Twins Meeting Father First Time - Montel William's Show
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2011
- In 1999, when this was filmed, my fraternal twin sister wrote into various talk shows wanting help to find our birth father after we had been initially adopted as infants and then ended up in foster homes as well as homeless when released by the state to our own responsibility. At this time in my life, at the age of 23, I was struggling to pay my way through college, had just been homeless the year prior and was experiencing anxiety and depression. But, my sister reached out sharing Montel wanted us on his show to share our story.
As a result, 20 years later, I have been on a journey of self discovery and understanding the hero's journey that we all have and since worked with and represented the likes of Deepak Chopra & Tony Robbins so as to support others in being empowered in their own journeys. Remember, we are all the Creator of lives we love no matter our circumstances or what has happened to us. You are perfect, whole & complete. Sending much love and light to you. May this story inspire...
I never found my bio dad and I had a mother that rejected me. I don’t remember her ever hugging me even once. She also did not protect me from her abusive husband.
I married an abuser and after 46 I survived and am alone now at age 68. I’m glad you survived too and it looks like you have have your heads on straight and are sweet girls.
My heart goes out to you Alice, for being a survivor. I am hoping that there were other events and persons in your life that encouraged and gave you support. I feel for you though. Trinidad & Tobago.
I think your dad was a little emotionally jammed up, but I could see his pride and happiness shining through the cracks in his armour. I'm so pleased you found him, and so sorry for your loss, and what you went through. I hope you two are doing well!! Sending love from the UK! xx
I was so thrilled that you girls FINALLY met your Father. Having it happen on TV was not the perfect situation, in front of so many people. Montel was so good giving you a bit of time alone. I loved how he was beaming when the test said he is your Father. You girls look so very much like him. I am so happy for all of you.
I hope your relationship with your sister and father has stood the test of time. I met my daughter nearly 20 years ago and had some tough conversations but came through it. We now have a great strong bond.
Those girls are gorgeous and look like their dad. I hope they found some happiness before his sad, untimely passing.
Very good
Look at the smile on their faces Seen Dad, Thank to mother nature.
I think when we are to young...we make so mistakes in life...
That's why I don't judge .
The father smiles all time in this video.
😌 like this 😊
Rest in peace.
I was a single mom of twin girls and they are the best gift God ever gave me💖 I'm sorry you both had a hard life. My girls barely got to know their dad for about 4 1/2 years and he died right before they started senior year. They're doing well. I hope you both are married and have children and are filled with lots of Love.
The father was not excited, I would grab the two girls give the both a big hug and apologize to them for not being there. Those children should be care first even that is not your child after all it possibility is there you could be. Those are beautiful girls and kind at heart. I wish the best for the best for the two of them.
My Condolences Heidi, touched by your story and so glad you had the opportunity to have some closure having met your bio parent. Wish you and your sister the best things life can offer.
Hope you know that you will always be wanted and appreciated by me and anyone else in this big world who sees this video. Thanks for posting!!
Glad they survived through the tough times.
The twins father don't know to show love OR he doesn't know about love 🤔his daughters gone through so much and they still doing so well 🤔 they are not into drugs they are two great human beings 😶 just wanted to wish them both the best and may the bright light shine upon them 😇
we don't know yet, you're too quick to judge, He may be a better man than your father, lol
@@oliviawutam yes
Least they got to meet there birth father mine was killed in a car accident when I was 9 years old I didn't even get to meet him,thanks to a DRUNK DRIVER BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A SEMI TRUCK
I just wanted to reach through the screen and give your girls a big hug. You both are beautiful and handled the situation with grace. I wish you both a beautiful future.
Me two ah bless lovely girl,s ❤️❤️
Aa
banker vee Thank you. 🙏
hi i have a set of twins that r just adorable and you both are gorjus and i thank your dad for showing up thats such a touching story ppl dont realize that this really happened to you i got to raise my daughters alone for the first to yrs of their life and its not easy but i love it iam married now and that makes it even harder at times to raise them so i feel for you ladys and youve my prayers and blessing
So sorry for all that you and your sister went through Heidi. Congratulations on becoming the lovely, mature adults that you both became.
No paternity test needed; the resemblance between you both and him is unmistakable!
natasha stoynoff Thank you. Even more so with my sister (brown hair)! ❤️ - Heidi
@@hawkinsheidi When you and your sis first walked out on stage, my immediate thought was; "Heidi looks exactly like him"--the eyes, the nose, the mouth.
Then when he joined you, your sister looked just like him, too, but with different pieces of the puzzle.
Life is something. I hope all went well after this first meeting and you both were able to forge a relationship with him.
You and your sister seem so brave and forgiving. I wish you much luck and good wishes for your lives.
@@natashka8880 as soon as i saw their three smiles in the same frame i knew
This touched me ... I also have a twin and we are fraternal I tried to imagine ourselves in this situation and I don't think we would be as strong as you guys .I'm glad you found your mother first I'm sure that fulfilled you in a way. It's a blessing you also found your father because some people out there won't have the opportunity . Sorry to hear of his passing.hope you guys had a great time . Be blessed .
Montel should have revealed the paternity test before the show to remove all doubts, so everyone can enjoy a natural reunion.
I can't believe how this show presented this, it seems so archaic already. All for ratings. I'm glad you found your dad even if you had to be put through it this way.
Annalisa Young Thank you! It was almost 20 years ago. I’m thankful. I was able to meet him BECAUSE of the show finding him and flying us out there etc so I’m focused on that vs picking apart the way they did it. 🙏💕
Heidi Hawkins Hi Heidi, I'm very sorry I didn't mean any harm by that comment, I just wish you could have found him earlier. I'm glad people can find out easier now with DANA testing available to everyone. I hope you and your sister are happy. Your sister could be my cousin's twin!!
Just came across this. I did the filming of the footage of your father at his home just before he was to fly out to the show. He was the kindest sweetest man I have ever know. I hope all is well with you all!
Clear Picture Media Thank you. 🙏 He has passed on as of 6 years ago from a heart attack and so this message you shared means so much to me. 💕
@@hawkinsheidi Hi Heidi . I want to express you all my sympathy and my empathy for you and your sister for all the pain you both endured during the early years of your lives . You both were born beautiful and remained beautiful still to this day . Scrolling trhough the commentary and seeing that your father passed away make me feel sorry for you both , but at least you had the this response of where you two came from and hopefully had the chance to be father and daughters , share and catch some of the time you all been separated . Being on this planet is part of a journey and it never easy for most of us . I want to tell you , that you were not the only one to suffer , to struggle , to be separated , estranged , alienated . You two as beautiful as you are share this kind of pain with hundreds of millions of human beings worldwide throughout history and right now . We don't came to this planet by chance . Every human being is here for a reason , a mission whatever it could be a bad mission or a good misson , but ultimately every body has to pick a side . The lesson from all of this is the fight for ourselves . That despite everything , we must keep going on and you staying to this day is a win ! You won against all the odds . That's how your story is so inspiring .
Farouk Abdellah Thank you! 🙏❤️
Wow, God bless them all
Thank you for sharing your story. I hope everything is working out for you . .God Bless you all
Heidi and Holly, I am glad you finally got to meet your birth father and have closer before he passed away. He is at piece and watching over the both of you now. God Bless y'all and your families.
Was just reading thought the comments and saw that he passed on and I wanted to say sorry for your loss
Your welcome
Beautiful women. Hope they are happy now.
My deepest respect and wishes for a bright future :-)
Of all the ways a parent can leave a child ...death is the kindest. I think this is so true as leaving affects the next generation and their children..
Rip To Y’all Dad ❤️❤️❤️Aint Nothing Like A Father ❤️Love 💯
Dad couldn’t stop smiling ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Love the hairstyles and clothes everyone is wearing. I am glad you and your sis found your dad. Hope all is well. Take care.
Thank you sbuschi! It is very bright indeed. :)
hi,it seems to me your dads life was a little buckled early on,he joined one of the services,i assume to straighten himself out,in europe,men join the french foreign legion when they've lost,or have been crossed,in love,your dad seemed a very restrained,inhibited man,but it showed how pleased he was to know of you ladies,so glad your early life didn't trash your lovely souls,stay safe
Sorry you lost your Dad. Lucky he was the good sort, not like mine, violent. I always wished I was adopted and dreamt so many times my real Dad would show up but not such luck. My thoughts are with you xx
You are both such beautiful girls!:) Am so sorry to learn that your Dad passed before there was really much chance to know him well - after finally meeting him at long last!:( I am a twin and will keep praying that you will both have friends and partners who will love and cherish you abundantly!:) xxx
Thank you so much for the kind note and support. 😘 So appreciated. 🙏
praize100 he passed?
Wow. Just goes to show what can happen. Very nice and touching though!
The same thing happened to me - very odd, I'm a fraternal twin as well. I searched for my birth father as well and honestly, it was the worse mistake of my life. You really have to be prepared for the worse.
I so love Montel...the coolest talk.show host ever..
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Bummer that he sent them off screen to have their initial introductions. That’s the part we’re all tuned in for,the whole point of the show right?!
Monteil makes odd eye movements before taking that first break.
This may have been just before he was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis... I'm not sure.
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Anyone who could have had these adorable kids and abandoned them to hardship needs a psychiatric examination!
***** - I am glad! Could adopt both any time - but it is too late I suppose!
***** We really grow from our hardships. But it is good to see this and maybe somebody else in a parenting crisis will decide to make a more responsible decision.
Hello I turned this video off because the music was so loud I could not understand the girls when they were interviewed
He dident think they were his but he wanted to know yeah now that there grown and he dosent have to take care of them
Caroline White You and other women can be quite cruel and assumptive around men. My mother, his wife at the time, had slept with another man so she didn’t know either. They gave us up for adoption. Paternity tests weren’t invented until years later which is what made for great tv. He got called out of blue to be told. He’s now dead so I wish he RIP. 🙏💕
This is heartbreaking...I wonder if they stayed in contact since the show?
Mary Shoemaker Hi Mary. These comments go directly to me. Yes, we stayed in touch. It's all good! Many years ago at this point. He actually passed away about 6 years ago from a heart attack. It was great to have had an opportunity to meet him! 💋
Heidi Hawkins I'm so sorry to hear that Heidi.I hope you and your sister are doing well and sending you lots of love and prayers.
@@hawkinsheidi Just saw this. I'm so happy you found him when you did . Hugs to both of you, I'm sorry for your loss.
IF he had any doubt why wait 24 years?
It's hard to say unless you or I were in his shoes just like my asking why you would do xyz in a difficult situation you experienced. It's all good. It was all an opportunity.
He didn't want to pay child support.
@@packergeek10 👏🤣
packergeek10 Just seeing your comment. I’m one of the girls. Its funny how you assume the worst. It was 1975 and there were no paternity tests back then. His wife, my mother, also had slept with someone else when they were separated for a bit and so when she became pregnant no one knew or would be able to have a way to find out who the father was. Don’t assume the worst in people.
Michael Garcia hi. First, it was 1975. They didn’t have paternity tests for another 20(?) years or so. They also gave us up for adoption because they were 18 and immature, with a broken relationship/marriage so it didn’t matter. The way they share the story, makes him look like a jerk. Wasn’t the case.
Heidi, ignore the negative comments that people make. My husband was adopted at birth. We tried for years to find his birth mom. We had her name, but there were hundreds of women with that name. She was only 16 when she had him in 1957, so there was no way she could keep him. My husband finally did the DNA test, and that helped us find both sides of his family. Sadly, both of his parents had died young, but we found half-sisters, aunts, uncles, and many cousins. He finally found answers that he always wanted. People asked why he cared after all those years. I think it's normal to always want to know where you came from. I'm glad that you got to meet your dad.
why is this filmed from a television recording....
SL Springer It was 1999 and a vhs copy of the show that was then transferred to a 💿 in 2006 to then be uploaded to RUclips.
WHERE'S HIS GOATEE? I'm sorry. I had to stop this at 0:09.
Father and daughters seem really great people,I am so happy forf them.
I also think this Montel Williams is an appaulling TV host. what an uncharismatic man,and it was badly arranged, meeting and greeting them just before knowing the dna, it made it uncomfortable.badly done indeed.
Anyone else notice how the camera man kept screwing up? Lol ☺️😩
l' "animateur" de cette "soupe" me rappelle un "maître " de cérémonie des "pompes funèbres" parisien !
Now with DNA we dont have to wait 24 years. and mothers if you know with whom you are sleeping if you get pregnant make sure that you kids know who is the father liked or not.
So, is your relationship with him OK? How did things go after the show?
Hi Jumper Guy! Sorry for such a late reply. Things were ok after the show but it was really challenging to establish much of a relationship because of the 1500 mile distance but grateful to have met him in 1999. He has passed on from a heart attack as of two years ago and he is at peace. Thanks for asking.
I am glad it all brought some peace to your lives and congrats for beating the odds despite all the negative influences in your lives.
never had the need to find father
Denise Kennedy Thanks for sharing. Me neither when I met him. Most people don’t “need” to fulfill on things. This was born out of “desire” to answer a question which is a very different motivator...and way more fun. 💕
what about the update?
Shirley Cooper Hi Shirley! It’s now 20ish years later so this was so long ago. :) Update: Twin sister and I are healthy and happy. 🙏. Dad passed away (heart attack) about 7 years ago. He is at peace and so are we. 💕
@@hawkinsheidi - I am so sorry your Dad passed away, so soon after meeting him. Were you and your Sister able to spend any time with him, and did you get to meet your relatives and your Grandmother on his side of the family? Did you both have any half siblings? I hope you and your sister stay close, because having family is so important. I am so glad you both got the answers you were looking for. You both are amazing women.
Why would he believe they were not his at all 👀? Was it simply denial or irresponsible behavior?
Even if he was doubtful...he could have stuck around to find out. Were there dna tests back then? He could have had one done or at least have a blood type test done.
Actually, by simply looking at them, he would have been able to tell whether they felt his or not. Sometimes you just feel it and see it in their faces. He could have even asked his mom to spend time with them for her to see if she saw her child's features in those babies. Grandmas are so good at that.
However he just left? His doubts were just excuses. I'm so sad for those girls :'(
He was a young person ...they do make mistakes at that age...
It's funny. So easy to judge others isn't it? And, please don't be sad for me. ;) I'm the woman who posted this video you are speaking about and what they don't tell you in the show is my birth mother cheated on him and in 1975 when we were born there was no such thing as DNA tests. She didn't even know who the father was. After neither man worked out, she dropped us off at the hospital a year into having us to tell them she didn't want us anymore. The only reason we suspected he was our father over the years was because he was married to her at the time and was on our birth certificate. Don't judge so quickly. ;) It was her.
What ever happened to Montel
Moved back? He was born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland and has never lived in Africa. I think you're confused.
He was diagnosed with MS
He got older
PT are you racist, nit all black people are from Africa.you sad excuse for a human being.
If he cared he would have checked after their birth.
cathiiannii These comments go to me, the daughter. I always laugh about the judgement folks make. If anyone should judge, it would be me, the one effected. To clarify, both parents split and she got pregnant but didn't know who the father was. And in 1975 they didn't have paternity tests so all these years he had no clue if we were his.
cathiiannii These shows don't capture all the facts so please know it can be easy to judge. Thanks for looking for clarification. He did the best he could and I'm ok with the which is all that matters. :)
How is your relationship now with your father?
Faves52 One of the daughters stated in the comments that he passed four years ago. :(
The video quality hurts my eyeballs 😳🤪
It is much better than the TV quality we had growing up in the '70s. One gets used to it and adjusts. Try looking at clouds on a summery day. They really do form shapes, figures, people.
Frank didn't seem to care about his daughters at all. Shame.
Sanober Malhotra what’s a shame is your judgement. He did “care.” He wouldn’t have met us if he didn’t.
I don't think that these girls biological father is a very warm and friendly guy.
Marimilitarybrat I’m one of the girls and I can attest that he was a very warm and friendly guy (when not on a tv show for millions to judge and assess him in this one light.) 💕
I think that his mother knew that it was a possibility and told him that catch up with him.guys don't care where theirs DNA is. the just make baby for accident is true ! I wish sometimes that if the woman its prignet have the baby and give to the father to raised the baby , if they don't want kids they should do the vasectomia not leaving babys wonder for the world ! The fathers dont teach them the value of a human life becouse they are the one who give life they should be more responsable
@@hawkinsheidi heidi your father was very good looking guy.....I'm very happy you got to know himm....R.i.p
The only thing bothers me, is that he deserted their mother. He could've taken a blood test.
Georgina Mannor I’m one of the twins. Not everything is revealed here. First, it was 1975. There were no blood or genetic tests then like there is now. 2nd: They were 19 and lots of drama in their relationship. 3rd: My birth mother had been intimate with a different man so she didn’t know who the father was and was by no means a saint in this. 4th: He was legally obligated to sign papers releasing us to be adopted only because they were married (at 18) so it’s assumed he was the father and that is the only reason we were able to eventually track him down. The point? It was a complicated scenario and he did nothing wrong. I’ll have to update the intro I wrote when I originally posted this years ago. Thanks. And, remember to always think about something a few different ways. Not everything is at it seems.
@Meadow Apple Hi. I'm not sure how to validate that there were actual blood tests but either way, he was unable to take care of us and after meeting him, I learned of his lifestyle which did not agree with the kind of environment I would've wanted to grow up in anyway so I'm happy he did not raise us at his young age of 19. :) He had no other children. Thank you for asking. He's since passed so this chapter in my life is closed. So happy to have at least met him and heard his side of the story which is much more than a 15 min segment could ever capture.
@@hawkinsheidi wow...so understanding of your father and forgiving...we are not the same at 18 and 19 as we are when we are older...some comments are so judgemental, sorry...at that young age we are just kids...and most of the time without paternal and maternal instincts...that's life...at least you got to meet him and that is important...closure....best wishes to you girls!!!
He thought he might not be the father. Well there was obviously a chance that he was. Poor poor excuse. Anyhow I love my children for who they are not because they are biologically mine. I don’t mind someone having a child adopted but pure denial and lack of accepting responsibility I absolutely abhor.
you aren't identical twins, are u?
Y anchor is so much hurt 🙄
Cell Phpop.
I'm sorry to say. I don't like to judge, but I don't think he had a lot of emotions.
You come to see your children for the first time and you dont jump Into their hands. Unless he carried around the guilt all his life and just didn't want to admit it.
JW The latter sounds true. He was a pretty stoic, non-excited type anyway but yes, guilt may have been part of it all.
And to stand for a man who can no longer stand for himself, R.I.P., he was 18 and his relationship was on and off where when he found out his wife at the time was pregnant, neither knew who the father was so I can see why. 1975 also didn’t have paternity tests so he was forced into signing adoption papers not knowing for all those years.
I'm sorry if I made any comments that are not respectful. I just realized that this is about you. It's your story.
The more I read and watch about children finding their birth parents. I learn that so so many of these families actually did it by force. And that must of been the most painful thing.
U therapeutic communication techniques bad show they are totally in control they are like robots to follow the host instructions
lee ching Hey there. It’s, me...in the video, 20 years later. It was 1999 and video production blew back then. Chill.
Not to destroy the warmth in this but Montel my man that vest is just awful son!!
Hope when he passed away the girls got something from his "estate"
I’m one of the girls and what is that supposed to mean? Random and heartless comment. He’s dead. Show some respect please.
@@hawkinsheidi Yes, a dreadful comment.
What a horrible thing to say!!! The girls finding their Father had nothing to do with money. Anyone reading your comment can tell what sort of person you are and it isn't a good one.
I hope they received ALL the love he had to give for the time they had with him. When my father goes, money wont be the first thing on my mind that's for damn sure. Your comment was flat out stupid. It shows what kind of person you are.
Do people just do these shows for money?🤔
Weird. What a dumb question. The “money” is getting to meet our father for the first time.
@@hawkinsheidiif you had taken time to watch the show you would have realised it's for money. But atleast you know how to spell dumb 😉 AND you could ONLY get to meet your father on a show for the first time Infront of a paid audience , cameras and the media.
Don't bullshit people you folks do this for money. Just another Tv show
hi i have a set of twins that r just adorable and you both are gorjus and i thank your dad for showing up thats such a touching story ppl dont realize that this really happened to you i got to raise my daughters alone for the first to yrs of their life and its not easy but i love it iam married now and that makes it even harder at times to raise them so i feel for you ladys and youve my prayers and blessing