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If You Never Join Trends... This Explains Why
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- Published on Apr 18, 2026
- Why do some people genuinely not care about trends?
In this video, we break down the psychology of people who don’t follow trends, don’t chase viral culture, and remain unaffected by social pressure. Using psychological research and behavioral analysis, you’ll discover the mental traits, personality types, and cognitive patterns behind people who resist trends, hype, and social conformity.
From independent thinking and low need for social approval to high self-identity clarity, this video explains why trend-resistant individuals think differently-and why they often appear confident, detached, or emotionally unaffected by what everyone else is doing.
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We also explore:
• The psychology of non-conformists
• Why some people ignore fashion, social media, and viral trends
• Personality traits of people who don’t seek validation
• The role of self-concept, dopamine, and social influence
• Whether not caring about trends is a strength or a defense mechanism
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from trends, social media hype, or popular culture, this video may explain why your brain works differently.
Why This Video Matters
In a world driven by algorithms, viral content, and social validation, understanding the psychology of trend resistance reveals how identity, confidence, and autonomy shape human behavior.
references:
Jonathan Touboul, mathematical neuroscientist at Brandeis University (later at Collège de France in Paris)
Paper title: "The Hipster Effect: When Anticonformists All Look the Same"
Gangestad, S.W. and Snyder, M., 2000. Self-monitoring: Appraisal and reappraisal. Psychological bulletin, 126(4), p.530.
Disclaimer: This channel is created for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to replace professional psychological, medical, or therapeutic advice.
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I believe hoarders are often having separation and replacement issues
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Never joined TikTok and still happy about it.
The only social media I have is RUclips lol.
I used to have facebook back in the day like 15 years ago but I deleted it because it was how stupid it was with people wanting to be friends, even people you used to know. It was just sharing your life to strangers or trying to 1 up others with friend counts like I give a crap about that.
Hell, I had people ask if I wanted to hang out, I say sure and then get ghosted lol. Why did they ask me in the first place then? I sure did not ask them first.
Same thing here, I don't join TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, don't need to.
Same I dont even have ig I have a homie who has ig in its not something im interested in i barely take pictures of myself in general even if I get a makeover or a fresh cut
That’s me!
Same 🙋♂️
It's called "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*cK".
hahah
DILLIGAF (care of KBW)
Exactly!
This is me. I never gave a crap what the trends were. I dressed and acted as I please. Same with the people I hung out with
You know I was gonna buy that book and read it but after watching this I realize I already didn't really give a fuck, I just felt bad that I didn't like what others so deeply care about and idk kinda felt bad. Truth is, I just really don't care. I don't like things for others. I like them for MYSELF
This is exactly me. I don’t avoid trends to feel “special”-I avoid them because I hate making choices based on pressure instead of values.
Where do people get their values?…. The answer explains everything
basically you are not a sheep. People that follow dumb trends do it because they need a feel to belong. you feel comfrtable being alone
When one marches to the beat of their own drum, people label them as 'weird/strange'.
And We TAKE PRIDE in not following the Crowd!!!!!;);)🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑
Absolutely! When someone chooses to express themselves authentically, it often challenges societal norms, leading others to label them as "weird" or "strange." This reaction usually stems from discomfort with what’s different or unfamiliar.
However, being "weird" can actually be a badge of honor! Those who embrace their uniqueness often bring fresh perspectives and creativity to the table. Over time, what was once seen as odd can pave the way for new trends and ideas.
It’s a reminder that true innovation often comes from those who dare to stand apart from the crowd. 🌈✨
Have you encountered situations where being "weird" turned out to be a positive thing?
@ThePsychologyCorner00 In the beginning when I was labeled that (as a child by my schoolmates), I was hurt. By the time I got into fourth grade, I began to embrace it, and I didn't mind being called 'weird'. I would smile and say, "That's my middle name."😊
Since then, I still wear it as a badge of honor.
It has helped me get promoted in jobs, I've often used ideas no one has thought of and it seemed to work at my jobs, home, & w/friends.
You're so spot on that many others who color inside the lines (that's how I see it), freak out when one has gone all over the place. The way I see it, they have to make their own peace... I'll keep on marching to my own beat.❤
@sgt_slobber.7628 I hate the sheep analogy because sheep are adorable, and I would follow them anywhere.
@mandaout2427and they would follow the leader right off of the cliff too!!!!!:/🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑
I don't really care about trends. Only things that I enjoy.
I don't follow trends because I don't care. Never have, never will. That's all the psychological study anyone would need from me.
Legitimate question for you: Do you get annoyed and "trend" culture in general and how many people chose to like in "flock" mentality? I personally understand I am a man of principle and I just get upset that most people (generally younger people) flock to these trends. These are the same people who would have outcasted/looked sideways at someone who liked to wear extremely baggy sweatpants and newbalance running shoes (dad shoes) 2 years ago, but then immediately adopt them as soon as it is determined by the majority of society that they are "in style".
They don’t follow trends-they follow their own thinking, and that’s their real power 🧠✨
But what if following my own thinking is the new trend ... oww... my head hurts just thinking about it.
Exactly! When people rely on their own thoughts and beliefs rather than just following trends, they tap into a unique source of strength. This authenticity allows them to make choices that resonate with who they truly are, rather than what’s popular.
That kind of independent thinking can inspire others and create a ripple effect of genuine self-expression. It’s all about embracing individuality and celebrating what makes each person unique! 🌟💪
Do you have any examples of individuals or movements that embody this kind of independent thinking?
@AxMn-4D Not a problem. They simply carry on doing what they were doing, and when the fad ends, they just keep doing what they were doing
@WhiskerWonders8963 Ugh no.
It is just a way of thinking, not some sort of big "strength" that others should emulate.
Ah but if you resist thinking all together you will not follow said trend nor will you occasionally fall into a trend.
I had a pithy closing thought for this but forgot what it was.
The 'Hipster Paradox' proves that when too many people try to be different in the exact same way, they mathematically end up becoming identical. True independence isn't about rejecting what's popular, but being able to like something regardless of whether it's trending or not 📈🐑
A hipster sued a publisher because they published his photo without permission. Hilariously it was found the pictures weren’t even of him, but of a different, but identical, hipster.
not trending is actually trending now
I have seen that happen so many times in my life; I never knew there was a name for it.
Absolutely! The "Hipster Paradox" highlights an interesting aspect of individuality: when everyone tries to stand out in the same way, they inadvertently conform. True independence comes from authentic self-expression, where your preferences aren't dictated by trends. It’s about enjoying what you like, regardless of popular opinion. 🌟
What are your thoughts on finding true individuality in today’s world?
@Diver-q5xI remember that! 😂
Most people don’t follow trends consciously.
They follow what feels socially safe.
That’s a great observation! Many people gravitate toward trends not necessarily because they like them, but because it feels safer to conform to what others are doing. This desire for social acceptance can lead to a herd mentality, where individuals prioritize fitting in over expressing their true selves.
Choosing what feels socially safe often prevents people from exploring their authentic interests, which can stifle creativity and individuality. It’s important to encourage others to embrace their unique preferences, even if they seem different from the mainstream.
Finding a balance between social connection and personal authenticity is key! 🌈✨
Have you ever felt the pressure to conform, or have you found ways to stay true to yourself despite it?
I've never felt truly safe in a society. I feel there is so much guise--everyone pretending to be okay, or forced outrage when it's group accepted. Being clumped up together wearing the same thing makes you easier targets for all getting wiped out together.
Also our latent tribal tendencies have lead in the past (extremely recent past, and even the present) into exclusive behavior towards anyone different--to racial violence, socioeconomic violence, re-education camps and the like.
I think trends *can be* fun and perfectly healthy, but it is important to maintain a healthy skepticism of everything--especially things actively trying to persuade or push you into anything.
Because they don't think by themselves... so they just follow trends
The best part is, when some people get literally offended by not participating in their way of living.And so they get personal...
I KNOW. I know what you mean
Yeah. I've been called un-australian for not giving a schitt about any sports and disliking beer.
@JustinPatterson-s4r sports who gives a fuck about. But BEER! You should be imprisoned for eternity! Ima British we drink like fishes.
I enjoy being irreverent, flippant, and dismissive towards people like that. It makes them so much angrier, which is amusing to me.
@JustinPatterson-s4r well yeah. My story is being called a goodie goodie now. Because I say Hollywood is nothing but f I l t h. And sports are rigged. Freemasons started all organized sports. I do not consent
Also. Its all a ego feast.
I don’t like it.
Thank you for comment ❤
The distinction between a 'Contrarian' and an 'Authentic Non-participant' is brilliant. If you hate something just because it's popular, you're still letting the trend control you. True freedom is indifference, not opposition
I honestly dont care about trends lol, and usually hear about them after they are no longer trending lol
True wealth is not having more possessions, but having fewer wants.
-Epictetus
This hits… some people just value authenticity over fitting in
2:50 I'm Authentic Non-Participant. Thanks for sharing this term. People don't understand this and think we are rebel to whatever goes popular. If something align my interest, i will do it.
This makes so much sense.
Not following trends can be a form of identity protection-keeping the 'self' separate from the 'crowd.'
Trends are for puppets
Never followed trends or popular things. I forged my own path.
That’s me!
When I was growing up, there were trends like piercing your tongue, shaving your hair underneath your hair, wearing certain clothes, or getting tattoos, and I never had any desire. I just follow my own intuition. I just do whatever I feel like doing. I've been wearing flare jeans since I was 15 whether they're in trend or not cause I like flare jeans.
I don't understand those who follow trends and brands. Why don't they follow functionality instead.
I dont understand those that don't believe in meritocracy. The best person in the best place. All the time. Everywhere. It's so common sensical and yet people fight against it constantly.
@Matthew10950 I agree with you on this. This is why I say the entire social and educational system are doing wrong. Each person has their own strength and weakness. And grouping them together in the same room and think they gonna act and perform the same way is just ridiculous.
@arrchan1023I'm basically just giving up. Going to look after me and mine and let the world do whatever it wants to do.
@Matthew10950 well, with this system, it's best to just live our lives on our own way without worrying how the society view us. That's how I live my life. I do what is best for me and my best interests, not what people think is good for me. It's easier for us to live when we don't have to carry the weight of society. I hope you feel the same.
@arrchan1023I think thats the smart play, and i try, but i work out in the public and I am surrounded by my fellow countrymen all day, everyday. It has taken a brutal toll on my optimism and respect for my country. I try to stay detached just to remain sane.
The "trendy" people often have shallow personalities. I don't like being around them.
They also rarely shut up and then ask you why you are not talking or if you are listening 2 seconds after they actually stop talking like I can't think about what I want to say in response to their short story of random crap lol
Ah yes, the "if you are not with us you are against us and also wrong and also it's now my personal mission to convert you, also F you in particular if you resist". I hate those kinds of people.
Tell me you didn't watch the full video without saying it.
They're toxic
Clearly, none of you watched the full video 🙄
I just really don't care about most trends.. some are fun but only when I'm already interested in the topic
My husband’s motto for me is “I don’t care.” This video is spot on.
Being able to think for yourself in today’s world where everyone is easily influenced and looking for validation by following the recent trend is a superpower.
It is why I don't really do social media like facebook. I don't know what to do on it, anything I put up on it feels trite and like I am looking for validation when I really don't care about what other people think about it lol
Always feel like I'm too old to follow these trends that will eventually be forgotten in about a year later anyways.
When there is a new trend every day it get exhausting really fast
I used to be a contrarian in my teenage years, looking at my peers following and doing stupid trends for social clout with disdain and harsh judgement. I even self-identified as a hipster for a while, up until I became aware of the hipster paradox and realized that I wasn't unique in my beliefs and mindset. I also realized how miserable and isolated I felt, too. It took many years of self-reflection, growth and maturing to become an authentic nonparticipant instead.
Now I choose to follow the things that genuinely intrigue or interest me instead. I don't feel threatened or obligated to follow every little trend, but instead I choose to focus on the things that matter to me and associate with the folks I meet along the way who share a common interest as such. I've been so much happier, feel less alone and isolated, and I'm even amongst like-minded folks who accept the real me as I am.
"He who follows the herd only sees assholes." Even our local TV news has a what's trending segment which usually contains actual news they will only cover on their app or stuff that I don’t care about. And that is the key. Are you following a trend because you like it or just so you can prove your worth to others? Very few people do or enjoy pursuits in isolation. They become trends only when they become visible on social media or "news" media.
That's a powerful quote! It really captures the essence of how following the herd can lead to superficiality. When people chase trends primarily for validation or acceptance, they often lose sight of what truly resonates with them.
Your point about local news is spot on-many "trending" segments focus on sensationalism or viral content rather than meaningful stories. This reflects a broader societal tendency to prioritize visibility over substance.
Ultimately, pursuing interests for personal fulfillment rather than external approval leads to more genuine satisfaction. It’s about finding joy in what you love, regardless of whether it’s trending or not. 🌟
Have you found any interests or hobbies that you enjoy outside of the mainstream trends?
When I was in high school my friend’s dad said to me, “Yeah, you are unique, just like everyone else.” That has stuck with me.
the distinction between contrarians and authentic non-participants is so important. one is still reacting to the crowd, just in reverse. the other has genuinely tuned out the noise. completely different psychology even though they look the same from outside
Some people just live life on their own terms and it’s fascinating to see the psychology behind it 👀 Low need for approval + high self-clarity = trend-proof confidence. Makes you wonder how much of our own choices are truly ours vs what’s just hype!
I am not easily swayed by others, I think with my own head and don't follow the masses
This is sooooo me! This also explains why my relatives & in-laws hate me.
Those who refuse to follow trends have the potential to become leaders; those who follow trends are simply followers.
This video perfectly explains why I show up late to everything… including trends 🤣
I'm so far behind the curve, I don't even know when trends are happening.
I do what I want, that’s my ultimate rule
When I was a kid I was prone to following trends so as to be part of the crowd, but the older I got, the more independent I became - not following a trend isn't an act of rebellion, defiance or control, instead, it's simply a matter of taste now and not caring how many or few people share my tastes.
There are more things that we humans have in common than not. But we all are different. That is one of the most beautiful things about life.
Just be yourself and respect others.
What is respect though? Is it wrong of me to want to tell people about semantic relativity when they are wanting to kill each other? When people are looking at differences, they are forgetting that we're all, like you said, more or less the same. Semantic relativity is very powerful though, and it will blur and make adjectives seem fleeting.
Sometimes trends really do change lives.
The key difference is choosing them consciously.
Yeah, like the Tide Pod Challenge... that changed some lives... into un-lives.
Just do what you want. If you like something, and it doesn’t harm anyone, go for it. If you don’t feel like doing something, don’t.
Group thought has always freaked me out, but especially post social media becoming a thing. Observing in real time how 90% of people don't think rationally, and just kind of follow whatever the hardest-hitting, confident-sounding opinion is is the* most upsetting thing about people.
I've literally gotten the response "Not this objective reality argument again!" Which is the most insane thing anyone's ever tried to counter argue.
All true, because it’s easier to be told and follow the herd than to think for yourself!
I remember when MySpace first came out and I was like "Yeah no, I'm good thanks"
A bunch of malarkey. People that don't participate in trends are not sheep. They're not interested in being part of the crowd. They think doing something just because everyone else is doing it is a stupid reason. Or think there's a better way.
Yep, and when you call something out that is trendy or popular, you are labelled and treated like a moron that is sub-human
Genuinely found this fascinating.
I've never been overly interested in "trends" if it makes people happy then that's cool.
Half the time I honestly don't think I even notice them.
True here.... I'll only look into things I may have missed years or even decades after
I think I don't care about trends because I am never aware of them in the first place. I can observe how other people dress or something, and how it changes, but there's too many trends to keep track of and I can't be spending my time and energy on keeping up or avoiding anything. For example, some people think I avoid videogames. However, I have tried almost every genre of them (or all the genres I know of I mean) and I know I'm not interested in first person shooter, fighting, or roleplaying games, which I think are some of the most popular. I do like escape room style games, and city building games, but I do take a while generally to get them after they release because I have to make sure that I will like it before I get it (by watching people play them normally). It's not that I'm avoiding it, I'm just slow to get it to make sure I want to spend my money on it. It's basically the same for other trends, or sometimes I also decide that there's no way I'll be caught doing something that's dangerous or stupid.
I remember when ''planking'' was in.....i just thought to myself ''what a bunch of morons'' lol
There's a reoccurring theme amongst most new things (trends). They are expensive.
I have always resisted trends and always thought people who found it necessary to hop on tends very weird, but i don't think resisting trend is done to be unique, like someone else mentioned here people who wants to be unique end up being the same as those other people in pursuit of trying to be unique
This explains why I struggle as a content creator. I'm always bucking the trends - because, I literally don't care.
For me something being popular is never enough.
It’s like a single data point.
If something is popular then I take note but it doesn’t convince me one way or another.
However if friends who I know like
similar things to what I do recommend it then I will give that 100x more credit than if there were billions of people recommending it.
But even if a ton of people like it, and my friends do too, if I don’t like it I have no issue saying “nah, it’s not for me”.
I like the way the video puts it, it’s internal. It’s about my choice, everyone else’s opinion is external.
Does this cause problems when everyone just wants me to join in? Yes, and sometimes I’ll join in for a bit but I can’t force myself and sometimes that’s hard.
But at the end of the day choosing what I want is what makes me happy so that’s what I’ll do.
As someone who whole heartily dont give a single fuck about trends, thank you.
Considering I don't have any sort of social media presence, I don't even know what the trends are. I had Facebook in like 2010 but I deleted that because why do I care what anybody is up to?
I deleted my Facebook account in 2017. I've never looked back, and I have never missed it.
@oldjoe2776I feel you. I've been off Facebook almost a year and I don't miss ANY of it
That’s a refreshing perspective! Opting out of social media can be liberating, allowing you to focus on what truly matters to you without the noise of trends and constant updates. It gives you the freedom to engage with the world on your own terms, rather than feeling pressured to keep up with what everyone else is doing.
By not being tied to social media, you might discover interests and hobbies that genuinely resonate with you, rather than those that are simply popular. Plus, real-life interactions can often be more meaningful than scrolling through feeds. 🌱
What do you enjoy doing in your free time instead?
@T@WhiskerWonders8963 bot.
Exactly!
Authentic trend resistor gang
you're still controlled by trends then
@UglyAnyaForger No, we join or stay away from things that we like or dislike, regardless of the trends
@iceboxchamberlain1 do you like anything that's popular?
@UglyAnyaForgerif it makes sense for me yes, thats not being controlled by trends
@iceboxchamberlain1fine you pass for now but im keeping my eye on you 👀
The irony of thinking about myself as not joining trends and then clicking this is not lost on me. I'll continue on to watch, however.
Thanks for including Crocs. The toilet footwear.
Right I’m definitely an authentic & now thinking my husband is also ~ he just got a pair because they are comfortable & keeps trying to convince me but I just can’t.& joke with him about how cool he is ;)
This is so me, never understood trends and why so many rode a wave that I was left asking why. Thank you.
Trends are stupid. 😂. Seriously tho. ❤
Came back to say this -
EGOs are driving these ppl
Does anyone remember the Ice Bucket Challenge? Or how everyone was hyped for Pokémon Go?
I vaguely remember those things going on.
Let's say I heard about both. Both seemed boring, so I didn't look deeper.
@PotsdamSeniorSame. I find it most annoying from others when it comes to popular tv. I can not tell you how many times I have been told i NEED to watch breaking bad. Or the Sopranos. And then looked at askance when I tell them that...I dont care.
The ice bucket challenge was an insanely dumb idea, but Pokémon Go can be fun with friends. It’s boring to just try and sit down and play, and I’d never go wandering into peoples property just because of some digital critters.
I was into Pokemon Go, but not because it was a trend, I just liked Pokemon already. And it was nice how it brought so many people together for a short period of time
Definite authentic trend resister. I never really understood most trends, especially in modern times. I always found them to be just noise to me. And considering I prefer to remain in small, tight-knit communities that share the same/similar interests despite not having much of a social life I generally don't care about mainstream trends. I just prefer to follow the beat of my own drum not as an act of rebellion but because it's just how I am. And I'm glad to know that it doesn't mean I'm boring or strange. It just means my brain is wired differently and I get my good vibes from different sources than the masses.
Love your videos dude! Would love to hear a breakdown of people who genuinely don't feel the need to clean. Not lazy people, just people who honestly don't notice the mess and vice versa.
Thanks for the suggestion! Appreciate you watching
Great suggestion! I'm one of those too lol. At my time while also not being messy.. I dislike lazy peep btw 😬
I’m just comfortable and happy being me. I’m not against trends - I just don’t feel compelled to follow the crowd. If it’s beneficial then I might investigate further and weigh it up.
Great explanation, earned a Subscribe!
Thank you so much!
When the world says, "zig" I am going to "zag" each and every time. It's been my attitude ever since kindergarten, honestly.
i reject trends because 9 times out of 10 they are a passing waisted of money that hind site will see as cringe. if you are doing the opposite or that which very few people do, then it is not a trend, it is niche. and these people don't do it for social acceptance, they do it for themselves.
Do the opposite! Trends are tiresome! Who wants to be a clone! It’s why I don’t have a single tattoo.
Statistically more people in the world don't have tattoo's than have them... yeah, I'm that asshole. 😎
2nd option - do what you want. I ignore trends. Trends are ripples on the ocean. I am the ocean.
The part about authentic non-participants versus contrarians really made me stop and check myself. I’ve always thought I was “above” trends, but realizing that true freedom is liking or skipping things without needing to react to popularity hit hard. I also appreciated the reminder that opting out can quietly cost connection, which explains why I sometimes feel fine on my own but oddly disconnected in group conversations.
1:55 Excellent explanation. Calm, intelligent, and validating. This video shows that not joining trends can be a sign of clarity and strong identity, not social disconnection.
Most people, especially Americans, follow trends like lemmings.
Sheeple
Is this coming from an American?
A majority of people everywhere are like this. What have you got against Americans in particular. And by the way, I’m not American.
@chairmanrexton956 Well... we could start with the guy they elected to represent them... just food for thought.
Sadly Merican's don't have a monopoly on this, but yeah, they do tend to be among the most polarized and vocal so it appears they're the only country in the world sometimes.
I dont have a problem with people indulging in trends , i have a problem when people dont actually like something yet they do it cuz its a trend. Like if you actually enjoy something you wont drop it as soon as everyone else does. People should just be them selfs, the world would be a better place if they did
Never owned a pair of Jordans or Crocs. Never wear jeans. I can't stand hipsters & can't get with anything that's not utilitarian or useful.
You dont see jeans as utilitarian or useful?? Not skinny jeans or stretchy jeans or....what ever fad jeans may now be a thing, if that still exists. But just jeans??
Years ago my employer decided to have a "team building" day at some infantile activity centre (can you detect my view of such things). The instruction was to "wear an old pair of jeans". I was met with disbelief when I told them I didn't possess any jeans, old or new. I had a professional office-based job and my previous role had been in engineering management. I wore a suit and tie to work and my "casual" dress to the pub was blazer and slacks...
I have some jeans now because my business involves some shifting of inventory etc so the hard wearing material is practical but I buy the cheapest generic pairs I can find (which can be surprisingly difficult once you discount the "skinny", "extra-skinny", stretch etc etc) .
Jeans started life as work wear and that's where they should probably have stayed!
@MrPaulMorrisAgreed! If im going into the woods or into the basement, or working outside....jeans are the material i need. Nothing fancy, just denim.
jeans have pockets and they don't really sag when you put things in them so they are useful
I liked that last little "jab" about the comments. That made me smile.
I just dont care
I used to be that guy-always checking in, always reaching out, always keeping people close like it was my responsibility. Then I stopped, and funny thing is, they stopped too. That’s when you realize most people weren’t your friends, they were just comfortable with your effort. So yeah, I’m alone now, and there’s something beautiful about it-because solitude doesn’t betray you, doesn’t fake love, doesn’t use you, and doesn’t disappear when you stop performing. Being alone is peaceful, and once you get used to peace, you’ll never beg for people again
IDGAF.
I now understand why, from time to time, I find myself spending a few hours watching "first reaction" videos to songs I love and crying in relief and happiness - I'm an authentic nonparticipant that needs to "fuel" on comfortable shared experiences.
Or mainstream music is just absolutely terrible and has nothing to do with someone's inner temperament, and a lot more to do with collective marketing.
All the broken sign theories in the world wouldn't make some people with a specific sensory disposition capable of listening to an artist when they are incapable of listening to listening to 90% of modern music on the radio without it feeling like a sensory assault
It's not about trend resistance.
It's about preserving what's left of real music and honouring it, despite the inane musical noise debris pushed to the collective.
Do a video on why people like mainstream music and how repeatedly listening to the latest hits on the radio is going to have different neurobiology than those who are listening to jazz or classical, or listening to a multilayered symphonic orchestra.. because that psychology *will* be interesting.
You can find a lot of music independent of the mainstream on RUclips.
Music tends to actually be much better with more variety.
A ton of people more talented than what the mainstream shows for sure.
@Zerospace-0Yeah, indie music and video game music is much better compared to mainstream one, imo
00:38 That hit home! When people tells me I _have to_ do something, that strenghtens my conviction to do it. And when people tells me I have to _refrain from_ doing something... you get the gist.
I don’t care about trends, and am barely aware of them. I do what I want, as I want, and won’t be a sheep or a puppet.
I remember the first time someone called me a hipster. I had no idea there were others like me. It was actually kinda refreshing to know I wasn't alone in not liking the same things as everyone else
When I grew up I stopped caring what people I don’t care about thought. I think thats called normal.
I'm definitely the "do not care," selective person. I have the things I enjoy, some of them are very popular, some not so much. I have the things that don't interest me at all, so I ignore them. I see it as everyone has their preferences and variety is the spice of life.
When something is popular, I
mostly avoid it. In my head, what is popular is probably mediocre (example: Seinfeld). I also value being different or seperate from the masses.I definitely prefer to seek novelty and find my own way and things I like. But yeah, I have been lonely too.
Nah, that's stupid. You explore things your own way, regardless of their popularity. Be honest to yourself. There are popular things that are good but not because they are popular. Alternatively, there are hidden gems that don't get the attention it deserves. You are going to miss out on many things you would genuinely enjoy just because it's popular. If you truly want to enjoy, you shouldn't let popularity of lack thereof, get in your way. Judging something without experiencing it for yourself is not only foolish but dishonest.
The fact that you say you like to find your own way and things you like yet can't even be bothered to try popular things for yourself is a contradiction and further proves that you are being dishonest. Your actions are controlled by people and you are no explorer as your exploration is affected by popularity and you can't even see that. You are a fool. I'm glad I walk my own path, unaffected by people.
I never feel out of place when i don't watch a show that everybody else is watching, they will just tell me all about it anyway, so I'm not missing anything. I am one of those people who simply don't care about what others are doing unless it directly affects me.
I couldn't be bothered, honestly. And I've actually tried bothering... It's just not in me.
Yes, I like the reminder that authenticity isn’t about saying yes or no to trends. It’s about choosing from a place that isn’t shaped by pressure or resistance. Not automatic yes, not automatic no, just awareness. Great video, thanks
How many hipsters does it take to screw in a lightbulb?
Two
One, to screw in the lightbulb and the other one to stand there and talk about how much cooler it was when it was dark .
I knew it! This was a crocs commercial! 😅😊
This was uncomfortable in the best way. Made me question whether I actually don’t care about trends… or if I’ve just been reacting to them. Really thoughtful video.
I see gamer’s as lemmings as well. Everyone is doing it so I have to fit in!
Well, a lot of "gamers" do it because it's popular now but I have always played games just because I enjoy them. I didn't even know nor care whether it was popular or not and it wasn't nearly as popular as it is now. Like me, there are a lot of genuine gamers out there. There are a lot of genuine people who like things that are popular, it's sad we have these sheep trying to fit in without actually being interested in these things. When sheep see something not popular, they ridicule it, when they see something popular, they immediately hop in. Gaming is a good example of that, if you know its history.
Explore things, regardless of their popularity or lack thereof. Do what interests you, enjoy what you like. That is the only way to truly be yourself, unaffected by others. Accepting or rejecting something just because it's popular or not popular makes you a fool. True enjoyers do not care about popularity at all.
Once i got rid of the FOMO feeling as teenager my life changed for the better, i felt free
0:26 And this is where you lost me. The start of the video assumes the norm is to be a trend participator. I would argue that the actual norm in the world are the people you mention later in the video who are “authentic non-participants”
i can understand that, however if no one followed trends they wouldn't become mainstream, so in my opinion majority of people follow trends weather they mean to or not. It's herd mentality after all, requires less resistance than actively choosing not to
And I would argue the exact opposite. Most people I know are followers. Not leaders. They all jump on to whatever bandwagon is popular at the time. That goes for anything, too. Social media, apps, dances Etc. They will do whatever is popular at the moment. Not everybody I know, but most. I am the complete opposite. I couldn't care less what everybody else is doing.
I would argue that the psychology DOES support that most people would be "trend followers", because humans are social primates that evolved to survive via bonding and togetherness; both of which "trend following" would include.
Who cares
It is the norm, all you have to do is understand that he’s speaking on the top of the bell curve. Most people do the trends or are invested into them in some way. The other two end of the bell curve are the people he’s making a video on.
i do often feel like i'm missing out on stuff like films etc, then i realise, i don't care
thank you for stressing that people highly tuned to social signals aren't shallow.
they simply value community and belonging. It’s important to acknowledge that both wirings (internal and external) are valuable without superiority bias.
Every once in awhile the trend pleasantly surprised me
This video explains exactly why I’m always late to everything-even trends 🤣
I have my own life to lead and was raised to think for myself ... plenty to work on personally and see no benefit in distraction or outside 'noise' ...
It puts me on the opposite end than most but I’ve been pretty happy doing my own things rather than following the crowd,
Broooo. I feel like the majority of ur videos are directed right at me. I love it. I'm learning so much about myself because of it.
I'm a contrarian to a degree. I see myself as the equalizer. For the force, much like all things, requires balance. Every yin needs a yang.
There is wayyy too much positivity and acceptance in western society, that I am obliged to be the negative. And since there's only 1 of me, verses an entire Reddit of the opposing opinion, I am required to overcompensate. Not only because it's necessary, but also because it's so much fun.
I think it's important for people to at least try and see why they agree/disagree with things. I love a good hater! However, I do at least try to be authentic about my tastes. For instance, I was on the GOT train from the get-go, until around the last season when it got super shitty, just like everyone else.
I despise Apple. Not just because everyone else loves them, but because they do so blindly, and because Apple takes advantage of their customers every which way possible. What kind of diabolical company sells a computer monitor for 3k, then has you purchase the fkn stand for it separately.... and for an additional $1,000 no less??
The nerve!!
Absolutely evil.