Why Is The INTJ Life SO Hard | [TOP] 7 Reasons The INTJ Life Is Hard

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  • @SuccessForBreakfast
    @SuccessForBreakfast  2 года назад +4

    What are your thoughts on these reasons the INTJ life is hard? Make sure to leave a comment and let me know.
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  • @TheComedyGeek
    @TheComedyGeek Год назад +8

    I agree with all of these. I would add things like the Cassandra effect. We can see the future (in a non-mystical way) and understand how things work on an extremely deep level, and that puts us in the position of trying to warn people of obstacles they don't even understand. Remember, in the land of the blind, the one eyed man's insane. Going around talking about a fifth sense and this "seeing" thing.... clearly this person is a dangerous lunatic!
    Another one that I have come across is not anticipating the effect of my deep cynicism on others. My sharp and brutally honesty insights into things are poison for the more idealistic among us, and I try to take that into account but it's very difficult for me. My mind is hyper focused on accuracy and clarity, and for most people, that makes me emotionally dangerous. Dammit.
    I don't want to hurt anybody, especially in casual conversation. But this machine-like mind of mine knows no pity.
    Finally, and perhaps the worst of the bunch, is that the smoothly efficient detachment we cultivate is very good for seeing the big picture and understanding systems but it's absolutely terrible emotionally.
    I often feel like there is an invisible barrier between me and others and it keeps me from truly being "with" people and enforces a limit to intimacy that can be quite harsh for me and for others.
    And I know there is something wrong with me on that front. I know that this little robot has a broken antenna and just can't pick up the same signals of warmth and companionship that keep other humans going.
    Instead, I have a an accurate and precise inner world filled with the light that provides illumination but no warmth.
    And I long to come in from the cold.

  • @tsbio
    @tsbio 2 года назад +68

    I have a harder time excepting praise than criticism because I can see all the flaws (usually minor) that could not be worked out before the deadline for submission of a project. Everyone thinks it great and I keep thinking how do they not see the flaws. However, if I waited until the project is perfect to submit, nothing would get submitted. :)

    • @SuccessForBreakfast
      @SuccessForBreakfast  2 года назад +5

      @tsbio You're absolutely right! It's a fine line on wanting everything to be perfect and accepting any potential flaws and still have a quality project in the end. Being able to see and understand every little thing can be both a blessing and a curse, for sure. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 👍🏻 🙂

    • @ladyjatheist2763
      @ladyjatheist2763 2 года назад +4

      it took a long time, but once I learned not to let "perfection" be the "enemy of good enough"... life got a lot easier! Though... I still often think, "how much better it would've been if ___ or ____ had been done like ____ or ___" but nobody else noticed, and I just make sure things get done better next time. :D

  • @awesomeexpressionexp
    @awesomeexpressionexp 7 месяцев назад +2

    Human lameness leading to stupid decisions frustrates me. People being unfair or unreasonable to others (even if it is not me) infuriates me. I can also see right through the sugarcoat of propaganda and people with an agenda, which is rampant and their insult to my intelligence angers me to no end. What is worse is that everyone else seems to buy it and will label me as mean if I say anything.

  • @BreckoniousMaximus
    @BreckoniousMaximus 2 года назад +17

    Thank you for another articulate description on the INTJ. I recognize many of these traits in myself when I was younger. Fortunately, the need to constantly improve myself everyday has paid off, now that I'm in my mid-40's. I often think to myself, life is not long enough to learn everything I want and reach perfection in my actions. However, I don't stress over this too often, as I've been working on "living in the moment" for the last several years. I truly envy those who can live in the moment, not in a bad way, but in positive admiration.

  • @mads9259
    @mads9259 2 года назад +7

    INTJ Therapist here. I used to be pretty intellectual and glib when I would speak to others. Then I learned through experience that that ultimately works against my goals of helping others. Now my life is hard because I have to REALLY think about what I say so that people understand my rationale without getting defensive. I'm not trying to guilt-shame people though, I'm usually just making an observation or inquiry about people as a species and how we function.

    • @riduanzawi762
      @riduanzawi762 2 года назад +1

      You fucking tell the truth about this personality because everybody tell we are good we are we are we are, we are nothing we are suffer all the time without any help from other because the others personality love themselve and we are care without any sign of remark it

  • @catherinerhea6336
    @catherinerhea6336 2 года назад +13

    For me, it's constantly being misunderstood...
    ...trying to explain something, "A, B, C-ing" it as clearly & void of any "tonal reference" as possible, & they STILL take offense, calling me "arrogant"...
    ...picky...perticular, rigid in what I WON'T tolerate...
    ...I'm highly scrutinizing of new information, but open to considering it, IF it's relevant to the subject; irrelevance would automatically get it tossed aside...
    INTERRUPTIONS would have to be a close second: when I'm engrossed in something, ***NOTHING*** will irritate me quicker than a frivolous irrelevant interruption to my concentration, & that includes having to stop to go to the bathroom, eat, sleep... or any other "necessary" function.... I diligently attempt to get ALL of that "mundane" clutter out of the way, so once I "dive in," I can STAY THERE uninterrupted until I complete my objective.
    ***Explaining Myself*** to anyone on any level is something I will vehemently AVOID if at all possible. I'd much rather my RESULTS speak for me. Injured egos be damned!!!
    ...if I could engineer a method of avoiding those 3, I could almost float through life!!!
    When younger, money flow was a "back-burner relentless undertone." Finding that to be the distraction it IS, I engineer my approach to negate it, living within a paired-down means that dictated I pay myself FIRST, everything else getting into a rhythm by due-date. THAT mindset automatically eliminated back-pressure & generated a comfortable cushion that absorbed "pop-ups" with zero stress involved. The base is simple: eliminate what isn't necessary & improved cash flow is the result. I don't have time for TV, SiriusXM, PAYING FOR MEMBERSHIPS I don't have time to use, PRIME included!!!... & IF a price increase reared it's head, it automatically got re-evaluated on a "worth it???" basis. I eliminated any financial stress long ago, rigidly adhering to this strategy, and it has worked extremely well, as it full-throttle harnesses my ability to self-regulate in a very tangible manner.🖤

    • @thequattro20v
      @thequattro20v 2 года назад +3

      Your comments make so much sence to me Catherine. This is my life also 🖤🖤🖤

  • @edi9892
    @edi9892 2 года назад +16

    For me, it's definitely networking/socializing.
    I can work together with people that are fundamentally different from me, but I suck at small talk, diplomacy, and remembering birthdays of people that are neither interesting nor helpful,, which makes me appear quite arrogant. However, it's less arrogance, but actual pain, when I have to stick for some pointless social event with my work colleagues. I need time to unwind, thus the worst thing people can do after a long and hard workday is to force me to partake in an event that will definitely either stress me out or bore me to death.

    • @SlimThrull
      @SlimThrull 2 года назад +4

      Networking/socializing is awful. I pretty much refuse to do it.

    • @lilfortnite1211
      @lilfortnite1211 2 года назад +4

      so on point lol

    • @dshoec
      @dshoec 2 года назад +2

      Yes. Absolutely horrifying to me.

    • @soulsecrets12789
      @soulsecrets12789 2 года назад

      Or inefficient ppls names.

    • @Obadiah1121
      @Obadiah1121 2 месяца назад

      Then have to turn around and go back to work after they’ve taken up your time.

  • @KatrinaKatress
    @KatrinaKatress 2 года назад +13

    As an INTJ, I would say that while this video may be applicable to generalize overall potential downfalls; this was geared to those who have not fully matured and taken the time to further develop oneself. Nonetheless, I still appreciate the insights provided. Thank you.

    • @nolangutierrez9572
      @nolangutierrez9572 2 года назад +2

      Yeah some of these descriptions seem to be of someone who is socially inept.

    • @drleo6409
      @drleo6409 2 года назад +1

      I agree as one matures and try’s to a just things do improve .

  • @loraine.symington
    @loraine.symington Год назад

    It's always so interesting to me that I always find on the videos of INTJ's that the comment section does not have any spelling errors and clear set out ideas and opinions on the videos.

  • @gravetiger9333
    @gravetiger9333 2 года назад +7

    The 'job interview for dating' is so accurate it hurts XD

  • @nickolaszissimos1189
    @nickolaszissimos1189 Год назад +1

    We INFJs have a life just as hard as INTJs do, with allot of the same and similar problems. Introverted intuition is a difficult sea to navigate, but no other type outside of INTJs undersyand them better than us INFJs.

  • @401Blues
    @401Blues Год назад +1

    All bets are off once a INTJ retires for work force....we put all the drive into enjoying the fruits of our labor....and we go FULL REBEL!

  • @someone_1256
    @someone_1256 2 года назад +12

    Any other INTJ notice that you naturally do things faster than other people or is it just me?

    • @outlaw6429
      @outlaw6429 Год назад +2

      Yes.

    • @awesomeexpressionexp
      @awesomeexpressionexp 7 месяцев назад +2

      Absolutely. We find the most efficient and effective way to complete tasks. I can daydream a week and then just spend a day completing the same work much better than others can come up with after 2 weeks. If I find others doing something better, I will acknowledge and learn so that I can improve.

    • @mhenry1962
      @mhenry1962 6 месяцев назад

      All the time. I react faster, reach conclusions faster and am more thorough than just about everyone.

    • @tuby1726
      @tuby1726 6 месяцев назад

      Perfect way of putting it, I get this all the time, it's usually because we consider a lot of things we do as mundane tasks, we are far more invested in achieving our interests rather than spending an unnecessary amount of extra time doing things like job work or studies, rather get them out the way as quickly and efficiently as possible

  • @Cofeeman911
    @Cofeeman911 Год назад +1

    Just recently realized my personality type. Took countless tests from different sources to be sure. Same result. The description, and videos about my personality, perfectly describe me. I didn't understand what was wrong with me as I always felt like an alien. But now it makes sense. If there's a pattern - we can work with it.

  • @JeffreyWillis800
    @JeffreyWillis800 2 года назад +4

    Exercise for me is important in balancing the physical body with the mind, providing some relaxation from the mind (unless my mind continues to run and I have a hard time shutting it off during exercise), and also to hopefully reduce my ailments in the future so that I can continue to take care of others and myself with little reliance on others.

  • @cdnmetelhead4013
    @cdnmetelhead4013 2 года назад +1

    Unfortunately at this time of year it is hard to avoid social gatherings. I got dragged to my wife’s Christmas party over the weekend. I am stuck with a bunch of guys talking about sport’s betting. Suddenly someone asks me what “App” I use. I tell them that I don’t gamble. I do statistics for a living and understand that over the long haul you will lose money. Apparently I said something that p1 $$ed them off. On the bright side no one else talked to me all night

  • @missbealovesalbert8353
    @missbealovesalbert8353 Год назад +2

    Stubborn- ✔✔
    Poor Bedside Manner- ✔
    Miss out on the moment- ✔
    Eased a bit with age
    None conformity- ✔✔
    Romantic Problems- ✔✔✔
    Caught Up In Details- ✔
    Depression and Stress- ✔✔✔

  • @santinamarie4699
    @santinamarie4699 7 месяцев назад

    That was the best intj video I ever heard

  • @malcolmbrown5331
    @malcolmbrown5331 7 месяцев назад

    This INTJ has been much happier being self employed vs. working for supervisors who wanted “quick fixes” but were not capable of understanding the long term value of investing the time and other resources in improving systems and procedures.

  • @MNkno
    @MNkno 2 года назад +1

    Very accurate. Some of these aspects can be consciously improved with age and experience, but I still struggle with how to tune my "bedside manner" to the person I'm talking to, and getting caught up in details seems to be getting worse, rather than better. I've explained it to some as "Some people can't see the forest for the trees, and in that scenario, I'm your leaf specialist."

  • @jimmoriarty9440
    @jimmoriarty9440 2 года назад

    Well, I've been called out. Thank you for that.

  • @McD-j5r
    @McD-j5r Год назад

    All my problems being an INTJ end up in the same thing: the ego is the people is too strong and they can’t overcome it. Sometimes is just jealousy or little things like that because they don’t have certain quality.
    It put me down sometimes to have to interact because I am not attracted to hire a Teather coaching to teach me how to talk softly and fragile. There is that angle too.

  • @exxcaliburs6002
    @exxcaliburs6002 2 года назад +1

    Damn this is painfully accurate.

  • @alinebaruchi1936
    @alinebaruchi1936 2 года назад +4

    This is perfect soldier personality

    • @Human_01
      @Human_01 2 года назад +1

      Not really! That would be ISTJ.
      INTJ (like the other smart, personalities - including INFJ) are invaluable to humanity! It's a shame their brilliance and necessity is hardly recognised.
      You can thank the evil ESFJ, estj, and their enabling isfp and esfp. Istp to an extent.

    • @alinebaruchi1936
      @alinebaruchi1936 2 года назад

      @@Human_01 I don't see anyone as evil.
      But I know that the ones that you guys talked about may need some protection now.
      Quiet people tend to notice details.

    • @luizbeckman4007
      @luizbeckman4007 2 года назад +2

      no respect for authority?

    • @soulsecrets12789
      @soulsecrets12789 2 года назад +2

      @@luizbeckman4007 if they are incompetent of their title YES we will question ur logic and reasoning

  • @dianedee7919
    @dianedee7919 2 года назад

    OMFG!!this is me to a T !! The isolation is bad, but so relaxing, I near panic In crowds. Best description I've seen so far.

  • @conscript900
    @conscript900 2 года назад +1

    In my case, I suffer with finding it difficult to relay my information and ideas no matter how accurate or worth consideration it is and it is so very frustrating.

  • @Last_one_before_I_go
    @Last_one_before_I_go 2 года назад +1

    I'm a certified INTJ...everything here fits my life, which I sometimes find as a struggle. At least I get relief in my dreams, which are always positive - There, everything is so easy, socially and in romantic and other situations. Then I wake up to reality...anyone out there reading have the same problems?

  • @Mcgee6
    @Mcgee6 2 года назад +1

    Coping with people that dont see the worth in people they see people at first glance but I it’s no different from siblings or trying to get out of something you wanted for long time but didn’t have the luxury or anything because mother or father told you that you’ll practically remain the same forever in that perspective is terrifying because to have that as an INTJ for late starters is really tough I’d say

    • @Human_01
      @Human_01 2 года назад +1

      Agreed!
      Also, please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
      European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!
      The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till.
      Spread the word.

  • @project0077
    @project0077 2 года назад +3

    Non-conformity. My theory on this is that as INTJ's, things have to "make sense" to us. We are perfectly fine with titles, as long as we feel the leadership is effective. Doing something just because you're "so and so" and "because you said so" just doesn't cut it with us. However, just to stay out of the fire, sometimes we have to accept that maybe the person we're dealing with may not be the sharpest tool in the shed. It's irritating at best, but such is life.

  • @OtherE0021
    @OtherE0021 2 года назад

    Youch that last one hit hard

  • @secondhalf791
    @secondhalf791 2 года назад

    Alright I have been quote an infp, but the fact as I show feeling's to the people I'm close with or gradually becoming nice

  • @tiktoktim
    @tiktoktim 2 года назад +2

    Was hard to listen to but it’s truth … all I can do is keep trying in life

  • @missinterpretation4984
    @missinterpretation4984 2 года назад +1

    Well we sound just charming don’t we 😂

  • @dmanh5144
    @dmanh5144 2 года назад

    very helpful insights. thank you very much.

  • @alinebaruchi1936
    @alinebaruchi1936 2 года назад +2

    Some of us are military theologists

  • @reinstern9686
    @reinstern9686 2 года назад

    My life is not hard, I'm exactly were I planned to be since 6 years old and all my goals have been successful fulfill. Is just there's to many people around me trying to talk. 🤔 it doesn't matter how hard I avoid them, they keep trying (specially one guy, he have try for more than 2 years now), what does that mean?

  • @peachesrambo4037
    @peachesrambo4037 Месяц назад

    As a intj, my deam job is to be a lonely scientist on the moon........very lonely.

  • @CHANCEINTUITIVE
    @CHANCEINTUITIVE Год назад

    Shameless sincerity😂 yes I need another INTJ the struggle is real❤

  • @Thai-Moongue
    @Thai-Moongue 2 года назад

    It’s so me.

  • @hristomirdimov7042
    @hristomirdimov7042 8 месяцев назад

    Please help me change! I don’t want to be this character

  • @reviewyup592
    @reviewyup592 2 года назад

    Wow very accurrate.

  • @stevedavenport1202
    @stevedavenport1202 2 года назад +2

    Poor bedside manner. That would describe Doctor House to a T.

  • @lovehim082509
    @lovehim082509 2 года назад

    More difficult…

  • @TenzDenz
    @TenzDenz Год назад

    INTJs are on NZT

  • @birgitvonderburg2097
    @birgitvonderburg2097 Год назад

    INTJ female here, my life isn't hard.

  • @schparque
    @schparque Год назад

    I see no evidence that INTJ's think in images predominantly or otherwise. The MBTI says nothing about that either.

  • @nefertitib4313
    @nefertitib4313 2 года назад

    How can it be unreasonable? I did it therefore everyone should be able to do it too, but nooooo they cannot. I don’t know why. Im only telling the truth, thats right. Useless dumb ppl wouldn’t understand.

  • @Beatsoftilak
    @Beatsoftilak 2 года назад

    Sounds like a curse