When She Comes Back, but You’re No Longer Waiting
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2025
- Love isn’t an experiment. When you step away to 'find yourself,' you risk losing the person who was certain about you all along.
Respect and cherish those who choose you without hesitation, because not everyone waits.
#heartbreak #heartbroken #moviequotes #lovestory #betrayal #cheating #sad
Would you wait for someone who went to explore life?
No.
They can enjoy their exploration and I'm gonna follow my path. I ain't gonna keep waiting, arms crossed, for someone to return and 'settle down' with me.
Hell no!
No.
Dumb B.
F**k no!!!!!
That's a man who knows his value
Agreed. Good decision.
And some women try to gaslight you after when you tell them no:
"You're just insecure", "you have an unhealthy ego", etc.
Shut that shit down right away, manipulative AF
Respect this men his know his value (self respect)
Well sort of, he begged her not to go, a man who knows his worth would have been "Ok, bye." and walk away with his respect intact
I wouldn't say so. Later on in the movie they reconnect and he kisses her, but the dude is engaged. Low value man for that.
"I didn't need an experiment to know that I loved you."
I just eat my popcorn 🍿, drink my soda or juice, and tell them "NO" looking DEEPLY into the Windows of their Soul with the BIGGEST SMILE EVER. Then go about my day.
That part...!!! 💯👍🏾
That’s a great and a very true statement.
on the spot. If someone truly loves then there is no need for experiment. you cannot live without that person in first place.
Hit so deep
If she says she needs a break, give her one, permanently.
Me: it's okey, i'm gonna give you a break to retire from me".
Her: - Well, how long should we do that?
Me: "Retirement means it's for the rest of your life".
Facts
Revenge gets you nowhere. If you still love her then give her a chance.
@@SewTubular It’s not revenge, it’s self respect. She just wants to test the waters and wants you to be there if she doesn’t find anything better.
@@lonestarrk9308 Exactly. When a person asks for a "break", it's almost never intended as a temporary thing. It's a passive-aggressive way to end a relationship without verbally acknowledging the fact that the relationship is done. It is diabolical in its nature as a weak-minded person will keep a space open in their heart for a possibility that most likely will not happen and when the truth is figured out, a resentful and wrathful person is created.
My first serious girl friend did this to me and ripped my heart of out my chest. Accused me of cheating as a reason, she came back 1.5 months later to my house looking like the best ice cream cone on a hot summer day. She smelt and looked so good. She offered to come inside and talk, but i said i’ll come outside.
She came back to me it was perfect,tooo perfect so i decided as much i loved her i would stay single. Few months later i realized she was pregnant. Thank God i never let her come inside to talk that day or i would be fathering a child that is not mine. Her mom saw me years later as i became a staple in our community and hugged me soo tight. I told her to tell her daughter I said thank you. She saw me years later and told me the best days of her life was when we were together. My best days came after she left and I’m still
Living my best life.
Now that's a great story, and your line at the end is perfect.
Awesome bro! Way to go!
😅😅😅😅🎉🎉🎉🎉Great job!! Know your worth.
Because that’s the worst thing you could ever do right? Father a child that’s not yours. I thank God everyday for the man that stepped up for my grandson.
@@julesybethmedlini ...wasn't his choice or responsibility. And she probably would have lied and told him he was the dad, had he let her inside that day. Good for him 💯
When my ex wife gave me divorce papers, i told her," your never gonna find someone who loves you like i do". She says," there better out there Mark"! Since then I finished raising my son's from her, got remarried, started a business, enjoying grandchildren now. She's still single and not doing anything productive in her life. She's attempted suicide, she drinks too much, gotta couple of DWI's, had a kid with another guy who dumped her as soon as he found she was pregnant. She's a mess, yet still tries to tell my kids that it's all my fault. It's been twenty years we've been divorced and she still blames me for her shortcomings. Then around Christmas time she tells my son's that she thinks she still " loves" me. My son told her," mom, dad's taken. Find someone else". I tell my son's the three best things i got from your mom was you two guys, and a divorce. Sorry for the long read. Thanks
It's a read that needs to be read by some bloke out there. Thanks for sharing.
Dang
Good for you, Mark. Glad you’re happy.
Props to you man. You’re an awesome guy.
Happy for you.
The tears only started when she realized the concequences became permanent.
Just like he told her would happen.
😂
Good for her. The guy is sh**.
@@BrandespadaOhhh… Looking for some engagement on your obvious rage bait, troll? I’m feeling jovial, so here you go.👍
@NovaOctane21 The guy is sh** squared!
“Don’t prioritise someone who makes you an option”.
Regardless of gender
Word's of wisdom.
@@lindamceachern5467No gender was mentioned…
Thank you I don't know who you are.
@@lindamceachern5467 that sentence didn't include any gender, very awkward of you to have the need to mention that...
"A bottle of water can be 50 cents at a supermarket, $2 at the gym, $3 at the movies, and $6 on a plane. Same water. Only thing that changed its value was the place. So the next time you feel your worth is nothing, maybe you're at the wrong place.” ~Kobi Simmons.
Love this❤
Deep
Wonderful❤😊
Ur value is ur value anywhere. If someone thinks they can step on that value walk away. Leave with ur dignity and self respect. U deserve love, happiness, loyalty, respect, and support. And I know someone will give that to me as I will for them
I am 75, I went from 2 coffee dates in 17 years to a 51 year old girl friend who beautiful and treats me better than a maid by moving to the Philippines.
This here is a real man who respects and value his time and energy.
Lol dude watch the movie hes pathetic as well
His only mistake was trying to talk her out of leaving.
This is what self esteem, self worth and self respect look like. If you don't respect yourself, why would anyone else?
Oh, and sometimes, you don't get a second chance......thee end.....
@@tidefanyankee2428very well said 😎
@@so-sharpit really was good for the both of them.
My ex had the opportunity to spend some time in the US (Brazilian here, btw) and 4 months into her "experience" she asked me for a break. I didn't ever let her explain the BS and told her "I just hope you know what you've just done" and blocked all communication. Little time after that I found my beloved wife, caring mother of my blessed son. I regret nothing!
“American-ized” is a thing 😂
Like the Amish going to Rumsprigga…
Good for you bro 👏👏
KING! 👑💯😊
Parabéns, irmão!
God is good. He had plans for you which didn't include your ex.
@@si8086 I believe, brother. Thanks!
She left him once to see if someone is better than him, she will do it again. Good on him for not letting her take advantage of him all over.
Bingo that is the biggest fear, what about when someone younger and more beautiful comes along with a damaged brain, they will be gone again and you will go through it all again.
He gets back with her..
@@DmanDice ᴺᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒ
@@DmanDice So he does simp out! What show is this?
@@DmanDice what show is this and why did he go back to her?
This is what happens when the culture teaches that relationships and people are things to be "experienced", when they are not. Amusement parks are things to experience, people who love and care for you are to be cherished.
never simp, never settle and never take someone back who once didn't want or value you
I did.
We got some beautiful kids out of it. Otherwise, it was a mistake. She was always leaving me and seeing how much money she could take with her.
After years is that i finally left. My life is much better without her.
Don't stay with someone who takes breaks from you.
I did.....
Destroyed my life for the next 15 years ..
25 years later I'm still going my own way.
I'm not.
Confident to say those things. Nor do I want to be confident to say I'm on my own.Who wants to admit that they're alone not me
Hear hear
Never allow someone to be your priority when you are only their option!
Brotherhood is proud of you brother 😊✊🏿
Hell yeah man we gotta stick together brother ✊
This is not a brother thing but a human thing.. As a woman I am proud of him because I also know my value for a man to not treat me like she did him
Hell yeah. What fools want someone back after they've found whoever or Whomevers they went of to *'Find'* themselves with. Go, party, get ran thru by Lord Chadimeus Hemsworth Thunderschlong III as much as you want. Just don't come back & expect anything to be the same, nor any kind of welcome. Do they think we're stupid, weak $imps?
Anna you will never understand apparently
If their roles were reversed, the sisterhood would feel the same, @asonganyic;ement5863. They had an agreement. It's too bad when there are kids involved.
That line “I didn’t need an experiment to know that I loved you” certainly stings. A+
Good one
Under rated
Women need that experiment.
@@ValensBellator I felt that line! I LIVED that line!!
I had a coworker tell me her mom told her to have sex with more guys before committing to her current boyfriend who she had discussed marriage with. She left dude for a "bit" as she called it to do just that. She came back and dude told her, you left me to fuck other guys, get the fuck out of my house.
Her acting was so spot on. That's a very complicated expression to nail so flawlessly.
I have a whole new level of respect for actors now
This won you over with all actors? 🤔
They're just really good at lying. But yeah she's a convincing liar.
I don't respect any of them especially when I found out fonzi was a dweeb.
Are you kidding? All women can do that
Lying is the only thing women are even half way decent at
Real life, I was head over heels and begged her to stay. 18 years later she calls me and says it was always me. None of her other relationships worked because she still loved me. Well I had met the actual real love of my life and there was no way I was going backwards! I have someone now that stayed with me through all of life’s up and downs and I didn’t have to beg and there was no way I would ever screw that up!
She thought you were a sucker. Good job for not falling for her manipulation.
18 years later 😯 how old where you when together ?
Great man, great call.
Its okay brother, she called the other 22 men she left you for and told them they were the one all along, she still loved them, etc when she hit the wall.
She only loves you because she couldn’t get the other guys. You made the right choice.
I had a similar experience. I’m not sure why women do this.
How nice of her to show her true colours early saved a lot of heartbreak later on, wish more women would do this and save people the trouble.
Yeah I'll give her that.
@@notnetflix2022 mike drop moment 🤣💯⚡️
@@notnetflix2022 mic drop moment !!! 🤣💯⚡️
When my fiancée told me she wanted to leave me on the morning of my 22nd birthday, I thought she was trying to destroy me. But when she came back nine months later begging me to take her back, I thanked her for giving me the best gift I'd ever been given: clarity.
@@wolfehologram3539 Why the hell are you engaged at 21 years old???
I had a breakup in college that set me back. Took a while to get over it. Five years later I met a certain young lady. I fought the feelings I had for her for a while. I decided to commit 100 percent. We just celebrated our 53rd year of marriage. If you can't commit totally, don't commit at all.
Love this thank you for sharing and congrats on your beautiful marriage 😊
Thank you for the positive inspiration that real women do exist!! Congrats to you and your wife 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🫡
53 years WOW, Just shows REAL PEOPLE are out there, congratulations tô.you and your lovely wife❤❤❤
Good morning,
just wanted to say congratulations on your successful marriage. It’s certainly not always easy and requires much tolerance, selflessness and work from both parties.
Hey, but I’ll shut up because who am I to say this to you? After 53 years you already know. Possibly wrote the book.
My sincerest congratulations to you.
Wishing you both all the very best.
If you can’t commit--Don’t bother dating around or at all, you only hurt others deeply. Thank You--Congrats on 53 years but here’s to many more too!My folks are 64 years-happily and going strong! They committed all the way to do well in life!
I asked someone out in the tenth grade, and she said that wasn't interested since she just broke up with her boyfriend. Fast forward to years later, I bumped into her, completely forgetting about that until she said something about it, and said that she was ready.
I was no longer interested in her.
Point is, guys don't wait around forever for a single person because someone else will come along and recognize us for our value, and we reciprocate that.
This is a little different imo, assuming she was telling the truth anyway. Trust me, you DO NOT want to be a rebound. At that stage she likely still had feelings for her ex. It's unlikely she would give it her all, and honestly it's healthy for people to take time alone after a breakup.
You need to be completely over your feelings, and have your baggage in check before starting with someone new. Obviously it's ok to always think a certain way about them whether it be good or bad. But if you are actively thinking about them on a regular basis and letting them influence your emotions, then you aren't ready.
It's possible you might have taken this the wrong way, though it's also good that you exhibit a healthy sense of self respect. If its something you feel you wouldn't get over, I spose it's also good you made the choice you did as that could lead to future friction.
An ex tried to pull the same sh!t on me. Said we needed a break and when I tried to get some clarification what that meant she wouldn't elaborate. After a little while I saw that she was seeing other guys, a couple pretty seriously, so I moved on. About 4-5 years later she moves back to our city and we hang out a few times to catch up- at least that's what it was to me but she felt we were supposed to be dating and that I wasn't giving her the 'dating' level attention. I had a straightforward conversation with her that it took a painstaking 2 years to fully get over her and now I'm in a good place in my life, and I had different desires including the type of person I wanted to be with. She tries to backtrack to how it was supposed to be just a break and I was like... you know what I can't do this, good luck with your stuff, it was nice while it lasted, I've got my own life to live. Things got messy for a bit but it's over now and I'm confident that I'm better off than if I got back with her. Wishing the best for those who are experiencing similar BS 🙏
Yeah ya think? She took a "break" from you to go and sleep with a bunch of other guys because modern culture taught her she needed to have a "hoe phase" or else she wouldn't be complete and the FOMO got to her. So essentially the deal was and always is:
You have her in the beginning when she was either a virgin or had only slept with 1-2 people, you take a "break" while she goes and sleeps with whoever she wants whenever, and then she comes back to you older, traumatized with loads of emotional baggage she didn't have before, and a used up hole that was once a respectable and marriageable woman worthy of having your children.
You're real G! U made the right choice!
Why were you even hanging out with her?
So proud of you, man.
💪🏽😎 broski for the DUBB!!!
my ex tried the same shyt. Broke off an 8 yr relationship, and tried coming back 3 yrs later... I said
"😏 The only thang I want from you, is that good ahh THROAT 🤤... Im in my haux phase right now"
Every man needs to memorise his last two lines from "I'm not an idiot..." 🔥🔥🔥
But what about men who are idiots?
@@skankhunt3624lmfao Theyre the ones who take them back. You cant save em. Some ppl have to learn the hard way and be examples for the rest of us on what NOT to do. Id like to think this is how all the poisonous foods we're discovered.😂
@@skankhunt3624 yea, what about us?
Every Man and Every Woman. No one needs to be disrespected and the other person to be like: You'll keep. We'll pick up where we left off. NOPE!
Dumb take. Women are built to share and wait their turn. Real men only accept virgins.
You are a simp.
If a woman tells you she wants to find herself, help her do it. Politely show her the one way door is!
Well said! I agree 💯! There are a lot of women who don’t appreciate good men and visa versa And the same with a guy , if he wants it , give it to him!
@@annacaiazza8869 Yup, and to make lemonade you need water, lemon and sugar. Oh, and don't forget the glass to put all of that in and a spoon and stir it. Without all of these, there would be no lemonade.
This thing is you can still make a journey of self discovery without ditching your partner. If your partner is what's holding you back from being your true self
1)you are not really into them, so better break up for good
2)they don't understand you or support you, so better break up for good
Taking a break is not the solution, you either work things out or you don't.
💯
And never look back
Give that man a standing ovation!
“I need to know who I am alone”!!! The battle cry of a woman who just realized they are desired by other men and doesn’t give a crap if she hurts someone.
Painfully ttue!😢
Words 💯
Yep. They always just end up sleeping around. It's gross
Well said, so true.
Bruh she just needed space, it's not that deep 😂
Guys, there is no thing as a break, it's a breakup. And if any woman, or man, offers this, dump them, and walk away. They obviously don't care for you enough.
My best friend married a guy who had wanted a break early in the their relationship. He proposed soon after the break and they are happily married together for almost 30 years. So never say never.
@@gemmahart3985exactly. My husband and I were “on a break” a couple years into our marriage due to his addiction and going to rehab. There were rules though, no seeing other people, and we were still talking regularly but I was staying with my parents. His addiction created risks for our daughter that I didn’t want her subjected to. But we still loved each other and he’s sober now and doing great. We’ve been together 20 years. Sometimes people need a little space to get it together. Not like the scene in this movie though. She thought she could do better and then came crawling back.
@@gemmahart3985The world operates on the rule, not the exception.
Absolutely - one and done as the expression goes - no second chances where this is concerned.
@@gemmahart3985ur friend is an idiot and how the hell do u know they have a happy marriage, u live with them or something? Tbh u probably just made this shit up lol.
That subtle face change in the eyes was some really good acting.
That's exactly what I came to say. Great acting
Great acting, but a great representation of when someone feels like they’ve been wrong in their warped dichotomy of how to love someone.
@@bigsmokiee55 EXACTLY!!
When he said “or who you’ve been doing” - man that values his character. 💪👌
What a brilliant actress. You can see the sudden but subtle shift of emotions on her face as he moves from "whatever you've done" to "whoever you've done it with"
Why would anyone care what sort of emotions such a low-grade individual experiences?
@@liberatemi9642 It's acting dude. chill.
@@WizturdRSThese dudes are weird, bruh
She probably did it to some poor guy in real life
Women are well skilled at invoking tears in their eyes xd
"I didn't need an experiment to know that I love you."
Savage my good man absolutely Savage. I'm keeping that one
‘Loved’ not ‘love’.. huge difference
Facts
How is that savage he expressed his feelings with words and disfiguring her?
Do you gain something by using others to lie to yourself?
@@sidcomegys4154 no I am simply using the word in order to praise him for doing exactly what you said. People can use the word in different contexts but personally this is how I use it. Kind of like saying you go boy
That guy told her exactly what she needed to hear about her choice. Now she gets to live with it.
And she'll get over the initial disappointed of her decision and not regret her choice.
@@lamar9331 That's probably true, but at least he will be free of her.
He gave her a gift though.
That is, an opportunity for her to learn that choices come with consequences.
Hopefully, she learns & grows from this.
We all fxck it up somewhere as we are only ppl.
But men & women from all over learn from these experiences & grow. That's why it is called experience.
Which is why all those grandpas, grandmas, uncles & aunties have all that wisdom.
@@zap_sigma1the gift of accountability. Most women today live their lives as perpetual teenagers
@@chumbucket6184 Not only that, but an opportunity for growth in her life.
We all royally eff up something at some point in our lives. That isn't what defines though.
It's the hard lessons we learn going forward & the beautiful growth that can take place.
It's so hard to not unsee how hard media to tries normalise "women needing to take a break".
There is an old saying "I don't have a dog in the fight" meaning, they just write they dont care
They have normalized, but men are now choosing to leave the playing field.
My first live in girlfriend gave almost this exact speech when we broke up. She reached out to me 2 months later trying to rekindle things. While she was gone for those 2 months, my life was so stress free, and simple. I refused to get back with her
People who treat commitment like a game are not marriage material.
Toxic people stay toxic.
This was me after an abusive boyfriend - now ex - had to go away for work because he couldn’t find a job where we lived. The day after he left, I felt like I could breath. The days & weeks following, I realized that I was better off without him. The peace of mind, the clarity was coming in. I was healing from the depression that came on & the weight gain, as a result of verbal abuse. I was working out, eating healthy, feeling good about my time without him. I wasn’t seeing anyone new, I was just working & enjoying my time alone & regaining a sense of Self.
It’s actually a blessing when someone goes their own way for awhile & allows you to be alone with yourself, regardless of who it is & for what reason. It’s when someone tries to come back in, just expecting you to be there waiting for however long … that is disrespectful.
@@steven1671correct
Life is like a penis when it’s soft you can’t beat it, when it’s hard you get screwed 😅
After 10 years together and 3 years apart, my ex happened to see me out with a girl who l was casually seeing. Literally the following day, l received a phone call from my ex asking me to take her back.
I said, "l am surprised you would think that after being with other people, you could come back to me. Let's be clear, that's NEVER happening! I'm not your backup plan or safety net.
All said with a calm, matter-of-fact and unemotional delivery. After 3 years of being apart, l had finished going through the emotional pain of the breakup and had reached a point where l couldn't care less.
They don't want us to be happy without them. They all think they're the main characters, and we're just around to be their accessories.
No thanks I'm KenEnough! I laughed my azz off at the Barbie movie. Still wanna put that onna T shirt. Lol 😆
@@clarencemcglynn114 Kenough 😅
Good for you. I have a slightly different take on what happened though. This gal initially saw you as a Beta and broke up with you thinking she could do better (hypergamous doubt) and then later on saw you with this other gal (preselection by another woman) and now sees you as a Alpha. You did have another option here though, you could see her but only as a plate (spinning plates). You may never take her seriously (or you may, all women are hypergamous) but you could have fun with her and see close and up front how this works. The ironic part of doing that is that she would probably try to REALLY nail you down. Once she did (if you were dumb enough to let her), she would see you as a Beta again. Women just can't love like men and I guess we just need to accept it. Sigh! 😅
@@GrayslakegunnerSomeone’s been listening to Richard Cooper! 😎👍
For everyone asking for the name of the movie…I believe this is the 2016 film titled “How to be Single” with Dakota Johnson, Rebel Wilson, Leslie Mann and Alison Brie. Hope this helps!
Always upvote the name giver :)
*Hmm, the name of that movie title makes me think.* 🤔
@@Christian_PrepperVery!😂
I love you my hero
You're a godsend. Thank you very much!
I was in that situation long time ago. She broke up because she wanted space a week after she was banging another guy. I had a painful recovery and even the doctor gave me antidepressant to cope with the pain. Six months after I fully recovered and got over her. She didn’t even call me she had her friend as a messenger to tell me she wanted to get back together because she was ready to be with me but I did exactly what he did. Told her friend to tell her I want nothing to do with her and wish her good luck with her life.
That was beautiful, never be their backup plan.
Series name?
@@txndarkster5936How to be single
@@txndarkster5936movie, “how to be single”
@@txndarkster5936I think it's from the movie How to Be Single.
The name of the movie is "How to Be Single" and I read the whole synopsis without having to watch the movie. Wow...what a bunch of self sabotaging knuckleheads...but their antics are soooo true to real life.
YOU are my Hero.
ALL I needed was the title of this movie.
Thankfully all you did was read the synopsis; I had to watch it for a date night lol 😅I love a good bad movie….this was a BAD bad movie.
@@aztn19
You are a hero as well for falling on your sword and telling us that this movie is not worth watching!
The name of the movie should have been "How to Become Perennially Single."
Thank you, here's your cape! ❤😂
"I guess you're done with whatever or whoever you've been doing..." That was savage. 😂
honest. It was honest. And she knew it. But as a modern vvoman aka w§ore she hated that he told her the truth. No sane man would try such BS after acting that way. NO ONE.
Finally.. A man That knows His True Value!
I've been told I was insecure, controlling, etc. and that's why they wanted to end the relationships. I would, in the end, say ok.
Later when they came back, I'd ask, you said I was all these horrible things, why do you want to get back together with a terrible person like me? They would say they said those things just to hurt me. Then I'd ask well why did you leave and the responses would be to find out what they wanted, and they realized it was me they wanted after all.
I would tell them, I'm very sorry but while you were out trying to figure out what you wanted, I was figuring out what I didn't want. I'd rather be alone. Its crazy how many relationships ended that way including my marriage (25 years ago).
Edit: my last relationship ended like that 8 1/2 years ago. As you can see, I'm done with relationships!
"they would say those things to hurt me".
Well, why would I want to be with someone who wants to hurt me?
I told you you were hurting me, and you still did it. The trust is broken. Goodbye, have a nice life.
@Polopollo75, you are correct and I agree.
There are 7.8 billion people on this planet. We shouldn't lose our minds over one.
I can understand why they used that strategy as one of the ways to go away. I don't think they realized it also helped me move along as well and not look back.
I still love them all and wish them all nothing but happiness and success.
I can love them from afar, I just can't live with them and that is ok.
@@HRPufnStuf-tk8mmi do have a question to you man
I'm myself insecure with women out there kind of icks me when I grew up as a teenager that women often loves guys who are tall handsome or good in studies or smart or have good physic or great in sports or the most popular if they are rich
I was just avg in about everything and I knew I might be the one who isn't loved for personality or other good values Money is the key nothing matters
But when you grow up and take good care of yourself at a point where you become rich handsome and smart or all the traits that women want especially marriage
For someone who never had any relationship back then girls just want to know about me and I can see man money is the key that drives them towards me..... It just ticks me off the wrong way cause I'm really insecure type of guy very emotional and just don't want to be used.... That's why I haven't been in relations either
I just need to know when would be the time when there would be someone who will truly love you for who you are and not what's around you?
@@HRPufnStuf-tk8mm This is the deepest, most mature discussion I've seen online in a long time... @Polopollo75 is absolutely right "Why would I want to be with someone who wants to hurt me" was hoping you'd figured it out but seems he's noticed it as well
Try over 20 year's
EVERYONE needs to understand this lesson, true love doesn’t need to be tested, compared and contrasted, experimented on; it just needs to be appreciated and nurtured. If you think you’re missing out on “life” be adventurous with your love, have fun with your love, try new things with your love, grow together. If you two can’t do that, you weren’t meant to be together; if the other person can’t do that, they’re holding you back; if YOU can’t do that, you’re holding THEM back, and probably don’t love them in the way they need to be loved :(
True Love does not need to be compared.
Yeah, still dna test your kids. It's not about trust, it's about minuscule odds of a disaster.
Well said.
Best comment here.
PREACH 🔥🔥💯😎🫘
The fact that there are real people like this is beyond baffling.
@@bm4551 that is more terrifying than it is baffling.
This is the norm
People no, women yes.
I experienced this shit firsthand, my ex-wife is a perfect example
@Petejones-r4f no it's definitely people, don't be a sexist misogynistic ass just cause some woman broke your heart
Wow, i havent seen this movie in years! One of my most favorite scenes ever in a cheesy romcom. This guy refused to be "second choice". He refused to be her safety net when the relationship she really wanted fell thru. He stood on business and showed that he was not willing to compromise his self respect and dignity. I think that many young men can learn from this.
What's the name of this movie?
Dude stood his ground and didn't take back this narcissist. If she wants a "break", never take her back.
I'm glad someone recognized this as narcissistic behavior.
you sound like you’re projecting 😂
And her 'back' would certainly been blown out, multiple times.
NEVER take garbage back...
damn her acting is incredible. the way her expression slightly changes when her ex is telling her he’s done. the pained smile of realisation and eyes welling up with tears.
Please, what's the movie?
And yes, Dakota Johnson is great (also "Cousin Gregg")
Yep,, I don't know any woman who will not welcome back a wandering man. Yeah.. mother nature has given you guys one hell of an advantage over women 🙄
Her best movie is The Peanut Butter Falcon. You're welcome
Just before I got married I started to get cold feet. I asked my fiance if we should take a break. She told me if we took a break she wouldn't promise she'd be around.
I thought I had something to get out of my system but in reality I would have made a big mistake. I stuck around and I'm thankful that I did.
We now have two awesome kids and I'll spend a lifetime letting her know that she was the right choice all along.
well done sir!
You’re a better man than most for admitting that, I’m glad you knocked some sense into yourself.
This “something in my system” mentality is something so annoyingly childish, like hiking halfway up a mountain, feeling a bit tired, and instead of enjoying your progress you’re wondering if the view had in fact looked better from below. It didn’t! You wouldn’t have started the hike if it did, quit thinking about nonsense and enjoy where you are, how far you’ve come, and where you’re going.
I guess it’s more fear of the unknown, which is natural.. but “change is the only constant in life”, you’ll never be able to go back to how things were, even if you were once happy being a bachelor/ playboy/ Casanova, your experience in a loving relationship will ensure that you will never be happy with the lifestyle you previously had.
All your life experiences build up and make you who you are, you can’t just attempt to ‘go back’ and slice out the last 5 years.
Sorry for the rant, this “something in my system” thing is so common, and it’s always just ignorant self sabotage.
@ahumanaperson that's fair. At the time I had some self esteem issues. I thought I needed to respond to any and all female attention I got. It was pretty pathetic. I won't go all Freudian but I had to find my value as a man. I'm a good person for the most part but I have my flaws. Once I stopped letting my flaws define me and realized I didn't need "female attention". I just needed my wife's attention. I had everything I needed but I needed those self esteem issues out of my system in order to see that clearly.
Now I try to mentor others so they don't make those mistakes. Young men are taught that they have no value and that women are the priority. I won't go into my soap box but men need to become men again and learn their value absent women. Only then will they be truly valuable TO women.
I admit I almost made a terrible mistake. I've made many my mistakes since being married. I try to learn from them and not repeat them.
That's all anyone can do.
I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4.5 years because of the feelings I had weren’t 100%. But I do hope I can get her back but i think it’s selfish to commit to something I’m not fully feeling. Of course I fear that I won’t find anyone like her again or that we won’t get back together. But I have to try. Ultimately the main thing I hope for is her happiness. I wanted to make it work so badly and that’s why I stuck around for so long.
@C63Bez it's one thing to break off a good thing to play the field. It's another to break it off because you're not really in love with her. It's not fair to you or her to stay if it's only a matter of convenience and not because you're truly feeling her in that way.
In the end, you'll either realize that you are truly in love, in which case, I wish you luck getting her back or you'll realize this was the best decision you could have made.
In the case of my wife, I don't know if I would have ended up with someone prettier, better in bed, or a higher earner. What I do know is that she's dtf almost daily, she's lovely inside and out, she doesn't hassle me about small things, and she gave me two of the cutest n smartest kids I could have asked for.
The lesson learned? Don't seek perfection. Seek contentment. I'm content with who I'm with. Not a lot of people can say that. Hope you can some day.
Her: "I currently dont wanna be with You."
Him: Trust Me you dont wanna do this. If you do, Im moving on.
Her: "You doing everything for Me and Supporting Me, is Bad for Me so Lets just TaKe A bReAk and ReFlEcT. Bye."
Him: Welp, She cant say I didnt warn Her.
Her: "Hi, Im back"
Him: "Bye, Im Good"
How self-centered do you have to be to think you can just store someone away like a winter coat until you want to have them back?
My ex
A normal woman? Lol 😂
Wow. Well put.
That's women for you
As self-centered as the average modern American feminist 304.
“Tell me when you’re done” with whoever you’re seeing. The nerve to believe he would still prefer her.
This is satisfying to watch. Dear Men, never chase or wait for a woman. Be with someone who wants to be with you. Know your worth. Know your value. Protect your peace, Kings. Your spouse is the most important decision you'll make in your life.
It took me years to figure that out. I’m married now for 16 years, but in my single days I once had a breakup that normally would have sent me into depression for a period, but that time I went out to a club that same night where I knew there would be plenty of women, maybe not keepers, but it still made me realize that night that everything was going to be fine and there was no use agonizing over a failed relationship when there were other women that would be happy to replace her.
No games!
Bravo! My brother once told me, never go backwards! Leave the past back where it belongs, in the rear view mirror! ✊🏿👍🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I need to remember this. Well said to you and brother.
It needs to be shown massively to young men! That s the way to go!
I don’t want more men to suffer this movie the way I had lol!! But if it’s for educational purposes, How To Be Single is the name of this godawful film.
Yes, i agree! But things could happen, either way. Not necessarily just witht girls / women!
People are not hobbies you can drop and then pick up whenever you want 😢
Props to him for having self respect.
" i didn't need an experiment to know that i loved you " 😢
Past tense. Very important.
I’ve been apart of that “experiment” twice from two different women. Hurt both times
Yeah my now ex did this to me. Discarded me and still has the nerve to text me Happy New Year like nothing ever happened. Screw her and I deleted her text. Never go back to a woman who has discarded you. Just find someone better!
I experienced the same action, yet I answered back, re-established a "distant" friendship, just keeping in touch every two or three months, then one day she contacted me stating the big of a mistake she made, confessing how much she missed me ... but Iet her know that didn't want to have anything else other than a long, distant, courtesy friendship.
She continued with her "loving mate", in lieu of not getting me back, and a year later all I heard from friends was how disapointed and unhappy she was in her relationship. Her lost, not mine!
A new year text doesn't mean she wants you back?
@@ChadOliver-b7y You didn't block her as soon as you broke up?
@Dstoku21 no she is with her new man. I don't want her back!
@@petervallejo5603Um…why do you want to be friends with her again? Sounds like you just like the drama.
This broad was so convinced she had him wrapped that he'd just take her back. Good on him for standing up, having a backbone and respecting his worth. Leave her for the streets.
This was my ex, left twice with the meanest words, very apologetic when she came back, the 2nd time she came back, i could tell she felt i'll take her back guaranteed.
She was absolutely shocked, when i said no, in a very calm manner, she got emotional/angry defaulted back to her angry self. Thats how it ended. Now i'm labelled as a covert Narcissist to her friends.
@@spareaccount-i2n
Lol 🤣 You got to see this played out in real time. What is so fascinating is her Solipsistic thinking here. If you really understand it, you can really use it to your advantage. (I know, that makes me a manipulative sob. But look at it, what they think is so silly, what does it matter.) Example - Take her back but not exclusively, spin HER as a plate while seeing other women. I can all but guarantee that she will want you more than ever desperately. Don't fall for it. Lol 🤣
@@spareaccount-i2n who cares what they think - you weren't the one who cheated.
Well done on doing the right thing and not simping.
No man is obligated to take on Chad and Tyrone's leftovers.
@@spareaccount-i2nthat was my ex-fiancée too! Took her back at a low point, but when I learned that her son wasn’t mine -nor did he belong to the guy I caught her cheating with, not even her friends could call me “narcissistic”.
"I didnt need an experiment to know I loved you"
Best quote ever... Also
"The moment you walk out of here you are gonna realize the shit I do for you and you are going to regret it"
Two quotes women really REALLY need to take to heart before they ruin their best chances at love.
You can't make her stay, she can't make you take her back.
I wAnT to FiNd MySeLf: the dumbest crap I have ever heard in modern society. It’s just a stupid excuse people give for sleeping around.
That's why I respect people that at least are up front about what they want. Not leading people on.
It’s an excuse because he/she thinks they can do better.
or "taking a break" i used that time to go out with the boys and NOT sleep around and she was spending more time with the other guy. I am glad the internet is showing these young men to crack the bs code
Codespeak for riding the 🐓 🎠
@@jflores85ouch, arent they have anything better to do than sleeping with other guy? lol I’d definitely pass too but at least I’d thank her for the clarity. Much easier to make choices
Sometimes in life you don't know what you have until it's gone.
"Take paradise, and put up a parking lot!"-Joni Mitchell
@@Grayslakegunner er, should be "they paved paradise, and put up a parking lot" LOL
@@neilpaterson4323Right! From "Big Yellow Taxi", Joni Mitchell.
@@neilpaterson4323what does it mean ?
Wow the acting at the end, the way she expresses her realization just through eyes. She is a really good actress.
Anytime a woman says she's wants space leave her and never take her back. She has no respect for you.
Not anytime. I just learned I was love bombing women all my life and this one time I was rejected. But after few days she reached out again and we had a date and I was love bombing her again and she ended things. But then reached out again. She does not need space, she needs me to stop being an idiot. So not anytime. Trust in your worth.
Anytime a man doesn't understand that don't go back. He has no respect for you
@@MarcinWojtczuk Women like men who control their emotions and are somewhat aloof. They modern women keep saying they want sensitive men, but they actually have seething contempt for that because they take it as weakness. In their hearts, they want to be the woman in the relationship, not you.
@@lamar9331yeah, such behaviours dont deserve respect.
It depends what is the space for?! If it’s like week or a month just because she is going through a tough time and she is not breaking up with you and not exploring or seeing someone else you guys are still together but just needs mental space it’s fine I guess
That was the most polite 'it's not me, it's you. It's always about you'
😢
"Life is 1 big party when you're still young, but whose gonna take you back when it's all done". You can "explore life" with the 1 you are with. If you don't want to then have fun, but i won't be around once u "found yourself".
That quote..wasn't that part of a song? I can't remember the exact song 😅
@TheDJ904 shaggy - angel. Funny how old lyrics are still relevant today
wow
This is because this "fun" is "single person fun".
That's a verse from the song Angel by Shaggy.Almost 30 years later and that verse aged like fine wine and it still resonates and has weight.
Hahaha! I used those words, "Are you sure? I'll respect your decision. Just understand, I won't accept you back. I don't backtrack and you'll end up stalking me." 3 yrs, after doing my friends, family, half this little town to he's still stalking me. He's probably been in the same places I've been but thank you Lord for my blinders. Haven't seen his face in 3 yrs. True sad story but I always have a smile on my face 😊.
I had a similar experience. After three and a half years, she called me to say I "just wasn't her person." I said "OK", and we parted. Three months later, she contacted me to say she had made a terrible mistake and wanted to reconnect. I told her that ship has sailed and it was too late.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. .Good for you.
When someone does this to you count it as a blessing. That person was blocking you from finding a really good person for you. Get them out of the way and find the person for you!
What spineless wimp would fall for this bullshit?!? This chick is obviously a narcissist and doesn't give a damn about anyone but herself. I imagine that there are a few morons out there that would play along. I was in the military with a lot of young men who had never had a serious relationship. They get their dick wet for the first time and are rushing out to buy a ring. A few months later, they're moving back to the barracks. Hopefully, a little bit wiser.😅
Stand your ground Cousin Greg! She belongs to the streets!! 👏👏👏
I feel like this is right before he showed up and got under Toms wing.
Got a girl doing this to me right now. She went from talking about marrying me and our future children to saying she "hasnt explored herself and wants to find out what she likes" just move on. Theyre never going to choose you, if they wanted to they would.
Everything aside, this was some great acting. Her eyes movement when he said "who you've been doing it with". Crazy acting ability to convey all that emotion and guilt with just small movements of your face.
Multiple women did this to me when I was younger than tried crawling back. Now I have a family with a great (and younger) woman who supported my goals. We are now financially set with great kids and I wouldn’t look twice at any of the women that needed this experiment. The look on their faces when they see my lady is truly something.
They always chase back, it never works out for them.I will never understand this stupid behavior.
Jesus loves you, he soon comes back don't be left behind man.
Isn't that the best moment? Your ex sees your happy wife!! I had a similar experience. I had loved a man for a few years and he left me for another woman and even married her and then they divorced. I had heard he wasn't happy. By then, I was engaged and SOOO happy when we happened to bump into him in a restaurant. My now husband was so nice to him and treated him like a friend. My ex tried to still come back and asked me to break off my engagement!! Noooo. My husband is the best thing that ever happened to me. We have been together 11 years.
@ that’s awesome to hear
They always come back. Never take them back.
She's not only beautiful but also a great actress... Wow.. spot on...
Standing Ovation!!! I am so happy he had the strength to totally walk away from her!!! Well done!!! 👍🏾🍾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🍾
You got brown hands, that's neat.
I couldn't accept that. If someone I'm with wants someone else I'll gladly atep aside and let them wander off
Same here.
Literally did.
@@thealmightymexi good on you man. I've done the same, it can be hard to do especially when you're not certain because people don't always admit to these things
@@aodh5966 once they fade off or act like they want others, I'm out. I probably won't say anything
step
"I didnt need an experiment to know that I loved you." Perfectly said.
To men and boys of all ages know your value.
Never take anyone back who thought they could do better than you.
Never settle for someone, who didn't deserve you in the first place. At your lowest point, to your highest point. Know your worth.
It's a movie, but he handled it correctly. There are women out there thinking they're this special.
Know movie name?
@jameswilkerson4412 nope
@@jameswilkerson4412 how to be single.
this is a very real thing that happens all the time. its a movie based on reality
Shame sorry you can't read 😢@@jameswilkerson4412
Bro this is the exact same way my first love broke up with me except she was gone for good and a few years later got married. She even sent me an invitation to her marriage ceremony. I politely declined because no man wants to see the woman who he dearly loved getting married to another man right in front of his eyes
Hard core man
That's so spiteful to send that to you. I would've took a picture of me giving the middle finger, print it out in color, put it in envelope with the invitation and mail it back to the sender.
I'll never understand why women do this.... but they do. Lots of them.
@@Mikkall👌🏽😶
@@Mikkall they think their lives are a dam novella and they kick endorphins at the possibilty of drama
"If she comes back after leaving, it's desperation. You're simply what's left when she messed up every other opportunity."
I was that girl once, raised by narcissists that fought all the time and not only hated each other but also hated me. I never knew what a healthy relationship was like, so much trauma so yep I was that girl once. I did not want to explore it though , did not go out with anyone else… I was just so terrified of being with someone for the rest of my life that I did breakup with him and I cried for months…I loved him. After a while he called me and told me he was marrying someone and he wanted me to hear it from him and not from some random person. He was a gentleman, I cried but wished him all the happiness in the world cause I truly loved him. They have 2 little kids and are happily married. Haven’t seen this movie with Dakota, do not know the whole context but sometimes, maybe ,you guys out there are just dealing with a beat up broken soul and if that is the case, move on but be kind. Not anybody’s fault and perhaps it was just not meant to be.We all have our own little hell inside.
There's no reason to be kind either.
God, some women are really horrible.
Just another reason to not get too involved w/ a person until y’all get to learn about their immediate family and family-life… my grandma lived to 104 and advised each of her 22 grandchildren that they need to not settle down before really getting to know/understand their SO’s family and family norms, as once you do get into a committed relationship, the problems of the partner don’t just “go-away”, they now become your problems also… say no to trying to save them from themselves
Sorry to hear that, hope you find someone who loves and understands you
This
@@noamansattar nah bro, if you gonna hope that then I'm gonna pray the dude ultimately take the decision that's in his welfare without any virtue signalling that you are expecting towards her.
This is a real man of value. Don't waste your time with someone who don't know who they are.
"if you leave, don't expect me to be here waiting"
People who leave and come back when they realize the grass is not greener should NEVER be allowed back in! NEVER !
“ I didn’t need a experiment to know that I loved you” BURNNN 🔥🔥🔥 SO HOT THE FIRE WONT GO OUT 🧯🧯🧯
Literally happened to me and she hated my guys and tried to ruin my reputation because I wouldn’t take her back, hacked my info and kept people away from me to try and make me think “I made the wrong decision” smh disgusting 🙄
Dodged a bullet. File a restraining order on that person
To summarize, he knew what he wanted in life and was mature about it, and she didn’t know what she wanted in life and was immature about it.
Perfect. Sadly, few women ever have this change of heart : they forgot all about you !
I hate (and yes I do mean that word) most Rom-Coms and Hallmark movies, but boiled down to a few minutes, this is perfect. “When you love something, let it GO” is a great way to deal with people who tell you they need to “find themselves.”
She's lost a treasure.
Nice one, bro 👍
Brotherhood is proud of you. Leave that signature of her forever.
She did this to me. Just last week. It was the second time in my life, ever, first one was pregnant and i didnt even realise until i saw her at the hospital with her mother, thanking God i said no to a "love back". The second was now, even though she mentioned herself in her own words that i gave her queen treatment "... But never again, I know she'll regret and try coming back but it'll be too late
I did this to a girl once, but I learned my lesson how hurtful and gross it is because I was a child at the time
Who taught you that? Your mom?
@ I’d argue it’s human nature for immature people to want to explore more physically attractive relationships. Maturity will keep you from entertaining pretty people and focus on character instead of
@@zacariasnelson5753 I understand you
Good on you for learning lessons. That is the only way to grow as a person.
@@zacariasnelson5753 Ya learned from it though. So that's pretty darn cool.
Props to the actress, she was absolutely phenomenal. Those tears at the end seemed to come so naturally.
Well she is a female. They can turn it on or off as the wish.
I'm happy for him. He deserves better
“A few moments later” is my favourite part😭🤣
It's true what they say. You never know what you lost until you lose it.