Toxic Relationships | Signs, Red Flags and How to Let Go and Heal! - FT Muthoni Mukiri

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  • Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
  • Hello BKS lovers! Welcome to the season THREE of Best Kept Secrets.
    On this episode, our host Sharon K speaks to Muthoni Mukiri, an author and mindset coach on toxic relationships. How to identify if you're in one, how to spot red flags and how to let go, move on and heal. They also share their personal experiences with unhealthy love.
    Please let us know your thoughts in the comments and don't forget to share, like and subscribe!

Комментарии • 190

  • @muthonismission
    @muthonismission 10 месяцев назад +178

    Beautiful Sharon… Thank you for this platform and for hosting me. You have a lot of value to give. It takes alot to be vulnerable and to open up for the sake of helping other people. You are doing Gods work. Be blessed ❤️

    • @charitygachara1198
      @charitygachara1198 10 месяцев назад +1

      We love you muthoni❤

    • @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq
      @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq 10 месяцев назад +1

      You are an Amazing woman, been keen on your work for some time now, and its Top Notch. Keep up @muthoni

    • @faithwangeci4972
      @faithwangeci4972 10 месяцев назад +3

      Hey gal...I really need help, someone to talk to

    • @marynjoroge8954
      @marynjoroge8954 10 месяцев назад

      Thank so so Much@Sharon K wangi and @Muthoni Mukiri for this Relatable topic,you have touched me .
      The topic has really helped me and thank God I'm a mom to a four year old I wouldn't want to mess up with her future I will treat her like a queen and make the right decisions for her I won't let my past define mine or my daughters future I'm currently In a Healthy relationship though the ups n downs are there had to start from episode 1 to catch up thank you
      Beautiful women.

    • @cathrinewanjiru1348
      @cathrinewanjiru1348 10 месяцев назад

      @@faithwangeci4972 hope you got someone to talk to

  • @immaculatemwangi3099
    @immaculatemwangi3099 9 месяцев назад +4

    I am currently working on leaving a relationship I feel is quite toxic. I have left so many times but I am determined for this to be the last. Thank you so much ladies for this episode. It made me feel I am not alone. My greatest desire for my next relationship is to be loved softly and peacefully.

    • @ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood
      @ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood 9 месяцев назад +2

      Hugs to you precious one. You are definitely not alone in this. Focus on healing before the next relationship to avoid repetitive cycles. God bless you through this tough journey ❤

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 10 месяцев назад +14

    I knew i was in the right relationship when being me was accepted.

  • @Africangyal
    @Africangyal 10 месяцев назад +17

    If dating a narcissist is horrific, try coming from a narcissistic family 🙀

  • @pieramwende3559
    @pieramwende3559 10 месяцев назад +10

    I wish I would have seen this last year,I was in the worst relationship but still convinced myself all will be well. I am glad I got the courage to leave. It was the best decision I ever made. This is very good. Ladies out there should watch this. You go girl❤

    • @njerikamau6590
      @njerikamau6590 10 месяцев назад

      Tell me how you did it. Am stuck no job toxic relationship weuh

    • @puritykasandi5097
      @puritykasandi5097 9 месяцев назад

      I went through the same thank God for the courage

  • @marywairimu8060
    @marywairimu8060 10 месяцев назад +56

    Wow just finished watching . It was great . lesson," if you make your home in another person, you give them the power to make you homeless." Make yourself the home, know your values and write them , know what makes you happy. ❤❤❤

  • @kmednews
    @kmednews 2 месяца назад

    Thank you ladies for unlocking the hidden information that most people are afraid to bring on the table. I am one of the man whom was stuck in a toxic relationship, I suffered until she left herself,thats when I started to breathe, although I was still crying for her.Now I'm in a new relationship with a God fearing girl,and that matches me😂Thank you so much

  • @violaboiyo
    @violaboiyo 10 месяцев назад +3

    I dated a narcissist some years back but today im grateful because i left without looking back. No one will ever mess with my life again

    • @silaton305
      @silaton305 10 месяцев назад +2

      👏👏👏👏I love this for you. A resolute mind. ❤

  • @wairimu625
    @wairimu625 10 месяцев назад +29

    I'm loving the guests Sharon plus the diverse conversations. This is my favorite season so far.

  • @rhodabyoga
    @rhodabyoga 10 месяцев назад +58

    Thank you so much for sharing...I'd also like to bring to light another indicator of a toxic trait called Stonewalling: A communication behaviour characterized by a person's refusal to engage, discuss, or respond to their partner during a conflict or disagreement. It involves deliberately shutting down communication and emotionally withdrawing from a conversation. This behavior is highly detrimental to relationships, particularly in intimate or close settings such as marriage.

  • @maimunaaketch
    @maimunaaketch 10 месяцев назад +16

    It's illegal for today’s podcast to be this short😂😂😂😂....

  • @nassoziprossy3351
    @nassoziprossy3351 9 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you ladies for this episode after watching this now my minds are open and I have a believe that one day I will be out of this although it hurts 💔💔💔😢

  • @carolinemukundi4918
    @carolinemukundi4918 10 месяцев назад +2

    Bring Muthoni back❤❤that was such a nice conversation.

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 10 месяцев назад +12

    About praying for the man you want , Muthoni is absolutely right God is faithful he never disappoints those who put trust in them

  • @lorineochuodho
    @lorineochuodho 10 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you for this episode. I have learnt quite a a bit. However, I would like to just point out something that I personally disagree with on the matter of spirituality. It is so sad that this man made religion called 'Christianity' has made so many people believe that God enjoys seeing us suffer (what Sharon said about Christianity glorifying suffering). Do not forget that Jesus Christ came to bring the Kingdom of God on earth not Christianity. Please do not buy into the lie that the devil has made so many believe that if you are a believer of Jesus Christ then suffering and lack is the way you show 'humility'. Your suffering DOES NOT GLORY GOD IN ANY WAY! PS. Everything is spiritual not some things but everything.

  • @emeldatrading6108
    @emeldatrading6108 10 месяцев назад +8

    I was married to a narcissist who came from a narcissistic family. When I I started pointing out what he was doing to me they took his side and made me feel soooooooo small. They blamed me and said men are like that and that it's my responsibility as a wife to make my marriage work

  • @janewambui264
    @janewambui264 10 месяцев назад +13

    I reckon with Sharon about praying for the guy you want.
    God hears and He will give you that ideal guy meant for you. ❤

    • @edinahkendi9871
      @edinahkendi9871 10 месяцев назад

      We also did this in highschool..I still believe in it still

  • @Phenyo-z1o
    @Phenyo-z1o 10 месяцев назад +8

    beautiful topic, i dated narcissist for 18 years, hoping he will growup one day maybe he was just being childish, but the minute i knew the narcissist word, i run and nver looked back

  • @Mary-cj7pv
    @Mary-cj7pv 10 месяцев назад +2

    Love the point on soul ties, life is spiritual. Thanks for sharing that point Sharon. The conversation was generally very helpful.

  • @bellaash2510
    @bellaash2510 10 месяцев назад +9

    I enjoyed this. People are getting in relationship just for the sake of it. Don't be a stereo dater. Be single for a long time , Get to know who you are first before jumping into a relationship. Be whole on your own and don't expect someone to make you whole .

  • @mima8345
    @mima8345 10 месяцев назад +1

    Amazing conversation one day i will share my story .. i left 2years down the line am the happiest woman ever

  • @cynthiawangui2115
    @cynthiawangui2115 10 месяцев назад +1

    I really loved the trust part , especially in kanairo and how things are

  • @makena.cherry
    @makena.cherry 10 месяцев назад +5

    This was such an enriched conversation👌🏾Awesome guests, and thank you both for your openness👌🏾

  • @edahwanjiru
    @edahwanjiru 4 месяца назад

    We need more of this from the coach

  • @boboo5164
    @boboo5164 10 месяцев назад +4

    Heeeey....you forgot the kids part. If you wanna move on but have kids together. How to do no contact but still coparenting.

    • @marthasekta8953
      @marthasekta8953 9 месяцев назад

      Boundaries..set very clear Boundaries how u communicate with the narc....use emails instead of phonecalls..put agreements in black and white
      ..this will save you alot of manipulation and gaslighting

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 10 месяцев назад +1

    Am very glad sharon that you invited muthoni 😊.Am a huge fan of hers n have picked something

  • @SonnieRoy
    @SonnieRoy Месяц назад

    Am grateful i came across this ❤😊

  • @Valwangila
    @Valwangila 10 месяцев назад +13

    I loved the episode so much, and I definitely agree with the idea of soul ties, I know that, it's usually a tricky topic to unpack but I also believe that life is spiritual and soul ties are real. So as much as we do the self work, it's important for us to pray and involve God in everything we do.

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 10 месяцев назад +8

    "Ati dress more like kambua" 😂😂😂sharon yenyewe umekapitia..

  • @PHYLLISKAMAU-xl2fw
    @PHYLLISKAMAU-xl2fw 10 месяцев назад +4

    Nothing we change until you face yourself until you hold a mirror up see that you are in a pattern you are enabling the pattern you won't get unstuck

  • @EstherNungari-ii3db
    @EstherNungari-ii3db 10 месяцев назад +6

    Nothing will change until you face yourself. Until you hold a mirror up and see that you are in a pattern and you are enabling the pattern you won't get unstuck.

  • @angelinegichaba7758
    @angelinegichaba7758 9 месяцев назад +6

    I stayed with a narcissist for 13 good years! My self-esteem went down and I became ill. I am glad I finally left but I have to deal with chronic illnesses for a life time!

  • @nancygituto469
    @nancygituto469 10 месяцев назад +17

    She helped me move from a toxic relationship ❤🎉

    • @silaton305
      @silaton305 10 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you for validating her calling. I’m happy for you.

    • @nancygituto469
      @nancygituto469 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@silaton305 Thank you ❤

  • @hinesightmind
    @hinesightmind 10 месяцев назад +9

    I learnt about this in 3rd year of campus... let me tell you, maina I was deep into a toxic relationship.. and yes, I never left. I stayed for like a month, and then I left. Then I started working on me, and I started attracting better friendships and guys.

    • @wambuinderitu2461
      @wambuinderitu2461 10 месяцев назад +1

      Am happy for you gal😊 am also in 4yr n there is nothing good as working on yourself

    • @wanguimbatia2456
      @wanguimbatia2456 10 месяцев назад +2

      Heey
      Define working on yourself please 😅

    • @Miss-Bree
      @Miss-Bree 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@wanguimbatia2456you missed the whole point of this podcast!

  • @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq
    @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq 10 месяцев назад +4

    I Love this Sharon, there is no time you disappoint. Loving it to bits!🙂

  • @njerigakuru7519
    @njerigakuru7519 10 месяцев назад +5

    Abuse in whatever form (Emotional, financial, physical) is enough for you to leave that relationship.

  • @pinkysaka1512
    @pinkysaka1512 10 месяцев назад +3

    Sometimes this men he will say something that he knows is very sensitive to you and then tomorrow he will be sorry but he will never stop saying it

  • @linnet-gutsykariuki7305
    @linnet-gutsykariuki7305 10 месяцев назад +3

    This is wonderful. You guys mentioned his name 😂. Peter.... so grateful I'm done🙌

  • @dorcasmathenge3621
    @dorcasmathenge3621 10 месяцев назад +5

    I pray for more grace for you Sharon it's clear that you went through all that for us to be helped thankyou for being such an impact to us women and our generation God bless you ❤️

  • @elizabethawino3494
    @elizabethawino3494 10 месяцев назад

    When Sharon said giving and expecting back...I really relate

  • @PerisWangui-n6t
    @PerisWangui-n6t 10 месяцев назад +1

    definitely needed this!

  • @naomiirungu3559
    @naomiirungu3559 9 месяцев назад +3

    Need a therapist
    Any recommendations please

  • @misskoroso1329
    @misskoroso1329 8 месяцев назад +1

    Take away, if you build your home in other people you give them the power to make you homeless

  • @heatherwanjuguna4629
    @heatherwanjuguna4629 9 месяцев назад +3

    Always follow your heart. It speaks to you because it cares about you. Say 'No' from the get go no matter the investment if it doesn't sit right with you.

  • @Mwihakigitau
    @Mwihakigitau 10 месяцев назад +1

    Yeey🎉🎉 am here to learn ❤❤ I really enjoy your podcasts ❤

  • @TessNdirangu
    @TessNdirangu 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love Muthoni ❤️so much

  • @atoashley0
    @atoashley0 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this episode❤I relate alot now that I am in a healthy relationship.
    Thank you❤

    • @ruthwanjiru5260
      @ruthwanjiru5260 9 месяцев назад

      Hello, I'm trying to know muthoni mukiri's full name, dyou know her English name?

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 10 месяцев назад +1

    Nice & educative conversation❤.Sharon & muthoni your brilliant beautiful girls❤

  • @julietmacharia5825
    @julietmacharia5825 9 месяцев назад

    This was amazing from both of you ladies

  • @wanjiruolive
    @wanjiruolive 10 месяцев назад +3

    Wonderful episode I love muthoni mukiri I believe in her. She's a real testimony that if you put in the work your life will change for sure..

  • @mwas_wa_kenol
    @mwas_wa_kenol 9 месяцев назад +1

    😂😂i have to be honest...the conversation is sweet...lkn Sharon is talking more than the guest 😂😂..weee Sharon wee....

  • @katemumbi3501
    @katemumbi3501 9 месяцев назад +2

    wow there's so much to learn.....ladies you just hit it we are dying silently in toxic relationships that looks perfect

  • @nyawirajuliah5504
    @nyawirajuliah5504 10 месяцев назад +11

    I was Married to a narcissist for a decade ....it was pure pain!

  • @MwangiWangarij
    @MwangiWangarij 10 месяцев назад +3

    Weuh “baba?” My God!!! This was educative though.

  • @estherchibutia3283
    @estherchibutia3283 10 месяцев назад

    Wooow you brought muthoni ma favorite I just love her advise

  • @gracewanjiru3011
    @gracewanjiru3011 10 месяцев назад

    Our girl muthoni in the house....

  • @priscillaangwenyi8574
    @priscillaangwenyi8574 10 месяцев назад +2

    Best episode ever! Sharon, were we with the same man?! I was told that even Beyonce was cheated on, sembuse Mimi?!

  • @Jerutosharon
    @Jerutosharon 10 месяцев назад +5

    Discovered this podcast today 😊and I'm already loving it ❤

  • @Adamma272
    @Adamma272 10 месяцев назад

    I have learnt a lot about toxic relationships

  • @sharondenge8571
    @sharondenge8571 7 месяцев назад

    This so educative...❤

  • @wainainandungi
    @wainainandungi 10 месяцев назад +3

    Damn just learnt I'm a people pleaser 💔🙌

  • @MukiriCarol
    @MukiriCarol 10 месяцев назад +1

    Amazing conversation

  • @blessedmary2024
    @blessedmary2024 10 месяцев назад +2

    Dear Jesus thank you for helping me to come to this video.

  • @anndamara9427
    @anndamara9427 10 месяцев назад +2

    God bless you Sharon you have really changed my relationship life and am proud of whom I am today ❤

  • @maimunaaketch
    @maimunaaketch 10 месяцев назад +3

    The whole podcast was screaming my name😂😂😂😂......this was such an educative podcast

  • @jerushawanjiku5576
    @jerushawanjiku5576 10 месяцев назад +3

    Watching this and resonating with so much, the confusion, wanting better for yourself, praying about it, work on yourself, elevating yourself to attract a high value partner that you deserve and that love should be easy, calm, a home. Thank you so much Sharon and Muthoni. God bless 🙏

  • @ITSIRENE_
    @ITSIRENE_ 10 месяцев назад

    This! So informative!

  • @SoniaMbithe
    @SoniaMbithe 10 месяцев назад +3

    When you know better, you do better❤

  • @gracewambui9
    @gracewambui9 10 месяцев назад

    I loved this sooo much❤❤❤

  • @BethWambui-j9w
    @BethWambui-j9w Месяц назад

    woow the talk was really amazing and very impactful,i loved it .

  • @dianakims1538
    @dianakims1538 10 месяцев назад +1

    Oh my goodness 😢 I am here wondering how many people have and are in relationships with narcissists. Tha statics are shocking me, but thank you to this platform bcz it's an eye opener for the people who are aware of what kind of people they are dating/involved in.

  • @mercymutie7991
    @mercymutie7991 10 месяцев назад +2

    This is exactly what i needed to hear today because all along ive been betraying myself.

  • @graciousgracee1
    @graciousgracee1 9 месяцев назад +1

    Am in love with the conversation and it is very clear enjoyable to listen ❤

  • @carolinem3885
    @carolinem3885 10 месяцев назад +2

    It wasn't babe, it was baba 😢😂😂😂

  • @kimberlymburu3057
    @kimberlymburu3057 10 месяцев назад +2

    My favorite episode so far. Such an enlightening episode ❤

  • @faithmackenzie7508
    @faithmackenzie7508 10 месяцев назад +2

    This episode was so deep, I was in my emotions all through. Love it 😍👏🏾

  • @val-yg7gn
    @val-yg7gn 6 месяцев назад +1

    Christianity does not glorify needless suffering. We all have a choice.

  • @JoyJelimo-lo9mv
    @JoyJelimo-lo9mv 9 месяцев назад +1

    I love the conversation we have gone through a lot in the name of narcissist

  • @mercymbula8653
    @mercymbula8653 10 месяцев назад +3

    I needed this today, thank you Sharon.

  • @cecilciena2244
    @cecilciena2244 10 месяцев назад +1

    A part 2 and 3 and more please that was so 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @carolinewawira8904
    @carolinewawira8904 9 месяцев назад +1

    For me I have a trauma 😭😭... please help

  • @mwanjeri737
    @mwanjeri737 10 месяцев назад +2

    we are here for wisdom n to learn

  • @btsstreamsdata
    @btsstreamsdata 10 месяцев назад +1

    That dedication was meant for me!...i am truly moved by it

  • @piecesofbeautiful4019
    @piecesofbeautiful4019 9 месяцев назад

    People pleasers almost always started out as parent pleasers👌👌If you build your home in other people, you're giving them the power to make you homeless!! ION: Life is spiritual, only when you understand this is when you will fully conquer the physical. And yes soul ties exist, it's not an excuse or scapegoat

  • @annahstacia7963
    @annahstacia7963 5 месяцев назад

    A topic I never knew I needed and am currently relating to. Sharon's version is definitely similar to mine, only mine lasted a year before he called me a whore for always showing up late when am visiting him, and there and then I was done.

  • @janembora4737
    @janembora4737 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thankyou for this conversation.

  • @waridirose8734
    @waridirose8734 10 месяцев назад

    I love this kind of content.

  • @stacygitonga5758
    @stacygitonga5758 10 месяцев назад +1

    Aaawww I love her already ❤

  • @Lelentleleina
    @Lelentleleina 6 месяцев назад

    Beautiful episode Sharon, watching from 🇿🇦

  • @beatriceirungu6562
    @beatriceirungu6562 10 месяцев назад

    Narcissist indeed will make you feel like nothing...its better to stay alone than be in a relationship which is serving you what you did order....BE SINGLE it will save you a lot of nonsense

  • @triza2023
    @triza2023 10 месяцев назад

    Thanks for eye opener,me am deep inside even have kids with him but the sad part,since we have been together for over ten years he has never said anything positive about me or what i have done.narcissm is so real

  • @kinyuamwende5703
    @kinyuamwende5703 10 месяцев назад +2

    This season has been so good

  • @omaoomosa8636
    @omaoomosa8636 9 месяцев назад

    amazing.
    that was too good and self disclosure, very assertive girls. keep up

  • @tracyaine1272
    @tracyaine1272 21 день назад

    thanks guys

  • @RatoM.Official
    @RatoM.Official 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed it.

  • @njerikamau6590
    @njerikamau6590 10 месяцев назад +1

    Somebody please give me a job along Thika road please for me to move from this kind if relationship coz am losing it

  • @bethgitau4240
    @bethgitau4240 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you guys for the empowering conversation

  • @leonasimwe2947
    @leonasimwe2947 6 месяцев назад

    Such a mind blowing session .... made me learn alot

  • @JOHNKYALO-c7x
    @JOHNKYALO-c7x 6 месяцев назад

    thank you for this podcast❤best conversations ever.

  • @risperkariuki1459
    @risperkariuki1459 10 месяцев назад +1

    Wow.. thank you 💕