Just turned 22. Married at the age of 21. Been patient for a year with my husband. barely any changes. Now im thinking of divorce. But some part of me is scared of not getting married again. But my marriage was rushed becoz of my parents. I and my husband are not compatibile at all although at first it felt we were. Suffered a lot becoz of him.
You shouldn’t rush to get a divorce. You should try to fix the issue at hand first whether it’s going through marriage counseling or getting your families involved. And your fears are warranted, truthfully it’s much harder for a divorced woman to remarry than it is for a divorced man even without kids. Not that that’s the end of the world but if you have someone who strives his hardest to follow the deen the right way and treats you well it’s easier said than done to give that up just because the grass may seem greener on the other side. If the situation involves toxicity, abuse or infidelity go ahead and get a divorce. A lack of “compatibility” can be worked out depending on the situation.
@@slovelyyx7718 sorry I think I wasn't clear on my reply. Its not just about being compatible, much more than that. The emotional abuse. We see things differently, I have ways been able to see thing through his glasses. For the whole year and few months he never really behaved as if he wanted to get married. Few month after meeting him back in my country, I wanted to talk to him about my concerns which were he was out the whole day n never made the time for me knowing that everyone is new to me and there were just kids and his mums and aunt's around. He knew I was just there for a month and few weeks but he never made the time and he does not work. I spoke to him with the hope that he will understand me because of how nicely he mentioned about the importance of listen and understanding each other during marriage before we had the nikkah. But he never understood me and continued to always be out for the whole summer. While I had to stay at our bedroom crying and did not have anyone to talk to because I didn't want anybody knowing about our problems. He would be out with his female friends. Even once his female friend called while we were on bed and straight away he left everything he was doing and picked up her call. Each time I spoke to him and even asked him if I was going wrong somewhere, he would say he would try. Until some point he compared our marriage to buying something and when ita new you like it but after a while you are no longer interested in it. That thing was me. To be honest lot has happened between us and the only reason the marriage lasted this long is because Allaah has given me the patience. Because he has hurt me a lot yet each time he said he would change I believed him. Gave him five chances. Mentioned divorce twice, first time I nearly informed my dad but the next day he changed his mind because after speaking to his mother, his mother reminded him how not everyone wanted the marriage. Second time, he mentioned it after we did not talk for a week and few hours because I did not call him because I was the only one calling. He lives in West Africa and I live in the UK. After that time, I had to tell his dad about our issues because I didn't want him to feel forced and I didn’t tell his dad before because I didn't want that to affect his visa which his dad was applying for him. To this point, he post stories of him and his female friends and some other friends. I was upset and crying pretty much the whole summer (summer 2023), and when I came back to the UK, everyone knew I was not feeling well and I was depressed. Because I was naive back then to believe what a guy says. I went to meet him with high hopes, but within our first week together he managed to slowly crush them. My mum knew out problems accidently as she called and I was crying so badly. My mum and my siblings went there as well for that summer holiday, but my husband's family live in the capital while my dad live in the village. Our parents are aware of the situation. I have even spoke to an imam about it as I was last. I knew it is very important to be patient with whatever Allaah tests with us, but I was confused to how can I be patient if he is not trying. But it was as I thought, the imam mentioned for my case it's to be patient but if he is trying. I even suggested taking baby steps. But alhamdulillah one thing he did improve over the year is calling me once 3 times a day and always when is not suitable for me so we only talk if I can stay up to wait for his call as he is always busy during the say. Also, when I showed him the right of the wife, he did not want to learn about how to try his wife although everyone should as its from the sunnah.
Yesss❤🎉 Aslamu'alaikum warahmatulah dear sister you were miss I didn't know you will go hiding again after the last time lol Some of were worried about your whereabout and you were in the minds and hearts but didn't know how to link you no email no contact to reach you Alhamdulilah it's beautiful to see you again ❤😊May Allah be with you
@@NafisasPearlzI have always enjoyed it for the last few years I have been following you and wolahi you have no idea how many of us did you save from bad relationship with the help of Allah may Allah keep you safe and increase you in beneficiary knowledge ❤
I'm days shy of 43 and still haven't married...and you know what? It is fine! I have used my time to become who I needed and wanted to be. And I'm still a work in progress haha. I don't have children and that is also not a depressing reality. So many women around me were/are overwhelmed, being the auntie there is a very rewarding position. What will be, will be.
One thing I’m struggling with is finding an attractive spouse. My age range is 29. The men who are interested in me are balding and have a belly I’m not attracted to them. Is looks everything no, but one of my requirements I would like to have a spouse I’m attracted to. However in this society of pretty privilege the men who are attractive think they are the prize and are unfaithful. I’m not looking for a supermodel just someone who’s attractive in my eyes.
This is a real life struggle that I 100% can relate to. Just stay strong and don’t lose faith sis! In Shaa Allah our naseeb will come to us and everyone that is looking to get married in a halal manner.
So what happend is men know this also and no man wants to be your second best choice also if your a woman whos attractive and 29 we men know that u have declined 100dreds and thousands of guys and maybe did who knows what maybe. then at 29 u want to turn around after parties and doing anything and say u want to marry a nice religious guy it doesnt work like that and if u where attractive it means nobody was good. enough... for you we know we know it all and no guy feels nice knowingly u keep secrets (zina) fine if u dont tell and by allahs ways dont expose old sins but we also wont marry .. And yes im attractive by allahs grace he blessed me as a man el hamdullilah but i wont sacrifice all my pride as a man while yall woman didnt want to take in the pride either and said "it isnt working out" or " we maybe dont match up" (translation for i want to look around) thats fine but we will say no to marriage most are already oke being just single to avoid the drama and heartache because trust me thats why most of us dont go for it anymore also a lot of "muslim woman" have betrayed man and why do i say it like that because yall use it when it comes convienient and when yall are older we never see a 9 or 10 in a hurry to marry in her younger years well this kind of doing got around (worldwide) Men have learned to read you guys mind like a book and the old excuses dont work anymore But el hamdullilah i pray and improve now too but there is certain things just as a man we cannot do nobody wants the consolidation prize and what we man do is exactly what woman do .... now we just made the fiels equal and its called surviving and the best genes win.. As you said you dont want this or that because u not attracted to that well we arent attracted to a woman who did it all and now is washing her hands clean of her decisions. And why werent you guys so eager to marry at 19, 20, 22, because most woman want to see the world still then even muslim women a lot when you guys are at the end of 20's like common yall take us for a fool. Well then we also arent in a hurry when u guys turn 30. Im sorry but its just not fair. Inshallah we will come out of this fute only allah knows how. May he forgive us and grant us a way out of this stalemate.
And one other thing " the guy who is just attractive to you" is "just attractive to every woman" thats how it goes. Just think like this if you are looking at him .. other woman are looking at him.
@@skillsphere9245 Not true! Whenever I showed a photo of a guy in my Jahiliya I had a crush on to my besties, their respond was nearly always "What's wrong with you, he is damn ugly ugh!" 😅😂 Guess I have a special taste Alhamdulillah
I am 30 and living the same thing! But Alhamdoulilah, what keeps me “sane” is my trust in Allah’s timing but also my values. Sometimes I do have my lows but no matter how much I want to get married, I always have this little voice that pulls me back from bad situations Alhamdoulilah! Sisters, take your time. Some evil men can sense our “desperation” and use strategies to lure us into marriage that will end up miserable. Get to know yourself, your values, your “non negociables”, your standards and stick to them. Like sister Nafissa said, it is not about having unrealistic expectations but everything is a matter of balance. In Sha Allah, the right man will see you and honour you in Allah’s timing. May he grant us all righteous spouses. Ameen 🤲🏿❤️
We missed you Sis. I have benefited from your videos before i married. Please make videos about the muslim family and motherhood as well. Thanks for being such a good influence on us and giving beneficial advise.
I was married quite young, at 23. Now I’m 28 and going through a divorce (not my choice, spouse decided he no longer wanted children even though we agreed on this before marriage). I feel the pressure to move on as I approach 30, but I think it’s unnecessary. I don’t wanna move on before I’m healed from my previous marriage. May Allah help us all with our individual struggles, ameen.
Our good sis has come back dropping gems, mashAllah tabarakAllah. May Allah grant all interested sisters spouses and offspring that are the coolness of their eyes. Allahuma Ameen.
I've been told so often that I have to settle because it would be difficult to find a man at my level, intellectually speaking. So I did and as a result : 2 marriages and 2 divorces within 2 years in my early thirties. After that I was like : "never again". Next year I'll reach my midthirties. I feel lost tbh. May Allah preserve you and your family
May Allah swt grant you the best sis and may He give you peace and comfort ❤ Sister I know it’s hard but what helped me when I hit my lowest point was realising that we can live fulfilling lives without marriage - it is possible. You will get comments by well meaning people (and not so well meaning people) but I’ve learned to block it out and do things I enjoy , stay busy and avoid being alone too much. Our true purpose is to worship Allah. Shaitan wants us to become completely consumed and distracted by these matters . Marriage is important but it doesn’t make us less than our sisters who are married with kids etc. You are valuable and loved my dear sister 💕
Wa Alaykum Salam, sister Nafisas. I'm going to save the video and watch it very carefully. Because I feel like it's what I need to hear. I'm close to 30, and I feel like I'm being pressured to get married and sometimes I'm pressured in a way that I feel like maybe it's not meant for me. But anyway, I'm going to make a lot of duah to Allah to grant us good husbands, who are good for us, our deen and our life. And sister, your words always come in the best way. May Allah reward you for everything Amin. 🤲🏽
aleykum selam sister, I am in the same situation and I am 32. Moreover I would like to ad that when you are living in a non muslim country it is harder to find a good muslim husband
Girl 30 where?! I just started watching your videos a few years ago and thought you were a teen till I started watching more. Never would have guessed you were 30.
You’re so on point with the scare tactics!!! OMG seriously I started getting so much anxiety and almost fell into depression because of that! But alhumdulillah Allah took me out of it and made me realize it’s not the end of the world. Jazakillah khairan habibty for this beneficial reminder ❤️❤️❤️
Alhamdulilah ! You’ve been missed. You’ve made such an impact in my life dear sister; before I got married and now that I’m married and a mother. Sisters I got married in my thirties and almost two years in, I’m glad I did. Allah’s timing is perfect. Sister Nafisa, I’m so grateful for all you do. May Allah reward your efforts and kindness towards all of us. Ameen.
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan my dear sister for your love and support. May Allah continue to bless your home. Indeed Allah’s timing is never wrong. May Allah bless our single sisters still searching Ameen.💖
Whatever Allah has decreed is better for us. I’m 36. But I know if it didn’t happened for me Allah knows there is a very good reason. He chose for us because he knows us like nobody else does. He doesn’t do anything to humiliate us or to hurt us he is the one who decide about the timing or if things should happened or not. Stay strong
I love, love, love this!!! Echo this again and again and again. Take your time, but also tie your camel, have your values and also be realistic. Beautiful reminders. Masha Allah. May your work continue to be blessed.
SubhanaAllah!!!! I just said 2 days ago where is my Sister!!!!! Good to see back Ma shaa Allah TabarkAllah excellent topic very very beneficial 🤲🏾🤲🏾🌹♥️
Thank you thank you thank you For mentioning the depression-provoking movement of RP!!! I went onto a very depressive space two years ago listening & consuming their content thinking it’s interesting but it almost swallowed all hope I had. To the point it even pushed me to freely envy & jealousy of those girls who married much younger, in the ideal circumstances (for all society knew). Astaghfirullah. Yes I know marriage in young age has its perks. It doesn’t cancel out all marriage’s perks if you’re married a bit older than ‘ideal’ but they were intent to demonise every woman who passed her prime still single!! I couldn’t believe I fell into this nonsense. I live in a religious society, most girls around me are such sweet respectful and modest girls (assuming and only Allah knows) yet they’re not married YET! It doesn’t negate that they’re good people. It just proves that society indeed suffers as a result of degeneracy. Many men are falling into sin, immodest girls everywhere, and it gets harder and harder to find a man who we can willingly accept as a partner in this dark ocean of fitnah. We want to build homes that shield us not just a roof and another test of hardship. Jazaki Allah khair, and welcome back!
⚠️Beware of scammers and other weirdos in the comments here on RUclips and on other platforms as well!!! Just saw one in the comments under this video! Don’t fall for it and report them immediately! 😡
It’s hard not to feel down & depressed at times. Especially when people look down on you or when you feel jealousy (not in a bad way but in a way that you wish It for everyone, so also for yourself).
I found someone who has all the criteria I want except I am not physically attracted to him! My family is telling me that i would get over that and it's not important, but i can't seem to overlook it. Please help i don't know what to do He and his family are waiting for an answer for three months but i can't get myself to give them one, i can't seem to decide. What do you think guys is physical attraction important? I am afraid if i refuse i will not find someone with the values that i am looking for at my age. Please advise me.
Do what’s best for you and always have trust physical attraction is important to some people but if you’re really struggling with this then you should pray and make lots of dua 💗
Is there any chemistry between you both? How many times have you met with him as physical attraction cam grow. Have you prayed istikhara? Also from his perspective, does he know what's holding you back? Surely he probably would not want to marry someone who's not attracted to him at all. I pray Allah guides you to your decision and grants you contentment in it.
Perhaps meet him one more time, whilst making dua, praying istikhara. You have nothing to lose and in sha Allah things will become clearer on whether or not you want to proceed. Also keep in mind provision is decreed from Allah so don’t worry about the what if’s etc , easier said than done but honestly it will be ok iA 💕💕
Queen is BACK! 🥰 Edit : By the way, I turned 20 recently & I also get inner feelings that it’s too late for me to marry because one of those red pill guys said if you're (indicating women) in your 20s, you're expired 😂
I am your sister from Yemen, and by Allah I only spoke out of hunger and distress. My mother, my brothers, and I lessons and tears. We are in a situation that only God knows about. God is sufficient for us, and He is the best disposer of affairs for those who broughtOh people, we are your sisters, by God 😭😭😭 We do not even find a loaf of bread inside the house that would satisfy you, oh nation of Muhammad. People are brothers. Oh God, make your righteous servants subservient to us. Oh God, make your righteous servants subservient to us. My appeal to every Muslim, oh Lord, if he sees this message, may He prolong his life, make him happy, and cover him. May God reward him. God is sufficient for me, and He is the best disposer of affairs. There is no power or strength except with God. Oh people, oh nation of Muhammad, oh people of goodness, oh people of mercy. We are your sisters and your children. By God, we do not even find a loaf of bread inside the house that would satisfy you. Oh nation of Muhammad, I only spoke out of extreme hunger and distress. My mother, sisters, and I are displaced from our homes because of the war. We are in a state that no one knows about except God. God is sufficient for us, and He is the best disposer of affairs, against those who brought us to this state 💔💔 By God Almighty, I only wrote this appeal out of extreme poverty and poverty, oh people. I beg you by God Almighty, Lord of the Mighty Throne, that I do not have food at home. By God, my brothers and sisters have been sitting around for two days. Without food, by God our situation is very difficult, we are 4 people in the house and my father passed away and there is no one to support us and we live in a rented house and we cannot pay the rest of the rent. I am not lying to you nor deceiving you nor cheating you. I am a Yemeni girl displaced because of the war between me and my family over a rent dispute and the owner of the house. By God, my brother comes every day and humiliates us and talks about us and wants us to go out to the street because we are unable to pay him the rent. The neighbors saw us crying and talked to the neighbors again and gave us a deadline until the end of the week and we swore to God to let us out of the street now we are in arrears of 60 thousand Yemeni riyals for 3 months rent may God have mercy on us our country is suffering because of this war and we do not find our daily sustenance and we live my mother and sisters our father passed away may God have mercy on him and we do not have anyone in the world to come to us in these harsh circumstances my little sisters went out to the street and saw the neighbors eating and stood at their door giving them even a piece of bread and by God in whose hand is the heavens and the earth they closed the door and kicked them out and they came back crying dying of hunger no one has mercy on them and now the holiday has come back to me if no one of us helps us with a kilo of flour by God we will die of hunger brother I seek refuge in God and then in you and I want your help for the sake of God I ask you by God you love goodness and help me even if it is about the rent of the house send me a WhatsApp message on this number 00967716649494 and ask for my card name and send it and do not delay may God compensate you with all good My little sisters, look at their situation and help us and save us before they throw us out into the street and humiliate us or my family and I die of hunger. We ask you by God, if you are able to help us, do not delay on us, and may God reward you with good.'~~_«%•&»_~~_~&:»'////;&&;&;&;;&🎉😢😢😢😢;&;&&&//&..,!~~~♡♡♡~~~♡~♡~•~•~•~•~♡~♡~♡~;l.i.i.i.i.i.l.|-.-.،،،,,,’,،،'،..-..،..;:..،،،..،.‹،،،...،..،.,,.,،..،..،،.،.،،،,،.،/.;,,..,,...،..،;&&;;&💔😭😭&;(
Part 2 will be released this Sunday ladies. God willing 🎉
IN SHAA ALLAH JAZAKI ALLAHU KHEIRAN AL JAZAA FOR PART ONE
I got married at 30, now 31 few weeks away from our firstborn arriving inshaAllah. Allah swt really saved the best person for me:)
I m 33 and still not married... Life is so difficult for me.plz pray for me
@@tintin6295 May Allah give you better than what you expect and the best of this world and the best of the next world sis ameennn. I feel you ❤️❤️❤️
Allahuma Baarek sis ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@samiralush8991Ameen
@@tintin6295May Allah grant you a spouse more than your expectations. Ameen
Just turned 22. Married at the age of 21. Been patient for a year with my husband. barely any changes. Now im thinking of divorce. But some part of me is scared of not getting married again. But my marriage was rushed becoz of my parents. I and my husband are not compatibile at all although at first it felt we were. Suffered a lot becoz of him.
Do what's best for you, May Allah make it easy for you, center Allah(SWA) in your life ,make du'a and Allah (SWA) will give you,what's best for you
Wow, i don’t encourage divorce, May i ask what makes you think you’re not compatible? Just curious
@@purplelove3666 ameen ya rabbi. Thanks insha Allaah I will continue to do so
You shouldn’t rush to get a divorce. You should try to fix the issue at hand first whether it’s going through marriage counseling or getting your families involved. And your fears are warranted, truthfully it’s much harder for a divorced woman to remarry than it is for a divorced man even without kids. Not that that’s the end of the world but if you have someone who strives his hardest to follow the deen the right way and treats you well it’s easier said than done to give that up just because the grass may seem greener on the other side. If the situation involves toxicity, abuse or infidelity go ahead and get a divorce. A lack of “compatibility” can be worked out depending on the situation.
@@slovelyyx7718 sorry I think I wasn't clear on my reply. Its not just about being compatible, much more than that. The emotional abuse. We see things differently, I have ways been able to see thing through his glasses. For the whole year and few months he never really behaved as if he wanted to get married. Few month after meeting him back in my country, I wanted to talk to him about my concerns which were he was out the whole day n never made the time for me knowing that everyone is new to me and there were just kids and his mums and aunt's around. He knew I was just there for a month and few weeks but he never made the time and he does not work. I spoke to him with the hope that he will understand me because of how nicely he mentioned about the importance of listen and understanding each other during marriage before we had the nikkah. But he never understood me and continued to always be out for the whole summer. While I had to stay at our bedroom crying and did not have anyone to talk to because I didn't want anybody knowing about our problems. He would be out with his female friends. Even once his female friend called while we were on bed and straight away he left everything he was doing and picked up her call. Each time I spoke to him and even asked him if I was going wrong somewhere, he would say he would try. Until some point he compared our marriage to buying something and when ita new you like it but after a while you are no longer interested in it. That thing was me. To be honest lot has happened between us and the only reason the marriage lasted this long is because Allaah has given me the patience. Because he has hurt me a lot yet each time he said he would change I believed him. Gave him five chances. Mentioned divorce twice, first time I nearly informed my dad but the next day he changed his mind because after speaking to his mother, his mother reminded him how not everyone wanted the marriage. Second time, he mentioned it after we did not talk for a week and few hours because I did not call him because I was the only one calling. He lives in West Africa and I live in the UK. After that time, I had to tell his dad about our issues because I didn't want him to feel forced and I didn’t tell his dad before because I didn't want that to affect his visa which his dad was applying for him. To this point, he post stories of him and his female friends and some other friends. I was upset and crying pretty much the whole summer (summer 2023), and when I came back to the UK, everyone knew I was not feeling well and I was depressed. Because I was naive back then to believe what a guy says. I went to meet him with high hopes, but within our first week together he managed to slowly crush them.
My mum knew out problems accidently as she called and I was crying so badly. My mum and my siblings went there as well for that summer holiday, but my husband's family live in the capital while my dad live in the village.
Our parents are aware of the situation. I have even spoke to an imam about it as I was last. I knew it is very important to be patient with whatever Allaah tests with us, but I was confused to how can I be patient if he is not trying. But it was as I thought, the imam mentioned for my case it's to be patient but if he is trying. I even suggested taking baby steps. But alhamdulillah one thing he did improve over the year is calling me once 3 times a day and always when is not suitable for me so we only talk if I can stay up to wait for his call as he is always busy during the say. Also, when I showed him the right of the wife, he did not want to learn about how to try his wife although everyone should as its from the sunnah.
Jazakullahi kairan, welcome back ma❤
Jazzak ALLAH hu khayran dear Sister❤
God bless your soul sis . Allah is the best of planners but we got to secure/ tie up the camels when we come to the prayer house ☺️
Waiting for another fall shopping video
Yesss❤🎉 Aslamu'alaikum warahmatulah dear sister you were miss I didn't know you will go hiding again after the last time lol
Some of were worried about your whereabout and you were in the minds and hearts but didn't know how to link you no email no contact to reach you
Alhamdulilah it's beautiful to see you again ❤😊May Allah be with you
Walaikumsalam sister. Alhamdulilah I’m well and safe 😅. Thank you for your patience with me and hope you enjoy the content to come insha’Allah.
@@NafisasPearlzI have always enjoyed it for the last few years I have been following you and wolahi you have no idea how many of us did you save from bad relationship with the help of Allah may Allah keep you safe and increase you in beneficiary knowledge ❤
I love you for the sake of Allah sis ❤️🫂💃we miss you so much welcome back sister Mafia's
Thank you sister
Any other girls here that will never marry an unchaste man?
Same, inshaAllah!
I'm days shy of 43 and still haven't married...and you know what? It is fine! I have used my time to become who I needed and wanted to be. And I'm still a work in progress haha. I don't have children and that is also not a depressing reality. So many women around me were/are overwhelmed, being the auntie there is a very rewarding position. What will be, will be.
One thing I’m struggling with is finding an attractive spouse. My age range is 29. The men who are interested in me are balding and have a belly I’m not attracted to them.
Is looks everything no, but one of my requirements I would like to have a spouse I’m attracted to.
However in this society of pretty privilege the men who are attractive think they are the prize and are unfaithful.
I’m not looking for a supermodel just someone who’s attractive in my eyes.
This is a real life struggle that I 100% can relate to. Just stay strong and don’t lose faith sis! In Shaa Allah our naseeb will come to us and everyone that is looking to get married in a halal manner.
So what happend is men know this also and no man wants to be your second best choice also if your a woman whos attractive and 29 we men know that u have declined 100dreds and thousands of guys and maybe did who knows what maybe. then at 29 u want to turn around after parties and doing anything and say u want to marry a nice religious guy it doesnt work like that and if u where attractive it means nobody was good. enough... for you we know we know it all and no guy feels nice knowingly u keep secrets (zina) fine if u dont tell and by allahs ways dont expose old sins but we also wont marry ..
And yes im attractive by allahs grace he blessed me as a man el hamdullilah but i wont sacrifice all my pride as a man while yall woman didnt want to take in the pride either and said "it isnt working out" or " we maybe dont match up" (translation for i want to look around) thats fine but we will say no to marriage most are already oke being just single to avoid the drama and heartache because trust me thats why most of us dont go for it anymore also a lot of "muslim woman" have betrayed man and why do i say it like that because yall use it when it comes convienient and when yall are older we never see a 9 or 10 in a hurry to marry in her younger years well this kind of doing got around (worldwide)
Men have learned to read you guys mind like a book and the old excuses dont work anymore
But el hamdullilah i pray and improve now too but there is certain things just as a man we cannot do nobody wants the consolidation prize and what we man do is exactly what woman do .... now we just made the fiels equal and its called surviving and the best genes win.. As you said you dont want this or that because u not attracted to that well we arent attracted to a woman who did it all and now is washing her hands clean of her decisions.
And why werent you guys so eager to marry at 19, 20, 22, because most woman want to see the world still then even muslim women a lot when you guys are at the end of 20's like common yall take us for a fool.
Well then we also arent in a hurry when u guys turn 30. Im sorry but its just not fair.
Inshallah we will come out of this fute only allah knows how. May he forgive us and grant us a way out of this stalemate.
And one other thing " the guy who is just attractive to you" is "just attractive to every woman" thats how it goes. Just think like this if you are looking at him .. other woman are looking at him.
@@skillsphere9245 Not true! Whenever I showed a photo of a guy in my Jahiliya I had a crush on to my besties, their respond was nearly always "What's wrong with you, he is damn ugly ugh!" 😅😂 Guess I have a special taste Alhamdulillah
@@skillsphere9245kudos ❤❤
I am 30 and living the same thing! But Alhamdoulilah, what keeps me “sane” is my trust in Allah’s timing but also my values.
Sometimes I do have my lows but no matter how much I want to get married, I always have this little voice that pulls me back from bad situations Alhamdoulilah!
Sisters, take your time. Some evil men can sense our “desperation” and use strategies to lure us into marriage that will end up miserable. Get to know yourself, your values, your “non negociables”, your standards and stick to them. Like sister Nafissa said, it is not about having unrealistic expectations but everything is a matter of balance.
In Sha Allah, the right man will see you and honour you in Allah’s timing.
May he grant us all righteous spouses. Ameen 🤲🏿❤️
@@mariamtoure7457 same here girl. I second this!
We missed you Sis. I have benefited from your videos before i married. Please make videos about the muslim family and motherhood as well. Thanks for being such a good influence on us and giving beneficial advise.
I was married quite young, at 23. Now I’m 28 and going through a divorce (not my choice, spouse decided he no longer wanted children even though we agreed on this before marriage). I feel the pressure to move on as I approach 30, but I think it’s unnecessary. I don’t wanna move on before I’m healed from my previous marriage. May Allah help us all with our individual struggles, ameen.
Ameen, may Allah perfect your affairs and mine
Our good sis has come back dropping gems, mashAllah tabarakAllah. May Allah grant all interested sisters spouses and offspring that are the coolness of their eyes. Allahuma Ameen.
Ameen
Aameen ❤
I've been told so often that I have to settle because it would be difficult to find a man at my level, intellectually speaking. So I did and as a result : 2 marriages and 2 divorces within 2 years in my early thirties. After that I was like : "never again". Next year I'll reach my midthirties. I feel lost tbh. May Allah preserve you and your family
May Allah give you the man you truly want and who truly wants you, Ameen.
@@samia6888 amine!!! BarakaLloufiki
May Allah give you a husband that will be coolness of your eyes. Ameen….if possible pray Tahajjud and do istagfar dear sister.
@@nahinisrat1182 Amiiine sister, wa iyyaki :)
May Allah swt grant you the best sis and may He give you peace and comfort ❤
Sister I know it’s hard but what helped me when I hit my lowest point was realising that we can live fulfilling lives without marriage - it is possible. You will get comments by well meaning people (and not so well meaning people) but I’ve learned to block it out and do things I enjoy , stay busy and avoid being alone too much.
Our true purpose is to worship Allah. Shaitan wants us to become completely consumed and distracted by these matters . Marriage is important but it doesn’t make us less than our sisters who are married with kids etc. You are valuable and loved my dear sister 💕
Guys read surah ALBAQRAH at least one page a day. If you don’t know it, LEARN IT.
Wa Alaykum Salam, sister Nafisas. I'm going to save the video and watch it very carefully. Because I feel like it's what I need to hear. I'm close to 30, and I feel like I'm being pressured to get married and sometimes I'm pressured in a way that I feel like maybe it's not meant for me. But anyway, I'm going to make a lot of duah to Allah to grant us good husbands, who are good for us, our deen and our life. And sister, your words always come in the best way. May Allah reward you for everything Amin. 🤲🏽
Saleem
aleykum selam sister, I am in the same situation and I am 32. Moreover I would like to ad that when you are living in a non muslim country it is harder to find a good muslim husband
@@si.3107yeah 😢
Ameen!
@@si.3107True! But not impossible so we all just gotta stay strong and In Shaa Allah it will happen ☺️
Please make dua for me for marriage. I am 34 years old and to be honest it is not looking good for me.
May Allah open the door of goodness for you and bless you with your own family who will be the coolness of your eyes. Ameen.
@Samina6888 Same situation like me I m very depressed 😢😢
@@NafisasPearlz Ameen.
@@arshiatazeen5953 may Allah also make it easy for you, Ameen.
@@arshiatazeen5953 may Allah give you a joyous marriage as well. Ameen.
Girl 30 where?! I just started watching your videos a few years ago and thought you were a teen till I started watching more. Never would have guessed you were 30.
😂lol. I get that all the time! Alhamdulilah I think it’s just my good 🧬 genes. I am firmly in my 30’s now so alhamdulilah.
Allahumma Barik @@NafisasPearlz
You’re so on point with the scare tactics!!! OMG seriously I started getting so much anxiety and almost fell into depression because of that! But alhumdulillah Allah took me out of it and made me realize it’s not the end of the world. Jazakillah khairan habibty for this beneficial reminder ❤️❤️❤️
Alhamdulilah ! You’ve been missed. You’ve made such an impact in my life dear sister; before I got married and now that I’m married and a mother.
Sisters I got married in my thirties and almost two years in, I’m glad I did. Allah’s timing is perfect.
Sister Nafisa, I’m so grateful for all you do. May Allah reward your efforts and kindness towards all of us. Ameen.
Ameen. Jazaka’Allahu khairan my dear sister for your love and support. May Allah continue to bless your home. Indeed Allah’s timing is never wrong. May Allah bless our single sisters still searching Ameen.💖
Ameen. I’m grateful sister.
I know sisters will find comfort in this video and part 2. InshaAllah. 🤗
Well I am 40, still unmarried with no children....
Whatever Allah has decreed is better for us.
I’m 36. But I know if it didn’t happened for me Allah knows there is a very good reason.
He chose for us because he knows us like nobody else does.
He doesn’t do anything to humiliate us or to hurt us he is the one who decide about the timing or if things should happened or not.
Stay strong
I love, love, love this!!! Echo this again and again and again. Take your time, but also tie your camel, have your values and also be realistic. Beautiful reminders. Masha Allah. May your work continue to be blessed.
I haven't watched the video yet but the way I screamed sis Nafisa! when I saw the notification. Our online big sis is back, I hope you are doing okay
SubhanaAllah!!!! I just said 2 days ago where is my Sister!!!!! Good to see back Ma shaa Allah TabarkAllah excellent topic very very beneficial 🤲🏾🤲🏾🌹♥️
Do one for us over 40s 😅😂😭
It's for any age desiring marriage
Thank you thank you thank you For mentioning the depression-provoking movement of RP!!! I went onto a very depressive space two years ago listening & consuming their content thinking it’s interesting but it almost swallowed all hope I had. To the point it even pushed me to freely envy & jealousy of those girls who married much younger, in the ideal circumstances (for all society knew). Astaghfirullah. Yes I know marriage in young age has its perks. It doesn’t cancel out all marriage’s perks if you’re married a bit older than ‘ideal’ but they were intent to demonise every woman who passed her prime still single!! I couldn’t believe I fell into this nonsense. I live in a religious society, most girls around me are such sweet respectful and modest girls (assuming and only Allah knows) yet they’re not married YET! It doesn’t negate that they’re good people. It just proves that society indeed suffers as a result of degeneracy. Many men are falling into sin, immodest girls everywhere, and it gets harder and harder to find a man who we can willingly accept as a partner in this dark ocean of fitnah. We want to build homes that shield us not just a roof and another test of hardship. Jazaki Allah khair, and welcome back!
⚠️Beware of scammers and other weirdos in the comments here on RUclips and on other platforms as well!!! Just saw one in the comments under this video! Don’t fall for it and report them immediately! 😡
It’s hard not to feel down & depressed at times. Especially when people look down on you or when you feel jealousy (not in a bad way but in a way that you wish It for everyone, so also for yourself).
Ma Sha Allah! This was our today's conversation. Came to check it after you made mention of it in our session.
Assalamualaikum sister
I almost tripped running to see this video 🥲
I feel like i am invisible no 1 sees me
The right one will at the right time. 🤲🏾
I found someone who has all the criteria I want except I am not physically attracted to him!
My family is telling me that i would get over that and it's not important, but i can't seem to overlook it.
Please help i don't know what to do He and his family are waiting for an answer for three months but i can't get myself to give them one, i can't seem to decide.
What do you think guys is physical attraction important? I am afraid if i refuse i will not find someone with the values that i am looking for at my age. Please advise me.
Do what’s best for you and always have trust physical attraction is important to some people but if you’re really struggling with this then you should pray and make lots of dua 💗
Is there any chemistry between you both? How many times have you met with him as physical attraction cam grow. Have you prayed istikhara? Also from his perspective, does he know what's holding you back? Surely he probably would not want to marry someone who's not attracted to him at all. I pray Allah guides you to your decision and grants you contentment in it.
Perhaps meet him one more time, whilst making dua, praying istikhara. You have nothing to lose and in sha Allah things will become clearer on whether or not you want to proceed.
Also keep in mind provision is decreed from Allah so don’t worry about the what if’s etc , easier said than done but honestly it will be ok iA 💕💕
Queen is BACK! 🥰
Edit : By the way, I turned 20 recently & I also get inner feelings that it’s too late for me to marry because one of those red pill guys said if you're (indicating women) in your 20s, you're expired 😂
Thanks for nafisa
You are welcome
@@NafisasPearlz 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Sis Nafisa salam, I used to watch alot your channel while in kenya now that i moved to canada I'm alot busy still glad to watch your content
Missed your videos.
The way I ran to this video 🥹
MashAllah Tabarack Allah ❤❤❤
Was waiting fir a video like this
Clicked straight away. Have missed your videos!
Thank you. I’m glad to be back as well Alhamdulilah
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Still I dont find any man 😔 what can I do?
Be patient and keep praying sister. Allah knows best and will guide you towards what is best for you In Sha Allah ❤
I am your sister from Yemen, and by Allah I only spoke out of hunger and distress. My mother, my brothers, and I lessons and tears. We are in a situation that only God knows about. God is sufficient for us, and He is the best disposer of affairs for those who broughtOh people, we are your sisters, by God 😭😭😭 We do not even find a loaf of bread inside the house that would satisfy you, oh nation of Muhammad. People are brothers. Oh God, make your righteous servants subservient to us. Oh God, make your righteous servants subservient to us. My appeal to every Muslim, oh Lord, if he sees this message, may He prolong his life, make him happy, and cover him. May God reward him. God is sufficient for me, and He is the best disposer of affairs. There is no power or strength except with God. Oh people, oh nation of Muhammad, oh people of goodness, oh people of mercy. We are your sisters and your children. By God, we do not even find a loaf of bread inside the house that would satisfy you. Oh nation of Muhammad, I only spoke out of extreme hunger and distress. My mother, sisters, and I are displaced from our homes because of the war. We are in a state that no one knows about except God. God is sufficient for us, and He is the best disposer of affairs, against those who brought us to this state 💔💔 By God Almighty, I only wrote this appeal out of extreme poverty and poverty, oh people. I beg you by God Almighty, Lord of the Mighty Throne, that I do not have food at home. By God, my brothers and sisters have been sitting around for two days. Without food, by God our situation is very difficult, we are 4 people in the house and my father passed away and there is no one to support us and we live in a rented house and we cannot pay the rest of the rent. I am not lying to you nor deceiving you nor cheating you. I am a Yemeni girl displaced because of the war between me and my family over a rent dispute and the owner of the house. By God, my brother comes every day and humiliates us and talks about us and wants us to go out to the street because we are unable to pay him the rent. The neighbors saw us crying and talked to the neighbors again and gave us a deadline until the end of the week and we swore to God to let us out of the street now we are in arrears of 60 thousand Yemeni riyals for 3 months rent may God have mercy on us our country is suffering because of this war and we do not find our daily sustenance and we live my mother and sisters our father passed away may God have mercy on him and we do not have anyone in the world to come to us in these harsh circumstances my little sisters went out to the street and saw the neighbors eating and stood at their door giving them even a piece of bread and by God in whose hand is the heavens and the earth they closed the door and kicked them out and they came back crying dying of hunger no one has mercy on them and now the holiday has come back to me if no one of us helps us with a kilo of flour by God we will die of hunger brother I seek refuge in God and then in you and I want your help for the sake of God I ask you by God you love goodness and help me even if it is about the rent of the house send me a WhatsApp message on this number 00967716649494 and ask for my card name and send it and do not delay may God compensate you with all good My little sisters, look at their situation and help us and save us before they throw us out into the street and humiliate us or my family and I die of hunger. We ask you by God, if you are able to help us, do not delay on us, and may God reward you with good.'~~_«%•&»_~~_~&:»'////;&&;&;&;;&🎉😢😢😢😢;&;&&&//&..,!~~~♡♡♡~~~♡~♡~•~•~•~•~♡~♡~♡~;l.i.i.i.i.i.l.|-.-.،،،,,,’,،،'،..-..،..;:..،،،..،.‹،،،...،..،.,,.,،..،..،،.،.،،،,،.،/.;,,..,,...،..،;&&;;&💔😭😭&;(
Scammer you are here again!!!!!!
@@sana4u02As you are seated somewhere in West Africa 😅😅
Walaikum salaam sister and any brothers and sisters who are watching🧡
Alhamdulilah.
Is late twenties too late find someone to be marry🥲🥲