Oh I thought these were for the sake of us taking notes so we know what Layna is attracted to. Hearing you laugh is always a big plus though, so please more!
Whether it's listening to horror, watching you pal around with friends or just showcasing your taste in "memes" more Layna is always welcome. Buuuuuuurp
Same. I'm about the same height and feel like my giant self sat on a train would look like a gibbly movie scene since that guy had to duck his head to get on.
That snowman hat at 1:16 is the type of visual humor that absolutely cracks me up. There's one rather serious thing I need to mention though that's… fairly sensitive, and has a very lengthy explanation required (for which I apologize in advance). I do feel like it's important, to be this thorough though. (Still sorry if it's a bit much). The clip at 3:15 is _exactly how that type of abuse _*_actually_*_ occurs._ I feel like it's important to call out, because that's honestly just, _"I decided I'm going to start abusing you in a way no one takes seriously."_ which is also exactly how abusers actually do that to people they're in relationships with. Normalizing abuse as benign is critical for abusers, because whenever the damage gets severe they'll be able reframe their victims' uncommonly stressed retaliatory reactions _from_ that constant overlooked abuse as being an unprovoked source of abusive behaviour. That means abusers can continue their normalized abuse and always get protected from any consequences of that, while also taking away helping resources from their victim by flipping the abuse narrative around on their victim for being crazy and unstable. The term "gaslighting" is a specific type of psychological abuse that's insidious & _monstrously damaging_ to victims exposed to it. It's night & day different from fooling, joking, messing with, tricking, lying, deceiving, trolling, pranking, or bending the truth in ways that aren't a repetitive simple lie that causes that type of damage to another person. I can't overstate how damaging it is using "gaslighting" in a non-serious context, as it's important to have that term be taken just as seriously and differently for a psychological behaviour as "rape" is for distinguishing that act from any other type of sexual activity. Framing "gaslighting" as being no different from a joke and just a minor thing to ignore also makes it VASTLY more difficult for those victims to escape their circumstances. It is reinforcing gaslighting by proxy of making it seem like everyone else agrees with the abuser's perspective by default. Victims constantly don't know how to reach out for help without being dismissed like they're just confused & worried about something inconsequential. That's even more likely to occur when others are primed not to take gaslighting seriously and are used to seeing it like it's just a punchline. Because the brain treats significant others or those in a close relationship as an exception to how it activates its fear response, it's MUCH easier for someone you trust to cause that damage than for a stranger to do it. The more often it happens, especially from a trusted partner, the more damage that generates in the certainty of the victim's baseline for a safe, expected normal from simple everyday things. _It causes harm regardless of how seriously the person doing it takes that act._ *_Doing exactly what you see in that clip repetitively is literally gaslighting, and will cause that type of damage._* If a victim can't trust a small & insignificant thing like what someone just said, their brain will automatically start to have diminished confidence in their ability to correctly assess bigger and more complex things - even when they've never been given reason to directly doubt anything else. This is even true if you objectively know what's happening, because the damage is from repetitive exposure to something obvious inexplicably having an inconsistent result. The amygdala will build up a recognition to that stimuli being unpredictable and start to trigger a stress response when it happens. That will gradually make it even harder to think clearly, because the amygdala interrupts signals from the prefrontal cortex, which does logically objective processing. This makes it doubly difficult to think clearly, and makes victims more likely to experience growing extreme stress responses the longer it goes on. It's even more insidious because the brain naturally obsesses on unexpected patterns like that, and the prefrontal cortex is also what controls those obsessive impulses. This is why gambling is addictive and any inconsistent reward is a key dynamic for controlling abusive behaviour. It's just about how your brain works. In gaslighting, that inconsistent relief is tied to trust & mental stability in a significant other who also causes the stress. That dependency dynamic is why it gets rapidly difficult to exit abusive relationships in general for reasons abused individuals don't understand. Gaslighting adds the element of not trusting yourself to reach out about it, and doubting anyone will take it seriously _no matter how certain you are or how overwhelmingly objectively obvious it is._ That's why it STILL undermines self-confidence _even if you objectively understand what's happening to you,_ because it's all about those patterns building up over time. Intent doesn't prevent that from causing damage if you're constantly exposed to it, _so you can't do it jokingly because it's an abusive pattern._ It's like how objectively understanding your arm being set on fire can't do anything to prevent it from being burned, so long as it remains in those circumstances. If you just try to treat it like it's not as serious as it is, it will just let that damage build up until it breaks something, potentially even permanently. Victims get left in a position to _constantly_ feel like they're over-explaining something simple that doesn't merit doing it at all. When they get the courage to explain, they can't help but give exhaustive detail (like I'm doing now). It's so that they're not misunderstood or dismissed because they expect to be missing a small detail - even when they shouldn't. For context: In my last relationship, I knew things were getting bad and figured it was sufficient to understand it to be able to not be affected by it. It wasn't. I continually read descriptions about psychological abuse for months published across multiple resources to keep track of what I knew I was experiencing, because I could check it off of lists. Even KNOWING that _everything_ listed in all of those resources about gaslighting was what I was experiencing… I still didn't have the ability to even attempt to talk to anyone about it while it happened. I didn't even manage to verbally bring it up at all until over a full year after that situation had completely ended, and I recovered. It never made a difference how objectively certain I was, because it interferes with that part of your brain working the way it should. That's how much it will wreck your ability to trust yourself for things that are _overwhelmingly simple and obvious, and you think you'd do without a moment's hesitation._ Even years later, my brain still always expects to get a dismissive or completely invalidating response that totally undermines the most simple things. That's _because those programmed patterns are now an accurate response to the potential of that type of abuse._ It's exhausting. Especially because there's no obvious threat like with physical or sexual abuse, it's easy to overlook gaslighting or not understand WHY it's so different and dangerous. I don't want to blame or make anyone feel bad, I just want to explain so that you have a better understanding going forward. That's why I wanted to tl;dr all the specifics, as it's important to reiterate that joking about behaviour will psychologically disconnect from the severity of it in a public context. The term "gaslighting" suddenly getting tossed around everywhere a couple years back is why I've never felt confident talking about it. Any time I get uncomfortable seeing eerily accurate "joking" recreations of that abuse it's near-impossible to talk about that seriously, because it's also instantly an environment where I can't expect to be taken seriously - which is what happens to victims anyway. It being used as a joke means my experiences and concerns are bringing down the mood being an overreaction even if they're justified, so I usually can't even if I would. That's different with you & your community, as it's never had that discomfort for being able to talk about something important if it warranted it. It's why that particular clip unexpectedly blindsided me when I saw it, but also why I felt it was necessary to say something, since anyone who was in a position like I was likely wouldn't be able to even if they felt like they HAD to. I really don't want anyone to feel bad, but just need people to be more informed, since that's the only way I know how to turn my experience into a collective positive. Thanks ta anyone who read this, and thanks for sharing the funny things, Layna. The snowman hat and Tui & Tyr going nuts in the background is still cracking me up and made writing this a lot easier. I find your TikToks hilarious which is why I figured it was ok to address the one tiny outlier as it's VERY much an isolated exception to the whole of the experience of those streams or these curated RUclips clips. ❤️
@@its_renren7292 tl;dr is that using the term "gaslighting" when you mean "non-abusive deception" is massively detrimental for reasons that require a _lot_ of context on what that type of abuse is to clearly explain.
One of our cats lost her hearing about a year ago and it's been pretty much that every day. Demonic screaming for attention outside my bedroom door, then a soft "mow" when she sees me. She also seems to have lost the ability to remember where I was seconds ago, and will run back up to my room to scream for me. Losing hearing must have taken some object permanence with it. It probably wasn't the best move to effectively train her to expect that I'll eventually come over to give hugs and scritches if she's demands it, might have been less screaming in general, but what else could I do? _Not_ give hugs and scritches?
It is so funny that there is a tiktok about being 190 cm in Japan and being "very big", because I am 190 cm and I have short complex from having lived in Germany near the Netherlands, and having had officemates who were 195-205 cm. These people would be actual giants in Japan then.
Wait, the dude was only 190cm (about 6'3") but looked like he was dwarfing every one and thing around him. Either some camera trickery or someone reported his height wrong. I'm 6'5", and I'm afraid I'd cause a panic taking a trip to japan!
I just want to humbly state, as is dictated by intergalactic law, that I have not seen that outtro screen before, and sure, I may be gynephillic, so my love for women is strong, but as a lady myself, it made me uncontrollably say "Mommy" but not in a normal voice, for some reason my brain chose the voice of Yoda for this occassion, and I just needed to get that off my chest so I can live in peace.
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Oh I thought these were for the sake of us taking notes so we know what Layna is attracted to. Hearing you laugh is always a big plus though, so please more!
Isn’t she still married? I know she _had_ a husband from years ago but I don’t think I’ve heard she wasn’t with him anymore.
Whether it's listening to horror, watching you pal around with friends or just showcasing your taste in "memes" more Layna is always welcome.
Buuuuuuurp
I enjoy these type of videos for some reason. Keep up the great content and keep being awesome
3:42 i feel like layna and snuffy would be an interesting colab
7:03 Heh, I'm 195cm tall. I almost want to go to Japan just to see how many doors I would need to duck through.
Same. I'm about the same height and feel like my giant self sat on a train would look like a gibbly movie scene since that guy had to duck his head to get on.
6:44 I was like "wow, he's tall!" and a few seconds later I went "wait, I'm that tall..."
yes, I just woke up...
I kinda want there to be a compilation of the dogs making background noise now
That snowman hat at 1:16 is the type of visual humor that absolutely cracks me up.
There's one rather serious thing I need to mention though that's… fairly sensitive, and has a very lengthy explanation required (for which I apologize in advance). I do feel like it's important, to be this thorough though.
(Still sorry if it's a bit much).
The clip at 3:15 is _exactly how that type of abuse _*_actually_*_ occurs._ I feel like it's important to call out, because that's honestly just, _"I decided I'm going to start abusing you in a way no one takes seriously."_ which is also exactly how abusers actually do that to people they're in relationships with.
Normalizing abuse as benign is critical for abusers, because whenever the damage gets severe they'll be able reframe their victims' uncommonly stressed retaliatory reactions _from_ that constant overlooked abuse as being an unprovoked source of abusive behaviour. That means abusers can continue their normalized abuse and always get protected from any consequences of that, while also taking away helping resources from their victim by flipping the abuse narrative around on their victim for being crazy and unstable.
The term "gaslighting" is a specific type of psychological abuse that's insidious & _monstrously damaging_ to victims exposed to it. It's night & day different from fooling, joking, messing with, tricking, lying, deceiving, trolling, pranking, or bending the truth in ways that aren't a repetitive simple lie that causes that type of damage to another person. I can't overstate how damaging it is using "gaslighting" in a non-serious context, as it's important to have that term be taken just as seriously and differently for a psychological behaviour as "rape" is for distinguishing that act from any other type of sexual activity.
Framing "gaslighting" as being no different from a joke and just a minor thing to ignore also makes it VASTLY more difficult for those victims to escape their circumstances. It is reinforcing gaslighting by proxy of making it seem like everyone else agrees with the abuser's perspective by default. Victims constantly don't know how to reach out for help without being dismissed like they're just confused & worried about something inconsequential. That's even more likely to occur when others are primed not to take gaslighting seriously and are used to seeing it like it's just a punchline.
Because the brain treats significant others or those in a close relationship as an exception to how it activates its fear response, it's MUCH easier for someone you trust to cause that damage than for a stranger to do it. The more often it happens, especially from a trusted partner, the more damage that generates in the certainty of the victim's baseline for a safe, expected normal from simple everyday things. _It causes harm regardless of how seriously the person doing it takes that act._
*_Doing exactly what you see in that clip repetitively is literally gaslighting, and will cause that type of damage._* If a victim can't trust a small & insignificant thing like what someone just said, their brain will automatically start to have diminished confidence in their ability to correctly assess bigger and more complex things - even when they've never been given reason to directly doubt anything else.
This is even true if you objectively know what's happening, because the damage is from repetitive exposure to something obvious inexplicably having an inconsistent result. The amygdala will build up a recognition to that stimuli being unpredictable and start to trigger a stress response when it happens. That will gradually make it even harder to think clearly, because the amygdala interrupts signals from the prefrontal cortex, which does logically objective processing. This makes it doubly difficult to think clearly, and makes victims more likely to experience growing extreme stress responses the longer it goes on.
It's even more insidious because the brain naturally obsesses on unexpected patterns like that, and the prefrontal cortex is also what controls those obsessive impulses. This is why gambling is addictive and any inconsistent reward is a key dynamic for controlling abusive behaviour. It's just about how your brain works.
In gaslighting, that inconsistent relief is tied to trust & mental stability in a significant other who also causes the stress. That dependency dynamic is why it gets rapidly difficult to exit abusive relationships in general for reasons abused individuals don't understand. Gaslighting adds the element of not trusting yourself to reach out about it, and doubting anyone will take it seriously _no matter how certain you are or how overwhelmingly objectively obvious it is._
That's why it STILL undermines self-confidence _even if you objectively understand what's happening to you,_ because it's all about those patterns building up over time. Intent doesn't prevent that from causing damage if you're constantly exposed to it, _so you can't do it jokingly because it's an abusive pattern._ It's like how objectively understanding your arm being set on fire can't do anything to prevent it from being burned, so long as it remains in those circumstances. If you just try to treat it like it's not as serious as it is, it will just let that damage build up until it breaks something, potentially even permanently.
Victims get left in a position to _constantly_ feel like they're over-explaining something simple that doesn't merit doing it at all. When they get the courage to explain, they can't help but give exhaustive detail (like I'm doing now). It's so that they're not misunderstood or dismissed because they expect to be missing a small detail - even when they shouldn't.
For context: In my last relationship, I knew things were getting bad and figured it was sufficient to understand it to be able to not be affected by it. It wasn't. I continually read descriptions about psychological abuse for months published across multiple resources to keep track of what I knew I was experiencing, because I could check it off of lists.
Even KNOWING that _everything_ listed in all of those resources about gaslighting was what I was experiencing… I still didn't have the ability to even attempt to talk to anyone about it while it happened. I didn't even manage to verbally bring it up at all until over a full year after that situation had completely ended, and I recovered.
It never made a difference how objectively certain I was, because it interferes with that part of your brain working the way it should. That's how much it will wreck your ability to trust yourself for things that are _overwhelmingly simple and obvious, and you think you'd do without a moment's hesitation._
Even years later, my brain still always expects to get a dismissive or completely invalidating response that totally undermines the most simple things. That's _because those programmed patterns are now an accurate response to the potential of that type of abuse._ It's exhausting.
Especially because there's no obvious threat like with physical or sexual abuse, it's easy to overlook gaslighting or not understand WHY it's so different and dangerous. I don't want to blame or make anyone feel bad, I just want to explain so that you have a better understanding going forward.
That's why I wanted to tl;dr all the specifics, as it's important to reiterate that joking about behaviour will psychologically disconnect from the severity of it in a public context. The term "gaslighting" suddenly getting tossed around everywhere a couple years back is why I've never felt confident talking about it. Any time I get uncomfortable seeing eerily accurate "joking" recreations of that abuse it's near-impossible to talk about that seriously, because it's also instantly an environment where I can't expect to be taken seriously - which is what happens to victims anyway. It being used as a joke means my experiences and concerns are bringing down the mood being an overreaction even if they're justified, so I usually can't even if I would.
That's different with you & your community, as it's never had that discomfort for being able to talk about something important if it warranted it. It's why that particular clip unexpectedly blindsided me when I saw it, but also why I felt it was necessary to say something, since anyone who was in a position like I was likely wouldn't be able to even if they felt like they HAD to. I really don't want anyone to feel bad, but just need people to be more informed, since that's the only way I know how to turn my experience into a collective positive.
Thanks ta anyone who read this, and thanks for sharing the funny things, Layna. The snowman hat and Tui & Tyr going nuts in the background is still cracking me up and made writing this a lot easier. I find your TikToks hilarious which is why I figured it was ok to address the one tiny outlier as it's VERY much an isolated exception to the whole of the experience of those streams or these curated RUclips clips. ❤️
Nice bible verse bro
what
@@its_renren7292 tl;dr is that using the term "gaslighting" when you mean "non-abusive deception" is massively detrimental for reasons that require a _lot_ of context on what that type of abuse is to clearly explain.
The thirst for Jim Hopper never fails to build my self-image
Loved the video, also 7/10 burp at the end.
Her reaction to the tall Japanese guy was so priceless!
Hey It's Jordon, if you need fast food secrets? He's your man. 4:22
very gud, more please, Burps.
More plz
Would love to see a sequel to this video
I always look forward to these videos
One of our cats lost her hearing about a year ago and it's been pretty much that every day. Demonic screaming for attention outside my bedroom door, then a soft "mow" when she sees me. She also seems to have lost the ability to remember where I was seconds ago, and will run back up to my room to scream for me. Losing hearing must have taken some object permanence with it.
It probably wasn't the best move to effectively train her to expect that I'll eventually come over to give hugs and scritches if she's demands it, might have been less screaming in general, but what else could I do? _Not_ give hugs and scritches?
"The dogs are barking .Hold on to my furr I like it the dogs are barking "song made by Orange cat
3:45 oh do i miss beau
I would love to see more definetly
WE NEED LONGER VIDEOOS !!! WE NEED MORE CONTENT!! LAYNAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!
It is so funny that there is a tiktok about being 190 cm in Japan and being "very big", because I am 190 cm and I have short complex from having lived in Germany near the Netherlands, and having had officemates who were 195-205 cm. These people would be actual giants in Japan then.
Jokes on you, I don't have any brain cells left.
Need more of this but longer
Always love these!
Keep these videos up!
the end is...le magnifique
That definitely went from 9 to 8 lifes cause of that fan
*me seeing that he’s my height* so you’re telling me there’s a chance!
Wait, the dude was only 190cm (about 6'3") but looked like he was dwarfing every one and thing around him. Either some camera trickery or someone reported his height wrong. I'm 6'5", and I'm afraid I'd cause a panic taking a trip to japan!
The only thing I have to say about this video? Yes.
Oooh very gorgeous avatar ❤
Well, it is only logical, that hot dommy mommy onee-san would love hot tall boys. Pepehands, sadge.
God she keeps on reminding me of grandma
Appreciate you lots layna
certified v i b e s
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I just want to humbly state, as is dictated by intergalactic law, that I have not seen that outtro screen before, and sure, I may be gynephillic, so my love for women is strong, but as a lady myself, it made me uncontrollably say "Mommy" but not in a normal voice, for some reason my brain chose the voice of Yoda for this occassion, and I just needed to get that off my chest so I can live in peace.
This was fun
So we lose our turn with the braincell if we laugh?
Hey I'm blind, can you help me find the cap to my bottle?
It's right there
I'm blind
It's right there
Are you deaf?
She lost herself
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That grandma kinda slays tho😳
Is 190cm tall now?
That is like average here.
Damn, Layna, you stayed up to 3 watching vids? You doing alright? Gotta look after yourself, Lass.
Thoight that japanese guy was like 7 feet tall, hes only 6 foot 2
I don't
Not sure how anyone can find that 'prank' funny...it's mean. They're forcing others to go through pain and loss emotions for their own entertainment.
more pls