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this!! supporting each other is great, but it DOESNT mean supporting someone no matter what. im a girls girl, that doesnt mean im gonna support a woman who cheats or is racist or something
@@melodieaka4066my friends joked about me being pick me because I’m feminine asf and my jokingly tone is like this cringe cutie girl who thinks she’s the main character. And im girls girl in a sense of belonging to girls in not so heterosexual way…..and they know it…..my friends are weird. I love them but damn- (me acting like im not the weirdest one in friends group)
those zodiac traits call for a level of accountability though "omg ya that's totally me" but "i'm just a girl" just brushes it aside somehow ? Not saying either are good !
I saw a subreddit that used the phrase “I’m just a girl” to excuse abusing and manipulating people, specifically men. Let’s not normalize abuse for either side, please… 😬
@@suzy3229 100%!!! Like, true badass-ery, in my opinion, is knowing your worth/boundaries and doing cool shit for fun because you like it, NOT being an abusive pos.
what frustrates me is those girls are explaining boy logic, not boy math. boy math is 4 inches being equal to 8 inches or rounding up your height to 6’ if you’re between 5’5” and 5’10”
Also, speaking of boy math - talk about failing the bechdel test. Same with the “she deserved the purse” trend on TikTok, why are guys so obsessed with us 😭 just let us do our own thing and come up w your own trends for once
as a guy I puff out my chest triceps and lats whenever I walk past a guy who intimidates me in the hopes that the "hes just as scared of you as you are of him" kicks in.
Girl math can be founding the discipline of computer programming (Ada Lovelace, Grace Hopper), connecting physics with math (Emmy Noether), or sending astronauts to the moon (Dorothy Vaughn, Katherine Johnson, Judith Love Cohen, and more). With so many women fighting for recognition in STEM fields, learning about the trend of girl math videos made me sad. I appreciate you talking about it.
@@Karambolage-j7r people's ideas of others are very easily swayed even by silly internet trends. putting down women when they're already viewed as inferior even for joke can be harmful
May seem empowering and cute, but can't help but feel like all of this is another way to stereotype women as helpless and feminine and also absolve us of blame for any wrongdoing.
You need to be very silly to think that. You are just saying you think this trend gives that instead of what it actually supposed to give. That's on who ever thinks that way and no one else.
@@violetvictoria7248 I mean it's not really that different from men "joking" about being sexist and commenting women 🍵or making kitchen jokes everywhere.
@@violetvictoria7248 Nope. Ironically, a lot of these "I'm just a girl" trends may be cute and funny at first, and I may have said that phrase a few times of course, but you can't deny that it does feed into the idea that women are fragile and helpless and conversely, can do no wrong.
It's more about using people's negative stereotypes to avoid accountability you shouldn't have to take in the first place. OK, I'm irresponsible with my money, how tf is that your problem? I'm allowed to be flawed as a woman and I'm tired of having to live up to your weird standards.
Kind of hate the fact that ozempic is associated mainly with eds instead of its actual use, which is for people with diabetes. Additionally, this raises the prices of ozempic and wegovy for people who actually need it.
Boy math is when you buy $100 worth of pokemon cards, pull a few cards worth a lot on trading websites, and believe you made back money despite never selling any of them.
Don’t talk about shit you don’t know anything about. I love my Pokémon cards and if you love them it’s worth the financial hit because it hits the soul and is needed like you never needed anything else it’s so fun and feels like home and like so great. Pokémon are so cool and you just don’t get it, female. Should I explain further for your female brain? I have a male brain so I’m equipped to explain on your level so you’ll get it and then I get back to my level which is much higher! Ps: I don’t mean to sound condescending. Do you know what u mean? Can u comprehend my language? Also I’ll like your comment to be nice. I hope you’ll feel better about not being as smart as me. I’m sure you’re nice too!
Apparently I had a while other veiw on this, I always thought girl math was buying something ridiculously expensive because you'll get a lot of use out of it not bragging about being financially irresponsible
ive been doing "girl math" in my head since like age 10 but ive never called it that. like i agree that spending cash feels better than spending money because you cant physically see the number go down. but i think that most people feel that way (and if not, i have adhd) and im also not a girl edit: i just realised i forgot to actually make my point. the girl math trend is stupid and it makes women look a bit stupid which is NOT a win. it all sounds a bit like Im just a girl🎀im just a stupid girl who cant do maths so its fine💖
Both can be problematic though, used to excuse bad behavior and cement gender stereotypes. It's fine when these sayings are being used to justify silly things, "I'm just a girl, getting that manipedi" or "hitting the racetrack, boys will be boys". But these sayings are also being used to excuse bad behaviors based on gender stereotypes. "The boys were caught peeping in the girls' toilets, lol boys will be boys" or "the girl did a hit and run, it's okay, she's just a girl"
an interesting thing i noticed is that i normally see people who would not consider themself a ‘boy’ perpetuate the “boys will be boys” mentality. whether it’s a woman or a man who previously acted in that manner, it’s never really boys who excuse their own behavior with that statement. on the other hand, i only see girls use the “i’m just a girl”phrase to excuse themselves. i think it says a lot about peoples expectations on girls vs boys. it definitely aligns with the idea that girls mature earlier-not because it’s natural, but because boys are not expected to. the emphasis that girls should be allowed to get away with the same things boys can is more harmful than good, in my opinion. it feels counterintuitive
I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt weird about it. like in a lot of posts, "girl dinner" was basically promoting eating disorders, "girl math" was we can't be trusted with money and "I'm just a girl" was like "I should get away with things because I'm dumb". Most times it wasn't even funny because there wasn't even a subversion of expectations, it was just "I a dumb wittle girl", it felt like doing ourselves a disservice by tying these jokes to gender.
Girl dinner is such a mess like it was never supposed to be like a ed trend. Like a real girl dinner vibe could be sad Mac n cheese and frozen broccoli
Am I the only one who finds it insanely annoying when these TikTok’s use the song “just a girl” by no doubt? That song is the exact opposite of everything this trend is implying it makes me so mad
I rewatched "Legally Blonde" yesterday and that movie portrays female friendship and solidarity SO well. I love these girls and how much they love and support each other!
Totally this, I have only used it to excuse my behaviour as a joke, deliberately to oppose the notion that 'boys will be boys'. Ok, then girls will be girls
There’s also an expectation on women - and from within - to constantly maintain and update their appearance (makeup, skincare, clothes, hair, bags, shoes) that crap is expensive af. Also birth control or sanitary products literally every month for 30-40 years. Even women who earn equal or more than men - even those who dislike fashion or work hard to make their (increasingly garbage quality) clothes last - still have a higher cost of living just to be ‘basic’.
My issue with some of these trends is that they gender everything. Like I think we should stop gendering so many things that truly don't have anything to do with gender. Its important not only for people who are don't abide by gender sterotypes but also for transgender and nonbinary people. How are we supposed to degender body parts or periods when we gender going on walks or eating hot air for dinner?
I never thought about this but it’s so right. Why not just call it like “Young Adult Math” considering it’s the kind of trivial finical irresponsibility that a lot of young adults make without realizing?
as a gender-apathetic person, this. i don't want my gender to be brought up when talking about my favorite show or musician, let alone my lifestyle choices. just enjoy things because they're cool and fun.
As a dude who grew up predominately around girls and women, hearing this commentary was really helpful in piecing together what I know logically into an emotional context. 10/10 vid
13:52 I hated the girl dinner trend from the start cuz I never saw the fun mismatched food pairings; I only ever saw ones that amounted to no more ever than a handful of grapes
Funnily you bring up women only owning property recently, but before then in most cultures wives managed the household finances while emotionlessly staring at their husbands blowing a week's savings on alcohol. Men earned the money but they didn't balance the books. Generalizing here, but still. Statistically men have higher personal debt, while women have higher student debt, so really men are less financially responsible.
I’m sorry but men objectively are more financially responsible and there are a lot of studies done on this. And I’m not drawing the conclusions myself here or trying to counter you just because, the stats really say that by like every metric. The average savings of men vs women is shocking. Men on average (today, not decades ago or anything) have much more money on average in their saving accounts throughout all ages, they have more investments on average, and more men contribute to their 401k. Surveys also show men’s attitudes surrounding money is different. Men reported having more knowledge about and being more involved in all things financial whereas a lot of women say they don’t know anything about it (savings, investments, financial strategies, etc). Sure, some men in the past may have blew their money on gambling or alcohol or whatever, but that was obviously not the norm (seems more of a movie stereotype), and women back then not even having the capability to do so can’t tell us anything either, but their money habits now do tell us a lot. Your example of men having more debt doesn’t really say much on the whole, neither does it say much about financially responsibility, maybe some of them took out a loan, or they’re failed business owners.
FYI, this is coming from New York Life’s Wealth Watch Survey, ASIC’s Gen Z research on money and cost of living, and a study on marketing vs gender (showing women more influenced to spend money after seeing all types of advertisements compared to men).
I think the Vikings had it down - women owned the property, could be warriors alongside the men IF they wanted, and could divorce their husbands just by putting their stuff outside the door and telling them to leave. (Interestingly, Viking men also kept a purse on them containing combs and cosmetics to keep them looking good for their women.)
@@Ryan-cb1eiwow. So, do you not see that this is due to societal pressures and accepted roles and expectations, it’s not tied to whether somebody has testicles or ovaries?
@@Wud-f2r Roles and pressures only explain so much, but you make it sound like an excuse. At the end of the day, isn’t everything just societal roles and pressure then? It’s just arguing in poor faith honestly and doesn’t do much. There’s nothing wrong with saying this group doesn’t do X well and should do better there. God knows if this were about men nobody would say what you said, like cmon dude…
Something about these girltok trends (except for the girlhood one) usually annoy me and I thought maybe it’s just internalized misogyny or I’m just being boring, but I feel better knowing there’s been a reason why and that I’m not the only one. As for the girlhood trend, in high school I sort of rejected femininity too, not to impress boys, but because I was jealous of other girls who were more feminine because they did their makeup perfectly and wore cute clothes. Since I was terrible at makeup and couldn’t rock my clothes, I just gave up on trying to be cute and feminine and considered myself better than them. Thankfully now I love feminine things more and I’m better at makeup and wearing clothes in my style. 💗💖
I love embracing playfulness and keeping that robust energy as a woman.... but that's a lot different than avoiding responsibility and infantilizing yourself like the girl trends promote
i’m a freshman in college and I got accepted to a women’s writing magazine! Thank you for giving me an idea for my first article! i’m so excited to write abt this and im def citing ur video love u emily🫶
Not a women, but I understand a lot of what is said about the trend. It's kind of opposite of previous feminism of proving women are capable to almost self-infantilizing yourself to fit into "just a girl" tropes. Sure it's fun but just don't take it too far to where you actually believe it's okay to think you're less capable because you're a girl
30:33 even as a boy this is so true. i dont know what i would do without my mum and sister and also my female friendships (my friendgroup is all girls) i value them so much.
This made me so emotional. Thanks so much Emily. I watched the Barbie movie with my older sister. Growing up I would avoid wearing pink and tried to do tomboy things. Which I think a lot of us can relate to. Going to see that movie with her was almost like looking at a reflection of my younger self and telling her everything is going to be okay.
A lot of recent feminism has been about embracing feminine stereotypes, then people decided to embrace the negative stereotypes around women. Like, the whole point was to show that femininity doesn’t make women inferior. Can we throw out the rest of that useless crap instead of keeping it alive by joking about it?
Here’s a hard question to ask yourself though, is it chicken or the egg? Maybe the stereotypes come from truths. Trust me, I wish they didn’t. Especially as a guy, it’s not fun when apparently only you can have agency and financially responsibility.
@@Jojo-yy2ck Well I’d also be questioning it if the men themselves were embracing those stereotypes and asking myself why. It’s an important distinction. And if you weren’t trying to be mean about it and were upset about it because it also affected you, then I’d understand even more.
@@Ryan-cb1ei i’m not trying to be mean nor i’m upset by it, my comment was based on how you don’t seem to understand the original comment, women have been trying to get rid of harmful stereotypes and people on social media making “jokes” about said stereotypes just lead other people into believing they are the truth, example: you.
Real boy math is playing a free gotcha game and spending an embarrassing amount of money on loot boxes because "hey I saved money i would have spent on getting the game so.."
If I had to guess, the whole wanting boys to fear you as a kid is related to not being attracted to them, or men in general, while living in a cishet world. I can remember doing things for the vindictive pleasure i would get from watching my male classmates be frightened off (shout-out to every other individual sent to anger management for this). When pressured into being cishet, children get spiteful.
EXCUSES. I'm far from straight and you are justifying being a bad/emotionally immature person. Not everything you do stems from your environment, sometimes it's just your personality. Many kids are being aggressive/have poor impulse control because their brains are still developing. That's quite literally it, no deeper philosophy behind that. And they also tend to really hate the opposite gender. It's completely fcking normal. Touch grass.
This made me think of this time in second grade when I went to this school dance and I begged one of my friends to let me borrow her mascara because I really wanted to try it but when I got home and my older sibling saw it (they're genderfluid now) I pretended that I didn't really want to do it and that my friend wanted me to do it even though I really liked it I just pretended not to because neither of us really we're in touch with femininity at all
What you said about girlhood at the end really resonated with me. It sounds silly, but I used to resent my 6-year-old self for picking the color light pink for my bedroom walls. I never had a 'I'm not like other girls' phase in the typical sense, but I never felt connected to the girls at school back then. (My social anxiety *really* didn't help with that lol.) But as I got older and eventually realized that I'm not straight, I started to figure out that I _do_ want to be like the girls I grew up with, but because I wasn't I started to internalize that feeling of 'I'm lesser than others', 'I'm not worthy of forming friendships with them or ever loving them' and so on. (Different problems came after that, a whole gender identity crisis and mental illnesses only made me feel more and more removed from the girl that I once was and made me not even want to grow up to see the woman I could become. There's more to that but that's a long story 😅😅😅😅) Luckily, I can now allow myself to like girly things without feeling like I'm not worth it. When I watched the Barbie movie last year, I put on something pink, even though I initially didn't want to. But the world didn't end and I had a good time and for the first time in forever, I wasn't mad at 6-year-old me for wanting and getting those light pink bedroom walls. I'm so glad that I got to grow up with a sister, who joined in on all the girly things with me as well. I also wouldn't want to live in a world without my sister, my mother, my aunt, my grandmother; all the women in my life added a piece to the person I am today and ugh I could cry right now 'cause I love and appreciate them so much. This is such a great video and I love how much each video of yours makes me reflect on different topics. A million flowers for this absolute banger of a video 💐💐💐💐
I had a similar experience but different outcome. I hated pink and girly things but it wasn't cuz they were girly, I just didn't like them, no matter how much I tried. I liked boy stuff and hanging out with boys cuz girls didn't like me (minus a few). By the time I was in high school, almost all my girl friends were either bi or lesbian and you really think that's where I would have fit in but no. I just had zero attraction to anyone. Once hormones died down, I had zero desire for men or women and honestly, if I hadn't met my husband, I would have been ace and happy with it. I've already told him I don't care if he turns into the Terminator and is just a face and a brain, id still love him cuz I feel in love with his mind, not his body. I feel like there was SO many signs I just looked over cuz I simply did not care to know. Could have saved myself a lot of grief from going into bad relationships I felt I had to for whatever dumb reason I told myself. Now I happily enjoy feminine stuff more than I did before but I still like my masculine side. Perfectly balanced lol
I’m non-binary so a lot of the feelings surrounding the trends of girlhood kind of went over my head (which is alright, I don’t have the find everything relatable obv) but with girl math and girl dinner it felt more to me like people coping with living under capitalism and dealing with mental health issues and making jokes to alleviate some of the stress, and the word “girl” just got stuck on the front of the trends somehow
Fr. Girl math and girl dinner just feel like ADHD struggles and coping mechanisms rebranding as a gendered girl thing. Girl math is just impulsive spending, and girl dinner is what I eat when I struggling to have a real meal and know I need to get something because "fed is best."
I'm a transmasc dude but that last part about girlhood got me so emotional. Me too, really, wouldn't even want to be on this earth without my female friends, familiars and aquitances.
funny thing about the girl-math "If I bought the tickets a long time ago going to the concert is basically free" or "if I have money preloaded to my starbucks-app ordering something is basically free" is that in economics you actually kind of think that way when looking at "sunk costs" which are costs which you don't take into consideration anymore when making a desicion today because you've already spent the money. (It's not exactly the same thing but kind of the same direction XD)
Girl math is the sunk cost fallacy, so the way how not to look at sunk costs. With the prebought concert ticket example, the economically rational way to behave is that you shouldn't go just because you already paid for it if you don't feel like it. You especially shouldn't go if there's extra costs incurred like transportation - staying home for free is so much better than paying for a ride to a concert you no longer wanna go to.
24:41 GIRL SAME !!! when I was 10 I was like "i'm not like other girls" but not because i wanted male validation, i wanted boys to be afraid of me. I also got into fights with boys a lot and stuff like, everything you said same, like literally same
Yeah no. In my country women were the ones who did all the calculations of how much food etc the family needed trough the year (which was especially important trough the winter), so if the girl math shit was true then I wonder how tf I’m alive. There are actually many cases of men gambling away important tools on the farm (and sometimes even the whole farm) and men using almost all the money on alcohol. The women were the ones who were able to keep those families afloat.
yeah but americans are so self centered that even though our hateful stereotypes of the opposite gender can be broken by simply looking anywhere else where gender roles are not the same, we could realize “wow, maybe if people aren’t put into a box of expectations right when they’re born based off their genitalia, and we encourage them to follow their natural strengths wether it align with their sex or not, to put good into the world because we are all humans that can try, maybe just maybe we could improve the state of this world” or not..
I mean that doesn’t really say much. Both of those things could have happened, it doesn’t really tell us anything on the whole though. But I think it’s important to note that now, with women earning their own money, how they deal with it and how responsible they are with it, which… 😬🤷♂️
@@dovelynight girl I have like 6 comments under this specific video, I can say what I want. Literally all I’ve done is debunk silly stereotypes, that’s shouldn’t offend you .
i felt the "i wanted the boys to fear me" in my core. for me it always came from a place of seeing how men treated the women in my family and if i could be the "scarier" person then maybe boys wouldn't hurt me the way i'd seen other women/girls get hurt. they wouldn't even want to approach me at all. if that makes any sense 😭 its lowkey sad when i think about it now that i'm older
Shit, I'm going through a bit of this rn ngl. It's like if I make myself scary and intimidating enough, nobody will ever want to approach me in the first place. No one will want to get close enough to me to treat me the way they treat women in general because I can get them back for it. But it just makes me feel terrible because I know that deep down I'm actually weak and if someone's a misogynistic POS there's nothing I can do to free myself from that because it's just a part of being a woman or AFAB and nothing will ever set me apart from those experiences. :(
Talking about "girl math" as if it's about women not being good with money and not about behavioral economic says a lot about how misogynistic and ignorant in finances we are (I learned it in a tiktok, I'm not free of guilt)
It could also be the expectation that women care for family members. They might be spending more money or not pursuing financial success because they are supporting children/ elderly parents/ siblings ect.
so thankful to have discovered this channel. honestly cried at the end because i totally relate to your experience of rejecting feminity as a child then embracing it after growing up. sending love to all my girlhood and womanhood sisters around the world
JK, don't ever feel pressured to upload videos when ur unwell or just feel don't like it. I hope you still enjoy uploading content cause we love it and we'll keep eating it up EVERY TIME💋
What a great analysis on this subject! I feel as if this is the most insighful one in a while, topics of gender sterotypes and similar topics have nearly infinite depth, and this video did a great job highligting much of it!
finally someone talking about this!! it doesn't sit right w me that when it's girl *insert trend*, it's somehow coincidentally perpetrating a negative stereotype about women's intelligence and capabilities. (although i will admit, the trend was funny, and the "girl dinner" audio was stuck in my head for forever.) It's relatable and cute, but it's like giving men equal footing to weaponise these terms right back against us.
I remember being like that as a kid, not liking 'girly' stuff, but that wasn't because I wanted to be a boy or prove myself or anything like that... they just had the better, cooler toys. Dinosaurs, dragons, TMNT vs Barbie and baby dolls. I just didn't want to play house because that was boring to me.
I think that part about wanting to stand out as teenager isn't gender restricted. I remember struggling between trying to belong along fellow bois while also trying to being individual (also while trying to find my identity). And then getting bullied if u stand out too much. It is just messy time no matter your background, region etc features.
Im a trans woman and i didnt come out until my 20s. I often feel some sort of remorse from not having a "girl" childhood even though i knew from a young age. The way you describe your experience though is making me blush because i did the same things to deflect from people clocking me as a young queer. I did buy a polly pocket when i saw them at the gas station a couple years ago though 😅
Just wanna throw a mans perspective out because I find this really interesting. My wife is an absolute genius, she's sweet and kind and caring and I get to see a side of her nobody else does. But I remember the first time she used the "I'm just a girl" joke out of nowhere and it felt so odd, I hated it. Like she's a legit genius with a PhD. Almost felt like she was belittling herself.
The ‘girl dinner’ trend was going around when my ED was at its worst, and I can confirm that what it devolved into was extremely triggering. I was seeing my own terrible habits reflected back at me a thousand times a day and it really normalised such tiny portion sizes. I’m hardly on tiktok anymore because of the recent reflux of ED content
i honestly hated the "im just a girl" trend, for all the misogyny undertone reasons you mentioned, but ALSO bc it used an audio clip from the no doubt song which is satirizing the whole concept, like the next line is literally "that's all that you'll let me be" and I never saw a video that included it.....
i had the "not like others girls" phase, but i wasnt trying to be like a boy, i hated both of my girl and boy references (mostly cuz bullying i think) and i could not for the love of god indentify with anyone from any gender, turns out i have no gender yay
yknow with your explanation and my own understanding of this trend it seems really sweet and wholesome, but there’s that (gender-non conforming and also autistic) part of me that can’t whole heartedly agree and associate with it because of the generalization (not just the sexist part but the girlhood part) of all woman who take part being feminine presenting/identifying. for me, I was born a woman (uterus+ovaries) and I’ve been identifying with she/her for my whole life (which fyi hasn’t even been that long im a young teenager) and have, for the most part been fine with it, and I LOVE my female friends and the relationships I have with them, but I look pretty androgynous and don’t dress/talk/even act feminine-not to say people like me can’t participate, cause if you want to, it’s for everybody go for it- so im not sure I feel comfortable using “im just a girl” or “girlhood” for myself or anyone else because it’s not really about being a girl in my eyes, it’s about being girl-Y and feminine which- I can’t fully identify with. So for someone like myself this topic is really confusing but of course, while it can be discriminatory at times it’s quite wholesome, and I think that’s great. I’d love to participate in discussions with others on this !
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i love the quote 'as a young girl, hating pink was never really about hating pink.'
oooooh this is good
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It was never about the colour
Haha, yeah. I'm thankfully past that phase (except some shades of it, but that's a personal taste thing)
I love most shades except hot pink and ones that are similar
the way the term “girl’s girl” has been twisted and used against people is also so interesting
this!! supporting each other is great, but it DOESNT mean supporting someone no matter what. im a girls girl, that doesnt mean im gonna support a woman who cheats or is racist or something
They did the same thing with "pick-me", I can't stand real pick-mes but calling someone a PMG because she likes video games is crazy.
@@melodieaka4066 Used to be called a pick me simply bc i wasnt out yet as a trans guy and i said i related to boys more. It's so widely overused.
@@MisterXZen Yeah lmao I thought it was "not like the other girls" nah bro I'm just not a girl
@@melodieaka4066my friends joked about me being pick me because I’m feminine asf and my jokingly tone is like this cringe cutie girl who thinks she’s the main character. And im girls girl in a sense of belonging to girls in not so heterosexual way…..and they know it…..my friends are weird. I love them but damn- (me acting like im not the weirdest one in friends group)
"I'm just a girl" has the same energy as excusing your toxic traits by blaming them on your zodiac sign
Oh my gosh that’s so true. I haven’t heard that in a while!
oh my god im such a scorpio!!11!
@@RaelExplodesmy Venus is small and my Cancer is in Stage 4😢
those zodiac traits call for a level of accountability though "omg ya that's totally me" but "i'm just a girl" just brushes it aside somehow ? Not saying either are good !
Scorpios do be toxic tho
They’ season is coming up 😭
I saw a subreddit that used the phrase “I’m just a girl” to excuse abusing and manipulating people, specifically men. Let’s not normalize abuse for either side, please… 😬
I agree, I think it’s too normalized to call abusive partners “badass women”
@@suzy3229 100%!!! Like, true badass-ery, in my opinion, is knowing your worth/boundaries and doing cool shit for fun because you like it, NOT being an abusive pos.
Emily is my silly little treat
Same
When I watch her I feel like I'm having a cute little sleepoverr
@@Lenaiisk sameeeee
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what frustrates me is those girls are explaining boy logic, not boy math. boy math is 4 inches being equal to 8 inches or rounding up your height to 6’ if you’re between 5’5” and 5’10”
That rounding up thing is hilarious evertime i see a guy doing it😂
Omg so true ahahahaha
I round down my height to lower my ego
I'm 6'2 guys (I'm 5'8)
lmao
Oh barely a minute in and you've already said something horrendous 💖 we're so back
which one you talkin abt 😭
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As a girl who grew up in the tumblr era, this is the TikTok equivalent of justgirlythings
Also, speaking of boy math - talk about failing the bechdel test. Same with the “she deserved the purse” trend on TikTok, why are guys so obsessed with us 😭 just let us do our own thing and come up w your own trends for once
Why didn’t you grow up in your home? Did your parents leave you in the “tumblr” era? Are you back home now?
I think the not quite pick me experience of wanting men to fear you is just the lesbian girlhood experience 😭
Agreeeeddd😭
Literally I said that out loud in response to her, I'm glad I'm the only one who made that connection.
exactly. always wanted to repel them
I'm so glad the 'got into fights with boys in school, later realised lesbianism' is a shared experience.
as a guy I puff out my chest triceps and lats whenever I walk past a guy who intimidates me in the hopes that the "hes just as scared of you as you are of him" kicks in.
Girl math can be founding the discipline of computer programming (Ada Lovelace, Grace Hopper), connecting physics with math (Emmy Noether), or sending astronauts to the moon (Dorothy Vaughn, Katherine Johnson, Judith Love Cohen, and more). With so many women fighting for recognition in STEM fields, learning about the trend of girl math videos made me sad. I appreciate you talking about it.
Don't forget Margaret Hamilton! She coded the entire Apollo 11 mission
Don't forget Margaret Hamilton! She coded the entire Apollo 11 mission
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Girl math isn't that deep, if that trend genuinely worries you, please seek some professional help.
@@Karambolage-j7r people's ideas of others are very easily swayed even by silly internet trends. putting down women when they're already viewed as inferior even for joke can be harmful
popping slopping and what have you😥
my life motto fr
Bro i read that as “pooping slop” 😂
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popping slopping polka dotting
@@simma264 popping slopping girl bossing
May seem empowering and cute, but can't help but feel like all of this is another way to stereotype women as helpless and feminine and also absolve us of blame for any wrongdoing.
You need to be very silly to think that. You are just saying you think this trend gives that instead of what it actually supposed to give. That's on who ever thinks that way and no one else.
Intentionally perpetuating negative gender stereotypes for clicks and likes 😍
@@violetvictoria7248 I mean it's not really that different from men "joking" about being sexist and commenting women 🍵or making kitchen jokes everywhere.
@@violetvictoria7248 Nope. Ironically, a lot of these "I'm just a girl" trends may be cute and funny at first, and I may have said that phrase a few times of course, but you can't deny that it does feed into the idea that women are fragile and helpless and conversely, can do no wrong.
It's more about using people's negative stereotypes to avoid accountability you shouldn't have to take in the first place. OK, I'm irresponsible with my money, how tf is that your problem? I'm allowed to be flawed as a woman and I'm tired of having to live up to your weird standards.
I saw someone admit they SA'd their boyfriend and said "I'm just a girl"...
WHAT.
that's awful
....? Excuse me?
That’s literally the equivalent of “boys will be boys” 😭
That’s insane
I really like how emily makes such silly jokes and immediately snaps back to normal
Moms spaghetti
Oh there goes gravity.
Kind of hate the fact that ozempic is associated mainly with eds instead of its actual use, which is for people with diabetes. Additionally, this raises the prices of ozempic and wegovy for people who actually need it.
Boy math is when you buy $100 worth of pokemon cards, pull a few cards worth a lot on trading websites, and believe you made back money despite never selling any of them.
Don’t talk about shit you don’t know anything about. I love my Pokémon cards and if you love them it’s worth the financial hit because it hits the soul and is needed like you never needed anything else it’s so fun and feels like home and like so great. Pokémon are so cool and you just don’t get it, female. Should I explain further for your female brain? I have a male brain so I’m equipped to explain on your level so you’ll get it and then I get back to my level which is much higher!
Ps: I don’t mean to sound condescending. Do you know what u mean? Can u comprehend my language?
Also I’ll like your comment to be nice. I hope you’ll feel better about not being as smart as me. I’m sure you’re nice too!
Yup lol ppl are taking this stuff too seriously
“girl math” thing is so annoying i HATE it
Apparently I had a while other veiw on this, I always thought girl math was buying something ridiculously expensive because you'll get a lot of use out of it not bragging about being financially irresponsible
It used to be a joke and not a way to flex financial irresponsibility
@@Myelllie You can't ignore the implications of linking this irresponsible behavior to girls' ways.
ive been doing "girl math" in my head since like age 10 but ive never called it that. like i agree that spending cash feels better than spending money because you cant physically see the number go down. but i think that most people feel that way (and if not, i have adhd) and im also not a girl
edit: i just realised i forgot to actually make my point. the girl math trend is stupid and it makes women look a bit stupid which is NOT a win. it all sounds a bit like Im just a girl🎀im just a stupid girl who cant do maths so its fine💖
‘I’m just a girl’ is sort of the equivalent to ‘boys will be boys,’ but less problematic
message.
Both can be problematic though, used to excuse bad behavior and cement gender stereotypes.
It's fine when these sayings are being used to justify silly things, "I'm just a girl, getting that manipedi" or "hitting the racetrack, boys will be boys".
But these sayings are also being used to excuse bad behaviors based on gender stereotypes. "The boys were caught peeping in the girls' toilets, lol boys will be boys" or "the girl did a hit and run, it's okay, she's just a girl"
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I've seen it used (maybe jokingly) when girl posts about cheating. It can be just as problematic tbh
an interesting thing i noticed is that i normally see people who would not consider themself a ‘boy’ perpetuate the “boys will be boys” mentality. whether it’s a woman or a man who previously acted in that manner, it’s never really boys who excuse their own behavior with that statement. on the other hand, i only see girls use the “i’m just a girl”phrase to excuse themselves. i think it says a lot about peoples expectations on girls vs boys. it definitely aligns with the idea that girls mature earlier-not because it’s natural, but because boys are not expected to. the emphasis that girls should be allowed to get away with the same things boys can is more harmful than good, in my opinion. it feels counterintuitive
I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt weird about it. like in a lot of posts, "girl dinner" was basically promoting eating disorders, "girl math" was we can't be trusted with money and "I'm just a girl" was like "I should get away with things because I'm dumb". Most times it wasn't even funny because there wasn't even a subversion of expectations, it was just "I a dumb wittle girl", it felt like doing ourselves a disservice by tying these jokes to gender.
Girl dinner is such a mess like it was never supposed to be like a ed trend. Like a real girl dinner vibe could be sad Mac n cheese and frozen broccoli
My girl dinner is ceaser salad, a side of pasta and Diet Coke idk abt yall 🤷♀️
Am I the only one who finds it insanely annoying when these TikTok’s use the song “just a girl” by no doubt? That song is the exact opposite of everything this trend is implying it makes me so mad
As a No Doubt fan I totally agree 😭
i was looking for this comment it makes me so mad
The fact that 11-year-old me listening to my dad's playlist in the car with him understood the song better than this trend
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@@madiii3279 RAHH🐺🔥🔥🔥
It’s been 10 seconds and she’s already talking about popping and slopping
mother uploaded again the world is back in motion
WHAT IM SAYING ❗️❗️❗️💞
Ever think about how much Mother Earth is suffering? Abused and not appreciated. It makes me feel horrible.
I rewatched "Legally Blonde" yesterday and that movie portrays female friendship and solidarity SO well. I love these girls and how much they love and support each other!
16:21 the girl dinner special is how cartoons used to describe eating at an expensive restaurant
i've always seen "i'm just a girl" as kinda a joke to make fun of "boys will be boys" but people DEFINITELY take it too far
Totally this, I have only used it to excuse my behaviour as a joke, deliberately to oppose the notion that 'boys will be boys'. Ok, then girls will be girls
Emily isnt pregnant but she always delivers ✨
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You ate with this comment
So original and funny
She atee fr
Stoppppp the copy and pasteeeeeee girlie you are so creative and awesome you can think of your own original comment!!!
its basically the alt-right pipeline but for internalised sexism
There’s also an expectation on women - and from within - to constantly maintain and update their appearance (makeup, skincare, clothes, hair, bags, shoes) that crap is expensive af. Also birth control or sanitary products literally every month for 30-40 years.
Even women who earn equal or more than men - even those who dislike fashion or work hard to make their (increasingly garbage quality) clothes last - still have a higher cost of living just to be ‘basic’.
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My issue with some of these trends is that they gender everything. Like I think we should stop gendering so many things that truly don't have anything to do with gender. Its important not only for people who are don't abide by gender sterotypes but also for transgender and nonbinary people. How are we supposed to degender body parts or periods when we gender going on walks or eating hot air for dinner?
yes! i think my biggest issue with this trend is that it’s still creating a “correct” way to perform being a woman and femininity
thank you for saying it
I never thought about this but it’s so right. Why not just call it like “Young Adult Math” considering it’s the kind of trivial finical irresponsibility that a lot of young adults make without realizing?
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as a gender-apathetic person, this. i don't want my gender to be brought up when talking about my favorite show or musician, let alone my lifestyle choices. just enjoy things because they're cool and fun.
“throw it back” *gets aespa flashbacks*
AESPA MENTIONED
Born like a queen born like a king aye
Imma get it DONE!
@@PurpleStay4 wayo wayo
THROW IT BACK THROW IT BACK THROW IT BACK
As a dude who grew up predominately around girls and women, hearing this commentary was really helpful in piecing together what I know logically into an emotional context. 10/10 vid
33:00 so generous, thank you very much
13:52 I hated the girl dinner trend from the start cuz I never saw the fun mismatched food pairings; I only ever saw ones that amounted to no more ever than a handful of grapes
Funnily you bring up women only owning property recently, but before then in most cultures wives managed the household finances while emotionlessly staring at their husbands blowing a week's savings on alcohol. Men earned the money but they didn't balance the books.
Generalizing here, but still. Statistically men have higher personal debt, while women have higher student debt, so really men are less financially responsible.
I’m sorry but men objectively are more financially responsible and there are a lot of studies done on this. And I’m not drawing the conclusions myself here or trying to counter you just because, the stats really say that by like every metric.
The average savings of men vs women is shocking. Men on average (today, not decades ago or anything) have much more money on average in their saving accounts throughout all ages, they have more investments on average, and more men contribute to their 401k.
Surveys also show men’s attitudes surrounding money is different. Men reported having more knowledge about and being more involved in all things financial whereas a lot of women say they don’t know anything about it (savings, investments, financial strategies, etc).
Sure, some men in the past may have blew their money on gambling or alcohol or whatever, but that was obviously not the norm (seems more of a movie stereotype), and women back then not even having the capability to do so can’t tell us anything either, but their money habits now do tell us a lot. Your example of men having more debt doesn’t really say much on the whole, neither does it say much about financially responsibility, maybe some of them took out a loan, or they’re failed business owners.
FYI, this is coming from New York Life’s Wealth Watch Survey, ASIC’s Gen Z research on money and cost of living, and a study on marketing vs gender (showing women more influenced to spend money after seeing all types of advertisements compared to men).
I think the Vikings had it down - women owned the property, could be warriors alongside the men IF they wanted, and could divorce their husbands just by putting their stuff outside the door and telling them to leave. (Interestingly, Viking men also kept a purse on them containing combs and cosmetics to keep them looking good for their women.)
@@Ryan-cb1eiwow. So, do you not see that this is due to societal pressures and accepted roles and expectations, it’s not tied to whether somebody has testicles or ovaries?
@@Wud-f2r Roles and pressures only explain so much, but you make it sound like an excuse. At the end of the day, isn’t everything just societal roles and pressure then? It’s just arguing in poor faith honestly and doesn’t do much. There’s nothing wrong with saying this group doesn’t do X well and should do better there. God knows if this were about men nobody would say what you said, like cmon dude…
its always "girl math" "im just a girl" "girl dinner" but never "hold the girl"
Hold the girl, hit song by Rina Sawayama ! Lol
@@sarahcunliffe3138 real
rina sawayama mentioned?!
@@pan6529 lol
💃hold💃the 💃girrllll💃
ok but why is emily so gorgeous and funny like all the time, im jealoussss
What ever makes you happy! I’ll always love you! I’m sad about the lack of grandkids tho. Love you to the moon and halfway back.
Rejecting girly things during childhood is such a mood lol
Something about these girltok trends (except for the girlhood one) usually annoy me and I thought maybe it’s just internalized misogyny or I’m just being boring, but I feel better knowing there’s been a reason why and that I’m not the only one.
As for the girlhood trend, in high school I sort of rejected femininity too, not to impress boys, but because I was jealous of other girls who were more feminine because they did their makeup perfectly and wore cute clothes. Since I was terrible at makeup and couldn’t rock my clothes, I just gave up on trying to be cute and feminine and considered myself better than them. Thankfully now I love feminine things more and I’m better at makeup and wearing clothes in my style. 💗💖
I love embracing playfulness and keeping that robust energy as a woman.... but that's a lot different than avoiding responsibility and infantilizing yourself like the girl trends promote
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emily: "the defendant will serve..."
me: "CVNT"
i’m a freshman in college and I got accepted to a women’s writing magazine! Thank you for giving me an idea for my first article! i’m so excited to write abt this and im def citing ur video love u emily🫶
Not a women, but I understand a lot of what is said about the trend. It's kind of opposite of previous feminism of proving women are capable to almost self-infantilizing yourself to fit into "just a girl" tropes. Sure it's fun but just don't take it too far to where you actually believe it's okay to think you're less capable because you're a girl
Found the good guy, feminist, future husband and light in the dark for women! You shall have all the vagina!
Tbh the “I’m just a girl” is just another way to say you use weaponized incompetence
so true connor
30:33 even as a boy this is so true. i dont know what i would do without my mum and sister and also my female friendships (my friendgroup is all girls) i value them so much.
for those wondering 4:16 is when the ad ends
watching emily and eating glitter is peak girlhood
Why are you eating glitter ?
@@milaopacich9371 why aren’t you?
@@milaopacich9371Who doesn’t?
@@milaopacich9371to become prettier on the inside too😊😊
THIS but rn i’m doing history hw and eating a highlighter 🎀
This made me so emotional. Thanks so much Emily. I watched the Barbie movie with my older sister. Growing up I would avoid wearing pink and tried to do tomboy things. Which I think a lot of us can relate to. Going to see that movie with her was almost like looking at a reflection of my younger self and telling her everything is going to be okay.
A lot of recent feminism has been about embracing feminine stereotypes, then people decided to embrace the negative stereotypes around women. Like, the whole point was to show that femininity doesn’t make women inferior. Can we throw out the rest of that useless crap instead of keeping it alive by joking about it?
Here’s a hard question to ask yourself though, is it chicken or the egg? Maybe the stereotypes come from truths. Trust me, I wish they didn’t. Especially as a guy, it’s not fun when apparently only you can have agency and financially responsibility.
@@Ryan-cb1eiso if the tables were turned and i say something about all men, would you still argue that stereotypes also come from the truth?
@@Jojo-yy2ck Well I’d also be questioning it if the men themselves were embracing those stereotypes and asking myself why. It’s an important distinction. And if you weren’t trying to be mean about it and were upset about it because it also affected you, then I’d understand even more.
@@Ryan-cb1ei ryan, please be quiet. thank you
@@Ryan-cb1ei i’m not trying to be mean nor i’m upset by it, my comment was based on how you don’t seem to understand the original comment, women have been trying to get rid of harmful stereotypes and people on social media making “jokes” about said stereotypes just lead other people into believing they are the truth, example: you.
Real boy math is playing a free gotcha game and spending an embarrassing amount of money on loot boxes because "hey I saved money i would have spent on getting the game so.."
Also hello nfts and bitcoin are peak boy math
@@TomMinnow pls are you a girl?
@@TomMinnow nfts are just peak reverse evolution
If I had to guess, the whole wanting boys to fear you as a kid is related to not being attracted to them, or men in general, while living in a cishet world. I can remember doing things for the vindictive pleasure i would get from watching my male classmates be frightened off (shout-out to every other individual sent to anger management for this). When pressured into being cishet, children get spiteful.
EXCUSES. I'm far from straight and you are justifying being a bad/emotionally immature person. Not everything you do stems from your environment, sometimes it's just your personality. Many kids are being aggressive/have poor impulse control because their brains are still developing. That's quite literally it, no deeper philosophy behind that. And they also tend to really hate the opposite gender. It's completely fcking normal. Touch grass.
This made me think of this time in second grade when I went to this school dance and I begged one of my friends to let me borrow her mascara because I really wanted to try it but when I got home and my older sibling saw it (they're genderfluid now) I pretended that I didn't really want to do it and that my friend wanted me to do it even though I really liked it I just pretended not to because neither of us really we're in touch with femininity at all
What you said about girlhood at the end really resonated with me. It sounds silly, but I used to resent my 6-year-old self for picking the color light pink for my bedroom walls. I never had a 'I'm not like other girls' phase in the typical sense, but I never felt connected to the girls at school back then. (My social anxiety *really* didn't help with that lol.) But as I got older and eventually realized that I'm not straight, I started to figure out that I _do_ want to be like the girls I grew up with, but because I wasn't I started to internalize that feeling of 'I'm lesser than others', 'I'm not worthy of forming friendships with them or ever loving them' and so on. (Different problems came after that, a whole gender identity crisis and mental illnesses only made me feel more and more removed from the girl that I once was and made me not even want to grow up to see the woman I could become. There's more to that but that's a long story 😅😅😅😅)
Luckily, I can now allow myself to like girly things without feeling like I'm not worth it. When I watched the Barbie movie last year, I put on something pink, even though I initially didn't want to. But the world didn't end and I had a good time and for the first time in forever, I wasn't mad at 6-year-old me for wanting and getting those light pink bedroom walls. I'm so glad that I got to grow up with a sister, who joined in on all the girly things with me as well. I also wouldn't want to live in a world without my sister, my mother, my aunt, my grandmother; all the women in my life added a piece to the person I am today and ugh I could cry right now 'cause I love and appreciate them so much.
This is such a great video and I love how much each video of yours makes me reflect on different topics. A million flowers for this absolute banger of a video 💐💐💐💐
I had a similar experience but different outcome. I hated pink and girly things but it wasn't cuz they were girly, I just didn't like them, no matter how much I tried. I liked boy stuff and hanging out with boys cuz girls didn't like me (minus a few). By the time I was in high school, almost all my girl friends were either bi or lesbian and you really think that's where I would have fit in but no. I just had zero attraction to anyone. Once hormones died down, I had zero desire for men or women and honestly, if I hadn't met my husband, I would have been ace and happy with it. I've already told him I don't care if he turns into the Terminator and is just a face and a brain, id still love him cuz I feel in love with his mind, not his body. I feel like there was SO many signs I just looked over cuz I simply did not care to know. Could have saved myself a lot of grief from going into bad relationships I felt I had to for whatever dumb reason I told myself. Now I happily enjoy feminine stuff more than I did before but I still like my masculine side. Perfectly balanced lol
Omg this entire paragraph is meeeeeeee😭😭😭😭😭
You know found a good RUclipsr when you can’t really relate to the topic but still end up being entertained
Shoutout to all my guys watching
I’m non-binary so a lot of the feelings surrounding the trends of girlhood kind of went over my head (which is alright, I don’t have the find everything relatable obv) but with girl math and girl dinner it felt more to me like people coping with living under capitalism and dealing with mental health issues and making jokes to alleviate some of the stress, and the word “girl” just got stuck on the front of the trends somehow
Fr. Girl math and girl dinner just feel like ADHD struggles and coping mechanisms rebranding as a gendered girl thing. Girl math is just impulsive spending, and girl dinner is what I eat when I struggling to have a real meal and know I need to get something because "fed is best."
I'm a transmasc dude but that last part about girlhood got me so emotional. Me too, really, wouldn't even want to be on this earth without my female friends, familiars and aquitances.
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funny thing about the girl-math
"If I bought the tickets a long time ago going to the concert is basically free" or "if I have money preloaded to my starbucks-app ordering something is basically free"
is that in economics you actually kind of think that way when looking at "sunk costs" which are costs which you don't take into consideration anymore when making a desicion today because you've already spent the money. (It's not exactly the same thing but kind of the same direction XD)
nice to know that there is an actual economic term for that logic that has nothing to do with gender!!
Girl math is the sunk cost fallacy, so the way how not to look at sunk costs. With the prebought concert ticket example, the economically rational way to behave is that you shouldn't go just because you already paid for it if you don't feel like it. You especially shouldn't go if there's extra costs incurred like transportation - staying home for free is so much better than paying for a ride to a concert you no longer wanna go to.
@@milanmach2379 yeah yeah, i said it's not exactly right, but a similar direction
13:14 we need to find a way to keep food trends from edtwt and edtiktok
24:41 GIRL SAME !!! when I was 10 I was like "i'm not like other girls" but not because i wanted male validation, i wanted boys to be afraid of me. I also got into fights with boys a lot and stuff like, everything you said same, like literally same
caught u in 2 seconds
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I think "Girl Law" is at least one of my favorite Emily sketches, the impression was on point
I'm not a girl 😔
You’re a girl nwo
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I'm not one anymore ✨✨✨✨✨
GET OUT
We can solve that
Yeah no. In my country women were the ones who did all the calculations of how much food etc the family needed trough the year (which was especially important trough the winter), so if the girl math shit was true then I wonder how tf I’m alive. There are actually many cases of men gambling away important tools on the farm (and sometimes even the whole farm) and men using almost all the money on alcohol. The women were the ones who were able to keep those families afloat.
yeah but americans are so self centered that even though our hateful stereotypes of the opposite gender can be broken by simply looking anywhere else where gender roles are not the same, we could realize “wow, maybe if people aren’t put into a box of expectations right when they’re born based off their genitalia, and we encourage them to follow their natural strengths wether it align with their sex or not, to put good into the world because we are all humans that can try, maybe just maybe we could improve the state of this world” or not..
I mean that doesn’t really say much. Both of those things could have happened, it doesn’t really tell us anything on the whole though. But I think it’s important to note that now, with women earning their own money, how they deal with it and how responsible they are with it, which… 😬🤷♂️
@@Ryan-cb1ei girl why are you just yapping under every comment what does that say about you
@@Ryan-cb1ei bro you are everywhere. Stop commenting. Nobody likes you
@@dovelynight girl I have like 6 comments under this specific video, I can say what I want. Literally all I’ve done is debunk silly stereotypes, that’s shouldn’t offend you .
"I'm just a girl" is kinda becoming like "boys will be boys" and that is 👏🏻not👏🏻okay👏🏻
i felt the "i wanted the boys to fear me" in my core. for me it always came from a place of seeing how men treated the women in my family and if i could be the "scarier" person then maybe boys wouldn't hurt me the way i'd seen other women/girls get hurt. they wouldn't even want to approach me at all. if that makes any sense 😭 its lowkey sad when i think about it now that i'm older
Shit, I'm going through a bit of this rn ngl. It's like if I make myself scary and intimidating enough, nobody will ever want to approach me in the first place. No one will want to get close enough to me to treat me the way they treat women in general because I can get them back for it. But it just makes me feel terrible because I know that deep down I'm actually weak and if someone's a misogynistic POS there's nothing I can do to free myself from that because it's just a part of being a woman or AFAB and nothing will ever set me apart from those experiences. :(
Wait i do that. what does this mean
Talking about "girl math" as if it's about women not being good with money and not about behavioral economic says a lot about how misogynistic and ignorant in finances we are (I learned it in a tiktok, I'm not free of guilt)
My wife is so much better at finances than I am.
It could also be the expectation that women care for family members. They might be spending more money or not pursuing financial success because they are supporting children/ elderly parents/ siblings ect.
The amount of guys I see that are so insanely bad at managing money, but are so confident regardless is getting out of hand
so thankful to have discovered this channel. honestly cried at the end because i totally relate to your experience of rejecting feminity as a child then embracing it after growing up. sending love to all my girlhood and womanhood sisters around the world
don't ever stop uploading or I'll be depressed, thanks😚😚
JK, don't ever feel pressured to upload videos when ur unwell or just feel don't like it. I hope you still enjoy uploading content cause we love it and we'll keep eating it up EVERY TIME💋
What a great analysis on this subject! I feel as if this is the most insighful one in a while, topics of gender sterotypes and similar topics have nearly infinite depth, and this video did a great job highligting much of it!
finally someone talking about this!! it doesn't sit right w me that when it's girl *insert trend*, it's somehow coincidentally perpetrating a negative stereotype about women's intelligence and capabilities. (although i will admit, the trend was funny, and the "girl dinner" audio was stuck in my head for forever.) It's relatable and cute, but it's like giving men equal footing to weaponise these terms right back against us.
popping and slopping ☹️✊
my older sibling's college essay was exactly about how they hated the color pink as a kid and it was really inspiring hahahahha
I remember being like that as a kid, not liking 'girly' stuff, but that wasn't because I wanted to be a boy or prove myself or anything like that... they just had the better, cooler toys. Dinosaurs, dragons, TMNT vs Barbie and baby dolls. I just didn't want to play house because that was boring to me.
I love the song just a girl but the meaning tiktok gave it is the opposite of why it was made tbh
Amazing video btw
From wanting to be better than boys at kickball at recess to being a better choice to date than boys is so real tbh
Omg the bottoms poster in the back?? Love that movie!!
you look great with hoop earrings, theyre soo cute 🥹
your definition of girlhood has me crying 😭 i feel the exact same way but did not have the words
I think that part about wanting to stand out as teenager isn't gender restricted. I remember struggling between trying to belong along fellow bois while also trying to being individual (also while trying to find my identity). And then getting bullied if u stand out too much. It is just messy time no matter your background, region etc features.
Im a trans woman and i didnt come out until my 20s. I often feel some sort of remorse from not having a "girl" childhood even though i knew from a young age.
The way you describe your experience though is making me blush because i did the same things to deflect from people clocking me as a young queer.
I did buy a polly pocket when i saw them at the gas station a couple years ago though 😅
5:26 is where she starts getting into the TikToks
11:04 me when I make my wife (girl) dinner (dinner) and have an intrusive thought (I want her to be my dinner)
the bon appetite joke actually made me cackle
THE QUEEN HAS BLESSED US ONCE AGAIN 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
Just wanna throw a mans perspective out because I find this really interesting. My wife is an absolute genius, she's sweet and kind and caring and I get to see a side of her nobody else does. But I remember the first time she used the "I'm just a girl" joke out of nowhere and it felt so odd, I hated it. Like she's a legit genius with a PhD. Almost felt like she was belittling herself.
The ‘girl dinner’ trend was going around when my ED was at its worst, and I can confirm that what it devolved into was extremely triggering. I was seeing my own terrible habits reflected back at me a thousand times a day and it really normalised such tiny portion sizes. I’m hardly on tiktok anymore because of the recent reflux of ED content
Maybe you should become a boy. That way you can’t eat girl dinner and you’ll eat a healthy portion of food
as a boy💅🏻 girlhood looks so aesthetic but sometimes i feel like ion belong😭 but i won’t fragile stereotypes prevent my happiness
Love your skits lol. Girl dinner being a glorified restaurant for models on a binge.
i honestly hated the "im just a girl" trend, for all the misogyny undertone reasons you mentioned, but ALSO bc it used an audio clip from the no doubt song which is satirizing the whole concept, like the next line is literally "that's all that you'll let me be" and I never saw a video that included it.....
this unexpectedly made me cry toward the end 😭😭
"She's a reckless driver and a threat to public safety," Emily said calmly
I literally cried when you talked about girlhood omg
i had the "not like others girls" phase, but i wasnt trying to be like a boy, i hated both of my girl and boy references (mostly cuz bullying i think) and i could not for the love of god indentify with anyone from any gender, turns out i have no gender yay
6:27 HELP I HAVE THAT SAME LONG GRAY CAT PLUSH AND I’M HUGGING IT WHILE WATCHING THIS 💀💀
i always used to get into physical fights with boys but i actually was extremely girly. i am a lesbian now so i’m wondering if maybe that was just it
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yknow with your explanation and my own understanding of this trend it seems really sweet and wholesome, but there’s that (gender-non conforming and also autistic) part of me that can’t whole heartedly agree and associate with it because of the generalization (not just the sexist part but the girlhood part) of all woman who take part being feminine presenting/identifying. for me, I was born a woman (uterus+ovaries) and I’ve been identifying with she/her for my whole life (which fyi hasn’t even been that long im a young teenager) and have, for the most part been fine with it, and I LOVE my female friends and the relationships I have with them, but I look pretty androgynous and don’t dress/talk/even act feminine-not to say people like me can’t participate, cause if you want to, it’s for everybody go for it- so im not sure I feel comfortable using “im just a girl” or “girlhood” for myself or anyone else because it’s not really about being a girl in my eyes, it’s about being girl-Y and feminine which- I can’t fully identify with. So for someone like myself this topic is really confusing but of course, while it can be discriminatory at times it’s quite wholesome, and I think that’s great. I’d love to participate in discussions with others on this !