I’m so sorry that happened to you Lindsey 😢 that was awful to go through, don’t beat yourself up for mentally shutting down and not being able to fight him. That’s a very human response to extremely stressful situations like that
Damn, I’m a 6’ dude and I’ve compartmentalized something similar to Lindsey’s elevator event. I was about 20, and looking for a job so I interviewed at this restaurant. The interviewer was some older dude and he was hyping me up like I had this job and I was exactly what he was looking for. He then proceeded to give me a tour of the restaurant, it was basically a giant maze and we end up in a wine cellar of sorts and he changes his whole demeanor and starts touching me and talking about how I needed to convince him how much I needed the job while undoing his belt. I barely knew how to get out of there but I somehow found my way out and he then tried to gaslight me through text message that I was leading him on and I wasn’t in a position to accuse him of anything. I didn’t even know how to deal with it, and I was so grossed out I just blocked his number, deleted the messages and just ignored it. When Lindsey broke down, I remembered how awful it felt, I hadn’t thought about it in years. Thanks for sharing that and I’m sorry you went through it, I can’t imagine the dynamic of not being able to physically overpower the abuser which is what gave me the confidence to get out of there.
@@CM-pf1xcThanks for saying that. I think I downplayed how shameful it felt at the time, as until this day, I haven’t shared that with anyone close to me. I felt like people would make fun of me for not physically assaulting him. In retrospect, I can see he abused his power and put me in a situation where I was in an unfamiliar place with no one else that I saw in the restaurant where any kind of altercation would be unwitnessed and it would be my word against his. I even blamed myself, because while we were in that cellar he told me I looked strong enough to carry the cases of wine and I was eager to prove I was an asset that I picked up a case and joked that I was basically superman and that’s when his attitude changed. That’s what led me to not even consider reporting it. I’m only really writing this out because I feel semi anonymous.
To Lindsey, I want you to know that the moment in the elevator was your survival instinct and I want you to know that even tho it felt degrading, you were naturally keeping yourself alive. I love you and you do LOVE yourself. I definitely resonate with that and you are def not alone. Unfortunately we all go thru this bs just to keep the peace but glad the times have changed where we are somewhat protected more but not really. We’re moving the needle.
Learning more about what Lindsey went through actually is heartbreaking. But I love how strong she is in her truths and faults, we’re all only human man. My heart goes out to anyone going through it
@@Robert-tl3eb I always thought they just werent as close as her and Devon for obvious reasons and the podcast just helped them get back to being more than just acquaintances. The time gap between the show and the podcast felt very obvious with them, and honestly the same goes with her and Devon, I feel like Lindsey wasn't as crazy as she was towards the beginning of the podcast but now she's super open with both of them.
I truly appreciate that you guys don’t shy away from the hard subjects. And Thank you Daniel and Devon for validating Lindsey, and giving her the space to share, uninterrupted. So many women have similar experiences and hearing Lindsey so able to share is really empowering. Thank you.
Right..she makes the show hilarious & interesting wit her antics,etc.love her and all of them, they all have such awesome chemistry as a whole together..
Spoilers: there is no update on the reboot and this was clickbait. Only mention of it was Devon saying "I wish we had an adult reboot to cover these topics"
S/o to Lindsey she’s such a beautiful soul this podcast has really become therapy for me and a lot of others that struggle to find that outlet. You guys could’ve easily made this an all jokes podcast but I genuinely tune in expecting to hear good and serious conversations about life. No other podcast rn is diving into the seriousness of just everyday life or the daily bullshit everybody goes thru. Thank you guys for creating a space of openness and honesty
I love Lindsey so much. I haven’t been to therapy or been diagnosed but feel that I have BPD based on the diagnosis criteria, symptoms, and hearing people’s personal experiences-her vulnerability and the stories she shares are so powerful and help me to know I’m not the only person that feels that way. I’d love to have a bestie like her! ❤
I love how you guys are talking about energies, wym hoff breathing, just life in general. This podcast is healing me and validating me in so many ways. 🙏🏼🙏🏼 healing child me and validating adult me. 2024 I am being more mindful in what I buy, consume, watch, support. You guys are definitely in my frequency and I’m rooting for you all, thank you for being real
i was litterally at a bonfire yesterday with friends and they mentioned you guys and it was just crazy to me how so many people love this podcast as much as i do. you guys are great i hope this pod continues for a long time.
Thank you, Lindsey for being vulnerable and sharing the elevator story. I'm so sorry you had that experience. "Fight, flight, freeze" was mentioned a lot, but I think another common natural response in scary/uncomfortable situations is to "appease." We try to avoid conflict and/or disapproval to please the threat, even at our own expense. I've always been a people-pleaser and tried to always avoid conflict. I especially worry *so* much about hurting someone's feelings or causing someone temporary embarrassment, despite the misery and regret I know I will fear. I've gotten much better at not feeding that "appease" response, but it's hard to completely override it altogether. I'm sure many viewers here can relate. And to all of you, I hope you're able to overcome that response in future stressful situations. YOUR needs are more important than pleasing someone that is making you feel uncomfortable, scared, or stressed.❤
Thank you guys for just sitting with us and being vulnerable sometimes hearing somebody else just speak out their emotions instead of thinking it all out makes me realize how much stress I’ve probably been sitting with, I love waking up to new podcasts ❤😂
This is the episode and content I never know I needed. Thank you all for healing my past trauma and self and saying things that I didn’t even know I needed to hear. Truly. ❤❤❤
Dont comment often, but the recurrent nightmares section got me. I been struggling with recurring nightmares for years and never really get to talk to people who can relate. Was nice to hear it explored as a group
That "disappointment over not speaking truth to power" conversation was so thoughtful. Nothing as major as the stories Lindsey and Devon shared, but I've been in some situations where I heard something problematic being said and didn't speak out against it because I didn't wanna create conflict. Particularly in my early 20s, when I was even more introverted and shy. But I still sometimes feel disappointed when I think back on not speaking up. Sometimes that "survival instinct" makes us conflict avoidant. I can only imagine if it's your male boss forcing himself on you. So sorry you had to go through that, Lindsey. Respect for sharing your story.
I really appreciate Lindsey being comfortable enough to share her experience. Not many people talk about those situations and it’s a very real thing women deal with. And it sucks because outside of the situation you think what you want to do differently. But in the situation you can’t think. You’re just trying to keep yourself as safe as possible and sometimes that safety is dissociation. Or doing what you think someone wants despite it not being what you want.
Lindsey is literally the best energy. shes such a good friend, she deserves the best.and what a beautful woman. she deserves someone who loves her and doesnt wanna change her. devon really missed out lolol
I just wanna give a big hug to Lindsey - that assault story was so heartbreaking...! 💝 When you're being put in this kind of situation and you feel like you didn't stand up for yourself or block the person off, you are still NOT to blame! The person crossing the line is 100% at fault. And usually they know pretty darn well how and where to operate so that the "victim" has limited to no options of saying something about it or pushing them off. It's horrible how most women have to deal with this stuff, sometimes on a regular basis. You are so strong girl, don't ever blame yourself for what happened ❤
18 minutes in and oh man, this is my favorite one yet!! The discussion about physical practice as life practice and ways to manage stress and build health is so great!
Lindsey! About your harassment story and how you felt like you gave into a response you didn't want to, you said "what do I do to get myself out of the situation", it was a survival response and you survived ❤
42:10 Lindsey, thank you for sharing your story. It’s disturbing that so many women including myself have had to endure sexual abuse from horrible disgusting individuals. Work place harassment is so uncomfortable, especially when the harasser is your boss. ❤
I always appreciate Lindsey’s honesty and vulnerability. It takes so much bravery to speak your truth in a public space and I truly admire her for it! And Devon and Daniel are so supportive and to see men empathize with a woman’s experiences is so refreshing! This is why I love this pod!
Never thought as a child getting abused, I would grow up to hear one of my favorite casts talking about the abuse. Thank you Lindsey for sharing your story and thank you Dev and Daniel for being allies 🖤 yall have no idea how much healing it gave my heart to hear this pod today. Love yall, thank for being there in my childhood and my adulthood. We gettin through this thing together 🤝
Lindsey, please please please do not blame yourself for what happened or how you responded. In our lizard brains, in our instincts, the number one voice is usually "how do i survive this". Not "how do i get out of this with dignity" or "how do i make all the bad stuff stop" but "how do i survive this" which is often just complying. It is not a decision of dignity or personhood but purely of what is the shortest path to survival. So so many of us experience freeze response in those situations and then shame and blame ourselves for it (not least because others shame and blame us) when in reality the likelihood of it having gone differently is so so low.
Lindsay reminds me so much of one of my ex's who had these manic states where her brain was always jumping from idea but Lindsay is so much more pleasant than she ever was 😅
Did you guys know there's a principle reaction channel where he analyzes how accurate your show was? Maybe one day you could have him on your podcast (Edit) can you guys please like this so maybe they can see it.
The way I feel about yoga is that it’s a time to let your mind, body and soul have a conversation. Each of those things are separate but connected and it’s important to let all 3 aspects of the self check in with each other. That’s why treating it like a traditional western workout is so hard: it’s not meant to be an itinerary, it’s a journey.
I hate that so many of us know what Lindsey is talking about. It’s a gross feeling, scaring, and it’s so uniquely painful. I’m happy you opened up about this and glad you have safe people to be vulnerable with to help you heal.
Lindsey talking about being sexually harassed hit major home for me. Things like that happened on a regular basis to me in my younger days and those moments are buried so deep in my brain and still, even now, come up at different times in my life and manifest in various different ways. You really hit home, Lindsey, and the shame is just so tangible and overwhelming, it just encompasses me. Thank you for just being so real and so honest in your most horrific moment. I really feel for you and understand exactly where you're coming from and I am here for you, seriously. Love you all so much, both for your raunchiness (LMAO) and for your authenticity. xoxoxoxox
I worked at a restaurant for 3 years it was a hole in the wall but known by many celebrities from the state I live in. The owner was an older man in his 70s wellllllll respected. He would grab different body parts when you’d walk by him, he came into the bathroom when I was in there one day and felt me up while I pushed myself against the wall wanting to crawl out of my skin until he said “I’m just kidding” and walked out, he pulled my pants down in the kitchen ( my underwear came with them) in front of my sister (who was also assaulted by him many times as she worked for him well before me) but at the time we were homeless and we were trying so hard to just make money so we could get a place to live and it was looked at as such an “honor” to work there that no one said anything and had we would anyone even believe us? I know for sure we weren’t his first victims and I’m sure we won’t be the last! I just adore you and your rawness Lindsey thank you for opening the door to these conversations!❤️
Lindsey! Sweetie don’t feel any shame towards that! We women only react in ways we feel will keep us alive aka fight or flight mode! You did what you felt necessary! I love and support you and your story helped a lot of us who have felt shame for the same reason!🫶🏻
Sorry you went through that Lindsay. Thats unacceptable. Great episode guys y’all rock. I also never dream after i take an edible so it’s nice not to have nightmares that way. And agree with work friend relationships.. i love the people i work with but nothing really flourishes beyond that unfortunately.
Sometimes we don’t realize the trauma of an event until much later. And for people who haven’t experienced such things, it’s so easy for them to conclude it’s YOUR fault for not “doing something” about it. That’s in itself is a disgusting and shameful way of thinking and lacks nuance and empathy.
Daniel, you are so right. Cleaning that dish is apart of eating, or cooking. If you don’t clean the dish, you didn’t fish the task at all!! I have to say though I’m the worst at this. I have never been able to clean it that day. I think it’s because my mom always left the dishes for me to do at home whenever I felt like it since it was “my chore” but nobody else ever did it. You reminded me I need to rewire how I approach cooking and eating. I thought about it because of this realization but never put it in to correct action and I’m going to starting today!
But maybe I can do it after eating since that’s apart of cooking, and it will give me extra energy before I sleep instead of feeling sleepy after I eat!
Devon, you chose to be an active bystander. We want more folks like you to be empowered to say/do something instead of not doing anything. You also did it safely with your friend. There are many strategies to help others (direct, distract, delegate, document, and/or delay) and safety should always be considered ❤
I was raised extremely religious and sheltered. I was *barely* allowed to watch Nickelodeon as a kid. So I barely got to watch Ned’s. But I loved it. Getting to watch this pod as an adult isn’t just fun as an adult, but does something for the poor sheltered kid in me. Thanks yall 🎉
What Lindsey said about the elevator situation was so real and it’s so sad that victims feel like they have to make the perpetrator feel like what they did was okay out of being SCARED. it’s been afraid of what could happen next and this was such a real revelation that people have to deal with every single day and it’s so unfortunate :(
Lindsey… thank you for sharing your story! I went through something similar ugh i teared with you 😢 women have to navigate through such unfair uncomfortable situations and I just commend you for sharing… you are so strong, and literally f*** that guy. I hope he literally dissolves
Gotta say y’all never miss! Best convos while I’m working !! Thanks for keeping me entertained 🔥🔥🔥 hurry up and come to San Francisco for the live pod!! I got some high quality herb for u
listen i be lit but no cap, i had to double check if i was literally tripping the first 2 mins😂😂😂 Yall mad chill and i watch alot but havent commented but thank you for being yall, truley a real and honest group of homies😌👌
Hello friends, it's been so many years since I saw them, I'm a fan of Ned's manual and just a few days ago I finished watching the complete series again, I mean that they haven't changed much, physically, I'm from Mexico and if I was surprised to find them, I send greetings and I hope they continue with this project. Cheers to Moze😍.
31 minutes, i might be in before one of them says this, but there are psychological theories that we have more nightmares when we feel like we're in physically/emotionally/socially safe places in our lives, which allows our unconscious to go to those dark dream places for processing. But her Dev dream sounds like her unconscious feeling like he is continuing to reject her even though he's cordial and warm to her in real life. Which seems to track. If they're not playing up their natural chemistry for the pod, he's definitely the one who is why they havent tried again.
OMG Lindsey, I also have reoccurring nightmares almost every night in the same places, and one of them is an airport! I also have BPD, PTSD, and past substance abuse issues so maybe it’s from a combo of any of that 29:05
Who else is here looking for answers after that *IG post* ? 😂🙋🏾♂️
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Meeeee 😅✨
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I love how Lindsey is so honeet and open about her life she is amazing person and i hope she get complete mental physically spiritual healing
You didn't notice the fact that she was cracked out? She's back on drugs and it hurts to watch
@@degreaseLLCwhat makes you think that?
@@degreaseLLCNo she fucken isn’t
Some people have ADHD or anxiety or are just naturally anxious or bouncy you don’t need to be high to do what she’s doing @@degreaseLLC
@@degreaseLLCI don't believe that for a second
Daniel be so slick with his stuff 😂😂😂 "I'm in those organs"
I’m so sorry that happened to you Lindsey 😢 that was awful to go through, don’t beat yourself up for mentally shutting down and not being able to fight him. That’s a very human response to extremely stressful situations like that
Damn, I’m a 6’ dude and I’ve compartmentalized something similar to Lindsey’s elevator event. I was about 20, and looking for a job so I interviewed at this restaurant. The interviewer was some older dude and he was hyping me up like I had this job and I was exactly what he was looking for. He then proceeded to give me a tour of the restaurant, it was basically a giant maze and we end up in a wine cellar of sorts and he changes his whole demeanor and starts touching me and talking about how I needed to convince him how much I needed the job while undoing his belt. I barely knew how to get out of there but I somehow found my way out and he then tried to gaslight me through text message that I was leading him on and I wasn’t in a position to accuse him of anything. I didn’t even know how to deal with it, and I was so grossed out I just blocked his number, deleted the messages and just ignored it. When Lindsey broke down, I remembered how awful it felt, I hadn’t thought about it in years. Thanks for sharing that and I’m sorry you went through it, I can’t imagine the dynamic of not being able to physically overpower the abuser which is what gave me the confidence to get out of there.
I’m sooo sorry that happened
@@CM-pf1xcThanks for saying that. I think I downplayed how shameful it felt at the time, as until this day, I haven’t shared that with anyone close to me. I felt like people would make fun of me for not physically assaulting him. In retrospect, I can see he abused his power and put me in a situation where I was in an unfamiliar place with no one else that I saw in the restaurant where any kind of altercation would be unwitnessed and it would be my word against his. I even blamed myself, because while we were in that cellar he told me I looked strong enough to carry the cases of wine and I was eager to prove I was an asset that I picked up a case and joked that I was basically superman and that’s when his attitude changed. That’s what led me to not even consider reporting it.
I’m only really writing this out because I feel semi anonymous.
To Lindsey, I want you to know that the moment in the elevator was your survival instinct and I want you to know that even tho it felt degrading, you were naturally keeping yourself alive. I love you and you do LOVE yourself. I definitely resonate with that and you are def not alone. Unfortunately we all go thru this bs just to keep the peace but glad the times have changed where we are somewhat protected more but not really. We’re moving the needle.
Learning more about what Lindsey went through actually is heartbreaking. But I love how strong she is in her truths and faults, we’re all only human man. My heart goes out to anyone going through it
we love you Lindsey, you're a warrior
It’s amazing to see how comfortable they’ve gotten with each other compared to episode 1. 😂
I think cookie and moze had some un resolved issues but worked through it
I was just thinking that. There were definitely social speed bumps
@@Robert-tl3eb I always thought they just werent as close as her and Devon for obvious reasons and the podcast just helped them get back to being more than just acquaintances. The time gap between the show and the podcast felt very obvious with them, and honestly the same goes with her and Devon, I feel like Lindsey wasn't as crazy as she was towards the beginning of the podcast but now she's super open with both of them.
Well they are resolving and rebuilding on/off camera
I truly appreciate that you guys don’t shy away from the hard subjects. And Thank you Daniel and Devon for validating Lindsey, and giving her the space to share, uninterrupted. So many women have similar experiences and hearing Lindsey so able to share is really empowering. Thank you.
Lindsay always says something profound that really connects w/ me, I really look forward to listening to her speak each episode 🫶🏻
same
Right..she makes the show hilarious & interesting wit her antics,etc.love her and all of them, they all have such awesome chemistry as a whole together..
Spoilers: there is no update on the reboot and this was clickbait. Only mention of it was Devon saying "I wish we had an adult reboot to cover these topics"
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Cool I thought so I finished and was like did I tune it out or something
The click bait is getting ridiculous. Makes them seem like clout chasers when they don’t need to be.
I love how happy they all look doing this podcast together. It’s so refreshing! I love this for them!
S/o to Lindsey she’s such a beautiful soul this podcast has really become therapy for me and a lot of others that struggle to find that outlet. You guys could’ve easily made this an all jokes podcast but I genuinely tune in expecting to hear good and serious conversations about life. No other podcast rn is diving into the seriousness of just everyday life or the daily bullshit everybody goes thru. Thank you guys for creating a space of openness and honesty
My heart really goes out the Lindsey man. You are such an amazing person and thank you for your openness and vulnerability.
Lindsey always plays dumber than she is. When she gets on one she shines. She is actually brilliant.
Lmfaooo "im in those organs."
"Are u taking about Ronald reagan eating the brains of those monkey's??"
Daniel please😂😂😂
_"Balance is a process, not a destination."_
_-May_
I love Lindsey so much. I haven’t been to therapy or been diagnosed but feel that I have BPD based on the diagnosis criteria, symptoms, and hearing people’s personal experiences-her vulnerability and the stories she shares are so powerful and help me to know I’m not the only person that feels that way. I’d love to have a bestie like her! ❤
I love how you guys are talking about energies, wym hoff breathing, just life in general. This podcast is healing me and validating me in so many ways. 🙏🏼🙏🏼 healing child me and validating adult me. 2024 I am being more mindful in what I buy, consume, watch, support. You guys are definitely in my frequency and I’m rooting for you all, thank you for being real
2:33 “Knowledge is in my head that I’ve never sought out” 😅 I’m right there with you Lindsay 😅
I think a school reunion special would do this series justice better than a full reboot but that's just my opinion! Love you guys
i was litterally at a bonfire yesterday with friends and they mentioned you guys and it was just crazy to me how so many people love this podcast as much as i do. you guys are great i hope this pod continues for a long time.
That story that Lindsey shared was so sad and disheartening.
Oh so like every story she tells on every episode ?
@@Waytoochildish yuck, bro, I guess if you feel that way...
Thank you, Lindsey for being vulnerable and sharing the elevator story. I'm so sorry you had that experience. "Fight, flight, freeze" was mentioned a lot, but I think another common natural response in scary/uncomfortable situations is to "appease." We try to avoid conflict and/or disapproval to please the threat, even at our own expense.
I've always been a people-pleaser and tried to always avoid conflict. I especially worry *so* much about hurting someone's feelings or causing someone temporary embarrassment, despite the misery and regret I know I will fear. I've gotten much better at not feeding that "appease" response, but it's hard to completely override it altogether.
I'm sure many viewers here can relate. And to all of you, I hope you're able to overcome that response in future stressful situations. YOUR needs are more important than pleasing someone that is making you feel uncomfortable, scared, or stressed.❤
"I'm IN those organs" DANIEL! 💀😭
These episodes have been getting wilder & wilder and im all here for it😅😅😅
Thank you guys for just sitting with us and being vulnerable sometimes hearing somebody else just speak out their emotions instead of thinking it all out makes me realize how much stress I’ve probably been sitting with, I love waking up to new podcasts ❤😂
I love all 3 of your energy and chemistry together ❤ it makes the show so much better
This is the episode and content I never know I needed. Thank you all for healing my past trauma and self and saying things that I didn’t even know I needed to hear. Truly. ❤❤❤
Dont comment often, but the recurrent nightmares section got me. I been struggling with recurring nightmares for years and never really get to talk to people who can relate. Was nice to hear it explored as a group
That "disappointment over not speaking truth to power" conversation was so thoughtful. Nothing as major as the stories Lindsey and Devon shared, but I've been in some situations where I heard something problematic being said and didn't speak out against it because I didn't wanna create conflict. Particularly in my early 20s, when I was even more introverted and shy. But I still sometimes feel disappointed when I think back on not speaking up.
Sometimes that "survival instinct" makes us conflict avoidant. I can only imagine if it's your male boss forcing himself on you. So sorry you had to go through that, Lindsey. Respect for sharing your story.
I really appreciate Lindsey being comfortable enough to share her experience. Not many people talk about those situations and it’s a very real thing women deal with. And it sucks because outside of the situation you think what you want to do differently. But in the situation you can’t think. You’re just trying to keep yourself as safe as possible and sometimes that safety is dissociation. Or doing what you think someone wants despite it not being what you want.
What they have is so special ❤ I loved watching/hearing them supporting each other in such a lovely and respectful manner.
Lindsey is literally the best energy. shes such a good friend, she deserves the best.and what a beautful woman. she deserves someone who loves her and doesnt wanna change her. devon really missed out lolol
Thank you guys, your podcast has been healing in more ways than one.
I just wanna give a big hug to Lindsey - that assault story was so heartbreaking...! 💝 When you're being put in this kind of situation and you feel like you didn't stand up for yourself or block the person off, you are still NOT to blame! The person crossing the line is 100% at fault. And usually they know pretty darn well how and where to operate so that the "victim" has limited to no options of saying something about it or pushing them off. It's horrible how most women have to deal with this stuff, sometimes on a regular basis. You are so strong girl, don't ever blame yourself for what happened ❤
18 minutes in and oh man, this is my favorite one yet!! The discussion about physical practice as life practice and ways to manage stress and build health is so great!
Adult survival guide would be so good. Would be a certified hood classic.
Lindsey! About your harassment story and how you felt like you gave into a response you didn't want to, you said "what do I do to get myself out of the situation", it was a survival response and you survived ❤
42:10 Lindsey, thank you for sharing your story. It’s disturbing that so many women including myself have had to endure sexual abuse from horrible disgusting individuals.
Work place harassment is so uncomfortable, especially when the harasser is your boss.
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I always appreciate Lindsey’s honesty and vulnerability. It takes so much bravery to speak your truth in a public space and I truly admire her for it! And Devon and Daniel are so supportive and to see men empathize with a woman’s experiences is so refreshing! This is why I love this pod!
Never thought as a child getting abused, I would grow up to hear one of my favorite casts talking about the abuse. Thank you Lindsey for sharing your story and thank you Dev and Daniel for being allies 🖤 yall have no idea how much healing it gave my heart to hear this pod today. Love yall, thank for being there in my childhood and my adulthood. We gettin through this thing together 🤝
literally everything is on topic to what i’ve been on the past 24 hours lmao, love this
Looking dapper, Daniel 🔥✨
Obligatory "Damn Daniel" comment
Hey pod! I just restored a 1970s black and white tv and this vid is the first thing to play on it in decades. :)
he's probably just getting ready to play cowboy cookie again
Lindsey, please please please do not blame yourself for what happened or how you responded. In our lizard brains, in our instincts, the number one voice is usually "how do i survive this". Not "how do i get out of this with dignity" or "how do i make all the bad stuff stop" but "how do i survive this" which is often just complying. It is not a decision of dignity or personhood but purely of what is the shortest path to survival.
So so many of us experience freeze response in those situations and then shame and blame ourselves for it (not least because others shame and blame us) when in reality the likelihood of it having gone differently is so so low.
Lindsey, you're so strong. We women understand you so well. I wanna hug you because you didn't deserve that, no one does :(
Lindsay reminds me so much of one of my ex's who had these manic states where her brain was always jumping from idea but Lindsay is so much more pleasant than she ever was 😅
Love you Lindsey ❤ thanks for being yourself and being so open ❤
They don’t talk about the IG post
Did you guys know there's a principle reaction channel where he analyzes how accurate your show was? Maybe one day you could have him on your podcast
(Edit) can you guys please like this so maybe they can see it.
Yes I hope they see this
I have gone through situations like that so many times. It's very traumatic I love you Lindsay ❤❤❤ thank you for sharing
Wait. Where was the reboot update?
Definitely a misleading title!
The way I feel about yoga is that it’s a time to let your mind, body and soul have a conversation. Each of those things are separate but connected and it’s important to let all 3 aspects of the self check in with each other. That’s why treating it like a traditional western workout is so hard: it’s not meant to be an itinerary, it’s a journey.
Thank you guys for always being so real.
Lindsey is the best 😂 just randomly bringing up organ grinders
I'm sorry that you went throught that Lindsay thank you for sharing your experience and being so open about it
Lindsey a warrior with all she been through and still standing, she’s a real life superhero
BEST PART OF MY WEEK! U THREE R WONDERFUL!
I hate that so many of us know what Lindsey is talking about. It’s a gross feeling, scaring, and it’s so uniquely painful.
I’m happy you opened up about this and glad you have safe people to be vulnerable with to help you heal.
The ending tips were everything!!! Thank you
Lindsey talking about being sexually harassed hit major home for me. Things like that happened on a regular basis to me in my younger days and those moments are buried so deep in my brain and still, even now, come up at different times in my life and manifest in various different ways. You really hit home, Lindsey, and the shame is just so tangible and overwhelming, it just encompasses me. Thank you for just being so real and so honest in your most horrific moment. I really feel for you and understand exactly where you're coming from and I am here for you, seriously. Love you all so much, both for your raunchiness (LMAO) and for your authenticity. xoxoxoxox
I worked at a restaurant for 3 years it was a hole in the wall but known by many celebrities from the state I live in. The owner was an older man in his 70s wellllllll respected. He would grab different body parts when you’d walk by him, he came into the bathroom when I was in there one day and felt me up while I pushed myself against the wall wanting to crawl out of my skin until he said “I’m just kidding” and walked out, he pulled my pants down in the kitchen ( my underwear came with them) in front of my sister (who was also assaulted by him many times as she worked for him well before me) but at the time we were homeless and we were trying so hard to just make money so we could get a place to live and it was looked at as such an “honor” to work there that no one said anything and had we would anyone even believe us? I know for sure we weren’t his first victims and I’m sure we won’t be the last! I just adore you and your rawness Lindsey thank you for opening the door to these conversations!❤️
The "To be my friend, is to know boundaries" line and then Lindsey crying, actually had me chuckle out loud.
Lindsey! Sweetie don’t feel any shame towards that! We women only react in ways we feel will keep us alive aka fight or flight mode! You did what you felt necessary! I love and support you and your story helped a lot of us who have felt shame for the same reason!🫶🏻
Damn these episodes be rollercoasters man...
Cookie always had style
Now that's a show I would love to see get a reboot
Did I miss something I spaced a couple of times, but I don't remember hearing them say anything about the reboot lmao
They mentioned it briefly, saying that they need the reboot because they could discuss what it’s like living with your friends/having roommates
Sorry you went through that Lindsay. Thats unacceptable. Great episode guys y’all rock. I also never dream after i take an edible so it’s nice not to have nightmares that way. And agree with work friend relationships.. i love the people i work with but nothing really flourishes beyond that unfortunately.
I religiously look forward to Wednesdays because of y’all. But REBOOT ANSWERS!! We need🙏🏼
random comment but i still go back to the episode with Theo to hear Devon and Theo's song it so gas
Sometimes we don’t realize the trauma of an event until much later. And for people who haven’t experienced such things, it’s so easy for them to conclude it’s YOUR fault for not “doing something” about it. That’s in itself is a disgusting and shameful way of thinking and lacks nuance and empathy.
This is so true
Totally agree w Linds I have wanted to do that brain scan so badly genuinely feel like there’s a mountain of trauma on the side of my brain 😂😂😂
Devin at 2:05 is exactly where my head was because where did this come from but look at Lindsay with random facts I can definitely related
So glad I found this pod! ❤
I’ve often thought about matter over mind before, so glad Lindsey has made that connection as well!
Daniel, you are so right. Cleaning that dish is apart of eating, or cooking. If you don’t clean the dish, you didn’t fish the task at all!! I have to say though I’m the worst at this. I have never been able to clean it that day. I think it’s because my mom always left the dishes for me to do at home whenever I felt like it since it was “my chore” but nobody else ever did it. You reminded me I need to rewire how I approach cooking and eating. I thought about it because of this realization but never put it in to correct action and I’m going to starting today!
I WILL starting today!
But maybe I can do it after eating since that’s apart of cooking, and it will give me extra energy before I sleep instead of feeling sleepy after I eat!
Devon, you chose to be an active bystander. We want more folks like you to be empowered to say/do something instead of not doing anything. You also did it safely with your friend. There are many strategies to help others (direct, distract, delegate, document, and/or delay) and safety should always be considered ❤
Lindsey is EFFING HILARIOUS! 😂
Dreams you can control and are aware you're dreaming are just as tiring. Being a very light sleeper you rarely wake up rested.
I was raised extremely religious and sheltered. I was *barely* allowed to watch Nickelodeon as a kid. So I barely got to watch Ned’s. But I loved it. Getting to watch this pod as an adult isn’t just fun as an adult, but does something for the poor sheltered kid in me. Thanks yall 🎉
Linds as someone who has terrible trauma dreams as well you can get medication to suppress nightmares
I absolutely love Lindsey ❤ love her energy she is amazing!
Hi guys!!! It’s always good to see you guys ❤❤❤❤❤ love you guys so much
What Lindsey said about the elevator situation was so real and it’s so sad that victims feel like they have to make the perpetrator feel like what they did was okay out of being SCARED. it’s been afraid of what could happen next and this was such a real revelation that people have to deal with every single day and it’s so unfortunate :(
Lindsey… thank you for sharing your story! I went through something similar ugh i teared with you 😢 women have to navigate through such unfair uncomfortable situations and I just commend you for sharing… you are so strong, and literally f*** that guy. I hope he literally dissolves
Gotta say y’all never miss! Best convos while I’m working !! Thanks for keeping me entertained 🔥🔥🔥 hurry up and come to San Francisco for the live pod!! I got some high quality herb for u
listen i be lit but no cap, i had to double check if i was literally tripping the first 2 mins😂😂😂 Yall mad chill and i watch alot but havent commented but thank you for being yall, truley a real and honest group of homies😌👌
this is the episode i’m on n gotta catch up, damn
I love Lindsey's genuine personality with the quirky n weird traits in her dreams n nightmares are interesting to me
Hello friends, it's been so many years since I saw them, I'm a fan of Ned's manual and just a few days ago I finished watching the complete series again, I mean that they haven't changed much, physically, I'm from Mexico and if I was surprised to find them, I send greetings and I hope they continue with this project. Cheers to Moze😍.
In Wisconsin you make close relationships with the local kwik trip workers 😊
31 minutes, i might be in before one of them says this, but there are psychological theories that we have more nightmares when we feel like we're in physically/emotionally/socially safe places in our lives, which allows our unconscious to go to those dark dream places for processing.
But her Dev dream sounds like her unconscious feeling like he is continuing to reject her even though he's cordial and warm to her in real life. Which seems to track. If they're not playing up their natural chemistry for the pod, he's definitely the one who is why they havent tried again.
OMG Lindsey, I also have reoccurring nightmares almost every night in the same places, and one of them is an airport! I also have BPD, PTSD, and past substance abuse issues so maybe it’s from a combo of any of that 29:05
Best three some podcast out there 😂😂❤❤
Lindsey explaining demisexual and I resonate SO MUCH
Starting my work day off right 🔥