I agree 100% with everything you said, Urania. This is my EXACT situation. I REFUSE to accept less in order to find love. Why should I and other black women decrease ourselves after everything we have been through??? We worked hard to get where we are. Black men as a whole need to step up and better themselves to RISE to the occasion. DO BETTER BLACK MEN!! And SHAME ON YOU Tyler Perry.
This is so true. Why is it men are told they deserve the best 10/10 women, even if they are average or even low value themselves, but women have to “lower our standards” or “be realistic”. It’s such rubbish. Men are so used to being allowed to be average, while women have to be exceptional, but then we’re punished for outshining them. Step it up, gentlemen.
But you are NOT “outshining” ANYBODY! Black men still earn SIGNIFICANTLY more than you black women do! And in the UPPER income category the disparity is even MORE vast! Like 6 black men for ever ONE black woman! And your little “DEGREES” are an absolute JOKE! I have three bIack women in my family who all have a MASTERS DEGREE. And one who has a PhD. I don’t even have a B.S degree. But I have SIGNIFICANTLY more money and wealth than ALL 4 of these women combined! And this is VERY common. BW gets some little (relatively useless) degree in something like Sociology then gets a job dispensing Food Stamps to the homeless …whereas the black man she’s related to is a journeyman plumber; longshoreman; electrician or rig operator …and earns literally TWO or even THREE times more than her!
But do you actually think that ANYBODY cares? Actually it is the MEN who are “STEPPING!” They are “stepping” AWAY from women like YOU …in droves! Especially …men like ME! The men that you like to call broke dusties” do NOT want you …and the men like ME (multimillionaire) most definitely do NOT want you ….so all that’s left is …NOTHING! Well …actually the Pookies and Ray-Rays (raised by single moms) actually DO want you! They need you to put some money on their books …and give them a place to stay once they get out “da pen!”
Me and my boyfriend just broke up..he cant protect or provide for me because he is newly divorced with chidren. We tried to make it work..but the odds were against us. I was dating his potential..I will never ever do that again. First logic and then I will open my heart ❤
Please continue to make relationship videos. There needs to be a safe space that women can learn from other women. Some of us do not have good examples or the opportunity to talk to women on how to peoperly choose a partner. A lot of us grew up in and around struggle love.
Nah, I love this one but let’s keep this femininity going as per usual. Those relationship channels can be so controversial. I love that she’s helping women to focus on themselves by building their lives and be wise in doing so. I’m in an hypergamous marriage for 19 years now, and her content is nourishing for women 😃. I’m 39 years old now but there’s always more to learn in womanhood.
This video is such a gem. I find it really silly when a man asks a woman to marry her, but he hasn't even gotten his life straight yet. Why would a woman say yes to a man, and take it to the next level with a man who hasn't yet proven to her he has what she needs (emotionally, financially, loyalty wise, maturity wise etc.). Thank you for reminding us to use our heads before opening our hearts.
Yes, I honestly ended a 2 year relationship for the reasons you listed. He was financially, mentally, and emotionally immature. Meanwhile, I am high powered feminine woman. No thank you.
I am really being patient and trying to make it work out, but i'm awfully worried I might end up in your situation where I must leave ... I mean I can actually see my partner trying hard, what about yours? Was he trying or waiting@@Queen-ConsciousYa
Struggle love is his bread and butter. He needed that woman who would accept that view, when he was living out of his car. But if he found her? Realistically, what are the chances that she would be around and "good enough" for his current lifestyle after the struggle?
I dated someone who was unequally yoked and he convinced me to be with him because he loved me. I am educated, active military at the time and he said I should accept him. He would try to make me feel bad because I didn’t want to be with him. He had no money, didn’t take care of himself and was consciously underdeveloped. I felt so horrible dating him, I broke it off and was extremely happy.
The bible says do not be unequally yoked. That’s not just spiritual and/or financial but it’s about character, morals and values. Tyler Perry is clearly talking out the side of his neck because his Netflix movie, Fall From Grace shows exactly why this kind of dynamic never works! Great video Urania, glad you spoke on this because struggle love is so destructive and it’s rampant in the black community.
Bravo Urania for the video! Very well explained! 👏💜 I immediately thought the same: would he say the same thing to his daughter, to settle for less...Probably not... That's even worse than 50/50 😂😂😂
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽YES!!! this video 💯 💯 💯 thank you, for talking about this. I grew up as well. Watching women, being in struggle love, my Mom was one, and I to was a woman who ended up in a struggle love relationship, But not today thank God, I refuse. And I’m teaching my daughter as well, not to enter a struggle love relationship, Black women are groomed to be in the struggle love relationships. And it’s time that we start breaking that cycle. 🙌🏽
Thanks for calling this out Urania ❤ You’re my favorite femininity channel! It’s sad that the woman conducting the interview was agreeing with him SMH. Eventually men who are dependent on their women will secretly resent her and view her as masculine 🤷🏾♀️ He should instinctively want to provide
I am not investing all this energy levelling up my life so that i can end up with someone who can only afford to pay the light bill... i repel struggle love as a black woman 👠🎉
You are spot on Urina! I totally agree with the fact that lowering our standards instead of getting the man to upgrade his standards is ridiculous! Are we as a society should encourage, emphasize, and enhance that a man strives for greatness? I have no problem with sharing bills, responsibilities with my man/mate. What I will not do is pretend him paying the water bill or cable bill is just FINE! I also have no issue with if I make more income than him, then we shall share the bills as evenly as possible with either party feeling used or neglected. I am glad that you dove into such a vital topic o discussion…keep the beauty and great topics coming!😊
As women, we need to use logic. Because we are emotional beings and we love really hard. Thank you for pointing this out. This is my reason why I operate this way.
Very true! If you are used to a certain lifestyle and you can afford it by yourself. The best thing is to find someone that can afford the same type of lifestyle. Instead providing for the both of you to have that lifestyle. That’s how I see it.
Yes, more content regarding relationship dynamics would be great. I’m on my feminine journey and my spouse nor my kids seem to think I deserve a soft life. I’m tired of having to do everything and wondering if I can successfully grow in this dynamic or if I need to leave.
Hi Urania, my name is Sabine and I live in Toronto, Canada. I totally agree with what you are sharing in this video. I am really sick and tired of this rhetoric about black women having to accept the bare minimum as if what's best was too good for us. We, as any other women, also DESERVE a great partner who will love us, cherish, treasure us, provide for us and protect us. I refuse to accept the crumbs, I want the cake, the icing and the cherry on top. And who said that our partner should be black. We can date any man we want as long as he is loving, caring, respectful and has a great character. I deserve the best that the world has to offer and so do all of you. Sabine.
Great video as always! ❤ I never knew Tyler Perry said that but I am not surprised because of the content he puts out. I no longer watch his shows or movies. They perpetuate the stereotype that black women should accept the bare minimum in order to receive companionship. It is the man’s responsibility to increase his market value. As women, we naturally want to help because we see potential. It’s hard to watch them struggle but let them struggle. Let God handle their situation. Let go of the need to control. And if it is holding you back from your own potential, cut it off. You’ll save yourself from headaches and even worse resentment and attraction loss. I’m glad I’m learning about the importance of femininity and self-improvement in my 20s and not later in life. It’s tough out here but I believe that every woman that is seeking a better life for herself will receive the best life has to offer!
Thank you, Urania. I've always resented struggle love and i am sick of people pushing this toxic narrative down the throaths of bw especially. Like i've said on another channel, everyone(gay men, transgenders,hetero men) are allowed to rest in their "feminine" except us real women. We are well within our rights to want a man who is financially secure and treats us well. And for the women who want a millionaire, that is perfectly fine with me too. I love the new hair btw. You've given me more confidence to wear mine natural again as opposed to having hair that's not mine on my head all the time.
I agree with you Urania 100 💯 It’s so true about everything you said, love and romance are so complicated these days, have paid once at a dinner date but not anymore, thank you so much for sharing ❤
I totally agree. Ladies stay single and work on yourself. Your Prince Charming will find you when it’s time. He will be all the things you need and you’ll never have to settle. ♥️♥️
I find it interesting Urania can you please make more videos on relationship dynamics , inner child healing ( in deep details) and the categories of females based on personality eg feminine, feme fatale etc .
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video Urania. I personally Do Not like Tyler Perry movies AT ALL because of this reason. He always has "The struggling black single mother" as the lead and even when her love interest is more finanacially secure and stable, he always has a really dark side to him like an addiction, abuse problems etc. It's like telling women that you need to compromise on the problems you Must absolutely Not accept in a man, that you have to accept the bare minimum just because he "loves you", or "cares for you" and that should be enough. But it is not enough and every woman who is leveling up must know that her worth is so much more than a lovesick struggling partner.
Wow, this is probably my first time commenting although I’ve been a subscriber for a while and I love this channel! Thank you so much for speaking up about this. I think he was 100% wrong to try and put that kind of a burden on black woman or any woman. Thank you so much for putting a counter voice in the right direction out for young women who may hear this terrible life advice from a billionaire. That could have influenced them into a life of misery. This is the real world not some fantasy movie where all you need is love. Love is important but it goes beyond just emotions it goes into act. The Bible says that a man who doesn’t work doesn’t deserve to eat. So if a man loves a woman he should feel a natural drive to want to provide for her and make her life better. He should feel inspired to become better to obtain and maintain her. Not be supported by her. Tyler Perry has his relationship priorities out of order.
What I have seen is that when a woman becomes the breadwinner and provider in most cases men cheat on that woman too bcoz with that woman he does not feel like a man. So he goes find a woman with whom he feels like a man. So this is not healthy every way
I agree with you so much. I’m 31 years old, have had a successful and fulfilling career so far. My boyfriend on the other hand is stuck with his phD studies and does not have any savings and has just said could I wait for 5 more years to have children. We live also separately because he is having hard time in committing to me…
I am SO grateful that you had the courage to Clapback at Mr. Perry for this nonsense!!! Yesss! Why is his mindset geared towards coddling the "fragile" male ego? Why isn't he using the HUGE platform God BLESSED him with, as a Hollywood Producer/Actor/Writer/Etc, to bring ENCOURAGEMENT and WISDOM to his community??? Instead, it seems he is acknowledging an important issue (I heard him say "in our society...black women are making a lot more money right now...") but then acting as if the only answer is to give up and give in? Oh well. Go find a broke man. Real love isn't about who pays the bills. This whole attitude of his has me completely baffled. He, himself, is a black man. Wouldn't you think his attitude would be much more like the AMAZING Steve Harvey's attitude? Which is: "If I can do it, shoot, ANYBODY can" 😂!!! I mean, you'd really think Tyler Perry, of all people, would feel that way, right? And he claims to be a Man of God. Well, sir, the Word tells us not to be unevenly yoked. And while that Scripture refers to faith, in context, I believe that if a man RESIGNS himself to a fate of poverty, that man LACKS FAITH to begin with...and you should not align yourself with that. Not in the name of love or in the name of the Holy Spirit, AMEN! Mr. Perry can and SHOULD do better. And I applaud you, ma'am, for making the points you make here...in truth, in faith, in sisterhood, in love! Bless you!❤ You are a blessing girlie!!!❤❤❤
Great insights Urania! Yes definately do more videos on relationships. I'm not surprised what Tyler scary said. He just like most people are telling black women to settle for crumbs and leftovers. Like you said about the common thread of ALL his movies, that's proof we shouldn't be supporting him or listening to him.
Hi Urania. Yes, I would like to see more relationship content. Regarding Tyler Perry. I believe he had a very toxic childhood, so he is not qualified to speak about healthy relationships since he never saw one.
YES to the part about what a man would want for his daughter and how that transfers over to us. Also more videos about relationships would be very helpful and desired.
I don’t think he’d give his daughter the same advice. A man has to go to work and strive for greatness all the time. A couple should be a team. If the woman is doing all the financial lifting, that’s not teamwork. Men should definitely step it up for a better quality of life and a better relationship.
I find Tyler's comment encouraging our young men to settle for mediocrity. I'm a single mother currently living in the Philippines, and what he said is something I will never teach my 19-year-old son. He's in college now, and I discourage him from courting women, not because I'm scared he'd lose his way from college or for some religious reason, but because I want him to focus on securing himself in the following order: 1. mentally 2. emotionally 3. physically 4. spiritually 5. financially Only then can he stand tall and proud to court the most deserving woman of his dreams. We must teach young men that they should focus on their growth and goals first because entering the life of someone's daughter.
I totally agree with Tyler Perry 💯, but it can never be me. Any lady who feels she can baby/mother a grown adult into becoming a man should go right ahead. Yaaass queen!!! Well I think this is a whole cascade of disturbing events. Men are becoming more and more effeminate, and more and more women are misunderstanding feminism so much that they think it is totally okay to play the role of a man in a relationship and let the man lounge around. Struggle love screams low self esteem to me, because I feel like no matter how much some women grow and develop themselves, they still feel deep inside that it's okay to settle for 'whatever' comes. Also, some cultures especially here in Africa are really really big on marriage, so some women will do literally anything to pin down a man, including their femininity, provided it gives them the Mrs title. It's sad
From a woman who has followed Tyler Perry’s logic in the past. It doesn’t workout. He is trying to be a man and control the finances while only being able to pay the light bill. His logic will actually make the man feel worse when he try to step into his true manhood. Tyler Perry being one of the richest men in the US should not be giving this advice. You explained it perfectly.
He is really whack with his comment. The man that's lacking better get a better trade, educated, and multiple streams of income to pay the mortgage and be able to match my money. Tyler, hit below the belt with that whack comment. Always inspire the man to level up. No man needs to be comfortable letting a woman pay his way through life. I would rather be alone then take my earnings and basically pay for a man's time just because he is nice. He can be a nice hi and by associate. I can and do love myself well. Black woman do not settle! Blessings to all women that are educating themselves, entrepreneurs, taking care homes, and are bossing. Please ladies especially Black women know your worth. We been accepting BS for too long.
I disagreed with TP statement.. He said women can find love w/o better or equal finances. But I believe he meant to say that women should just settle for what they can get. Of course a man w/o resources will play the role dutiful husband if a woman is providing. That's imbalanced though. A light bill.. Is pennies in a household. I would rather be Single than settle for 💡$. Prostitutes or sugar babies get more than that.. He could have encouraged men to level up to the masses of women that are prospering. Instead he encouraged struggle love. Smh..
Thank you so much for sharing this, Urania. Would you say that in order for a woman in a relationship to truly be at rest in her femininity, she needs to be with a partner who earns the same or more? I hear a lot of women speaking about hypergamy now and I'm really intrigued, had never heard of it before. X
If a man attempts to invite you to a struggle love relationship - RUN 🏃♀️
No finance, NO Romance ✨️
Whaha love that! 🤣
@@Myfemmedaily 😉😊
Yes babe❤
❤ this
I said the same thing: Stop telling women to settle for less and tell these men to step up.
Dear Tyler Perry, us black women will kindly decline this invitation for struggle love. Thank you
I agree 100% with everything you said, Urania. This is my EXACT situation. I REFUSE to accept less in order to find love. Why should I and other black women decrease ourselves after everything we have been through??? We worked hard to get where we are. Black men as a whole need to step up and better themselves to RISE to the occasion. DO BETTER BLACK MEN!! And SHAME ON YOU Tyler Perry.
This is so true. Why is it men are told they deserve the best 10/10 women, even if they are average or even low value themselves, but women have to “lower our standards” or “be realistic”. It’s such rubbish. Men are so used to being allowed to be average, while women have to be exceptional, but then we’re punished for outshining them. Step it up, gentlemen.
It’s an unequal dynamic
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But you are NOT “outshining” ANYBODY! Black men still earn SIGNIFICANTLY more than you black women do! And in the UPPER income category the disparity is even MORE vast! Like 6 black men for ever ONE black woman!
And your little “DEGREES” are an absolute JOKE! I have three bIack women in my family who all have a MASTERS DEGREE. And one who has a PhD. I don’t even have a B.S degree. But I have SIGNIFICANTLY more money and wealth than ALL 4 of these women combined!
And this is VERY common. BW gets some little (relatively useless) degree in something like Sociology then gets a job dispensing Food Stamps to the homeless …whereas the black man she’s related to is a journeyman plumber; longshoreman; electrician or rig operator …and earns literally TWO or even THREE times more than her!
I stopped arguing with fools about my standards. I'm not negotiating my standards with anyone, y'all. I just keep on stepping!! ✌🏾
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Exactly!!!
But do you actually think that ANYBODY cares? Actually it is the MEN who are “STEPPING!” They are “stepping” AWAY from women like YOU …in droves! Especially …men like ME!
The men that you like to call broke dusties” do NOT want you …and the men like ME (multimillionaire) most definitely do NOT want you ….so all that’s left is …NOTHING! Well …actually the Pookies and Ray-Rays (raised by single moms) actually DO want you! They need you to put some money on their books …and give them a place to stay once they get out “da pen!”
Me and my boyfriend just broke up..he cant protect or provide for me because he is newly divorced with chidren. We tried to make it work..but the odds were against us. I was dating his potential..I will never ever do that again. First logic and then I will open my heart ❤
We live and we learn😘. I’m happy that you are in the position to allow the right man into your life now. ❤️
Thank you for sharing... I also learned that when I will start dating seriously in the future I will not date anyone's potential! ☺️
Please continue to make relationship videos. There needs to be a safe space that women can learn from other women. Some of us do not have good examples or the opportunity to talk to women on how to peoperly choose a partner. A lot of us grew up in and around struggle love.
Have you ever watched Kev Hicks on RUclips? He is great at teaching women about the game that low value men use on women.
Nah, I love this one but let’s keep this femininity going as per usual. Those relationship channels can be so controversial. I love that she’s helping women to focus on themselves by building their lives and be wise in doing so. I’m in an hypergamous marriage for 19 years now, and her content is nourishing for women 😃. I’m 39 years old now but there’s always more to learn in womanhood.
You're right. That man was defending lazy men. It's men's role to be a provider, women currently are fulfilling men and women roles at the same time.
Yes, because the agenda is to protect lasy unmotivated men and place blame on successful feminine women.
Giiiiirrrrrlllll the ridiculousness!!! Thank you for addressing that hot mess!!!❤
You are welcome! 😘
@@Myfemmedaily and YES, we need more of this type of content from you 👏
Sorry, I can't do it - I'm allergic to struggle love. 😊
This video is such a gem. I find it really silly when a man asks a woman to marry her, but he hasn't even gotten his life straight yet. Why would a woman say yes to a man, and take it to the next level with a man who hasn't yet proven to her he has what she needs (emotionally, financially, loyalty wise, maturity wise etc.). Thank you for reminding us to use our heads before opening our hearts.
Yes, I honestly ended a 2 year relationship for the reasons you listed. He was financially, mentally, and emotionally immature. Meanwhile, I am high powered feminine woman. No thank you.
I am really being patient and trying to make it work out, but i'm awfully worried I might end up in your situation where I must leave ... I mean I can actually see my partner trying hard, what about yours? Was he trying or waiting@@Queen-ConsciousYa
Exactly! This is about getting your priorities straight.
Struggle love is his bread and butter. He needed that woman who would accept that view, when he was living out of his car. But if he found her? Realistically, what are the chances that she would be around and "good enough" for his current lifestyle after the struggle?
I dated someone who was unequally yoked and he convinced me to be with him because he loved me. I am educated, active military at the time and he said I should accept him. He would try to make me feel bad because I didn’t want to be with him. He had no money, didn’t take care of himself and was consciously underdeveloped. I felt so horrible dating him, I broke it off and was extremely happy.
Very true Urania. In a relationship, a man and a woman have equal responsibility.
The bible says do not be unequally yoked. That’s not just spiritual and/or financial but it’s about character, morals and values.
Tyler Perry is clearly talking out the side of his neck because his Netflix movie, Fall From Grace shows exactly why this kind of dynamic never works!
Great video Urania, glad you spoke on this because struggle love is so destructive and it’s rampant in the black community.
Bravo Urania for the video! Very well explained! 👏💜
I immediately thought the same: would he say the same thing to his daughter, to settle for less...Probably not...
That's even worse than 50/50 😂😂😂
Excellent points/ video 🎯. Society expects women to settle, yet we must know our worth and that we are worthy💯
So much wisdom in this video. Please do more on the topic of relationships. Some of us didn't get this guidance growing up & it's so important!
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽YES!!! this video 💯 💯 💯 thank you, for talking about this. I grew up as well. Watching women, being in struggle love, my Mom was one, and I to was a woman who ended up in a struggle love relationship, But not today thank God, I refuse. And I’m teaching my daughter as well, not to enter a struggle love relationship, Black women are groomed to be in the struggle love relationships. And it’s time that we start breaking that cycle. 🙌🏽
Thanks for calling this out Urania ❤ You’re my favorite femininity channel! It’s sad that the woman conducting the interview was agreeing with him SMH. Eventually men who are dependent on their women will secretly resent her and view her as masculine 🤷🏾♀️ He should instinctively want to provide
I am not investing all this energy levelling up my life so that i can end up with someone who can only afford to pay the light bill... i repel struggle love as a black woman 👠🎉
Amen!
More videos about dating and relationship please, these are much needed
Thank you Urania… I totally agreee with you he could’ve built up men instead of giving this message for woman 😥
This was such a great opportunity to build men up, but instead he did this. Very unfortunate.
Thank you Urania, I agree with everything you said, thanks for speaking up❤️❤️❤️
Urania - I’m not a black woman, but agree with you 100% - the man should at “very least” be able to contribute half to the relationship…. ❤
Worst part was the interviewer not challenging him. I later came to understand why, he is her boss.
You are spot on Urina! I totally agree with the fact that lowering our standards instead of getting the man to upgrade his standards is ridiculous! Are we as a society should encourage, emphasize, and enhance that a man strives for greatness? I have no problem with sharing bills, responsibilities with my man/mate. What I will not do is pretend him paying the water bill or cable bill is just FINE! I also have no issue with if I make more income than him, then we shall share the bills as evenly as possible with either party feeling used or neglected. I am glad that you dove into such a vital topic o discussion…keep the beauty and great topics coming!😊
I feel like this is extremely helpful to hear because I have absolutely accepted less than what I deserve and it never makes me happy.
As women, we need to use logic. Because we are emotional beings and we love really hard. Thank you for pointing this out. This is my reason why I operate this way.
I think it's also safe to choose someone that can afford your lifestyle. I think That is the best way to reject struggle love ❤
Very true! If you are used to a certain lifestyle and you can afford it by yourself. The best thing is to find someone that can afford the same type of lifestyle. Instead providing for the both of you to have that lifestyle. That’s how I see it.
Yes, more content regarding relationship dynamics would be great. I’m on my feminine journey and my spouse nor my kids seem to think I deserve a soft life. I’m tired of having to do everything and wondering if I can successfully grow in this dynamic or if I need to leave.
Thank you for making this video. Struggle love is not an option.
Hi Urania, my name is Sabine and I live in Toronto, Canada. I totally agree with what you are sharing in this video. I am really sick and tired of this rhetoric about black women having to accept the bare minimum as if what's best was too good for us. We, as any other women, also DESERVE a great partner who will love us, cherish, treasure us, provide for us and protect us. I refuse to accept the crumbs, I want the cake, the icing and the cherry on top. And who said that our partner should be black. We can date any man we want as long as he is loving, caring, respectful and has a great character. I deserve the best that the world has to offer and so do all of you. Sabine.
Great video as always! ❤ I never knew Tyler Perry said that but I am not surprised because of the content he puts out. I no longer watch his shows or movies. They perpetuate the stereotype that black women should accept the bare minimum in order to receive companionship. It is the man’s responsibility to increase his market value. As women, we naturally want to help because we see potential. It’s hard to watch them struggle but let them struggle. Let God handle their situation. Let go of the need to control. And if it is holding you back from your own potential, cut it off. You’ll save yourself from headaches and even worse resentment and attraction loss. I’m glad I’m learning about the importance of femininity and self-improvement in my 20s and not later in life. It’s tough out here but I believe that every woman that is seeking a better life for herself will receive the best life has to offer!
Is Tyler Perry trying to replace Kevin Samuel?😂
Great tips! Struggle relationships are definitely 💯 have to work through
Exactly! ❤️
Thank you, Urania. I've always resented struggle love and i am sick of people pushing this toxic narrative down the throaths of bw especially. Like i've said on another channel, everyone(gay men, transgenders,hetero men) are allowed to rest in their "feminine" except us real women. We are well within our rights to want a man who is financially secure and treats us well. And for the women who want a millionaire, that is perfectly fine with me too. I love the new hair btw. You've given me more confidence to wear mine natural again as opposed to having hair that's not mine on my head all the time.
I agree with you Urania 100 💯 It’s so true about everything you said, love and romance are so complicated these days, have paid once at a dinner date but not anymore, thank you so much for sharing ❤
I could listen to you all day. So true. I don’t support struggle love or 50/50.❤. I love this channel. I feel like this is my safe space ❤
Yess! Especially in the black community.
I totally agree. Ladies stay single and work on yourself. Your Prince Charming will find you when it’s time. He will be all the things you need and you’ll never have to settle. ♥️♥️
Wow true
Especially when you have something going on for you
I find it interesting Urania can you please make more videos on relationship dynamics , inner child healing ( in deep details) and the categories of females based on personality eg feminine, feme fatale etc .
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video Urania. I personally Do Not like Tyler Perry movies AT ALL because of this reason. He always has "The struggling black single mother" as the lead and even when her love interest is more finanacially secure and stable, he always has a really dark side to him like an addiction, abuse problems etc. It's like telling women that you need to compromise on the problems you Must absolutely Not accept in a man, that you have to accept the bare minimum just because he "loves you", or "cares for you" and that should be enough. But it is not enough and every woman who is leveling up must know that her worth is so much more than a lovesick struggling partner.
Wow, this is probably my first time commenting although I’ve been a subscriber for a while and I love this channel! Thank you so much for speaking up about this. I think he was 100% wrong to try and put that kind of a burden on black woman or any woman. Thank you so much for putting a counter voice in the right direction out for young women who may hear this terrible life advice from a billionaire. That could have influenced them into a life of misery. This is the real world not some fantasy movie where all you need is love. Love is important but it goes beyond just emotions it goes into act. The Bible says that a man who doesn’t work doesn’t deserve to eat. So if a man loves a woman he should feel a natural drive to want to provide for her and make her life better. He should feel inspired to become better to obtain and maintain her. Not be supported by her. Tyler Perry has his relationship priorities out of order.
When you mentioned Mina I got so giddy I'm so glad you know her work also... I agree with you guys fully❤ thank you so much
I addressed this topic on my channel, and the trolls came a knocking smh 🤦 why are men offended at the idea of being providers??? 🤔
What I have seen is that when a woman becomes the breadwinner and provider in most cases men cheat on that woman too bcoz with that woman he does not feel like a man. So he goes find a woman with whom he feels like a man. So this is not healthy every way
I have seen this as well, and it’s so sad. I’m glad that we as women are learning about this and informing each other. ❤️
I agree with you so much. I’m 31 years old, have had a successful and fulfilling career so far. My boyfriend on the other hand is stuck with his phD studies and does not have any savings and has just said could I wait for 5 more years to have children. We live also separately because he is having hard time in committing to me…
I am SO grateful that you had the courage to Clapback at Mr. Perry for this nonsense!!! Yesss! Why is his mindset geared towards coddling the "fragile" male ego? Why isn't he using the HUGE platform God BLESSED him with, as a Hollywood Producer/Actor/Writer/Etc, to bring ENCOURAGEMENT and WISDOM to his community??? Instead, it seems he is acknowledging an important issue (I heard him say "in our society...black women are making a lot more money right now...") but then acting as if the only answer is to give up and give in? Oh well. Go find a broke man. Real love isn't about who pays the bills. This whole attitude of his has me completely baffled. He, himself, is a black man. Wouldn't you think his attitude would be much more like the AMAZING Steve Harvey's attitude? Which is: "If I can do it, shoot, ANYBODY can" 😂!!! I mean, you'd really think Tyler Perry, of all people, would feel that way, right? And he claims to be a Man of God. Well, sir, the Word tells us not to be unevenly yoked. And while that Scripture refers to faith, in context, I believe that if a man RESIGNS himself to a fate of poverty, that man LACKS FAITH to begin with...and you should not align yourself with that. Not in the name of love or in the name of the Holy Spirit, AMEN! Mr. Perry can and SHOULD do better. And I applaud you, ma'am, for making the points you make here...in truth, in faith, in sisterhood, in love! Bless you!❤ You are a blessing girlie!!!❤❤❤
I LOVE your channel and content!! And this one was wonderful!
please more videos on dating, relationships and relationship dynamics Urania!!💖💖
Quite on point Urania. He is asking us to lower our standards. I say a resounding no to that. Meet us at our level. Lovely top by the way ❤
Preach it sister 💜💜🌸🌸🌸
Thank you Urania. Even if we are equals, but a man should know that he has the bigger responsibility to make her spouse feels safe and secure.
…. “As long as he can pay just the light bill”?!? No thanks :(
Your video was perfect 👍🏼
Great insights Urania! Yes definately do more videos on relationships. I'm not surprised what Tyler scary said. He just like most people are telling black women to settle for crumbs and leftovers. Like you said about the common thread of ALL his movies, that's proof we shouldn't be supporting him or listening to him.
Hi Urania. Yes, I would like to see more relationship content. Regarding Tyler Perry. I believe he had a very toxic childhood, so he is not qualified to speak about healthy relationships since he never saw one.
He's just a very feminine man.
So I am going to support a man … because I’m settling? Not interested!
Yes, please. More videos on relationships. Thank you.
YES to the part about what a man would want for his daughter and how that transfers over to us. Also more videos about relationships would be very helpful and desired.
I don’t think he’d give his daughter the same advice. A man has to go to work and strive for greatness all the time. A couple should be a team. If the woman is doing all the financial lifting, that’s not teamwork. Men should definitely step it up for a better quality of life and a better relationship.
No good father that truly loves his daughter would ever tell her to do that.
More grace sister 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Definitely do more videos about relationships.
Thank you for this one. It's a good one.
Has anyone ever told you that your voice is super relaxing!? This Channel feels like ASMR - and I’m totally here for it!☺️👍
It’s like these men want to be princesses too 😂.
I can’t! 🤣👑
Well done and well said, Urania! I wonder why the woman who was conducting the interview with him did not disagree or take issue with him...
Thank you🤗! I was thinking the same thing, it seemed like she agreed with him.
PERFECT!!!!!
Thanks for sharing ❤
You are absolutely right!
I would like to watch more videos like this!
Keep doing what you are doing because you are truly awesome! 💎
Please do more videos about relationships. I'm a huge fan and I thought all the points you made were spot on!
Yes Urania I want more videos on relationships. This video is filled with wisdom. I love it .
Happy Sunday, Urania ❤
Mina ❤
Urania I've been waiting for this video for more than a year now 😮❤
I’m happy I could finally make it for you! ❤️
I love your wisdom ❤
I find Tyler's comment encouraging our young men to settle for mediocrity. I'm a single mother currently living in the Philippines, and what he said is something I will never teach my 19-year-old son. He's in college now, and I discourage him from courting women, not because I'm scared he'd lose his way from college or for some religious reason, but because I want him to focus on securing himself in the following order:
1. mentally
2. emotionally
3. physically
4. spiritually
5. financially
Only then can he stand tall and proud to court the most deserving woman of his dreams. We must teach young men that they should focus on their growth and goals first because entering the life of someone's daughter.
Love this! Good job mama
Very usefull vide clip Urania, I want that you continue shooting videos about relationships.
Mina is the best. Period .
Yes, I would love to hear your take on relationships, thanks for another wonderful video 😊
I totally agree with Tyler Perry 💯, but it can never be me. Any lady who feels she can baby/mother a grown adult into becoming a man should go right ahead. Yaaass queen!!!
Well I think this is a whole cascade of disturbing events. Men are becoming more and more effeminate, and more and more women are misunderstanding feminism so much that they think it is totally okay to play the role of a man in a relationship and let the man lounge around.
Struggle love screams low self esteem to me, because I feel like no matter how much some women grow and develop themselves, they still feel deep inside that it's okay to settle for 'whatever' comes.
Also, some cultures especially here in Africa are really really big on marriage, so some women will do literally anything to pin down a man, including their femininity, provided it gives them the Mrs title. It's sad
From a woman who has followed Tyler Perry’s logic in the past. It doesn’t workout. He is trying to be a man and control the finances while only being able to pay the light bill. His logic will actually make the man feel worse when he try to step into his true manhood. Tyler Perry being one of the richest men in the US should not be giving this advice. You explained it perfectly.
Beautifully said
Logic first
Then your ❤
Yes more videos about relationship
I'm 60 and Single
The best video for that topic❤!!! Thank you!
Thanks Urania ❤❤
I agree with you 💯👍❤️
Beautifully said 👏👏👏
Absolutely ! Can’t be more agree
Very great relationship thoughts Urania.Thank you so much waiting for more videos on relationships❤❤
This is a great video! ❤
as always. you give us a smarth point of view.
Ain’t nothing going on but the rent! No romance without finance!
Thank you Urania ❤ 🆙
He is really whack with his comment. The man that's lacking better get a better trade, educated, and multiple streams of income to pay the mortgage and be able to match my money. Tyler, hit below the belt with that whack comment. Always inspire the man to level up. No man needs to be comfortable letting a woman pay his way through life. I would rather be alone then take my earnings and basically pay for a man's time just because he is nice. He can be a nice hi and by associate. I can and do love myself well. Black woman do not settle! Blessings to all women that are educating themselves, entrepreneurs, taking care homes, and are bossing. Please ladies especially Black women know your worth. We been accepting BS for too long.
I disagreed with TP statement.. He said women can find love w/o better or equal finances. But I believe he meant to say that women should just settle for what they can get. Of course a man w/o resources will play the role dutiful husband if a woman is providing. That's imbalanced though. A light bill.. Is pennies in a household. I would rather be Single than settle for 💡$. Prostitutes or sugar babies get more than that.. He could have encouraged men to level up to the masses of women that are prospering. Instead he encouraged struggle love. Smh..
Truth 👏
AMEN AMEN and AMEN
Thank you so much for sharing this, Urania. Would you say that in order for a woman in a relationship to truly be at rest in her femininity, she needs to be with a partner who earns the same or more? I hear a lot of women speaking about hypergamy now and I'm really intrigued, had never heard of it before. X
Well said ✨
Exactly on point videos
Someone must love me no struggles love no no no
My personal maintenance cost 💲 more than my light bill. I’ll pass.
🚫 struggle love.
I love this