"Mental Health" Is Being Used To Excuse EVERYTHING.
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What do yall think? You think she just making it up to seem like a more sympathetic victim?
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Judging by her hair, she’s lying. And the fact that her mom was kicking her out. She’s very able to handle herself despite being “mentally and physically ill ”
I do.
It is a SICKNESS
I think the call it sad phishing
Yes and as a counselor in training, it is sad how much people coddle eachother in victimhood instead of empowering each other to take responsibility for and make our lives what we want them to be. It grinds my gears like eventually you gotta look at your shortcomings and situation and make a decision about how to do and be well.
Mental health is most definitely used as a scapegoat. People who deal with mental health issues for years on a daily basis has been stigmatized by people like her.
Yes we have 💯
I feel like because of people like this you can't even say that you have anxiety because people will look at you differently, and I know a lot of people who blame mental illness on them being a shitty person
There are people who really struggle with mental health in silence. You would never know.
In other less crazy cases bad mental health makes you a bad/abusive person, it doesn't excuse any behavior, but it means you need to seek help.
It is a SICKNESS
Being stressed out by life isn’t mental illness. It’s consciousness.
Everybody on Twitter needs to hear this lmao
She probably do have a mental illness but that doesn't mean she can't do nothing with her life.. That just means she don't want to do anything with her life.
@@_Devil Twitter must be the underlying factor
Man some people are lazy as shit
Yup absolutely true, people nowadays are just mentally weaker than ever and want to avoid accountability at all costs. There absolutely people with real mental issues that really do need help, but the person in this video is not one of them
My sister has schizophrenia and autism. She has an extremely hard time reading facial expressions, social ques, and she hears voices.
Imagine how scary it would be to go out in a world with those two filters affecting how you view reality?
And she has a job. She goes to work four days a week and pays rent.
Be careful in telling yourself you’re not capable- that is the truly disabling belief to have.
Besides the voices I have the same thing. I have Aspergers and when I was 12 my mom sat me down and said I can be victimized by circumstances but being a 'victim' is a personal choice and a thinking error. Changed my life
Where she live?? State to state are different. Some states are open to having Autistic individuals while others are the worst.
Man i havent heard voices since puberty. Im so glad i only have autism. You dont really see actual mentally ill people brag or talk about it because we know its a horrible disease that you dont want anyone else to experience. Living with mental illness makes you humble.
@@austinnsuff6576 "Be careful in telling yourself you’re not capable- that is the truly disabling belief to have." 💥💥
cope it is impossible to work with autism
As a psychologist, I could not agree more. The need for attention and the feeling of superiority is high and the easiest way to get there is the victim card because people are too scared to say no. It’s grim and it impacts genuine mentally and physically disabled people as well as their families.
As a psychologist how insulted do you feel for all these people claiming to be disabled and mentally ill but never seem to talk about what services they go see to handle their supposed illness? If someone came to you even if you don't prescribe them various drugs for behavioral control, there would have to be steps in that persons life that they can take to make improvements to the point they can function, such as starting small like making your bed, folding your laundry, making yourself a sandwich, simple accomplishments that can be used to create stability and help them come to an understanding of their own capabilities and boundaries?
Does it not make your blood boil that these people claim an illness but rebuke the treatments?
@@StevenTLawson i have ADD (diagnosed and obvious) and atleast in my experience people who dont know shit about fuck will tell you that they have add because they forget things or cant stay concentrated for long times. these wierdos claiming to be things that are actual hardships that people face do nothing but make actuall mentally ill/neurodivergent people sound like liars
Youre the proof that even with a degree in psychology youre still stupid.
@@StevenTLawson more than you know. If you think that is bad, you should see them when they are corrected (they usually get mad and then try to find someone who will affirm… not the job of a psychologist).
I mean.. she is mentally ill (disordered) if she’s talking all the “misgender” nonsense, gender dysmorphia.
However, that isn’t a disability and she needs to quit thinking she’s simply entitled to a certain quality of life without the responsibilities that come along with it. Nobody owes you anything, and nobody respects a 20-year old with neon hair that won’t earn what they want.
I think a lot of people/teens/kids now a days don’t realize:
1. Life is difficult and unfair for everyone.
2. No one is responsible for your bad mood - only you.
3. Everyone is entitled to their own way of thinking, the same as you.
4. It is your responsibility to work through your own childhood trauma. That may mean cutting people out, moving out, being alone, etc.
I say this confidently because these were all lessons I myself needed to learn.
Same here and we're better off for learning them. Took me a about a year of hard work
The funny and scary thing about this is, that some people talk about this sex/gender stuff like its about opinions or beliefs...its about facts right in front of us. Asking your own mother to deny what you are is insane. There are 2 sexes and the 2 genders refer to these 2 sexes. Thats it...thats a fact.
I learnt that the hard way too, especially the last one. Its amazing how inner work changes every area of your life for the better.
Our people have reached all time highs of selfishness. Me me me me me.
@@calistafalcontail the mum is quite literally denying what she identifies as sure there are 3 sexes(intersex) but gender is multifaceted and putting gender in a box is detrimental. so the mum is wrong in that regard.
At first she said Im trying to educate you, then it was your misgendering me, and when nothing else worked it was, but im schizophrenic. Good for mom for standing up and not allowing this entitlement and insanity to continue.
It's not education, it's ideology. But he/she/it is mentally ill, just in the way cultists are.
Perfectly said 💯
@@blackjackjester exactly right👍
Mom sounds pretty rational to me. She's just FED UP with the BS and being bullied by this idjit at every turn because 'pronouns" and the endless excuses as to why she 'can't (fill in the blank). That whiny behaviour makes her sound like a damn toddler!
I guess good for mom.....but its the monster she created....she didn't hand out those a$$ whoopings and put her in place in her younger years.
"Mental illness is not your fault, but it is your responsibility"
-Marcus Parks
"If I put a quote around garbage observations then I will sound more reputable."
@@awesomeness24158 "I'm too drunk to taste this chicken"
@@awesomeness24158 you know I don't know who said this originally. I heard it from Marcus Parks maybe he did.
I would like to know how this is a garbage observation? Thanks in advance.
@@Zemanbeast "I smell burnt toaxsdcvfffdr
@@awesomeness24158 " If I call out this guy for being basic I'n the cool one "
I have schizophrenia and live with my parents. They don't kick me out because it's been diagnosed for many years, I take medication, and am working to get my life together. If your parents aren't aware of your mental health issues when you live with them, then you probably don't have any.
My parents arent aware and it doesnt mean that i dont struggle with so many issues on a daily basis. Dont assume.
@@starfrgament Go get diagnosed and get help then mf
@@starfrgamentare you the girl in the video?
@@starmoral5456 no
@@starfrgament probably not schizophrenia though. You can't hide that.
I love her logic: "I am mentally and physically disabled therefore it's okay for me to be a parasite and toxic towards my parents :)". Also, im pretty sure her "disabilities" are self-diagnosed...
PS. I'm pretty sure that her plan worked and she still got sympathy from other people who are just as brainwashed as her.
Exactly. Like wtf. I see that kind of bs all the time. " I'm self diagnosed blah blah blah...." and its like who are you and what makes you suck an expert to diagnose yourself
Agreed. Also everyone is fucking neurodivergent too these days. Hoards of ppl self-diagnosed w/ autism, it really pisses me off.
@@kkaugustine1958 for real, it boggles my mind at times
I was just about to comment the same thing.
Bingo. I'm on disability. I live with my wife and daughter. My ailments make life rough. I still try. I do not go and whine about it. We all have a big sh!t sandwich on our plate. Me bitching about my sh!wich does not make yours better. We all have a role to play in life. I will not allow myself to be a victim. To this day I still lift weights, and till my legs got so bad I can't stand without help I walked for my health. I will not belittle anyone for actual issues they have. I'd rather see folks get past it all and celebrate with them. Good luck and god bless you and yours!
As a nurse in mental health, I never once heard my clients admit to Schizophrenia. Most look at the disease as embarrassing & rather mislead friends/family to their diagnosis for being on a hold in a mental facility
I don't tell most people that I have bipolar disorder because they tend to decide for you when you're symptomatic and it becomes a manipulative thing. You're always wrong if you have bipolar disorder even when you're right.
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Same I work in behavioral health and have never heard of schizophrenic patient say out loud they have schizophrenia. EVER!!
I work in EMS and often times deal with psych and mental health patients. Never heard anyone admit to having g schizophrenia either. This girl is full of shit...
@@deViant14 yeah I only told my close friends about it mostly because I can always be open about it. You got this tho, I hope you and your friends can find a way to deal with this and that you find people who will not treat you like that🫂
My mother has schizophrenia and raised my sister and I by herself with minor help from our grandparents. She has had her moments here and there but overall she is a great mother and has taught me fantastic lessons to live by. Now that I have a job I have taken it upon myself to help her whenever I can without her ever asking me. Mental disabilities are not an excuse to do nothing, they are an excuse to rise above those who tell you that you can't.
Jesus Christ can deliver her he died on the cross for our sins repent and be baptized in Jesus Christ name
@@DottieHottie2002 jesus isint real
Well said!
As someone on the spectrum, I had a long and hard road to climb. I had my moments, my difficulties, my mistakes, but with the support of my parents I finally got to where I can support myself... mostly. People like this woman are what makes things harder for us.
@@titang6173 Just remember not to be too hard on yourself. Everyone has moments, difficulties, and mistakes. Keep up the good work!
As someone who used to use mental health as an excuse. I did that because I didn’t want to take responsibility for the shit that was my fault. It’s another way of living in denial of the real situation. This isn’t healthy in the slightest.
“Your mental health is your responsibility, not someone else’s. “
That was the hardest pill I’ve had to swallow in a long time. But I’m glad I did.
Just wanted to acknowledge this! That's a huge change, congrats on facing it and putting in the work! I hope things are going better for you now.
@@themillykate that’s very sweet of you. I’m doing much better now a days and I wish the best for you as-well
i wonder how great it feels knowing that if ur suicidal and suffering so much and everyone will tell you thats its your responsibility and that noone cares if ur alive or dead.
@@starfrgament that’s most definitely not what I meant. If someone is suicidal, there’s always someone who cares. But that doesn’t mean that person can force them to get help. Someone cannot make the decision to get better for you. You have to be the big enough person to admit you need help and actually take and implement that help you receive. Someone can support you but they cannot be responsible for whether or not you choose to get better. That’s your responsibility
I hope that cleared up what i was saying a little better
@@starfrgament that’s most definitely not what I meant. If someone is suicidal, there’s always someone who cares. But that doesn’t mean that person can force them to get help. Someone cannot make the decision to get better for you. You have to be the big enough person to admit you need help and actually take and implement that help you receive. Someone can support you but they cannot be responsible for whether or not you choose to get better. That’s your responsibility
I hope that cleared up what i was saying a little better
As a man who’s been genuinely suffering with anxiety and depression for years now, those of us who truly suffer don’t tell anyone, except for maybe or parents or close friends. We hate the way we are it’s not something we’re proud of. I know damn well we don’t go on social media crying to everyone looking for attention
Sorry you are going thru this. And I completely agree.
I've made the mistake of talking about depression on social media. People are...not supportive.
Anxiety and depression? What all of you have that now? I think you are all being diagnosed with these things as customers of big pharma. Not that you actually have these.
@@AlbowaSinema Albert you have 348 comments on this channel and nearly all of them are you hating on someone/thing. We all understand that your life is not enjoyable, but it’s sad to see you try and take it out on randoms in the RUclips comment section. Get some help man, call your family up. Stop commenting.
@@RandomWrongDeletion you people want the world to massage your fragile egos, we don't care. Life is good. It is fun seeing just how pathetic the western male has become. Emotional weak and pathetic. I love it. Add those 2 comments to your tally.
“I don’t care what you have.” That mother has been through enough. You can tell she is FED UP!
Imagine having to listen to that whiny adult brat of a daughter my god
shes probably heard her daughter go through half a text book worth of self diagnosed disorders or issues now. That kid needed to be off tumbler and tik tok and in therapy
Such for unconditional love huh. Condition is to be healthy apperantaly
@@mariacrenicia55 girl BYE. Her mom has clearly been putting up with the bullshit for God knows how long and she’s fed up. Someone loving you doesn’t mean that you get to take advantage of them, that’s exactly why her mom is now setting boundaries!
@@mariacrenicia55no, the condition is to not use their schizophrenia as an escape for their actions that they’ve clearly made against their mother, using it as an excuse. Never did she say she didn’t love her child, but she gave them 2-4 weeks to move out which isn’t just kicking them to the curb
The mother has been a victim of her child’s actions, and she’s done with it. The love is unconditional, not the putting up with them hurting her mental health
Only child here. My parents paid for all my schooling, but I filled every semester with as many classes as I could handle, and I worked every break between semesters. The agreement was, as long as I kept a strong work ethic (kept the grades up, worked during every break, and did the leg work to land a full-time job) they would help with my education. I did just that, and now I have a full-time job and I'm living on my own. I thank my parents all the time for helping me start my life without any debt. They return the favor and thank me for not taking advantage of their support.
You're a good being, may you and your family be blessed with eternal happiness and peace
Spoiled people smh
@@wescald not really. He had an agreement with his parents. Sets of conditions that needed to be checked. Their parents didn't give him everything freely, he had to prove it and earn it. Which he did. That's good parenting. Just because someone came from money doesn't make them spoilt. What makes someone spoilt is taking advantage of their privilege and never working a day in their life.
Not sure what this has to do with anything and not everyone is blessed with those opportunities.
I had a similar agreement with my parents. I swear it taught me more about time management, responsibility, accountability, etc. than anything I was taught in my elementary to high school educational career.
I have autism that affects my ability to communicate, cerebral palsy and brain damage that limits my brain’s ability to process information. And yet I continue to work on my issues to try and improve myself. Eventually, I was able to get a job to start supporting myself and my mother. I’ve been unable to drive myself anywhere for the longest time but now I’m going to start taking driving lessons so that I can. I am finishing college to get my degree. Mental illness/handicaps do not have to be an excuse to hold you back. With enough hard work, you can learn to overcome or at least compensate for them. This person seems to just use it for free benefits without doing anything to earn it.
Thank you for commenting. I have adhd and I realize I've been limiting myself, and I got a job!! I have been so happy and finally been able to prove myself after feeling inept.
Disability or mental illness isn't an excuse but rather even more reason to take responsibility of my life cause if I don't. It will only get worse.
@LANDMIND's soul good job bro proud of you
@@landmindssoul4636 IDK what I have but I feel like something is wrong with me
And I hate it
I want to tell my mom about it but I’m scared to sound like those kids...
I am going to art therapy so that will help
Whatever it is, if I figure it out, I’ll find a way to overcome it
What’s going on with me rn, I don't like it, I want it to be gone
I think it really should be said more of how strong you and others undergoing similar struggles are. You perservere in spite of the bad hand you were dealt in life, and realize that while navigating life is more difficult, it certainly isn't impossible. I really hope that more people see things this way and not give up.
The brat in this video tho... they didn't give up at all, but instead used it to manipulate others into giving them what they want. I have nothing but sheer disdain for people like that.
It's upsetting because people like this will always find a way to downplay your words. No matter how similar your situation is they will find an excuse not to get themselves together. In this situation, if the saw this comment they'd probably say, "well autism isn't the same as schizophrenia." And even if you did have schizophrenia and we're doing well they would find another reason like, "well you're lucky to have it easy." If you're not wearing the same shoes as them they will cry and cry and keep telling themselves nobody understands. It's stupid.
My almost 30 year old son still lives with me. He actually does have Aspergers Syndrome and ADHD. He has held a job since he graduated. He pays some bills and cooks for me sometimes even after he's worked all day. The only thing he can't do is drive but he has takes the bus to work and pays coworkers to bring him home. That little monster is a damn joke and needs to let her (yes, I'm misgendering) mom enjoy her own home! We all have your back mom!!
Based
@@crysto9 I'm old, what does based mean?
It means your opinion is your own and you dont make judgements based on what other people think, its used as a compliment basically saying they agree with you
@@riot5093 Thank you, Riot.
@@DMK48906 Your a good mom, don't know how to which extent his Aspergers affects him so obviously I can't say for sure. But I think you are helping him by making him contribute, as someone who have my own diagnosed physical and mental issues, in addition to being on the clock as I like to call it. I pay rent and live on the second floor that my parents previously would rent out to others. With siblings and their families living practically as neighbors. It just became the easiest way so that they didn't have to drive to an apartment whenever I need help. Now the nurses that comes daily mostly handle the medical side of things, instead of doing things that were not in their job description.
Not like I could afford the kind of care I need when there are days where I'm physically not able to make myself a proper meal, or even barley make it to the bathroom. But I'd be horrified if I didn't pay rent, didn't help out with other bills given how I'd be paying a lot more for living alone paying it all and paying for help. And when I'm able I help out with other things, I don't just do it because I have to, I do it because I feel such great shame. Partly for being the 30+ cliche that you think of as the "loser who's never going to get a girlfriend, living in your mom's basement." But I can't do anything about people's judgement of me being that loser since it's also true, so what's worse is knowing I'm never going to be able to fully repay them for all they do for me until my clock runs out.
My younger sister had a kid not that long ago so I was so grateful when I was able to help her by sitting in my very expensive, very comfortable bed holding my nephew while she got some much needed sleep. It's such a joy and privliage having been able to hold him for those hours, watching him grow, but I also dread it, because I used to be able to play with them as they grew. When eventually he starts doing more than being able to walk when you hold his fingers he's never going to know me as more than the uncle who gets exhausted for doing anything more complicated than doing acitivites where you sit still. When I was young, healthy and strong, it didn't matter if it was in the middle of the night, when the oldest started going to parties if I knew that she wasn't going to sleep over at friends house, or didn't have a designated driver. I insisted to get called so that I could go and pick her up and get her home. All my life I've been so used to being the man my family and friends can count on, and to be truthful I did so for pure selfish reasons.
On one hand I felt like it gave my life purpose, the other one was to quiet that voice in my head who kept telling me I was worthless after the abuse and trauma I'd gone through. I didn't even tell my family about it until I made my first real female friends after being scared of women except my immediate family because of what happened when I was younger. And the class I was in was almost all girls, who picked up on that I wasn't just shy and treated me with great care until the barrier was gone and one day was able to start talking about it. Everything for me changed after that, I finished school, got a job that I really loved and while I hadn't had a girlfriend yet. I felt like everything was working towards me one day being able to have the type of normal life that everyone else seemed to have. Until I one day in my early 20s just passed out at work, woke up in the hospital and by the time my stay was over, life changed completely. And I was now officially on the clock.
I know I got sidetracked here I'm sorry, morphine drip was taking it's time to start working fully and I find typing on my phone to help tricking my head into focusing on something else helps while it does the job that it's supposed to. My Doctor wasn't overly fond of me using a needle to prick my arm so that my head wouldn't know where to focus the most, so this was a better substitute.
The concluding message being I know that I'm a leech and a burden on society and my family and friends. I hate that so many things have to be done on my terms, it's not fair for them to have to take me into consideration for most things big and small. I don't want to be the center of attention, the world most certainly doesn't revolve around me. I'm not going to say that I have never been in such a depressed, or such a bad state that I couldn't do anything other than cry and it not affecting the people I care about. But I try with the last bit of energy I have to not make myself more of a burden than I already am. And when I see people like this, it fills me with even more shame than I already have, since the fakers perpetuate the stereotype.
I worked in a hospital, the entire directory call center was blind. The room was kept dark and they did their jobs with ease. This girl can hold a phone and talk, she can work at a call center even if her legs don't work or she's schizophrenic. If she has schizophrenia that young, she should also have a treatment plan already. If she can record videos for the internet so she can cry, she can probably work.
EXACTLY!
Absolutely right 🎯💯. If you really want something, no excuse will stop you. If you don't, any excuse will do.
Not probably, she can work. If she can sit down and colour her hair green? She can work...
she’s just lazy.
People have worked out the "sacred victims" in society and they cosplay that to game
The victimhood industrial complex does incredible harm for the truly disabled
It's theft and poisoning the well
Dated a girl w BPD and she mentally, emotionally, and physically abused me and used her being “crazy” as the excuse. I finally removed myself from the relationship and to this day she calls me expecting me to feed her attention meter and it’s just not happening. Some people don’t want help and want you to jump off the cliff w them; don’t do It. Stay on your path, hit your goals in stride and stay humble. Don’t put up with bullshit, always call a spade a spade
I felt this stay strong brotha
Exes are so attention driven these Mfs will flirt in front of you or "check up on you" just to see if you personalize them. They need that ego boost and reassurance that you still feel for them so they can come in your life and cause more drama. Notice how i didn't apply this to a certain gender. Both genders do it. Any type of ex. Friends, relationships, etc.
Fell your pain. Now my nephew is in that boat and wont listen. Ugh
That's definitely not a BPD thing. That's an abusive narcissist thing. I have BPD and I never treated the women I've dated like that.
@@tegridyprime It actually could be both, wich is what confuses other people who don't have it or might think someone they know have even without an actual direct diagnosis, you can have a personality disrorder's traits but not have the personality disorder itself.
Edit: Example, people with bipolar disorder might have BPD traits but not have BPD
I was diagnosed bipolar at 12. I wouldn’t wish mental illness on my worst goddamn enemy. People like this have done nothing but put education, research, and treatment back 10 years. They infuriate me. It’s not a flex.
My younger sister was diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder
@@caileighgouthro1365 May the force be with you, they are a nightmare.
@@caileighgouthro1365 Half of the diagnosis is made up to sell more pills. Watch out what she actually has or hasn't. It's sickening to see. I believe a person who has such disorders and would never tell them they are lying, but the issue is, these psych's are.
Did you know that anti-depressants were around before depression? Then not only the sales increased by a billion percent, but also the amount of people being diagnosed something in that field.......
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder last year but showed symptoms way before that, the fact that people use it as a excuse and like an aesthetic is really weird to me knowing what it’s really like
it’s really not , people think being mentally ill is quirky until they actually SUFFER
Often, the most loving and empathetic thing someone can tell you is "no". If your friends and family never tell you that you're wrong, then they are not showing you true love.
This is an underrated comment. One of the reasons society is fucked up is because we tell people to 'follow your dreams' and 'dont let anyone hold you back' but we need to be held back. That's very important.
@@avivastudios2311 yep. it's filled wiht fake posivitity
@@avivastudios2311 there Is nothing wrong with following your dreams and letting nothing hold you back. in fact thats vitally important for people to hear this. and thats not the reason society is fucked up. the reason society is fucked up is people lie to each other. its good to tell people to follow their dreams and get into an occupation they find meaningful and then strive for excellence in that profession, but its not good to lie to them about how hard its going to be. if they don't have a plan in place and are about to do something stupid, completely underestimating the challenge, then you're right. but generally high ambitions are achievable for 90% of people if they give what it takes and don't waste their time on meaningless stuff that doesn't help them progress. the reason many don't make it is because they are simply not acting out discipline and aren't doing what they know they should be doing and are avoiding their responsibilities. many don't like that fact, but its the truth. of course that doesn't mean we should encourage delusion. we have to be ruthlessly truthful in the service of love. so what you said isn't the issue. and no, we don't "need to be held back" generally. rather lying to people is the problem. not being in reality is the issue. and no, reality isn't "listen, it aint gonna happen." thats just a stupid thing to say. Reality is "You can do it, if you have a plan and actually stick to it and improve your competence, and you have to know it will take years, but it is achievable." THAT is reality. not some pessimistic notion.
@@avivastudios2311 Following your dreams and not letting anyone hold you back is ok, but this person is refusing to dream and is holding herself back.
True. Sometimes you don't need tough love, you need to be tough.
I have bipolar, I was diagnosed when I was 24. I hid my illness for years until I couldn’t anymore. I still work a full time job and support my family, while on a cocktail of mood stabilisers and antipsychotics. And I have never taken a penny off the government. Yes, there are times I fall apart and have to go back into hospital, but I always do everything I can to get back out there. Some people love to be a victim, but I never wanted to be one.
sorry g but the way you worded this screams "im a victim too please like my comment" lol 💀 we get it bro you hid your illness, never took money from the government, youre on meds, you work full time, like seriously nigga. we get it
🎉🎉🎉 hats off to u bro
Bipolar 2 diagnosed about 2 years ago but had tons of manic episodes here and I completely agree with you , never used it as a scapegoat or a cop out , we’re just trying to lead normal lives man , wish you the best ! I know it gets difficult
Bipolar Type 1 with agoraphobia 7 years ago.Sticking to a routine, taking the right combination meds along with talk therapy and I'm living a normal productive life. These people need to learn accountability.
I'm slowly turning bipolar too.
As an actual autistic dude, diagnosed at 13: YES! Thank you Aba!
Also, the next time i hear somebody say "But we're all a little autistic right?" Imma lose my shit. No we are not.
Yes. I just realized my oldest son has some form of autism but I never knew and it makes me so sad now that he's almost 23. I knew he was different but didn't realize what it was. I don't know how to get him tested officially but I realize his sensory issues, processing issues, and hyper focused are a strength, not a weakness. I just feel bad about all the years I didn't know. I didn't know how to relate to him. So no, we don't all have it. None of my other kids are like him.
@@4knewt505 Well, there's strengths and weaknesses to it. The weaknesses can be completely devastating if not handled right. A lot of people with my type of autism live with their parents and can barely do anything for themselves. For me, i've done a lot of things that even most nt's can't do but they didn't come easy to me. So, in my experience, being 30, having been diagnosed at 13, Assuming his autism is somewhat high-functioning: Conditioning is key! We like to isolate (with the hyper focus especially), and we like to think nobody understands us or wants to understand us, and then we tend to feel the same about nt's, that we don't understand them at all. When you're pushed into socializing more than you feel comfortable with, baby steps mind you, that's where autism really becomes a strength that can be measured on more than just an intellectual level. Cause the strengths are great, regardless of all the social issues, overthinking, sensory overload etc. - but the social stuff... Man, i wish i did not have to see people who are "just like me" living with their parents and never going out or doing anything with their lives, cause they CAN'T because they haven't been conitioned for it. Not because of the diagnosis in and of itself.
Anyway, sorry for rambling, just tryna say everything that i wish my parents had understood when i was younger, it might not be relevant for you at all now that i think about it.
Good luck to you brother, wish you and your son the best, if you got any questions or anything i can help with, don't hesitate to reach out, glad to help if i can.
@@illk9647 first off, thank you for your graciousness. I literally exhaled in relief when you stated about not thinking people understand you. I see his frustration with that. I have no idea which he had because he hasn't been tested but it because extremely obvious when he was living alone during the pandemic, a hour away. He agrees that he feels he's on the spectrum now. I just apologized to him again yesterday for things in his childhood and me not knowing how to communicate. So your ramble gave me some needed peace. He's a minister of music now and that's where I see his strengths. The weaknesses is where I want to get counseling so I can know how to be his mom better.
You've been helpful. I'm going to save this thread. Thank you again.
@@4knewt505 It takes a neuropsychology assessment. My friend who's 25 got one a few years back after his mom passed away. My mom did one for my brother when he was 14. Both got ADHD diagnosis, but you can ask for the spectrum diagnosis specifically.
@@lynef awesome! I'll let him know. He's subscribed to Aba and Preach which is how I got here as an old lady 😂
I am one of those ADHD kids in the 90’s. Now an adult. And father. Things get difficult, but this is the real world now. Society can’t change to accommodate me. I have had to try for years to find ways for me to adapt to society. So I get where I’m going on time.
How do things get difficult? And do you have any coping methods/medication that has helped?
@@TheRiddam adderal and cannabis helps me with my adhd ive had since i was 14. im 34. ngl adderal keeps me ripped too
@@Meilk27 i have adhd take ritalin and smoke bud, but i always feel guilty for the smoking. how does it help you specifically?
@@belowthewindow when I started smoking I had anxiety from it for a straight up week but after that. It just chills me out. "Quiets the noise" of being absolutely constantly introspective, second-guessing things and jumping all over the place from what you going to do tomorrow to what you're doing in 6 months, all while that song you listen to three hours ago is still playing in your head and you're doing something in the meanwhile. That's how severe my ADHD is it's so distracting. The cannabis alleviates that and helps me sleep at night as well as it takes my aggression down by a lot. Like I have a natural inclination to smash people that give me an attitude but ofc as a civilized adults I know I can't do that. So weed also helps me cope with the anger of not being able to beat somebody up that I want to (I work in construction right now there's a lot of egos attitudes arguments etc)
@@Meilk27 thanks! that response was insightful. The way in which you described everything is so relatable, aside from wanting to physically violent, but then I am incredibly irritable at times, and I tend to question people’s intellect a lot. Although, I know it presents slightly different in men to women. The music part really stuck out to me because I’ll have a song in my head, I may have not even listened to it in ages, and I’ll find myself just repeating a couple lyrics over and over and over again and it’s just takes up all the space. Do you find yourself to be a bad listener at times, like when someone is talking, even if I want to pay attention, but your mind is frolicking elsewhere? Another thing, how often do you smoke? I’m quite young (18) but I have a small amount of weed every night to, as you said, quiet the noise.
My great uncle is schizophrenic and it ACTUALLY disables him. He lived a normal life until he was 18 and it completely changed his life. He's heavily medicated and even then he'll still chat with those voices in his head during Thanksgiving lmao. Never once has he acted in such a way. This man gets EXCITED to do things like go out and do some grocery shopping yet he does need assistance.
My dad has schizo he would beat the shit out of me when he's affliction of the day comes
i've only had to deal with a schizophrenic once, but it's enough to tell me this girl is faking it. for about 2-3 months my room mates mom who is schizophrenic had to come live with us while she was on heavy medication. she's not only schizophrenic, but a really extreme case and one with a history of violence when things got bad. i had an eye behind my back the entire time. even though she was on a lot of medication and really nice, there was always the threat of her suddenly flipping and grabbing a knife. this had happened in the past where she couldn't recognize her own daughter and tried to kill her. even my room mate was constantly tense, especially at night when going to bed. also her mom whenever getting better tends to suddenly stop taking her meds because she thinks she's fine and often refuses to accept she's schizophrenic. this is also something i've seen in bipolar people. the fact this girl keeps so gleefully saying she's schizophrenic, goes against what i've experienced and makes me think she's faking it. often times people with these issues tend to refuse to accept they have them and will rarely (if ever) shout at the top of their lungs they're schizophrenic. people who do that, most likely are trying to take advantage of something.
WRONG!!!!!! IF U GET MISGENDERED U GET PTSD!!!!! AND AIDS!!!!!!!!!!!! STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!
@@badrequest5596 the fact it says "im about to have an episode" at the bottom tells me shes never actually had to experiance a schyzo break. Thats not how they work.
Maybe shes schiziotypal, plenty of people are, but thats such a differnt thing.
That sounds so sad :( I hope your uncle has lived a fulfilling life
As a schizophrenic myself, I was a bully when I was in episodes and it took the right medication for me to realize what I was doing was wrong. Some people never realize, and the thing with schizophrenics, they most the time have a God complex which they think everything is made and meant for them...that is what I believe is happening here. There is consequences for actions whether schizophrenic or not and if she doesn't learn by getting kicked out she's going to learn in a harsher way. It's best the mother doesn't spoil her.
I wouldnt wish that shit on my worst enemy.
Like its borderline hellish man.
I honestly hope in the future we get new medical advancements and shit that make schizophrenia a thing of the past, and make mental illnesses cureable.
Not to mention, if she IS kicked out, she may actually get the help she needs. Because our mental health system is so badly broken that they base whether or not you get care on whether or not your family can afford it - so sometimes, the only way for people with serious problems to get care is for them to be homeless first, so that they can be picked up acting like a crazy person, and get a proper psych hold so they can finally get a diagnosis and then be taken care of properly. The mental health system in the US is a disaster area. (This is not my story - this is a couple I know from a support group - they will literally have to kick their son out for him to get the help he needs, because they can't afford to pay for the kind of care it will take.)
I might be wrong but I dont think the mother would have been so dismissive if she had a genuine diagnosis... this struck me as a self-diagnoses based on info gathered from tiktok. The fact is it has become fashionable to claim mental illness which only serves to diminish the plight of those genuinely suffering.
@@supertrooper6011 you’d be surprised..
@@kateshiningdeer3334 You are talking about people that are not poverty level, families that meet poverty requirements can seek free mental health; it's been available to low income/poverty for decades. Which I feel sorry for those who contribute the most to our government programs, I feel like they should also benefit from it too.
She’s making us who have mental illness look like a joke. I’ve struggled with major depression, adhd, and a anxiety disorder since I was 10. I’m 24 now, its it’s held me back in areas of my life but ive been working since I turned 18. You just have to find something that works for you! But I never used it as an excuse or let it hold me back from my responsibilities as an adult. I was always embarrassed and struggled to open up about it. Even with therapists. Those who truly struggle often times do their best to seem okay/normal. We don’t go waving it around. Quite the opposite actually.
Very well said!
As someone who deals with depression, I know I'm not unique... a lot of us do. It shouldn't be used as an excuse to disrespect your parents. Depression knocks me down, but I do what I can, as best as I can on my good days.
As someone who also deals with depression, cut yourself and everyone else some fucken slack. Other people have it, yeah, but they still don't know what it's like to be you, and you don't know what it's like to be them. It's not in our best interest to buy into and spread the idea that mental illness is just an excuse some people use to be shitty. Being shitty, harmful, and violent are human things that perfectly healthy people do and make excuses for all the time. Don't believe them when they scapegoat us and stop spreading that that dogshit take. It can bring real harm to you and people like you.
I deal with severe depression and I have to agree with this. I currently live with family and even if my motivation is low I still make the effort to pull my weight. I'm too self-respecting to make excuses for myself on top of that.
Depression is a luxury because those who really have things to lose can't afford it...
@@Bignay95 True.. Some peopleare on medical leave for years because of depression and still get their salary. Its crazy that some countries allow it. When you don't have time or possibility to be depressed then you just move on
@Nayboirs Give me a fucken break, asshole. 😮💨 That's your takeaway? That's fucking retarded. If people have to push through their disease in order to work, the problem isn't that some people have the "LuRuXY" of living life with a disease, the problem is that we made a shitty system where people have to ignore their health to survive. It's not the people who are responsible or that have to change. It's the system.
My ex used these excuses all the time. I cant do 'x' around the house cause I'm depressed, I have anxiety, I have adhd etc. Relationship ended 2 years ago and guess what? She has her own job, own place, and handles all the things she told me she couldn't. Some people are lazy and use whatever excuse in the book to not exert any effort.
Dated this chick in high school that skipped for months because ''she had anxiety'' meanwhile she was smoking weed everyday and going to restaurants with her mom and sisters. She's now a 20 year old with a grade 10 education stuck dating some drug dealer.
@@alexjonesbones4753 anxiety can be generalised or specific, sorry to say but her actions and outcomes actually sound like someone dealing with mental health issues. That being said, hope you guys had a good relationship whilst it lasted and she didn’t use it as an excuse to treat you bad.
Yeah at some point people have to grow up or this thing called life will f you up.
She could of gotten on medication, or which is often the case with ADHD is that you cannot force yourself to get things done until there is literally no other option but to do it.
Well it sounds like maybe she got help. My whole thing is you can’t use the excuses unless you’re actively attempting to seek help. If you just give into it and give up, that’s not taking accountability and not fair for your loved ones.
I have mental health issues, and it isnt an excuse for anything. The world owes you nothing. Gotta get help, fix your sh*t, and keep it pushing.
Exactly
Spot on.
Lol you don’t have mental issues. It’s called being a human. It’s an emotion just like being happy is. Eat right and workout and your “mental health” will magically disappear
Amen!
@@tonygaertner8863 LOL I workout 6 days a week and eat healthy. It does help a lot. Still take meds though.
Have a nice and safe week 🙂
one of my favourite quotes ever is "your mental illness is an explanation for your behavior, not an excuse. it's still your responsibility" (paraphrased from marcus parks)
I’m disabled and was 100% disapproved medically. My doctors told me I was done physically. I pushed myself too hard and it backfired. I knew that could happen, but I was very young, about 13, when I got my diagnosis and I tried to ignore it as much as I could. Well until I couldn’t anymore. Career down the drain and I would never be able to work again… I spent some years at home when I was really sick and bed bound, but when I got a little better I decided to find my own treatment, my own rehabilitation plan and got myself somewhat able again. Am I still sick? Yep, but I am now fulltime in college again working my ass off through awful pain attacks and exhaustion to get my degree in a field that I could work in from a wheelchair. Or even, if I get worse, could do online. I altered my life to fit my current situation. I bought an electric wheelchair, so I could save up some energy for school so I would not have to miss too much.
My chronic illness is similar to MS, plus I got diagnosed with an autoimmune disease this year on top of that. I planned my doctors appointments in my vacation.
And guess what, I’m not special! Many people with chronic illness and disability do it like that. Being self sufficient and independent is incredibly important to most of us. We want to be in society and doing our part just like everyone else.
I have zero respect for this girl or whatever she identifies as if she is faking this and it actually pissed me off, because people who actually are not able are being judged harshly because of people like this. It’s horrendous. I don’t have sympathy for her. Sorry, I just don’t. At some point you have to take responsibility. Some people are actually sick and have actual issues and STILL try to fight for their independence.
And most of the people I know who can’t, actually can’t and wish every day that they could.
Trust me, sitting at home is not something you do for fun. It’s not fun to stare at the walls all day and not be able to be a normal person. And watching movies all day gets old really fast.
I have immense respect for you girl. That's absolutely amazing ❤️
"Trust me, sitting at home is not something you do for fun. It’s not fun to stare at the walls all day and not be able to be a normal person. And watching movies all day gets old really fast."
Man sounds like a dream come true to me. I would play video games all day if I could but nope life is a thing
@@xGodWontSaveUx Got a business partner like that. He's an investor and isn't very social. He's home all day but has a gym room and game room. If he's not gaming, he's working out or reading/meditating in his backyard. I see myself doing the same thing sometimes.
@@PanameraTurboSEHybrid sounds like the life tbh. wouldn’t mind it.
I hear you, it took me almost 9 years to recover from illness but it can be done, as long as you're (like you already are) realistic about certain limitations in the outcome.
you'll probably have to deal with certain limitations for the rest of your life BUT that does not mean you can make something meaningful out of your life and live a fullfilled be it difficult life at times.
I wish you all the best.
It's always the "I'm trying to educate you but you're not listening" types. They can never be wrong in their own mind.
Always. Plus I have one diagnosis, hypochondriac.
Also known as the regressive left
I think the issue is that these people have problems just like everyone else, but they overanalyze their issues and choose to self-diagnose instead of facing their issues head-on. They may notice that they have issues staying concentrated, so they self-diagnose as having ADHD. Maybe they notice that they're hypersensitive and have trouble interacting with people, so they self-diagnose as having autism. As a gen-z individual myself, I've felt drawn to self-diagnose and blame all of my problems on my own perceived "disorder" instead of working to fix my issues.
I was diagnosed ADHD and autistic just under two years ago. Prior to it, I had this idea what I was this different flower and no one understood me, because in my experience no one did. Then I met people, who just like me, have their issues but by the very act of having my therapist tell me Im not crazy, its not all me, and that There are people like me changed my entire life. Thats how you can tell those you have it and those you faked it. Those of us with these things were fucking ESTATIC when we found out. It changed our entire life perspective because this idea that we were alone was no longer true. But those who fake it use it as a way to turtle themselves and excuse their shitty behavior. My Autism causes more problems in my day to day life, but learning about it made my life better, made me happier, and most of all it helped me realize change was possible. People like this girl using these self diag so turtle themselves just hurt those like me who actually have these problems. When you really have a mental issue, it is a huge relief and typically a turning point in their lives when you get diagnosed. Instead of this girl, she used it to identify with. I struggle with empathy, I either have way to much or a complete lack of it, depending on the person. Shits ruff sometimes, but NEVER do I blame my behavior on it. Yes I am autistic, yes I said that to you, and yes I am sorry that came out my mouth. At the end of the day the difference is accountability, those who really have these issues take accountability and make changes or attempt to at least. This girl don't be doing that, she believes she should be catered to
👏🏻 exactly
@@tilled6695 my diagnosis also helped me in a lot of ways! but it’s also been a struggle to make connections with people, and I’m not in or near any big cities where I can meet other autistic young adults. even after 10 years since my diagnosis, I still struggle with a nagging and concerning thought that I may perpetually be alone and unable to move to a city. so it definitely has helped me to understand the why and how of myself, but it doesn’t help me to connect with people any better, at least not yet.
I dealt with many people who are self diagnosed bipolar and people who are actually bipolar but the one excuse that I get the most of the time from either or they don't like taking their medication because it makes them feel sedated. And my response is no it makes you feel leveled and you don't like that. Because I noticed someone that I knew who was very bipolar the only time she was ever leveled out was when she was pregnant. But as soon as the pregnancy was over she would be right back to her old ways.
Okay, but self diagnosing is often the first step to find those resources and tactics to help fix yourself? The fuck?
I have colored hair and ADHD. I always had a job, apart from the 8 months after graduation and 9 months while studying for a career switch last year. In between I worked 7 years in retail, so you definitely can have a job with dyed hair and mental disability, but it is how you present yourself.
to be fair you can't really compare adhd to schizophrenia they're completely different lol
Wow that's so impressive!! How did you balance your worklife and school life?
Tbh adhd kinda a cheat code I have more hyperactive than anything it definitely helps with working it’s like I forget I’m working
@@lauralaura4362 the person in the video doesn't have schizophrenia, she can compose thoughts too well.
@@lauralaura4362 and yes I am assuming gender because idgaf.
As someone who has dealt with mental health issues, and disability issues, THANK you for this topic. It drives me crazy when I hear people use it as an excuse for poor behavior, maltreating people, and expecting it to be a blank check for these shenanigans. Yes, it can cause poor decisions and judgment, but it doesn't mean others are obligated to accept that behavior in their lives. And yes, it can be hard to get help, but it is out there. Life is way better after I got my head out of my butt and faced these issues head-on instead of hiding behind them.
I think y’all don’t understand the difference between and excuse and a reason. Legit dumbasses
We are living in a time where everyone wants to be a victim because they know they can get support and be rewarded for it.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Chill with the racism just say you don't like black people
It's performative disability that these people use. If you know people with actual autism, they're not rewarded, and still looked down upon by society.
That's a very succinct way to put it, well said.
There's BS support and actual support that makes a different. The ones that just look for attention get the BS support.
I've been saying that for years. People use mental health for all kinds of excuses. If it's not crippling then don't use it as an excuses
Right. There was a study of young girls developing ticks, from watching the fake tourrettes tiktoks
@Riku Brown are you serious. They sound very susceptible. That's wild
@@andyartmaster101 It's one of those things that psychologists have known for years. Used to be widely known that if a girl in a class had an eating disorder, the odds of the girls around her developing the same thing shot up. Seems mental health problems are one of those things these days.
Andy McCray unless you've experienced it don't speak on it because all that sounds like Ignorance mental health has long term effects on humans
@@andyartmaster101 its also how the tiktok algorithm is set up to have you to consume the same and similar type of content. There is a reason why China has a limit on how much time and what kind of content can be made and watched on their version of tiktok
I saw one tic tok where these women were spraying thier elderly mother with a water bottle for misgendering them. She was all decked out in gay pride stuff too so clearly mom was trying. It was really sad actually. Straight up elder abuse
My therapist, years ago, after I had gotten to the point that I was doing well to manage myself without her sessions, she told me that she wanted me to know that she was certain I was high functioning autistic and that i had ADHD but she didn't want to ever put it into paper or prescribe me adhd medication, because she wanted me to learn to manage myself without the reliance of what is effectively meth. I cannot put into words how much I respect that of her, people love to make themselves excuses rather than putting in the effort to push through your issues and find ways to manage it.
I have diagnosed OCD with mostly mental compulsions, and the first and only therapist who could ever help me wouldn't listen to me try to explain my thoughts. Telling her what I thought was wrong with me was in itself a compulsion, since I was constantly obsessing over why I thought or felt distressing things. Girl was tough on me in therapy but I was so grateful for developing the ability to regain my livelihood, I didn't mind doing the hard work. Therapists who hold you accountable and don't let you use your illness as an excuse not to live a fulfilling life are the best.
Bless her I wish more people in those fields were like her
Ok, all that is cool and awesome, but yo, adderall ain’t effectively meth lmao.
It’s more like cocaine…… which I ADMIT! that ain’t good to take daily, but it ain’t meth! Lol
@@purplefyrus5370thank you! I also take adderal- and for the right person it’s not going to be bad- it’s just for people without adhd that have a reaction like they just took cocaine
@@purplefyrus5370 Ritalin, Methylphenidate is a stimulant scarily close to Methamphetamine. Both Ritalin and Adderall are stimulants that while they can be very helpful in small doses to people with ADHD, can also be highly addictive and hard to get off and grow independent from.
I'm sure it's helpful, but I personally am glad that my psychiatrist wanted me to learn coping mechanism to be aware and manage my thought process without the need for strong stimulants.
as an aspie i give you full permission to call it “asparagus syndrome”
I will take your permission and call it that from now on.
As a fellow aspie, you guys are free to call it ass burgers as well
Whatabout assmungus syndrome?
@@staticfrequencies_fm I take your permission, and you're invited to the ass burgers bbq i'm hosting this summer.
@@mcjaydanger my boy u look like peter griffin
Your 100% correct on how community’s that got bullied become the bully itself.
Nah bro the issue is that these weirdos aren’t bullied anymore. Dead azz I’m 30 and in highschool everyone jokes and bullied everyone. Nobody ever shot the school up. Suicided themselves. And all graduated a lot better people bc they got bullied for being weird. Kids aren’t allowed to be bullied anymore and look at how these youngins are acting….
@@tonygaertner8863 😄sure
@@tonygaertner8863 Logically that's not how bullying works, it creates resentment. It doesn't make people better, Its the reason why its like this to begin with. We need to start teach self defense, and standing up for ones self, its the lack of confidence that comes from bullying that created low self-esteem with coddling, started this problem.. Bullues getting punched in they mouth would solve alot of problems..
Nah he's right
@@Bandit_Sudo Unless you've never stood for anything then sure..
I have chronic anxiety and a panic disorder. in this day and age, my disorder has been dismissed and generally being “anxious” and “stressed out” because of people like this. that’s not what it is. a panic disorder effects me physically, I genuinely feel like i’m having a heart attack. it’s not just some heart palpitations, feeling faint because i’m breathing too quickly, or feeling scared. it’s absolutely painful. my chest feels like it’s caving into itself and my heart feels like it’s completely stopped. i genuinely feel like i’m going to die. i’ve started to have a new symptom, called a laryngospasm, which seizes my vocal chords making it impossible to breathe for a little bit. it’s not harmful, just very scary because the spasm forces you not to breathe. do you understand now? my disorder is very physical because the mind controls so many parts of your body, and it can make you feel literally anything it wants. i’ve been ruled out for everything under the sun (as you usually will be if you’re having chest pain) and i’m determined to be healthy. a month on a heart monitor didn’t even catch anything. so i’ve come to accept my panic disorder and guess what? since going to therapy, i have drastically improved. i still get panic attacks but it’s much, much better now that i’m in exposure therapy (I have OCD which is the main cause) and I’m doing things I never thought I would have the guts to do. I’m eating foods I would never touch, going places that I would never set foot in, and it’s helped me immensely.
But even during my worst, I can work, I can pay my bills, I can do everything a normal person can. Sometimes I need REASONABLE accommodation, like taking five minutes to get myself under control if I have symptoms at work, and then I’m back on it. The only time I’ve ever been unemployed was during a few surgeries I had a while back. And then there’s people like this. You will NEVER get better if you don’t try. But they don’t want to try, they want to stay like this so they can depend on accommodations the rest of their lives. Disorders vary and of course there are people who have panic disorder easier or harder than me, but never get it confused with just being stressed or anxious. It’s so insulting
Her mom was super calm and not screaming, that's how you know it's honest.
thats exactly what i was thinking. Whos the one screaming crying and arguing between whines?
I’m in my early forties and can remember exactly when these trends started. In the early 2000s I began to notice people starting to “self-diagnosis” themselves, and yes, it was often an excuse to blame bad behaviour or even just minor personality quirks. People who before said they just liked to be neat and tidy, suddenly became afflicted with OCD. If they occasionally had a mood swing, they were bipolar. People who were emotionally sensitive suddenly had PTSD.
NONE of these people ever went to a doctor or mental health professional for a proper assessment. Meanwhile, people who truly suffered from a myriad of conditions had to live their lives knowing that these other people had made a complete joke of their suffering.
Yup that lines up with my experience too. Some of those people who bragged to me ended up as druggies for a time
TRUUUUEEEEEE
It’s sort of like how companies now have BS job titles like “Branch Maintenance Associate” instead of “Janitor”. Borrowing medical terms for personality traits is just using big words to sound special.
@@bcj842 no need to punch down on people who clean up the shit you wont clean yourself
@@mokie7421 No punches are being thrown. Hell, I clean up after slobs in my own workplace. I’m just talking about companies that use corporate-speak to make a basic position sound more “suit ‘n’ tie” in the classifieds and how that parallels somewhat with attention whores self-imposing disabled labels to make themselves seem more complex and troubled.
I’m physically disabled with an invisible disability called Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome,and it makes me unable to work, so I’m disabled. But I get questioned for parking in handicap spots, that I’m “faking” it. People like this chick make it hard for truly disabled. I also suffer severe depression, but I never blame anyone but myself for it. I hate all the problems and don’t understand why people will fake a disease. Im grateful for all help I get.
Hey man, I was diagnosed with EDS when I was a kid too, it's hard with a disease like that, and I get called out all the time for "faking it". But alls I can say is keep on Keeping on, it can be hard sometimes, but you can have faith that sooner or later things will get better. Take it easy man, don't push yourself too hard
@@jackprince1748 God bless you guys. Keep enjoying life!
She’s literally schizophrenic she snot faking it either the reality of mental illness is that doesn’t make you best person to be around but she’s very much really disabled . And I’d much rather have fucked up cartilage than schizophrenia
You don’t even have to blame yourself for your depression. You didn’t choose to have it. As long as you’re not using it as a crutch for bad behavior, you’re good. I hope you get the help you need. Be kind to yourself, okay? 😊
There is a girl I work with that got diagnosed with this recently. She's in the early stages of this terrible, degenerative disease. And there are times while she is working that I will see some of her joints completely dislocate. She is STILL one of the kindest, most pure-hearted, and most hard-working people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. Our work place transferred her to a low impact, easier area to accommodate her disability. But even then, she is on her feet for 2-3 hour stretches at a time without complaining once.
My Ma struggled heavily with mental health issues and physical illnesses.
She went to therapy, went to doctors.
It wasn't easy. She was sent to an institution in another town.
First thing she did, when she got back: Find a job. Of course not as a manager or anything. She isn't sitting high on a horse. She currently is a cleaning lady and I am damn proud of her. She is damn proud to take care of herself.
Yes some mental issues are a pain. But such people are just using it as an excuse and that is extremely disrespectful to all the people having to fight every day with their own mind.
Hell, I myself have had days when brushing my hair felt like climbing Mount Everest....
i have autism and adhd. ive never once used it as an excuse for anything. Persistent loud noises make me stressed and angry. I dont go to the people making the noise and tell them to stop. I remove myself from the noise, if i cant do so, i put up with it. I find it extremely difficult to focus on something im not interested in, so school was troublesome. My solution? I forced myself to do average then got out the second i could, opting to pursue something i am interested in. The important part is that i forced myself to do the average, you have to.
As a 30 yo mildly autistic person, I would actually prefer people to call me out and tell me if I'm being ridiculous and using it as an excuse. I would prefer to be kept in check and I wont argue.
I was born on the autism spectrum; functioning autistic. If anyone thinks actually having it is cool, and just wants to fake it for attention? That's T R A S H. I've thought MULTIPLE times "I wish I were born like (insert) other people" Sure I could be doing better but I was lucky to be raised by parents who didn't fixate on my autism, and act like the world owes me special treatment. Just like when I had a physical injury, if I need certain acommodations, I learned to inquire about them and advocate for MYSELF.
Most people who actually have these disabilities dont. It almost always seems to be some turd making it up so they can use it to excuse bad behaviour.
@@rammsteinrulz16 exactly and this is what's normal. The person in the video is just incredibly entitled and delusional. My parents drilled into my brothers and I that our mental disorders were not excuses and I thank them so much for teaching us that, it's served me really well over the years.
@@nickb6425 Same. They just forced me to participate and never made me feel like I was special, because I wasn't. I am married, have a job, friend etc. I know I think differently but I just use tools to navigate multitasking and social interactions. As if neuritypical people never struggle with things lol. Let's be honest, we just interpret info differently, which also has strengths. It is not a disability, and people who pretend they can't shower, clean their house or maintain friends because of it and rather feels special by collecting stimming toys, because they think that's what autism is...lol. That's not autism, that's personality traits that are shitty and they refuse to grow up. Life is hard for everyone. We are not disabled.
I'm a Ghanaian who lives in a third world country, after being brought from a first world country. My parents divorced which brought great poverty in my life, I had to walk appropriately 2 miles and back everyday just to get to school. I have faced starvation with my family and got sacked from school because of school fees and my mother is currently mentally ill. Despite this, I perserved and now I just started lectures of the best university in my country. Even after this, I still consider myself privileged that I even made it out and now taking care of my family at 19 years old. You can decide not to believe this story, but after this, tell me why your life in a first world country is soo terrible? I'll wait.....
NB: If you even have the internet connection to even view and respond to this message, just know that your PRIVILEGED due to the fact that you could even extra money to spend on data asides from food.
i feel like when you live life without experiencing any real hardships, you start to make them up. it seems to be part of human nature to seek out conflict. and if you dont have any real conflicts, you dont have any real hardships, you start to make them up.
Totally agree. I feel that in the west, you guys prioritize feelings too much.
@@paulmensah6780 hey man i grew up in venezuela so believe me, i cant empathize with the soft ass culture here in the u.s. lol
@@paulmensah6780 its pretty cool being able to walk down the street and not get robbed or kidnapped though and being able to make more than $20 a month lmfao. so its got its strengths aswell
Do you see how we immigrants view suffering. Because our lives are already pretty bad, everything else just becomes a plus. We immigrants just look at this and laugh 🤣🤣
I believe this is a first world problem issue, especially in America. You literally get rewarded because your feelings, which are not suppossed to be anyone's responsibility but yours, were hurt. The entire "the costumer is always right" thing or not being able to simply give criticism to anything because it may be "triggering" are good examples of it, literally making everyone but yourself accountable for your feelings. This girl is making her mother accountable for her suppossed mental illnesses instead of herself. This needs to stop.
It's being overwhelmed by your emotions which cut out your rational thinking leading to poor decisions, false perceptions, and bad behaviors. She has issues she wants other people to address except this is her responsibility. Asking for help is okay but you have to be you at the end of the day. What you do you want to be at home, at school, at work? How will you handle yourself in places and with people? How will you manage yourself physically, behaviorally, emotionally, or spiritually?
I work a service job in Mexico, but we deal with American customers. The first thing they told us in the training was "The customer is not always right", they taught us that if you give some leeway they are going to use it, so you have to be firm in what you say. Great advice
And it's not just infecting parental and child relationships, it's infecting the dating sphere too.
I was dating this girl that claimed to be depressed have an ED, anxiety, PTSD etc.
She was just using it as an excuse to keep me around, palm any remotely emotional issue off to me because it was 'too much' for her and escape any accountability through her mental disorders. All of which were non-diagnosed and self ascribed.
After providing practical suggestions based on my own experience, I suggested going to a trial session for therapy.
I set the bar low, I'd go with her and it'd be subsidised through our work.
She turned it down and suddenly all her mental issues became a non-issue.
Her friend told her the exact same thing as me: To go to therapy and start getting help.
And yet when we did so, she'd magically not have any issues. Outside of when she needed sympathy she didnt have any issues.
Let's just call a spade a spade, it's emotional manipulation.
They think that if they claim to have a mental disorder that's bad enough they can get off scot free because people will feel bad enough for them that they will set no expectations.
Not really pertinent to your point or anything but the "customer is always right" is utterly misunderstood by the vast majority of people, it does not mean that in any given circumstance the customer is in the right -- the phrase is actually about supply in demand in the sense that "the customer is always right in what our services entail, as they are the ones setting the demand we must set the supply". Not you bought this product two years ago from another store, you don't have the receipt, and you want full cash-back because you're the customer and what you say goes.
Ironically the thing about the "customer is always right" is supposed to be about quality not the business.
7:45 I was one of those kids. I deliberately tried messing up my school eye test because I wanted glasses because of a movie I saw and a character that I really liked had glasses. The nurse knew I was full of it and was like “20/20 vision, my dear!” I was only in like the first or second grade but I still feel stupid over that. 😣
It is/was stupid....but forgive yourself. Because kids are stupid. (in the sense that they have soooo much to learn (and sometimes unlearn haha)
You have no idea how relatable this is.
My mother gave me a month, I didn't listen, and then I lived in my car at 18, love my mom, she knew I wasn't gonna "grow up" til life smacked me around a little. Some of the best times of my life and I don't regret a thing.
i wish i lived in a car but i dont drive and none of my homies do
Sorry to hear buddy, I hope everything comes around. Your mom definitely loves you though my dude. YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT!!!!!
My siblings and I knew from the start that we weren't going to impose on our parents after 18; my brothers and I joined the military right out of high school and our sister earned a scholarship and a career in publishing.
@Lucas the only thing to figure, is that's you don't have it figured yet
Facts 😂 I got kicked the fuck out immediately once I graduated hs 👹
As a young adult, Aba's words on parents not being obliged to look after you just hit home. Really made me feel like I need to reevaluate what's going in my life.
Honestly proud you are seeing that in yourself.
If you're able to reevaluate your life choices just from a quote and don't require hundreds of people to call you out on the internet, you should know you're already on the right path. I don't know you per se, but still
I don’t know i’ve always found it kind of sus.That people can create an entire human being then drop it at 18.
Into an unstable world that just wants to make money out of you.Then claim to be a responsible human being by the end of the day.None of that
screams responsible to me.But it’s a
free country your allowed to have your own opinion i won’t stop you.Because i can’t
@@drakearvidsson6936 The world has always been unstable in one way or another. It's always been trying to cheat a person of money one way or another. At the core of things, that hasn't changed. And yet people have kids anyway, hoping for the best, and knowing that coddling them forever is not in anyone's best interest.
@Drake Arvidsson I have similar concerns. I won't have a child unless I get to a stage where I feel certain that I can give them a happy life. A life where they can look back and think 'I'm so glad I was born'. Most people don't seem to consider the ethics of forcing sentient life to exist. That said, sometimes it is best for the child if they are kicked out the house. Creating a fulfilled person requires equipping them with certain mental attributes, and sometimes the only way to do that is giving them adversity, not praise.
One of my brothers had schizophrenia and he committed suicide last year the day before Father’s Day at the age of 44! I’ve studied that illness to learn how to deal with him and some associates. Watching her behavior pissed me off. Most don’t like living with others, because they feel like a burden. If it was severe to the point she could not work, she would have been approved for social security benefits. Being a victim is now a trend and it’s sad.
Sorry for your brother. I have been diagnosed with Schizoaffective Disorder so watching this video infuriated me as well. I was hospitalized for 8 months straight because of mine and this girl is just pretending she hallucinates for attention.
@@2moreminutes I am sorry that you have to experience that life. I don’t know how much you struggle to keep it together, but I hope you are taking care of yourself.
@Syncere I am, thank you for the kind words. I'm sure your brother is resting well and I pray your family is good.
@@2moreminutes Thank you! I’ll pray for your sanity and strength. I’m not sure how hard it is for you, but…my heart goes out to you.
@TehJoeJr Thank you! It’s still difficult to adjust. However, he did what was best for him and I knew only half of what he endured during his time alive. I wish I could have done more. Thank you for that kind gesture…sometimes little things like that is all we need to get through our days.
I moved from my parents when I was 17 and kept moving in and out until I was 25 because I was heroin addict from the age of 16. It was so embarrassing even at the time i wanted to get my shit straight but i didn't know how or even where to start. I'm 28 now and I have lived in the same apartment sober since 25 birthday. It was easier than I thought! Just had to get sober lol!
wow congrats on your sobriety!
Been clean since 2016 Id get clean get high it's hard but not really once I got clean shit became more manageable feelings responsibility all that well said bro congrats honestly
I lived at home for a long time due to illness (Crohn's, syncope) and I was incredibly thankful my family allowed me to do so in my time of need. I had two jobs despite my issues and while my mother refused rent, I paid for other things to make up for the cost difference and did chores. I owe her everything for that and it was a true privilege. I hope to return the favor.
A great mother
I’m sorry but this is giving major oppression Olympics vibes. “I Have it bad too, if not worse than you, and look at me, I still function like a normal person” okay good for you everyone’s not the same…..
@@SuperiorRobyn This is giving major assumption vibes. You're right, everyone isn't the same.
Was misdiagnosed with chron’s, and have Chronic Pancreatitis after I had pancreatitis and went into a coma for 27 days.
Speaking from experience good on you for pushing yourself, it’s hard to do. My issues have slowed me down but I never let it stop me. We must keep pushing.
@@elementxghilliejoshf.2844 I am so sorry to hear of your struggles. It’s a double edged sword, pushing yourself, especially when you have an “invisible” illness. At least we can empathize with each other and I truly hope you have more good days than bad and I also hope you have all the love and support you need. ❤️
I have Schizophrenia and I’ve had to live with it for 28 years. I’ve raised a beautiful, smart, loving daughter, I’ve gone back to school to get my degree so I can go into teaching, I’m a ballet dancer, chess and LARP nerd, avid reader and writer, and I love playing the harp. I’ve been published in an anthology and have written online articles for a mental health magazine.
I’ve had many times when I’ve been too unwell to function let alone work. I’ve had psychotic episodes where I’ve been trying to heal people, been hunted and possessed by demons, was unable to dress or clean myself, the list goes on. But, I maintained a routine, I went to therapy, I took my meds, I took responsibility for my behaviours and learned how to live with what I have and to find the beauty in it. Do I still struggle? Every single day. Every day is a battle but I carry on, being a victim will get you nowhere and I have a life to live.
The girl in the video needs to stop being a victim and take responsibility for her behaviours. She needs to move out, make a life for herself and stop wallowing in her mental health issues. If she can make a video wailing about her mom misgendering her, she can get a part time job. She can even take some classes on helping other trans kids, there is no excuse to not use your experiences to help others.
@engineer gaming I actually have friends with schizophrenia who have worked really hard to be successful in life. It can be done but it’s 100 times harder than a person without this mental illness.
The fact she can sit there and talk on her phone to an audience is enough proof and evidence that she is stable enough to get a job...
How?
@@flxcc4481 did you even try to think about that by yourself
@@mistachorazy6929 Yes do you have no answer or will you give me the answer?
@@flxcc4481 if you need that explained to you, get off the video and stay away from similar videos.
@@mistachorazy6929 Typical. No answer. Probably because you don’t have any.
After being abused by my mom and neglected by my dad it gave me trauma that will stay with me for life. It gave me anxiety and depression, and that forces parts of your mind to literally shutdown from overload in stressful situations and from triggers specific to you.
Faking mental health can make people sceptical and sometimes hateful to you, it even directly affects people with mental health problems making them think they are not worthwhile, isolating themselves in the process. It's a selfish thing to fake being handicapped like this
I’ve struggled with ADHD and Major Depressive Disorder for most of my life (I went undiagnosed until I was 27) and I was in a really bad place a couple years ago. While it’s true that mental illness can make even everyday things harder, it is not okay to use that as an excuse to treat yourself and those around you like garbage without accountability. It wasn’t until I finally saw a psychiatrist & got medication, checked into therapy, stopped chronically using drugs to cope and got back into fitness that my quality of life drastically improved. Just because something is difficult doesn’t mean it’s impossible or that it isn’t worth trying. Usually, it’s the opposite.
I was just having this conversation with my mother, not everybody you feel bad for is “just crazy” or “not doing well” and it damn sure doesn’t excuse that persons actions.
Some people are just shit.
She literally accused the woman who birthed her of misgendering her…WHAT!?!?
Insane 😂😂
Sicknesssssssssss!
LMAOOOOOO when you say it like that 💀
So glad I’m not like that
LMAOO STOPP
I'm autistic/ADHD. I generally have a sense if someone shares a struggle of mine.
Thanks to tiktok I have many people I barely know asking me if they're ADHD/on the spectrum. It's frustrating. I feel like the world thinks my struggles are a joke because there's clowns out in the open.
Exactly how I feel and frankly it makes me not want help at all out of fear of being seen as an attention seeker or someone who makes excuses
Or being babied
It’s so funny because my mom use to tell me stories of when she lived with her dad for a bit and she got mad because he had a curfew for her and he’d always say. “Are you grown?” And my mom had 2 options
1. Yes I am (he would kick her out the house saying “then you’re grown enough to pay your own bills”)
2. No (to which she would have to follow his rules) lol
Sounds like yuh moms a pussy. Id rather be homeless than let another grown adult give me a curfew.
I don't agree with not letting someone be who they are or placing unnecessary rules just because you pay the bills. Yes they can do that cause it's their home but it doesn't mean it's not toxic, controlling or unhealthy. I feel like acting like that is on line of abuse because you should want your guests, friends, daughter whoever to be comfortable and feel loved from a Genuine standpoint.
@@mimi.w667being so entitled to think that being able to sit on your ass all day and doing all this extra shit and complaining When your parent doesn’t want to put up with your shit anymore and thinking you’re in the right and you deserve to be coddled even more is the problem
@@mimi.w667 curfews are to prevent teenagers from being out in the early hours of the morning getting into trouble. Until you're an adult, do as your told.
@@mimi.w667 I don’t agree it’s abuse, but yea a lot of parents are controlling even when the child is older which usually backfires into them having a certain stage in life where they go all out because they were so restricted by their parents. I don’t think having a curfew is “abuse” though, let’s be honest. If the person is a minor, then having a curfew makes sense. If the person is an adult however, I don’t see the point in them having an curfew.
I was diagnosed when I was 20 with borderline personality disorder. Back then I haven’t even heard that something like that exists. Now everybody has it and do nothing about it. I went to DBT program and I love my life and I live good responsible life with my husband and kids. It’s possible. You don’t have to suffer and you certainly don’t have to hide behind your diagnosis. It sucks but when you take it as it is and accept it then you can work on it meaning you can learn how to rebuild your thinking pattern etc. it takes time and it hurts but it’s possible.
@@rawminimalist9043 you will get to the point when fear is not a thing anymore it’s either you die or you go to therapy and work on yourself. Good luck 🍀
@@rawminimalist9043 Maybe because you are used to the way you are living right now? And you might feel the more you change to a more positive life the more scary it is to fail in said new life, because the stakes are higher?
I'm just guessing but you should seriously seriously seek medical help so that you can find the true reason to why you feel that way with a professional, good luck!
I live with a person with Borderline, bad thing for me is that the person refuses to admit the diagnose, not trying to be mean with you but Borderline people are very, very, very harmful and loaded with tons of drama and spontaneous hatred, is quite difficult to live with someone like that, the doctor said that people who are victims of aggression by psychopathic or Borderline people can develope illnesses due to the stress and trauma caused by people who do not engage in therapy. I have testified even physical aggression from the person I'm referring to and several trauma caused.
@@Popexify Look, I don't wanna come as insensitive as how you didn't want to come across as a insensitive to someone with Borderline (I'm awnsering because I also have it, got diagnosed last year actually) but borderline it's part of the cluster B personality disorders, literally called "dramatic personality disorders", so of course there's is going to be tons of drama here and there, that's just how it is for us and those around us sadly.
I'm apologizing in advance if I accidentally offend you or hurt you. Now, I'm guessing you are awnsering to the top comment, and if that is the case, let me tell you that calling people with Borderline harmful in this case just doesn't seem to fit the situation. This lady has had DBT therapy, has kids and a husband. And seems to have her life together from what she commented. You are disregarding the hard work she has put into getting better by saying all people who have Borderline are harmful. Now, that doesn't mean that tim going to disregard your trauma at all. But I do have to ask. Does this person you are talking about haves a diagnosis?
Even if they don't, and they do actually have Borderline you just stated the actual main problem yourself, this person doesn't want to search for help and doesn't want teraphy. Even if they have borderline or not, if they are an abusive person, not wanting to recognize their actions and how they need help, that's simply just bad in general. For any type of person actually, regardless of what mental health issues they have. I've noticed by talking to other people with Borderline online that those who end up doing abuse are usually not in any form of teraphy or have left it for whatever reason. Or just don't want to try because they are used to living the way they are, can it be selfish? Yes absolutely, you are harming yourself and those around us just because you don't want to put on the work that comes with bettering.
But not everyone is like that, some of us want to actually get better, some of us are getting help, some us want to feel like we aren't going to hurt those we love in any way. And I must admit that it's a bit tiring to feel slightly like a monster for actions I didn't even commit myself, but others who have the same disorder as me. And yes, that last response was a bit emotional, I know that, but that it's just how it is for me at least and I have learned to not hide what I feel of certain situations, and this is one of them.
I''m not telling you to not speak of your abuse. I actually wish you the best and I hope that you can run away because I'm slightly on the same boat myself. But if they don't, and if its just a guessing from your part, and your abuser doesn't have a diagnosis, please don't try to guess around, they might have something entirely different as I stated. And even if they do, try not to disregard other's people work on bettering themselves, because you are just putting them down. I understand if this might be a trauma response, but the thing is even some trauma responses can be harmful on the long run, depending on how you respond.
Saying borderlines can be abusers isn't what it's bogging me, but saying we all are in a way it's what's bogging me.
I'm truly sorry for what it's happening to you, once again I wish you the best and hope you can get out of that situation. Just don't brush the hard work others have put on themselves when it comes to mental health in general, stigma it's what makes it hard for people to talk about it in the first place. It even makes people not search for help. And we need more people who search for help, it's what is best for them and those around them. Have a nice day, once again wish you seriously the best 💖
@@Popexify I am so sorry you have this experience and you feel like a victim. The truth is when the person is not treated then yes it can be horrible. But there are always two in a relationship. Looks like you have also problem with setting boundaries which is crucial for you! My husband benefits from a therapy as well. There is no reason why you should be treated badly. BPD is not an excuse. Either you walk out of the relationship or you want the change you deserve and the person with BPD suffering deserves. But be prepare the whole dynamic will change as well.
At times people will “self diagnose themselves” in order to not have people hold them accountable
I'm BiPolar, I take my meds, I try to be responsible about that shit. And if I do have a manic episode, I apologize profusely for anything I said. I try to be responsible about things. I can't stand it when people try to wear the mentally disabled label like a badge of honor. Being Bipolar sucks. I hate it. But I don't let it rule my life and I don't let it define me. Anyone that does that is..they need to build up their lives. That's all I can say about it. Having a mental illness is not a "get out of jail free card" to be a dick to people and not be apologetic about it. Great video guys. Keep up the great work. :)
My son is moderate on the spectrum and he and I would never even be able to have that conversation. The fact that she is able to navigate social media and her phone at the level that she does suggest that she is able to secure employment. I wish my son could express himself that well.
Man I remember seeing a video where people were claiming to be “Trans-Able”. They’re perfectly normal, but claim some physical disability like paraplegia or blindness. They go out their own way to injure themselves according to their claimed physical disability…. MENTAL HEALTH
That in itself sounds like a mental disorder
IT IS A SIICKNEESS
"I'm mentally ill and cant be judged through conventional standards" followed by "You should take me seriously, i'm just like you"
This is a really odd disorder, ive seen lots of documentaries about it including one where a guy was extremely sad he couldn't find any doctor who would amputate his leg. It's a real thing, and nobody knows what to do about it yet because so little reserch has been done, but some people do fake it and that's cringe as hell because people really suffer from this.
I've heard of that. I remember watching a documentary about a girl who poured Drano into her eyes because she wanted to be blind.
We live in a collective mental break episode. Is the only logical explanation. Or a South Park Simulation 😂
Real life Cartwoman
I was thinking of that episode cartman had burgers in his pants when they kept saying "ass burgers" 😂😂
Even South Park creators have said that they can't even parody modern political discussions because they are so much of a parody already.
@@indigobaby0305 I want those double Az Burgers with the special sauce 😂
I think I'm stuck in a trip. Im sat on a sofa somewhere, 100%
I didn't hear the mother say pay your part of the rent. She pointed out that she doesn't pay anything, but the big thing the mom was on about was "that doesn't mean we live in squalor." This mom just wanted her to tidy up. Imagine that
That person is defiantly the type that self-diagnoses, then calls everyone a classist for not taking them seriously without a diagnosis from a doctor.
YES! I suffer from adhd and my psychiatrist always told me to never use it as an excuse that I need to find a way to cope with adhd and life. She seems competent enough to use Tiktok, she is capable to have a job. Victim mentality is a serious problem that needs to be addressed.
Using tiktok in my opinion is a mental disability. And yeah, when you live with mental illness you understand that there is nothing to complain about cause that wont makes you any less depressed or fix any of your problems. Some of us just have shit genes or born in the wrong household thats life.
Lol comparing adhd to schizophrenia is comical on the most extreme level.
Being competent enough to use tiktok doesn't mean she doesn't have schizophrenia lol that's not how that works at all
She could be lying or exaggerating her symptoms but that's impossible to tell with that tiny video
Please don't compare ADHD and schizophrenia . As someone who has ADHD myself, it is extremely treatable with or without medication, and in no way debilitating towards anything, and in some cases can be extremely beneficial.
@@OMGITSGB it is treatable yes! And once you are out of the school system, it is even advantageous at times. However, adhd in school can be brutal. Most teachers don’t teach in a way that engages the adhd brain.
@@kronosis2767 I agree when it comes to highschool being that way 100%, but the college system is better, like you don't have to do anything but the work, and can still get good grades. yah know? like me personally, I failed mad classes in highschool, college though? straight A's just cuz the environment was so much more relaxed and not as structured... idk if that's the right way of phrasing it. I am not the best when it comes to writing :') I have a slight speech problem when it comes to translating shit to words, way more of a visual/code person. That's just my experience though, everyone's is different, but yah... iv always thought as my ADHD and dyslexia as a gift tbh, and found that we are the only person ever holding ourselves back. Like even in classes where I couldnt focus, or was feeling bored and shit, id just put up a ipad and fall asleep and watch it later...
People like her are why I'm more or less quiet about my mental health lmao. I mean I know that my friends and family would take me seriously if I spoke to them in confidence, but I'm terrified to make any of it public business without fear of being called fake
I dont worry. I started volunteering lately and told the guys I volunteer with my issues. It was for if something happens. No biggie for me at least. Most people are understanding.
I think in some ways that's good. Personal issues are just that, personal. Society is way over sharing in recent years. It's no one business but those close to you
Same here bro, got diagnosed with autism a long time ago and when I see those people using this as an excuse for victimizing...I would hate to meet someone like that, I'm legitimately disgusted by them (sorry for the bad English btw, not my first language)
@@sleepymimi707 your english is great
@@sleepymimi707 It's gross how there's a culture around it. It's annoying enough to explain autism without having to deal with accusations of being fake, like wtf.
I have ADHD and I spent my teenage years off the rails. Early adulthood was spent getting payday loans without thinking of the consequences and not paying bills, not being able to keep up with maintaining a household etc. Soooo many issues. But I knew I was the issue. I only ever asked for help when absolutely desperate.. I lived alone from 17 onwards. I tried so many things to improve myself. I read self help books, psychology books etc to try to understand my behaviour, i dumped my abusive boyfriend when my 2 kids where still very young and became slowly used to living alone. I have always had a job, lots of different ones.. but I always worked. I'm now 36. I have just finished paying off every penny of debt after working my ass off and I'm doing amazing as a student nurse. I have never made excuses or treated my family like crap. Take accountability for your own actions.
the thing with people that have ACTUALLY got a diagnosis, ACTUAL problems with their mental state, are almost always NOT PROUD of it. they try to work on their issues, not hide behind them. girl at the end is a perfect example.
I never understood why some people try so hard to be diagnosed with autism for real it sucks especially when your trying to date you never understand what the hell is going on around you and people read you wrong it just over all sucks
@@wolf2966 for many it is a free pass to be socially inept and stay that way, they like to be rude mainly I feel.
And they would never post it online. It's embarrassing.
One thing about that though is I have known a couple doctors that purposely diagnose eager patients with illnesses that aren't there. An example is a coworker of mine that got prescribed Xanax at 12 by a doc that is infamous about being careless over patients where I live. A dear friend of mine who is an OB put it simply: doctors make more money promoting xanax and psychiatric drugs. There's something wrong with that picture.
@@wolf2966 Same, I have autism and it's a living hell.
I know a guy who's epileptic and was staying at home with the parents. But instead of wallowing, he said he still wanna get to the bag, and made it where he pays all of the bills for them. He later purchased the house next door even though he didn't need to. If it doesn't cancel you out completely, Disability slows you down if you let it.
Indeed, well said.
I guess, but sometimes it legit makes you unable to do somethinf
I sadly agree, mental health is used as an excuse way too often... For some people it's just a cop out. "I have this (presumed) mental health disorder, I can't be expected to act like a responsible human being." When people that say stuff like this, I just assume that they're not willing to put in any work to better themselves... While simultaneously wanting people to feel sorry for them.
yeah and then people who are really depressed, or have *insert disability/mental illness here* dont speak up/seek help and let it pile up because they dont want to be seen as one of these people
Yeah, while mental health issues can somewhat be an *explanation,* they can't rightly be an *excuse.* Except for the few cases where it's genuinely so severe that the person is legally insane and not *capable* of being responsible for themselves.
But some people dang near want to plead *insanity* so nobody holds them responsible, while clearly not being that literally mentally incapable.
And it's unfair to people who have mental health issues and try, and it's unfair to people who may have mental health issues who don't want to even admit it for fear they get wrongfully labeled to be someone like this, trying to get attention and privilege for it.
@@joshuafurlong5270 I feel you... you don't want to even want to tell people close to you because you don't want their judgement or sympathy... let alone seek professional help. Living with a mental health disability can be pure literal hell, speaking from my experience. But I also know that it can remain hell when you have a victim mentality. And that alone can be a vicious cycle for some. The best thing I did for my mental health was to honestly acknowledge my flaws that were holding me back from who I want to be.. and actively work on them. That's definitely not something a lot of people are willing to do. One thing I know for sure is a victim mentality will get people absolutely no where.
Dallas Palmer people like you refuse to acknowledge mental health and the long term effects is has on a person because of ignorance
presumed is key word. some of these folks are def munchies though
I'm a psychology student and we discussed this phenomena many times, my generation is attracted to the concept of mental health to the point of intentionally self-diagnosing without visiting an expert and then “flexing” their issues online, it's the attraction itself that I fail to understand and it's not only towards mental health but genuinely any type of behavior that could be labeld “ progressive ” or “ rebellious ”,talk about drugs cigarettes sex etc
Bro, this phenomenon has been going on for a while tbh; people throw around depression, BPD, narcissism and things like that too often. And it never is the case when those people use those terms, they’re just weak minded, but that doesn’t equal depression though Sally, ok?
Love how you mentioned narcissism. These people love to call people in their lives narcissistic, when most of the time it's them who are the narcissistic ones and don't realise it lol.
While agree with everything said above, it is important that people are innocent before proven guilty. AKA we take them at face value and not become jaded. Compassion before suspicion.
It isn't about being weak minded per se in my opinion - they are just narcissists. They love attention, they want to feel special, they want to be treated dfifrently. Also, I think whats very important about the whole problem is that they do that to feel like they belong somewhere. They want to be the part of the group, surround themselves with people just like them. They want to play victims together, blame everything around but themselves, be miserable etc.
@Todd Suspect while being compassionate. Trust no one but for God sake be nice! 😂😂🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
As a psych major, hell tf yeah. I fookin hate it. Everyone got anxiety/depression now when theyre just sad. Everyone is a narcisisst when things dont go out their way. Smh. Not minimizing those illnesses, but gaddamn.
I have mental illness and am technically in disabled category. Quick story...I went to one of my appt with my primary. Doc looked at me and said, "I see so many people trying to get on the disability list who don't need to be there. You actively say no, when you need to be on it". To which I replied, "As long as I can still walk, I won't go on that list". I told that story just to say that mental illness is a thing, and it can/does get in the way of things on the daily, BUT try not to let it become who you are. Go get some type of job, find a hobby or two, and be respectful to people. You gotta try.
As a bipolar individual, I work hard every day to maintain my relationships and job. I ask for understanding from the people close to me when it comes to my cycling moods, but I always take responsibility for my actions at the end of the day. ALWAYS. Like responsibility for treating your parents so terribly that they literally don't even want their own child around. Even in my worst moments, I would never treat the ones I love the way this girl has.
Exactly... no excuses for bad behaviour! If my BiPolar plays up I work hard to get it back under control and not be a burden on others.
Exactly! Mental illness is no excuse for poor behavior! Bipolar is no joke. You are a strong willed individual.
@Hasan Piker Doesn't matter. Point still stands.
@Hasan Piker so what's the diffirence with bipolar? From what I heard its a change in personality which I think is just schizophrenia
@hasanpiker9472to an extent I agree, I have a severely schizophrenic brother who has other mental illnesses. I also deal with bipolar and few other disorders. Sometime we’re in a whole different world, which is difficult for others to understand. But at the same time, it’s not same for everyone. And ppl tend to overexaggerate when trying to excuse themselves. For example: ppl say they have an anxiety disorder just bc they feel nervous or get nervous easily. But thats the least of your problems when you have an anxiety disorder.
As someone with ADHD. It pisses me off seeing how many people say oh I have ADHD. And they just don’t want to pay attention… they aren’t physically and mentally trying every single tactic to listen to anyone… I have fidget gadgets to help. I want to pay attention, I want to focus, I want to be there and not get lost in my own head because I saw a sparkly object. It hurts because it feels like my disability is a fashion trend or an accessory. It took me 2 weeks to write this damn thing…
everything you just wrote is so relatable. do you find yourself excelling in one aspect of life but flopping at the other? Like not to toot my own horn but im fucking good at art and english but with everything else theres not a chance. also if youre not already you should really try medicating with ritalin or smth, it really helped me. :)
Grad school therapist in training here. My Psychopathology professor once told me: You have to be very careful when diagnosing clients, because some will unfortunately try to use it as a crutch for their abhorrent behavior. The mantra “it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility” is a very practical and true methodology to approach mental health treatment responsibly. It’s so unfortunate that some use their mental diagnosis to avoid being responsible when others suffer from the effects of it.
Facts!! It’s our responsibility as adults to fix ourselves.
The mom should have said “I’m trying to educate you on the responsibility of being an adult.” “Everybody is educating everybody.” “See how that works!”😊
Eyyy that woulda been A-1 👌 seriously despise all these "we recommend you EduCaTe yOurSelf" "I'm trying to educate you" type of people
I had to end a friendship due to this. I have anxiety and have dealt with it my whole life. I used to be a vile, angry person who would spit venom at anyone who questioned my behavior. I was not an easy kid to raise. Since then I have gone to therapy and worked very hard, and still do everyday, to control my emotions. I recognized so much bad shit about myself that I apologized to my mom, and she also apologized to me. We didn’t have the best relationship when I was growing up. Not only has therapy helped my mental health but it has helped my relationships. I also never stayed on antidepressants long because of all the bad side affects and allergies I had to them. You don’t need a pill to “fix” you. My therapist told me the meds were to be like a bandaid. To be on them for a year while I’m going through the most difficult parts, and then I was to be weaned off of them. They’re not supposed to be life long. The friend I had to dump was constantly dragging me into her bullshit and always blamed it on her anxiety. And she was a drunk. I cut her off and 2 years later after we both graduated college and moved away she texted me and DEMANDED I told her why I ghosted her after we had a huge screaming match. I said “I don’t owe you anything, not even closure. I could be very honest with you about everything that happened but I know you’re not ready to hear it. So let me spare you the pain.” And I blocked her number. I hate people that use mental illness as and excuse to be a complete asshole demon person. The selfishness that exudes from that kind of person is the most foul. People who act like that make ME look bad! I’m out here everyday fitting in to the normal mold (which I don’t feel too outside from but I know a lot of people don’t understand anxiety) and they just sit bad and cause a bunch of chaos and go “why is my life so hard?!” BECAUSE YOU MAKE IT HARD FOR YOURSELF! Work on yourself. Develop critical thinking and emotional maturity. Everyone has something to work on for themselves, don’t be a lazy twat.
It sounds like you were exactly like the friend you dumped. Who dumped whom is the question.
@@Nepthu you sound like her ex friend. Maybe it is u
@@Nepthu Sounds like she grew out of it but her friend didnt
I’d like to say well done on cutting the cord. It was probably quite hard, and you might have had butterflies.. but you did it for you and I hope you’re feeling less weight on your shoulders. Everyone has work to do on themselves, and you seem to have put a lot of effort in! Go you, I’m proud of you! Xxx
My friend is toxic like that it's honestly tiring, but the thing is if I cry she'll comfort me then make fun of me after 🤠
I'm so sick of people who try to use mental illness as an excuse for bad behavior. We had a coworker who lost their job because they literally made a scene by following another employee and yelling all over the building at them. It appalled me how my fellow coworkers tried to say "well, she has a mental illness. I feel bad for her. Our bosses should know this and learn how to handle this."
Like, no. No, no, no. Mental illness doesn't justify crap behavior. It shocked me no one seemed to care about the other employee, who was harassed, embarrassed and stalked around the building during this. That is *not* okay.
I was diagnosed with BPD and severe depression and unaliving ideation. It is really rough but everyday I get up and do what I need to do. On my days off from work I try my best to cook, clean, laundry etc. I have basically clawed my way out of poverty with my husband's support and it's still hard. Your mental health can hinder but it shouldn't stop you completely from trying. Even small tasks no matter how mundane they may seem. Ironically since my diagnosis I have excelled in my career even more because I don't know when I'll have another episode which will require potential hospitalization and I don't want my husband and children to financially suffer.
Liar. If you have depression, you can not just get up like that, unless you are heavily medicated.
@@Wabbelpaddel says someone who probably never suffered from depression before. How asinine of you to assume to you how every single person in the world "copes" with depression and BPD.
@@19beautifulmind88 Worse, I have CFS, fibromyalgia, hyperphenylalaninemia (significantly enhances depression) and atrophic gastritis.
Almost in a vegetative state, mind numbed and confused like in a K hole.
If I didn't have my training in logic from math studies when healthy, also having been an athelete, I'd given fellatio to a shotgun.
So don't tell me you had it tough when you are still able to make food or drink or get to the bathroom without needing hospitalization just to be kept alive.
I ain't no puss about this either, it is how it is, neuroscience. Anyone else outside of STEM I don't even acknowledge, they're all NPC subhumans.
@@Wabbelpaddeldude wtf are you talking about 😭
@Ryou_ 【999haven】 You're the hyper deluded uber-schizo if you believe the existence as a decadent swine warrants any mental disorder. Try some serious illnesses, then we can talk.
This puts a new perspective on how I see my anxiety how it’s effected me for the past couple years, I’ve tend to be an overthinker which doesn’t help which it effects me even more. Even me being a little nervous sets a whole panic attack and puking near the end . This video oddly enough inspired me , to start pushing through my anxiety and start getting more help so I can start be a working adult. Im going to start applying to jobs learning on to motivate myself.
Good luck friend! Proud of you ya nervous bastard! 🙂
Stick with it definitely worth it. Though I don't have anxiety like that I do worry. but it's not only about only controlling your anxiety it's also about pushing through life even when you feel like you can't (just my opinion/hope this helps)
I over think too. I’ve learned to take it day by day. There’s still struggles of course but it’s not severe anymore when I understand I can’t control everything.
Positive self talk and breathwork/ breathing exercises help against panic attacks. Practice when your not having one so it will come to you naturally over time.
@@Crazyhead432 haha
I'm a family medicine doctor, I have several patients with psychosis who regularly take their meds and come once a month for their depo-med injection and go back to work full time. They never try to fake a sick leave to miss on the job, they work their asses off and never complain.... I know people with sever anxiety who love working with people even though they have panic attacks on a monthly basis. If you use your mental health as an excuse to stay at home, don't go to therapy, don't take your meds while actively vlogging and making videos about your mental health, you are using your problems as an excuse to not get better.
What's worse is when people go so far as to get a diagnosis and then don't seek corrective treatment because they feel like it'll "cure" them and they won't be interesting anymore
I actively avoided getting screened for ADHD for years because I didn't wanna look like those people that just claim mental illnesses or disabilities to excuse my actions
Thank you for talking about this. My mom actually has had schizophrenia for my entire life and she is one of the nicest people so it really irks me when people use it as a scapegoat for being a bully
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I want him to use Moron's face too.
We finally get that boxing match 🤣
Childhood sheltering is the most devastating form of abuse overall, because it's all-encompassing. I say this as a youth counselor that escaped an abusive home myself as a teenager. People like this need real autonomy in the world and direct exposure to begin the deep, intensive process of healing from that developmental damage & trauma. Dr. Peter Gray (Free to Learn), Lenore Skenazy and Jordan Peterson have desperately warned about the youth independence crisis since throughout the 2010s.
Due to my disabilities my mother sheltered me my whole life. Now I'm nearly 33 still living with her, almost wholly dependant on her. And it absolutely sucks. I want to be independent and strike out on my own. But I actually lack any real world experience. It's crippling and embarrassing. And only recently she acknowledged she fucked up. :T
@@tenebraequeene the only way to get the experience is to go get it, no one’s stopping you now
well said
What passes for abuse now is laughable! People are so soft. Never seen so many weak ass wannabe victims! Bunch of mental midgets .
Yeah I was medically diagnosed with high functioning anxiety and severe depression, meaning I look ok but dying inside. Went to therapy and the first thing I was told by my therapist is “continue life”. Which is true. I need to always be moving and not succumb to my illness. My sickness is not a reason to stop moving on with life, work it out. And then pat myself in the back everyday that I have lived the day. To be healthy I need to work on it, instead of bullying others to go with my illness.
This is why you should always ask if someone is self-diagnosed or clinically diagnosed.. Chicks like her read a few things on wedmd and start claiming to have whatever it is. Autism is a very popular one (in FB autism groups, for example, a huge percentage of the active members are self-diagnosed and, imo, they have no clue what they're talking about).
Personally, I think, because of how the internet has exposed us to so many more people than pre-social media, it's much more difficult to be "unique" among your peer group. Most people go through a teenage phase where they want to be rebellious and I think social media has changed how kids go about it; one of the ways people try to stand out, or garner sympathy, is by labeling themselves as a victim of some sort of uncontrollable disadvantage, be it physical or mental.
I think they do this for a few reasons.. A few of them could be:
1. their perceived disadvantage excuses their bad choices in life and avoid self-accountability for bad things that have happened in their lives;
2. they feel superior to others because they believe they have to work harder to get the same success as others who, they believe, are privileged for being born healthy/normal; and
3. they enjoy the attention and the way people treat them when they think they're physically/mentally disabled
(Edited typos I just noticed)
You do realize self diagnosis is what *leads* to a clinical diagnosis right? Seriously people are misusing terms and are doing even more harm to people SEEKING to fix their problems. If someone “self diagnosed” based on a tiktok that said “you know you have ocd if organized pencil case”, then that is not what self diagnosis is
THIS!!
I’d really like you to actually go outside and ask someone if they are self diagnosed. This really isn’t a problem in the real world, just for the chronically online. I would never ask someone whether they are practically lying to me or not.
My parents did what they could. When things got financially hard, I understood they couldn’t help me anymore. I chose to move out, get married young, and I wanted to get off the support saddle because it was time. I screwed up, messed up, tried again, until I wanted to be in a safer, financially stable, and better position. I got my bachelor’s and I work at a very nice place. Benefits, retirement, etc.
I have diagnosed clinical depression, and episodes are extremely debilitating, but that perpetual push against the grain, is what gives my life meaning. Doing it just because, failing, and doing it again and again. I’m so thankful my husband and family always can see the work I put in, and just trying and trying instead of giving up and becoming prisoner to my own darkness.
Ma'am I'm going through similar. you inspired me today. God bless you love
I wish people knew the amount of courage it takes to get up everyday and try again when you also have to endure depression. Congratulations 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥I too have screwd up soooo many times and continue to do so, but with God's grace, I have the ability to do better for myself everytime. Well done to all of us🙌🏾🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Half the time I forget I'm diagnosed because I don't focus on it since we can sometimes focus on the negatives more than the positives. The labels should be an explanation for certain aspects vs our personality. Knowing my diagnosis helps me acknowledge and see when I'm acting up but I can't control it, so I moved tf out 🤣 It made everyone a lot happier.
My family has a horrible past with alot of the illnesses the fruit loops hair people claim to have/fake. It's not the best solution, but I've never gone to go get diagnosed and never assume I have anything.
I wake up every day knowing I'm not normal, and yet I NEVER let it slip into excuse territory. If I fuck up, I know it's on me. If I have horrible mood swings/reactions/get in slumps, I refuse to let myself be like those I was raised around/by. Even if it's something small and miniscule, the fear and anger I feel from seeing those past negative traits pulls me out of my funk(s)
It's exhausting to deal with whatever is going on with me, I know it's wrong to not attend therapy, or even get checked out, but with everything that has gone in with the internet, I know this personally is the choice I need and the choice that will keep me on the road of improving every day