I don’t know, I like throwing things once in awhile, if I’m having a meltdown and my dog is around he jumps into action. He will jump all over me hug me, and if we are at home (he’s a certified service dog for me) he’ll bring me a toy for him and I to play with (which sometimes means throwing because he likes chasing his cow, and I like throwing it for him, meltdown or not), and this helps during my meltdowns substantially.
I don't think it was considered bullying back then. It was so commonplace and people were raised to be a bit tougher back then. No less traumatizing, but it's unfortunately just how it was.
@@Sunset1705 You’re right , our parents allowed and condoned -parental type discipline then , giving teachers authority/power to abuse children. Children in turn became experts at bullying one another. Changes have occurred but still abuse/bullying continues by teachers and students themselves. Schools need to implement updated reforms in education and promote an atmosphere of positive learning for every child , IMO
@@ritahall2378 growing up in that world may have seems harsh, but such guidance made us more independent, problem solving and strength. It was the principle of allowing the chick to crack its own shell. It may seem cruel, but these experiences that are being removed from our children are costing our children their future. Temple explains that so well. Her mother is my hero in that she allowed her daughter to struggle and make mistakes. It’s inspiring and hopeful.
Wow. I got kicked out of my room and board yesterday. I had a lot of issues. The final act was me slamming the front door. I was very angry and stressed. I no longer got a quiet place to cool off, because I was moved into a noisy crowded room. I tried my best to keep my cool, but the Mt. Saint Helens within me erupted. Slamming doors is an act of aggression. Watching this video makes me fell so much better. I am not alone. There are other people that got in trouble because they got angry and aggressive too. In my stress, I tried calming down by doing a mattress sandwich. It is where I go between the two layers of my mattress. The deep pressure feels good, and helps me calm down. It doesn't hurt at all. I got the idea from Temple Grandin explaining squeeze shoots in cattle handling. I tried the mattress sandwich. It was helpful, but not quite enough. I was suffering horrendous stress. I did learn a nice lesson from this movie. This is to cry. Maybe I should have cried like a baby. I better keep that in mind. If it is more socially acceptable, that would help. I noticed something at the end of the video. The bully called Temple the R word. Yikes. That is ludicrous. I am not sure about what it is like back then, but no one today should ever use the R word. That is ludicrious and unacceptable. The proper term is intellectual disability. Even then, that doesn't apply to Temple. Her achedemic intelligence is really strong. Even if she was still in high school, she would still have been bright enough not to have that. She has autism, but that is a whole different thing. It is wrong to call a person with intellectual disability he R word. I would like to expand this. It is wrong to call the R word to anybody with a childhood development disorder or even anybody with a mental illness or mental disability period. So that bully got her butt kicked by Temple. She had it coming, the coward. She deserves it for being such a filthy ablest.
I used to bite my sheets. I’d get sent to my room to tidy it up and feel so angry that I wasn’t allowed to keep doing whatever I had been doing (probably reading or playing with our animal family members) I’d bite my sheets trying to rip them… it took me a long time to learn to wind back the emotional response. I can’t help but wonder if you’ve tried a weighted blanket yet? They work for a lot of people.
A: that's what that girl gets for calling someone a retard... what would she say if she saw Temple now? B: I wish we lived in a society where crying and sensitivity and emotions were not looked down upon in general. Stuffing emotions causes cancer... it blocks you up, energetically and physically. But having a negative outlet for your emotions, like fighting, is not productive or helpful either. C: Anger is a mask for hurt and fear. Hurt and Fear are the primal emotions. They are the true emotions. If you are angry you are subconsciously trying to appear strong, rather than admitting hurt or fear. We should be mindful of those primal emotions so that we can deal with them in productive ways.... society would be so much better off. Think of all the people who commit murder or other bad things... all because they're angry... if we were taught mindfulness and EQ as children (not just neuro-divergent children but all children) then they would grow up to be better adults and the world would be better in general.
In elementary school, during class, I thought the girl behind me was kicking my pencil box under my seat, so I turned around and banged her on the head with it(it was a cardboard box), got in trouble for that. Got bullied a lot.
Having worked with kids in the past I have seen bullying and I’ve also seen misinterpretation of intent which is much more likely to happen if you have experienced genuine bullying. A kid wearing a backpack can turn around and swipe a seated person in the back of the head without realising it. The seated person responds by thumping the first person they see when they turn around. None of the 3 have a complete picture of what happened. I’ve seen this more than once and I’ve seen the deeply felt outrage us neurodivergent people can feel about being wronged. We have to always be super self-critical about available evidence for this reason. It isn’t enough to feel wronged. We have to calm down and think about whether we actually have evidence that we were wronged. Biggest lesson of my life that one. All humans make this mistake but emotional sensitive folks feel the outrage of being wronged much more deeply. That’s why we have to manage this ourselves. Make sure we aren’t jumping the gun.
Crying is something I have heard that releases endorphins and chemicals in your brain. Many people need to learn to cry again. I think that is why many people in the world are angered and frustrated and stuff their endorphins have not been released.
My son has autism , but I don't understand Autism, his doctor told me that if he doesn't talk until 6 year he will never talk , but he can say Alfabet, colors shape his name hi can say dog cat etc , but I still don't understand Autism, do they talk how they start to talk :(
Not everyone with autism will talk. But many who don't speak at first learn later. I don't know if your son will eventually speak fully or not. If there's anything he really loves like certain animals, a specific show, trains or toys, I'd recommend using trying to use it in whatever you're trying to teach him.
Did the audience really just applaud for hitting someone in the head with a big book, right after Temple talked about how it's better to cry than to break things? Yes, the girl was verbally violent to Temple, but, as Temple pointed out just seconds earlier, crying is better.
Quiet Octavian Her point was that she used to act that way. She was in the 9th grade; She was a child. She since learned that crying, instead of being destructive helps you go farther in life.
We don't know the exact motivation of everyone in the audience who clapped, but I'm willing to bet that many applauded that Temple had the gumption to stand up for herself and not succumb to the destructive label that was being thrust upon her. Sure, her action was immature, but she was a child being immaturely verbally attacked by another child. Of course we're glad the other child wasn't injured, but it was good for her to see how hurtful her comment was and to know that just because Temple's mind didn't work the same way hers did it didn't mean that Temple wasn't a viable force to be respected and/or contended with. IMO.
No one has the right to call anyone a retard. Her reaction to that girl is a normal reaction. If this happened in the workplace the person would have been fired for verbal attacking a fellow employee. Why do we allow our children to insult another child? It is not right.
It’s not ok for boys to cry, it’s ok fir girls to cry but not boys, this is slowly changing but it’s part of our biology, it will never be completely ok for boys to cry like females do and that’s a good thing, but men definitely need to learn how to express their feelings, instead of being taught that they have to constantly suppress them.
God bless Temple Grandin, she is a true human on this earth
It’s true. Crying is hell of a lot better than throwing things!
I don’t know, I like throwing things once in awhile, if I’m having a meltdown and my dog is around he jumps into action. He will jump all over me hug me, and if we are at home (he’s a certified service dog for me) he’ll bring me a toy for him and I to play with (which sometimes means throwing because he likes chasing his cow, and I like throwing it for him, meltdown or not), and this helps during my meltdowns substantially.
Absolutely right
The girl who got the book thrown at her deserved it.
I have austism I working on my GED i was same job for 31 years i will not give up to easy also I making blankets sell them online great smart woman
I find it fascinating that she refers to bullying as teasing- She’s very sophisticated
I don't think it was considered bullying back then. It was so commonplace and people were raised to be a bit tougher back then. No less traumatizing, but it's unfortunately just how it was.
@@Sunset1705 You’re right , our parents allowed and condoned -parental type discipline then , giving teachers authority/power to abuse children. Children in turn became experts at bullying one another. Changes have occurred but still abuse/bullying continues by teachers and students themselves. Schools need to implement updated reforms in education and promote an atmosphere of positive learning for every child , IMO
And look at how she overcame and learned from the situation. Awesome, honest, wonderful lady.
@@dkearl6827 Absolutely
@@ritahall2378 growing up in that world may have seems harsh, but such guidance made us more independent, problem solving and strength. It was the principle of allowing the chick to crack its own shell. It may seem cruel, but these experiences that are being removed from our children are costing our children their future. Temple explains that so well. Her mother is my hero in that she allowed her daughter to struggle and make mistakes. It’s inspiring and hopeful.
You go, Temple!!
Wow. I got kicked out of my room and board yesterday. I had a lot of issues. The final act was me slamming the front door. I was very angry and stressed. I no longer got a quiet place to cool off, because I was moved into a noisy crowded room. I tried my best to keep my cool, but the Mt. Saint Helens within me erupted. Slamming doors is an act of aggression. Watching this video makes me fell so much better. I am not alone. There are other people that got in trouble because they got angry and aggressive too. In my stress, I tried calming down by doing a mattress sandwich. It is where I go between the two layers of my mattress. The deep pressure feels good, and helps me calm down. It doesn't hurt at all. I got the idea from Temple Grandin explaining squeeze shoots in cattle handling. I tried the mattress sandwich. It was helpful, but not quite enough. I was suffering horrendous stress. I did learn a nice lesson from this movie. This is to cry. Maybe I should have cried like a baby. I better keep that in mind. If it is more socially acceptable, that would help. I noticed something at the end of the video. The bully called Temple the R word. Yikes. That is ludicrous. I am not sure about what it is like back then, but no one today should ever use the R word. That is ludicrious and unacceptable. The proper term is intellectual disability. Even then, that doesn't apply to Temple. Her achedemic intelligence is really strong. Even if she was still in high school, she would still have been bright enough not to have that. She has autism, but that is a whole different thing. It is wrong to call a person with intellectual disability he R word. I would like to expand this. It is wrong to call the R word to anybody with a childhood development disorder or even anybody with a mental illness or mental disability period. So that bully got her butt kicked by Temple. She had it coming, the coward. She deserves it for being such a filthy ablest.
I used to bite my sheets. I’d get sent to my room to tidy it up and feel so angry that I wasn’t allowed to keep doing whatever I had been doing (probably reading or playing with our animal family members) I’d bite my sheets trying to rip them… it took me a long time to learn to wind back the emotional response. I can’t help but wonder if you’ve tried a weighted blanket yet? They work for a lot of people.
you are my hero!
Did anyone else get mad when she said that half of the people in NASA could be autistic and the audience laughed?
I kind of wonder just how much of what she says people are actually listening to.
You GO Temple!!!
A: that's what that girl gets for calling someone a retard... what would she say if she saw Temple now? B: I wish we lived in a society where crying and sensitivity and emotions were not looked down upon in general. Stuffing emotions causes cancer... it blocks you up, energetically and physically. But having a negative outlet for your emotions, like fighting, is not productive or helpful either. C: Anger is a mask for hurt and fear. Hurt and Fear are the primal emotions. They are the true emotions. If you are angry you are subconsciously trying to appear strong, rather than admitting hurt or fear. We should be mindful of those primal emotions so that we can deal with them in productive ways.... society would be so much better off. Think of all the people who commit murder or other bad things... all because they're angry... if we were taught mindfulness and EQ as children (not just neuro-divergent children but all children) then they would grow up to be better adults and the world would be better in general.
Teasing or bullying should never be allowed.
I appreciate this woman so much!
In elementary school, during class, I thought the girl behind me was kicking my pencil box under my seat, so I turned around and banged her on the head with it(it was a cardboard box), got in trouble for that. Got bullied a lot.
Having worked with kids in the past I have seen bullying and I’ve also seen misinterpretation of intent which is much more likely to happen if you have experienced genuine bullying. A kid wearing a backpack can turn around and swipe a seated person in the back of the head without realising it. The seated person responds by thumping the first person they see when they turn around. None of the 3 have a complete picture of what happened. I’ve seen this more than once and I’ve seen the deeply felt outrage us neurodivergent people can feel about being wronged. We have to always be super self-critical about available evidence for this reason. It isn’t enough to feel wronged. We have to calm down and think about whether we actually have evidence that we were wronged. Biggest lesson of my life that one. All humans make this mistake but emotional sensitive folks feel the outrage of being wronged much more deeply. That’s why we have to manage this ourselves. Make sure we aren’t jumping the gun.
You know, I wonder if this is how autistic women can mask so much better-we're allowed to cry.
She obviously good at throwing and aiming that book.
I love you Temple Grandin
She's my hero 😂
Crying is something I have heard that releases endorphins and chemicals in your brain. Many people need to learn to cry again. I think that is why many people in the world are angered and frustrated and stuff their endorphins have not been released.
It's horse riding not crying on her own that made Temple Grandin felt better
Pretty sure the person who knows what made her feel better is Temple but feel free to talk about what works for you…
My son has autism , but I don't understand Autism, his doctor told me that if he doesn't talk until 6 year he will never talk , but he can say Alfabet, colors shape his name hi can say dog cat etc , but I still don't understand Autism, do they talk how they start to talk :(
Not everyone with autism will talk. But many who don't speak at first learn later.
I don't know if your son will eventually speak fully or not.
If there's anything he really loves like certain animals, a specific show, trains or toys, I'd recommend using trying to use it in whatever you're trying to teach him.
Angry violent kids are more likely to become angry violent adults, of course crying is better.
Haha love this:D
i also have teasing problems
I got into a few scrapes as well. Happens. They had it coming.
We need to teach my 4 year old boy how to cry he hit
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WE NEED TO START ASKING THE BIGGER QUESTION -- WHY ARE SO MANY CHILDREN TODAY AUTISTIC????????????????????
Did the audience really just applaud for hitting someone in the head with a big book, right after Temple talked about how it's better to cry than to break things? Yes, the girl was verbally violent to Temple, but, as Temple pointed out just seconds earlier, crying is better.
Quiet Octavian Her point was that she used to act that way. She was in the 9th grade; She was a child. She since learned that crying, instead of being destructive helps you go farther in life.
We don't know the exact motivation of everyone in the audience who clapped, but I'm willing to bet that many applauded that Temple had the gumption to stand up for herself and not succumb to the destructive label that was being thrust upon her. Sure, her action was immature, but she was a child being immaturely verbally attacked by another child. Of course we're glad the other child wasn't injured, but it was good for her to see how hurtful her comment was and to know that just because Temple's mind didn't work the same way hers did it didn't mean that Temple wasn't a viable force to be respected and/or contended with. IMO.
No one has the right to call anyone a retard. Her reaction to that girl is a normal reaction. If this happened in the workplace the person would have been fired for verbal attacking a fellow employee. Why do we allow our children to insult another child? It is not right.
better is a verbal smackdown
😂 good for you.
It’s not ok for boys to cry, it’s ok fir girls to cry but not boys, this is slowly changing but it’s part of our biology, it will never be completely ok for boys to cry like females do and that’s a good thing, but men definitely need to learn how to express their feelings, instead of being taught that they have to constantly suppress them.
Shut up.
Make it make sense
Why? Can’t we just evolve past bullying? Bravery and bullying are not the same thing.
ableist