Hy Sharmistha kmon acho! Tmr Ami bes 3-4 te video dekhlam ...khub sundor lgche tmr explanation. Darun video gulo te explain koro sob ....thank you. Amio RUclipsr amar name Indro 😋
If you don't like 'kanya dan' or say it as a dark side of a marriage, you should also speak against 'kanya biday' . Another dark side is the exchange of "precious metal" on marriage , where people demand it is called dowry, and where not demanded like mostly in Bengal it is called "gift of blessing" 🤣🤣 rediculous though these two are the main factors of not wanting a girl child still this time, every parent can't afford that huge sacrifice / daan with precious metal costing some lakhs
A/c to shastra that's wrong, your mother is not from your Kul or clan or Gotra, she is from her parents gotra, and you being daughter of your father got father's gotra, at marriage again you will be gifted to another kul while your father's gotra will remain intact with you. at any function you take sankalp or pledge sighting your father's gotra and husband. whosoever Pundit allowed this actually had no knowledge of Sanatan Dharma Vivah related shastra. i have attended some Bangali marriage, they are mostly interested in cosmetic things and food, only 1 hour Pundit ended up marriage process. i was shocked.
Your knowledge and Study is very poor and shallow. kartikaye was son of Shiv and Parvati, while Devi Druga was created for a special purpose to end terror of Mahishasur by Shiva, Brahma and Vishnu. later she was armed by various gods. Kanya is Gifted from one Kul to Another Kul hence it's gifted by Male of the same kul to man of another kul. It has been barred to marry in same kul or Clan, or Gotra. did you know this? it sounds wrong but woman in our society was having responsibility of procreation and care. so woman were not allowed to face terrible truth like burning of dead body. female may go miscarriage or brain shock to see terrible treatment during burning corpse. where mother of the bride is not allowed to see face of her married daughter, it is due to feeling of Najar Lagna, nothing to do with shastra, nowhere it has been mentioned. also unless that Lady didn't give birth to a baby in her sasurbadi, Kanya daan karta cannot taste water from that home, again it's tradition with innocent and pure feelings nothing to do with shastra. At the end, please read and verify your knowledge before making it public. most of you have never understand even the first page of Druga Saptshati book. see customs and traditions are not part of shastra, people add things on their own and blem Drama for that.
I do not agree with your views on Kanyadan, in fact Occasionally I wondered whether our forefathers treated their daughters as cows or made them in a portion of their heart. If we could momentarily settle down and think the way Hinduism took shape through past five thousand years, we have to agree that it is highly adaptable to changes and yet it keeps the fundamentals intact. When a daughter moves out of her parent family, following her marriage, the separation leads to a mixed feeling of joy and sorrow. She instantly begins to dream to build her own family, just the way her parents did. It is the same way the coconut floats on the sea and strikes root far away from its parent tree.- Please remember that “Dan” is a very sacred word. Nachiketa, the only heir of sage Vajashrava, was given to Yama as “Dan” (Kathopanishad). When one gives a gift, he does not take it back. Kanyadan has no “return policy”. So the efforts are made from both the parties to establish the daughter in her own home and not to encourage her to sail on two boats - the family where she was born and the family she was adapted to. Hastamilap conveys the non committal arrangement of “mutual convenience”. Perhaps similar to handshake. It is fine as long as the children do not arrive on the scene. The critics of the Kanyadan, however, forget to mention the grandchildren. They come back to their grandparents with more love and demand than their mother. This is a fundamental human relation irrespective of what we name them. Listen and understand the mantras chanted during the marriage ceremony where the groom is considered very important and the bride’s father depend on him to make his loving daughter happy. His genetic and emotional connection can never be forgotten.
The first ritual u mentioned is prevalent in all Hindu weddings bengali or not so how that can be the dark side of only bengali wedding u should say Hindu wedding
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Hy Sharmistha kmon acho! Tmr Ami bes 3-4 te video dekhlam ...khub sundor lgche tmr explanation. Darun video gulo te explain koro sob ....thank you. Amio RUclipsr amar name Indro 😋
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Ghoti biye te ki nonod k gold jwellery dewar kono ritual ache ki????
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If you don't like 'kanya dan' or say it as a dark side of a marriage, you should also speak against 'kanya biday' . Another dark side is the exchange of "precious metal" on marriage , where people demand it is called dowry, and where not demanded like mostly in Bengal it is called "gift of blessing" 🤣🤣 rediculous though these two are the main factors of not wanting a girl child still this time, every parent can't afford that huge sacrifice / daan with precious metal costing some lakhs
Na konnda dan sudhu baba kore na amr biyete amr maa e dan koreche😊,, r ai niyom gulo sob sotti na ata nijeder agulo change kora uchit
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A/c to shastra that's wrong, your mother is not from your Kul or clan or Gotra, she is from her parents gotra, and you being daughter of your father got father's gotra, at marriage again you will be gifted to another kul while your father's gotra will remain intact with you.
at any function you take sankalp or pledge sighting your father's gotra and husband.
whosoever Pundit allowed this actually had no knowledge of Sanatan Dharma Vivah related shastra.
i have attended some Bangali marriage, they are mostly interested in cosmetic things and food, only 1 hour Pundit ended up marriage process. i was shocked.
Sotti onek dark side aachey akhono onek jaigaah ayesob meney naye
Bengali wedding rituals most worst rituals 😹😹😹
Your knowledge and Study is very poor and shallow.
kartikaye was son of Shiv and Parvati, while Devi Druga was created for a special purpose to end terror of Mahishasur by Shiva, Brahma and Vishnu. later she was armed by various gods.
Kanya is Gifted from one Kul to Another Kul hence it's gifted by Male of the same kul to man of another kul. It has been barred to marry in same kul or Clan, or Gotra. did you know this?
it sounds wrong but woman in our society was having responsibility of procreation and care.
so woman were not allowed to face terrible truth like burning of dead body. female may go miscarriage or brain shock to see terrible treatment during burning corpse.
where mother of the bride is not allowed to see face of her married daughter, it is due to feeling of Najar Lagna, nothing to do with shastra, nowhere it has been mentioned.
also unless that Lady didn't give birth to a baby in her sasurbadi, Kanya daan karta cannot taste water from that home, again it's tradition with innocent and pure feelings nothing to do with shastra.
At the end, please read and verify your knowledge before making it public. most of you have never understand even the first page of Druga Saptshati book.
see customs and traditions are not part of shastra, people add things on their own and blem Drama for that.
I do not agree with your views on Kanyadan, in fact Occasionally I wondered whether our forefathers treated their daughters as cows or made them in a portion of their heart. If we could momentarily settle down and think the way Hinduism took shape through past five thousand years, we have to agree that it is highly adaptable to changes and yet it keeps the fundamentals intact. When a daughter moves out of her parent
family, following her marriage, the separation leads to a mixed feeling of joy and sorrow. She instantly begins to dream to build her own family, just the way her parents did. It is the same way the coconut floats on the sea and strikes root far away from its parent tree.-
Please remember that “Dan” is a very sacred word. Nachiketa, the only heir of sage Vajashrava, was given to Yama as “Dan” (Kathopanishad). When one gives a gift, he does not take it back. Kanyadan has no “return policy”. So the efforts are made from both the parties to establish the daughter in her own home and not to encourage her to sail on two boats - the family where she was born and the family she was adapted to. Hastamilap conveys the non committal arrangement of “mutual convenience”. Perhaps similar to handshake. It is fine as long as the children do not arrive on the scene. The critics of the Kanyadan, however, forget to mention the grandchildren. They come back to their grandparents with more love and demand than their mother. This is a fundamental human relation irrespective of what we name them.
Listen and understand the mantras chanted during the marriage ceremony where the groom is considered very important and the bride’s father depend on him to make his loving daughter happy. His genetic and emotional connection can never be forgotten.
The first ritual u mentioned is prevalent in all Hindu weddings bengali or not so how that can be the dark side of only bengali wedding u should say Hindu wedding
Agreed....But in this video I am only focusing on Bengali Wedding Rituals...Thatswhy😊
Didi you should say hindu didi 😢 this is not just bengalis do!! This is what all hindus do🥺
Ohh...Sorry dear..I apologize my mistake by my heart😘