheater when in fact she did it and had to kids out of it and desived her ex husband damn but feel bad for those kids and husband hope they try and heal best they can
what you should do is with your husband asked you to do mind your business and stay out of it Todd is taking those two children even though he knows they are not his biological children he loves him he'll be a good father to him as he has been down through their lives mind your business and stay out of it !!Sarah what she was doing when she wentand had affair with that other man!! I had two children and pulled them off on her husband a good man who said I'll take full custody I will raise them mind your business lady stay out of it it's none of your businessyou have a mouth you was willing to use it to help her with her deceit and try to help her talk tied into taking her back!😊use that voice to tell her to stop calling you because you don't want to be involved in that!!concentrate on your child your marriage and your own affairs!!
Out of my parents seven kids I'm the only one to end up with my Grandma's green eyes, the rest of my siblings have blue eyes like Mom and Dad. N9 one cared.
This is where people get things misconstrued at. The real victim is the husband because he was the one that was lied to and have been raising children that was the product of his wife's affair for years.
Yes we all know the children are not responsible for the decisions that the mother made their let's get that straight it was the mother that made the decision to go out and cheat and lay up with whoever different men or the same man that produce these children and her marriage.
If this man chose to walk away from taking care of these children he has every f****** right to do that because he is the true victim in this story.
No! The real victims are the husband AND the kids! The kids went from a stable secure home, where they knew both parents, to now having one biological parent who is now known to be narcissistic and to having a bio dad who doesn't want them and a non bio dad whose ability to keep them is in jeopardy! You can ALWAYS get another spouse, but kids can't always get other parents! Your bio parents are who they are! Kids don't ask to be brought into any mess, even if spouses overlook the faults of the other spouse!
Stay out of it. It not your business. She try to destroy your marriage she toxic.
Stay out of it.
Todd is an idiot , he knew her behavior was suspect for years 🙄he simped out and bought her bs gaslighting, now that the truth is known he’s going crazy . Divorce already and walk away.
whomp whomp
of all the things that never happened this never happened the most.
This story seems real not made up by someone who doesn't know male from female.
Tbf op is also the problem if you gonna stay neutral stay neutral but instead they keep putting themselves right in the middle as it escalates
What is wrong with the audio on this channle?
It's weird how OP is primarily only concerned about her son and tommy. what about the daughter? Is she just a forgotten plot device or something? at 9:03 "Tommy and Nathan deserve better than this and it's painful to see them suffer because of their parents mistakes" uh...one of them is OP's child? Did she mess up? Post is probably fake/ragebait
As she already said, the daughter wasn't as affected as the boys were, so ofc OP doesn't mention her as much, as was already explained.
Why in the world would the guy sue for custody when he is getting a divorce because he isn’t the father of the children.
He _is_ their father; he's been their father since the day they were born. Biology and DNA take second place. He isn't divorcing because he isn't their father - he's divorcing because his wife was unfaithful.
@frankhooper7871 If he ADOPTED them, THEN your comment would make sense.
Since he found out that he ISN'T the father and DIDN'T adopt them, your comment makes ZERO sense whatsoever.
@RedPyramid-lf4sb if his name is still in their birth certificate, then he is view as their legal father by court and adoption is not necessarily. There's many case when the father found their children are not his, when they divorce they ask to remove their names from the birth certificate and sign away their parental rights.
But in his case, he wants full custody so he can use the birth certificate to show the court he has same parental rights as the mother.
Because he didn’t stop loving them just because he discovered he isn’t their biological father.
I love these AI stories. A home test doesn't sequence your entire genome, our professor told us its also not admissible in court. Also how can he sue for full custody for kids that are not his, because that is a contradiction in terms of him wanting the divorce. So weird.
If he's their legal parent and/or on the birth certificate he absolutely can still get custody even if they aren't biologically his
He wants a divorce because she was unfaithful. He wants custody of his kids because they are his kids.
DNA isn’t admissible in court?
@BeingMe-t6m it isn't that, it's more based on who they know is gonna financially care for the kid plus who has been present in the kid's life longest to minimize emotional damage as I understand it
@BeingMe-t6m home test DNA tests are not because they don't cover enough of the genome. Also the law is flexible and can be applied case by case. Lawyers use existing cases to argue for consistency or deviation from accepted statutes. This is an AI generated story so arguing is pointless. But you can't sue for custody before you divorce. These are separate filings. It is a separate case sometimes requiring different lawyers and researchers. These processes will bankrupt the average person but these stories make it seem quick and easy.
I know it's a bullshit story but come on? The not-bio dad receiving all custody despite being arrested for assault not too long ago and the wife slandering him? Her whole family taking his side despite -again- the assault? Oh the bio dad was refused any visitation because of his character and because he just didn't want to pay child support? Bfr.
The mother's bad influence has nothing to do with her being a cheater. You can cheat and not be a crappy person overall. This is not the case with her lol.
L take
Is it me or this trash of a op only think about males kids and left out the female kid cause she always saying her son and nephew is hurt but not the niece weird right
It's you! You clearly didn't listen to what OP said about the little girl! Smdh!
I'm sorry op but you're stupid and wrong and it ends up hurting the kids anyways it's like he's using the kids to punish his ex and that is wrong so yes the kids have every right to see the the other parent cheating is not a form of abuse so it's not going to be eligible for you to take full custody it's not abuse I hate when parents do this because it makes you the worst parent you don't think about your kids you only think about yourself
Sara, Karma is a nasty witch isn't she. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂