Listen guys, when the riders requesting an answer for their story right in typically, they are really troubled. Howard affects them and their lives. I really take all of you very serious and consider the action in the reactions and how they will affect your lives. It’s for that I don’t come unhinged, I’m very pragmatic when I think through your issues and try to answer you. Trust me I can be crazy but because it’s your lives that I’m dealing with I try not to be dramatic and just be real and deal with the issue. Sometimes even as a parent when Morgan comes to me with something that is ridiculous. Yes, I can be crazy and go off the charts and I’ll see if Morgan can give us more stories that we can see that side of me just for the fun. But most of the stuff that comes through here is not fun and that’s why you get the side of me that takes you very serious and I put my heart into those answers.
For the Korean story: I'm Indian, engaged to a French guy who left his country to be with me. Considering that Asian cultures are pretty similar in the dating aspect, here are my two cents: There is no FAILING in relationships. Introducing your partner is equivalent to an engagement. You can't introduce your partner and have you guys break up after that. If that happens, you essentially lose all community support, and if it's known in the community, you might even find it hard to fin someone to be with in the future. A lot rides on this. HOWEVER. As someone who was in th exact same shoes as them, I said yes to my partner moving to my country only when I was absolutely sure I was going to be marrying him. And so just before he moved, we sat down with them, and had a conversation about marriage and the future. There is a big possibility that the boyfriend is not sure he wants to marry this girl. It's possible that he isn't as into this as she is. Which brings me to another aspect: inter cultural relationships are HARD. Is he always going to be asking HER to adjust? Is he always going to be expecting HER to compromise to his way of living to appease his parents? I have seen this happen. And it never ends well. To be able to walk the middle ground, he needs to be able to stand up to his parents, and sheild her from the negativity from his community.
For the teacher story: I was in Early Childhood Education for 4 years and had gotten severely burnt out, but was scared I wouldn’t find anything else because my degree was specifically in education. I now work in a tech/logistics company making way more money than I ever would have made in education. Don’t let that fear stop you from trying to apply at other places! Even if you do have to start at an entry level and work your way up, that would look great on a resume I think :)
Thank you for sharing this and I am very happy for you. I am currently in the early childhood education field and it is something I enjoy now; however it is something I don't want to do my whole life.
For the brother-in-law addict story: this is a good example of how addiction is a disease that deeply affects the whole family. Absolutely agree with the “oxygen mask” rule, and also… he needs rehab. He cannot “quit by a deadline”, he needs supervised medical detox and inpatient therapy to address the roots of the addiction. If he drank $800 of alcohol over 4 days and seemed sober, he’s 100% chemically dependent on it. Also, “sometimes pills” reads to me as “opiate addict who masks it with alcoholism”. The sister in the story could benefit from going to AA herself, or CODA (co-dependents anonymous) for community support. Unfortunately, the BIL needs rock-bottom to wake up. -hospice worker, and sibling of a fentanyl addict
That's good advice. I also think that the question was asking more about advice to help build a community around her sister so she's not the only one to help. Doing some simple things like joining a group activity together (book club - in person or online, take a dance class, or attending a local paint night) so that you both have the opportunity to meet other people. Also asking her to attend a NAR-Anon group for families and friends of addicts could help her connect with her reasons for leaving to ensure that she sticks to her decision could help. Finally, if she has ever had some friends she has been close with in the past (old college girlfriends, neighbours or even nearby cousins), then you could reach out to them privately and ask them to re-connect and build that community around her while she needs the support. Most old friends would love an opportunity to catch up but need a reason. And, if they knew her before or at the beginning of her marriage, if the husbands' issues were the reasons that those relationships strained in the first place, they would be glad to help get your sister into a safer and healthier environment.
47:16 for the person wanting a job and a divorce. Look into your local county job and family services or welfare office. You don’t have to be on welfare but you can go in and they will actually help you create a resume, they will help you look for jobs and they have lists of local jobs. They really do help a lot.
I get burned out of every job. Every 2 to 3 years i have to go do something else. It sucks. I hope one day ill find the SOMETHING that is for me forever, job wise. I dont quit the previous job until i have another job set up. Thats what i have to do for my mental health
For the teacher story. There are after school learning assistance programs. I work for one called Kumon. It’s ok pay but you work with kids only a couple times a week and the rest of the days can be spent grading. This is at least what we do. I love it so much and it’s so rewarding. I love working with kids but am terrified to be a teacher.
Happy Route “ 66” Birthday Jerry! Been quite a ride these past 87 episodes on FKS. You are definitely not old Jerry…you are a classic. I truly had a Route 66/Retro party for my 66th a few months ago. This is a great time in life. Really enjoy your show and look forward to the next. Safe travels Justin and Morgan. 🚘😎✌️
A teacher being burnt out doesn't mean they don't like the job anymore, it means they don't have support. Teachers are underpaid, unappreciated, are mandated reporters but nothing gets done & they're stuck in the middle of the country's political climate, besides dealing with admin & parents. I know amazing teachers who have left the profession because it was killing them, physically & emotionally.
To the Teacher: Repeat after me: “I’m allowed to change the direction of my life.” If you are burnt out and don’t like you career then you have every liberty to change it. I’ve seen people in their 80’s get a college degree. I’ve seen people in their 60’s change their career. You are allowed to find what makes going to work worth it. I use to be a nurse.. now I’m a workforce scheduler. My advice is start looking for a new job/career now and when you get it then put in your 2 week notice. That way you won’t feel like your husband is over worked and you’ll be happy because you’ll have made the move to find happiness. Go for it. You got this
1st story: This is your preview for if/when you ever have kids. Whatever a human is capable of doing to an animal, they’re capable of doing to a human, specially a child (good and bad).
Me too!! Actually watched THT in the labor & delivery room afterwards while our baby slept 🥰 These shows have been literal lifesavers during the nights
I would rather be loved, contented, loved what I was doing, loved who I was with than have a fleeting emotion or worry what others thought of me or where society thought I should be. Because those same people are deeply unhappy and don't feel loved, supported, and like tearing others down. Do what makes you most FULLFILLED.
It is cruel to neglect any dogs exercise needs, but it is especially cruel to neglect a high energy dog. It’s like taking an athlete who loves running & locking them in a closet for their life. The dog is innocent here & not giving high energy dogs daily exercise is cruel. And hunting dogs!? It’s as simple as training them to sniff out treats around the house to stimulate their brains, alongside DAILY exercise. Not camping, hunting or hiking once a week, DAILY. If he wants a lazy dog to follow him around, get a low energy breed. Otherwise rehome the dog to someone who can actually keep up with the level of activity the dog deserves.
I was also a “bring home puppy” addict growing up 🤣. Except it’s carried home to adult hood. I drove to alabama to get my most recent from my aunt who drove from Indiana to meet me despite my boyfriend’s very adamant no 😅 BUT my boyfriend doesn’t have to take care of him. The most he has to do is let him out once on the 2 12 hour shifts I work at the hospital a week
My daughters dad hid our relationship for the last year of our relationship. It was a constant struggle with us, and we were on and off a lot because of it.. he wouldnt tell his friends, his parents, anyone.. I realized he was ashamed to say he was with me (we had our daughter young). I finally stopped putting in the energy, told him I was done not being known, and called it off for good. Met someone new within 2-3 months, and we’ve been happily together for 10 years this December. He told his parents about me the first few months. Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.. you’ll continue missing out on his culture.. truly knowing how he is with his family.. knowing how he was brought up, what made him him… some people might be okay with it- but you obviously aren’t.. don’t let your relationship continue unless youre willing to be a secret forever
Dog trainer here! If your dog is not in the Sighthound gene pool, the lure course "chaser flags" have been known to damage joints of dogs who have a high prey drive, but do not have the agility to make sharp turns.
Would my Aussiedoodle have this gene? She has lots of energy and ive thought about agility training myself but wouldnt want to if it will cause issues!
@Adnamaalleb Agility courses are amazing for high-energy dogs! You have an Aussie mix, and they were bread to herd sheep 🐑. I bet she would benefit from being signed up for agility courses with a trainer in your area.
To the teacher around the 30 min mark: look into working at a library! Specifically if there’s a children’s department you can work in. I wanted to be a teacher, but I hated lesson planning and all the state standards. When I shifted my focus to becoming a library, and I loved it so much more because I still get to kind of teach (programming) and work with kids but I have a lot of time to get things done, I don’t have to be a disciplinarian (most of the time) and most of the kids WANT to be there
For story number 3 there’s nothing wrong with starting over job wise! I taught pre-k for years and at 29 decided I wanted to go back to school for nursing. The end goal is to find something you like to do!
i feel like for this channel and tht eps where you directly address listeners and write-ins they should give you a name or a penname, so people in the comments can also address them. so when/if these people see that you answered their questions or concerns they can go to the comments, ctrl+f and search for their name lol. that said, person who is burnt out from teaching - you have people who want to support you. if you live with your partners parents rent-free or at least very cheap, you can save money and search for a job that doesn't suck. that is a very easy solution to the problem. the big issue you're having though seems like internal feelings of inadequacy which i understand, but that is something you really need to look inward to break it down and get over. WAY easier said than done. but the second you decide that feeling inadequate is an unhelpful thought, and it's keeping yourself down when your support system around you is saying they will help lift you up in this way, you will be UNSTOPPABLE. I was in a similar situation in 2021 and I moved in with my grampa and I finished college that way. I felt like I was taking 20 steps back moving in with a family memeber. But then I went 200 steps forward. You can do this, and you have the means. You just need to tell the gremlin in your head to shut up :))))
For the women who is looking friends and has moved to a religiously dominated state- are you in Utah? If so I’d LOVE to connect and be friends! If not I’d STILL love to connect! 38:39
The story about the workaholic sister with a dead beat husband she is all "how do i help my sister get thru this divorce?" then she says or help her find people so i dont have to deal with her calling me about it 🤣🤣🤣 i diedd lmao i thought it was coming from a place of love and wanting to help and shes just like listen i cannot be the one to deal with my sister going thru this.. 🤣🤣deadd
I really feel for caller #4, I’ve also been having a really hard time finding a job since graduating in 2021. At this point I’m too anxious to even open my laptop and begin to deal with this. I’m desperate to get out of this hole and move on with my life but nothing seems to get me going. I just ruminate on the fact that I’ve wasted 3 years doing… nothing. Can I send you my resume too? 😅
For the teacher write in, she's a very caring teacher who seems to be experiencing teacher-fatigue or burnout. I switched to instructional design last year and have never been happier. It's sad how teachers are treated compared to companies and corporates.
Educational system in my country is fucked up too. Teachers underpaid, and Local Universities underfunded; Secretary of the Department of Education/Vice President of the country has Billions of confidential funds that we don't know where its going to (prolly inside her pockets lol) -- I actually fear for what my future's gonna be as a student teacher rn. I completely understand her burnout.
There are several people on the clock app that have left teaching for completely different professions that use similar skills. Moving into something else is so scary and the job market sucks but maybe it would give op some hope to look into other options
There is a vlogging couple I have watched for years where the husband is Japanese and the wife is American, and if I recall correctly, the husband didn't tell his family he was dating someone until they were already engaged and on the verge of marriage. He said it was a cultural thing for him, but idk if that's similar between Japan and Korea. What I have heard is that SK is rather monocultural. The country I'm from is too, and some people here (much to my disdain) are of the opinion that dating people of other nationalities is fine, but marrying them isn't. And yeah, I think that is racist - thinking that someone is okay to date but not to marry because of their ethnicity is absolutely racist in my view.
Homies…I am very low energy, don’t even consider myself a dog person but every dog we get thinks I’m their mom. It’s not because I give them treats or take them fishing , it’s because mommy them and crate train them and just all-around just pour my 24/7 into them. Also did that with my dad’s gf dog. (The dog was the gf)sometimes a mommy figure has to bring the dog to the dumb boy 💁🏽♀️
56:29 I would like to just add to the comments regarding the man, not wanting to introduce his partner to his family. I am American I live in the United States, born and raised here I’m a professional I have a masters degree a decent job, and I would do my best to separate my family from my romantic life. Not because my partner , but because my family . I grew up in dysfunction, and I have worked really hard to get away from many of my struggles, and I would absolutely fear that my family would find a way to destroy my relationship. As the more independent I am the more they find ways to metal and make my life more complicated
100% understandable. i have the same problem. if i confide in them i have to hear the relentless judgement and how i’m a screw up. then when i don’t say anything, i’m ghosting them and i’m a piece of crap. you literally can’t win sometimes. when it’s your own family treating you like crap it’s hard to open up to them about someone you love and expose them to being treated like crap as well.
I LIVE IN UTAH AND AM A STAY AT HOME NON-RELIGIOUS MOMMY THAT IS FEELING THE SAME WAY!! I NEED A FRIEND SO BADLY... Hit me up please!! Lol Plus I am starting a business and will need help ;)
Wait... I can't remember any primary school teachers? I know I was motivated to learn solo, often I think I was ignoring teachers as I was enjoying the workbooks, drawing or listening and not engaging so I could take it in. I can't even remember the room. Only that the random religious teacher decided to pray over me because my undiagnosed ADHD butt meant I was sneaking out anytime the boring bible stuff came out. The Jewish kids got to hang out in the library, way more fun.
Acca student here looking for a remote job. I just got laid off my job because they didn’t have alot of work. Have applied to hundreds of jobs too, fingers crossed for any help here 🤞🏽
omg I want that lady to divorce and move home so badly 😭 if she is in a township that is so close knit and religious she cant make friends, no wonder she cant get hired either. you think divorcing is traumatizing for the kids, its more traumatic to see mommy and daddy so unhappy and resentful and unloving toward each other. you are currently modeling to them that this is what love and partnership looks like. is it a good example of what you want for them when they grow up?
Teacher story: As a teacher myself I completely understand burn out. If she is truly passionate about teaching she should seek out a different school or district that better supports her. She should have planning time and time to PLC with other teachers in her grade. I am a middle school teacher so it’s a little different but my school gives us 2 planning periods per day and one of them a week is a grade level PLC to support one another. Plus every few weeks our admin give us a “gift of time” and we get an extra hour of planning. I know this isn’t realistic for a lot of schools but if she is passionate and wants to continue to teach she should seek for those places that will support her. It’s a hard job and it does suck sometimes but there are schools out there that will do anything possible to support her.
The girl that lives in Utah where do you live?! I work for a side company for Intermountain Healthcare and we are always hiring for our call center and they work from home. Lmk!
Can you tell me the camera and microphones you use. Want to vlog a baby shower. Mom and dad want to buy the right equipment to surprise The soon to be mother and father. And they want good quality and they watch you all but they don’t know how to comment lol We will prerecord for the day! Hope you answer. Also mom says hey to. Dad 😊
why are you still supporting better help? i love you guys and both pods but it’s kind of sad to see you guys still support them after all the stories coming out about how bad and problematic they are as a site
@@twocathome399 They apparently over-charging people without them knowing. I've heard stories of someone getting their appointment canceled but still got billed for it anyway
If you’re reading this woman from our story. My remote workplace is hiring. I just promoted into management. I’d love to help you. You are safe. Wellfound is a great resource to find remote work in start up tech. I left my teaching job for this and I couldn’t be happier. You got this. 42:29
the way I’m an avid watcher and I’ve never seen jerry be so passionate over anything besides the dog story 🤣🤣
I was thinking that too 😂
It was a story that i felt i could be myself as the story line aloud my wild side…
Listen guys, when the riders requesting an answer for their story right in typically, they are really troubled. Howard affects them and their lives. I really take all of you very serious and consider the action in the reactions and how they will affect your lives. It’s for that I don’t come unhinged, I’m very pragmatic when I think through your issues and try to answer you. Trust me I can be crazy but because it’s your lives that I’m dealing with I try not to be dramatic and just be real and deal with the issue. Sometimes even as a parent when Morgan comes to me with something that is ridiculous. Yes, I can be crazy and go off the charts and I’ll see if Morgan can give us more stories that we can see that side of me just for the fun. But most of the stuff that comes through here is not fun and that’s why you get the side of me that takes you very serious and I put my heart into those answers.
Jerry, you were great in this episode! I loved the enthusiasm!
For the Korean story: I'm Indian, engaged to a French guy who left his country to be with me. Considering that Asian cultures are pretty similar in the dating aspect, here are my two cents:
There is no FAILING in relationships. Introducing your partner is equivalent to an engagement. You can't introduce your partner and have you guys break up after that. If that happens, you essentially lose all community support, and if it's known in the community, you might even find it hard to fin someone to be with in the future. A lot rides on this.
HOWEVER. As someone who was in th exact same shoes as them, I said yes to my partner moving to my country only when I was absolutely sure I was going to be marrying him. And so just before he moved, we sat down with them, and had a conversation about marriage and the future.
There is a big possibility that the boyfriend is not sure he wants to marry this girl. It's possible that he isn't as into this as she is. Which brings me to another aspect: inter cultural relationships are HARD. Is he always going to be asking HER to adjust? Is he always going to be expecting HER to compromise to his way of living to appease his parents? I have seen this happen. And it never ends well. To be able to walk the middle ground, he needs to be able to stand up to his parents, and sheild her from the negativity from his community.
For the teacher story: I was in Early Childhood Education for 4 years and had gotten severely burnt out, but was scared I wouldn’t find anything else because my degree was specifically in education. I now work in a tech/logistics company making way more money than I ever would have made in education. Don’t let that fear stop you from trying to apply at other places! Even if you do have to start at an entry level and work your way up, that would look great on a resume I think :)
Thank you for sharing this and I am very happy for you. I am currently in the early childhood education field and it is something I enjoy now; however it is something I don't want to do my whole life.
My sister is going to be graduating soon for early childhood and I’ll keep this in mind for her. Thank you for sharing.
🙋🏻♀️ I graduated business school and now I repair washing machines and plumbing for life 🤣
For the brother-in-law addict story: this is a good example of how addiction is a disease that deeply affects the whole family. Absolutely agree with the “oxygen mask” rule, and also… he needs rehab. He cannot “quit by a deadline”, he needs supervised medical detox and inpatient therapy to address the roots of the addiction. If he drank $800 of alcohol over 4 days and seemed sober, he’s 100% chemically dependent on it. Also, “sometimes pills” reads to me as “opiate addict who masks it with alcoholism”. The sister in the story could benefit from going to AA herself, or CODA (co-dependents anonymous) for community support. Unfortunately, the BIL needs rock-bottom to wake up.
-hospice worker, and sibling of a fentanyl addict
That's good advice. I also think that the question was asking more about advice to help build a community around her sister so she's not the only one to help. Doing some simple things like joining a group activity together (book club - in person or online, take a dance class, or attending a local paint night) so that you both have the opportunity to meet other people. Also asking her to attend a NAR-Anon group for families and friends of addicts could help her connect with her reasons for leaving to ensure that she sticks to her decision could help.
Finally, if she has ever had some friends she has been close with in the past (old college girlfriends, neighbours or even nearby cousins), then you could reach out to them privately and ask them to re-connect and build that community around her while she needs the support. Most old friends would love an opportunity to catch up but need a reason. And, if they knew her before or at the beginning of her marriage, if the husbands' issues were the reasons that those relationships strained in the first place, they would be glad to help get your sister into a safer and healthier environment.
Jerry’s energy is wild in this episode lol
I was a little unhinged lol..
Wait and see next weeks..!
@@jerrysiegel3354 uh oh, I’ll prep my buckles and straps! 🤣
People seem to think occupational therapists are therapists who get people jobs so i say lean into it Morgan 😂
literally lol its going to be my side gig!
47:16 for the person wanting a job and a divorce. Look into your local county job and family services or welfare office. You don’t have to be on welfare but you can go in and they will actually help you create a resume, they will help you look for jobs and they have lists of local jobs. They really do help a lot.
I get burned out of every job. Every 2 to 3 years i have to go do something else. It sucks. I hope one day ill find the SOMETHING that is for me forever, job wise. I dont quit the previous job until i have another job set up. Thats what i have to do for my mental health
For the teacher story. There are after school learning assistance programs. I work for one called Kumon. It’s ok pay but you work with kids only a couple times a week and the rest of the days can be spent grading. This is at least what we do. I love it so much and it’s so rewarding. I love working with kids but am terrified to be a teacher.
This was actually my first job! It’s really rewarding, in my location, most days were spent grading for the older kids with occasional one on ones.
Happy Route “ 66” Birthday Jerry! Been quite a ride these past 87 episodes on FKS. You are definitely not old Jerry…you are a classic. I truly had a Route 66/Retro party for my 66th a few months ago. This is a great time in life. Really enjoy your show and look forward to the next. Safe travels Justin and Morgan. 🚘😎✌️
A teacher being burnt out doesn't mean they don't like the job anymore, it means they don't have support. Teachers are underpaid, unappreciated, are mandated reporters but nothing gets done & they're stuck in the middle of the country's political climate, besides dealing with admin & parents. I know amazing teachers who have left the profession because it was killing them, physically & emotionally.
To the Teacher: Repeat after me: “I’m allowed to change the direction of my life.” If you are burnt out and don’t like you career then you have every liberty to change it. I’ve seen people in their 80’s get a college degree. I’ve seen people in their 60’s change their career. You are allowed to find what makes going to work worth it. I use to be a nurse.. now I’m a workforce scheduler. My advice is start looking for a new job/career now and when you get it then put in your 2 week notice. That way you won’t feel like your husband is over worked and you’ll be happy because you’ll have made the move to find happiness. Go for it. You got this
1st story: This is your preview for if/when you ever have kids. Whatever a human is capable of doing to an animal, they’re capable of doing to a human, specially a child (good and bad).
Just had a baby! So I have a couple episodes to catch up on ❤❤❤
The best during the night feedings
Me too!! Actually watched THT in the labor & delivery room afterwards while our baby slept 🥰 These shows have been literal lifesavers during the nights
congrats!!
I would rather be loved, contented, loved what I was doing, loved who I was with than have a fleeting emotion or worry what others thought of me or where society thought I should be. Because those same people are deeply unhappy and don't feel loved, supported, and like tearing others down. Do what makes you most FULLFILLED.
If possible, could we pretty please get time stamps/chapters on the FKS pods as well? ♡
Yes!! I know it must be so much work but I love them and hate searching when I want to re-listen to a specific story.
Morgan, you and I are the same when it comes to being a teenager and bringing in animals 😅 💜
Love both podcasts so much , already binge watched tht, starting with fks now :)
It is cruel to neglect any dogs exercise needs, but it is especially cruel to neglect a high energy dog. It’s like taking an athlete who loves running & locking them in a closet for their life. The dog is innocent here & not giving high energy dogs daily exercise is cruel. And hunting dogs!? It’s as simple as training them to sniff out treats around the house to stimulate their brains, alongside DAILY exercise. Not camping, hunting or hiking once a week, DAILY. If he wants a lazy dog to follow him around, get a low energy breed. Otherwise rehome the dog to someone who can actually keep up with the level of activity the dog deserves.
I was also a “bring home puppy” addict growing up 🤣. Except it’s carried home to adult hood. I drove to alabama to get my most recent from my aunt who drove from Indiana to meet me despite my boyfriend’s very adamant no 😅
BUT my boyfriend doesn’t have to take care of him. The most he has to do is let him out once on the 2 12 hour shifts I work at the hospital a week
I have never been so early
My daughters dad hid our relationship for the last year of our relationship. It was a constant struggle with us, and we were on and off a lot because of it.. he wouldnt tell his friends, his parents, anyone.. I realized he was ashamed to say he was with me (we had our daughter young). I finally stopped putting in the energy, told him I was done not being known, and called it off for good. Met someone new within 2-3 months, and we’ve been happily together for 10 years this December. He told his parents about me the first few months.
Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.. you’ll continue missing out on his culture.. truly knowing how he is with his family.. knowing how he was brought up, what made him him… some people might be okay with it- but you obviously aren’t.. don’t let your relationship continue unless youre willing to be a secret forever
Your signature story "dive in" moto could be, "here goes something!" instead of, here goes nothing. 🤷🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️
Time stamps?
Dog trainer here! If your dog is not in the Sighthound gene pool, the lure course "chaser flags" have been known to damage joints of dogs who have a high prey drive, but do not have the agility to make sharp turns.
Would my Aussiedoodle have this gene? She has lots of energy and ive thought about agility training myself but wouldnt want to if it will cause issues!
@Adnamaalleb Agility courses are amazing for high-energy dogs! You have an Aussie mix, and they were bread to herd sheep 🐑. I bet she would benefit from being signed up for agility courses with a trainer in your area.
I love you guys so much!!!!
To the teacher around the 30 min mark: look into working at a library! Specifically if there’s a children’s department you can work in. I wanted to be a teacher, but I hated lesson planning and all the state standards. When I shifted my focus to becoming a library, and I loved it so much more because I still get to kind of teach (programming) and work with kids but I have a lot of time to get things done, I don’t have to be a disciplinarian (most of the time) and most of the kids WANT to be there
For the one looking for a job, does where she lives have a work source/ temp agency that's a good place to try if she's having no luck!
Piping in to say don't work at target lmao
For story number 3 there’s nothing wrong with starting over job wise! I taught pre-k for years and at 29 decided I wanted to go back to school for nursing. The end goal is to find something you like to do!
i feel like for this channel and tht eps where you directly address listeners and write-ins they should give you a name or a penname, so people in the comments can also address them. so when/if these people see that you answered their questions or concerns they can go to the comments, ctrl+f and search for their name lol.
that said, person who is burnt out from teaching - you have people who want to support you. if you live with your partners parents rent-free or at least very cheap, you can save money and search for a job that doesn't suck. that is a very easy solution to the problem. the big issue you're having though seems like internal feelings of inadequacy which i understand, but that is something you really need to look inward to break it down and get over. WAY easier said than done. but the second you decide that feeling inadequate is an unhelpful thought, and it's keeping yourself down when your support system around you is saying they will help lift you up in this way, you will be UNSTOPPABLE. I was in a similar situation in 2021 and I moved in with my grampa and I finished college that way. I felt like I was taking 20 steps back moving in with a family memeber. But then I went 200 steps forward. You can do this, and you have the means. You just need to tell the gremlin in your head to shut up :))))
For the women who is looking friends and has moved to a religiously dominated state- are you in Utah? If so I’d LOVE to connect and be friends! If not I’d STILL love to connect! 38:39
For the teacher, there are online public schools and many other remote teaching opportunities. A family member teaches remotely and LOVES it.
The story about the workaholic sister with a dead beat husband she is all "how do i help my sister get thru this divorce?" then she says or help her find people so i dont have to deal with her calling me about it 🤣🤣🤣 i diedd lmao i thought it was coming from a place of love and wanting to help and shes just like listen i cannot be the one to deal with my sister going thru this.. 🤣🤣deadd
I love your podcast and THT ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼 early gang
I really feel for caller #4, I’ve also been having a really hard time finding a job since graduating in 2021. At this point I’m too anxious to even open my laptop and begin to deal with this. I’m desperate to get out of this hole and move on with my life but nothing seems to get me going. I just ruminate on the fact that I’ve wasted 3 years doing… nothing.
Can I send you my resume too? 😅
Congratulations Morgan and Justin on your engagement! So excited for you guys!💜🎉
For the teacher write in, she's a very caring teacher who seems to be experiencing teacher-fatigue or burnout.
I switched to instructional design last year and have never been happier. It's sad how teachers are treated compared to companies and corporates.
Educational system in my country is fucked up too. Teachers underpaid, and Local Universities underfunded; Secretary of the Department of Education/Vice President of the country has Billions of confidential funds that we don't know where its going to (prolly inside her pockets lol) -- I actually fear for what my future's gonna be as a student teacher rn. I completely understand her burnout.
There are several people on the clock app that have left teaching for completely different professions that use similar skills. Moving into something else is so scary and the job market sucks but maybe it would give op some hope to look into other options
There is a vlogging couple I have watched for years where the husband is Japanese and the wife is American, and if I recall correctly, the husband didn't tell his family he was dating someone until they were already engaged and on the verge of marriage. He said it was a cultural thing for him, but idk if that's similar between Japan and Korea. What I have heard is that SK is rather monocultural. The country I'm from is too, and some people here (much to my disdain) are of the opinion that dating people of other nationalities is fine, but marrying them isn't. And yeah, I think that is racist - thinking that someone is okay to date but not to marry because of their ethnicity is absolutely racist in my view.
59:01 lmao she gave justin a ultimatum she said 5years he has to propose or shes leaving him 😂
A THT networking app or something of the sort would be so cool! 👏 I’m listening from Ontario, Canada 🍁 anyone else??
I wonder if Jerry knew Justin was going to propose during the filming of this episode ❤❤❤❤❤
He had asked for my blessing….and gave me specific directions as to Date and Place where I needed to be… FKS follows directions…
@@jerrysiegel3354I need someone to tell me if this is really jerry!
Do a bbq. Father knows best ❤
Homies…I am very low energy, don’t even consider myself a dog person but every dog we get thinks I’m their mom. It’s not because I give them treats or take them fishing , it’s because mommy them and crate train them and just all-around just pour my 24/7 into them. Also did that with my dad’s gf dog. (The dog was the gf)sometimes a mommy figure has to bring the dog to the dumb boy 💁🏽♀️
I found my work at home job through a job agency. Its going well and im not hired on completely with the company
56:29 I would like to just add to the comments regarding the man, not wanting to introduce his partner to his family. I am American I live in the United States, born and raised here I’m a professional I have a masters degree a decent job, and I would do my best to separate my family from my romantic life. Not because my partner , but because my family . I grew up in dysfunction, and I have worked really hard to get away from many of my struggles, and I would absolutely fear that my family would find a way to destroy my relationship. As the more independent I am the more they find ways to metal and make my life more complicated
100% understandable. i have the same problem. if i confide in them i have to hear the relentless judgement and how i’m a screw up. then when i don’t say anything, i’m ghosting them and i’m a piece of crap. you literally can’t win sometimes. when it’s your own family treating you like crap it’s hard to open up to them about someone you love and expose them to being treated like crap as well.
I LIVE IN UTAH AND AM A STAY AT HOME NON-RELIGIOUS MOMMY THAT IS FEELING THE SAME WAY!! I NEED A FRIEND SO BADLY... Hit me up please!! Lol
Plus I am starting a business and will need help ;)
Wait... I can't remember any primary school teachers? I know I was motivated to learn solo, often I think I was ignoring teachers as I was enjoying the workbooks, drawing or listening and not engaging so I could take it in. I can't even remember the room. Only that the random religious teacher decided to pray over me because my undiagnosed ADHD butt meant I was sneaking out anytime the boring bible stuff came out. The Jewish kids got to hang out in the library, way more fun.
Omg my kindergarten teacher was a Mrs. brown too!
As a dad, I thought Mrs. Brown was the best. We truly loved her.
So you’re a Hawk
Acca student here looking for a remote job. I just got laid off my job because they didn’t have alot of work. Have applied to hundreds of jobs too, fingers crossed for any help here 🤞🏽
omg I want that lady to divorce and move home so badly 😭 if she is in a township that is so close knit and religious she cant make friends, no wonder she cant get hired either. you think divorcing is traumatizing for the kids, its more traumatic to see mommy and daddy so unhappy and resentful and unloving toward each other. you are currently modeling to them that this is what love and partnership looks like. is it a good example of what you want for them when they grow up?
Teacher story: As a teacher myself I completely understand burn out. If she is truly passionate about teaching she should seek out a different school or district that better supports her. She should have planning time and time to PLC with other teachers in her grade. I am a middle school teacher so it’s a little different but my school gives us 2 planning periods per day and one of them a week is a grade level PLC to support one another. Plus every few weeks our admin give us a “gift of time” and we get an extra hour of planning. I know this isn’t realistic for a lot of schools but if she is passionate and wants to continue to teach she should seek for those places that will support her. It’s a hard job and it does suck sometimes but there are schools out there that will do anything possible to support her.
The girl that lives in Utah where do you live?! I work for a side company for Intermountain Healthcare and we are always hiring for our call center and they work from home. Lmk!
Can you tell me the camera and microphones you use. Want to vlog a baby shower.
Mom and dad want to buy the right equipment to surprise
The soon to be mother and father. And they want good quality and they watch you all but they don’t know how to comment lol
We will prerecord for the day! Hope you answer. Also mom says hey to. Dad 😊
Governer land 😭 nobody has said 'governer' in the UK since 1920 haha
the last story made me so mad!! my mind went to the worst that he’s cheating and OP is the other woman:( idk how she’s stayed this long…
I met Nicolas Cage at my work a few years ago. He just prefers to get his business done and go… 🥺
why are you still supporting better help? i love you guys and both pods but it’s kind of sad to see you guys still support them after all the stories coming out about how bad and problematic they are as a site
what are the stories?? i haven’t seen anything about them!! i thought they would be pretty good given the amount of advertising they have..
The only bad thing about them is they don't accept insurance.
@@saraschneider6781 do some research online about peoples’ experiences with them. it’s a lot more than tgat
@@twocathome399 They apparently over-charging people without them knowing. I've heard stories of someone getting their appointment canceled but still got billed for it anyway
For the burnt out teacher, take FMLA, go to therapy, work on getting out. You can do it. 🧡
Poor dog
If you’re reading this woman from our story. My remote workplace is hiring. I just promoted into management. I’d love to help you. You are safe. Wellfound is a great resource to find remote work in start up tech. I left my teaching job for this and I couldn’t be happier. You got this. 42:29
I fucking love you guys! The networking thing that you’re so passionate about truly is beautiful. 😍✨🫶🏼