Many of us can often times find ourselves struggling to face someone who has hurt us. But each any every one of us has the ability within to forgive. Share in the comments below your success story with forgiveness and inspire others to take the bold step forwards. Don't forget to watch Vishen's FREE masterclass TODAY👉go.mindvalley.com/bl
Maybe this might not sound right to others it's just my humble opinion to just stop running ads this often. I know that's important and also the content that you deliver is great. I too am a fan of it, no doubt. But, it's all over the place. Almost every video that I try to tune in to , the ad comes up and it completely distracts from the reason I am watching the video in the first place. So, there's no point focusing on something important that is delivered in the video and suddenly the ad comes up and disturbs the rapport.
@@graphicsbyshubham You hit it on the head, "removing distraction from your life"...even Vishen doesn't quite understand what forgiveness actually does in real terms. Hurt is a form of distraction...consuming ones time and focus without gain. Remove distraction everyday and yes you become MORE focused on what you do or aspire too. Money happiness health love all are valid to focus on but understand what you do the moment you don't focus on your goals - you don't hit the success you were aspiring for. You only have a limited time resources so use them efficiently. All religions preach something similar but buddism Hinduism definitely understand the concept of do not be distracted from moving forward on your journey.
We forgive because we feel the other has wronged. In doing so we forgive consciously however the subconscious retains that the other has wronged. The subconscious is 9 times bigger than the conscious which creates a schizophrenia due to disagreements between the two. To avoid this isn’t it wiser to condemn the act but never the actor. The advantages could be several to separating the act and the actor : - the act is condemned and the actor is aware of it so as not to repeat it. - the actor is not cut off from us and may possibly do good acts in the future. - when we condemn a person (even subconsciously we actually first n foremost condemn ourselves ) - also when we forgive others it is a superior attitude which is inhumane.
When you get to the end of it all you realise that the person you need to forgive the most is yourself. Now that is a mountain to climb but the view is indeed worth it all.
Jesus: Bless those who persecute you. Let me tell you a story of a wise man who sacrificed himself to change the world. The story of Jesus Christ. Once there was a sinner in the town of Jerusalem. The sinner John was very angry every time he got laughed at a bar or being ashamed of something he would always get furious and blame it on other people. When one day he got out of his house and saw the person who was believed to be the son of God. John came to him and asked to be baptized and baptized he was. When John saw that he had power like no other he asked him to be his disciple. Jesus accepted and they started living together. One night when Jesus was sleeping John woke him up and asked him a question. "Oh lord, how can you be so forgiving to someone that does not deserve it?" - John said. "You must forgive everyone." - replied Jesus. "But how many times? I'm tired of people always making fun of me and I get nothing in exchange." "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future, Let me tell you a story of a peasent and a king." - replied to him. There lived a peasent and a king brighter and more noble than everyone before him. One day the peasent had fallen into a huge debt because he had stolen a golden coin from the kings treasure. The king found about it and asked him to show himself. He showed up and they talked about how he stole the money and the punishment he had to overtake which was life time prison. The peasent begged the king, saying he would change if he let him go. The king laughed and said go him: - Dear peasent, the money does interest me, but what do I get after getting you in prison than letting you live free without sin? The peasent promised to sin no more. And a new king was born a century later.
I recently decided to forgive someone who has been hurting me for a number of years. I've been trying to forgive them for a long time, but I could never quite get there. I really had to try and understand their motives and their situation. I finally made a breakthrough, it wasn't easy. But I knew I did it because one day, I woke up and I just felt so light, like something was lifted. I felt no pain. And suddenly, I saw things very clearly in my business. I made a decision in my business that paid dividends. My relationship with my family also changed. And there was no doubt in my mind that all these changes in my life was a direct result from forgiving this person. It made me realize that in all that time I couldn't forgive this person, I was only harming myself- and in ways I didn't think would have any connection.
Absolutely beautiful. Our body hasn't made in a way that it can hold grudges and bad feeling about other person. It's better to let it go and move on. That way our life will be more fruitful and prosperous. Holding on things make us weak and sad and give us negative energy. You can't change what has happened but you can definitely change your future by staying positive.
If you understand why the other person did something bad with you, you will be thankful to GOD that you are not on this person situation.. You must forgive to understand your emotion which is very strong, and soon you forgive you feel light. It is not important that you will have relationship with this person again.When you forgive , all benefits is yours.
Jesus: Bless those who persecute you. Let me tell you a story of a wise man who sacrificed himself to change the world. The story of Jesus Christ. Once there was a sinner in the town of Jerusalem. The sinner John was very angry every time he got laughed at a bar or being ashamed of something he would always get furious and blame it on other people. When one day he got out of his house and saw the person who was believed to be the son of God. John came to him and asked to be baptized and baptized he was. When John saw that he had power like no other he asked him to be his disciple. Jesus accepted and they started living together. One night when Jesus was sleeping John woke him up and asked him a question. "Oh lord, how can you be so forgiving to someone that does not deserve it?" - John said. "You must forgive everyone." - replied Jesus. "But how many times? I'm tired of people always making fun of me and I get nothing in exchange." "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future, Let me tell you a story of a peasent and a king." - replied to him. There lived a peasent and a king brighter and more noble than everyone before him. One day the peasent had fallen into a huge debt because he had stolen a golden coin from the kings treasure. The king found about it and asked him to show himself. He showed up and they talked about how he stole the money and the punishment he had to overtake which was life time prison. The peasent begged the king, saying he would change if he let him go. The king laughed and said go him: - Dear peasent, the money does interest me, but what do I get after getting you in prison than letting you live free without sin? The peasent promised to sin no more. And a new king was born a century later.
@Ithatitastixil ....if you can't forgive then learn to understand. When you understand you will learn to forgive and more. Just looking through all your playlists...I see you collected a large percentage on hate eg Alex Jones, etc. Don't you think the problem appears worse to you when you have no other view points to counter balance the negativity you collect.
Simple: We need to forgive because its poisonous to our hearts, minds and spirit. Karma will catch up with them someday, that's for sure. Releasing the poison from ourselves is difficult because just as it took time to get there, it will take time to leave. This lifetime for me has been about forgiveness of those who hurt me, it's not about being with them again or re-befriend them, but to release them for my own well-being. Sometimes a whole lifetime isn't enough to release all that poison but we do our best. Namaste
i had horrible experiences in childhood and adolescence. Most of them, I have overcome with meditation. Still some are there,even at my age of 73yrs. Definitely mediation helps
Of course it does. In another 6 million reincarnations you will be clear, just a bit of luck is needed, so that nobody abuses you again. May Ganesh grant you 6 million times luck
It is very true that hurt people, hurt people. Is it possible to truly forgive and have empathy if you choose not to want to be in the presence of the people that hurt you. Aren't you in a sense holding onto the forgiveness and pain. People say that forgiveness in not for the other person. I say it is. If I openly express forgiveness there comes expectations from the person being forgiven. I don't believe that people do not want to forgive others. I believe that the idea of expectations and the possibility of further hurt stops them. Forgiveness is also acceptance. Acceptance of another person and their behavior. Sometimes you don't want to accept certain behaviors or energy in your space and it gets more complicated when others can't except your choices. It then becomes easier not to accept or forgive. I believe the most valuable traits to have is self awareness, respect of others and self respect. With these traits we can easily give people the space they need to exist......... I have been wanting to express this for a long time. What's your thoughts?
Sophia Brown ~Well you shared ur feelings out loud, that u said uve been waiting&wantn to say for a long time. Now im gonna do that too, with u...and i dont even know you but here goes. IF i tried to or IF i even can forgive 1 of the many persons that have really hurt me, this one in paticular that sexually abused me when i was very young&I never told anyone bci was told id get in alot of trouble&my mother would send me away if she found out. So ive lived w/this dark secret &this anger&this shame and all the other darkness that has built up&followed me over the last 40yrs. Thru the yrs Ive been thru hell&I've put so many ppl that have loved&cared about me thru hell. I've never got an apology from the person that hurt me. Unfortunately a couple yrs ago i ran into sum trouble&had absolutely nowhere to go&no options other than to come back to live with the person who put me thru that trauma when i was so young. He makes it known that he doesn't want me here (just as much as i dont wanto be here anyway but i have no other options)&he treats me like im a burden, a hindrance and he constantly complains&bitches about everything&anything that I do & or dont do. How Am I Supposed To Forgive This Negative,Miserable, Spiteful P.O.S That I Have No Respect For At All And Have To See&Deal With On A Daily Basis. He's Never Been Held Accountable For What He Did To Me&He'd Probly Deny It If He Were Confronted About It. SO IF ANYONE CAN THROW ME A LIFELINE WITH ANY SOLUTIONS, IM OPEN TO THEM!?! KEEP IN MIND, NO ONE IN MY FAMILY EVEN KNOWS ABOUT THIS!! SENDN SOO MUCH LOVE ~PEACE ~LIGHT 💙☮🌠 🙏BLESSINGS🙏SOPHIA🙏 #TheStruggleIsReal ☆AND I TRULY DO WISH U ALL THE BEST AND I PRAY U GET THE ANSWERS AND THE PEACE&HAPPINESS THAT U SEEK AND DESERVE☆
To both of you beautiful ladies, Sophia Brown & Lucky Angelpy (I assume you're a woman, if not my apologies), I totally get what you are saying and honor your journeys and what you have been through. I can say from experience that forgiveness really ISN'T about the other person - it really IS about YOU. I have a slightly different spin on forgiveness - forgiveness is not about letting the other person off of the hook, trying to understand why they did what they did, or somehow make it okay that you went through what you went through. Forgiveness is all about allowing YOURSELF to HEAL and be FREE from all the associated pain that comes along with it. Here's what it looks like for me: I can recall some of the most painful moments in my life, moments that just about or did break me, without reliving any of the pain. I can recall those moments, not only without feeling all the feelings again, but actually feeling the opposites of them. Instead of anger and hatred, peace and calm. Instead of hurt and bitterness there's a lightness and joy. I took my own experience and put into a course that a lady is going through right now. She also was sexually assaulted as a kid and lived with that guilt and shame and secrecy for YEARS. She's only halfway through my course and she's been able to have more forward movement in the last 6 WEEKS than she has in over 30 years. She called me the other day and told me she can actually feel the healing beginning to take place. She also said not only would she recommend this course to anyone, she made it very clear that it's been very difficult. Those first 2 weeks had her in a difficult spot. However she said the work Works if you work it, and while she has yet to complete the journey, I can see and she can feel just how far she's come. I really don't say this to promote my course (at all) but to show you it's possible! Forgiveness isn't about letting the other person off the hook - it's about letting YOU off of it. It's giving YOU your life back, your freedom, your peace of mind. Your power. Whichever path you take to forgiveness - make sure it's a good one! - and know that not only is it worth it to not spend another day with the anger, resentment, guilt, shame, frustration, hatred, and fear that you feel ALL the time, it's worth it to know joy, peace, wholeness, healing, and what it's like to finally love yourself. Hope this helps!
@@Aishamber Can I just say everything you said is correct. To recap in my own words as well as yours :-) Recap 1 - remove distractions from your life (hurt is an example of distraction). Vishen and others talk about forgiveness but it literally is saying *forgive someone who hurt you so they no longer are a distraction to you.* 2 - with the free "energy freedom and time" you would have wasted on being hurt, you can now focus on something more productive in your life 3 - in doing so moving forward is about you (not someone else) and how you deal with life's challenges (the lows) or even your aspirations (the highs). 4 - everyone who succeeds learns different ways to move forward in life. If I use the metaphor there is an obstacle in front of you. When you feel hurt you feel limited to only moving "forward and back"(hence the obstacle is everything. But maybe just maybe with the extra time and thinking associated with forgiveness you can consider other movements "forward back, side to side, 360 around or above or below to get around obstacle"... You see the metaphor....the obstacle no longer restricts your life to moving in one way only, with a different view point YOU CAN choose to move in any way you want...the obstacle no longer is an obstacle. If you truly want to learn from the experience, the obstacle which directs your journey down another road in life is but a milestone (if not a signpost) to help you to some place better. Who would have thought this hurt you feel will help you move on, if you can learn from it but not be distracted by it you will move on. Forgive the poetic licence but it is all true....starting with learn to let go, or forgive, remove the distractions so you can actually think where you want to go next.
I agree with you, being afraid of further hurting makes you forget to forgive... I've forgiven many ppl in my life and they kept hurting me so I chose to stay far and not involve them in my circle of life... I just had enough and learned from my mistakes... Some people don't deserve forgiveness!
I’ve found out the hard way that you can forgive somebody but you don’t have to keep them around you. For some people, especially those who have repeatedly hurt you, I’ve found that it is absolutely necessary to keep that toxicity out of your life to truly move on.
Wow! This is a very powerful message. "Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again." - Luke 6:38 "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." - Ephesians 4:32 "Judge not, that ye be not judged." - Mathew 7:1 "For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again." - Mathew 7:2
This is powerful for me! My brother Shay wronged me in the form of sexual perversion & inappropriateness. I would really like to think I can let it go some day & get our friendship back completely.
@V A Proof of what?? Does it even matter if THIS particular story is true? Seems like you missed the point of the message completely... Things like this happen all of the time...Forgiveness is VERY powerful..
Forgive only when it’s truly born in your heart to do so...don’t force it..hate and anger are normal processes as well and should be experienced and overcome..again in a natural way...you hold the power always and are loved regardless
This is one of the most beautiful and powerful speech I have ever heard. I am one of those persons that has a hard time forgiving people that have hurt in the past and, even in my preset right now I see those people that hurt me and I cant forgive them becuase, I am still hurt.
Hi! Vishen, I am so grateful and thankful for this sharing. Honestly, I am hearing this for the third time and (today 16th November 2018) finally felt that I should send my gratitude to you for this radical forgiveness. I went through so much in 2015 and through forgiveness I liberated myself. Manifesting to see you in person when you are in Malaysia.
There is so much Hope in your message, Mr. Vishen Lakhiani. The message you proclaim is the the message from the Bible. The message of Forgiveness brings Peace. A Peace like no other. A Peace that Only Jesus Christ the Lord and King of this universe presents to us unconditionally. I coincidentally experienced this morning; the very experience you describe here. I went to Mass and confession and the Lord asked me to pray for those that have hurt me. I totally agree, it is very very difficult sometimes. But once you do, there is a Joy and Peace like no other. The Testimony you share here, brings me Hope too! Shall remember you in my prayers now onwards! God Bless!
Thank you Vishen, you made my night. During my recovery, I learned how powerful forgiveness is. And how it transforms our body, mind, and soul. So I try to practice it on a regular basis. Now you just taught me to turn forgiveness into love. Which I completely agree with. That is the heart and soul I need to have. Now and into the future. I love your programs and I always learn a lot. Thanks for sharing. Keep up the awesome work!!!
Wow i didnt expect this. Now i know the how powerful forgiveness is. I need to forgive myself, my parents, my sister and everything that weigh me down to be able to let go. Often i forget that you need to forgive to
Cant thank enough Vishen for this video. Big breakthrough. Have been sitting with myself going through life and forgiving whatever comes up. So much emotion released. Heart feels light after such a long time. Tons of gratitude 🙏🏻
Your a wonderful speaker. I've had to forgive people for things done that I carried around with me. I am thankful for the lessons. Forgiving myself, is harder but there's progress.
Beautiful, wonderful, powerful message Veshin..I m from India often watch your vedios..really they make my life more meaningful..Thank you..I sometimes see you as my elder brother..I wish i could meet you..☺
AMEN🙏 The universe sends US tests so WE may grow spiritually and mentally! Become a Better Person!! To Appreciate the smaller things in life . Thanks for sharing your thoughts and Insights ❤
This process of forgiving is so important to truly heal and grow! -- Profound and completely amazing how much I have changed as a person since I began the forgiveness journey! I can not recommend this form of healing enough~ it is so beneficial in so many ways!
You've touched my heart with this video. I tried this same technique to forgive and understand why my family members hurt me so bad for so many years. And kept blaming myself...
thank you so much for this video. I went through something that was extremely hurtful last year, and for about 1.5 year I went through lots of awakening, in and out of forgiveness yet I went through (until today) extreme vengeance. (which I somehow know have to go through as well - it really gave an understanding of why humans kill and hurt each other). And i was asking God why I have to go through this. And even though knew it was for growth and training - i was not sure what this would lead me to - this video explained it for me what was his intention. I should really face it - at heart and forgive.
I WISH TO THANK GOD AND THE UNIVERSE FOR GIVING ME THIS UNDERSTANDING SINCE CHILDHOOD. I ATTRIBUTE THIS UNDERSTANDING TO MY BLISS THAT GOES WITH ME NO MATTER WHERE I AM. AND BEING THANKFUL IS ALSO A KEY TO HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS.....P.S. I'm not yelling but SHOUTING FROM THE MOUNTAIN TOP ! THANK YOU TO ALL !
Thank You. I didn't know about this video. But I started to forgive everything and everyone recently. I needed a motivation and searched something about forgiveness about on RUclips. Your video appeared and that is great.
It is inspiring by forgiving who have hurt us, we free ourselves. But when implementation comes it becomes difficult job. Certain blocks are sooo deep which has turned in scars. I’ll definitely practise forgiveness.
Your Wright, this is the first time I've seen your video but i did this without seeing your clip ,n just listening to you now everything you said is correct forgiveness to myself n others, now my life has shifted from bad to great in all aspects. 😊🤲🙏👌👍
Many of us can often times find ourselves struggling to face someone who has hurt us. But each any every one of us has the ability within to forgive.
Share in the comments below your success story with forgiveness and inspire others to take the bold step forwards.
Don't forget to watch Vishen's FREE masterclass TODAY👉go.mindvalley.com/bl
Great
Next time send a video on how to increase Aswell iq please sir
Maybe this might not sound right to others it's just my humble opinion to just stop running ads this often. I know that's important and also the content that you deliver is great. I too am a fan of it, no doubt. But, it's all over the place. Almost every video that I try to tune in to , the ad comes up and it completely distracts from the reason I am watching the video in the first place. So, there's no point focusing on something important that is delivered in the video and suddenly the ad comes up and disturbs the rapport.
@@graphicsbyshubham You hit it on the head, "removing distraction from your life"...even Vishen doesn't quite understand what forgiveness actually does in real terms.
Hurt is a form of distraction...consuming ones time and focus without gain.
Remove distraction everyday and yes you become MORE focused on what you do or aspire too.
Money happiness health love all are valid to focus on but understand what you do the moment you don't focus on your goals - you don't hit the success you were aspiring for. You only have a limited time resources so use them efficiently.
All religions preach something similar but buddism Hinduism definitely understand the concept of do not be distracted from moving forward on your journey.
We forgive because we feel the other has wronged. In doing so we forgive consciously however the subconscious retains that the other has wronged. The subconscious is 9 times bigger than the conscious which creates a schizophrenia due to disagreements between the two.
To avoid this isn’t it wiser to condemn the act but never the actor. The advantages could be several to separating the act and the actor :
- the act is condemned and the actor is aware of it so as not to repeat it.
- the actor is not cut off from us and may possibly do good acts in the future.
- when we condemn a person (even subconsciously we actually first n foremost condemn ourselves )
- also when we forgive others it is a superior attitude which is inhumane.
When you get to the end of it all you realise that the person you need to forgive the most is yourself. Now that is a mountain to climb but the view is indeed worth it all.
Very ture
So true! Always act out of love! ❤️
IN ORDER TO FORGIVE YOURSELF, YOU SHOULD FORGIVE SOMEONE WHO HURT YOU FIRST
One of the best speech I’ve ever heard
Jesus: Bless those who persecute you.
Let me tell you a story of a wise man who sacrificed himself to change the world. The story of Jesus Christ. Once there was a sinner in the town of Jerusalem. The sinner John was very angry every time he got laughed at a bar or being ashamed of something he would always get furious and blame it on other people. When one day he got out of his house and saw the person who was believed to be the son of God. John came to him and asked to be baptized and baptized he was. When John saw that he had power like no other he asked him to be his disciple. Jesus accepted and they started living together. One night when Jesus was sleeping John woke him up and asked him a question.
"Oh lord, how can you be so forgiving to someone that does not deserve it?" - John said.
"You must forgive everyone." - replied Jesus.
"But how many times? I'm tired of people always making fun of me and I get nothing in exchange."
"Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future, Let me tell you a story of a peasent and a king." - replied to him.
There lived a peasent and a king brighter and more noble than everyone before him. One day the peasent had fallen into a huge debt because he had stolen a golden coin from the kings treasure. The king found about it and asked him to show himself. He showed up and they talked about how he stole the money and the punishment he had to overtake which was life time prison. The peasent begged the king, saying he would change if he let him go.
The king laughed and said go him:
- Dear peasent, the money does interest me, but what do I get after getting you in prison than letting you live free without sin?
The peasent promised to sin no more. And a new king was born a century later.
@Vidisha Alwani Yes, yes i did. Like it, yes you would. Its free! Chrck it out!
You really faced bad time in which u had patience and came positively thats y u achieved your success
I recently decided to forgive someone who has been hurting me for a number of years. I've been trying to forgive them for a long time, but I could never quite get there. I really had to try and understand their motives and their situation. I finally made a breakthrough, it wasn't easy. But I knew I did it because one day, I woke up and I just felt so light, like something was lifted. I felt no pain. And suddenly, I saw things very clearly in my business. I made a decision in my business that paid dividends. My relationship with my family also changed. And there was no doubt in my mind that all these changes in my life was a direct result from forgiving this person. It made me realize that in all that time I couldn't forgive this person, I was only harming myself- and in ways I didn't think would have any connection.
Absolutely beautiful. Our body hasn't made in a way that it can hold grudges and bad feeling about other person. It's better to let it go and move on. That way our life will be more fruitful and prosperous. Holding on things make us weak and sad and give us negative energy. You can't change what has happened but you can definitely change your future by staying positive.
Indeed
If you understand why the other person did something bad with you, you will be thankful to GOD that you are not on this person situation.. You must forgive to understand your emotion which is very strong, and soon you forgive you feel light. It is not important that you will have relationship with this person again.When you forgive , all benefits is yours.
Jesus: Bless those who persecute you.
Let me tell you a story of a wise man who sacrificed himself to change the world. The story of Jesus Christ. Once there was a sinner in the town of Jerusalem. The sinner John was very angry every time he got laughed at a bar or being ashamed of something he would always get furious and blame it on other people. When one day he got out of his house and saw the person who was believed to be the son of God. John came to him and asked to be baptized and baptized he was. When John saw that he had power like no other he asked him to be his disciple. Jesus accepted and they started living together. One night when Jesus was sleeping John woke him up and asked him a question.
"Oh lord, how can you be so forgiving to someone that does not deserve it?" - John said.
"You must forgive everyone." - replied Jesus.
"But how many times? I'm tired of people always making fun of me and I get nothing in exchange."
"Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future, Let me tell you a story of a peasent and a king." - replied to him.
There lived a peasent and a king brighter and more noble than everyone before him. One day the peasent had fallen into a huge debt because he had stolen a golden coin from the kings treasure. The king found about it and asked him to show himself. He showed up and they talked about how he stole the money and the punishment he had to overtake which was life time prison. The peasent begged the king, saying he would change if he let him go.
The king laughed and said go him:
- Dear peasent, the money does interest me, but what do I get after getting you in prison than letting you live free without sin?
The peasent promised to sin no more. And a new king was born a century later.
We need to forgive others of the harm they caused us because it is only through forgiveness can we ourselves move on with life.
@Ithatitastixil ....if you can't forgive then learn to understand. When you understand you will learn to forgive and more.
Just looking through all your playlists...I see you collected a large percentage on hate eg Alex Jones, etc.
Don't you think the problem appears worse to you when you have no other view points to counter balance the negativity you collect.
@@borntodoit8744 total respect to Alex Jones
Simple: We need to forgive because its poisonous to our hearts, minds and spirit. Karma will catch up with them someday, that's for sure. Releasing the poison from ourselves is difficult because just as it took time to get there, it will take time to leave. This lifetime for me has been about forgiveness of those who hurt me, it's not about being with them again or re-befriend them, but to release them for my own well-being. Sometimes a whole lifetime isn't enough to release all that poison but we do our best. Namaste
Agreed overtime the person we hate on move on with their lives and many of us dwell on it for months years etc....
i had horrible experiences in childhood and adolescence. Most of them, I have overcome with meditation. Still some are there,even at my age of 73yrs. Definitely mediation helps
Of course it does. In another 6 million reincarnations you will be clear, just a bit of luck is needed, so that nobody abuses you again. May Ganesh grant you 6 million times luck
Same here brother. Well done you! 👍✌🤠
It is very true that hurt people, hurt people. Is it possible to truly forgive and have empathy if you choose not to want to be in the presence of the people that hurt you. Aren't you in a sense holding onto the forgiveness and pain. People say that forgiveness in not for the other person. I say it is. If I openly express forgiveness there comes expectations from the person being forgiven. I don't believe that people do not want to forgive others. I believe that the idea of expectations and the possibility of further hurt stops them. Forgiveness is also acceptance. Acceptance of another person and their behavior. Sometimes you don't want to accept certain behaviors or energy in your space and it gets more complicated when others can't except your choices. It then becomes easier not to accept or forgive. I believe the most valuable traits to have is self awareness, respect of others and self respect. With these traits we can easily give people the space they need to exist......... I have been wanting to express this for a long time. What's your thoughts?
Sophia Brown ~Well you shared ur feelings out loud, that u said uve been waiting&wantn to say for a long time. Now im gonna do that too, with u...and i dont even know you but here goes. IF i tried to or IF i even can forgive 1 of the many persons that have really hurt me, this one in paticular that sexually abused me when i was very young&I never told anyone bci was told id get in alot of trouble&my mother would send me away if she found out. So ive lived w/this dark secret &this anger&this shame and all the other darkness that has built up&followed me over the last 40yrs. Thru the yrs Ive been thru hell&I've put so many ppl that have loved&cared about me thru hell. I've never got an apology from the person that hurt me. Unfortunately a couple yrs ago i ran into sum trouble&had absolutely nowhere to go&no options other than to come back to live with the person who put me thru that trauma when i was so young. He makes it known that he doesn't want me here (just as much as i dont wanto be here anyway but i have no other options)&he treats me like im a burden, a hindrance and he constantly complains&bitches about everything&anything that I do & or dont do. How Am I Supposed To Forgive This Negative,Miserable, Spiteful P.O.S That I Have No Respect For At All And Have To See&Deal With On A Daily Basis. He's Never Been Held Accountable For What He Did To Me&He'd Probly Deny It If He Were Confronted About It. SO IF ANYONE CAN THROW ME A LIFELINE WITH ANY SOLUTIONS, IM OPEN TO THEM!?! KEEP IN MIND, NO ONE IN MY FAMILY EVEN KNOWS ABOUT THIS!! SENDN SOO MUCH LOVE ~PEACE ~LIGHT 💙☮🌠
🙏BLESSINGS🙏SOPHIA🙏 #TheStruggleIsReal ☆AND I TRULY DO WISH U ALL THE BEST AND I PRAY U GET THE ANSWERS AND THE PEACE&HAPPINESS THAT U SEEK AND DESERVE☆
To both of you beautiful ladies, Sophia Brown & Lucky Angelpy (I assume you're a woman, if not my apologies), I totally get what you are saying and honor your journeys and what you have been through. I can say from experience that forgiveness really ISN'T about the other person - it really IS about YOU. I have a slightly different spin on forgiveness - forgiveness is not about letting the other person off of the hook, trying to understand why they did what they did, or somehow make it okay that you went through what you went through. Forgiveness is all about allowing YOURSELF to HEAL and be FREE from all the associated pain that comes along with it.
Here's what it looks like for me: I can recall some of the most painful moments in my life, moments that just about or did break me, without reliving any of the pain. I can recall those moments, not only without feeling all the feelings again, but actually feeling the opposites of them. Instead of anger and hatred, peace and calm. Instead of hurt and bitterness there's a lightness and joy.
I took my own experience and put into a course that a lady is going through right now. She also was sexually assaulted as a kid and lived with that guilt and shame and secrecy for YEARS. She's only halfway through my course and she's been able to have more forward movement in the last 6 WEEKS than she has in over 30 years. She called me the other day and told me she can actually feel the healing beginning to take place. She also said not only would she recommend this course to anyone, she made it very clear that it's been very difficult. Those first 2 weeks had her in a difficult spot. However she said the work Works if you work it, and while she has yet to complete the journey, I can see and she can feel just how far she's come.
I really don't say this to promote my course (at all) but to show you it's possible! Forgiveness isn't about letting the other person off the hook - it's about letting YOU off of it. It's giving YOU your life back, your freedom, your peace of mind. Your power. Whichever path you take to forgiveness - make sure it's a good one! - and know that not only is it worth it to not spend another day with the anger, resentment, guilt, shame, frustration, hatred, and fear that you feel ALL the time, it's worth it to know joy, peace, wholeness, healing, and what it's like to finally love yourself.
Hope this helps!
@@Aishamber Can I just say everything you said is correct.
To recap in my own words as well as yours :-)
Recap
1 - remove distractions from your life (hurt is an example of distraction).
Vishen and others talk about forgiveness but it literally is saying *forgive someone who hurt you so they no longer are a distraction to you.*
2 - with the free "energy freedom and time" you would have wasted on being hurt, you can now focus on something more productive in your life
3 - in doing so moving forward is about you (not someone else) and how you deal with life's challenges (the lows) or even your aspirations (the highs).
4 - everyone who succeeds learns different ways to move forward in life.
If I use the metaphor there is an obstacle in front of you. When you feel hurt you feel limited to only moving "forward and back"(hence the obstacle is everything.
But maybe just maybe with the extra time and thinking associated with forgiveness you can consider other movements "forward back, side to side, 360 around or above or below to get around obstacle"...
You see the metaphor....the obstacle no longer restricts your life to moving in one way only, with a different view point YOU CAN choose to move in any way you want...the obstacle no longer is an obstacle.
If you truly want to learn from the experience, the obstacle which directs your journey down another road in life is but a milestone (if not a signpost) to help you to some place better. Who would have thought this hurt you feel will help you move on, if you can learn from it but not be distracted by it you will move on.
Forgive the poetic licence but it is all true....starting with learn to let go, or forgive, remove the distractions so you can actually think where you want to go next.
I agree with you, being afraid of further hurting makes you forget to forgive... I've forgiven many ppl in my life and they kept hurting me so I chose to stay far and not involve them in my circle of life... I just had enough and learned from my mistakes... Some people don't deserve forgiveness!
I’ve found out the hard way that you can forgive somebody but you don’t have to keep them around you. For some people, especially those who have repeatedly hurt you, I’ve found that it is absolutely necessary to keep that toxicity out of your life to truly move on.
Wow! This is a very powerful message.
"Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again." - Luke 6:38
"Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." - Ephesians 4:32
"Judge not, that ye be not judged." - Mathew 7:1
"For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again." - Mathew 7:2
Damn, Vishen, that is one heck of an incredible story.....
This is powerful for me! My brother Shay wronged me in the form of sexual perversion & inappropriateness. I would really like to think I can let it go some day & get our friendship back completely.
@Sunny Girl finally someone who says it.
@V A Proof of what?? Does it even matter if THIS particular story is true? Seems like you missed the point of the message completely... Things like this happen all of the time...Forgiveness is VERY powerful..
This is amazing 🙌🏽 forgiveness is one part of freedom for yourself.
Dion Anderson yes you reclaim your precious life energy from the people you don’t forgive. You heal yourself. 💪🏼
Forgive only when it’s truly born in your heart to do so...don’t force it..hate and anger are normal processes as well and should be experienced and overcome..again in a natural way...you hold the power always and are loved regardless
Just what I needed!🍀💕💕
Thank you so much for this beautiful message!💖🙏🍀
Thank you very much Vishen Lachiani.
😇I also forgive them.....😇 😇It feels great afterwards......😇.
I feel so proud of you Vishen !
God bless you always 👍⭐️🙏
Never thought anger or hatred would effect us so much.... Thank you so much for exploring this technique
I love to hear your voice so peaceful
This is one of the most beautiful and powerful speech I have ever heard. I am one of those persons that has a hard time forgiving people that have hurt in the past and, even in my preset right now I see those people that hurt me and I cant forgive them becuase, I am still hurt.
Very well put. Forgiving is the most difficult thing to do. For ourselves as well.
Thank you vishen for doing a noble job of transforming the mind. Wish you all that you aspire, in abundance.
Vishen, THANK YOU SO MUCH. This video is impacting on my heart. Refreshing with more positiveness. Lots of Blessings to YOU.
This message is truly amazing. Thank you
Just the message I need to hear now. Thank you 🙏
Thank you friend. Love and light. I am so thankful for you and your message. I truly needed to hear this. Thank you 🙏🏻
Hi! Vishen, I am so grateful and thankful for this sharing.
Honestly, I am hearing this for the third time and (today 16th November 2018) finally felt that I should send my gratitude to you for this radical forgiveness. I went through so much in 2015 and through forgiveness I liberated myself.
Manifesting to see you in person when you are in Malaysia.
Gratitude!! Thank you for sharing 🙏🙏
Excellent wisdom ,thank you.
Thank you Vishen!
There is so much Hope in your message, Mr. Vishen Lakhiani. The message you proclaim is the the message from the Bible. The message of Forgiveness brings Peace. A Peace like no other. A Peace that Only Jesus Christ the Lord and King of this universe presents to us unconditionally. I coincidentally experienced this morning; the very experience you describe here. I went to Mass and confession and the Lord asked me to pray for those that have hurt me. I totally agree, it is very very difficult sometimes. But once you do, there is a Joy and Peace like no other. The Testimony you share here, brings me Hope too! Shall remember you in my prayers now onwards! God Bless!
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Thank you Vishen, you made my night. During my recovery, I learned how powerful forgiveness is. And how it transforms our body, mind, and soul. So I try to practice it on a regular basis. Now you just taught me to turn forgiveness into love. Which I completely agree with. That is the heart and soul I need to have. Now and into the future. I love your programs and I always learn a lot. Thanks for sharing. Keep up the awesome work!!!
Thank you Vishen! This message is so important and at the same time so beautiful and inspiring.
Wow i didnt expect this. Now i know the how powerful forgiveness is. I need to forgive myself, my parents, my sister and everything that weigh me down to be able to let go. Often i forget that you need to forgive to
I would say this is one of the most profound videos I’ve ever watched. 🙏🙏🙏
Cant thank enough Vishen for this video. Big breakthrough. Have been sitting with myself going through life and forgiving whatever comes up. So much emotion released. Heart feels light after such a long time. Tons of gratitude 🙏🏻
Me hizo llorar este video. Te mando un fuerte abrazo Vishen desde México. Soy tu fan y de Mindvalley.
Awesome man! My favorite mentor! Simply the best!!
So lovely! Thanks Vishen for being an inspiration in many many ways
Merci Vishen
Your a wonderful speaker. I've had to forgive people for things done that I carried around with me. I am thankful for the lessons. Forgiving myself, is harder but there's progress.
Beautiful, wonderful, powerful message Veshin..I m from India often watch your vedios..really they make my life more meaningful..Thank you..I sometimes see you as my elder brother..I wish i could meet you..☺
AMEN🙏 The universe sends US tests so WE may grow spiritually and mentally! Become a Better Person!! To Appreciate the smaller things in life .
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and Insights ❤
Thank you Thank you Thank you.
You are doing a fantastic job god bless you
This process of forgiving is so important to truly heal and grow! -- Profound and completely amazing how much I have changed as a person since I began the forgiveness journey! I can not recommend this form of healing enough~ it is so beneficial in so many ways!
Awesome message.
Thanks Vishen.👍🌷💖
Thank you so much for this beautiful message
Thk u so much for yr message.I know many ppl who r hurting badly.These truth will help them realize what's wrong in their life and how to turn around.
MAN YOU ARE REALLY AWESOME PLEASE STAY AND LEAVE LONGER
So True. Empathy, real meaning of my life💕
Your words are balm for the soul. Especially when it is in the phase of condemnation. Thank you.✨
Such beautiful thought & process to break free from anger & resilience we built up over the time for the ppl who wronged us
The power of forgiveness can change lives. Thx
The Best Speech
Thanks sir I have no word to tell u that bring tears in my eyes. Thank you so much sir .
This opened my heart center big time. Gracefully told, ty for this lovely share Vishen!
So enlightening
Forgiveness,,its so powerful,,for yourself,and the person who wronged you...its a sign of strenght,, and live.Thank you Vishen.x
Thank You for your Great Work
thank you so much this was so beautiful god bless you
Thank you
This is the best video so far I watched...much practical, beautiful, thanks Vishen.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU A MILLION X MILLION TIMES!
It's like a huge stone that has been in my heart for 50 yrs melted when I read this....
Thanks.
thank you so much
Thank you for sharing this great information brother ! Much love 🙏
So powerful! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank him for what you experienced to share which I myself went through - You are living by example which he will be ashamed - Forgive - Excellent!
You've touched my heart with this video. I tried this same technique to forgive and understand why my family members hurt me so bad for so many years. And kept blaming myself...
Awesome delivery of speech..
Hurt people hurt people..
Thank you Sir
I have found a good way to forgive people is to everyday for 2 weeks, wish for them all that you want for yourself in this life. It helps.
How are you able to wish something good for a person who has hurt you and treated you like shit??
@@aswathydevu2760 just keep trying. You will see. Changed my life
@@tarunesh thank you for replying 🙏..is following the mind valley forgiveness technique enough???
@@aswathydevu2760 I have not tried it. Only the method that I told you.
You are an Inspiration
Beautiful said
Thank you thank you thank you for teaching me
thank you so much for this video. I went through something that was extremely hurtful last year, and for about 1.5 year I went through lots of awakening, in and out of forgiveness yet I went through (until today) extreme vengeance. (which I somehow know have to go through as well - it really gave an understanding of why humans kill and hurt each other). And i was asking God why I have to go through this. And even though knew it was for growth and training - i was not sure what this would lead me to - this video explained it for me what was his intention. I should really face it - at heart and forgive.
just what I needed to hear 🙏. grateful 🙏🙏
Bless you
I WISH TO THANK GOD AND THE UNIVERSE FOR GIVING ME THIS UNDERSTANDING SINCE CHILDHOOD. I ATTRIBUTE THIS UNDERSTANDING TO MY BLISS THAT GOES WITH ME NO MATTER WHERE I AM. AND BEING THANKFUL IS ALSO A KEY TO HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS.....P.S. I'm not yelling but SHOUTING FROM THE MOUNTAIN TOP ! THANK YOU TO ALL !
Powerful talk ....
This is so beautiful🌸 thank you🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing❤
Thank you for your forgiveness. As usual, I'm again inspired.
Forgiving others flourishes PEACE within yourself. 🙏
Too good .Thank you
THANK UUU
Thank you for this video sir
Thanks a lot😊
Thank You. I didn't know about this video. But I started to forgive everything and everyone recently. I needed a motivation and searched something about forgiveness about on RUclips. Your video appeared and that is great.
Thank you sir ..for such a nice video
Amazing video!!!!! Thank you very much!!!!!
Thank you im on my journey of forgiving now!
Really needed to hear this . Thanks a lot Vishen
Wow. Thank you sir.
Thanks sir
It is inspiring by forgiving who have hurt us, we free ourselves. But when implementation comes it becomes difficult job. Certain blocks are sooo deep which has turned in scars. I’ll definitely practise forgiveness.
very true.
Your Wright, this is the first time I've seen your video but i did this without seeing your clip ,n just listening to you now everything you said is correct forgiveness to myself n others, now my life has shifted from bad to great in all aspects. 😊🤲🙏👌👍