I still don't understand what Markee's reasoning in regards to the first story. It's the clearest case of NTA I've ever heard. I swear social media is raising a generation of sociopaths
I had a diary when I was 15, expressed all my upset about my step dad, life, etc. my step dad snooped and found it, then screamed at me and slapped me out of my chair for having thoughts. So yeah, I don’t write anything down or get to work through old thoughts any more, and somehow my family was shocked that I ended up explosively angry all the time and went out of my way to have nothing to do with them. So he kicked me out for it and my mom let him. Yeah, a world where people are afraid to get help.
OMG you have a right to express how you feel even if it is in a DIARY that's meant for your eyes only if it was me I'd still write in a DIARY anyway I wouldn't care about their OPINION on it if writing in a DIARY or PRIVATE journal helps me cope then you know what I'm going to write whether you want me to or not
Damian, that is so ABSOLUTELY horrible and such an invasion of privacy. Please don't internalize those hurtful and crippling thoughts. Allow yourself any non harmful outlet for your emotions and you might try journaling again now that you are out of that home. Pour all of those feelings out onto paper and if it feels right, try drawing or collage. I like to find art that expresses my feelings and draw the images or print out the pics and glue in my journal. It may be quite cathartic and helpful to you. Love and healing to you.
Oof! The first story really rips my heart out! To an autistic child, the loss of his puzzle was every bit as devastating as the loss of her trip. He worked so hard on it, was so proud of it, and then she smashed it and recorded his anguish for laughs. That is disturbingly cruel, regardless of how popular tic tock is right now. The father canceling her trip makes sense, even if it were completely safe to travel. That isn't the point. It's an equal loss. If it were my daughter, I would make this the year to give her every opportunity to bond with her brother, to better understand how something simple to her could be so horrifically hurtful to others. Along that same thought, she shouldn't be going to other countries before she is capable of empathy for people she doesn't understand.
The girl wrecked something her young autistic brother took a lot of time to get done and was really proud of, to those that think the punishment is too harsh and should be commensurate to what she did; this trip was something she spent a lot of time on and was really proud of doing, so it fits.
Also, if she is immature enough to think it would be acceptable to cause her brother distress for tik tok views, then she is too immature to travel to Japan without the supervision of her parents. That's not a weekend girls trip- that's an expensive international vacation. And even though she would be 18, she is not acting like an adult
My journal from being postpartum was found and cps was called. I explained it was for therapy to get the negative thoughts out of my head. case was closed and we moved on, time and my support team helped me heal and become a better mother and wife.
I'm so glad you're doing better and it helped you, I write sometimes when I'm particularly anxious in the form of lyrics usually(I write lyrics when I'm not anxious too). And it honestly makes me skin crawl thinking of someone reading it. I do leave it out for my husband if I feel he should know how I'm feeling and he writes sweet little notes to remind me he loves me in the margins. We shouldn't be held for every thought we ever had and recorded.
Don’t we all have thoughts that we would never act upon? If it makes some people feel better to write them down, so be it. Many people do this because it’s cathartic. To take something so personal and expose it on social media is the height of disgusting behavior. The daughter is awful and if someone doesn’t punish her for this she will grow up to be a horrible human being. But the worst of all is social media which I consider the scourge of humanity.
If it was a group of men lets say going bowling or a bar after work they didn't need to invite a female coworker...men talk different if they are together and why would they want here around...I as a female if someone kept reporting me to HR...I wouldn't help her do her job either..but I wouldn't see any reason to want to be included in all men activties..
Fiance is not over Mandy...he is not ready for marriage...he loved her and was going to marry her..everyone grieves for different lengths of time..maybe your engagement and wedding were to soon .He is not ready...
I asked my 19-year-old daughter who also has an autistic sibling and also is fascinated by Japan and would love to visit how she felt about the punishment the girl got for destroying her brother’s puzzle. She totally agrees with the father. The girl has absolutely no empathy for her brother. She destroyed something he was proud of and took a long time to create. Her punishment fit the crime in our book.
i feel like it may need more context like was she with her mum for the time where he was building it did she know how long it took to build it i feel like she may have seen him build 1k or 2/5k puzzles to someone who dosent know a puzzle is something that gets deconstructed anyways so after its laying around for a few days so its possible she asumed it was gonna get deconstructed anyways idk it feels like the dad would have worded it in a way to intentionaly come out like the better person
@@hextecneko14 I don't think it matters how long it took him. That she would destroy any amount of his effort for some stupid mean video makes her a bad person. She's old enough not to be a horrible person for likes or views.
The worst thing is is that the entire point of the "challenge" is to film the reaction. She chose to destroy her brother's hard work just for a few likes and followers on an app where challenges have a week-long lifespan at best. That was pure evil intentions from the beginning
I guarantee that under those circumstances, canceling her trip to Japan does not make Dad an Ahole! She, obviously is not mature enough for such a trip, and her behavior towards her brother demonstrates that fact inarguably!
If her mother thinks the dad overreacted let her pay for the trip. the daughter is cruel, immature and spoiled rotten, she needs a swift dose of reality. actions have consequences.
Re: TikTok Chick. If the daughter is not mature enough to not exploit her brother for SM fame, she is not mature enough to behave responsibly on a girls’ trip.
I totally agree, people saying her punishment was too harsh are the reason their kids grow up to be snowflakes. What she did was cruel and malicious and if people think she won’t always remember losing a trip to Japan over it they are bunkers.
Not to mention Japan has a generally respectful culture. If she's willing to hurt her own family members for tik Tok likes, I'd hate to see what she might get up to in public there. Maybe we'd have the Logan Paul vlogs all over again if she'd went lol
OP did his daughter a huge favor by canceling her trip she's not mature enough to travel overseas expresly to Japan as their laws are harsher and if she did something like that over there she may find herself in jail or worse.
I had exactly the same thought. She was going to Japan to celebrate becoming an adult. If she has such poor judgment and immaturity that she'd hurt her own brother like that, she doesn't need to be let loose on her own in a foreign country. Let her prove that she's mature enough to handle independence and she can go.
The son who doesn't shower: He's totally playing out his parents against each other! They should put the foot down and sit down together with their son to show that they work together as parents and that his little scheme is over. My parents would have _dragged_ me into the shower with no mercy if I'd pulled something like that ...
Lol! I had a similar problem. I showered every two or three days because my parents made me because I reeked. I hated them. What they didn't teach me was the joys of DO. I honestly didn't discover it until my early 20s. Even my school didn't delve too much in proper hygiene. (Shower and wash your hands to get rid of germs, not stink, and not get sick. I obviously couldn't smell myself and mom made light of germs calling everyone else germaphobe so I thought an every 2-5 day turn around for showers is normal.) It wasn't until I got married in my early 20s that I discovered DO. My teenage daughter keeps a DO stick with her at all times. If I forget to use mine before going out, she has hers handy (yes, I naturally stink less than 6 hours after a shower if I exert myself in any way.)
I Imagine that this boy has a cell phone and a game console. Take them away. Tell him that good hygiene is important to not get any skin infections like MERSA. Remind him that his actions are intolerable and that you know he is playing both sides against the middle. And if he wants to do that, cook his food, but after that, lock up the refrigerator and cupboards that have any food or sodas. Let him exist in a world where he has nothing nut a bed and a few books for several weeks. Perhaps that will change his mind. It sounds like the ex-wife won't take control of the situation. She needs to learn to be a better parent.
I didn't know showering was a chore I thought it was a necessity chores are usually do the dishes, clean your room not I'll pay you ten bucks to bathe and smell clean
I think I might have had a brilliant idea, a year too late. The kid goes to eat dinner, no dinner there -oh, that’s gonna be $5 if you want dinner? Kid might start showering every day and perhaps sometimes face other ‘bills’ to balance it out?
I’m bad with showers at times but I still try to take them as much as possible and make sure to brush my hair and use perfume etc… if my parents remind me to I do… my issue is that I’m autistic and can get pretty depressed, both of which make it harder to actually start taking a shower, even when I actively want to take one. I even feel icky when I haven’t taken a shower lmao. Idk how people just don’t want to? Of course barring stuff like sensory issues or disabilities or something that makes it stressful/difficult lol..
*I'm polyamorous,* & would still consider a partner dancing & touching intimately & whispering flirtatiously with a co-worker (in front of professional contacts, no less 😑) to be inappropriate, & a red flag for an ongoing affair.
Ehhhhh... They're dancing, so I'm assuming there's music playing. Speaking into someone's ear while you're dancing could be perceived as whispering flirtatiously... Maybe if they'd had an agreement that he wasn't allowed to dance with anyone or get drunk, before going to the event, then that might help rationalize her extreme reaction. Also, they're in public, in front of everyone, colleagues and family... the idea that they'd essentially be dry humping on the dance floor seems a bit of a stretch. Idk, based on what's here, there's way too much that's unknown.
@@sabsin5606 there's a big difference between dancing with someone and dancing and touching someone. The way the touching, as described sounds really intimate.
Also poly, and this would be a big red flag that there was more going on behind the scenes. Like others said, if this is his behavior in public, it's very likely they have something going behind the scenes, or is leading that direction.
Honestly, if the husband sneezed and woke her up from a deep sleep and she called her brother crying and said, “he doesn’t respect me, I want to divorce him, can I come stay with you?” The answer is yes, it is ALWAYS YES. Then when she comes, after she gets out her frustration and has a good night’s sleep, then you can GENTLY say, “look, I think you may have over reacted just a bit, and here is why…” But you never say “no, I won’t give you, my pregnant, distraught sister, a place to lay your head.” What an ass.
For the story about the girl and the jigsaw puzzle: She knowingly and maliciously caused a meltdown with her autistic brother. She knew exactly what his reaction would be as she lives with him and has his entire life of experiences with him. Her trip cancellation was very justifiable and should give her the experience of what it was like for her autistic brother to have his puzzle destroyed by her for the funsies.
@@jessejjyami8909 actually it does. Her disable brother did something he was proud of that took him a month to complete and she destroyed it. Let’s say her video did gain views then what? She recorded her 8 or 9 year old autistic brother having a meltdown to a brunch of people who don’t know him so they can make fun of him too?
@@jessejjyami8909 It definitely is. It shows she was cruel and malicious and that she has no empathy. She deliberately destroyed something which gave a child joy just so she could score points off of him on social media. She’s a horrible person and needs to be taught a lesson.
@@jessejjyami8909 You’re right. It’s not strong enough. I’d throw her out of my house to protect the CHILD that the almost adult attacked. Everyone is all boo hoo for that girl who loses out on her trip. What does she learn from it? What about the boy? What will he learn? That his months of work is never safe in his own home? That his precious big sis can treat him however she likes? Sorry. Zero sympathy for her. She is monstrous.
Just because your kid really wants to do something, or really wants something, doesn't mean you have to provide it. If daughter really wants to go to Japan, she'll find a way on her own.
As far as "mild nut allergies" go, usually they get worse with more exposure, she will probably have a massive allergic reaction one day and if she doesn't have an epi pen she's probably going to die, especially if her throat closes up. Stealing food and being allergic is the height of stupidity. Go ahead and tell your parents to plan her funeral because that's where not teaching her impulse control is going to get her.
My response would just be to leave notes saying, "OPs food. Don't eat." No further explanation/description. 19 year old sister can either ask for permission like an adult, or flip the coin and deal with the consequences if she guesses wrong.
@@patbracken It obviously doesn't make a difference seeing as how OP has said that at college they have communal refrigerators and she steals from them.
Pay to shower? You grab him by the back of the shirt and say, "Kid, get up there and shower. Now. You won't be eating until you come to the table clean."
Totally, what planet are these parents on that they let a 13 year old manipulate them like that, he'd have no anything until he got in the shower. No food in extreme circumstances but before that I'd take everything else off him, wifi is the first video games would be second or sports activities or whatever he likes
@@RichardJordan-rt1jo No food is extreme? Really? If the kid is hungry, he goes upstairs, takes a five minute shower, and comes back down to eat. It's all his own choice. At 13, he ought to have enough sense to choose the shower
my son didnt shower regularly for a few years - i told him it was his problem - if he wanted friends, particularly female friends, he would have to get it - he got it
Damn that first story, I mean I like japan, but if I did that and my trip got cancelled, I would be fine, and also the fact that he completed a 10k piece puzzle on his own, is just straight impressive
As someone with an allergy the food stealing one pisces me off. You never eat anything that's not yours or not labeled. I've had the opposite problem where college roommates taking my specialty allergy free foods...
That apple story kills me! 😂 The boyfriend is that guy in everyone's math books..."John has 53 apples. If he eats 3 apples a day, how many weeks will it be until he needs to get more?". The sleep paralysis demon comment cracked me up! 😂
As someone in the same age range as the girl in the first story, your parents being kind enough to pay for a large trip like that is a privilege. She chose to be mean to her autistic brother to get some tiktok likes. She chose to be immature and rude. So she lost the privilege of her parents paying for an expensive trip. The fact that the mom/ex-wife said he had to pay for the trip is insane. The daughter begging for an expensive girls trip like its a given she should have it is very telling about how entitled the daughter really is.
3. Story: best brother award - her husband made out with another woman infront of her and he is not even helping her. Nice one. Wow, i would also not let him see his niece/nephew
First Story: The punishment fits the crime perfectly. She broke her sibling's pride and joy to film him and his heartbreak on social media. She's been completely unempathetic to her brother. For her birthday, she was going to be given a gift out of empathy and respect by her father. She is no longer getting that for her actions. Fixing a puzzle isn't solving the major issue that she wanted to exploit someone's suffering. Girl needs therapy too.
Yeah, if my sister was literally eating EVERYTHING of mine in the fridge that wasn't meant to be shared, and had that allergy, I'd be putting a couple drops of peanut oil or nut whatever on everything with notes saying, "contains nuts". There is really no excuse when a person were to know better. I generally wouldn't care if she was occasionally helping herself to a piece of cake or something, but to even OP's lunches for work is too much. This is completely nuts! XD
People are being way too idealistic about the second story. The fact is the 15 year old is distraught and deep down doesn't want her father loving and being in a relationship with this new woman. Period. Is the stepmom the a-hole for what she wrote? No! Was what the stepdaughter read in the diary hurtful - yes! Should it have been posted? Absolutely not! But the daughter still has her feelings and the father's goose is cooked until his daughter decides she might forgive him. There's no winning here.
I was looking for a comment like this. Everyone was acting like the daughter was a grown up and purposefully trying to find things to get rid of her stepmom. She is 15 she has a right to be upset. While she shouldn't have done those things. It still hurt. she is still a child.
She purposefully went snooping and after finding the diary, she read it. Then she took pictures. And afterwards, she posted them. And then, she refused to take them down. She is just angry because she expects everyone to love her and thinks people should be nice to her, no matter what. I feel she is a small Karen and might grow up to be one, especially since she shares traits with her mother, who is already a Karen. You know, a defamation of character lawsuit could be followed by an intellectual property theft lawsuit, which she still doesn't understand because she's selfish and stupid. (And because "daddy wouldn't do that to me")
@@SashaMonsteraki If the ex-wife gets remarried to a guy who is a heartless and toxic AH, and she prioritizes him over 2nd OP's kids, what will happen, next?
I'm trying to put myself back in my own shoes as a 15 y/o ... yeah, my bro is 5 years older than me & would'a kicked me face-first into next Thursday at a much younger age for going into someone else's stuff, even if it wasn't his stuff. My parents would pat him on his back for it, too, then *they* would also have laid down the law. It's a crappy family attitude that is allowing this "child" to think she can behave this way. Being a loving family member means helping each other understand what is & isn't cool. Could be why I have a good job & a decent home & good friends now instead of a prison cellmate.
As a younger sibling who had an older sister who would purposely break all my toys the minute they came in the house, with no consequences for her actions, I say BRAVO!!!! NTA. Both of your children will remember this the rest of their lives. Your son will feel protected, and your daughter will realize that she must show respect or there will be severe consequences. I feel her punishment perfectly matches the crime. Let her miss Japan. I'd NEVER in a million years let my child go halfway around the world unsupervised. Keep going with your gut, dad.
Paying him to shower?! They have created a Monster! Talk about ridiculous. I would have never paid him the first time and his ex is making this absolutely worse. She needed to see this post. She's creating a monster.
i would have said to the son who didn't shower either you take a shower in the bathroom or we go to the backyard and use the hose to give you a shower. I would give him many chances to go take the shower and if he doesn't i would follow through with it
Can't do those things these days it's considered abuse. You know what isn't considered abuse? Telling the whole damn internet his son has to be paid to take a shower that's the way I would be going
LMAO at the shower one. If that was my 13 YEAR OLD KID I'd tell him he has the option to either shower or I'll scrub him myself with the toilet brush, teeth included. Fuck that noise.
I SO understand the pregnant woman who doesn't like strangers walking up and touching her belly. What is it that makes people think if you are pregnant you're "community property"? Do you think I'm a crystal ball and can magically know your future??Although it's been a long time since I was pregnant I still remember how I hated that!! Some people just have no clue!! I didn't mind so much when kids did it as they are just curious kids, but I always tried to stop them and then just tell them they need to ASK before touching someone like that. Of course once they asked I always let them, because like I said they're just kids. The adults really peeved me off though. Especially women who were older as they should know better, and know how it feels to have a stranger just come up and touch you like that. GRRR was definitely a pet peeve to me!!! I even have some guy try and hit on me in a store bc he "thinks pregnant women are sexy" CREEP ALERT!!
This is why you don't base your entire identity on being a parent. If they had hobbies, they'd be enjoying life and each other's company instead of feeling lonely.
And why does everyone think the easier thing (death) will happen and dont think of plenty of other problems like mobility issues, Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, stroke and being bedridden, cases in which, the OP would need to take care of two disabled adults and two teenaged children without any of them being op's choice?
College funds... A parent willing to fully pay for college with conditions is just like full ride scholarships, to continue receiving the funds you have to comply with the rules... And if the kid didn't want those conditions he either pays for it himself or go for grants (which would have their own set of rules to follow)
What the daughter did by taking and posting the step mother's therapy dairy, I believe is illegal, and the step mother could maybe sue the step daughter.
The daughter in the first story is literally why I can't release my feelings even on paper because what if someone reads it and then judges me for those private bad thoughts
I used to have my brother and his wife living with me. When we moved away to another city. I forgot my diary and they got hold of it. Instead of sending it to me they read it . At first they got so mad at all the venting I did in it about them. They called me and berated me for saying all that stuff about them. I shut that down by 1. Telling then that they read my personal diary that nobody would have ever seen but me. I told them I loved them but I am allowed to have thoughts and my feelings about certain things are still valid. And 2 nothing I said in my diary was untrue. They knew I was right on that one and that was the end of it. Never mentioned it again. They should have stayed out of it. That daughter in that story should never have went thru the step mom's personal belongings and should have never snooped in her personal diary. She is allowed to have feelings and thoughts.. She's not a child she's an older teen and should have known better. Then she posted it online for everyone to see. That was horrible. I think the step mom should take legal action to get it taken down.
My jaw dropped in the story about the custody battle when OP got his ex wife fired (and blacklisted likely) from her job just because she did p*rn as a young adult. Like dude, you set out to ruin her whole life just because she wanted 60-40 custody?! If that's his attitude and way of reacting to things he finds "unfair," it's no wonder she left him. YTA so much
that second story if my 13 year old son thought he was clever for figuring out extortion I would teach him about true blackmail. I would tell him I'm going to blast all over the Internet he has to be paid to take a shower if this continues
'tiktok has just been pulled from everywhere...' buuuuuuuut if you have the app already you can still use it... I honestly am tired of this whole tiktok thing being blown out of proportion.
She's worried her son will bond with someone other than his father. I am surprised more people didn't talk about that. That's more than just wanting her son to be safe, that's wanting her son to be socially and emotionally exclusive. She's crazy.
The lady with the 3yo son needs to go to therapy. Not even letting him into a car! I realise she had trouble falling pregnant, but she’s lost the plot.
Oof that story about the girl wanting to be in the school play tho. The mom really went online, explained how when both the daughter and husband both said “hey maybe it’s the parent’s job to, ya know, parent their kids” she essentially said “no it isn’t” and thought it was a possibility she was in the right. I am glad she came to, but man, how far up one’s posterior dost thine cranium need be for such an astounding lack of logic to come to be??
Most elementary schools now have free or inexpensive after-school programs [with choices of sports, homework help, videos or arts and crafts] for the children of working parents. The program leaders won't allow the spoiled younger kids to misbehave, so the simple solution would be good for the whole dysfunctional family. The older sister and her dad are completely in the right.
Dealing with 2 kids and a dog is a lot of work? On what planet? Ten minutes to put food in a dish and refill a water dish. She only works two days a week. The current kid only actively watches the kid one day a week? What a lazy woman! What is she so overwhelmed by?
The first story, he made the right call. I feel in addition to that, she should have helped her brother work on another puzzle to make up for the one she destroyed.
I wouldn’t have even kept the broken child. And two years of work vs one month is not equivalent in ANY way. Autism or not. They want normal people rights, they get treated like normal people. They always get lienecy, time for it to go the other way around
@@serpentinewolf7085 are you stupid? Yea you treat an autistic person like a normal person but that leniency you grant for an autistic person is justified on them not on a person without am incurable mental illness. It's clear you've never been around anyone with autism or more specifically talking to someone with it. In addition the daughter was PLANNING not working in addition she wasn't even going to pay for the trip meanwhile the kid actually was doing a form of working, he spent a full month wracking his brain doing a 10,000 piece puzzle and before you say "Oh ThAtS nOtHiNg" it is, a 10,000 piece puzzle is massive as hell and back to the sister, 2 years of planning for a single day? What is she trying to arrange? Is she trying to have Ryan renolds show up or something? No? Then that means that despite the time she took its wasnt actually planning, it was waiting, waiting till she could go to Japan and to the hotel.
@@rimworld64 No. I’ve been around too fucking many. They’re awkward at best and at worse little rage machines that should be locked away. We’re all born with the brain we got, that’s who we are. And who they are is unpredictable. No excuses for anyone. Mental illness or not. Humans are made to be intelligent and social creatures. If you can’t do one of those you’re up for the genetic chopping block.
@@serpentinewolf7085 tell me, if you were autistic would you like to be locked away for something you never wanted nor asked for but were given anyway? Because what you are saying right now is the worst and most disgusting response to my reply I could have ever imagined you'd say.
I cant even focus on the parents. I'm sitting here DYING over the 13 year old.. that lil dude.. he is the best villain ever.. it's like, I don't like him, and I judge him.. but I'm weirdly proud? Is that a thing? Am I normal?
The one about the mom not wanting anyone to look after THEIR child but her husband is totally in the wrong. She makes it sound as if the son is hers only and her husband is an attendant. He’s his child, too, so he has a say in who can care for him. If the roles were reversed more people would be calling him out. I was the major care giver for our children but I was happy to let them go to their grandparents houses. And other places. Apparently she doesn’t realize how much children learn from other people.
THIS! I am so sick of people who utilize daycare, after school programs, Mom's Day Outs, etc being villainized. Has anyone else noticed that other overly-sheltered kids go to school & have massive behavioural & social problems?? It's usually financially helpful to parents who can avoid more public childcare, but sheesh! It doesn't help the kid learn to adapt. I had a great experience at my daycare. I learned a lot, they helped my working single mother out SO MUCH, & remember it fondly to this very day (actual decades later). Although I think MDO programs need a name change. Dads need days out, too, & not all guardians are bio parents of their kids at all.
Just a note: don’t touch people without their permission. It sends me into a mild panic when someone touches my shoulder and I’m a 27 year old guy! I can’t imagine how bad it is for someone who’s dealing with pregnancy hormones. No one has the right to touch another person ,regardless of circumstances, without their permission, *PERIOD!*
I feel that your boy friend has not gotten over Mandy. It feels that everyone and boyfriend are still holding on to Mandy. Have him see a therapist about Mandy. They are putting her on a pedestal and not being allowed to rest in piece. NTA. Have him go into counselling.
@@ladyj.9350 Americans call a butt lift a "brazilian butt lift" but most people here don't do that surgery lol, I assume it's because Brazilians are said to have perky big butts.
I wonder if "lazy husband" has a sleep disorder. Many people with sleep disorders are too tired all the time especially if physical work is involved in top of being cranky assholes. He might be lazy, but the judgment of lazy should only happen after physical causes are ruled out
The office reporting story. NOPE! Op was Not in the wrong. It wasn't sexism. I can't stand how people jump to that So freaking easily! And I'm a woman! The woman sounds EXACTLY like one I work with. People can't stand her at work. One of the reasons is that she just Loves to report people to management Daily. Frankly, I'm pretty sure management is getting sick of it. Now we know why the woman went though 5 jobs in the last 3 years. She reports people for the most Petty things and what little joy you can have while still doing your job, she seems so adamant on killing it. That is what these people are feeling. Sometimes those little joyous things are what make your job much not seem bad at all. So having someone so determined on killing it SUCKS!
The too late adoption story: You are not the AH. I feel very sorry for these young kids. I suspect that your parents lied about their ages to the adoption agency in the other country. Anyway, before ever starting the process they should have discussed the idea with you. At that point you would have been able to tell them you weren't going to take in any kids once your parents were unable to take care of them. You would also have been able to point out that they are too old now to adopt kids, and you could have suggested that they get an adult shelter pet instead. Honestly, all that's going through my mind is, "What were they thinking?!" Apparently they weren't thinking. Those poor kids!😞
I dont even have diary cuz the things i would writte in there would prolly be just about killin people tbh and other things that i dont wanna mention. That combined with how insensitive i am would prolly destroy my life.
@@TisOnlyAScratch Not usually. It's really hard to get a diary/journal into evidence, because they're considered hearsay. Any threats made in a diary couldn't be taken seriously as evidence because the nature and purpose of a diary is to vent frustrations in a safe place.
Brazil story .NTA Her sons girlfriend clearly told Op that she doesn't want her child have interaction with her culture. The commenter who say it's not about the culture clearly was deaf lmao
😂😂😂 omg the shower story! One of our kids didn’t like to shower often. We finally explained he could listen to our suggestion or a cute girl will say something at school. And she may not be nice about it.
39:45 I know an older couple who adopted late in life (not quite as late as that story, but they were both in their 50's). The biggest difference though is that they set everything up ahead of time so of something happened, the child would be taken in by their close family. This was decided BEFORE the kid was even born. (they are pro-life and offered to adopt the baby so that a young woman would not have to get an abortion.) In their opinion (and mine), it would be crazy not to have critical details setup ahead of time.
About the dancing husband story: IDK if that’s because on my country people are very sexual and dancing like that is very common, but I wouldn’t consider that cheating. However, if a sister of mine wanted to crash on my house because of this, I would totally support her, and if asked, give my opinion, because ultimately, that’s her marriage, her thoughts, her feelings, and her choice to make
About the diary story: maybe op could gift wife a tool so she could easily have her notes difitalised and stored somewhere save? Like rocketbook: then she could still write as she is used to, and at home easily categorie her memories and then delete all the notes from the hardware 'notebook' (rocketbook is a paper book and combined with the right pens, you can remove all notes by microwaving the notebook with some water.) this might give op a sense of security since the notes aren't packed at home and possibly read by intruders, and gives the wife the option to remember things ánd even makes it easier to search for a memory lateron.
30:07 - This went through my mind as I was listening to this story. Her sister's behaviour has all the hallmarks of Prader-Willi Syndrome, but OP said that her sister wasn't developmentally delayed, so....
Actually, about 1 in 5-ish of the *very* few people who have this genetic disorder show no or very little signs of intellectual delay. It's a difference in behaviour & appearance that mark these individuals (short, overweight, & a few ... hmmm ... I'll call them idiosyncratic "habits"). Edit: I'm not suggesting this commenter is off in the suspicion of OP's sister having this disorder, just trying to clarify the condition!
The one about OP not allowing their daughter to attend their school play. OP is definitely an AH and it's illegal to leave you 8 yrd alone. Any child 12 and under is against the law the last time I checked. OP should've gotten a babysitter the first time and every time after that.
I can’t believe some of those comments with the Apple story! The dude literally went nuts because she forgot his stupid apples! Of course he needs help. His behavior was not OK. * eating three apples a day is not a big deal. It’s how he reacted and treated her over it. And I hope he’s the one paying for them himself.
1st) Wow, what a sociopath. I repeatedly tell my kids "No TikTok" and I am constantly shown how that is certainly the right call. That was actual criminal behavior by the way. 2nd) Never Never go snooping in a diary if you don't want to find dirt, and you certainly don't get to play the victim after snooping. Then taking private thoughts and posting them on-line, once again, actual criminal behavior. social media is a cancer. Counter sue the ex. 3rd) She can leave for any reason, but expecting the brother to put up with her moving in for what is certainly sounds like an over-reaction is another matter. So many here are reading more into it than was written. Is their more? maybe, but what I heard was dancing, normal dancing, not grinding, not cheating, not all sorts of other stuff. I might certainly wonder if it was going on, but I would want a whole lot more before making my child grow up in a broken home. 4th) make him sleep in filth, like in a hole in the back yard. let him get used to living like he is homeless if he wont be clean.
Story 9 - YTA OP is super controlling. I totes understand not wanting a random stranger to watch your son, but these were his PARENTS. She seriously doesn’t want her kid to bond with the grandparents or other family (that aren’t bad/toxic). This is helicopter parenting.
I personally think the daughter needs to put down her darn phone, and help her brother put back together the puzzle! This would be beneficial in several ways. The daughter will then spend more time with her brother to understand him better, and she will see how much work it takes to finish the puzzle. After that, I would think that would be sufficient, "punishment" for the crime because it really would be a learning experience, and she could still go on her trip.
THANK YOU! It was 100% warranted. People who call him the ahole doesn't either have kids or wasn't punished when they were growing up. A cancelled trip is better than going to jail. Snowflakes everywhere
Some responses are saying that taking away the trip isn’t a punishment that relates to the crime, but makes sense to me. She maliciously destroyed something her brother cared deeply about, and now she gets to feel an equivalent degree of loss. It doesn’t matter that an average person wouldn’t put a puzzle and a trip on par with each other. What matters is the value that the individuals involved place on these things. For an autistic 9 year old, a project like that which they have worked for months on is likely equivalent to something like her long planned trip. Sometimes selfish and cruel people can only learn empathy through being given a direct and personal experience with the same pain they flippantly caused.
13yo missed trip to NY... Parents are a-holes. Not for the choice to make the child go the wedding, but for agreeing to allow a 13yo go to NY for a school trip. Chaperones for these trips stink. They leave the kids to run around the hotels, while hanging out in the hotel bar. This is too dangerous to do in NY. That is the reason to have said no from the beginning.
"ShE ShoULd Do ReSEarCh aNd SoMeTHiNG NiCe aS PuNiShMeNt". No. She is 1 year away from adulthood, and if she is immature and cruel enough to deliberately upset a child for likes, let alone her autistic brother and deliberately attacking something he was proud of and knowing it would cause a meltdown just for likes, she is not only not deserving of a free international trip, she's 100% not mature or trustworthy enough for said unsupervised trip. Who bets that if she goes OP will followup with "UPDATE: My now 18 year old daughter was arrested with her frinds in Japan for poor conduct/destruction of property/ heritage site/escalating a situation while being ejected from site for disrespectful behavior for aTiktok challenge. Everyone insisted I not revoke the trip as it's too far/paid for it instead without my permission. AITA for telling them to figure out the mess they created?"
2:48:40 You literally can get addicted to ANYTHING. As long it's something that triggers a pleasure response in your brain. You can become dependent on anything.
Story 4 - ESH He’s a 13 year old and he has the both of you wrapped around his finger. Seriously, parent up. Tell him, “shower or you won’t get anything.” Then stop. Stop letting him watch TV, play video games, use his phone until he has to leave, use your transportation to get to places he wants except doctors [he can walk].” Stop raising a choosing beggar. Seriously.
Oof, the diary one just really gets under my skin. It just sounds too much like the daughter hated the stepmom and went looking for validation because the wife was trying to be nice...so she found her personally diary, read it, spread it, and posted it online? I get that she’s a hurt and emotional teenager but in the span of 1 day she just managed to ruin 5 lives (her own, her little brother’s, her bio mom once they pay and lose in court, her father, and most importantly, the stepmother herself. Not to mention anyone else mentioned in passing.) If the daughter felt entitled to snoop with the intention of causing harm, then literally steal someone else’s property for her own entertainment, and posted obviously private obviously hurtful and traumatic information online, then NO, I’m not shocked the Stepmother needed counseling trying to become a part of this family and sometimes didn’t like them. 🤬 And now not only is the teenage daughter NOT getting punished, she’s getting praised because everyone else is so busy vilifying the StepMom for being human they aren’t even considering how incredibly fucked up what the daughter did is. I can 100% guarantee that if anyone read that teens diary and posted it online she would have a fit. The Mom taking them to court? Congratulations wasting money - you will get laughed out of the courtroom if OP gets a good lawyer.
@@bakugoukatsuki153 No, kids do not have the right to snoop. It's one thing to go into a drawer and find really embarrassing photographs of parents in 70s or 80s clothes and pulling them up and showing everyone. Quite another to find somebody's diary and read it. If this isn't considered okay for a parent to do, then it isn't right for a teen-ager who is at that age to know better to do. The fact that you explain this behaviour with 'all kids are going to snoop' sounds like you are actually part of the problem. End of discussion.
I'm just saying deal with the consequences when a child find information on you it's your fault for not hiding it better and anything is that it's the same thing as if you don't have anything nice to say than don't mention it on pen and paper or with words then bury the hatchet
On the "hypothetical" child bit I get it. If you have ever lost a baby, had a miscarriage or lost a baby in the first couple months you'd understand. You don't trust it till you can count 10 fingers and toes...even then for a while you freak every time they sleep.
In the college story I feel like nobody is pointing out what to me is blatantly the obvious issue. The issue is that dude went to a state school with plenty of opportunities and decided to get a degree in creative writing. And then can't figure out why he's not being offered a six-figure lucrative job when he gets out of school? If he had pursued any kind of more financially viable career $50,000 wouldn't seem like such a debt. No matter how young he was at the time anybody with a brain that can make it into a state school can figure out creative writing is a pretty niche place to be able to make big money
Story 1: She knew exactly what she was doing. This was beyond cruel, and she knows better. Cancelling her trip is the least OP should do. His ex is a piece of work. 🤬
The only girl in the office story: I’m also the only girl in my workplace. However I work with my boss and he is the owner. He makes sexist and ageist comments on an almost daily basis as well as very crude comments . I’ve asked for it to stop but he just dismissed me, though his wife did get him to cool the crude language a little.
Kid/shower story: Hey OP, how about grounding/punishing him if he does not shower? How about being a parent and take control of this situation! Mom is going to do what she wants but if she wants to go broke by giving in then that is her business. You need to provide a disincentive to son’s action starting now. Everyone is TA!
First story: As someone who has ADHD (which is on the autism spectrum). NTA, big NTA. What she did is the Emotional Abuse. Losing her trip is the minimum punishment. I would also ban her from being in the same room as her brother. He deserves protection and to feel safe. Also, she needs help. Make her see a therapist, she is literally abusing her brother for likes on TicToc.
Windmill factory: Husband says he's too tired to do anything at home after working all day at a strenuous job. OK, suppose that's true on work days. That's three days a week. So what's the explanation for the other four days?
Wait, the narrator is going with ESH for the first story? The only one who sucks is the daughter and the ex-wife. She made the conscience decision to destroy her brother’s puzzle that he worked hard on and recorded his reaction. Screw tiktok trends, most of that shit stinks anyway.
1st story why would he be tah. This girl is way too old to act like that and regardless of if the child is artistic or not. Destroying anything someone worked on is just cruel
25:20 My grandma once threatened to throw a bucket of water at my sister or me if we didn't wake up in time for school. Luckily, that only happened once xDD
So the apple story: apples actually give you a boost of energy so he might be using it like coffee every morning. (I actually heard that apples give about as much energy as coffee, but that might be untrue) Also, apples seem much healthier though they do have a fair amount of natural sugars.
My solution to my sister refusing to shower at that age (because it’s an awkward transition for most people going from being a kid who likes like a kid to being a kid who is starting to look like an adult) was to either go shower willingly or I would put her in the shower clothes and all. I explained that it’s not because I want to make her insecure or be cruel but because hygiene is incredibly important and explained different issues that go along with it. Thankfully, she understood and has been good about it since then. My parents weren’t good about talking to me about it and just shamed or left me alone.
Story 2 is the reason I don’t keep a diary. My first therapist wanted me to keep a diary, but I didn’t trust her. So I didn’t do it. Other therapists never even brought up the idea of using a diary.
I just had to comment on the first story. That girl doesn't deserve the trip and I applaud the parent for not allowing it. Tik Tok pranks are cruel and should be stopped. That video could humiliate her brother for the rest of his life and she didn't give a flying damn. Not only should she not get that trip the parents should confiscate her phone and give her a preprogrammed flip phone until she can afford to buy herself a new one with earned money.
How would your daughter feel if your wife found and read HER diary, and posted it on social media? Sounds like maybe daughter was looking for a good excuse to hate stepmom. Keep having your wife’s back and present a united front to daughter and ex! Edit for spellcheck
Yeah, His kids, justly, think he betrayed them for the step-mom, he may as well run with it at this point. Those relationships are a complete write off at this point.
You do realize this girl is 15 right. Stop treating her like an adult. Yes what she did may have been wrong but she is young and will make mistakes. She probably didn't intentionally go looking for it. While she shouldn't have looked after finding it. Teens are curious and she has every right to be hurt.
I still don't understand what Markee's reasoning in regards to the first story.
It's the clearest case of NTA I've ever heard. I swear social media is raising a generation of sociopaths
And idiots. Good god don't forget idiots.
Afife-Nurbanu Sultan "Imma' lick this toilet bowl and get Covid"
@@MikeHawke83 or... Or... I'mma eat a tide pod!
Not sure either, maybe it made sense when it posted but it definitely aged like milk.
I had a diary when I was 15, expressed all my upset about my step dad, life, etc. my step dad snooped and found it, then screamed at me and slapped me out of my chair for having thoughts. So yeah, I don’t write anything down or get to work through old thoughts any more, and somehow my family was shocked that I ended up explosively angry all the time and went out of my way to have nothing to do with them. So he kicked me out for it and my mom let him. Yeah, a world where people are afraid to get help.
Whoa- whats happened sense then? Are you better have you cut contact? Have you expressed the abuse? Have you exposed them?
That’s an L
OMG you have a right to express how you feel even if it is in a DIARY that's meant for your eyes only if it was me I'd still write in a DIARY anyway I wouldn't care about their OPINION on it if writing in a DIARY or PRIVATE journal helps me cope then you know what I'm going to write whether you want me to or not
I hope you are in a better place now. Sending positive thoughts to you
Damian, that is so ABSOLUTELY horrible and such an invasion of privacy. Please don't internalize those hurtful and crippling thoughts. Allow yourself any non harmful outlet for your emotions and you might try journaling again now that you are out of that home. Pour all of those feelings out onto paper and if it feels right, try drawing or collage. I like to find art that expresses my feelings and draw the images or print out the pics and glue in my journal. It may be quite cathartic and helpful to you. Love and healing to you.
Oof! The first story really rips my heart out! To an autistic child, the loss of his puzzle was every bit as devastating as the loss of her trip. He worked so hard on it, was so proud of it, and then she smashed it and recorded his anguish for laughs. That is disturbingly cruel, regardless of how popular tic tock is right now. The father canceling her trip makes sense, even if it were completely safe to travel. That isn't the point. It's an equal loss. If it were my daughter, I would make this the year to give her every opportunity to bond with her brother, to better understand how something simple to her could be so horrifically hurtful to others. Along that same thought, she shouldn't be going to other countries before she is capable of empathy for people she doesn't understand.
If I could like this a million times, I would. Well said!
^^^^ Yep
The girl wrecked something her young autistic brother took a lot of time to get done and was really proud of, to those that think the punishment is too harsh and should be commensurate to what she did; this trip was something she spent a lot of time on and was really proud of doing, so it fits.
Also, if she is immature enough to think it would be acceptable to cause her brother distress for tik tok views, then she is too immature to travel to Japan without the supervision of her parents. That's not a weekend girls trip- that's an expensive international vacation. And even though she would be 18, she is not acting like an adult
She’s a bad person. Bad people don’t deserve holidays, full stop.
My journal from being postpartum was found and cps was called. I explained it was for therapy to get the negative thoughts out of my head. case was closed and we moved on, time and my support team helped me heal and become a better mother and wife.
I'm so glad you're doing better and it helped you, I write sometimes when I'm particularly anxious in the form of lyrics usually(I write lyrics when I'm not anxious too). And it honestly makes me skin crawl thinking of someone reading it. I do leave it out for my husband if I feel he should know how I'm feeling and he writes sweet little notes to remind me he loves me in the margins. We shouldn't be held for every thought we ever had and recorded.
Don’t we all have thoughts that we would never act upon? If it makes some people feel better to write them down, so be it. Many people do this because it’s cathartic. To take something so personal and expose it on social media is the height of disgusting behavior. The daughter is awful and if someone doesn’t punish her for this she will grow up to be a horrible human being. But the worst of all is social media which I consider the scourge of humanity.
If it was a group of men lets say going bowling or a bar after work they didn't need to invite a female coworker...men talk different if they are together and why would they want here around...I as a female if someone kept reporting me to HR...I wouldn't help her do her job either..but I wouldn't see any reason to want to be included in all men activties..
Fiance is not over Mandy...he is not ready for marriage...he loved her and was going to marry her..everyone grieves for different lengths of time..maybe your engagement and wedding were to soon
.He is not ready...
Who called cps? Also my heart goes out to you
I asked my 19-year-old daughter who also has an autistic sibling and also is fascinated by Japan and would love to visit how she felt about the punishment the girl got for destroying her brother’s puzzle. She totally agrees with the father. The girl has absolutely no empathy for her brother. She destroyed something he was proud of and took a long time to create. Her punishment fit the crime in our book.
Exactly. 100% agree.
Agreed 💯! Definitely does not deserve the trip x
i feel like it may need more context like was she with her mum for the time where he was building it did she know how long it took to build it i feel like she may have seen him build 1k or 2/5k puzzles to someone who dosent know a puzzle is something that gets deconstructed anyways so after its laying around for a few days so its possible she asumed it was gonna get deconstructed anyways idk it feels like the dad would have worded it in a way to intentionaly come out like the better person
@@hextecneko14 I don't think it matters how long it took him. That she would destroy any amount of his effort for some stupid mean video makes her a bad person. She's old enough not to be a horrible person for likes or views.
The worst thing is is that the entire point of the "challenge" is to film the reaction. She chose to destroy her brother's hard work just for a few likes and followers on an app where challenges have a week-long lifespan at best. That was pure evil intentions from the beginning
I guarantee that under those circumstances, canceling her trip to Japan does not make Dad an Ahole! She, obviously is not mature enough for such a trip, and her behavior towards her brother demonstrates that fact inarguably!
Thank you! I agree wholeheartedly!
If her mother thinks the dad overreacted let her pay for the trip. the daughter is cruel, immature and spoiled rotten, she needs a swift dose of reality. actions have consequences.
Yes! Canceling that trip would be the least of her worries at my house!
Yeah if she acts like that towards her love one at home, imagine how rude she'd be in another country.
Re: TikTok Chick. If the daughter is not mature enough to not exploit her brother for SM fame, she is not mature enough to behave responsibly on a girls’ trip.
The point is get tar off of electronics Japan would have been perfect I wouldn't have let her have a phone until she was 18 certainly no social media
I totally agree, people saying her punishment was too harsh are the reason their kids grow up to be snowflakes. What she did was cruel and malicious and if people think she won’t always remember losing a trip to Japan over it they are bunkers.
Not to mention Japan has a generally respectful culture. If she's willing to hurt her own family members for tik Tok likes, I'd hate to see what she might get up to in public there. Maybe we'd have the Logan Paul vlogs all over again if she'd went lol
I don't think Japan needs a second Jacke Paul, even if it's with less followers.
I thought it was fair. Adults but brain not fully formed till 25.
OP did his daughter a huge favor by canceling her trip she's not mature enough to travel overseas expresly to Japan as their laws are harsher and if she did something like that over there she may find herself in jail or worse.
Ikr I was thinking the same thing
Japan is extremely fond of imprisoning foreigners
@@emilybarclay8831 I agree. Japan doesn't play around.
@@emilybarclay8831 THEIR country, THEIR rules!!
I had exactly the same thought. She was going to Japan to celebrate becoming an adult. If she has such poor judgment and immaturity that she'd hurt her own brother like that, she doesn't need to be let loose on her own in a foreign country. Let her prove that she's mature enough to handle independence and she can go.
The son who doesn't shower: He's totally playing out his parents against each other! They should put the foot down and sit down together with their son to show that they work together as parents and that his little scheme is over. My parents would have _dragged_ me into the shower with no mercy if I'd pulled something like that ...
Lol! I had a similar problem. I showered every two or three days because my parents made me because I reeked. I hated them. What they didn't teach me was the joys of DO. I honestly didn't discover it until my early 20s. Even my school didn't delve too much in proper hygiene. (Shower and wash your hands to get rid of germs, not stink, and not get sick. I obviously couldn't smell myself and mom made light of germs calling everyone else germaphobe so I thought an every 2-5 day turn around for showers is normal.)
It wasn't until I got married in my early 20s that I discovered DO. My teenage daughter keeps a DO stick with her at all times. If I forget to use mine before going out, she has hers handy (yes, I naturally stink less than 6 hours after a shower if I exert myself in any way.)
I Imagine that this boy has a cell phone and a game console. Take them away. Tell him that good hygiene is important to not get any skin infections like MERSA. Remind him that his actions are intolerable and that you know he is playing both sides against the middle. And if he wants to do that, cook his food, but after that, lock up the refrigerator and cupboards that have any food or sodas. Let him exist in a world where he has nothing nut a bed and a few books for several weeks. Perhaps that will change his mind. It sounds like the ex-wife won't take control of the situation. She needs to learn to be a better parent.
I didn't know showering was a chore I thought it was a necessity chores are usually do the dishes, clean your room not I'll pay you ten bucks to bathe and smell clean
I think I might have had a brilliant idea, a year too late.
The kid goes to eat dinner, no dinner there -oh, that’s gonna be $5 if you want dinner?
Kid might start showering every day and perhaps sometimes face other ‘bills’ to balance it out?
I’m bad with showers at times but I still try to take them as much as possible and make sure to brush my hair and use perfume etc… if my parents remind me to I do… my issue is that I’m autistic and can get pretty depressed, both of which make it harder to actually start taking a shower, even when I actively want to take one. I even feel icky when I haven’t taken a shower lmao. Idk how people just don’t want to? Of course barring stuff like sensory issues or disabilities or something that makes it stressful/difficult lol..
*I'm polyamorous,* & would still consider a partner dancing & touching intimately & whispering flirtatiously with a co-worker (in front of professional contacts, no less 😑) to be inappropriate, & a red flag for an ongoing affair.
Ehhhhh... They're dancing, so I'm assuming there's music playing. Speaking into someone's ear while you're dancing could be perceived as whispering flirtatiously... Maybe if they'd had an agreement that he wasn't allowed to dance with anyone or get drunk, before going to the event, then that might help rationalize her extreme reaction. Also, they're in public, in front of everyone, colleagues and family... the idea that they'd essentially be dry humping on the dance floor seems a bit of a stretch. Idk, based on what's here, there's way too much that's unknown.
@@sabsin5606 there's a big difference between dancing with someone and dancing and touching someone.
The way the touching, as described sounds really intimate.
Also poly, and this would be a big red flag that there was more going on behind the scenes. Like others said, if this is his behavior in public, it's very likely they have something going behind the scenes, or is leading that direction.
Honestly, if the husband sneezed and woke her up from a deep sleep and she called her brother crying and said, “he doesn’t respect me, I want to divorce him, can I come stay with you?” The answer is yes, it is ALWAYS YES. Then when she comes, after she gets out her frustration and has a good night’s sleep, then you can GENTLY say, “look, I think you may have over reacted just a bit, and here is why…”
But you never say “no, I won’t give you, my pregnant, distraught sister, a place to lay your head.”
What an ass.
Weird
For the story about the girl and the jigsaw puzzle:
She knowingly and maliciously caused a meltdown with her autistic brother. She knew exactly what his reaction would be as she lives with him and has his entire life of experiences with him. Her trip cancellation was very justifiable and should give her the experience of what it was like for her autistic brother to have his puzzle destroyed by her for the funsies.
I dont think canceling a years-long plan is the same as a puzzle, even factoring in the autism. The punishment isn't equal
@@jessejjyami8909 actually it does. Her disable brother did something he was proud of that took him a month to complete and she destroyed it. Let’s say her video did gain views then what? She recorded her 8 or 9 year old autistic brother having a meltdown to a brunch of people who don’t know him so they can make fun of him too?
@@jessejjyami8909 It definitely is. It shows she was cruel and malicious and that she has no empathy. She deliberately destroyed something which gave a child joy just so she could score points off of him on social media. She’s a horrible person and needs to be taught a lesson.
Exactly...
@@jessejjyami8909 You’re right. It’s not strong enough. I’d throw her out of my house to protect the CHILD that the almost adult attacked.
Everyone is all boo hoo for that girl who loses out on her trip. What does she learn from it? What about the boy? What will he learn? That his months of work is never safe in his own home? That his precious big sis can treat him however she likes? Sorry. Zero sympathy for her. She is monstrous.
Just because your kid really wants to do something, or really wants something, doesn't mean you have to provide it. If daughter really wants to go to Japan, she'll find a way on her own.
As far as "mild nut allergies" go, usually they get worse with more exposure, she will probably have a massive allergic reaction one day and if she doesn't have an epi pen she's probably going to die, especially if her throat closes up. Stealing food and being allergic is the height of stupidity. Go ahead and tell your parents to plan her funeral because that's where not teaching her impulse control is going to get her.
My response would just be to leave notes saying, "OPs food. Don't eat." No further explanation/description.
19 year old sister can either ask for permission like an adult, or flip the coin and deal with the consequences if she guesses wrong.
@@patbracken yup. She's a grown up. About time for her parents to let her make her grown up decisions.
@@patbracken It obviously doesn't make a difference seeing as how OP has said that at college they have communal refrigerators and she steals from them.
Pay to shower? You grab him by the back of the shirt and say, "Kid, get up there and shower. Now. You won't be eating until you come to the table clean."
If my Kids won't shower, i would take his Phone till he shower and kill the WiFi.
@@paulinadeboer3604 Dude, that Wi-Fi is the thing that'll get the job done. The WHOLE HOUSE will gang up on Stinky Pants.
Totally, what planet are these parents on that they let a 13 year old manipulate them like that, he'd have no anything until he got in the shower. No food in extreme circumstances but before that I'd take everything else off him, wifi is the first video games would be second or sports activities or whatever he likes
@@RichardJordan-rt1jo No food is extreme? Really? If the kid is hungry, he goes upstairs, takes a five minute shower, and comes back down to eat. It's all his own choice. At 13, he ought to have enough sense to choose the shower
my son didnt shower regularly for a few years - i told him it was his problem - if he wanted friends, particularly female friends, he would have to get it - he got it
I guess the sister in the cake theft story got her "just dessert"
Watching this now in 2021 when tiktok is still going strong and hearing Markee talk about tiktok not being important anymore is hilarious to me.
I was so confused lol, I had youtube automating in the car and that story came up and I was like, tiktok dead??? Maybe it's an Aussie thing?
Sister cake eater - NTA
Even if she labeled it, the sister would have ignored it as she had ignored every label before.
Damn that first story, I mean I like japan, but if I did that and my trip got cancelled, I would be fine, and also the fact that he completed a 10k piece puzzle on his own, is just straight impressive
As someone with an allergy the food stealing one pisces me off. You never eat anything that's not yours or not labeled. I've had the opposite problem where college roommates taking my specialty allergy free foods...
That apple story kills me! 😂 The boyfriend is that guy in everyone's math books..."John has 53 apples. If he eats 3 apples a day, how many weeks will it be until he needs to get more?". The sleep paralysis demon comment cracked me up! 😂
As someone in the same age range as the girl in the first story, your parents being kind enough to pay for a large trip like that is a privilege. She chose to be mean to her autistic brother to get some tiktok likes. She chose to be immature and rude. So she lost the privilege of her parents paying for an expensive trip. The fact that the mom/ex-wife said he had to pay for the trip is insane. The daughter begging for an expensive girls trip like its a given she should have it is very telling about how entitled the daughter really is.
3. Story: best brother award - her husband made out with another woman infront of her and he is not even helping her. Nice one. Wow, i would also not let him see his niece/nephew
Ikr if that was my sister I would let her in immediately
If I was the sister I would tell him so if you find your wife with another man like that you wouldnt mind wont you?
Truth in wine.
Husband was drunk.
First Story: The punishment fits the crime perfectly. She broke her sibling's pride and joy to film him and his heartbreak on social media. She's been completely unempathetic to her brother. For her birthday, she was going to be given a gift out of empathy and respect by her father. She is no longer getting that for her actions. Fixing a puzzle isn't solving the major issue that she wanted to exploit someone's suffering. Girl needs therapy too.
Yeah, if my sister was literally eating EVERYTHING of mine in the fridge that wasn't meant to be shared, and had that allergy, I'd be putting a couple drops of peanut oil or nut whatever on everything with notes saying, "contains nuts". There is really no excuse when a person were to know better. I generally wouldn't care if she was occasionally helping herself to a piece of cake or something, but to even OP's lunches for work is too much. This is completely nuts! XD
People are being way too idealistic about the second story. The fact is the 15 year old is distraught and deep down doesn't want her father loving and being in a relationship with this new woman. Period. Is the stepmom the a-hole for what she wrote? No! Was what the stepdaughter read in the diary hurtful - yes! Should it have been posted? Absolutely not! But the daughter still has her feelings and the father's goose is cooked until his daughter decides she might forgive him. There's no winning here.
I was looking for a comment like this. Everyone was acting like the daughter was a grown up and purposefully trying to find things to get rid of her stepmom. She is 15 she has a right to be upset. While she shouldn't have done those things. It still hurt. she is still a child.
She purposefully went snooping and after finding the diary, she read it. Then she took pictures. And afterwards, she posted them. And then, she refused to take them down. She is just angry because she expects everyone to love her and thinks people should be nice to her, no matter what. I feel she is a small Karen and might grow up to be one, especially since she shares traits with her mother, who is already a Karen. You know, a defamation of character lawsuit could be followed by an intellectual property theft lawsuit, which she still doesn't understand because she's selfish and stupid. (And because "daddy wouldn't do that to me")
@@des8089 except she went looking for the diary lol. Unless she "accidentally" found it in the closet which is more than likely her parent's closet
@@SashaMonsteraki If the ex-wife gets remarried to a guy who is a heartless and toxic AH, and she prioritizes him over 2nd OP's kids, what will happen, next?
I'm trying to put myself back in my own shoes as a 15 y/o ... yeah, my bro is 5 years older than me & would'a kicked me face-first into next Thursday at a much younger age for going into someone else's stuff, even if it wasn't his stuff. My parents would pat him on his back for it, too, then *they* would also have laid down the law. It's a crappy family attitude that is allowing this "child" to think she can behave this way. Being a loving family member means helping each other understand what is & isn't cool. Could be why I have a good job & a decent home & good friends now instead of a prison cellmate.
As a younger sibling who had an older sister who would purposely break all my toys the minute they came in the house, with no consequences for her actions, I say BRAVO!!!! NTA. Both of your children will remember this the rest of their lives. Your son will feel protected, and your daughter will realize that she must show respect or there will be severe consequences. I feel her punishment perfectly matches the crime. Let her miss Japan. I'd NEVER in a million years let my child go halfway around the world unsupervised. Keep going with your gut, dad.
Paying him to shower?! They have created a Monster! Talk about ridiculous. I would have never paid him the first time and his ex is making this absolutely worse. She needed to see this post. She's creating a monster.
i would have said to the son who didn't shower either you take a shower in the bathroom or we go to the backyard and use the hose to give you a shower. I would give him many chances to go take the shower and if he doesn't i would follow through with it
👆👏👏👏 If you want to act and smell like a dog, you can get a bath like a dog.
Nope, charge him a 'stink tax'; every day he goes without a shower, he owes you $10
Can't do those things these days it's considered abuse. You know what isn't considered abuse? Telling the whole damn internet his son has to be paid to take a shower that's the way I would be going
@@angelicakaufman7183 like gabriel iglesias?
@@nonamenoface3654 yeps
LMAO at the shower one. If that was my 13 YEAR OLD KID I'd tell him he has the option to either shower or I'll scrub him myself with the toilet brush, teeth included. Fuck that noise.
I SO understand the pregnant woman who doesn't like strangers walking up and touching her belly. What is it that makes people think if you are pregnant you're "community property"? Do you think I'm a crystal ball and can magically know your future??Although it's been a long time since I was pregnant I still remember how I hated that!! Some people just have no clue!! I didn't mind so much when kids did it as they are just curious kids, but I always tried to stop them and then just tell them they need to ASK before touching someone like that. Of course once they asked I always let them, because like I said they're just kids. The adults really peeved me off though. Especially women who were older as they should know better, and know how it feels to have a stranger just come up and touch you like that. GRRR was definitely a pet peeve to me!!! I even have some guy try and hit on me in a store bc he "thinks pregnant women are sexy" CREEP ALERT!!
Our house is lonely, so let’s adopt children so we can force our son to parent when we die?
This is why you don't base your entire identity on being a parent. If they had hobbies, they'd be enjoying life and each other's company instead of feeling lonely.
And why does everyone think the easier thing (death) will happen and dont think of plenty of other problems like mobility issues, Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, stroke and being bedridden, cases in which, the OP would need to take care of two disabled adults and two teenaged children without any of them being op's choice?
College funds... A parent willing to fully pay for college with conditions is just like full ride scholarships, to continue receiving the funds you have to comply with the rules... And if the kid didn't want those conditions he either pays for it himself or go for grants (which would have their own set of rules to follow)
What the daughter did by taking and posting the step mother's therapy dairy, I believe is illegal, and the step mother could maybe sue the step daughter.
nope, not illegal.
@@azadalamiqactually she can.
Yes, while she could sue, that would do nothing to help the family dynamic that is the current concern. In fact, it would make things worse.
The daughter in the first story is literally why I can't release my feelings even on paper because what if someone reads it and then judges me for those private bad thoughts
Have you considered burning after writing? It could be very cathartic to burn up the feelings dump.
@@axlengland I promise you, me having fire isn't safe 😂😂
Walking someone down the aisle had to be one of the least romantic things ever
It's dads' money, she doesn't deserve the trip. Stand by the punishment.
I agree but her mom isn't on OP's side so there's a good chance she might still go if her mom has anything to do with it
$15.00 to shower. 😂😂😂 But seriously this is a slippery slop. I would let him stink and lose friends.
I used to have my brother and his wife living with me. When we moved away to another city. I forgot my diary and they got hold of it. Instead of sending it to me they read it . At first they got so mad at all the venting I did in it about them. They called me and berated me for saying all that stuff about them. I shut that down by 1. Telling then that they read my personal diary that nobody would have ever seen but me. I told them I loved them but I am allowed to have thoughts and my feelings about certain things are still valid. And 2 nothing I said in my diary was untrue. They knew I was right on that one and that was the end of it. Never mentioned it again. They should have stayed out of it. That daughter in that story should never have went thru the step mom's personal belongings and should have never snooped in her personal diary. She is allowed to have feelings and thoughts.. She's not a child she's an older teen and should have known better. Then she posted it online for everyone to see. That was horrible. I think the step mom should take legal action to get it taken down.
My jaw dropped in the story about the custody battle when OP got his ex wife fired (and blacklisted likely) from her job just because she did p*rn as a young adult. Like dude, you set out to ruin her whole life just because she wanted 60-40 custody?! If that's his attitude and way of reacting to things he finds "unfair," it's no wonder she left him. YTA so much
that second story if my 13 year old son thought he was clever for figuring out extortion I would teach him about true blackmail. I would tell him I'm going to blast all over the Internet he has to be paid to take a shower if this continues
Miscounted that wasn't the second
'tiktok has just been pulled from everywhere...' buuuuuuuut if you have the app already you can still use it... I honestly am tired of this whole tiktok thing being blown out of proportion.
No new users can be added, though, and as people age, they will stop using it.
Vpns exist. It’s not hard to get it still. But yes... that goes with anything online though
2024... TikTok is still going strong. Guess he was really wrong on this one. 😄
She's worried her son will bond with someone other than his father. I am surprised more people didn't talk about that. That's more than just wanting her son to be safe, that's wanting her son to be socially and emotionally exclusive. She's crazy.
The lady with the 3yo son needs to go to therapy. Not even letting him into a car! I realise she had trouble falling pregnant, but she’s lost the plot.
Oof that story about the girl wanting to be in the school play tho. The mom really went online, explained how when both the daughter and husband both said “hey maybe it’s the parent’s job to, ya know, parent their kids” she essentially said “no it isn’t” and thought it was a possibility she was in the right. I am glad she came to, but man, how far up one’s posterior dost thine cranium need be for such an astounding lack of logic to come to be??
Most elementary schools now have free or inexpensive after-school programs [with choices of sports, homework help, videos or arts and crafts] for the children of working parents. The program leaders won't allow the spoiled younger kids to misbehave, so the simple solution would be good for the whole dysfunctional family. The older sister and her dad are completely in the right.
Dealing with 2 kids and a dog is a lot of work? On what planet? Ten minutes to put food in a dish and refill a water dish. She only works two days a week. The current kid only actively watches the kid one day a week? What a lazy woman! What is she so overwhelmed by?
The first story, he made the right call. I feel in addition to that, she should have helped her brother work on another puzzle to make up for the one she destroyed.
It more than likely wouldn't be the same and he probably won't let her near it again. I dunno though. Poor kid...
I wouldn’t have even kept the broken child. And two years of work vs one month is not equivalent in ANY way. Autism or not. They want normal people rights, they get treated like normal people. They always get lienecy, time for it to go the other way around
@@serpentinewolf7085 are you stupid? Yea you treat an autistic person like a normal person but that leniency you grant for an autistic person is justified on them not on a person without am incurable mental illness. It's clear you've never been around anyone with autism or more specifically talking to someone with it.
In addition the daughter was PLANNING not working in addition she wasn't even going to pay for the trip meanwhile the kid actually was doing a form of working, he spent a full month wracking his brain doing a 10,000 piece puzzle and before you say "Oh ThAtS nOtHiNg" it is, a 10,000 piece puzzle is massive as hell and back to the sister, 2 years of planning for a single day? What is she trying to arrange? Is she trying to have Ryan renolds show up or something? No? Then that means that despite the time she took its wasnt actually planning, it was waiting, waiting till she could go to Japan and to the hotel.
@@rimworld64
No. I’ve been around too fucking many. They’re awkward at best and at worse little rage machines that should be locked away.
We’re all born with the brain we got, that’s who we are. And who they are is unpredictable. No excuses for anyone. Mental illness or not. Humans are made to be intelligent and social creatures. If you can’t do one of those you’re up for the genetic chopping block.
@@serpentinewolf7085 tell me, if you were autistic would you like to be locked away for something you never wanted nor asked for but were given anyway? Because what you are saying right now is the worst and most disgusting response to my reply I could have ever imagined you'd say.
I cant even focus on the parents. I'm sitting here DYING over the 13 year old.. that lil dude.. he is the best villain ever.. it's like, I don't like him, and I judge him.. but I'm weirdly proud? Is that a thing? Am I normal?
The one about the mom not wanting anyone to look after THEIR child but her husband is totally in the wrong. She makes it sound as if the son is hers only and her husband is an attendant. He’s his child, too, so he has a say in who can care for him.
If the roles were reversed more people would be calling him out. I was the major care giver for our children but I was happy to let them go to their grandparents houses. And other places.
Apparently she doesn’t realize how much children learn from other people.
THIS! I am so sick of people who utilize daycare, after school programs, Mom's Day Outs, etc being villainized. Has anyone else noticed that other overly-sheltered kids go to school & have massive behavioural & social problems?? It's usually financially helpful to parents who can avoid more public childcare, but sheesh! It doesn't help the kid learn to adapt. I had a great experience at my daycare. I learned a lot, they helped my working single mother out SO MUCH, & remember it fondly to this very day (actual decades later). Although I think MDO programs need a name change. Dads need days out, too, & not all guardians are bio parents of their kids at all.
The dog ultimatum, I would divorce that cruel woman!
Just a note: don’t touch people without their permission. It sends me into a mild panic when someone touches my shoulder and I’m a 27 year old guy! I can’t imagine how bad it is for someone who’s dealing with pregnancy hormones. No one has the right to touch another person ,regardless of circumstances, without their permission, *PERIOD!*
Molly: tell me all you bring to the parenting table is a paycheck without telling me.
I feel that your boy friend has not gotten over Mandy. It feels that everyone and boyfriend are still holding on to Mandy. Have him see a therapist about Mandy. They are putting her on a pedestal and not being allowed to rest in piece. NTA. Have him go into counselling.
Ok, as a brazilian, i have never, not once, in my life, heard about brazil being known for plastic surgery, that's literally not a thing
Ikr in my head I was like “do mean south korea??”
@@ladyj.9350 Americans call a butt lift a "brazilian butt lift" but most people here don't do that surgery lol, I assume it's because Brazilians are said to have perky big butts.
I wonder if "lazy husband" has a sleep disorder. Many people with sleep disorders are too tired all the time especially if physical work is involved in top of being cranky assholes. He might be lazy, but the judgment of lazy should only happen after physical causes are ruled out
The office reporting story. NOPE! Op was Not in the wrong. It wasn't sexism. I can't stand how people jump to that So freaking easily! And I'm a woman! The woman sounds EXACTLY like one I work with. People can't stand her at work. One of the reasons is that she just Loves to report people to management Daily. Frankly, I'm pretty sure management is getting sick of it. Now we know why the woman went though 5 jobs in the last 3 years. She reports people for the most Petty things and what little joy you can have while still doing your job, she seems so adamant on killing it. That is what these people are feeling. Sometimes those little joyous things are what make your job much not seem bad at all. So having someone so determined on killing it SUCKS!
The too late adoption story: You are not the AH. I feel very sorry for these young kids. I suspect that your parents lied about their ages to the adoption agency in the other country. Anyway, before ever starting the process they should have discussed the idea with you. At that point you would have been able to tell them you weren't going to take in any kids once your parents were unable to take care of them. You would also have been able to point out that they are too old now to adopt kids, and you could have suggested that they get an adult shelter pet instead.
Honestly, all that's going through my mind is, "What were they thinking?!" Apparently they weren't thinking. Those poor kids!😞
2:10:51 that "good faith as her partner" evaporated when she divorced him and tried to steal his kids
I dont even have diary cuz the things i would writte in there would prolly be just about killin people tbh and other things that i dont wanna mention. That combined with how insensitive i am would prolly destroy my life.
Plus it can be used as evidence against you if someone dies.....even if you didn't do it.
@@TisOnlyAScratch Not usually. It's really hard to get a diary/journal into evidence, because they're considered hearsay. Any threats made in a diary couldn't be taken seriously as evidence because the nature and purpose of a diary is to vent frustrations in a safe place.
@@ResidentMilf Thanks! I was hoping that was the case but I prepare for the worse anyway.
Brazil story .NTA Her sons girlfriend clearly told Op that she doesn't want her child have interaction with her culture. The commenter who say it's not about the culture clearly was deaf lmao
I listened to this while making breakfast yesterday, how is this only 30 minutes old? I think you're the only channel that reads the comments too
😂😂😂 omg the shower story! One of our kids didn’t like to shower often. We finally explained he could listen to our suggestion or a cute girl will say something at school. And she may not be nice about it.
OMG! My hubby does not drink or use drugs or chase other women! But HE EATS APPLES! Oh, the shame!
39:45 I know an older couple who adopted late in life (not quite as late as that story, but they were both in their 50's).
The biggest difference though is that they set everything up ahead of time so of something happened, the child would be taken in by their close family. This was decided BEFORE the kid was even born. (they are pro-life and offered to adopt the baby so that a young woman would not have to get an abortion.)
In their opinion (and mine), it would be crazy not to have critical details setup ahead of time.
About the dancing husband story: IDK if that’s because on my country people are very sexual and dancing like that is very common, but I wouldn’t consider that cheating. However, if a sister of mine wanted to crash on my house because of this, I would totally support her, and if asked, give my opinion, because ultimately, that’s her marriage, her thoughts, her feelings, and her choice to make
About the diary story: maybe op could gift wife a tool so she could easily have her notes difitalised and stored somewhere save? Like rocketbook: then she could still write as she is used to, and at home easily categorie her memories and then delete all the notes from the hardware 'notebook' (rocketbook is a paper book and combined with the right pens, you can remove all notes by microwaving the notebook with some water.) this might give op a sense of security since the notes aren't packed at home and possibly read by intruders, and gives the wife the option to remember things ánd even makes it easier to search for a memory lateron.
30:07 - This went through my mind as I was listening to this story. Her sister's behaviour has all the hallmarks of Prader-Willi Syndrome, but OP said that her sister wasn't developmentally delayed, so....
Actually, about 1 in 5-ish of the *very* few people who have this genetic disorder show no or very little signs of intellectual delay. It's a difference in behaviour & appearance that mark these individuals (short, overweight, & a few ... hmmm ... I'll call them idiosyncratic "habits").
Edit: I'm not suggesting this commenter is off in the suspicion of OP's sister having this disorder, just trying to clarify the condition!
That dog story, divorce. I wouldn’t be able to look my partner in the eye if they did that and lied to me for years about it. horrendous.
Damn markee, 3 hour vid😂😂
keep the grind up
I know I listen to the videos all day at work I love the 3 hour videos
The one about OP not allowing their daughter to attend their school play. OP is definitely an AH and it's illegal to leave you 8 yrd alone. Any child 12 and under is against the law the last time I checked.
OP should've gotten a babysitter the first time and every time after that.
I can’t believe some of those comments with the Apple story! The dude literally went nuts because she forgot his stupid apples! Of course he needs help. His behavior was not OK.
* eating three apples a day is not a big deal. It’s how he reacted and treated her over it. And I hope he’s the one paying for them himself.
1st) Wow, what a sociopath. I repeatedly tell my kids "No TikTok" and I am constantly shown how that is certainly the right call. That was actual criminal behavior by the way.
2nd) Never Never go snooping in a diary if you don't want to find dirt, and you certainly don't get to play the victim after snooping. Then taking private thoughts and posting them on-line, once again, actual criminal behavior. social media is a cancer. Counter sue the ex.
3rd) She can leave for any reason, but expecting the brother to put up with her moving in for what is certainly sounds like an over-reaction is another matter. So many here are reading more into it than was written. Is their more? maybe, but what I heard was dancing, normal dancing, not grinding, not cheating, not all sorts of other stuff. I might certainly wonder if it was going on, but I would want a whole lot more before making my child grow up in a broken home.
4th) make him sleep in filth, like in a hole in the back yard. let him get used to living like he is homeless if he wont be clean.
The second story: The Ex probably told her to do this.
Story 9 - YTA
OP is super controlling. I totes understand not wanting a random stranger to watch your son, but these were his PARENTS. She seriously doesn’t want her kid to bond with the grandparents or other family (that aren’t bad/toxic). This is helicopter parenting.
I feel the first story that dad was right she went to far
Even if tic toc was still a big thing that is horrible! She hurt her brother!
She harassed an autistic child for clout she was 17 what the fuck is wrong with u
@@versedxxx8805 what? Why are you angry at James?
I personally think the daughter needs to put down her darn phone, and help her brother put back together the puzzle!
This would be beneficial in several ways. The daughter will then spend more time with her brother to understand him better, and she will see how much work it takes to finish the puzzle.
After that, I would think that would be sufficient, "punishment" for the crime because it really would be a learning experience, and she could still go on her trip.
THANK YOU! It was 100% warranted. People who call him the ahole doesn't either have kids or wasn't punished when they were growing up. A cancelled trip is better than going to jail. Snowflakes everywhere
Some responses are saying that taking away the trip isn’t a punishment that relates to the crime, but makes sense to me. She maliciously destroyed something her brother cared deeply about, and now she gets to feel an equivalent degree of loss. It doesn’t matter that an average person wouldn’t put a puzzle and a trip on par with each other. What matters is the value that the individuals involved place on these things. For an autistic 9 year old, a project like that which they have worked for months on is likely equivalent to something like her long planned trip. Sometimes selfish and cruel people can only learn empathy through being given a direct and personal experience with the same pain they flippantly caused.
13yo missed trip to NY...
Parents are a-holes. Not for the choice to make the child go the wedding, but for agreeing to allow a 13yo go to NY for a school trip. Chaperones for these trips stink. They leave the kids to run around the hotels, while hanging out in the hotel bar. This is too dangerous to do in NY. That is the reason to have said no from the beginning.
"ShE ShoULd Do ReSEarCh aNd SoMeTHiNG NiCe aS PuNiShMeNt". No. She is 1 year away from adulthood, and if she is immature and cruel enough to deliberately upset a child for likes, let alone her autistic brother and deliberately attacking something he was proud of and knowing it would cause a meltdown just for likes, she is not only not deserving of a free international trip, she's 100% not mature or trustworthy enough for said unsupervised trip. Who bets that if she goes OP will followup with "UPDATE: My now 18 year old daughter was arrested with her frinds in Japan for poor conduct/destruction of property/ heritage site/escalating a situation while being ejected from site for disrespectful behavior for aTiktok challenge. Everyone insisted I not revoke the trip as it's too far/paid for it instead without my permission. AITA for telling them to figure out the mess they created?"
2:48:40 You literally can get addicted to ANYTHING. As long it's something that triggers a pleasure response in your brain. You can become dependent on anything.
Story 4 - ESH
He’s a 13 year old and he has the both of you wrapped around his finger. Seriously, parent up. Tell him, “shower or you won’t get anything.” Then stop. Stop letting him watch TV, play video games, use his phone until he has to leave, use your transportation to get to places he wants except doctors [he can walk].” Stop raising a choosing beggar.
Seriously.
Oof, the diary one just really gets under my skin. It just sounds too much like the daughter hated the stepmom and went looking for validation because the wife was trying to be nice...so she found her personally diary, read it, spread it, and posted it online? I get that she’s a hurt and emotional teenager but in the span of 1 day she just managed to ruin 5 lives (her own, her little brother’s, her bio mom once they pay and lose in court, her father, and most importantly, the stepmother herself. Not to mention anyone else mentioned in passing.)
If the daughter felt entitled to snoop with the intention of causing harm, then literally steal someone else’s property for her own entertainment, and posted obviously private obviously hurtful and traumatic information online, then NO, I’m not shocked the Stepmother needed counseling trying to become a part of this family and sometimes didn’t like them. 🤬
And now not only is the teenage daughter NOT getting punished, she’s getting praised because everyone else is so busy vilifying the StepMom for being human they aren’t even considering how incredibly fucked up what the daughter did is. I can 100% guarantee that if anyone read that teens diary and posted it online she would have a fit.
The Mom taking them to court? Congratulations wasting money - you will get laughed out of the courtroom if OP gets a good lawyer.
All kids are going to snoop around
@@bakugoukatsuki153 No, kids do not have the right to snoop. It's one thing to go into a drawer and find really embarrassing photographs of parents in 70s or 80s clothes and pulling them up and showing everyone. Quite another to find somebody's diary and read it. If this isn't considered okay for a parent to do, then it isn't right for a teen-ager who is at that age to know better to do. The fact that you explain this behaviour with 'all kids are going to snoop' sounds like you are actually part of the problem. End of discussion.
Honestly kids are kids they don't give a crap about privaticy
I'm just saying deal with the consequences when a child find information on you it's your fault for not hiding it better and anything is that it's the same thing as if you don't have anything nice to say than don't mention it on pen and paper or with words then bury the hatchet
Honestly the daughter seems like her mother told her to do that and was poisioning the children aginst op and his wife
On the "hypothetical" child bit I get it. If you have ever lost a baby, had a miscarriage or lost a baby in the first couple months you'd understand. You don't trust it till you can count 10 fingers and toes...even then for a while you freak every time they sleep.
In the college story I feel like nobody is pointing out what to me is blatantly the obvious issue. The issue is that dude went to a state school with plenty of opportunities and decided to get a degree in creative writing. And then can't figure out why he's not being offered a six-figure lucrative job when he gets out of school? If he had pursued any kind of more financially viable career $50,000 wouldn't seem like such a debt. No matter how young he was at the time anybody with a brain that can make it into a state school can figure out creative writing is a pretty niche place to be able to make big money
Story 1: She knew exactly what she was doing. This was beyond cruel, and she knows better. Cancelling her trip is the least OP should do. His ex is a piece of work. 🤬
The only girl in the office story: I’m also the only girl in my workplace. However I work with my boss and he is the owner. He makes sexist and ageist comments on an almost daily basis as well as very crude comments . I’ve asked for it to stop but he just dismissed me, though his wife did get him to cool the crude language a little.
Kid/shower story: Hey OP, how about grounding/punishing him if he does not shower? How about being a parent and take control of this situation! Mom is going to do what she wants but if she wants to go broke by giving in then that is her business. You need to provide a disincentive to son’s action starting now. Everyone is TA!
I’m laughing so hard at ‘what a maroon’ 😂😂 think they meant moronic not a colour 😂
It’s off of Bugs Bunny, he would say what a maroon after he tricked somebody.
First story: As someone who has ADHD (which is on the autism spectrum).
NTA, big NTA. What she did is the Emotional Abuse. Losing her trip is the minimum punishment. I would also ban her from being in the same room as her brother. He deserves protection and to feel safe.
Also, she needs help. Make her see a therapist, she is literally abusing her brother for likes on TicToc.
He should have recorded her reaction to her trip being cancelled and posted THAT on TikTok...
Exactly what I was thinking. Keeps the punishment AND makes it a "learning experience."
Yeah, so she knows how does it feels to be made fun at for your feelings
LOL! perfect!
Windmill factory: Husband says he's too tired to do anything at home after working all day at a strenuous job. OK, suppose that's true on work days. That's three days a week. So what's the explanation for the other four days?
Wait, the narrator is going with ESH for the first story? The only one who sucks is the daughter and the ex-wife. She made the conscience decision to destroy her brother’s puzzle that he worked hard on and recorded his reaction. Screw tiktok trends, most of that shit stinks anyway.
It’s funny to hear Markee call someone weak
1st story why would he be tah. This girl is way too old to act like that and regardless of if the child is artistic or not. Destroying anything someone worked on is just cruel
25:20 My grandma once threatened to throw a bucket of water at my sister or me if we didn't wake up in time for school.
Luckily, that only happened once xDD
So the apple story: apples actually give you a boost of energy so he might be using it like coffee every morning. (I actually heard that apples give about as much energy as coffee, but that might be untrue) Also, apples seem much healthier though they do have a fair amount of natural sugars.
@Boa-Noah That's what I thought too
My solution to my sister refusing to shower at that age (because it’s an awkward transition for most people going from being a kid who likes like a kid to being a kid who is starting to look like an adult) was to either go shower willingly or I would put her in the shower clothes and all. I explained that it’s not because I want to make her insecure or be cruel but because hygiene is incredibly important and explained different issues that go along with it. Thankfully, she understood and has been good about it since then. My parents weren’t good about talking to me about it and just shamed or left me alone.
Story 2 is the reason I don’t keep a diary. My first therapist wanted me to keep a diary, but I didn’t trust her. So I didn’t do it. Other therapists never even brought up the idea of using a diary.
I used to write stuff down then burn it - that way I got it out but left no incriminating information.
I just had to comment on the first story. That girl doesn't deserve the trip and I applaud the parent for not allowing it. Tik Tok pranks are cruel and should be stopped. That video could humiliate her brother for the rest of his life and she didn't give a flying damn. Not only should she not get that trip the parents should confiscate her phone and give her a preprogrammed flip phone until she can afford to buy herself a new one with earned money.
How would your daughter feel if your wife found and read HER diary, and posted it on social media? Sounds like maybe daughter was looking for a good excuse to hate stepmom. Keep having your wife’s back and present a united front to daughter and ex! Edit for spellcheck
Yeah, His kids, justly, think he betrayed them for the step-mom, he may as well run with it at this point. Those relationships are a complete write off at this point.
You do realize this girl is 15 right. Stop treating her like an adult. Yes what she did may have been wrong but she is young and will make mistakes. She probably didn't intentionally go looking for it. While she shouldn't have looked after finding it. Teens are curious and she has every right to be hurt.
@@Scientision he shouldn't just give up on his relationship with his kids.
Never write anything down that you don't want to defend in court.