I'm a social 8, and when I was around 13 years old I realized that when I liked something I was so intense that I finished the thing too quickly (for example a video game) or that my body was used to that taste and the thing stopped to be as tasty as before, like so much intensity created insensitivity in my body, and then I was sad because I couldn't enjoy more of my video game or the food I like. So in that moment I started with with ON and OFF mode, because I couldn't and didn't want to moderate, I preferred to do something 100% but not so much time that creates insensitivity or that finishes, and then have a period of 0%, and after a time again 100%... Now I'm 36 years old and I continue with that system. And when I try to moderate something, just do it less than 100% , it isn't interesting or pleasant at all... I just prefer not to do something than doing it less than 100% intense, because 99% and 0% intense feels the same to me ... I also play this ON and OFF mode with money. I can't moderate, so I enter in ON mode of save money for some months, and when I have a lot I enter in the ON mode of waste money. When I'm saving money I'm the best and most humble person in the world, and when I'm wasting I really don't have control over what I waste, I just buy everything I want. When I see that my autonomy is in danger because my lack of money, I start again with the SAVE MONEY MODE ON. Sorry my English, I'm Spanish.
intensity isn't something we do. It's what we are. There's not a rheostat on it. We "do" till we are either done, or need to rest before starting again. Deciding to tone it down is for the weak and uncommitted.
Unhealthy 8s have an intensity that’s on another level. They are aggressive, bullies/tyrants in whatever they do. I really struggle with them. Healthy 8s (although intense) are a lot more tolerable.
I don’t go to some of these extremes because as an INFJ I think about the future outcomes. I cannot help it. But omg, I am too much in other ways. I am INTENSE. i have the energy of a teenager and I am middle aged. 😅😅😅
Unrestrained sounds almost magical to me! And the mere notion of "moderation" makes me sick although I feel that living in the middleground would do me good as I feel that I would like to "lessen" the intense exhaution after a longer peak period. Can any of the 8s here share how they do that without feeling violently restrained?
Lady ENTP 8w7 874 sx/so here! People have often told me I'm intense and I've always been put off by that. Its always like they're saying its bad to be intense. LOL I'm definitely not balanced, terribly not subtle, and too much of a good thing is almost enough! I describe myself as a bull in a China shop 😂 Being an 8 and a woman has led me to experience misogyny in an interesting way. 8lyness is often praised in men and demonized in women. And I think you know 8s don't have that gray area you're speaking of 😂 The people close to me like me because I'm protective and bold and I'll always carry them on my wing. The people who don't perceive me as abrasive. Not everyone is going to like me, especially since I'm such a polarizing type of person and that's okay!
Lol yeah hahahahah I ONLY go to buffets or wing nights because otherwise it's not enough. Then I go without eating for over 24 hours "All or nothing approach" Hahaha then he said that after
I consider myself a woman of few interests. I don’t care to be everywhere or do everything like a 1, 3 or 7, but the few things I care about, I would kill for and I’ve never stayed from.
Moderation? Never met her. Where does she stay at? 😅😅😅😅 For me I am moderate about things I do not care about. Balanced. But if my passion is activated, um… 😅
How can you talk about being moderate if you understand the wings? 7 is go, 9 is stop. Even when I say f-it I cant shut down, it’s just trying to shift focus because something will break soon… And I’m 9 wing. This lets all meet in the middle because it feels secure is very 6 isch.
Moderation is unnatural to me. My solution to that is to quarantine the topics/tasks/ideas where I have to be moderate, and let myself have at it with whatever I can. Trying to do EVERYTHING in some degree of moderation is just... too much. My advice to anyone who feels this way: once you realize you need moderation, you may attempt to add moderation to EVERYTHING in your life. Don't. Quarter off the things that need to be modified, make a plan to modify them, and then just go in waves in the rest of your life. It's fine. Wanna do nothing outside work but that one special project for the next week? Do it. Sick of that project? put it down. In much of life the consequences to this approach will actually be quite manageable. Moderation is a necessary ingredient to life, but don't get to thinking it's the ideal for all behaviors.
love how the 8 videos are the quietest ones in the series
My husband once told me, "can't you just do something normally? Why do you always have to be obsessed by something?"
I'm a social 8, and when I was around 13 years old I realized that when I liked something I was so intense that I finished the thing too quickly (for example a video game) or that my body was used to that taste and the thing stopped to be as tasty as before, like so much intensity created insensitivity in my body, and then I was sad because I couldn't enjoy more of my video game or the food I like. So in that moment I started with with ON and OFF mode, because I couldn't and didn't want to moderate, I preferred to do something 100% but not so much time that creates insensitivity or that finishes, and then have a period of 0%, and after a time again 100%... Now I'm 36 years old and I continue with that system.
And when I try to moderate something, just do it less than 100% , it isn't interesting or pleasant at all... I just prefer not to do something than doing it less than 100% intense, because 99% and 0% intense feels the same to me ...
I also play this ON and OFF mode with money. I can't moderate, so I enter in ON mode of save money for some months, and when I have a lot I enter in the ON mode of waste money. When I'm saving money I'm the best and most humble person in the world, and when I'm wasting I really don't have control over what I waste, I just buy everything I want. When I see that my autonomy is in danger because my lack of money, I start again with the SAVE MONEY MODE ON.
Sorry my English, I'm Spanish.
Intensity mixed with our lust, not necessarily sexual, makes us devour things until we are full.
intensity isn't something we do. It's what we are. There's not a rheostat on it. We "do" till we are either done, or need to rest before starting again. Deciding to tone it down is for the weak and uncommitted.
Exactly
Hey don't forget about Uranio when mentioning the book!!!
Unhealthy 8s have an intensity that’s on another level. They are aggressive, bullies/tyrants in whatever they do. I really struggle with them. Healthy 8s (although intense) are a lot more tolerable.
I don’t go to some of these extremes because as an INFJ I think about the future outcomes. I cannot help it. But omg, I am too much in other ways. I am INTENSE. i have the energy of a teenager and I am middle aged. 😅😅😅
Unrestrained sounds almost magical to me!
And the mere notion of "moderation" makes me sick although I feel that living in the middleground would do me good as I feel that I would like to "lessen" the intense exhaution after a longer peak period.
Can any of the 8s here share how they do that without feeling violently restrained?
Lady ENTP 8w7 874 sx/so here! People have often told me I'm intense and I've always been put off by that. Its always like they're saying its bad to be intense. LOL I'm definitely not balanced, terribly not subtle, and too much of a good thing is almost enough! I describe myself as a bull in a China shop 😂
Being an 8 and a woman has led me to experience misogyny in an interesting way. 8lyness is often praised in men and demonized in women.
And I think you know 8s don't have that gray area you're speaking of 😂
The people close to me like me because I'm protective and bold and I'll always carry them on my wing. The people who don't perceive me as abrasive. Not everyone is going to like me, especially since I'm such a polarizing type of person and that's okay!
This really resonates with me as a female 8w7.
Great video! I like the new intro too. Thank you for sharing!
Wow, I haven’t seen Dr. churn this many videos out in such a short period of time!
Me to the core 🥹👏💪
If I ever ‘doubt’ I am 8 - no more🙏😅
Thanks Tom 😊
Lol yeah hahahahah I ONLY go to buffets or wing nights because otherwise it's not enough.
Then I go without eating for over 24 hours
"All or nothing approach"
Hahaha then he said that after
Him: "Are you intense?"
My ESFP 8W7SX 864 tri-type ass: yes.
thank you for these
I consider myself a woman of few interests. I don’t care to be everywhere or do everything like a 1, 3 or 7, but the few things I care about, I would kill for and I’ve never stayed from.
Moderation? Never met her. Where does she stay at? 😅😅😅😅 For me I am moderate about things I do not care about. Balanced. But if my passion is activated, um… 😅
How can you talk about being moderate if you understand the wings? 7 is go, 9 is stop. Even when I say f-it I cant shut down, it’s just trying to shift focus because something will break soon… And I’m 9 wing. This lets all meet in the middle because it feels secure is very 6 isch.
This is tricky bc the Sx instinct of any type will be much more intense, I think.
Moderation is unnatural to me. My solution to that is to quarantine the topics/tasks/ideas where I have to be moderate, and let myself have at it with whatever I can. Trying to do EVERYTHING in some degree of moderation is just... too much. My advice to anyone who feels this way: once you realize you need moderation, you may attempt to add moderation to EVERYTHING in your life. Don't. Quarter off the things that need to be modified, make a plan to modify them, and then just go in waves in the rest of your life. It's fine. Wanna do nothing outside work but that one special project for the next week? Do it. Sick of that project? put it down. In much of life the consequences to this approach will actually be quite manageable. Moderation is a necessary ingredient to life, but don't get to thinking it's the ideal for all behaviors.
Beautiful video as usual , the introduction seems to be a bit too long may be you can trip it to 15 seconds