And meeting a guy who approaches on the regular, you find he is much more grounded than most guys. For example, I met a guy who made over 300 approaches with his wing in 1 day in a city here in Poland, which is the same amount I’ve done in 2.5 years since stumbling onto Avery’s content. You know which of us is more relaxed and chill, both with women and normally? Yes, not me (yet). It’s inspiring to meet the guys who approach. I want to become an inspiration. You reading this now, be an inspiration too.
One social meet up group I attended lately, one of the guys there told me he sadly didn't get his very first girlfriend until he was 30, while he is happy about having a girlfriend now, he still gets kind of depressed and bitter and resentful over having been single that long. Feels he didn't grow up having a normal youth because of being single that long. He has the mindset that he feels if he had been born a woman at least an average plain-looking woman, then there is a guarantee he would not have been alone or single that long. Yet people think men still have the better end of the stick in the dating world than women do, especially when men are far more likely than women are to be single that long or to have a lonely journey.
great tip AG set a goal to APPROACH to 100 women (lets say 100, 500 is a bit scary). Do not think about rejections or phone numbers, or how many will be in my bed. Just accept the challenge : approach to 100 women as an experience
Have fucking fun when approaching. Trust yourself. Even if your first few approaches are awkward/weird/anxious get those riffles ironed out and you'll get into a flow. Being grounded and attentive helps. It's easy to get trapped in your mind, so refocus on the girl in front of you so you can tease her/purposefully misinterpret/exaggerate/be sarcastic/dark humor/ push-pull. For those gear heads out there, fun is illogical and who gives a fuck. Trust yourself that you are fun and let go of expectations. Most ladies are pleasantly surprised when you have the courage to talk to them. Some will outright say "I've been here x amount of times, and you're the first guy that has the balls to talk/approach me" or something similar like that. Seduction is this balance of vulnerability and flirty/sexualization. Just some things I've learned. There is more, I'm sure, and it's good though to get back to the basics. Be present, have fun.
Hey, ty, I wonder why I'm so paralyzed and cant start again after doing like 1000 approaches in my life and having some successes. Last summer I took a challenge to do 100 approaches in a month, and finished at 118, and got laid twice. And that is given that 70% of girls didn't speak the language.
What unfortunately is never told is that real pickup only works in big cities or certain party cities such as Las Vegas, where you find yourself in. I was in Barcelona and the sheer volume and nightlife made it ridiculously easy to get all the approaches in without running into the same girls again. Get to a town with like 30 000 people, do it there for a few months and watch your reputation after doing so.
Dunno what you're talking about, almost every pickup coach has said over and over that if you want to get the girls part of your life handled, you MUST move to a big city.
today i approached some girls and still from fear actually because i hate rejections... but dayum 2 reacted so good and i felt so bad afterwards because one i opened indirect i feel this is better but still not sure how to do properly but yeah se directly asked me questions and being interested like normally this never happens and she even asked me if i would take the same train lol. i just pissed out :(
Great video! I am aproaching girls during the day, today I spent 5 and a half hours around and approached 16 times. THERE WEREN’T ANY MORE GIRLS lol how do you expect me to approach 20 daily? I have a life other than this hahaha
This video speaks to me as an 18 y/o with 0 approaches. My biggest fear in life is approaching girls. When I watch pua videos I am wasting so much time because 99% of the advice I cant even use. This video, the mindset of self-amusement and the free association exercise are the only things I will use for now. And when college starts again I will day-cold-approach 2 times a week for 30 minutes. This will turn my life around
@@aghayden you are right. I shouldnt wait too long. Right now I am on vacation in Spain with my family, so i cant. But In 5 days I am back in the Netherlands. I will start right away. 5+ hours a day approaching girls for atleast 2 weeks. I have to do it
I had wasted more than 10 years watching pickup materials and reading forums before I started approaching. I DO really regret I haven't started earlier, but I am happy at the same time that I started doing so eventually ;)
Hey bro if you don’t mind me asking how much you make from RUclips ? Or if you could do a video on your journey maybe ? As I’m thinking of starting a channel within your Space . Cheers
Your first step to being a man is to go do it whether you want to or not. It's gonna suck, and it'll feel like diving into a deep freezing pool, but you'll be proud of yourself. I just approached my gym crush today and I got nervous, she walked away. Nothing bad happens unless you get pushy. It'll be fine bro!
Don’t frame it as an approach, start off saying good morning, or a compliment like “excuse me, I just wanted to say that’s a cool outfit”. Do that like 10 times
In my experience, and that of my wingmen over the years, what happens is that your mindset shifts to 99% of women are no longer good enough to deserve your commitment. When you do thousands of approaches, you will inevitably have interactions, makeouts, dates, or even a one night stand with girls that are close to your "dream girl". It's hard to settle for a 7/10 like a guy with no options does after you've had the taste of girls that are your 10/10.
There's levels to the game. Very few pickup coaches/advanced guys, even with multiple hundreds of lay count, are able to get the 10s, let alone keep them around. For one, it's rare to meet the 10s in general audience nightclubs - they're on yachts. The other males pursuing those girls are also the highest tier of guys, millionaires, celebrities, pro athletes etc.
Honestly i don't feel like game works for me because im 5'5..ive done some approaches got cursed out a couple times..and the women i did get ended up just using me and never gave me some cat and ended up dating super tall broke guys ..but i Honestly think game will work if you’re 5'9 and up
@@dreamawake2670 No status, No IG, No kids, Looks with already slightly grey hair, between 6 and 7, tall around 6,4, not overweight, No debt, multiple languages, well traveled but introvert, s*x is not the main goal, more after learning to get smooth with women, to get a long term girlfriend and if still possible kids. Any suggestions? I was thinking of booking a training camp with Troy Francis because he is closer to my age, but he is more in Colombia and I prefer natural slim tall blondes. Gratefull for any valuable suggestions. Thanks.
@@dreamawake2670 I know a guy in Vegas who is in his 50s and pulls multiple 21-30 year olds a week. He is in decent shape but not shredded or anything. He’s also wealthy but doesn’t dress like it or use money in his pulls at all
And meeting a guy who approaches on the regular, you find he is much more grounded than most guys.
For example, I met a guy who made over 300 approaches with his wing in 1 day in a city here in Poland, which is the same amount I’ve done in 2.5 years since stumbling onto Avery’s content. You know which of us is more relaxed and chill, both with women and normally? Yes, not me (yet). It’s inspiring to meet the guys who approach. I want to become an inspiration. You reading this now, be an inspiration too.
300 dayim
@@jaspergabriels8933 you can do it too 👊
One social meet up group I attended lately, one of the guys there told me he sadly didn't get his very first girlfriend until he was 30, while he is happy about having a girlfriend now, he still gets kind of depressed and bitter and resentful over having been single that long. Feels he didn't grow up having a normal youth because of being single that long.
He has the mindset that he feels if he had been born a woman at least an average plain-looking woman, then there is a guarantee he would not have been alone or single that long.
Yet people think men still have the better end of the stick in the dating world than women do, especially when men are far more likely than women are to be single that long or to have a lonely journey.
for sure but woman sadly don't understand this and it only getting worse
great tip AG set a goal to APPROACH to 100 women (lets say 100, 500 is a bit scary). Do not think about rejections or phone numbers, or how many will be in my bed. Just accept the challenge : approach to 100 women as an experience
The coaches when pickup was in it's golden years used to say the first 2000 approaches don't count.
I wish Courtney Ryan would tell us what the next step is after she approaches a woman.
Have fucking fun when approaching. Trust yourself. Even if your first few approaches are awkward/weird/anxious get those riffles ironed out and you'll get into a flow.
Being grounded and attentive helps. It's easy to get trapped in your mind, so refocus on the girl in front of you so you can tease her/purposefully misinterpret/exaggerate/be sarcastic/dark humor/ push-pull.
For those gear heads out there, fun is illogical and who gives a fuck. Trust yourself that you are fun and let go of expectations.
Most ladies are pleasantly surprised when you have the courage to talk to them. Some will outright say "I've been here x amount of times, and you're the first guy that has the balls to talk/approach me" or something similar like that.
Seduction is this balance of vulnerability and flirty/sexualization.
Just some things I've learned. There is more, I'm sure, and it's good though to get back to the basics.
Be present, have fun.
good explanation indeed i have this problem so hard with daygame and get so stuck in my head and logical and too friendly fawk :(
Hey, ty, I wonder why I'm so paralyzed and cant start again after doing like 1000 approaches in my life and having some successes.
Last summer I took a challenge to do 100 approaches in a month, and finished at 118, and got laid twice. And that is given that 70% of girls didn't speak the language.
What unfortunately is never told is that real pickup only works in big cities or certain party cities such as Las Vegas, where you find yourself in. I was in Barcelona and the sheer volume and nightlife made it ridiculously easy to get all the approaches in without running into the same girls again.
Get to a town with like 30 000 people, do it there for a few months and watch your reputation after doing so.
Dunno what you're talking about, almost every pickup coach has said over and over that if you want to get the girls part of your life handled, you MUST move to a big city.
@@ZM-dm3jg it's just a numbers game
I Disagree that, when I was younger. I could approach more when I was younger but I did so in small city. AA is tough on every one
I know i can do it even if im old and married.
Married haha 😂
today i approached some girls and still from fear actually because i hate rejections... but dayum 2 reacted so good and i felt so bad afterwards because one i opened indirect i feel this is better but still not sure how to do properly but yeah se directly asked me questions and being interested like normally this never happens and she even asked me if i would take the same train lol. i just pissed out :(
Great video! I am aproaching girls during the day, today I spent 5 and a half hours around and approached 16 times. THERE WEREN’T ANY MORE GIRLS lol how do you expect me to approach 20 daily? I have a life other than this hahaha
Great banter between you two. Great video.
It took me years to get comfortable talking to random women. I feel the same talking to a woman as I do writing this comment.
This video speaks to me as an 18 y/o with 0 approaches. My biggest fear in life is approaching girls. When I watch pua videos I am wasting so much time because 99% of the advice I cant even use. This video, the mindset of self-amusement and the free association exercise are the only things I will use for now. And when college starts again I will day-cold-approach 2 times a week for 30 minutes. This will turn my life around
Why not start now?
@@aghayden you are right. I shouldnt wait too long. Right now I am on vacation in Spain with my family, so i cant. But In 5 days I am back in the Netherlands. I will start right away. 5+ hours a day approaching girls for atleast 2 weeks. I have to do it
Im 47 so clubs are not for me.
But day game ...I'm up for a challenge. Greetings from Poland.
How do i push myself to sarge alone? Greetings from Greece
I had wasted more than 10 years watching pickup materials and reading forums before I started approaching. I DO really regret I haven't started earlier, but I am happy at the same time that I started doing so eventually ;)
Ag best spots for nightgame in Las Vegas ?
Hey bro if you don’t mind me asking how much you make from RUclips ? Or if you could do a video on your journey maybe ? As I’m thinking of starting a channel within your Space . Cheers
Its been a nightmare for me don t know why I approach a lot nothing happens
What do you mean by a lot?
hey hayden how old are you btw? have you ever gotten botox?
Bro im 42, and if this is true how long it takes, ill get good when im 50 and ill be too old to reproduce and raise a family
🔥🔥🔥
What do you think of Roverto vs the world he is not pick up artist i think he isa natural and gets layd pretty much every night
How to survive your first ever approach?
Your first step to being a man is to go do it whether you want to or not. It's gonna suck, and it'll feel like diving into a deep freezing pool, but you'll be proud of yourself. I just approached my gym crush today and I got nervous, she walked away. Nothing bad happens unless you get pushy. It'll be fine bro!
Don’t frame it as an approach, start off saying good morning, or a compliment like “excuse me, I just wanted to say that’s a cool outfit”. Do that like 10 times
Dont circle around the girl you wanted to talk to that will make it way difficult
I did like 4 approaches today and had little conversations with women. Just gotta go for it. No numbers but still felt good doing it.
Make it friendly and casual, no pressure.
I've always been curious why pickup guys don't have girlfriends. You don't want a relationship?
They don’t like the commitment. They’ve hooked up with so many chicks that they feel satisfied.
In my experience, and that of my wingmen over the years, what happens is that your mindset shifts to 99% of women are no longer good enough to deserve your commitment. When you do thousands of approaches, you will inevitably have interactions, makeouts, dates, or even a one night stand with girls that are close to your "dream girl". It's hard to settle for a 7/10 like a guy with no options does after you've had the taste of girls that are your 10/10.
@@ZM-dm3jg But when they get that 10/10, why not keep her around? Bad attitudes?
There's levels to the game. Very few pickup coaches/advanced guys, even with multiple hundreds of lay count, are able to get the 10s, let alone keep them around.
For one, it's rare to meet the 10s in general audience nightclubs - they're on yachts. The other males pursuing those girls are also the highest tier of guys, millionaires, celebrities, pro athletes etc.
Their job is a dating coach, why would they stop practising if getting better means they will make more money
Honestly i don't feel like game works for me because im 5'5..ive done some approaches got cursed out a couple times..and the women i did get ended up just using me and never gave me some cat and ended up dating super tall broke guys ..but i Honestly think game will work if you’re 5'9 and up
Hi Hayden, do you think that at an age of almost 50 it is still possible?
Yeah, 60s is where it would get really difficult
Probably depends on looks, status and what age of girls you're into.
@@dreamawake2670 No status, No IG, No kids, Looks with already slightly grey hair, between 6 and 7, tall around 6,4, not overweight, No debt, multiple languages, well traveled but introvert, s*x is not the main goal, more after learning to get smooth with women, to get a long term girlfriend and if still possible kids. Any suggestions? I was thinking of booking a training camp with Troy Francis because he is closer to my age, but he is more in Colombia and I prefer natural slim tall blondes. Gratefull for any valuable suggestions. Thanks.
@@dreamawake2670 I know a guy in Vegas who is in his 50s and pulls multiple 21-30 year olds a week.
He is in decent shape but not shredded or anything. He’s also wealthy but doesn’t dress like it or use money in his pulls at all