Mommas, its gonna be just fine( if you want to go natural) . I urge y'all to watch relaxation videos...the ones that are labor/delivery specific. Watch them over and over until you feel confident with yourself. During the progression of labor, stay in a comfy position. Listen to music, concentrate on your breathing, and close your eyes. When it time to push, set you mind on your contraction, listen to your body and push when the pressure comes. Relax between contractions. You can keep your eyes close if it makes you feel more relaxed. If you feel, at any time, like your falling into panic mode try to think about the result. Its only for a time and with a few more pushed baby will be in your arms. What also helped me was watching home births. I watch how these women worked through the pain and discomfort with the help of their midwives. I used their technique to help me through my delivery. I kind of blocked out my husband and the room filled with nurses and two doctors. It helped me to relax and concentrate on my body and my baby. 😌😌🙂
marsha okhiria this is absolutely the best thing i have read! Thank you for such a motivational and loving post! I hope everyone can take closure from as i did! Before my big day of getting induced
I am in my 36th weeks n i am having issues with my breath. . My whole pregnancy was super smooth without any problem but now i am facing a bit asthma kind of feeling... It blocks my breath for 4-5 mins while sleeping..its really annoying but yeah you're right, I've also watching home birthing videos n it gives me strength for natural delivery.. hope my delivery goes smoothly 😇😇😇
Why the heck did the algorithm recommend this to me?! I have cervical cancer and I need a total hysterectomy. I’m so sad. I don’t have kids, and I guess I never will have natural kids now. To all the moms out there that have been through labor, Gd bless you. I wish I could count myself amongst your ranks, but unfortunately, it seems that Gd has dealt me other cards. Bless you all. To all pregnant ladies out there who are afraid of the pain, just think of people like me who would give anything to be in your place. Safe deliveries to you all 🙏❤️
@@chantelwilliams3543 She said she is getting a hysterectomy. Perhaps you could support her in a different manner, such as wishing her the best of luck beating the cancer & suggesting that she consider going the foster-to-adoption route if she's healthy. God can't give her a child. Let's have some respect for OP & SCIENCE. I know you meant well -- and I'm not trying to be rude -- but using God in an attempt to provide (false) hope is a bit cruel.
37 weeks tomorrow !! Terrified yet excited. Now I’m going to find the breathing techniques. The comments are awesome too! Congrats to all the other moms out there ♥️♥️
I was in utter agony when I was 2cm. The pain didn't get worse I just had shorter breaks between contractions until there were none at all. They tried to send me home. It was agony and more agony. My pain was not believed. It went on for many many hours. I have never felt so helpless, I just couldn't make anyone believe me. I was told to be quiet repeatedly because I was screaming after 4 hours of this... I thought we were both going to die. Then I started bleeding large clots. I was emergency transferred for a c-section. I ended up giving birth vaginally in theatre. I no longer had a sense of being in my own body by this time. My mind just couldn't cope anymore and I wasn't present anymore. Like an observer. I pushed and tore and felt nothing but a slippery sensation when she came out. I thought my baby was dead and I was to follow, and I had accepted that because at least it was over... I have never recovered from the PTSD that followed. Now I'm having a baby 6 years later. If a midwife tells me my pain scale is wrong, she's fucking fired immediately. Believe women.
I feel like I had this intense pain at barely 2-3 cm also. By 4 cm I couldn’t stand it and I had an epidural. I still never dialated any further 😢so off for c-section after 30 hours of torture
I know everyone has probably heard this a million times, but the second you hold your baby for the first time, all that pain and hard work is worth it. The best advice I can give is be aware that it is going to hurt, accept that it’s going to hurt, and focus.
I think I'm opposite most women. Most women I've talked to said pushing was the most painful/uncomfortable part, but for me, it was transition! The pushing was a relief, and I barely even felt the delivery.
sucks! since 31 week I've been in preterm labor. I had polyhydramnosis so I was high risk. the medicine to keep my contractions away made me feel horrible. then I needed to be induced early due to his size. thank God I did cause he ended up getting stuck. But now my little one is one month.
I think using the words “pain” and “hurt” is what actually hurts pregnant women. I’m a dentist and even in dentistry we are taught the power of our words. Told not to use “hurt”, “pain”,”needles”, “blood”, “you may hear breaking” etc- instead you say “pressure”,”intense”, “uncomfortable”, “injection”, “feel a little pinch”, “heme”.”you may hear sounds” and tell them all is ok and normal to experience. If a patient comes in freaking out about the needle or work, I promise you we will have a difficult time numbing them. The brain literally overrides the physiological numbing because they are in heightened awareness, fight or flight. Their brain is saying “pay attention!!!! Protect us!!!”. The same happened in birth. If you’re panicking and saying this is going to “hurt” on a scale of 1-10? You’ll be anticipating that 10. Our minds are as important if not more so in the perception of experiences. I had a non epidural, pitocin induced birth and I cannot lie that was crazy intense- because we forced the baby out. In comparison, i didn’t even realize I was in labor until 2 hours before my son was born. I barely made it to the hospital and walked myself from the car to the third floor and pushed my son out all within 27 minutes of pulling into hospital parking lot. I was not screaming, I was not freaking out. I shuffled quietly in just worried we weren’t even going to make it. They wanted me to fill paperwork out I was so calm 🤣🤣🤣 because they had no idea how close to delivery I was until I dropped the pad to the floor to deal with a contraction. They wheeled me into closest room and I told them I’m pushing and That was that. Birth is not scary. Get your mind around the fact this is the most intuitive and natural thing you’ll ever do and get out of your body’s way. Don’t worry about the pain scale. Time your contractions and once you can’t talk through them anymore and you have to get focused and quiet- head to the hospital
I should mention I did a ton of mental prepping and de-brainwashing myself of birth fear before my second. Read Ina May Gaskins’ guide to childbirth and listen to hundreds of real birth stories on the podcast “the birth hour” to learn as much as you can.
cbrison06 actually I was just checked and it didn't hurt... instead it felt cold. but I'm working with using a method called Xi which is using energy to control pain. I don't know if my body reacted and felt cold from it or if that method actually works. but everyone is different.
The most painful part of labor is that last push when the baby is being pulled out. It literally felt like my soul was being pulled out of my body!! But then I was in heaven when I met my baby girl ❤️
I really appreciate your channel. I have a lot of anxiety and it's helpful for me to watch your videos to remind me of what my doctor said during off hours when I'm unable to call and ask...or just don't want to because I don't want to be "that" mom. :)
I had my daughter without epidural in 6,5 hours without any courses beforehand. Claiming those courses are needed is misleading. If your ancestors could do it, so can you. Don't get anxious - relax and see it as a new adventure/ a new challenge.
i am 22 weeks and i started watching your videos,the are so helpful,it gives me an idea of the outcome,i been trying not to think about the pain,this is my first baby.thank you 😆
I don’t mean to say anything negative, but the way women talk about labor is so nice. They use words like “intense” and “uncomfortable”.... labor is severely painful. Also, dilation doesn’t equate to how much pain you’re in. You can be in extreme pain and only be only 3cm. So I’m glad she straight up said that labor is painful. It is. And I’m glad she talked about control, because you can very easily start to feel out of control. I found myself holding my breath and also hyperventilating because the pain was so extreme. You need a plan for that. I’m glad she was so real about this.
I agree with you. It's like nothing I have ever experienced or can imagine experiencing. I was not adequately prepped, because the language is way too friendly, I was almost climbing walls, and nearly peed on my doula, I lost the plot for like 5 min, and then he was out, the pain was forgotten and he's sleeping on my boob now, I am grateful for the experience, he came at 41 weeks, unmedicated Vbac. He is amazing. The pain was definitely worth it, but it was super excruciating. It's very empowering to say you did it. That being said,
Stop scaring women. I went into a natural no pain relief birth yesterday and everything went well. We are made for this. I didn't do any classes or preparation I just followed my body.
Really glad you had an easy time. I was in excruciating pain right from early labor until my epidural (which I begged for after 30 hours of torture.) I have no idea how women do the whole “change positions” thing, I was in too much pain to even breast let alone move around
They do cervical checks at 38 weeks. And what if you are dilated but don't know it. You could have one of those 'sudden' deliveries on your couch... Hope doctors don't go too far with the check.
The idea of having kids has always been there. The reason I stumbled upon this video is that I'm trying to make sense of how painful it REALLY is to give birth. I have a high pain threshold but the whole process scares me. I have endured a lot of physical pain in my life but I guess childbirth pain isn't easy to explain. I would like to have a kid before 33-34 (I'm 28 now).
My doctor recommended an epidural for my first baby. I tried going natural but he was a large baby and he was facing up. Not breech but face to the sky. His shoulders did become stuck and I majorly hemorrhaged after he was born. Honestly epidural and all I FELT so much pain in that birth. My next two births were wonderful and easy. But to this day I do not regret having an epidural for my first born. I think I would have gone into shock or fainted from that birth if I hadn't had one.
I remember i started with contractions at 2am at 10am went to the hospital was already at 4cm in 3 hours i was already pushing and it was my first pregnancy
I've had five kids. Four natural and one emergency c section. With all five, the afterbirth (placenta) was the most painful and uncomfortable. I think in my mind, I am always thinking after the baby is out it's going to be less painful and then my body almost goes into a painful shock and remember that the pain part is not really over and still need to pass the placenta. Luckily all of mine came out within seconds of the baby. It was actually in me the longest with the c section. lol.
I went from 2-3cm to feeling like baby is gonna drop out in an hour and half and it was painful but manigeble. Pain got immediately lower when I got to pushing. When nurse ran in and I got to push it was 3 pushed and baby was out. I was in a tub and immediately got up with the baby on my chest and walked to bed. The pain stoped as soon as baby was out. I felt so energetic. My labour over all lasted 3 and half hours and the nurse had no idea how the baby came out so fast. Never got the epidural because I wasent "far enough" and "baby is not gonna be here for atleast another 10 hours"
I got an epidural at 9 cm. Didn't feel a thing. I was induced and had contractions for 17 hours, was starved for 2 days, hadnt slept all night, and just had no energy. 2 hours later my son was born. Glad I got the epidural. Total of 19 hours...1st day of induction nothing happened and I was very hungry. All I could have was jello and popsicles.
Anyone pregnant and watching in 2020 am.due in two weeks time and waoo camt wait also trying to prepare this is my #3 vagina birth baby .Wish me luck and good luck to all the Mothers 😍😍😍🤗
i think the cervical checks need to be updated.i went for my 37 week checkup at 2pm .the midwife did a check told me i was 7cm and to go strait to the hospital.i get there and im 3cm and 3 more people checked me.by the time i left at 1am.id dilated to 4,80% effaced they sent me home.i was contracting and highly pissed.
Hi, i was given an epidural at my daughter's birth and right after a few hours when i was 10 centimeters open i got a terrible pain arround my shoulders my neck and my head.. it was so severe that i couldn't lift my head at all.. my lover body was totally numb that i couldn't even move my legs or be able to sit. I went through this terrible pain along with nausea for 10 days.. never going to forget that horrible experience !!
I’m currently 16 weeks. I’m 27 pregnant with my first and I really really really want to give birth naturally. Any encouragement? If I think about it though I get sooooo excited! I once heard my sister in law said “yes it hurts but once it’s over it’s over and you have your baby. It’s all worth it.”
Jessica Michelle labor itself hurts yes but the delivery of the baby (like where the baby comes outta you and slide out) not! I personally prefer natural birth than the epidural one, cause the epidurals after effects isn’t great.
Jessica Michelle to explain exactly how epidural feels, after they administer to you on the back of your spine the anesthesia, your whole abdomen is numbed out to your thighs, there’s just little effort of pushing out and you don’t actually feel the “birthing pain” you would feel the baby coming out but you won’t feel any intensity at all.. but once the anesthesia fades away, that’s when the post-labor/delivery pains occurs, as if the epidural only covers the pains during the delivery time but eventually gets you after. It hurts like hell. This is based on my experience though so I’m sharing it. But yeah, it’s still up to you how you prefer your childbirth 😊😊😊
I had my baby on 15th October, I went from 4cm to 9cm in 30mins, when I got the epidural I was going from 9cm to 10cm, I was in so much pain the only thing that helped me was to have someone I could 'hug'. Pushing was such a challenge, we tried different positions and the one I was more comfortable in was actually laying down on my back.....
I’m also planning all natural. I’m going to try and stay away from Iv drugs as well. And if I feel like I need something I will ask for something really mild. But I wanna bring my baby in the world as natural as possible. And also, I’m not really scared of the pain. I just want to meet him. Go time!!!! Lol i
I love watching her videos. This is my first pregnancy and it's been super helpful to be able to get on RUclips and watch an actual nurse give me the information I need. How bad does labor feel without the epidural? I was really considering a natural child birth and then maybe get some pain meds after the baby is born.. Can I do that? Not a definite decision yet just questions I wanted to get answered. :)
I had epidural with my first baby and the recovering hurts a lot! Not the same for natural birth exactly. I can tell the difference since my subsequent children are delivered naturally without epidural, I’m recovered in a day or two. But my first one it’s almost 3 weeks
I'd like to argue the most painful part of labor is having super fast labor and crowning and they tell you not to push and to wait for the doctor. Every time they told me not to push I could wait only 3 contractions and the baby came out on its own and the ER doctors couldn't even deliver the baby because my body wanted them out NOW! LOL but I have rare precipitous labor with all 3 of my babies and I'm expecting baby #4 in the next few weeks
Jordan Wright same! They checked me and I was 2cm dilated, 45 min later I begged them to check me again and they didn’t believe me that I was ready to push. The doctor checked and the babies head was crowning!!! Fast labor and birth!
I want to know how different it’s going to be from last time. I gave birth to my baby when we were 21 weeks and 2 days. A stillbirth. I was induced and it took around 2 days. It only hurt in the last like 4 hours and the last half an hour was the worst and morphine and a bunch of other stuff didn’t help. I was signing for an epidural right as it changed to back labor pain and had to push. There was only like 15 second breaks where I would pass out from all the medications and come back to for a couple minutes straight of contractions.
I didn't decide unmedicated. I arrived at the hospital 8 cm dilated. Labor was super quick, no time to think. Painful, oh yes, but your body does actually know what its doing.
What happens when you're GBS Positive? When you have to go to the hospital as soon as your water breaks to recieve antibiotics? Will you recieve Pitocin to induce your contractions to go into labor?
With me i had very easy and quick births so i am not a good example. The only time pain was intense was right before the pushing stage. Pushing however is actually not painful at all.
Blazineyesasian I bet you had your baby since it’s rare to have your child after 40 weeks, sorry I didn’t get to you in time! But congrats if you had your child. 🥰
I had neck labor for like 40 hours with my first kid. It was the worse pain I have ever felt and I only dilated 2 cm. After I got my epidural my water broke and my baby went into distress and I had to have an emergency c-section.
Oh please it is nowhere near surgery without anesthesia. It's probably not even the worst pain you can experience. I would compare it to a really bad headache that nails you down to bed and makes you disabled to do anything but think about the pain. The problem with labor is that in the midst of all that pain you have to be composed and highly cooperative, and perform one of the most demanding tasks of your life.
Teodora Miceva that’s not what she’s saying. She’s giving an example of what a pain score of 10 feels like....because people will say they’re a 10 when they’re in early labor at 1-2 cm
That's your experience, I have walked on broken bones after breaking 9 mostly in legs feet and ankles, I had my jaw broken, been stabbed, also 2nd-degree burns from scalding, nothing I repeat NOTHING I have been through is more painful than labour. I would rather have every bone in my body broken than go through 10mins of contractions it was like being tortured in hell the pain was so bad I thought I would die just from the pain that I really wanted to die to just escape the ongoing unbearable torture but it just goes on and on and on until you start to lose your mind, thrashing, vomiting, convulsing, screaming, ripping hair out and banging head violently against the floor you can not pick yourself up from as every nerve in my body is screaming at me as if I was burning in the fiery pits of hell. It was like somebody had thrust big metal hooks through my skin hooking around my lower spine, the front of the pelvis and each side of my hips and during contractions, it felt as if somebody had attached ropes to the hooks and tied those ropes to horses and while the contraction was happening it felt like those horses we being whipped to pull those ropes ripping my spine out of my back while ripping my hips apart with my pelvis. It was like my thigh bones, spine, hips, pelvic bones we being broken over and over and over for hours on end. On top of that was also a feeling as if somebody was thrusting 12-inch kitchen knives into my vagina every 30 seconds for 3 days along with insane cramping pain that felt likey uterus was trying to eat all my organs, my entire abdominal area felt like I had drunk acid and my insides were melting, I couldn't breathe, speak, see, hear or even understand words my world was just pain, I was nothing but pure misery and pain. I would have happily given or done anything to make it stop I did not even care if I or my baby died as long as the pain stopped. The fear, PTSD and shock lead to me becoming suicidal, some women seem to get off lightly and some women it is like living through 3 days of hell from which you will never mentally recover from the trauma of how horrific, terrifying and unbearably painful birth can be for some. Count yourself as lucky.
katie fanning oh my word. That’s sounds horrific. I’m so sorry you went through that. Did you not have access to pain medication? Or did it not work? Are you in therapy now for ptsd? I know there are women who need professional help to deal with birth trauma. Again I’m so sorry. I feel incredibly lucky to have had such a positive experience, myself. I spent my entire pregnancy mentally preparing myself for labor and getting into the necessary mindset for natural birth. I had a midwife who was very supportive and she helped me to not only have belief in myself and my ability to birth my baby, but she instilled in me such a belief in my own body. My body was made for this! From her and also from a very educational childbirth class my husband and I attended, I learned many great coping mechanisms and pain management techniques that proved to be very helpful for me in labor. The use of water (I had a water birth), breathing, focal points, hip squeezes, etc were amazing tools that helped me so much. I also went into the experience with the knowledge and true belief that the pain is not because something is wrong, but rather the pain is an indicator that my body is functioning properly and doing exactly what it needs to be doing. Every contraction was one step closer to meeting my baby, and that could only be perceived as a positive thing in my mind. Your mind is a very powerful thing! I honestly and truly believe that mindset is everything! I’m telling you all this because I want to give you hope that, if you ever have more children, your next experience doesn’t have to be like your first! With the correct education, as much knowledge as you can pack into your brain, an attentive and supportive healthcare provider, and a positive mindset - childbirth can be a positive experience. That’s what I hope for you next time (if there is a next time). All the best, and take care of yourself ❤️
In many countries here in Africa there is no any pain relief when we labour its natural and we give birth everyday I never heard of something called an epidural any where rather than here in internet and still women have 10 kids
What do you do in case the baby is too big and the woman needs a C-section? Or if she gets severe bleeding? Do you have doctors around to help in these life threatening situations? In many countries in Africa they still circumcise little girls. I wonder what your opinion is about that. They cut away her clitoris and lips.
The whole "training for a natural unmedicated labor" bit is BS. I had my 1st son last October and I did a fully unmedicated birth with 0 complications. I had an 8 hour labor start to finish, and the nurses thanked me at the end for being so calm and respectful through the entire process. mind over matter, if you want to do something bad enough, you will. Good luck to all the mamas out there! Remember, you body was literally designed to do this.
Aren’t you just the best mom ever!! So wonderful and humble. Anyway, the leading cause of death for women before modern germ theory was childbirth. All well and good for you if you want to be in pain for no reason, but you don’t get to tell others what is and isn’t needed or useful.
I'm currently 1 month pregnant. I already have my mind set that I want the epidural, but I really would like to know does it really work? Will you still feel the pain of giving birth? Or does it just depend on the person and their pain tolerance?
I think telling women to reevaluate their pain is evil if she is suffering she is suffering and should not be condescended to telling her the agony she is feeling is not real pain. Why do people lie to women about exactly how horrific the pain really is for some women, I considered just killing myself to escape the pain after days of unproductive contractions and being told to relax and breathe because nobody would take how bad I was suffering seriously. The pain was unbearable but everybody just ignored it. I don't have a low pain threshold I have walked on broken bones and had them pushed back into place without any meds to save my foot this is after breaking 9 bones mostly in my legs feet and ankles, I have also on separate occasions had my jaw broken, been stabbed, also 2nd-degree burns from scalding, yet nothing I repeat NOTHING I have been through is more painful than labour I would gladly rather have all those happen at once than go through even an hour of 'early' labour . I would rather have every bone in my body broken than go through 10mins of contractions.... it was like being tortured in hell is the only way I can describe it, the pain was so bad I thought I would die just from the pain, then I really wanted to die to just escape the ongoing unbearable torture that somehow despite it being in almost supernatural levels of agony we didn't know existed it keeps getting worse and worse and it just goes on and on and on until you start to lose your mind, thrashing, vomiting, convulsing, crying, begging, screaming, ripping hair out, losing control of bodily functions and banging head violently against the floor and eventually something snaps in your mind and its like you become so defeated and broken and demented from the pain its like your soul starts to separate from the body so even though you still feel every drawn out second of the agony its like the life inside you has gone elsewhere sort of detached, as every nerve from my breasts down in my body is screaming at me as if I was burning in the fiery pits of hell. It was like somebody had thrust big metal hooks through my skin hooking around my lower spine, the front of the pelvis and each side of my hips and during contractions, it felt as if somebody had attached ropes to the hooks and tied those ropes to horses and while the contraction was happening it felt like those horses we being whipped to pull those ropes ripping my spine out of my back while ripping my hips apart with my pelvis. It was like my thigh bones, spine, hips, pelvic bones we being broken over and over and over for hours on end. On top of that at the same time there was also a feeling as if somebody was thrusting 12-inch kitchen knife into my vagina and anus every and twisting it 30 seconds for 3 days, along with the feeling that my cervix was being constantly priced apart my a metal ring covered in razor blades and heated white hot, along with insane cramping pain that felt likey uterus was trying to eat all my organs, crushing twisting feeling so intense it felt like my body was going through a meat grinder with early contractions, my entire abdominal area felt like I had drunk acid and my insides were melting while being slowly run over by a truck over and over. I couldn't breathe, speak, see, hear or even understand words my world was just pain, I was nothing but pure misery and pain. I would have happily given or done anything to make it stop I did not even care if I or my baby died as long as the pain stopped. The fear, PTSD and shock lead to me becoming suicidal, some women seem to get off lightly and some women it is like living through 3 days of hell from which you will never mentally recover from the trauma of how horrific, terrifying and unbearably painful birth can be for some. Count yourself as lucky if you didn't find it that painful or at least bearable but for some women it can be agonising like the level of pain most women only get for a few mins in transition but all the way through, it's down to nerve distribution, pelvic shape, size and position of baby and if all those go against you then your in for the worst experience you could ever go through without dying and it feels never-ending. Do not belittle or deny pain relief to women in labour who need it at ANY stage if a woman needs it and experiences extream pain before even at 2cm give her sympathy and pain relief because she's not being dramatic and you are causing her suffering that will leave her mentally scarred, being told that's not real pain when you can not cope and that worse is to come so they better just get used to it will terrify and panic the woman, which will increase her stress hormones leading to more pain and complications. The woman will feel distressed and petrified afterwards it will make her feel like a failure and very alone as nobody will help her which will lead to her feeling even more suffering which then leads to negative outcomes for mother and baby. To deny pain relief to women in ANY stage of labour is inhumane if they are suffering and in distress. I hate midwives like that if I was in early labour knowing what I know now and denied pain relief and sent home I would hang myself rather than go through that torture again. Birth pain is no joke and should not be played down conning women into thinking it will all be ok when sometimes it really isn't.
This ⬆️ was exactly my experience as well!! Thank you 👏🏻 👏🏻 I agree 💯 I feel so frustrated, sad, angry, some sort of weird shame, when I hear other women say how easy it was for them, or doctors saying to just adjust your pain scale because for me it was highly traumatic. Being in a hospital probably didn’t help
Labour wasn’t anything I imagined wow it’s intense lol I just had gas and air it was kinda hard worth it but I had to have a cut which was tough seeing as I wasn’t numb but gas and air did help
I'm hoping to do my labour with gas and air! That's weird they didn't give you local anesthesia when they cut you, I thought they always did unless you've already had an epidural.
My first time around i took it like a champ until I'm pretty sure i was in transition after 20sum hours. I would have been alright had I had constant support. I shoulda hired a doula
I was going to get an epidural but apparently I waited too long to go to the baby hospital to deliver it wasn't painful that much to me. All it was was a lot a pressure but no pain really. Yes they did have to put oxygen on me because I did hyperventilate.
having a baby natrually...hmmm o day the worse part is the labor pains...shit goes on for hours..the ring of fire...🔥 ull be feeling burning...now the second part that hurts...is if your baby has been playing on one spot the doctor will rub that one spot to deliver the placenta no lie...i swear they just know where to rub...ehen your already sore...and third...the placenta after dilevering a baby you'll have to do it one more time..just with out the extreme labor pain..it burns after ur ver jay jay in the process of healing
Best thing I was told to remember while in labour; "The pain isn't because I'm hurt, it's just power"
Falon Blystone so true. I told my self what ky body was doing....like.im bring a baby into this world. I am a woman. And I am strong!
I’m pregnant right now and I will definitely remember this when it comes time for my little baby to come into this world.
I'm sorry but that pain really hurts. Not to scare anyone but just get ready for it.
Renette Jones yeah it hurts like a bitch!
Im pregnant with my second currently 36w5d and i have a daughter that turned 1 today!
Love it!
Mommas, its gonna be just fine( if you want to go natural) . I urge y'all to watch relaxation videos...the ones that are labor/delivery specific. Watch them over and over until you feel confident with yourself. During the progression of labor, stay in a comfy position. Listen to music, concentrate on your breathing, and close your eyes. When it time to push, set you mind on your contraction, listen to your body and push when the pressure comes. Relax between contractions. You can keep your eyes close if it makes you feel more relaxed. If you feel, at any time, like your falling into panic mode try to think about the result. Its only for a time and with a few more pushed baby will be in your arms.
What also helped me was watching home births. I watch how these women worked through the pain and discomfort with the help of their midwives. I used their technique to help me through my delivery. I kind of blocked out my husband and the room filled with nurses and two doctors. It helped me to relax and concentrate on my body and my baby. 😌😌🙂
marsha okhiria this is absolutely the best thing i have read! Thank you for such a motivational and loving post! I hope everyone can take closure from as i did! Before my big day of getting induced
Great advice. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks🙏🏻😘
I am in my 36th weeks n i am having issues with my breath. . My whole pregnancy was super smooth without any problem but now i am facing a bit asthma kind of feeling... It blocks my breath for 4-5 mins while sleeping..its really annoying but yeah you're right, I've also watching home birthing videos n it gives me strength for natural delivery.. hope my delivery goes smoothly 😇😇😇
Why the heck did the algorithm recommend this to me?! I have cervical cancer and I need a total hysterectomy. I’m so sad. I don’t have kids, and I guess I never will have natural kids now. To all the moms out there that have been through labor, Gd bless you. I wish I could count myself amongst your ranks, but unfortunately, it seems that Gd has dealt me other cards. Bless you all. To all pregnant ladies out there who are afraid of the pain, just think of people like me who would give anything to be in your place. Safe deliveries to you all 🙏❤️
God bless you! ❤🙏❤
God bless you ❤️❤️❤️
Praying for your miracle ...God bless you
Nothing is impossible with God, praying for you 🙏🙏
@@chantelwilliams3543 She said she is getting a hysterectomy. Perhaps you could support her in a different manner, such as wishing her the best of luck beating the cancer & suggesting that she consider going the foster-to-adoption route if she's healthy. God can't give her a child. Let's have some respect for OP & SCIENCE. I know you meant well -- and I'm not trying to be rude -- but using God in an attempt to provide (false) hope is a bit cruel.
I'm watching this while I'm in labor 😁
Congratulations
I hope you were at a hospital
@@aprilm1427 I was!
@@tsdgee7405 thanks!
37 weeks tomorrow !! Terrified yet excited. Now I’m going to find the breathing techniques. The comments are awesome too! Congrats to all the other moms out there ♥️♥️
I’m 20 weeks and super excited to get to the finish line . I just want my lil human in my arms🤰🏽👶🏽
I was in utter agony when I was 2cm. The pain didn't get worse I just had shorter breaks between contractions until there were none at all. They tried to send me home. It was agony and more agony. My pain was not believed. It went on for many many hours. I have never felt so helpless, I just couldn't make anyone believe me. I was told to be quiet repeatedly because I was screaming after 4 hours of this... I thought we were both going to die. Then I started bleeding large clots. I was emergency transferred for a c-section. I ended up giving birth vaginally in theatre. I no longer had a sense of being in my own body by this time. My mind just couldn't cope anymore and I wasn't present anymore. Like an observer. I pushed and tore and felt nothing but a slippery sensation when she came out. I thought my baby was dead and I was to follow, and I had accepted that because at least it was over... I have never recovered from the PTSD that followed. Now I'm having a baby 6 years later. If a midwife tells me my pain scale is wrong, she's fucking fired immediately. Believe women.
Like an out of body experience?
Gosh that’s so scary no one believed you... I can’t imagine
Holy Shit!!!
Did they ever explain what happened in your case? With the blood clots and what caused this pain at 2cm?
I feel like I had this intense pain at barely 2-3 cm also. By 4 cm I couldn’t stand it and I had an epidural. I still never dialated any further 😢so off for c-section after 30 hours of torture
Not really. They notes said I had a ragged placenta. And a midwife said my placenta was unusually thick.
I know everyone has probably heard this a million times, but the second you hold your baby for the first time, all that pain and hard work is worth it. The best advice I can give is be aware that it is going to hurt, accept that it’s going to hurt, and focus.
This is what my mom said when you see your baby the pain is over.
I think I'm opposite most women. Most women I've talked to said pushing was the most painful/uncomfortable part, but for me, it was transition! The pushing was a relief, and I barely even felt the delivery.
I'm with you!
I totally agree i didn't feel the contractions any longer once i was pushing. Was a total relief
I agree I felt much better when I pushed its like I transferred that pain energy into my muscles to push the baby out.
Absolutely! It felt like I was dying during transition. It was such a panicked rush of adrenaline. The pushing was the easiest part. Such a relief.
I'm three months pregnant water breaks
38 weeks and ready to get this over with. It's been a rough pregnancy.
Bethany Andersen I hope it's all going well!
Bethany Andersen im 38 weeks and i have menstrual cramps
sucks! since 31 week I've been in preterm labor. I had polyhydramnosis so I was high risk. the medicine to keep my contractions away made me feel horrible. then I needed to be induced early due to his size. thank God I did cause he ended up getting stuck. But now my little one is one month.
Bethany Andersen me too
Bethany Andersen mine too I’m 36 weeks
I think using the words “pain” and “hurt” is what actually hurts pregnant women. I’m a dentist and even in dentistry we are taught the power of our words. Told not to use “hurt”, “pain”,”needles”, “blood”, “you may hear breaking” etc- instead you say “pressure”,”intense”, “uncomfortable”, “injection”, “feel a little pinch”, “heme”.”you may hear sounds” and tell them all is ok and normal to experience. If a patient comes in freaking out about the needle or work, I promise you we will have a difficult time numbing them. The brain literally overrides the physiological numbing because they are in heightened awareness, fight or flight. Their brain is saying “pay attention!!!! Protect us!!!”. The same happened in birth. If you’re panicking and saying this is going to “hurt” on a scale of 1-10? You’ll be anticipating that 10. Our minds are as important if not more so in the perception of experiences. I had a non epidural, pitocin induced birth and I cannot lie that was crazy intense- because we forced the baby out. In comparison, i didn’t even realize I was in labor until 2 hours before my son was born. I barely made it to the hospital and walked myself from the car to the third floor and pushed my son out all within 27 minutes of pulling into hospital parking lot. I was not screaming, I was not freaking out. I shuffled quietly in just worried we weren’t even going to make it. They wanted me to fill paperwork out I was so calm 🤣🤣🤣 because they had no idea how close to delivery I was until I dropped the pad to the floor to deal with a contraction. They wheeled me into closest room and I told them I’m pushing and
That was that. Birth is not scary. Get your mind around the fact this is the most intuitive and natural thing you’ll ever do and get out of your body’s way. Don’t worry about the pain scale. Time your contractions and once you can’t talk through them anymore and you have to get focused and quiet- head to the hospital
I should mention I did a ton of mental prepping and de-brainwashing myself of birth fear before my second. Read Ina May Gaskins’ guide to childbirth and listen to hundreds of real birth stories on the podcast “the birth hour” to learn as much as you can.
She made me feel more relaxed about labor. Can she be my nurse? Lol
I am 39weeks pregnant and reading all the comments scares me alot
I’m assuming you got through it and now enjoying your baby! Congrats
Hahaha same here dear . Am 39 weeks and 4 days pregnant with my first baby. Reading some comments are scary sometimes
how do you feel now?
I’ll be 39 weeks on Monday and I’m still so nervous to give birth!
Your so calming and this makes me feel really well about all of this, thank you because I feel much better.
I'm 37 weeks and getting nervous but excited.
Madison Ausley congratulations on the birth of your baby xxx
How is the baby now sister?
i know that feeling..when u r about to sit for an exam.U r nervous..but also excited to get it over with. 27 weeks and 3 days preg here
Thank you so much for being SO informative, it’s really calmed my nerves knowing about what to expect.
Why do all videos skip out how painful cervical checks are!!!!
cbrison06 they're more uncomfortable than painful. In my opinion at least.
cbrison06 actually I was just checked and it didn't hurt... instead it felt cold. but I'm working with using a method called Xi which is using energy to control pain. I don't know if my body reacted and felt cold from it or if that method actually works. but everyone is different.
Amy Garcia to me it was very painful and unexpected! I only had one check luckily - my labor went by very fast
Monika McRobert to me it was just as bad as labor pff.. only had one check since my labor went so fast thank goodness
cbrison06 exactly!!!!!!
39 Weeks and still not dilated! Hopefully all the steps I’ve taken will get this labor going naturally. Mama’s ready!
I just realised she is at the hospital down the road from me I want her to help me deliver when I get there!!!!
Nova Sky lucky
meriem NESRINE I know right. hopefully I do get her. I want to go meet her before I get to far along
Can you please let me know which state are you in. 404 514 5844 thanks
The most painful part of labor is that last push when the baby is being pulled out. It literally felt like my soul was being pulled out of my body!! But then I was in heaven when I met my baby girl ❤️
Girl dont say that 😭😭
@@elvenscarwhy
Been watching her videos with all my 3 pregnancies. It’s so helpful and informative
I really appreciate your channel. I have a lot of anxiety and it's helpful for me to watch your videos to remind me of what my doctor said during off hours when I'm unable to call and ask...or just don't want to because I don't want to be "that" mom. :)
Thank you for being you and so realistic!
Im currently 20 weeks an this is my first baby. Your videos have really helped ease all my worries an what not. Keep these awesome videos coming
Loved all your videos. Recently had my baby boy ! Thanks for the uploads was very helpful and informative during my pregnancy.
You are awesome. As a nerdy first time mom loving all the knowledge
Watching this video is making me feel a lot of better. I'm only 24 weeks. Thanks!
Super excited I’m 22 weeks right now can’t wait for little man to get here ❤️
What a great video, thank you!
Im 40 weeks & 2 days & getting induced this Friday, I'm excited not nervous yet
Thank you! Great advice :)
I'm gonna be induced in a couple of weeks,so this was very helpful, since this is my first pregnancy 😊👶👶
Never was painful for me. I actually walked a hour after having my baby the hospital thought I was a visitor lol
That is so intriguing. Did you do anything special?
🤣lucku
No pain? How does it feel to be God’s chosen one?
Labor was no pain??? Please explain🤔
You are lucky one! How do you manage that pain. Any tricks??? 😛
I had my daughter without epidural in 6,5 hours without any courses beforehand. Claiming those courses are needed is misleading. If your ancestors could do it, so can you. Don't get anxious - relax and see it as a new adventure/ a new challenge.
i am 22 weeks and i started watching your videos,the are so helpful,it gives me an idea of the outcome,i been trying not to think about the pain,this is my first baby.thank you 😆
How did it go?
I don’t mean to say anything negative, but the way women talk about labor is so nice. They use words like “intense” and “uncomfortable”.... labor is severely painful. Also, dilation doesn’t equate to how much pain you’re in. You can be in extreme pain and only be only 3cm. So I’m glad she straight up said that labor is painful. It is. And I’m glad she talked about control, because you can very easily start to feel out of control. I found myself holding my breath and also hyperventilating because the pain was so extreme. You need a plan for that. I’m glad she was so real about this.
for some people it's actually not painful at all though......
Exactly.....@39wks
@@ashleyashleym2969 amen to that!
I agree with you. It's like nothing I have ever experienced or can imagine experiencing. I was not adequately prepped, because the language is way too friendly, I was almost climbing walls, and nearly peed on my doula, I lost the plot for like 5 min, and then he was out, the pain was forgotten and he's sleeping on my boob now, I am grateful for the experience, he came at 41 weeks, unmedicated Vbac.
He is amazing. The pain was definitely worth it, but it was super excruciating.
It's very empowering to say you did it.
That being said,
Amazing info, thank u so much.
Stop scaring women. I went into a natural no pain relief birth yesterday and everything went well. We are made for this. I didn't do any classes or preparation I just followed my body.
Really glad you had an easy time. I was in excruciating pain right from early labor until my epidural (which I begged for after 30 hours of torture.) I have no idea how women do the whole “change positions” thing, I was in too much pain to even breast let alone move around
30 weeks today. I’m so excited and it’s almost go time!!! I’m about to issue his eviction notice lol. I can’t wait to meet my baby boy.
Christian Ubnoskye I’m 30 weeks today !
Refuse cervical checks unless you are already in labor. Sometimes doctors go too far and can start your labor before it comes naturally.
O wow interesting
workingmom NC27 please do your own research
I agree and some nurse are very rough.
Thank you for that information. I will use it in the future
They do cervical checks at 38 weeks. And what if you are dilated but don't know it. You could have one of those 'sudden' deliveries on your couch... Hope doctors don't go too far with the check.
The idea of having kids has always been there. The reason I stumbled upon this video is that I'm trying to make sense of how painful it REALLY is to give birth. I have a high pain threshold but the whole process scares me. I have endured a lot of physical pain in my life but I guess childbirth pain isn't easy to explain. I would like to have a kid before 33-34 (I'm 28 now).
Thank you ☺️
My doctor recommended an epidural for my first baby. I tried going natural but he was a large baby and he was facing up. Not breech but face to the sky. His shoulders did become stuck and I majorly hemorrhaged after he was born. Honestly epidural and all I FELT so much pain in that birth. My next two births were wonderful and easy. But to this day I do not regret having an epidural for my first born. I think I would have gone into shock or fainted from that birth if I hadn't had one.
Thank you for this vidéo🙏
Thank you
Contractions are misery!!!! Omg worst pain of my life. I was so happy when I finally got the epidural
Everyone is different every pregnancy is different sorry to say every woman will experience something different
TRUTH! You win the comment section! ❤️🏆
30 weeks. I'm getting nervous😖
Roxana Campos same
Nigga you look 14
GOD got you 💖💖
Great Information!
This is the reason why i stopped taking pain meds for periods.. to get used to the pain
I remember i started with contractions at 2am at 10am went to the hospital was already at 4cm in 3 hours i was already pushing and it was my first pregnancy
How was that
After 26 hours I was throwing up and begging for a C-section 😭 whew! Childbirth is no joke. I'm 17 weeks along with my second 😊
I've had five kids. Four natural and one emergency c section. With all five, the afterbirth (placenta) was the most painful and uncomfortable.
I think in my mind, I am always thinking after the baby is out it's going to be less painful and then my body almost goes into a painful shock and remember that the pain part is not really over and still need to pass the placenta. Luckily all of mine came out within seconds of the baby. It was actually in me the longest with the c section. lol.
I didn't feel the placenta being delivered either
I’m so scared of having a c section- like being cut open… WHILE CONSCIOUS???
I went from 2-3cm to feeling like baby is gonna drop out in an hour and half and it was painful but manigeble. Pain got immediately lower when I got to pushing. When nurse ran in and I got to push it was 3 pushed and baby was out. I was in a tub and immediately got up with the baby on my chest and walked to bed. The pain stoped as soon as baby was out. I felt so energetic. My labour over all lasted 3 and half hours and the nurse had no idea how the baby came out so fast. Never got the epidural because I wasent "far enough" and "baby is not gonna be here for atleast another 10 hours"
I got an epidural at 9 cm. Didn't feel a thing. I was induced and had contractions for 17 hours, was starved for 2 days, hadnt slept all night, and just had no energy. 2 hours later my son was born. Glad I got the epidural. Total of 19 hours...1st day of induction nothing happened and I was very hungry. All I could have was jello and popsicles.
Sounds horrible
This is my second baby and I am petrified. I was in so much pain with my son. I hope this labor is much faster.
Anyone pregnant and watching in 2020 am.due in two weeks time and waoo camt wait also trying to prepare this is my #3 vagina birth baby .Wish me luck and good luck to all the Mothers 😍😍😍🤗
i think the cervical checks need to be updated.i went for my 37 week checkup at 2pm .the midwife did a check told me i was 7cm and to go strait to the hospital.i get there and im 3cm and 3 more people checked me.by the time i left at 1am.id dilated to 4,80% effaced they sent me home.i was contracting and highly pissed.
you give me a bigggg relief😘😘😘
This September 1st will be our first child and this is all great to know.
am 28 weeks and I can't wait to get him out
What hurts the most is trying to hold back a push because your doctor isnt in the room yet.
Yep, holding back made me vomit, or at least dry heave
Nurse Dani, can you do a hair tutorial lol? I’m definitely watching for the stages of labor, but yur hair also looks amazing 😂
The important thing to remember is that "you can do it"!
Ahh man i cant wait to start feeling em im 29 weeks so far now
Yes my first stage of labour lasted from Wednesday to Monday. I hated it so much. I'm pregnant again now and I fear I will go through the same pain.
Hi, i was given an epidural at my daughter's birth and right after a few hours when i was 10 centimeters open i got a terrible pain arround my shoulders my neck and my head.. it was so severe that i couldn't lift my head at all.. my lover body was totally numb that i couldn't even move my legs or be able to sit. I went through this terrible pain along with nausea for 10 days.. never going to forget that horrible experience !!
Sheeri Zainab
Wow! That sounds horrible! You've encouraged me to go narural lol
Yea contractions and pushing is painful but after baby is born is so dang painful well with me because I had to get stitches.
I screamed out that I was dieing! It's the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my life.
Yes, that's how I felt in transition, since they didn't even give me an epidural for 6 hours, although I wanted it
I’m currently 16 weeks. I’m 27 pregnant with my first and I really really really want to give birth naturally. Any encouragement? If I think about it though I get sooooo excited! I once heard my sister in law said “yes it hurts but once it’s over it’s over and you have your baby. It’s all worth it.”
Jessica Michelle labor itself hurts yes but the delivery of the baby (like where the baby comes outta you and slide out) not! I personally prefer natural birth than the epidural one, cause the epidurals after effects isn’t great.
Jessica Michelle to explain exactly how epidural feels, after they administer to you on the back of your spine the anesthesia, your whole abdomen is numbed out to your thighs, there’s just little effort of pushing out and you don’t actually feel the “birthing pain” you would feel the baby coming out but you won’t feel any intensity at all.. but once the anesthesia fades away, that’s when the post-labor/delivery pains occurs, as if the epidural only covers the pains during the delivery time but eventually gets you after. It hurts like hell. This is based on my experience though so I’m sharing it. But yeah, it’s still up to you how you prefer your childbirth 😊😊😊
Contractions are most painful. Pushing was relieving.
I had my baby on 15th October, I went from 4cm to 9cm in 30mins, when I got the epidural I was going from 9cm to 10cm, I was in so much pain the only thing that helped me was to have someone I could 'hug'. Pushing was such a challenge, we tried different positions and the one I was more comfortable in was actually laying down on my back.....
Loramend precipitous labor. I feel for you! But also it’s overwith quickly!
I’m also planning all natural. I’m going to try and stay away from Iv drugs as well. And if I feel like I need something I will ask for something really mild. But I wanna bring my baby in the world as natural as possible. And also, I’m not really scared of the pain. I just want to meet him. Go time!!!! Lol i
Seriously breathing deep and slow really helps it’s weird.
I love watching her videos. This is my first pregnancy and it's been super helpful to be able to get on RUclips and watch an actual nurse give me the information I need.
How bad does labor feel without the epidural? I was really considering a natural child birth and then maybe get some pain meds after the baby is born.. Can I do that? Not a definite decision yet just questions I wanted to get answered. :)
I had epidural with my first baby and the recovering hurts a lot! Not the same for natural birth exactly. I can tell the difference since my subsequent children are delivered naturally without epidural, I’m recovered in a day or two. But my first one it’s almost 3 weeks
I wish I would have watched this before I gave birth. I went unmediated until I was 8 centimeters 22 hours of labor was hard
I'd like to argue the most painful part of labor is having super fast labor and crowning and they tell you not to push and to wait for the doctor. Every time they told me not to push I could wait only 3 contractions and the baby came out on its own and the ER doctors couldn't even deliver the baby because my body wanted them out NOW! LOL but I have rare precipitous labor with all 3 of my babies and I'm expecting baby #4 in the next few weeks
Jordan Wright same! They checked me and I was 2cm dilated, 45 min later I begged them to check me again and they didn’t believe me that I was ready to push. The doctor checked and the babies head was crowning!!! Fast labor and birth!
Currently 27 weeks!
I want to know how different it’s going to be from last time. I gave birth to my baby when we were 21 weeks and 2 days. A stillbirth. I was induced and it took around 2 days. It only hurt in the last like 4 hours and the last half an hour was the worst and morphine and a bunch of other stuff didn’t help. I was signing for an epidural right as it changed to back labor pain and had to push. There was only like 15 second breaks where I would pass out from all the medications and come back to for a couple minutes straight of contractions.
That was helpful advice about delivering a baby. Thank You. I find I pee a lot more in this pregnancy.
I didn't decide unmedicated. I arrived at the hospital 8 cm dilated. Labor was super quick, no time to think. Painful, oh yes, but your body does actually know what its doing.
I had an epidural and gas and air from my first contraction. I was screaming at the start
What happens when you're
GBS Positive? When you have to go to the hospital as soon as your water breaks to recieve antibiotics? Will you recieve Pitocin to induce your contractions to go into labor?
Why do men get so pressed about women saying childbirth is excruciating 😭
With me i had very easy and quick births so i am not a good example. The only time pain was intense was right before the pushing stage. Pushing however is actually not painful at all.
I'm 36 weeks , any advice .
Blazineyesasian I bet you had your baby since it’s rare to have your child after 40 weeks, sorry I didn’t get to you in time! But congrats if you had your child. 🥰
Im 34 weeks and Im so nervous ...💀
Yasmin Abdi 24 and m nervous 😝
I had neck labor for like 40 hours with my first kid. It was the worse pain I have ever felt and I only dilated 2 cm. After I got my epidural my water broke and my baby went into distress and I had to have an emergency c-section.
Im only 23 weeks n nervous. ....watching every video
Oh please it is nowhere near surgery without anesthesia. It's probably not even the worst pain you can experience. I would compare it to a really bad headache that nails you down to bed and makes you disabled to do anything but think about the pain. The problem with labor is that in the midst of all that pain you have to be composed and highly cooperative, and perform one of the most demanding tasks of your life.
Teodora Miceva that’s not what she’s saying. She’s giving an example of what a pain score of 10 feels like....because people will say they’re a 10 when they’re in early labor at 1-2 cm
That's your experience, I have walked on broken bones after breaking 9 mostly in legs feet and ankles, I had my jaw broken, been stabbed, also 2nd-degree burns from scalding, nothing I repeat NOTHING I have been through is more painful than labour. I would rather have every bone in my body broken than go through 10mins of contractions it was like being tortured in hell the pain was so bad I thought I would die just from the pain that I really wanted to die to just escape the ongoing unbearable torture but it just goes on and on and on until you start to lose your mind, thrashing, vomiting, convulsing, screaming, ripping hair out and banging head violently against the floor you can not pick yourself up from as every nerve in my body is screaming at me as if I was burning in the fiery pits of hell. It was like somebody had thrust big metal hooks through my skin hooking around my lower spine, the front of the pelvis and each side of my hips and during contractions, it felt as if somebody had attached ropes to the hooks and tied those ropes
to horses and while the contraction was happening it felt like those horses we being whipped to pull those ropes ripping my spine out of my back while ripping my hips apart with my pelvis. It was like my thigh bones, spine, hips, pelvic bones we being broken over and over and over for hours on end. On top of that was also a feeling as if somebody was thrusting 12-inch kitchen knives into my vagina every 30 seconds for 3 days along with insane cramping pain that felt likey uterus was trying to eat all my organs, my entire abdominal area felt like I had drunk acid and my insides were melting, I couldn't breathe, speak, see, hear or even understand words my world was just pain, I was nothing but pure misery and pain. I would have happily given or done anything to make it stop I did not even care if I or my baby died as long as the pain stopped. The fear, PTSD and shock lead to me becoming suicidal, some women seem to get off lightly and some women it is like living through 3 days of hell from which you will never mentally recover from the trauma of how horrific, terrifying and unbearably painful birth can be for some. Count yourself as lucky.
She didn't say that, you failed to listen
katie fanning oh my word. That’s sounds horrific. I’m so sorry you went through that. Did you not have access to pain medication? Or did it not work? Are you in therapy now for ptsd? I know there are women who need professional help to deal with birth trauma. Again I’m so sorry.
I feel incredibly lucky to have had such a positive experience, myself. I spent my entire pregnancy mentally preparing myself for labor and getting into the necessary mindset for natural birth. I had a midwife who was very supportive and she helped me to not only have belief in myself and my ability to birth my baby, but she instilled in me such a belief in my own body. My body was made for this! From her and also from a very educational childbirth class my husband and I attended, I learned many great coping mechanisms and pain management techniques that proved to be very helpful for me in labor. The use of water (I had a water birth), breathing, focal points, hip squeezes, etc were amazing tools that helped me so much. I also went into the experience with the knowledge and true belief that the pain is not because something is wrong, but rather the pain is an indicator that my body is functioning properly and doing exactly what it needs to be doing. Every contraction was one step closer to meeting my baby, and that could only be perceived as a positive thing in my mind. Your mind is a very powerful thing! I honestly and truly believe that mindset is everything!
I’m telling you all this because I want to give you hope that, if you ever have more children, your next experience doesn’t have to be like your first! With the correct education, as much knowledge as you can pack into your brain, an attentive and supportive healthcare provider, and a positive mindset - childbirth can be a positive experience. That’s what I hope for you next time (if there is a next time).
All the best, and take care of yourself ❤️
In many countries here in Africa there is no any pain relief when we labour its natural and we give birth everyday I never heard of something called an epidural any where rather than here in internet and still women have 10 kids
What do you do in case the baby is too big and the woman needs a C-section? Or if she gets severe bleeding? Do you have doctors around to help in these life threatening situations?
In many countries in Africa they still circumcise little girls. I wonder what your opinion is about that. They cut away her clitoris and lips.
The whole "training for a natural unmedicated labor" bit is BS. I had my 1st son last October and I did a fully unmedicated birth with 0 complications. I had an 8 hour labor start to finish, and the nurses thanked me at the end for being so calm and respectful through the entire process. mind over matter, if you want to do something bad enough, you will.
Good luck to all the mamas out there! Remember, you body was literally designed to do this.
Aren’t you just the best mom ever!! So wonderful and humble. Anyway, the leading cause of death for women before modern germ theory was childbirth. All well and good for you if you want to be in pain for no reason, but you don’t get to tell others what is and isn’t needed or useful.
I'm currently 1 month pregnant. I already have my mind set that I want the epidural, but I really would like to know does it really work? Will you still feel the pain of giving birth? Or does it just depend on the person and their pain tolerance?
I think telling women to reevaluate their pain is evil if she is suffering she is suffering and should not be condescended to telling her the agony she is feeling is not real pain. Why do people lie to women about exactly how horrific the pain really is for some women, I considered just killing myself to escape the pain after days of unproductive contractions and being told to relax and breathe because nobody would take how bad I was suffering seriously. The pain was unbearable but everybody just ignored it.
I don't have a low pain threshold I have walked on broken bones and had them pushed back into place without any meds to save my foot this is after breaking 9 bones mostly in my legs feet and ankles, I have also on separate occasions had my jaw broken, been stabbed, also 2nd-degree burns from scalding, yet nothing I repeat NOTHING I have been through is more painful than labour I would gladly rather have all those happen at once than go through even an hour of 'early' labour . I would rather have every bone in my body broken than go through 10mins of contractions.... it was like being tortured in hell is the only way I can describe it, the pain was so bad I thought I would die just from the pain, then I really wanted to die to just escape the ongoing unbearable torture that somehow despite it being in almost supernatural levels of agony we didn't know existed it keeps getting worse and worse and it just goes on and on and on until you start to lose your mind, thrashing, vomiting, convulsing, crying, begging, screaming, ripping hair out, losing control of bodily functions and banging head violently against the floor and eventually something snaps in your mind and its like you become so defeated and broken and demented from the pain its like your soul starts to separate from the body so even though you still feel every drawn out second of the agony its like the life inside you has gone elsewhere sort of detached, as every nerve from my breasts down in my body is screaming at me as if I was burning in the fiery pits of hell. It was like somebody had thrust big metal hooks through my skin hooking around my lower spine, the front of the pelvis and each side of my hips and during contractions, it felt as if somebody had attached ropes to the hooks and tied those ropes
to horses and while the contraction was happening it felt like those horses we being whipped to pull those ropes ripping my spine out of my back while ripping my hips apart with my pelvis. It was like my thigh bones, spine, hips, pelvic bones we being broken over and over and over for hours on end. On top of that at the same time there was also a feeling as if somebody was thrusting 12-inch kitchen knife into my vagina and anus every and twisting it 30 seconds for 3 days, along with the feeling that my cervix was being constantly priced apart my a metal ring covered in razor blades and heated white hot, along with insane cramping pain that felt likey uterus was trying to eat all my organs, crushing twisting feeling so intense it felt like my body was going through a meat grinder with early contractions, my entire abdominal area felt like I had drunk acid and my insides were melting while being slowly run over by a truck over and over.
I couldn't breathe, speak, see, hear or even understand words my world was just pain, I was nothing but pure misery and pain. I would have happily given or done anything to make it stop I did not even care if I or my baby died as long as the pain stopped.
The fear, PTSD and shock lead to me becoming suicidal, some women seem to get off lightly and some women it is like living through 3 days of hell from which you will never mentally recover from the trauma of how horrific, terrifying and unbearably painful birth can be for some. Count yourself as lucky if you didn't find it that painful or at least bearable but for some women it can be agonising like the level of pain most women only get for a few mins in transition but all the way through, it's down to nerve distribution, pelvic shape, size and position of baby and if all those go against you then your in for the worst experience you could ever go through without dying and it feels never-ending.
Do not belittle or deny pain relief to women in labour who need it at ANY stage if a woman needs it and experiences extream pain before even at 2cm give her sympathy and pain relief because she's not being dramatic and you are causing her suffering that will leave her mentally scarred, being told that's not real pain when you can not cope and that worse is to come so they better just get used to it will terrify and panic the woman, which will increase her stress hormones leading to more pain and complications. The woman will feel distressed and petrified afterwards it will make her feel like a failure and very alone as nobody will help her which will lead to her feeling even more suffering which then leads to negative outcomes for mother and baby.
To deny pain relief to women in ANY stage of labour is inhumane if they are suffering and in distress.
I hate midwives like that if I was in early labour knowing what I know now and denied pain relief and sent home I would hang myself rather than go through that torture again.
Birth pain is no joke and should not be played down conning women into thinking it will all be ok when sometimes it really isn't.
I am so sorry that you went through all that. Sincerely.
I agree with you.
I think you need to seek out a perinatal psychologist. Birth was clearly traumatic for you and you need to work through this with a professional.
This ⬆️ was exactly my experience as well!! Thank you 👏🏻 👏🏻 I agree 💯 I feel so frustrated, sad, angry, some sort of weird shame, when I hear other women say how easy it was for them, or doctors saying to just adjust your pain scale because for me it was highly traumatic. Being in a hospital probably didn’t help
Labour wasn’t anything I imagined wow it’s intense lol I just had gas and air it was kinda hard worth it but I had to have a cut which was tough seeing as I wasn’t numb but gas and air did help
I'm hoping to do my labour with gas and air! That's weird they didn't give you local anesthesia when they cut you, I thought they always did unless you've already had an epidural.
My first time around i took it like a champ until I'm pretty sure i was in transition after 20sum hours. I would have been alright had I had constant support. I shoulda hired a doula
The head it hurts like hell that's the only bit what hurt me I only had gas and air tho ☺️
I am 37 weeks.. And a little bit scared! I hope everything goes well for both of us!
hope u r doing fine gudluck
How did it go ? I’m 35 weeks with my 4th and I know it’s
Gonna suck !
@@Nessa___ Blessed with a baby girl through normal delivery. We are fine!
Is it 4th? Then u must be pro at it!!👍 Good luck.. It will be smooth!!
@@SanaKhan-gt2yj yup.. me and my girl are doing well
Bless you and ur little angel ❤
I was going to get an epidural but apparently I waited too long to go to the baby hospital to deliver it wasn't painful that much to me. All it was was a lot a pressure but no pain really. Yes they did have to put oxygen on me because I did hyperventilate.
having a baby natrually...hmmm o day the worse part is the labor pains...shit goes on for hours..the ring of fire...🔥 ull be feeling burning...now the second part that hurts...is if your baby has been playing on one spot the doctor will rub that one spot to deliver the placenta no lie...i swear they just know where to rub...ehen your already sore...and third...the placenta after dilevering a baby you'll have to do it one more time..just with out the extreme labor pain..it burns after ur ver jay jay in the process of healing
No thank you I pass I’ll just be the cool aunt ❤️🤟🏻
Tris Outlaw women have been having babies since we became humans you can do it. Our bodies are made for that
I don't blame you!