This is fascinating stuff. I grew up during Helen Reddy and her crusade to convince women that they were just the same as men except prettier. Well, ok, there are obvious enough physical differences that Reddy could not deny (despite her lyrics ("If I want to, I can do ANYTHING" -actually, No, you Can't- and neither can men-) This was , I believe, based on the assumption/perception being pushed that men had it better than women, and that women were being taken for granted and not given enough respect by men. Gray's technical and scientific report indicated that women are indeed NOT the same, so let's try to understand why they don't react to things the same way as we men do, so we can better recognize this as FACT, not STIGMA. I have always said (to the effect of) Viva La Difference - women and men are SPECIALISTS, and one helps the other.
The reason women make requests by asking "Would you like to do xyz?" is because women don't like being directly accountable for things they want. They like phrasing things in such a way where they can later deny responsibility for it later on, if they need to. That's the point of phrasing requests indirectly like that.
He also needs to give this information to women, so they can understand how destructive radical 3rd wave feminism is to their health and their relationships with men, hurting the future of our species.
yeah and men are addicted to p0rn and videgames and are literally manchilds who can't control their emotions...even if you're not a feminist (and I'm not) the quality of men is so low, add poor hygiene, balding, belly/chubbyness...even the men with full time employment are addicted to p0rn, are on some medication (drugs), smoke...it's appaling
how do you find a man that is not addicted to p0rn and/or videgames and/or drugs (weed and cigars included)? even the men with full time employment are addicted to p0rn, are on some medication (drugs), smoke, have poor hygiene...it's appalling
In short.....want to make your woman happy and all over you today? Talk to her for an hour or so..and listen...and watch her.....fall in love with you all over again.
OMG..ten books can be written on just a few minutes of this.....amazing...easy...do you want a happy ending tonight? Just fallow these few steps.......so true...thank you. right on .
I was at this talk at the Book Passage way back then. And I still see John strolling in Mill Valley. We spoke recently and he is a different man than he was in this video. For a good reason because he found love again after his wife passed away tragically from cancer in 2018. He married Lin Wang on May 4, 2020. She was his long-time tour guide and translator from China and she is 30 years younger than him. He said she keeps him young and has found his soul mate for the ret of his life. Just a beautiful story for a beautiful man.
I learnt to have chill days and do absolutely nothing Also you have a full days work men still expect dinner, sort out kids etc so we learn that and needs to be undone and sorted out
I can't say for other women (I guess it likely comes down to the fact that every individual is unique), but I was also very confused as to why I related considerably more to the male characteristics and behaviors, until I learned that I was on the autism spectrum. My conclusion is that there are other planets in the Solar System that haven't yet been quite sufficiently explored for all of us to know with clarity just where it is we're from.
@@nofybn7794 Sorry, I sometimes rely on analogies and metaphors too much. I wasn't referring to actual space exploration, but to the idea that there might be more nuance to human nature than our traditional views of male and female as a the main defining pillar of identity--in other words, you're either from Mars or Venus and there's no in-between, or other "planets" out there you might feel that you belong to even more than those two. Now, I do believe that men and women in general tend to feel and think differently in many regards, and Dr. Gray's book has helped me make some sense of my loved ones' reactions and behaviors. I was just kind of reflecting out loud on my perplexing realization that as a neurodivergent individual, I can't relate to the characteristics typically associated with my own gender at all, and while I recognize myself a little more in descriptions of the opposite sex, it doesn't seem quite right either. I think that's largely because there are other variables impacting how my brain was wired and works, in an even more fundamental way, which makes my interactions with people very complicated regardless of their gender. That is why, based on this image of Mars and Venus, I rather feel like I'm from elsewhere entirely. Or maybe just the Moon : not even a planet, but a small, quiet world that's somewhere in-between, but that's not part of the Earth... I don't know. I often come up with random associations that seem odd to others, so don't mind me if I'm just rambling nonsense.
I love the guys here talking about women in the work place and woman having equality as if that is why relationships are failing. Well then maybe if ALL men could earn a decent living for the family all on his own then maybe we could stay home and raise kids and be June Cleaver! Pffffft
What does equality mean to you? Men and women were created equal, only with different roles. Neither is better than the other. I sure wouldn't want to do my husband's work.
I know a man who will spend days every years cutting down trees splitting logs loading it up driving it home packing it away so we can have a warm house in the cold of winter. I hope you meet one soon.
I guess so. :) Heh, that's an old comment. Back then, I wrote that because in my native language (French), to be "in the Moon" means to have one's head in the clouds, and I figured I spent more time up there than down on any actual planet. I had also just found out that I was autistic and I'd seen a little animation on the subject titled "My Little Brother from the Moon". I thought it made sense that I'd be from there too, given that I didn't feel like I belonged either on Venus or Mars...
Thank you making this video available to us. Very informative.
This is fascinating stuff. I grew up during Helen Reddy and her crusade to convince women that they were just the same as men except prettier. Well, ok, there are obvious enough physical differences that Reddy could not deny (despite her lyrics ("If I want to, I can do ANYTHING" -actually, No, you Can't- and neither can men-) This was , I believe, based on the assumption/perception being pushed that men had it better than women, and that women were being taken for granted and not given enough respect by men. Gray's technical and scientific report indicated that women are indeed NOT the same, so let's try to understand why they don't react to things the same way as we men do, so we can better recognize this as FACT, not STIGMA. I have always said (to the effect of) Viva La Difference - women and men are SPECIALISTS, and one helps the other.
Thank you for information, very helpful,
Even we are in our 70, it help understanding our 4 adults kids. And ourselves too.
The reason women make requests by asking "Would you like to do xyz?" is because women don't like being directly accountable for things they want. They like phrasing things in such a way where they can later deny responsibility for it later on, if they need to. That's the point of phrasing requests indirectly like that.
not really.
you know nothing about women.
He also needs to give this information to women, so they can understand how destructive radical 3rd wave feminism is to their health and their relationships with men, hurting the future of our species.
yeah and men are addicted to p0rn and videgames and are literally manchilds who can't control their emotions...even if you're not a feminist (and I'm not) the quality of men is so low, add poor hygiene, balding, belly/chubbyness...even the men with full time employment are addicted to p0rn, are on some medication (drugs), smoke...it's appaling
Hilarious & Brilliant Thankyou!!🙏
how do you find a man that is not addicted to p0rn and/or videgames and/or drugs (weed and cigars included)?
even the men with full time employment are addicted to p0rn, are on some medication (drugs), smoke, have poor hygiene...it's appalling
OMG!!!! THIS IS GOLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
In short.....want to make your woman happy and all over you today? Talk to her for an hour or so..and listen...and watch her.....fall in love with you all over again.
Veronika Khar No he said ten minutes! Haha You can take longer but the key is saying ten minutes. It makes it less daunting of a task.
men should not talk, they should listen without offering solutions (unless solutions are explicitly requested)
John Grey needs to give instruction to guys on Wall St, Heads of Corporations that are polluting the earth,, and teach them how to Listen and Love
Please listen all females. Please
lol and ALL males.
Yes, All females and males please listen.
Chaosbishop CGF how about YOU LISTEN.
Above everything else your state of mind is the most important thing for men or women. Do not ignore or you will suffer.
I have a question: where can I read about how our behavior can change our estrogens level? I mean scientific researches. I can’t find any.
Looks like an interesting theme.
For what reason is sex a service? Like a car being tuned up.
OMG..ten books can be written on just a few minutes of this.....amazing...easy...do you want a happy ending tonight? Just fallow these few steps.......so true...thank you. right on .
So true about men doing things the last minute
Great video
I was at this talk at the Book Passage way back then. And I still see John strolling in Mill Valley. We spoke recently and he is a different man than he was in this video. For a good reason because he found love again after his wife passed away tragically from cancer in 2018. He married Lin Wang on May 4, 2020. She was his long-time tour guide and translator from China and she is 30 years younger than him. He said she keeps him young and has found his soul mate for the ret of his life. Just a beautiful story for a beautiful man.
it's a well known fact that women's work is never done!
I learnt to have chill days and do absolutely nothing
Also you have a full days work men still expect dinner, sort out kids etc so we learn that and needs to be undone and sorted out
Why is it I need the man things?
Kathy Myers ???
You don't need them; you want them. and it's OK.
I can't say for other women (I guess it likely comes down to the fact that every individual is unique), but I was also very confused as to why I related considerably more to the male characteristics and behaviors, until I learned that I was on the autism spectrum. My conclusion is that there are other planets in the Solar System that haven't yet been quite sufficiently explored for all of us to know with clarity just where it is we're from.
@@StarlitSwamp Not sure that is related.
@@nofybn7794 Sorry, I sometimes rely on analogies and metaphors too much. I wasn't referring to actual space exploration, but to the idea that there might be more nuance to human nature than our traditional views of male and female as a the main defining pillar of identity--in other words, you're either from Mars or Venus and there's no in-between, or other "planets" out there you might feel that you belong to even more than those two.
Now, I do believe that men and women in general tend to feel and think differently in many regards, and Dr. Gray's book has helped me make some sense of my loved ones' reactions and behaviors. I was just kind of reflecting out loud on my perplexing realization that as a neurodivergent individual, I can't relate to the characteristics typically associated with my own gender at all, and while I recognize myself a little more in descriptions of the opposite sex, it doesn't seem quite right either. I think that's largely because there are other variables impacting how my brain was wired and works, in an even more fundamental way, which makes my interactions with people very complicated regardless of their gender.
That is why, based on this image of Mars and Venus, I rather feel like I'm from elsewhere entirely. Or maybe just the Moon : not even a planet, but a small, quiet world that's somewhere in-between, but that's not part of the Earth... I don't know. I often come up with random associations that seem odd to others, so don't mind me if I'm just rambling nonsense.
subtitulos pleas!!!!! ;)
I love the guys here talking about women in the work place and woman having equality as if that is why relationships are failing. Well then maybe if ALL men could earn a decent living for the family all on his own then maybe we could stay home and raise kids and be June Cleaver! Pffffft
yeah men today are manchilds...literally another child to look after, it's exhausting!
If women think theyre do EQUAL THINK who does the dishes st family gatherings.Men? Usually those women.
What does equality mean to you? Men and women were created equal, only with different roles. Neither is better than the other. I sure wouldn't want to do my husband's work.
I would love to see a lecture on single relationships for baby boomers. Do the same rules apply when we are in our 60’s and 70’s?
Deb Harris thanks! I was referring to our age now that the boomer generation are seniors now... 😁
I have NEVER known a man to fix a computer or invest the amount of time that he mentions on anything.
Could you be more specific?
I know a man who will spend days every years cutting down trees splitting logs loading it up driving it home packing it away so we can have a warm house in the cold of winter. I hope you meet one soon.
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Humans are from earth.
Unless you spend more time on the Moon.
I guess so. :)
Heh, that's an old comment. Back then, I wrote that because in my native language (French), to be "in the Moon" means to have one's head in the clouds, and I figured I spent more time up there than down on any actual planet.
I had also just found out that I was autistic and I'd seen a little animation on the subject titled "My Little Brother from the Moon". I thought it made sense that I'd be from there too, given that I didn't feel like I belonged either on Venus or Mars...
Definitely a very intuition-sharp dude. Cheers.
its all stereotypes
AxelSituation Stereotypes exist for a reason. Usually statistics back them up.