My Husband's Ex-Wife Is Demanding $20,000!
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Why does a billionaires daughter want a measly 20k ?
something else is going on !
And why do they have one child and not the other ? And why isn’t the mother paying child support for the child that she doesn’t have custody of ?
This is a mess
Monique Sinned they don’t. They have to pay the guardian ad litem. Has nothing to do with the case specifically. But as long as the case continues they have to keep paying.
Darksydesamy
I listened to it again .
You are correct .
It’s still a sad situation .
The daughter has a lawyer liar saying what to do.
It sounds like they accused the mom of being an addict. They put a guardian to keep an eye on the kids. Its not the mom wanting money. Its the guardian.
There are pushing him out
I once dated a man with an ex-wife and 2 children. Then I wised up. Too messy, too much drama. Single and [very] happy now!
I did try to make it work but he wouldn’t man up and stop the drama with his ex. He was always trying to make her happy and complying with her demands to avoid going back to court. And the kids were wild, zero discipline from both parents.
I understand some blended families work and applaud them. It wasn’t my case.
Hahahaha! I hear you. I would date a man with children but that's because I have kids. When I didnt have children... no way!!! It is a lot of drama and kids cost a lost of money.
@@samanthasmiles9112 that's why where are no good men they all been taken for a ride
Imagine for a moment- being the guy! And women wonder “ where all the good guys (that marry) have gone? No sane and sensible man would ever marry these days.
I have children myself but they are teens. I dated someone with kids under ten and the ex’s were nuts. The drama was over the top. Eventually I figured I was happy with only guys with no kids or with teens or better. Worked out much better!
As a divorced guy with two kids I have found single moms are always trying to latch on to someone but almost all women tell me "I ain't raising someone else's kids". After 3 years of separation & 2 years divorced I totally get it. My ex starts something all the time. I don't even want the drama, there is no way I would invite another woman into the drama. I say never marry , stay single & learn to be happy & content on your own. To bad there is so much division between the sexes but divorce destroys so much it really is not worth it any more.
There are ALOT of people in this marriage :
Husband, wife, kids, ex-wife,, her parents, judge, lawyer (s)
Mediator... third lawyer.
I’d never let my money go to some guy’s ex wife. No thanks. No guy is worth that.
This is why when I was a young gal that I wouldn't have married a man with children. I was too selfish and knew it. Just in that I didn't want to share my life in a blended family type of situation and all the nonsense that goes on with that.
You're right. You're selfish and everyone knows it.
I saw many women on match boldly stating the same thing. Yet a single man is expected to "step up" and accept a single mother as a package deal. Double standard per usual.
@@mikec.4343 Completely on the money!
@@mikec.4343 - No. I would give the same advice to a man: run in the opposite direction, as fast as you can!
Why is the wife calling in🤔🤔 girl this is not your fight. He needs to be the one calling. Sounds like the wife is taking this on more than he is. Run girl 🏃♀️
And she even makes 25k more a year than he does
Yep.
They are married. Its THEIR fight now
Why on earth would you marry someone with all of this baby momma/baby daddy drama? She sounds like a sweet woman, but goodness. This is just sad. Should've listened to her gut and not her heart.
Yess
Naw she sounds like she wears the 👖 in the relationship but slowly has found out she better find a 👗🥴
The sad reality is that she should not have married this guy.
That too.
He messed his life up, why is this sad? Surrender the kids and move.
Yep.
But he's so hot!
Women always pick the worst guys. Always
Following this channel for a while something's becoming evident... children are tax deductions while married, financial wedges during the breakup, and tools of revenge once divorced, but seldom children as God intended.
This doesn't make sense...her current husband isn't telling her everything. How you make a household income of 120,000 a year and you can't afford a lawyer. They have other debts they are not disclosing. There are lawyers out there that work on pro-bono or on a retainer if they look hard enough.
JunkFood Vegan probably up to their eyeballs in debt.
JunkFood Vegan 120 is not that much money. Lawyers are really really expensive.
120k is not that much in Miami
120k is poverty in California
He only makes 4k per month; she states that explicitly- they keep their finances separate and he is required to keep his other child they do have in private school as part of the custody deal which is likely a few thousand per month as well.
The judge is ordering a mid 40k parent to pay for private school? This story does not add up in so many places.
It's common in PA.
He's married so I'm wondering if they counted her wages too. 🧐 Or if he used to make more so they based things like the private school on past income.
@@jessicaolson490 she was the female so she probably asked for it and granted it, women have a heuge bias in their favor when it comes to divorce and family courts
@@dogguy8603 And especially one with 3 attorneys! She (her parents) paid in, they are always going to get preferential treatment over someone who cannot buy a lawyer.
You pay for aleast half of school
$10,000 dollars a month income and can't afford a lawyer?
you can't win against a billionair parent. they higher a better judge
My wife and I make $8250 a month and we can’t afford an attorney.
Lawyers are like 300 and hour plus retainer
You missed key notes there.
They live in miami
The kid HAS to go to private school
The guardian fee
The grandparents are RICH
Lawyers are expensive.
Not hard to understand why they can’t afford a lawyer if you listen
I make $2-3k a month and I have an attorney currently I pay monthly. Most attorney's will bill you what you can afford monthly. Otherwise ditch them.
Either the ex is trying to get back at him or hes not telling her everything.
The ex’s parents want the kids.
I'm wondering if the last caller's husband married her and her $6000 a month to pay off HIS child legal problems?? The ex wife is punishing not only the ex husband but the new wife.
A mess she got in to with that man sad.
The sad part about this is that you need to pay a lawyer in order to have a reasonable discussion in court.... crazy.
No you dont. Youvcan represent yourself, you just not likely to win.
@@fauxbro1983 ..... which is why you need to pay a lawyer
Divorce him, it’s a huge mess
Never marry someone who's ex is after them for child or spousal support!!
You sound like a selfish POS who doesn't deserve a mate who has any true grit.
Well, he might have enough money to pay it.
Amen!
Never get married under any circumstances, especially men.
@@Jemgirly ive had to go to court with my ex on multiple occasions and honestly I wouldn't get married until my kids are over 18. Its unnecessary stress on the marriage because of someone trying to be petty and going after the one thing they can go after
This is why I was unwilling to marry a man with young children, esp. one who was involved in conflict with ex wife, young children etc...
Most people don't have billionaire exes with a drug problem and issues with co-parenting.
I don’t date men with messy ex spouse drama. I simply won’t. I realize not everyone is able to have a healthy coparent situation for reasons beyond their control but it’s not a situation I would want to involve myself or my daughter in.
I am going through this now. Dave doesn’t understand the custody battles. My ex can bring me to court as often as she wants, I ran out of money to afford a lawyer meanwhile her dad was fronting her lawyer bill. Once I ran out of money I couldn’t afford my lawyer and we went to court yet again. She had a lawyer and I did not. I lost because of it. This will continue this way until my youngest is 18 years old. 8 years of this, a marriage is hard pressed to survive this long drawn out process. Courts do not care, meanwhile your debt continues to grow. Only two options and this point give up your kids and wait until they are 18 to have a relationship with them again or continue to let the debt grow.
I worked with a woman who was making $50,000 a year. She married a pilot who was paying child support to two kids. which totaled $4000 a month. She was very 'not bright' and he was very bright to marry someone who would pay his child support for him.
i'm 100% agree with Dave. i feel sorry for you Candace, i have no idea how you decided to involve in this situation.
Almost every clip from this channel reminds me why I shouldn't get married.
QuintBlitz and to not have kids
QuintBlitz or why you should be wise in who you marry and then take divorce out of the equation. Marriage was not meant to hop in and out based on your happiness levels.
Yes, the caller should have said, "Good luck with aaalll THAT!" to that guy.
True.
Exactly. Yeah, I know Ramsey is a Christian that believes in marriage. However, allow me to make a recommendation to ALL the men that follow this channel: D Ramsey is an excellent financial advisor. Very smart, but simply uses common sense. When it comes to the financial aspect...his advice is pretty spot on. NOW, when it comes to the marriage piece, MEN DISREGARD IT! DON'T EVEN entertain the idea. Protect yourselves. Enjoy women, but DON'T sign ANY legal documents with them! Merry Xmas folks.
You really need a lawyer, if you don’t get one she will just automatically when whatever she demands. If I was you the kids come first then the house and then a lawyer.
Well the lawyer would come first in order to protect those other two.
@@michaelweyenberg6238Yep. I hate debt, but they can’t win against three lawyers. They badly need one.
Never marry someone with baggage
What if you meet them at an airport?
@@heff434😂😂😂😅😅😅
@@heff434maybe they should’ve thought about that before they did what they did.
Her parents are billionaires...? That’s quite a steep statement
Is there any follow up to see how this turned out? I'd like to know what they did and what was the result?
today: Im a happy single gal.. doin my thing.
Right there with you...I absolutely LOVE being single! This channel just confirms that...
Same sis.
Most men agree with you ladies. Cheers.
@Dawn Hammons why not be single? Are you miserable ?
The lawyers are doing it on purpose
Yup, they are conspiring with the guardian ad litum, taking advantage of them because they have no attorney
Lawfare
This is why I didn't date men with children when I was single.
😂
I’ve never been married, don’t have children and have not heard of this type of situation. But, it makes one wonder about the legal system. As I’ve often thought, it’s more legal, than moral.
Why I am still single with no debt
A GAL should have a set fee, typically less than 5k. Why on earth has its gotten up to 20k each side? There is something really shady going on here.
I'm late to the party but holy heck yeah. Midwest and my GAL was 500 total, one time fee. 250 compared to ongoing 20,000+? Something is wrong.
Maybe something to do with the people being mega rich.
Well, thank you for convincing me not to have anymore kids .....
The words you say when you know you made a mistake. My husband's ex-wife.
Pieces of this story don’t add up. Smh.
CyberShinobi there has to be a lot more to this story...
This is depressing she is a grown adult got herself into a mess and is playing victim..
Hjb Productions how is she playing victim? They are fighting rich people.
And yet Dave wonders why people sign a slip that doesn't entitle them to half your share if divorce happens.
Making $10,000 and you can't afford an attorney?
There are parts of this story that were either left out or are lies. Something is wrong here......
Wendy Ward USN/ Combat RN she is the current wife who has her own biases.
Yeah they are fighting very rich people.
I doubt it. It’s called lawfare.
Agreed. They don't know what the other side wants???
I once dated a man who had...a 5 year old daughter...who had no discipline...breaking my things on weekends....and so...I stopped. I said adios...bye bye.
Good move!!!! Well done!!!
Good for you. Single dads will waste your life.
Deborah Oconnell 😂
I went through a situation like this last year. We terminated my now daughter’s biological father’s rights. The guardian ad litem was over $3k and our lawyer cost about $15K. The bio fathers lawyer was court appointed. And kept ordering a continuance. It was frustrating, but it’s worth it. Trust me.
Completely agree with Dave on this one! My ex with a rich daddy used the courts to try and break me to give up my kids.
If you can’t afford them you shouldn’t have custody
@dcg590 - Not being able to afford back-breaking legal costs is not at all the same thing as not being able to afford to support your kids.
Never mess with rich people.
Man o man. What a sticky situation. Gotta lawyer up
Why should they have to pay if they're the ones with custody of one of the kids?
Ma’am....no offense, but why did you choose this man? My advice is to run for your life.
I said exactly the same thing. Run for your life baby girl.
xSalamz And it’s telling that her husband isn’t the one on the phone with Dave seeking advice. I hope she wakes up before it’s too late. I’ve seen situations like this before. They never end well.
L V right?!? What is she thinking? Never. Ever.
SBF News And it’s this kind of thinking or lack thereof that can ruin your life, your future, and your finances. Does this young lady sound happy to you? She sounds absolutely distraught and filled with anxiety. I believe in creating my own baggage with a partner who matches and responsibly managing that baggage in an efficient goal oriented way. Not go around and try to play clean up woman to somebody else’s mess. Life is about choices. You can choose unnecessary struggle love and live in somebody else’s misery if you want to. Knock yourself out buddy. My mother who is a bible reading and praying woman always told me to make sure when I choose someone to marry, to make sure we are equally yoked. I would never pick someone with a metric ton of baggage as compared to my 2 pounds of baggage. There ain’t a thing superficial about this approach to choosing a partner. You feel free to choose people using whatever criteria YOU use. If that includes legal cases, 5 kids, a drug addict ex, and mountains of debt......I want you to love your decision? Okay? I like employing common sense and peace in my life too much to ever settle for such chaos. Life is hard enough as it is.
Her husband is probably not allowed to talk about the case openly while his wife is under no such order. Besides she loves this man and I am guessing his kids too, she just wants the stupid court battle to be over even if it means they don't get to spend time with the daughter.
This is why you don't get involved with single parents...especially if you aren't a single parent.
Exactly
Her parents are billionaires? I smell bs
Get a divorce. He can declare bankruptcy. You can live together until after the kids turn 18. Then remarry if you want. Harsh, but likely the better advice than what you were given. These types of marriages are not healthy.
best advice, but need to be carefull, separate quarters, otherwise they will consider you cohabitors.....but you are so right
Only downside to that is he wants his kids and filing bankruptcy will show that hes not financially stable and they give the mother custody
Did she say they couldn't afford a lawyer but was on 10k per month?
Or with 120k income, buckle down and hire a lawyer
Family court should allow juries
Some states do.
Those numbers are not adding up at all. 8k after paying the guardian and they can't live off that?!
Lawyer up!!!
These people who keep saying how can they not afford to hire a lawyer have clearly never hired a lawyer before. At 300 an hour plus retainer of 5 to 10k or more! A couple phone calls, an email or two, and an actual court appearance... bam $10,000
Daily reminder: Don't get married. Don't take on someone with kids. Simple.
I agree 100%.never marry someone with kids.those kids will never accept you especially boys.they will disrespect you if they are teenagers.
If you want to marry find someone without kid or stay single.
Wrong. Don't get divorced.
@@jimroscovius And that's not your call-----hasn't been for some time. Google, "no-fault divorce" and get back to me.
@@soonerdave01 Fix marriages, don't end them.
@@jimroscoviusThere is nothing you can do to fix a marriage, if the other person insists on leaving. Even if you never did anything objectively wrong to cause the marriage to fail, there is nothing you can do to prevent divorce. There is no burden on the plaintiff to prove the respondent culpable of failing the marriage.
How can they not afford a lawyer !!!!!!!
Never marry someone with baggage. Never.
Unless u love being a victim.
10k a month and can't afford an attorney.....what the heck?
Watch the video and shush answers are there lol
@@kimmyymmikWhat are these answers, pray?
Family court is a Racket .
How could you think you could go against 3 divorce lawyers and win? They are definitely a good investment when dealing with the worst type of people.
Why hire an attorney when you can just call Dave? 🤔
Best money I ever spent was on a divorce attorney.
20k in debt to *prevent* 200k in debt, answer... duh! GET. A. MEAN. LAWYER.
The daughter of billionaires was married and had two kids with a guy who doesn't have money? He didn't think he'd be taken to the cleaners and lose the kids eventually here? smh. Sad but we make choices and have to live with them.
Why would he? Whether the ex is a billionaire or a regular person she would still win the divorce.
He probably piggy backed while they were together
how can you not afford an attorney when you have a 10k income?
Harut II Gevorgyan listen to the caller! My lord! People don’t listen
Wow ..starting her marriage off with his debt because of another marriage....F**k that, I can do bad on my own.
Geez, what was he thinking getting married again before he got the problems solved with the first🙄🤔
Can't win a legal battle against a billionaire, and can't defend yourself without an attorney.
The judge will always decide for the woman, this is why if you got more than an nickel in your pocket.. you should NOT get married..
The ex-wife isn't demanding $20,000 the court is ordering them to pay a third party the $20,000 they owe the third party. The ex-wife is irrelevant in this!
Very true. They would be appealing the verdict, not trying to sue the ex or whatever. Atleast the ex is paying the fair share. Billionaire parents and drug addiction or not. She found a way to pay.
Exactly. Why do people think that they can just not pay for their child if they are divorced? You have to pay. Job or no job. If I lose my income, I cant just stop feeding my child.
Finally someone here with common sense, this caller is clueless
Samantha Smiles
The thing is though, courts order Child support way above what is needed.
And most “mothers” do not use the money on the child, but on themselves.
It does not cost 1k a month to care for 1 kid, or even 2.
Its called child support, not support your spouses lifestyle.
Thats Alimony, which I also (mostly) disagree with.
The only exception to Alimony, should be if one parent stayed at home with the child, and the other worked, and supported them, Alimony should only be paid out until all the children are 5 years of age, which then allows the mother to work. It is stupidity that courts make a person pay to the tune of a lifestyle, that is ludicrous.
I could easily feed kids, clothe them, for less than 100$ a week.
The courts always take men for a ride.
Kay this isn’t even about child support. This is about paying for very expensive legal representation for the child (aka guardian ad litum) for a court case the ex has no interest in ending.
Run girl run!
If people know the ex is an addict, then why is it so difficult to get custody? Find the proof you need and present it to the judge.
A lot of states allow minors to choose which parent they want to live with as long as the child is a certain age. The age is different in each state.
This has nothing to do with the ex wife. The judge always makes the biological parents split the fees of a guardian ad litem. Just because you split up doesn't mean you get to opt our of paying for your child.
Hire a PI to follow the addict ex around while she cruises to get her fix and take photos. Problem solved.
hire? what part of "we don't any money" does that fall into?
Been there, done that. Trust me and find the money. Spend 3K to save 20K+.
Also, if the mother's family has the kind of the money this lady's talking about, she's not cruising for her stuff, she's getting it delivered. This might be one of those "you can't fight city hall" situations. You gotta know when to cut your losses. Getting an attorney, maybe even a pro bono one, or speaking with the GAL are the best bets.
Cuz god forbid you claim hardship to the Court and they ask for your records and see you hired a PI instead of paying the GAL, your goose is cooked.
As a divorced dad with four kids I'd say these two shouldn't be married. He shouldn't have brought her into this mess, and she shouldn't have signed up for it. Divorce can be very complicated and there's no way to get rid of the ex, especially when you have kids. The ex will always be there no matter what you do.
Why on Earth did you marry this man?
Before marriage, look up courts of equity and no fault divorce. This is why America is such a mess with marriages now. Better to get married in the Philippines where divorce is illegal.
And be careful if you marry the child of a billionaire. 😱😭😬
Guardianship can be an abusive curse. Guardians bankrupted my neighbor's mother leaving less than zero to the four kids. The Guardian was appointed because the youngest daughter - a drug addict - moved in with the mom and was spending her money without authorization. This is what the court did - and it was worse.
Why would you marry someone like that woman? Exactly why I will never marry a man who is divorced. So much baggage.
As you get older there are fewer women who are not divorced.
🙌🏽 I feel the exact same way about women with children, ugh! Way too much baggage!!!!
Unfortunately, the ones with the money have the power. Her mistake was to marry a man with children. She's paying for it now.
Don’t be surprised if the ex pushes for full custody and takes the kids
Their decision to not get a lawyer has cost them dearly. They also need to agree on how far this will go. It may be a losing battle. Sometimes you have to let it go. But get a lawyer first.
She won't want to sit down and show them the budget there gonna say you make 120 a year lol
I think there must be something wrong with me. I would probably abandon civilized solutions to this problem.
Billionaires you say ?
You appeal it and hire a lawyer.
tie it up in appeals as big business does. it's at least some protection of contempt from our unconstitutional family court judges.
Did I watch a different video from everyone else? The ex-wife, attorneys, and judge are all irrelevant here. The ex paid her court-mandated obligation to the guardian ad litem. It's the husband that's refusing to pay his half and seems thinks his ex should be forced to foot the bill because she has wealthy parents. The judge rightfully struck down that nonsense and reiterated that yes, the husband still needs to pay his agreed-upon half to the guardian ad litem.
Do more than read the video title.
You were watching the correct video.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to cry uncle and let it go. Even custody. Or your life will be destroyed.
Wait ,so this man marries a woman with parents who are billionaires and he is poor making a mere 4000/month?!? If course he will loose either way. He’s done! Woman, please leave this man. Leave him and mind your own business. You do not need this stress Candice! Leave him! And men.. just don’t get married!
Wrong. Don't get divorced.
SoCalDreamer oh my😂😂😂😂😂
maybe thats why he married her....
Jim Roscovius the only way to not get divorced is to not get married
J. B212 but that’s what the Ex wants, she wants him to be miserable because she is miserable! No. Don’t leave, fight the battle, even David killed Goliath
MORAL OF THE STORY:
Never poke a billionaires daughter 🤷♂️
He didn’t poke her he impregnated her twice
Omg, why is the husband putting his poor wife through this? Why is she contributing her money towards his custody battle? Men need to make peace with their baggage and not drag it into new marriages. If they want any peace at all and the mother is ruled fit by a judge they should concede to the mom. These are always losing battles and it’s the new wife who suffers...
Dave is right, if you don't pay in (have an attorney), you get trampled. Doesn't matter if you are wrong or right.
No Guardian ad Litem HAS EVER had a fiduciary responsibility to anyone other than the person they represent and the most definitely WILL NOT offer advice that cuts their profit! WAKE UP.
Oh my goodness. I see why ppl d9nt wanna get messed up with people with children.
They make $10000 a month and can't afford an attorney? There is more going on here than meets the eye. I don't think private school is an option if you make 120,000 a year and 60% of that is the new wife's income.
Carla Mountenay the private school is mandatory she said
Any update? I wish we could get updates on these people.
This is what happens when you marry into someone else's problems.
They couldn’t afford NOT having an attorney.
Attorneys can be money grubbers.