What you mentioned about the narcissist is so true only wished you would of said he or she not just him. I am a male and was victimized by a female narcisisst.
Narcissism is the last mental health frontier to be empathetic to. Are u born narcissistic or u become. Cos if u born so, then it is a disorder. But cos they not depressed it is hard for people to empathize. Anyone can be labelled narcissist
I’m here because it would seem my entire town of about 9k is following , and complying with , the narrative . I feel quite lonesome . Actually it’s fairly scary . What has been coming to mind in the last several months is that I can just about promise you that 75% of the loudest , most self-righteous , etc. , have at least ONE of our Dr. Northrop’s books in their respective libraries . In addition to what’s been coming to my mind is that I would LOVE to have her come to this town to speak , on anything , and see if ANYTHING she had to say about “it” could even make a dent in it . I’m deeply heartened that you are on the planet with me , Christiane !
You are such a beautiful person. I was married to a narcissist and am divorced. I am a pretty positive person and enjoy listening to you as you give me and others practical advice. Thank you so much.
Poor man. You didn't know b4 u married him? Or it got convenient to label him narcissist. Once married u live with the flaws to death. That's y u need think b4 marriage. Or else what then is the value
"Your true beliefs will re-surface." Sooo true! I've noticed this with all the abusers I've dated. All of them, at some point, would realize the truth about their own behavior, and admit it out loud, unasked for by me. Soon they'd be back in denial, though.
They'll always be in denial and if they're not is just to hoover u back. I don't speak anymore my truth to them, they want lies and also if you tell them you're hurt by their actions, they enjoy it and look at u with a smirk in their face, they have sadistic tendencies. I just don't engage and I leave
I was in a romantic relationship with a narcissistic psychopath for three years. He had a criminal past. He claimed he was actually the victim of those circumstances. The worst part of the relationship was the cognitive dissonance. He would pretend to be loving and caring during my time of need and then ghost me or gaslight me. I started to doubt myself and my perceptions. It got scary as I got to know him more because I would see the mask of civility slip and what was underneath was very dark. Thankfully, by educating myself on YT, I leaned what was going on and I realized the only way out was to go no contact. He threw a fit on Christmas. Broke several of the gifts I gave him and threw them on the ground near my car. I knew it was my chance for an out! I told him it was over and I never wanted to see him again. Of course he was spending time with someone else behind my back so it gave me more of an opportunity to distance while he was distracted. I haven’t gone back despite some of his weak efforts. I’m very proud of myself! It was difficult for me because I loved him and he was incredibly charming charismatic funny and intelligent, but the dark side was terrifying! If anyone is struggling with a narcissistic psychopath, I pray you will find a safe and quick exit from your relationship. Life has not been easy or perfect since leaving that relationship, but I have my peace and sanity back and I have hope that I will meet someone who I can truly connect with instead of someone who is manipulating my affections and my mind to their own end.
Dissonance can also be caused by fears or limiting beliefs that have been taught to you. For example: you take courage and grab the opportunity to get up on stage and talk about how you feel about something. That's a good thing right?! I would think so. But your fears will tell you you've no right! To just shut up and not seek attention. And that causes dissonance because there's a conflict in your head
Dear Dr. C. Would you please do a video on menopause and HRT? There is so much misunderstood and confusing information out there. Is so scary for a woman to know = should she take Hormones or not. Also, the latest is : if you have a uterus you need to take HRT, 😩really? Is this true? Please 🙏🏻🙏🏻 help with some updated “real” information 😔
Sexist comment about 'him' being a narcissist, but okay, I guess this is a "women's" channel. Otherwise, intriguing concept. Any inner moral or values conflict could be c.d.
Toxic ppl have more issues with cogn diss themselves than all other ppl They would say exactly the same of their victims being toxic troubled by cogn diss, as that is what they must thrive on doing themselves to inflate their self worth image One can recognize toxic ppl best by their voice tone. As they seek control, their voice is intended to express authority. Does this ring a bell?
I'm 53 yrs old, have been doing everything the doc says. I feel great and reversing my age. She right, ditch the narcissist, they are poison!
What you mentioned about the narcissist is so true only wished you would of said he or she not just him. I am a male and was victimized by a female narcisisst.
Narcissism is the last mental health frontier to be empathetic to. Are u born narcissistic or u become. Cos if u born so, then it is a disorder. But cos they not depressed it is hard for people to empathize. Anyone can be labelled narcissist
yes that was very unappropriate. Had the same experience you had
I’m here because it would seem my entire town of about 9k is following , and complying with , the narrative . I feel quite lonesome . Actually it’s fairly scary . What has been coming to mind in the last several months is that I can just about promise you that 75% of the loudest , most self-righteous , etc. , have at least ONE of our Dr. Northrop’s books in their respective libraries . In addition to what’s been coming to my mind is that I would LOVE to have her come to this town to speak , on anything , and see if ANYTHING she had to say about “it” could even make a dent in it .
I’m deeply heartened that you are on the planet with me , Christiane !
You explained my conditioning from childhood dealing with a toxic family lifestyle.
I read your book! Amazing!!
Thank you for your wonderful videos, they have touched, healed and influenced so many parts of my life and my thinking. You look amazing x
You are such a beautiful person. I was married to a narcissist and am divorced. I am a pretty positive person and enjoy listening to you as you give me and others practical advice. Thank you so much.
Poor man. You didn't know b4 u married him? Or it got convenient to label him narcissist. Once married u live with the flaws to death. That's y u need think b4 marriage. Or else what then is the value
"Your true beliefs will re-surface." Sooo true! I've noticed this with all the abusers I've dated. All of them, at some point, would realize the truth about their own behavior, and admit it out loud, unasked for by me. Soon they'd be back in denial, though.
They'll always be in denial and if they're not is just to hoover u back. I don't speak anymore my truth to them, they want lies and also if you tell them you're hurt by their actions, they enjoy it and look at u with a smirk in their face, they have sadistic tendencies. I just don't engage and I leave
I was in a romantic relationship with a narcissistic psychopath for three years. He had a criminal past. He claimed he was actually the victim of those circumstances. The worst part of the relationship was the cognitive dissonance. He would pretend to be loving and caring during my time of need and then ghost me or gaslight me. I started to doubt myself and my perceptions.
It got scary as I got to know him more because I would see the mask of civility slip and what was underneath was very dark. Thankfully, by educating myself on YT, I leaned what was going on and I realized the only way out was to go no contact. He threw a fit on Christmas. Broke several of the gifts I gave him and threw them on the ground near my car. I knew it was my chance for an out! I told him it was over and I never wanted to see him again. Of course he was spending time with someone else behind my back so it gave me more of an opportunity to distance while he was distracted. I haven’t gone back despite some of his weak efforts. I’m very proud of myself! It was difficult for me because I loved him and he was incredibly charming charismatic funny and intelligent, but the dark side was terrifying! If anyone is struggling with a narcissistic psychopath, I pray you will find a safe and quick exit from your relationship. Life has not been easy or perfect since leaving that relationship, but I have my peace and sanity back and I have hope that I will meet someone who I can truly connect with instead of someone who is manipulating my affections and my mind to their own end.
finally someone who isnt stupid and actually helpful
Knowledge truly is power
I really love you. Thank you for your guidance!
i am so grateful for all your amazing work. your books are gems on my shelf.
I love this, thank you Dr Northrup.
Dissonance can also be caused by fears or limiting beliefs that have been taught to you. For example: you take courage and grab the opportunity to get up on stage and talk about how you feel about something. That's a good thing right?! I would think so.
But your fears will tell you you've no right! To just shut up and not seek attention.
And that causes dissonance because there's a conflict in your head
wow this is a big ah-ha for me
Thank you Dr N, more great info! :)
Wonderful as always, thank you. 💚🙏🌺🌺🌺🌺
Very good video, great info. Thank you!
Thank you
39 years with a narcicisst
This was very well done, succinct.
Very helpful, thank you.
Thank you !
Great video thank you 👌
Such a beautiful soul!
This was really helpful
I did not understand, so what are the ways? To go to therapy? I actually got cognitive dissonance watching this video.
@@leX.No49 What does that suppose to mean?
So when someone is lying and you know it, rebuke them?
Great advice! Better than the ted talks!
Dear Dr. C. Would you please do a video on menopause and HRT? There is so much misunderstood and confusing information out there. Is so scary for a woman to know = should she take Hormones or not. Also, the latest is : if you have a uterus you need to take HRT, 😩really? Is this true? Please 🙏🏻🙏🏻 help with some updated “real” information 😔
very good advice
Informative. This generation solves the problem by rejecting God. But the conscience is wired on good. So they drink. Or drug.
Justifying behavior is really lying to yourself.
umm ya know...just...Peter Joseph.
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3:46 misandry.
Sexist comment about 'him' being a narcissist, but okay, I guess this is a "women's" channel. Otherwise, intriguing concept. Any inner moral or values conflict could be c.d.
As you may understood from the video, energy vampires are not welcome here. Bye bye!
Toxic ppl have more issues with cogn diss themselves than all other ppl
They would say exactly the same of their victims being toxic troubled by cogn diss, as that is what they must thrive on doing themselves to inflate their self worth image
One can recognize toxic ppl best by their voice tone. As they seek control, their voice is intended to express authority. Does this ring a bell?